Ahhh height, I am a 5 11 cisgirl who wears a size 10 women's shoe. My height has always been annoying to me. I get very frustrated with it over time, especially when it comes to shoes. When I was younger I would wear heels but now I wear ballet flats as much as possible.
Kitten heels can be a great way of wearing a dainty shoe and not getting a lot of height but they rarely look nice on me.
Ballet flats are the way to go, also very flat sandels with pedicures.
One of my cisgirlfriends is 6' 2" I think and she struggles the same way. She's married to a guy who is 5 9 and it's very noticeable but she got used to it. My ex husband was 5 8.
I know people say not to care, but it is hard to look feminine if you gain any weight at all. Sooo frustrating. I've gotten clocked for years based on my height and I'm cis.