i want to change my name asap because i cannot handle being called by my birthname anymore , my friends do not call me by it but work wise / formal situations etc i still have to put up with my legal name

i need a name thats unisex for now becuase if im not passing and have a exclusively female name it will be akward

i could just change my name to something else at a later date after FFS etc

but at the moment need a name that is unisex , because im finding it intolerable being called a name thats male exclusive

but does darian sounds to male ?

 I would say that, yes, Darian sounds far too 'male' to be considered a unisex name.

its soooo hard picking a name lol i dont want something generic but i also dont want something that sounds stupid 

I have only ever known "Darian" as a male name, so yeah, I think it's a bit too male.

Hi Daria,

You could simply drop the N in your name. I could easily have feminised my name by adding an A on the end, but decided I wanted to sever all links with my past.

Caroline
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 Well, Jordan is a very popular unisex name for people under or around 22-ish. Kelly is also unisex (though definitely leaning towards female), as are Alex, Jessie, Taylor, and Riley.

Those are all I can think of.

Use the name you like the most. Everything else is just drama. I'm changing from Johnny to Johnnie, personally. To paraphrase Luis Guzman in Boogie Nights: "Do what you dig."

Def male imo...Daria or Doria are much better choices...

I'll supply a contrary opinion. Lots of women have names that are traditionally male. If you like Darian, keep it. It's a fine name.

Quote from: agfrommd on September 11, 2012, 07:31:29 AM
I'll supply a contrary opinion. Lots of women have names that are traditionally male. If you like Darian, keep it. It's a fine name.

Yup- Like "Johnnie." It was a popular girls' name.. back in the 1950s I like it anyway.

The only Darian I know or have ever known is a beautiful seven-year-old girl.

If the name fits you, keep it.

Lora
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As long as your name is not Tom, Dick, or Harry there will be no problems 

I believe Daryl Hannah's character in Wall Street was named Darien.

Perhaps I misunderstood. I assumed your name was Darain at the moment?

If not, how about Deryn which is a girl's name but is often mistaken for a boy's name. I used to work with a girl called Deryn who was always having to correct people's assumption that she was a boy. She frequently received letters addressed to Mr Deryn ....

Then there's Bobby, which is a very popular girl's name with male connotations.

There's Leslie (male) Lesley (female), Francis (male) Frances (female).

If you ask me, as an outsider to the English culture, this name doesn't even sound remotely unisex; rather a male exclusive one.

But I definitely don't recommend an unisex name to begin with. Just time the name change with the moment you go full-time. Because it's a ton more awkward for someone to change their name for the heck of it and then surprise-transitions (as a "bonus", people won't see the obvious change and might not see you as a femaleright away), than for them to change it to a female name when they do transition.

And if you have doubts about your passing, do you really want to make sure you always have a chance to be called sir, to amplify people's doubts about your gender if they're present?

I don't know about you, but if I were going full-time before consistentlyy passing, I'd want my name to dispell doubts, to affirm my feminity, instead of increasing doubts and making me possibly male each time someone reads my name without my face even when I do become passable...

I didn't choose my name, I kinda just inherited it.  They were talking about names and they all settled on Rita and started calling me Rita and I quite liked the name.  As well as it letting me keep my initials its great.  It is also significantly different from my past name as well.

I agree that Darian is mostly male, I have no seen a female with that name and immediately associated it as such.  Just like Bobby which is even more unisex is usually associated with a guy upon first glance of the name.

But its not my place to tell you to change it.

My middle name was Daryan ... as a boy

Can't shake Dorian (Gray) from my head when hearing it... Can't see it as unisex after that connection, sorry.

You could always go for "Shawn" 

This is a little off-topic, but Rita, is your name somewhat common where you are? Again, we speak French here, so it may be totally different, but it struck me, because here, Rita is -the- archetype of a very old name, for a very old aunt. There are names that are more common in one language than another, but I really wanted to ask, since it's the first time I notice a name that actually was popular here, probably 60-80 years ago, be used in the US now.