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Charlotte Kitty ✅

#840
Yesterday at 03:29:51 PM
The more I think about my feelings I'm sure that I'm agender leaning to genderqueer. Like I wear my queer and trans identity on my sleeve. And for me I'm happy with that; getting close to the feminine me I'm looking for.

Now for me I want to be read as a woman by others and in my own eye. I dont mind if i dont totally pass, whats important is that my intent to be female is obvious.

This leaves one thing that i still struggle with and will really need to work on. I'm still fearful of confrontation in female only spaces. This drives me to seek passing to a level that I personally don't fully aspire to. Just for safety. Now I've been using womens spaces and since my FFS i seem to get less looks. But it's still very scary each time i go through a bathroom door.

Getting closer to finding me but work to do.

Charlotte 😻
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Agender/Genderqueer/Demonkin.

I feel like the intersection of dark and light. I have a dark soul residing in me but an intense draw to the powers of good. All around I feel the constant battle between darkness and light.

Dawn Kellie

#841
Yesterday at 03:41:01 PM
We all have work to do. I'm jealous you are so far ahead of me. Not a begrudging jealousy, an admiring jealousy.
You are a hero
D. KELLIE Kn.

It's harder to love and create than hate and destroy. Love and creation takes more energy. Where hate and destruction can be done with a single word that can haunt you for a life time.

Charlotte Kitty ✅

#842
Yesterday at 03:49:19 PM
Quote from: Dawn Kellie on Yesterday at 03:41:01 PMWe all have work to do. I'm jealous you are so far ahead of me. Not a begrudging jealousy, an admiring jealousy.
You are a hero

Awww thanks. You'll not be far behind though. With your determination you'll grow into the stunning woman that you are before you know it.

I'm thinking about uploading photos of my journey from boymode to now- its been 12 months. Just gotta decide what pics show the progress best. Some is quite subtle.
Furry kitty
Lover of fashion and cute stuff!
Kawaii, Hello Kitty, Care bears 🐻
Agender/Genderqueer/Demonkin.

I feel like the intersection of dark and light. I have a dark soul residing in me but an intense draw to the powers of good. All around I feel the constant battle between darkness and light.

Stottie Girl

#843
Yesterday at 03:53:50 PM
Quote from: Charlotte Kitty on Yesterday at 03:29:51 PMThe more I think about my feelings I'm sure that I'm agender leaning to genderqueer. Like I wear my queer and trans identity on my sleeve. And for me I'm happy with that; getting close to the feminine me I'm looking for.

Now for me I want to be read as a woman by others and in my own eye. I dont mind if i dont totally pass, whats important is that my intent to be female is obvious.

This leaves one thing that i still struggle with and will really need to work on. I'm still fearful of confrontation in female only spaces. This drives me to seek passing to a level that I personally don't fully aspire to. Just for safety. Now I've been using womens spaces and since my FFS i seem to get less looks. But it's still very scary each time i go through a bathroom door.

Getting closer to finding me but work to do.

Charlotte 😻
You're charging ahead though Charlotte. You have changed a lot since even January when I first met you. I thought you were fearless so it's nice to know you are only human with your fear of bathrooms!

To be honest looking at your avatar picture I would think most people wouldn't think anything other than female when they look at you now. You will probably be the last person to see what everyone else sees though. We are always our harshest critic.
A wise man once said don't judge a man until you've walked a mile in his shoes, that way when you judge him you're a mile away and you have his shoes!

Never trust a man who, when left alone in a room with a tea cozy, doesn't try it on - Billy Connolley

Charlotte Kitty ✅

#844
Yesterday at 04:05:10 PM
Quote from: Stottie Girl on Yesterday at 03:53:50 PMYou're charging ahead though Charlotte. You have changed a lot since even January when I first met you. I thought you were fearless so it's nice to know you are only human with your fear of bathrooms!

To be honest looking at your avatar picture I would think most people wouldn't think anything other than female when they look at you now. You will probably be the last person to see what everyone else sees though. We are always our harshest critic.

Thank you Sarah and I definitely appreciate the kind feedback. It's very hard to see objectively with your own mind.

I think I have fear here because its the only situation I envisage an engagement I can't easily walk away from. A confined space and something people are getting riled up about by the media. This makes some people irrational. I fear they'll hurt me or I'll hurt them. That's a real bad situation. If I have to defend myself I can easily see red and just lose it. There are some crazy people about and ive had confrontations in the past. I don't like them!

Charlotte 😻
Furry kitty
Lover of fashion and cute stuff!
Kawaii, Hello Kitty, Care bears 🐻
Agender/Genderqueer/Demonkin.

I feel like the intersection of dark and light. I have a dark soul residing in me but an intense draw to the powers of good. All around I feel the constant battle between darkness and light.

Dawn Kellie

#845
Yesterday at 04:20:03 PM
Where I'm at transgender aren't allowed to use women's restrooms.
I will have to be completely passing, or risk at the least a fine or imprisonment. So you being allowed in and risking evil looks would be a minor problem here
D. KELLIE Kn.

It's harder to love and create than hate and destroy. Love and creation takes more energy. Where hate and destruction can be done with a single word that can haunt you for a life time.
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Stottie Girl

#846
Yesterday at 04:30:05 PM
Quote from: Charlotte Kitty on Yesterday at 04:05:10 PMThank you Sarah and I definitely appreciate the kind feedback. It's very hard to see objectively with your own mind.

I think I have fear here because its the only situation I envisage an engagement I can't easily walk away from. A confined space and something people are getting riled up about by the media. This makes some people irrational. I fear they'll hurt me or I'll hurt them. That's a real bad situation. If I have to defend myself I can easily see red and just lose it. There are some crazy people about and ive had confrontations in the past. I don't like them!

Charlotte 😻
I don't think women are likely to confront you and be violent Charlotte. That's not my experience of them anyway. Well except maybe in the Bigg Market after chucking out time! lol! I think they are more likely to leave the bathroom or gasp or something, which is horrible, don't get me wrong but I don't think you are likely to be attacked in there.

The more you can relax the more people won't notice you I would think. If you go in looking all nervous and anxious it will likely draw attention to yourself.

Of course the only time I've ever been in the ladies was when I've gone in the wrong door by mistake or if I was surveying an empty building so what do I know!
A wise man once said don't judge a man until you've walked a mile in his shoes, that way when you judge him you're a mile away and you have his shoes!

Never trust a man who, when left alone in a room with a tea cozy, doesn't try it on - Billy Connolley
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Lori Dee ✅

#847
Yesterday at 08:44:40 PM
Glad to hear all went well today!

I agree with Sarah, you are not likely to be confronted by women in there. Looks and gasps do not hurt. Just act as if you belong there, and you do. If someone makes a face at you, just look at them like they are insane. I would say that 99% of the time, any woman in the bathroom is either peeing or fixing their makeup. They probably won't even notice you. If I saw you on the street, I would have no doubts that you are female. You rock it!
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ChrissyRyan

#848
Yesterday at 08:55:43 PM
I am glad the surgery went well.

Chrissy
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ChrissyRyan

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Yesterday at 09:14:55 PM
I like your green outfit.


Chrissy
Always stay cheerful, be polite, kind, and understanding. Accepting yourself as the woman you are is very liberating.  Never underestimate the appreciation and respect of authenticity.  Help connect a person to someone that may be able to help that person.  Be brave, be strong.  A TRUE friend is a treasure.  Relationships are very important, people are important, and the sooner we all realize that the better off the world will be.  Try a little kindness.  Be generous with your time, energy, wisdom, and resources.   Inconvenience yourself to help someone.   I am a brown eyed, brown haired woman. 
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