Quote from: Joey. on October 12, 2013, 05:32:09 PM
Thank you all for all of your comments. I've read and appreciate all of them. I feel a bit better about the situation now. To answer a couple of questions that came up, I was more scared of walking in the dark than the girls themselves. The fear of walking in the dark came from me getting mugged. I had only just turned 13 and it was in broad daylight so it scares me really badly what can happen in the dark. It's the fear of being attacked. It was only about 9pm last night but it can be 6pm and dark and I'm equally scared. I try and stick to main roads so that people can see me and it's well lit. I have flashbacks to when I was mugged and every single person I walk past in the dark scares me. I'm petrified it's going to happen again.
That explains your reaction perfectly. Your mind enacted a self-defense mechanism whereby you felt outnumbered, threatened, scared, and instinctively said what you felt was the most appropriate thing to say in order to avoid conflict and a repeat of being mugged again. It doesn't matter whether it was the right thing, wrong thing, or anything else. It was an evolutionary instinct. One we all have. Nothing to be ashamed of.
To be honest, if I were in that situation, felt that level of fear, and people who made me feel intimidated asked me anything they were expecting a certain answer to, they would have got it, just to get out of the situation.
"Are you a giant, two-headed, mucus-emitting cross between a housefly and an elderly, constipated sloth?"
"Why yes, yes I am. I'll be leaving now, buh-bye."
The most important part is that you know
yourself. And I know from speaking with you that you do. So people like that... Joey, they don't matter. You said what you needed to out of a self-preservation instinct.