a guy that i hooked up with 4 months ago just txted me cursing me out.

[Angélique LaCava]

He told his gf yesterday that we had sex  cause he said he dosnt want to keep secrets from her. Wen me and him had sex, him and her were on a break and this was all back in October.... well to make a long story short he txted me cursing me out saying words getting around that me and him had sex which I wouldn't doubt that his gf is the one that's telling people cause shes mad me and him had sex. wat do I do? hes like seriously mad and he knows where I live.

[Tori]

Perhaps, take a break from dating. Your last three stories in the last two weeks about three or four different guys (I do not recall if your chaser story was real or hypothetical) have had a common theme, you have been in physical danger. You keep looking for love and coming to us only after you have reasons to fear or worry.

Find a new therapist or a doc who does informed consent and get on HRT. I never say that to people if I am not worried about their safety. I would rather they realize what they need to do themselves. I am not you, so my opinion could miss the mark. This is why I only say such things when I really am really worried. I see a pattern here.

Dysphoria allows all of us to make choices we wonder about after we get on the proper hormones. We have almost all been there. I sure have.

We are here for you.

Aloha,
Tori

[calico]

Uh 1 restraining order and 2. He is the one who told her so.....   And in the future,  more thorough screening of possible canidates

[kathyk]

Yes, keep an eye out for him to show up around you, and if you see him get a restraining order immediately.  By blaming you for the sexual encounter it shows how messed up he and his girlfriend are. You need to protect yourself.

And I'll second what Tori says.  call that doctor in New Orleans that I mentioned a few months ago.  He does informed consent and he should be able to help you.  I think it was Dr. Kenneth Combs, and he probably has a way to cover the entire cost of a visit.  I know you're short on cash, so ask if you can get your HRT from Walmart or another $10 for 3 month prescription place.  You've been going out as your true self as long as I've seen you post on Susan's.  And I might be wrong but it seems you've been full time since early last spring.  So take a few steps to get the meds that you know are in your future. 

[Evolving Beauty]

Angelique are you a post op or pre op?

[stephaniec ✅]

Perhaps, take a break from dating. Your last three stories in the last two weeks about three or four different guys (I do not recall if your chaser story was real or hypothetical) have had a common theme, you have been in physical danger. You keep looking for love and coming to us only after you have reasons to fear or worry.

Find a new therapist or a doc who does informed consent and get on HRT. I never say that to people if I am not worried about their safety. I would rather they realize what they need to do themselves. I am not you, so my opinion could miss the mark. This is why I only say such things when I really am really worried. I see a pattern here.

Dysphoria allows all of us to make choices we wonder about after we get on the proper hormones. We have almost all been there. I sure have.

We are here for you.

Aloha,
Tori

ditto

[Angélique LaCava]

Angelique are you a post op or pre op?

pre-op. once I get a job ill call that doctor that u mentioned Kathy

[amZo]

He told his gf yesterday that we had sex  cause he said he dosnt want to keep secrets from her. Wen me and him had sex, him and her were on a break and this was all back in October.... well to make a long story short he txted me cursing me out saying words getting around that me and him had sex which I wouldn't doubt that his gf is the one that's telling people cause shes mad me and him had sex. wat do I do? hes like seriously mad and he knows where I live.

I dunnoh, tell him to keep a secret next time? 

[Joanna Dark]

And in the future,  more thorough screening of possible canidates

^This. I'm not one to talk lol but I've never been in danger. I would focus less on dating and more on transitioning. When I was your age, I did not pass as a guy and this was with a shaved head and no makeup and guys clothes. That goes away. And you're obviously very pretty, but if you keep procrastinating, HRT will be that much harder. Your nose will grow more, beard will grow more, your masseter muscles will grow, and your face will fill out in a masculine manner. I used to think I didn't even need hormones, but I do and I wish I could go back and slap myself. I mean I'm only 31 so it's not the end of the world or anything but still. Forget dating and start working on working and getting HRT. Go to New Orleans I'm sure they have a low-income trans clinic there. Or should.

[Tristan]

This is a area I might have some experience. I would tell the guy to get rid of your number. Don't bother arguing with him or her because that just cases more conflict and cars getting keyed and tired slashed . And if he Does come to you call the police, file a report and take that with you to get a restraining order. He screwed up on the time out. Not you. She's just looking for someone to blame

[Joanna Dark]

This is a area I might have some experience. I would tell the guy to get rid of your number. Don't bother arguing with him or her because that just cases more conflict and cars getting keyed and tired slashed . And if he Does come to you call the police, file a report and take that with you to get a restraining order. He screwed up on the time out. Not you. She's just looking for someone to blame

This as well. In fact just do this. You're back tristan! And you have a new job yes? I see your cute lil uniform on..I always wanted scrubs but the pretty ones with flowers on them.

[Shantel]

I hope we don't eventually read the name Angelique LaCava off the pages of those memorialized trans women who are murdered each year. Angelique, you have entirely too much drama going on in your young life, maybe it's time to cool your jets, simmer down and get on with your transition and eventually have a nice life.

[stephaniec ✅]

I hope we don't eventually read the name Angelique LaCava off the pages of those memorialized trans women who are murdered each year. Angelique, you have entirely too much drama going on in your young life, maybe it's time to cool your jets, simmer down and get on with your transition and eventually have a nice life.

ditto

[Angélique LaCava]

I hope I don't end up dead eather. im just so desperate for someone to love me for me. I don't have sex with guys cause I want too... I mean I do want to, but mostly the reason I do is cause i want them to want me and want to be with me and ive read online that guys like the girls that put out more than  the girls thatmake them wait.

[Tristan]

Yes. Please do be careful. I recently had a assault indecent due to something that happened in a small town I was working in. We love to be cute and have fun but we should always be careful and Carry protection as well as a cell phone or panic button. And I was never gone ladies. Just hiding. But since I'm going to be outed this spring I don't care to hide anymore
Always remember when it comes to matters of the heart people tend to act first and then think later. Can be dangerous 

[Tori]

I hope I don't end up dead eather. im just so desperate for someone to love me for me. I don't have sex with guys cause I want too... I mean I do want to, but mostly the reason I do is cause i want them to want me and want to be with me and ive read online that guys like the girls that put out more than  the girls thatmake them wait.

How's that working for you?

[Tristan]

Tori play nice. Remember to each their own and she's young. Let her have her fun

[Jamie D]

He told his gf yesterday that we had sex  cause he said he dosnt want to keep secrets from her. Wen me and him had sex, him and her were on a break and this was all back in October.... well to make a long story short he txted me cursing me out saying words getting around that me and him had sex which I wouldn't doubt that his gf is the one that's telling people cause shes mad me and him had sex. wat do I do? hes like seriously mad and he knows where I live.

Talk to the guy and his GF and suggest a threesome.

JK

Stay safe, don't go anywhere alone

[Tori]

Tori play nice. Remember to each their own and she's young. Let her have her fun

If getting into at least three potentially violent situations in less than a fortnight and reporting them back to us is y'all's idea of fun, then perhaps y'all's idea of not playing nice is my idea of sharing some maternal instinct.

This has not been fun for many of us old farts who have seen where this type of pattern all too often leads. It has not been fun to watch it unfold slowly on a support forum. Not at all.

Aloha,
Tori

[ath]

I would say do what you can to avoid any sort of confrontation. Also, try to get him out of your life.