Well you asked for opinions so here is mine, offered from a vantage point of being 30 years post everything. So believe me I have lived by my own advice, and it is offered in a genuinely benevolent way. In my experience stealth always causes more problems than it avoids. It's like borrowing from loan sharks, you funk paying a small up front payment and borrow unwisely on your credibility. Then you end up paying a much more painful price later.
Any relationship worth having must be founded on trust and honesty. Anyone who isn't prepared to be honest with me will get short shrift, and I make no exceptions for trans people, or indeed anyone. I will accept choosing the moment carefully, I will accept presenting things in the best possible light, but trying to have a relationship with someone whom you honestly believe will not accept a fundamental part of who and what you are seems to me to be an ill advised venture.
To love someone is to accept someone. A true friend is someone who truly knows you and yet still likes you. Someone who does not truly know you cannot truly love you, they can only love the illusion of you. Personally I'd rather have true love than the illusion of it. You may say "oh but this who I truly would be if I had been born female..." and in a sense I can accept that, BUT, we are at least in part all the sum of our experiences, and for those who transitioned, whether in childhood like me, or in later life, We WERE MADE the people we are by the experiences we lived through. You may not have wished for them, but until you accept yourself you cannot love or be loved.
"Oh but I did not choose this..." I hear you say. Then tell me this, "which of us whether pauper or prince, gets to choose the circumstances of our birth and our lives ?" No one chooses their path through this world, so you darn well best be proud of the path you DID walk, because it is YOURS and no one else has learned its lessons like you have. You have valuable experiences and unique insights to offer. Be proud of it, and live honestly, and you'll find, as I have that when you do, people tend to respect that.
So take the advice of someone over 30 years postop. I would not be where I am in life, a position of some considerable trust and respect, if people had reservations about my integrity, Please be proud of your truth, because its all any of us really have to offer.