i think there are two reasons i wouldn't get FFS -
1, because i don't really have the money
2, because im scared of the operation.
its only that has stopped me so far, and i don't think it will stop me for ever.
of course, there are other considerations, like, what happens if the result is not what you wanted? or, what if it makes you look unnatural, like one of the hollywood
knife-mares?
but you can't live your life in fear of what might happen right??
i can't see anyway round it if, like the vast majority of ts's you look basically, like a man, if you want to look like a woman you need surgery.
The only way you can really feel better about it for me, is by looking at other women, and the imperfections they have and live with. At some point, you have to find a balance between being able to live a life trans or otherwise, and yearning for surgery, that might not correct the things you think it will.
its so important for the ts community to get out of this photo-obsessed, imagery that im sure, all of us at some point have been involved in. We have to look at ourselves and realise that we were born men, and we don't have the luck that natal women have had. Its tough, but at least if we recognise the problem maybe between us all we can find a better way through it?