Quote from: Emma1017 on February 06, 2019, 07:23:15 PM
No place to go but here...
My wife just came back from shopping with her cousin. They went clothing shopping and had fun jumping from dressing room to dressing room. I put on my regular "good for you" face "I'm glad you had fun" face but in my head is was screaming "do you know how much it hurts?".
I want to shop with her. I want to be her girl friend. I want to laugh as we try on clothes and run to the make up section. Sadly she doesn't understand nor has any idea the pain it causes me because she doesn't see me as a women...nor should she. Process, process' process.
It is a pain that I/we hide inside knowing that there is no place to go.
It is misery without outlet.
I am sorry again. I am abusing everyone's patience and I just can't find a safe outlet when this hits. I really hate this selfishness.
You are not abusing anybody's patience or time! Remember, this is a place of support, help, and understanding!
You and your wife will reach a point that you will go shopping for your or her stuff together! Give her some time! It is as hard for her as it is for you! The difference is that she does not feel the urge like you feel, because she is already there, in her right body!
Be happy that you have a loving wife! I have a lot of fun going out shopping with my girl friends, but once I am home, I am alone! You have your loving wife there, and at the right moment, you will go out shopping together, and have all the fun in the world!
Just give her and yourself some time to adjust! It will get better and better!
Just hang in there, don't give up!
Love and hugs
Linde