Hi everyone. So last night a couple of my brother's friends were over and one of them brought his new girlfriend. She's very nice and I liked her. She happens to be a stripper, which I totally see nothing wrong with. So we were talking and she told me I should consider stripping. She said my coloring made me very exotic looking and that I could make ridiculous money. She told me there was no actual nudity involved and that the guys weren't allowed to actually touch you. She said she could introduce me to her boss if I wanted. Tyler nearly had a stroke! He told her not to put ideas like that in my head. Then he says " that's never happening Julia so don't even think about it"! Then Tristan said "oh, absolutely not"!
Ok, Tyler's reaction doesn't surprise me at all. He turns into a total prude with anything concerning me. He thinks I'm showing too much leg if I flash an ankle. But I found Tristan's reaction particularly rich considering the fact he stripped a few times when he was still in school. He did it because it was easy money. When I reminded him he had stripped he told me it didn't matter because he was a GUY and it wasn't the same thing at all and his girlfriend was NOT stripping EVER. How would it be any different? I didn't like it when he stripped at all but I would never have told him he couldn't do it. Yet he thinks it's perfectly acceptable to tell me I can't. To be clear, I have no desire to be a stripper and I would never do it. Besides, even if I did I can't even imagine my dad's reaction. He would probably chain me up in the basement or something. So it's fine for a guy to strip but it's NOT ok for a woman to strip. A guy who strips is hot but a woman who does it is a slut or trash. WTF??
And not long ago Tyler and Tristan were talking about their tats. Back when Tyler was getting his sleeve finished I had mentioned to my dad that I thought a small red rose on the inside of my wrist would look cool against my skin color. He told me to just keep thinking and that if I came home with a tattoo he would remove it with a cheese grater. When I mentioned the fact that Tyler's entire arm was a tattoo he just said he wasn't arguing about it and to just forget it. Since he was so opposed to the idea I just dropped it. So when Tyler and Tristan were talking about their tats I mentioned that I had once thought about the rose tattoo. Tristan said "don't be daft Julia, you're NOT getting any tats". That amazed me. Tristan has an incredible amount of ink! It's only really visible when he takes off his shirt but he has a lot! My mom said he looked like a carnival freak the first time she saw it. I asked him why it was ok for him to have tats but not ok for me. I got that same ### answer I get for everything. " because I'm a guy and it's different if guys want ink".
I was dumb enough to think Tyler might actually be supportive and I asked him if he thought there was anything wrong with girls getting tattoos and he said not at all and he thought it was cool actually. But then he said that didn't apply to me though. I asked him why not and he said " well because Tristan doesn't want you to. You're his girlfriend and it's totally your responsibility to look the way he likes". OMG! He really said that to me! WTF??? Then I started thinking back to when I first transitioned and Tyler turned into the clothes police. If he thought my skirt was too short or my clothes were too tight or whatever he would make me change before I went out of the house. Now some of you are probably thinking that if your older brother told you you couldn't go out dressed a certain way, you would tell him to go hose himself. That was always my sentiment but in addition to being really bossy with me anyway, if I did that Tyler would just tell my dad my outfit was too slutty and my dad ALWAYS agreed with Tyler and I had to change anyway. But it was perfectly ok for Tyler to wear his skin tight jeans. Tyler had a couple of pairs of jeans he would wear when he was trying to meet or attract girls. They were so tight you could practically see the veins in his Dick. I always told him to warn me when he was going to wear those so I could stock up on eyebleach first. Even my dad once told him he should just let his Dick hang out his zipper because those jeans showed almost as much and it would be easier for him to walk. But he NEVER told Tyler he couldn't go out that way or made him change. I mentioned that of course and got the standard answer about it being different because Tyler was a guy.
How did these double standards even get started? Why do we still even tolerate them. I know guys tend to enforce them and it doesn't matter if they are dad, boyfriend or brother, they ALL totally stick together when it comes to this stuff. But I can't blame it all on guys. Lots of women actually enforce these way outdated double standards. It makes me want to tear out my hair sometimes!
