coming out in spite of myself

[Charlotte Kitty ✅]

Congratulations on approval for your surgery. Not far away.  I'll be happier by that point too as a couple of months behind you.

[darilee]

Hi, everyone I have my pre-op appointment in 7 more days, and 51 days before surgery and all of a sudden, I'm feeling nervous and second guessing after all the years of working towards it. I want to assume it's a normal emotional response I fear anesthesia, the recovery period, the results, my marriage (which appears to be OK at present), and the effects of my health afterwards. I also have appointments with a pelvic floor therapist in 8 days, and a psychologist in 9 days followed by surgery on December 2nd. Time appears to be moving quite fast these days.

Charlotte, congratulations I'm happy for you.

[Maid Marion]

Hi Darilee,

Surgery is serious business so it is normal to be nervous. 
I have two small hernias that have been looked at by doctors.  At first surgery was optional.
After all this time it is obvious that it wasn't a medical necessity.

Good luck!

Marion

[Lori Dee ✅]

I want to assume it's a normal emotional response I fear anesthesia, the recovery period, the results, my marriage (which appears to be OK at present), and the effects of my health afterwards.

That is perfectly normal. Not only is it major surgery with all the risks of major surgery, but you are also looking ahead, too. It is life-changing surgery, which is why we seek it. Try not to worry about the future. Certainly plan ahead, but take each step one day at a time.

And congratulations on things moving forward. That sounds like an exciting time. Just relax. You'll get there.

[Jillian-TG]

Hi, everyone I have my pre-op appointment in 7 more days, and 51 days before surgery and all of a sudden, I'm feeling nervous and second guessing after all the years of working towards it. I want to assume it's a normal emotional response I fear anesthesia, the recovery period, the results, my marriage (which appears to be OK at present), and the effects of my health afterwards. I also have appointments with a pelvic floor therapist in 8 days, and a psychologist in 9 days followed by surgery on December 2nd. Time appears to be moving quite fast these days.

Charlotte, congratulations I'm happy for you.

I'm sure it's very normal to have doubts. It's a major surgery and life altering so I think it's a normal reaction (within limits of course)

[Charlotte Kitty ✅]

I must be weird as wasn't nervous about FFS even on the day. And same for GRS. More excited than nervous to be honest. Guess I'm just thinking its happening so what will be, will be. Usually these things go really well and any issues are solved.

[darilee]

Thanks for all the comments, I think my mind is shifting to recovery what is it going to look like, possible complications, how long it's going to take, and I'm always going back to my age. After all the years of working toward this, I may simply be tired. I've cleared nearly every hurdle, and now the finish line is close enough that I can see the price I'll have to pay to cross it. I can look forward to the outcome and still dread the recovery. It can be determined and still wish the whole process were easier.

[Maid Marion]

Transitioning to retirement is not easy either, so you have two big life changing events, not just one!

Fortunately I learned that retirement isn't about trying to stay relevant as a kid.
I grew up where many of my elders saw work as a means to becoming retired.

I've made the transition to where I can do stuff on a whim, without planning.

I planned to buy some fast food chicken wings after my dentist appointment yesterday, but while waiting for them to open I spotted a small city supermarket.  Turns out they sell a lot of ethnic Spanish food, so I bought some Chorizo and soda crackers instead of the fast food chicken wings.

[Stottie Girl]

Thanks for all the comments, I think my mind is shifting to recovery what is it going to look like, possible complications, how long it's going to take, and I'm always going back to my age. After all the years of working toward this, I may simply be tired. I've cleared nearly every hurdle, and now the finish line is close enough that I can see the price I'll have to pay to cross it. I can look forward to the outcome and still dread the recovery. It can be determined and still wish the whole process were easier.

Darilee, it's a few months out of your life. That is all. When you weight that against living the rest of your life as a complete woman, it is no price at all really.

Yes it sounds painful, yes it sounds scary but I bet if you ask anyone who has been through it if they would do it again the answer would be the same!

I'm sure when my time comes I will be pooping my pants so I do not mean to dismiss your fears but when you look at the bigger picture it will all be worth it.

[Jillian-TG]

Darilee just keep reminding yourself that you are normal. Your fears and concerns are very, very normal. The vast majority of people in your situation would feel the same way.