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[Dawn Kellie]

I gave my youngest permission to tell her sister that I'm transgender. She thinks my older daughter will also be supportive.
She asked me why her. I told her that if her sister says something to mom before I do. She can get mad at her sister. If I tell her and she spills the beans, I have to be mellow.
My older daughter keeps a secret like Barney Fife on sodium penathol.

[Stottie Girl]

These are big moments you are going through. Your youngest sounds so amazing, you should be (and I bet you are) so very proud of her. If your oldest has seen your nails she must suspect so I would bet she will be ok with it too.

[Dawn Kellie]

My oldest daughter is also very accepting and gave me 2 amazing grandchildren. She is also a mamas girl. So I have fears. She lives 100 yards from us. What is that 80 meters?
My youngest i know will keep things between us. My oldest daughter, our middle child. Seems to have a big mouth. 
My youngest helped me work on 2 cars today. We had a good talk and she said she would clothes and bra shop with me. On one of my days off we might go to Tampa and go to the gayberhood and the beach.

[Stottie Girl]

My oldest daughter is also very accepting and gave me 2 amazing grandchildren. She is also a mamas girl. So I have fears. She lives 100 yards from us. What is that 80 meters?
My youngest i know will keep things between us. My oldest daughter, our middle child. Seems to have a big mouth. 
My youngest helped me work on 2 cars today. We had a good talk and she said she would clothes and bra shop with me. On one of my days off we might go to Tampa and go to the gayberhood and the beach.

Now that is awesome what a little legend she is! Shame I can't meet her one day. You're so lucky to have family. Me, I'm an only child with a single friend who I don't get to see anywhere near enough. It would be so good to share my journey with someone. I will admit to feeling a little envious.

No idea on the meters thing ha ha! We never quite completed the metrification process! Short distances we usually use metric (except when doing woodwork, I prefer imperial for that) but longer distances we use yards and miles not metres and Kilometers. Our vehicle speedos are in mph, our road sign distances are in miles and yards. Height we use feet. Area we use m2 for small but acres not hectares when the scale is bigger. Pints for milk and beer, millimeters for spirits and other liquids. I'll still order a pound of mince or saussages even though the price is in grams! Weight we can use either but usually oz, lbs and stone for weighing ourselves. I think our government has just given up trying to sort it out!

It confuses the hell out of our foreign friends! We use both systems interchangably just to be awkward!

[Dawn Kellie]

Our government tries to push metrics on us. It doesn't work Americans are to bully headed. The metric is listed on everything you find in a grocery store but in a smaller font. It would take generations for it to happen  long live fractions

[Stottie Girl]

Our government tries to push metrics on us. It doesn't work Americans are to bully headed. The metric is listed on everything you find in a grocery store but in a smaller font. It would take generations for it to happen  long live fractions

Don't get me wrong the metric system is awesome and it makes far more sense. But it's sort of ingrained into us. Maybe it's the island mentality, the feeling that we want to do things our own way. I suspect that is behind the brexit result we had too. We are part of europe but don't feel like we belong in Europe. Probably our colonial past has something to do with it as well.

[Dawn Kellie]

I can quote the Fat Electrician
Fractions have put more men on the moon than decimals

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We colonialis do it our way. Dosen't mean better just means more arrogant

[Stottie Girl]

I can quote the Fat Electrician
Fractions have put more men on the moon than decimals

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We colonialis do it our way. Dosen't mean better just means more arrogant

I've seeen his videos, he's well funny! I watched one of his talking about the wooden wonder, the Dehaviland Mosquito bomber. Very good watch.

However, he's technically wrong. NASA used a hybrid system of metric and imperial rather like we do over our way.

[Dawn Kellie]

Another work day. I also work tomorrow, both 12 hour days. I will have Tuesday and Wednesday off. This schedule is very draining. I will get working Thursday, Friday and Saturday all 12 hour days. My wife is out of town through next weekend. So it isn't great. I don't sleep good with out my wife.

[Charlotte Kitty ✅]

Hope your day isn't too tough today. Especially as you got back yo back 12 hour days. Get what you mean though, it's really draining when you do repetitive 12+ hour days in a row.

It'll be such a treat when your wife returns from being away. It's always too quiet on your own. I'm always the one working a way so been a while since coming home to an empty house!

Charlotte 😻

[Dawn Kellie]

It's never a quiet house. We have many dogs and two of my adult children live at home. There is also goats, chickens, ducks, and rabbits.  The joy of county living.

For most of my first marriage I traveled alot for work. I'm sure it had something to do with my divorce. Not the only thing but something. I don't miss that life. It was very toxic for both of us.

[Charlotte Kitty ✅]

Wow you have got a busy house. At least it's never lonely! Lots of feeding animals by sounds of it.

[Dawn Kellie]

.you wife is raising mini goars. We probably have 25 goats. A lot of them were hand fed from birth. It makes her happy and they are fun to watch. Most of them will walk right up to you and and just walk around you. I had work to do on the gate yesterday and I had two goat helpers the entire time

[Dawn Kellie]

Sorry, the last post was supposed to start with My wife

[Dawn Kellie]

So I did a thing today.
I'm at work, another 12 hour day, and saw the HR person in her office. I asked if she had a minute, which she did. I closed her door and asked her hypothetically is there any ramifications if some one came out as transgender. I knew the answer but needed to hear it. She said "no" but did ask if it was something that needed to be told. In response I told her it would probably become obvious in time. She said the only concern she would have is some of the people on the floor, as some of them could be harsh. I acknowledge her concern and reiterated that this was hypocritical.
As we ended our conversation she said it would be a very brave thing to do.

Now I have to tell my wife. Why is that seem so much harder than this.

[Pema]

Wow, Kellie, that's another huge step. Congratulations!

I guess I'm a little confused by the HR person's saying there are no ramifications, but some of your colleagues may treat you poorly - and that's not an HR problem itself?

I might ask her questions like "Are there policies prohibiting people from mistreating transgender co-workers? Would those policies be enforced?"

[Stottie Girl]

So I did a thing today.
I'm at work, another 12 hour day, and saw the HR person in her office. I asked if she had a minute, which she did. I closed her door and asked her hypothetically is there any ramifications if some one came out as transgender. I knew the answer but needed to hear it. She said "no" but did ask if it was something that needed to be told. In response I told her it would probably become obvious in time. She said the only concern she would have is some of the people on the floor, as some of them could be harsh. I acknowledge her concern and reiterated that this was hypocritical.
As we ended our conversation she said it would be a very brave thing to do.

Now I have to tell my wife. Why is that seem so much harder than this.

Wow Kellie, you don't hang about do you! I so wish I could be like you and crash on through with everything but I have always been an overthinker, I will likely agonise over these issues for years to come!

It's great your HR representative is female, that would make it easier I think. It's a big step you have taken. For me, my department is very male dominated (construction related industry) the only women are the ones doing my job. HR will exist somewhere within the council but I have no idea who they are or where they are! Hazzards of working for a large authority I suppose.

It's just my opinion but I would think you will need to be careful as if you tell too many people without telling your wife, she may find out before you tell her and I can see that being very hurtful to her.

[Lori Dee ✅]

Now I have to tell my wife. Why is that seem so much harder than this.

Because you care about what the answer is.

With HR, you are just asking a hypothetical to gauge what the environment might be like.

It is different when you are coming out to the person closest to you and being totally honest with them. The words from those closest to us can hurt the most because we are vulnerable with them.

Congrats on taking this huge first step!

[Dawn Kellie]

Wow, Kellie, that's another huge step. Congratulations!

I guess I'm a little confused by the HR person's saying there are no ramifications, but some of your colleagues may treat you poorly - and that's not an HR problem itself?

I might ask her questions like "Are there policies prohibiting people from mistreating transgender co-workers? Would those policies be enforced?"

She was more referring to the individual responses. I can't be "punished " but some of my coworkers may suddenly turn their noses up to me or suddenly treat me differently. I'd like to think my quality of work would and specialty would prevent that.

[Dawn Kellie]

Wow Kellie, you don't hang about do you! I so wish I could be like you and crash on through with everything but I have always been an overthinker, I will likely agonise over these issues for years to come!

It's great your HR representative is female, that would make it easier I think. It's a big step you have taken. For me, my department is very male dominated (construction related industry) the only women are the ones doing my job. HR will exist somewhere within the council but I have no idea who they are or where they are! Hazzards of working for a large authority I suppose.

It's just my opinion but I would think you will need to be careful as if you tell too many people without telling your wife, she may find out before you tell her and I can see that being very hurtful to her.

There are only, as of this moment, three woman that work here. This is a male dominated work place. When I fully come out I will be the only female on the floor.

When she asked me if it was something that would need to be done. She wasn't being nasty. I think she was wondering why. When I told her that at some point it may be come obvious she got the meaning right away. I'll have breasts and that would be hard to hide. 😂