Hi born2learn,
Thinking about what you were saying about therapists & going to see a priest at church, you were talking about the act of confession
That concerns sins and asking for forgiveness for them - trying to put things right. Sins are a matter for yourself and God, nobody else. Priests cannot forgive sins - they just "stand in" for God .
I don't go anymore - but the concept is good, there are/will/may be times when it is very important to talk to a neutral disinterested person. Thats supposed to be part of a priests job description - its carthetic but is not therapy.
Was made to go regularly as a child - had to confess sins, real & imagined - uno, slip the baddies in amongst a crowd of boring petty stuff
Sort of like "Bless me Father have been lazy stupid not helped old ladies across the street etc etc
bad actions with myself , not go 2 mass on sunday etc boring cetra"
"What sort of bad actions son?"
(O bugger) like mumble mumble
playing with myself mumble
"Dirty Grubby little boy!! - thats 10,000 Hail Marys for you to say, and just hope and pray you dont burn in Hell for eternity"
Just one of those things that made life fun for Catholics. But what I badly needed was somebody I could have talked to about important stuff like
"Father, I am concerned - I dressed up in girls clothes and makeup, and it felt sort of right - I have had these feelings of wanting to be a girl, is this wrong? am I gay? why am I like this" Say that sort of stuff - no way
it took several decades for me to get my courage up and in all that time ...
Sorry born, rambling a bit off topic.... but therapists (meaning a useful helpful disinterested person) there wern't many about back when needed
Rana