Quote from: A on October 29, 2010, 08:18:16 PM
-Here, to get a legal name (yeah they even block female names : o) and gender change, one must have undergone SRS. So far, no biggie.
-Here, to get SRS, one must have lived as the chosen gender for 1 year, full time.
See the bug ?
We have a similar stupid bug here in Germany:
- To get a name change, you need two therapists' letters which tell that you're transsexual and that this probably will never change. (For gender marker change, SRS is needed, but with a name change, you can get most of your official stuff gendered correctly and can request that your "old" official gender is hidden away from most documents.)
- Therapists usually request 12 months RLE full-time, and often, going to see them for a year before they diagnose you as transsexual needing a name change, and before they agree that this will probably never change.
I have bureaucratic problems mainly unrelated to the German bug, I got refused a name change the German way and have to go by one of my other countries, which has a worse bug than Germany - 3 years of collecting as many official documents and correspondence on my new name as I can, which is partially impossible without a name change, and then praying that my country will accept the name change nevertheless. I've been on Testo since three years ago and still have my old name stuck to me.
So here is how I try to do the RLE with my old name.
- I tried to have and keep a job where I had to apply with my documents on the old name. My application letter was with the new name, and there I told that I'm transsexual. I even got a job, but felt very awkward there for various reasons, being out as a transsexual was one of them, and so it did not work.
- I live as a freelancer, write my own bills with my new name and in these bills, I ask my clients to wire the money to the bank account of "old name". Most of my clients do not know that I have not been born a man, which is awesome.
- I did not out myself as a transsexual on my old jobs before and just quit the jobs after 1 year on testosterone.
- I don't tell new acquaintances that I'm FTM, and never show them my documents.
- I don't join any organizations or clubs where they want to see my ID card to become a member.
- I don't get member cards of libraries, fitness studios, political parties etc. so there's lots of leisure activities which I just don't do.
- I don't go to any 18+ social events where people might ask me for my ID card as I look like a teenager.
- I can't get my cigarettes everywhere for the same reasons, but it helps me to prove I'm adult by pointing at the few grey hairs I have.
- I had to show my ID card to rent my new flat and said I have problems with my name and gender marker but will have a name change soon, landlord doesn't know if I'm a guy or a girl, asked my neighbors (good long-term friends who know about me), they told him I'm male. He chats with me but never says "Mr. XY" or "Mrs. XY".
- I even never carry my ID card with me as I'm ashamed of it, though you risk trouble with the police and fees if you don't carry it with you as that's illegal in Germany. Never got any trouble yet though.
- I use the new name wherever no ID card is needed. This sometimes works for phone companies etc.
- However, when I have to out myself to bureaucrats, usually people are cool about me being transsexual or at least don't treat me bad. Only problem is they have trouble believing I'm the person pictured on my ID card.
Basically, I have a few of the problems which illegal immigrants have as well, and a RLE life without name change is a bit awkward for these reasons. Thanks to September 11, it got worse as you have to show your ID card on many more occasions now than you had to before.