Quote from: Cruelladeville on February 02, 2011, 10:17:52 AM
And having been once a female brained person with a masculine outer shell i would agree that it does bring unforeseen insights...
But in my case running fast was to mask dealing with the 'inner' angst that at all costs I had to keep buried, secret and contained...
A sort of emotional OCDism.... while maintaining the outer facade
In the end if you be a primary TG type – you crack - and then the genie's finally out the bottle... and things just can't go back to business as usual...
SO true!! I am one of those who has been fortunate enough to have a successful career and to have married a beautiful wife (she is the absolute spitting image of January Jones as Betty Draper in Mad Men, if anyone watches that show) created an archetypal 'perfect' family. I'm 100% certain I was hyper-determined to be an almost chichéd husband-and-provider. And I succeeded, but it had two effects ...
1. It trapped me ... my family depended on me to keep bringing home the bacon, which meant staying as I was, and ...
2. I felt and feel like a total fraud, because I know that I am NOT that man and it kills me to keep playing at being that man.
As it happens, I came out to my wife last year and although she was initially very supportive - in words, at any rate, if not in actions - that has essentially killed the marriage. So now I have, like any divorcing guy (because this is one area in which it really does not pay to be male) lost my wife, kids, house and most of the money I ever made.
But oddly enough, that almost frees me to go ahead and transition ...
... because what have I got to lose? And if I'm going to lose everything when I'm UN-transitioned, well, why not go ahead and do what I've always wanted to do ...
Freedom, as they say, is just another word for nothing left to lose ...