If you look at the places where it seems like TG people have a more open and accepting life because of the general society and culture you'll find that none of that was lead by some huge TG pioneer. No bunch of super-fem post-ops, and enough studly FtMs to form a football team made it happen. There were no leaders, lots and lots of group meetings but no plan. In the end I think it was the going to and home from the meetings that mattered more than the meeting itself. Because how it really happened was that first hundreds, thousands, (and now in the Bay Area tens of thousands) of highly visible people just went out and about, lived their life, were themselves and in doing they they demonstrated the infinite spectrum and day in and day out made it harder for people to discriminate based on some singular uncharacteristic.
That guy with a beard in the dress is actually getting you more positive vibes if you look at it right. I mean hey, at least you're not that guy. And to the degree that you come off as better, or prettier, or just slightly less offensive, then you are. I mean your offended to the very core of your being by being compared to that person (and that is exactly how it sounds) in some sort of equal/sameness way. But hey...
If your half as awesome as you think you are - and I'm sure that is being much too modest, you're really twice as awesome as that - aren't you winning that comparison to the guy in a beard in a dress (and I'll bet the dress is not even in fashion, much less in season) every single time?
Or, is it that what really bugs the ->-bleeped-<- out of you is that all these people you disapprove of are out, being who they are, some are even being successful at it, and damn it, they look like they are happy. Is it that they 'didn't do what they were supposed to' (whatever litany that is) and got the results that you wanted, and you 'did the right things' and have not obtained the same results?
Is that it?
After all, we are all just wandering. Above someone said there were three paths - thus one-uppping Robert Frost - but there are not two, or even three paths, there are infinite paths. If there are paths at all. I kinda think we're all making it up as we go - everyone is at some stage, everyone moving from one point to another. The andros have it right, we're all just wandering in the forest, at some strange edge, out past were we have stars to guide us. Your way is just that, no more, no less.
This... is reality, and not any dream-scenario is going to change any of it, not in my life time at any rate
I'm sorry, but the changes I've seen in my life, in terms of race, sexual equality and even in general acceptance of TG persons (and all sorts of other things, both good and bad) has been nothing short of constantly breath-taking. Your looking at it all wrong. Don't believe me? (of course not, but that doubt is what makes you so cute) Think about that guy in a dress in downtown Atlanta, and ask yourself 'What happens to him now, what happens 50 years ago? What happens 20 years ago? 50-60 years ago, say 1960, I'd be shocked if he wasn't beat up and tied to the back of the car and taken for a scrape around town, or arrested, or put into a mental hospital, or all four. Now he'll get laughed at by some I'd guess (though Atlanta bills itself as The City Too Busy To Hate), but that's better, that's a huge change, that's reality changing not just perceptions.