OK, so I was scanning through a thread about whether or not to let ones wife/SO read ones posts on Susan's and in it Nooney Noonesson wrote a really interesting post about how wives might be suspicious that their TS partners might be using forums like this and meetings with other TS's as cover for sexual activities.
And Nooney said, 'I know not everyone who transitions or is trans or who crossdresses is wanting sex with strangers but due to the nature of testosterone and biology a whole lotta peeps are.'
Now here's the thing ... I'm sure that's correct.
But I don't get it.
To me, one of the defining aspects of my experience as a TS is that I don't have, and have never had a conventional masculine sexuality (gay or straight). I've never had that guy thing of being driven by your prick; that physical need to f***. I've never been turned on by visual pornography (words are another matter altogether) ... I've found girls and women attractive, I've fallen in love with them, I've had sex with them - tho it's often been VERY problematic: sometimes great, tho, too ... But I've always been driven more by a longing for intimacy and emotional closeness, which is what would normally be classified as a female approach (tho' girls can get plenty horny, too, when they're in the mood).
My point is, I can't imagine having that regular, male dick-centered sex-drive, and being TS. I'm not saying it's wrong, or doesn't exist, or makes anyone less of a TS. I just don't personally get it.
So can anyone please explain how a person can be driven to f*** like a man, but not feel like a man, or want to be a man?
How is it that there are girls on here wondering how they can maintain their erections?
Again, I'm not mocking, criticising or being judgemental in any way. I just want to know how that works, or feels ...
