i could use some new friends who are CIS and have a spouse whos transgender

[Nikki59s~Girl]

For once I have decided I could use some new friends on here who can you know relate to me and that can help me out with advice and I can help you out too. I love my wife and things are amazing between us I just want to be able to relate to people I guess..

[EmiB]

Hello!
I am new to this Forum and I am cis gendered with a partner who is transgendered. We married before she started transitioning. I would love to stay in contact with you and be some kind of support to you (and you to me) as we go on this amazing journey with our perspective partners.
Look forward to hearing from you soon.

-E

[Nikki59s~Girl]

Thanks that would be great! My wife and I met before she was transitioning and she had told me a month before we started dating that she is transgender! She's amazing I just want tp relate to people. I guess some people don't know what its like being married to a trans the struggles and the happiness also the ups and downs... its hard sometimes but I love her and I will always love her.

[brit91]

I am a cis female and have been with my partner for a little over 3years now and for about a year she has been out to me as a FTM. The transition part isn't whats hard on me its more hard dealing with my partners parents who are pretty hateful. Even though I came out as lesbian when I was younger I had to step back and kind of reidentify myself as Pansexual. If you ever want to talk feel free to msg me.

[savannahbee]

i just joined today and am a cisgirl with an ftm partner. it's a little different situation since i knew he was already fully transitioned before we started dating, but i love friends and could use some who have some idea what it's like to be in this kind of relationship 

[Sunshine B]

I just joined Susan's today. I am cis-female and my partner identifies as MTF. I am always looking for other supportive spouses to talk with. I wish there were more of us out there. I feel as if the TG community would do better if they had more support.

My partner came out as being MTF 8 months ago. We are slowly going through the transition together. We are happily married and going though every step of the process hand-in-hand. However, we do get frustrated with the lack of societal support and understanding in addition to restrictions by insurance companies to pay for treatment.

I look forward to keeping in touch with more of you so that we can give each other support as we support our partners.

Sunshine B.

[couj28]

I would love new friends, I'm a cis female (had to look that up, I've heard the word before but never knew what it meant), and my wife (we just got married March 23 on our 3 year anniversary♥) is recently seriously considering transitioning FTM. She's struggling a lot with this (she signed up here today too, but to my knowledge hasn't posted anything yet), like being a butch les isn't hard enough in today's society, being trans could be even worse, not to mention how her mother would react (not well, wife thinks she would completely disown her; I think she'd come around after a few months, the same way she did to her being gay). Anyway, we are solid as a couple (we've been through worse than this and survived), we just could both use some friends who've been through/are going through similar things!

[spacial]

There are quite a number of SOs now looking for others in their position to talk to.

Hope each of these and more will continue to check back. The nature of a forum is people are on intermittently.

There will be so much you can each give and get from talking to each other. Hope you don't lose the chance because it didn't happen immediately.

[caa.caa]

My partner is FTM and I am CIS. If anyone else is in the same boat feel free to contact me

[Maya00]

Hi everyone.. Im sorry but what means CIS?
English is not my first language..

[spacial]

Hi everyone.. Im sorry but what means CIS?
English is not my first language..

Hi Maya

cis is a term used in science for same as. In this context, cis is short for cis gender, which means people whose gender is the same as the one they were born with.

It is the opposite of trans gender. Trans meaning across, different.

You are cis gender. Your partner, referred to in another post, is transgender.

[marie91]

I have been with my ftm boyfriend for a year and a half. He wasnot always lance tho. I have been with him from the start and will be there when its complete

[Starshaped]

Nice to see there are more of us out there I had no idea there were a few more out there...my partner is still pre-everything but I am going to be by his side no matter what. I am new to this site and still checking out everything but wanted to say hi 

[blueconstancy]

(I've been skipping over this thread because I'm not cisgender, but I'm partnered with a trans woman and happy to talk to anyone who needs support or wants to hear how our marriage survived transition just fine [better than ever, actually].)

[Starshaped]

(I've been skipping over this thread because I'm not cisgender, but I'm partnered with a trans woman and happy to talk to anyone who needs support or wants to hear how our marriage survived transition just fine [better than ever, actually].)

I don't think the cisgender part is really important...you are a significant other and since I am still pretty new to this all I am always happy to hear about relationships/marriages lasting even after transition. I am sure the others do too

[blueconstancy]

Sometimes I take things too literally - the capitalization of the whole word fooled me into thinking it was critical.

My wife transitioned back in 2009, and our 13th wedding anniversary is this month; I remember the biggest cause of despair at the time was that it was impossible to find evidence of other couples who'd survived and I couldn't imagine losing her. So now I make a point of saying that while I don't have statistics or anything, it IS possible for a marriage to come through transition intact. Starshaped, it sounds like you've got a great attitude going into it! Being determined to make it work, and compromise and communication, are possibly the most important factors in keeping a marriage together (...in general, I guess, and not just through transition).

[Starshaped]

Sometimes I take things too literally - the capitalization of the whole word fooled me into thinking it was critical.

My wife transitioned back in 2009, and our 13th wedding anniversary is this month; I remember the biggest cause of despair at the time was that it was impossible to find evidence of other couples who'd survived and I couldn't imagine losing her. So now I make a point of saying that while I don't have statistics or anything, it IS possible for a marriage to come through transition intact. Starshaped, it sounds like you've got a great attitude going into it! Being determined to make it work, and compromise and communication, are possibly the most important factors in keeping a marriage together (...in general, I guess, and not just through transition).

I have to say with the internets being the internets...I am sometimes not sure where to post and where not to post...but I think we are sometimes too hard on ourselves and I think esp. on this website hearing what others went through can never be wrong

Yeah I think it just feels good to see other couples like yourself...but then sometimes I think not all the good ones post about their success/ good stories....humans tend to write more about the bad things happening. But I think it's very lovely to read that you two are going strong a relationship is always work and with a transitioning happening as well it can be a little harder too but I think you put it perfectly about the communication and the compromise. We are not even close to where you guys are...we only met and are very much in love..so not really close to even being a married couple but still I am very determined to make it work. When you meet that certain someone...you just know Thank you though for sharing

[Crackpot]

Sometimes I take things too literally - the capitalization of the whole word fooled me into thinking it was critical.

My wife transitioned back in 2009, and our 13th wedding anniversary is this month; I remember the biggest cause of despair at the time was that it was impossible to find evidence of other couples who'd survived and I couldn't imagine losing her. So now I make a point of saying that while I don't have statistics or anything, it IS possible for a marriage to come through transition intact. Starshaped, it sounds like you've got a great attitude going into it! Being determined to make it work, and compromise and communication, are possibly the most important factors in keeping a marriage together (...in general, I guess, and not just through transition).

Congratulations on 13 years! I agree, people are so much more willing to write about the bad, although I am guilty too. Sometimes I just need a place to vent, but I also don't want to rub my happiness in other people's faces.

We celebrated our 7 year anniversary this past January and our 1 year wedding anniversary in May. January is when the transition talk really started though. The hard part is just about starting but we are both devoted to each other and to making this work. It's been amazing to see someone I've known for so long finally letting down the guard and being being true to what's inside. Even in such an early stage it's been a beautiful thing to witness.

[eh-lyssa]

I started transition back in late 2011 and my wife and I are still married and plan on staying together. The transition has probably been tougher for her than for me though as this was not something that she even thought about before where as I have been struggling with it for a while.

I have been going to therapy since the start of my transition and she has recently started going to my therapy sessions as well. She has been coping with the changes better as time goes on. Lately she seems to be doing quite well. Therapy helps. Talking to others (like here) helps too.

She does not use this forum but if you want to ask me questions I can forward them onto her or I can put you in touch with her. I know of a few other couples in the area that have stayed together as well.

Alyssa

[cannedrabbit]

Hi there, everyone! I'm in the same boat as Starshaped, I'm married to a pre-everything MtF, and plan on staying by her side through thick and thin. We've been a couple for almost ten years, married for four, and we have two young daughters. Anyone else in this thread have children? As difficult as it's been to find SO's that support their partner's transition, it's been even harder to find SO's that support their partners and have kids.