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Sexual Orientation/Attraction

Started by Anatta, April 26, 2013, 01:53:33 AM

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Who Are You Sexually[Or Romantically] Attracted To ?

 I'm M2F  Androphilic attracted to males
19 (17.9%)
I'm M2F Gynophilic attracted to females
24 (22.6%)
I'm M2F AndroGynophilic Bi-sexual
27 (25.5%)
I'm M2F Asexual no sexual interest whatsoever
0 (0%)
I'm M2F  Asexual Bi-romantic
6 (5.7%)
I'm M2F Asexual Andro-romantic
0 (0%)
I'm M2F Asexual Gyno-romantic
0 (0%)
I'm M2F OTHER: Please describe[but only if you feel like it-no pressure]
8 (7.5%)
I'm F2M Gynophilic attracted to females
5 (4.7%)
I"M F2M  Androphilic attracted to males
5 (4.7%)
I'm F2M  AndroGynophilic Bi-sexual
6 (5.7%)
I'm F2M Asexual no sexual interest whatsoever
1 (0.9%)
I'm F2M Asexual Bi-romantic
1 (0.9%)
I'm F2M Asexual Andro-romantic
1 (0.9%)
I'm F2M Asexual Gyno-romantic
1 (0.9%)
I'm F2M OTHER : Please describe[but only if you feel like it-no pressure]
2 (1.9%)

Total Members Voted: 98

Jess42

I'm M2F but my attractions are not limited in anyway genderwise. Men, women, other m2f or f2m. If I find them attractive and their feelings are mutual then let romance blossom and see where it goes.
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ford

Quote from: brainiac on May 06, 2013, 03:42:49 PM

Has anyone on HRT noticed any similar changes before and after starting HRT? I don't think it's likely to be 100% attributable to hormones or anything, but I'd be interested to see.

I'll let you know  ;)   I've never been a very sexual person,  yet I've never really been able to determine if that has to do with my nature, or my dysphoria. I mean I fantasize about people, but I never see someone and think: you, me, now!

But I'm on my first week of T, so I'll find out and report back!
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ParadigmCrime

I just call myself pansexual or queer most of the time.  If people give me a look like "wtf does that mean"  I sigh, and say bisexual ;)
I really dont care what someones gender is, if I like them, I like them, be they any flavor.  Physically I am more attracted to men.
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vegie271

I find other womyn attractive  :D
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myraey

I do have issues with my sexuality. I have deal with other more important things like my gender, so I have not tended to that part of me so much.

I guess I am bi. I think I can be attracted to people whatever their gender is or what is between their legs. I used think I was just a straight male. The normality , expectations of society and curiosity for the womens side of the world sure made me not fight it too much. I am non op and I guess being very close to a man would give me some dysphoria. And I am not a gay man. So the real world made me start out in that direction. The possibility of even liking men I have come to terms only later on. 
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Siege

I'm not entirely sure since I've never slept with anyone, but I've found myself attracted to people as a whole.

So...FtM, polyamorous pansexual? I dunno. :\

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big kim

Not really bothered about the sexual side but I would like a partner for the companionship.I don't know if it would be male or female
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Cosi555

i find intelligence attractive (yes a tad Cliché) i dont care who, what, where or when you are, (theres a bit of dr who wibbley, wobbley, timey whimey in that sentence lol)... if you can stimulate my grey matter, thatl do it for me ;-)
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Anatta

Quote from: Cosi555 on May 21, 2013, 05:55:10 AM
i find intelligence attractive (yes a tad Cliché) i dont care who, what, where or when you are, (theres a bit of dr who wibbley, wobbley, timey whimey in that sentence lol)... if you can stimulate my grey matter, thatl do it for me ;-)

Kia Ora Cosi,

That's a good point... at times it not about what one sees that attracts them, it more what they hear...

Metta Zenda :)
"The most essential method which includes all other methods is beholding the mind. The mind is the root from which all things grow. If you can understand the mind, everything else is included !"   :icon_yes:
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Bookworm

I am into women, but the idea of cuddling with a man and spending time like that sounds nice. I don't know if I want to be sexual, but romantic... maybe.
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nataliebee334

I've only been in relationships with women. I used that as a cover basically to deny my attraction to men. Took me awhile to come to terms about my gender and my sexual orientation. Now that I've dealt with that I have no idea how to meet guys or whatever. I don't really get out much lol
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laurenlg

So far I am only really attracted to women but who knows if the right man may change things. I just get those butterflies with women and as of yet don't really get them with men.
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Anatta

Kia Ora and thanks for the responses so far,

Well according to the poll. it looks like the "best of both worlds" are out on top for the M2Fs...Same sex attraction coming in second and opposite sex attraction third...

I find this quite interesting, because in the past I've often heard heterosexual M2Fs ( that is one who is sexually attracted to men)saying they are in the minority and are few and far between, well according to the poll so far, 16 identify as hetro -20 as homo(not much of a difference) and 26 as bi...So bi M2Fs seems to be the flavour of the day...

I wonder how many of the 'hetero M2Fs' had lead a 'gay' life style when living as their birth sex( sexual relationship with someone of the same birth sex) and how many lead a 'hetero life style (in a relationship with another female)  before they started to bat for the other team  ...I think I did a poll on this a while back, I can't remember where to find it...Any way it was just a thought...

Metta Zenda :)
"The most essential method which includes all other methods is beholding the mind. The mind is the root from which all things grow. If you can understand the mind, everything else is included !"   :icon_yes:
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A

Excuse me, but who/what are Kia Ora and Metta Zenda? It's been bothering me for a long time. I think you're not the only one to say that thing in your posts.

Also, I think the reason there appears to be more homo girls than there really are is that sexual orientation and with whom you actually are are two very different things.

There are two relatively frequent (well, probably) cases I can think of.

-My case: I'm not especially sexually attracted to women, but do fall in love with them much more easily, while so far I have seen guys as nothing but sexy.

-The older person case (even though it probably happens to young people as well, although not as often): they may be bi, but both chance and how badly society sees homosexuality (especially male) have made it so that back when they were still supposed to be guys, they got in a durable relationship with a women and have stayed with them through and after transition, because their girlfriend/wife still loved them regardless.

Even without a durable relationship, there's also habit that's important. I'm not experienced at all, but I think that if you've spent all of your life dating or wanting to date girls for other reasons, regardless of your natural attraction (which is very relative anyway as it's flexible and can change), just by habit, you'll have a tendency to look with relationships with girls rather than guys, because most people tend to go with what they feel most comfortable with, especially when destabilized (negatively or postively, as is the case with transition), rather than opt for change and excitement.
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LWhite

Tricky tricky. I get into more than a few fights with my partner over this stuff. Charlie contests that sex is a fundamental part of a relationship. This usually leaves me feeling a bit awkward as I'm more on-balance in a relationship without it.
I get a lot of anxiety during sex - it used to be so bad that I would lock up completely. My partner at one time thought it hilarious that he could basically position me like a doll.

As for romance though, really as long as you feel comfortable with a person there's a green light for you.
Impermanently human.
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A

Hmm, yeah, some people think that a relationship, however deep, is friendship if there is nothing physical involved. It's not crazy, but I sure disagree.
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Anatta

Quote from: A on May 30, 2013, 12:13:49 AM
Excuse me, but who/what are Kia Ora and Metta Zenda? It's been bothering me for a long time. I think you're not the only one to say that thing in your posts.

Also, I think the reason there appears to be more homo girls than there really are is that sexual orientation and with whom you actually are are two very different things.

There are two relatively frequent (well, probably) cases I can think of.

-My case: I'm not especially sexually attracted to women, but do fall in love with them much more easily, while so far I have seen guys as nothing but sexy.

-The older person case (even though it probably happens to young people as well, although not as often): they may be bi, but both chance and how badly society sees homosexuality (especially male) have made it so that back when they were still supposed to be guys, they got in a durable relationship with a women and have stayed with them through and after transition, because their girlfriend/wife still loved them regardless.

Even without a durable relationship, there's also habit that's important. I'm not experienced at all, but I think that if you've spent all of your life dating or wanting to date girls for other reasons, regardless of your natural attraction (which is very relative anyway as it's flexible and can change), just by habit, you'll have a tendency to look with relationships with girls rather than guys, because most people tend to go with what they feel most comfortable with, especially when destabilized (negatively or postively, as is the case with transition), rather than opt for change and excitement.

Kia Ora A,

Interesting theory BTW...

"Kia Ora" is just a Maori form of greeting  "Be Well/ Be Healthy"

and "Metta" is Pali (ancient Indian language spoken at the time of the Buddha) meaning (in this case) 'with' "Loving Kindness"

It helps me to see and address others as real 'feeling' human beings and not just anonymous  cyber words on the screen in front of me (AIs)  ;) ;D...

"Zenda" is just a forum name that I've used for a while...

Metta Zenda :)

"The most essential method which includes all other methods is beholding the mind. The mind is the root from which all things grow. If you can understand the mind, everything else is included !"   :icon_yes:
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Sammy

I still tend to find girls/women to be more attractive and interesting - if I can choose with whom to interact, in 9/10 cases my choice would be to communicate with female partner - apart of several topics, which in most cases would require my conversation partner to be immensed in male gender (and these are not sex or sports related :P ). Females tend to listen more, they let You speak out without interrupting all the time,  replies are more in-depth. I also do not feel this constant push for upper hand, which is very typical when I talk with guys, then a total blessing is absence of constant friendly mockery, which tends to derail any conversation, and they very very rarely swear during conversation without no apparent reason and need to do so :P.
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A

Oh, interesting to know. I'm not used to seeing beginning and ending greetings anywhere but in letters. Add the unknown words and I was really, really curious. Thanks!
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Erik Ezrin

I'm sort of demisexual pan/biromantic, or whatever term could be used.
I rarely get a 'sexual' attraction or desire for someone, but occasionally it happens. Mostly I just make good friends though. I can find people attractive, but I rarely think about them in a sexual way. But when I do it's (almost) regardless of gender (identity) or physical appearance in general.
I dunno for sure, my sexuality and attraction is still a bit of a weird thing to me. Lol. Still figuring stuff out a bit.
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