Does anyone hate being a man

[mac1]

Since I was around at least 8 years old I have frequently desired to be a female. However, transition was never possible for various reasons. I don't like the results of male puberty and subsequent development.

Full female transition is currently not (and may never be) an option. However, it would be nice if I could reverse some of the male characteristics and develop female body characteristics and be able to present myself as a female in both public and private with my wife.

The minimum requirements would be replenishment of some lost hair, elimination of both facial and body hair, development of female size "C" breasts, development of other female body characteristics, and the elimination of my male genitals with urethra relocation like a female for proper urination. Full genital transition with vagina, labia, and clitoris would be nice but not essential as I do not desire penetrative sex with a man.

My male genitals are currently of no use to me and are really a great inconvenience. I desire to have them gone and to have a proper urethra relocation. If there was some way for my doctor to say that they must be removed and for the surgery to be covered by my insurance, I would gladly say do it.

[valsharae]

The binary system we have in western cultures is very limiting. People should be free to choose how they want to express themselves. There should be no concept of man and woman. If no concept of man or woman, then there is nothing to hate. You just express yourself as you see fit and society shall celebrate you for doing so. If one likes to do things that are considered the stereotypical gender expression, they should do it, but without labeling. It's just what it is, that it is, not male nor female. It is just one form of expression of many.

The binary system is like having a canvas with only black and white. Do you hate the black or do you hate the white? Why not have a spectrum of colors and use every single color to paint a beautiful painting?

[Feather]

When I wear feminine clothes it's not just a gender neutral thing for me. Yes, I really do like how it feels on my body, but I love that it IS considered feminine. If feminine clothes were gender neutral I don't think I could just leave it at that.

[valsharae]

I love wearing feminine clothing as well, but I start wondering what is feminine and what is not? Another culture may view the way we dress as something entirely different.

[Stephanie2]

I may not have said this earlier, but I don't think that I would say that I hate being a man, but sure would rather be a woman. I love that feminine shape look and would surely be happy to have that look, whether I could survive the rest of my life actually living the life of a woman or not.  Losing male organs doesn't matter much to me these days, so if I could bring in enough money to have the surgery, plus have enough to live on during the long healing process off the job, I wouldn't have to think twice about it. Not using a urinal isn't a big issue with me, as I have never used one in my whole life. I urinate sitting down, anyhow. I have done other feminine things for many years, also.

[Late bloomer]

Having to go through puberty as a man, when my heart told me I didn't like it one bit.

[mac1]

As previously indicated I dislike my male genitals and don't have any real use for them.  My wife has not wanted sexual penetration for the past 5 years because of her vagina being extremly dry and penetration being rather painful for her. Also, I have sat to pee full time for over 15 years. Thus, I would be much better off to have them gone and to have a smooth feminine like crotch with a proper urethral reroute.

It might then be possible for me to occasionally present myself both privately and publically with my wife as female.

[Jamie D]

Not only am I not passable as a woman, but I am too tall to be a woman. At 6'2" most people would guess that I am a guy or at least was a guy. Biological women that are only 5'10" tall have told me that men occasionally ask if they were a man. I, however, have known a woman at 6'2" and she was taller than me in high heels. I guess anything is possible.

My youngest daughter is six-feet, 20 years old, and nobody mistakes her for a man because she is tall.

[Stephanie2]

My youngest daughter is six-feet, 20 years old, and nobody mistakes her for a man because she is tall.

Luckily the men around her didn't say such mean things, plus had no reason to. I think that some men just aren't used to women taller than they are, if that is the case, and just want to be insulting. The women who have told me about men who asked if they were a man were very feminine in every way. Height was the only thing the men were confused about. I see tall women every day, but my height is even taller. Someone told me that there is a club for extra tall women.

[Melody-Yvonne]

I cant  say I hate  being a man!  Being male does have its advantages and since I am a male,  I have learned to accept it .   But having said  that,  I would have preferred to have  been born  female.   To me,  life seems a bit easier?   Whether thats true, I am not sure?   Nicer clothes, nicer to eachother and more understanding for the most part is what I like about being female.   Hate  being male?  No!     Preffered to be  female?   Yes.     

[Feather]

Had I been born a female I..

...would be able to show my feelings better..
...would have a softer and gentler body..
...would work on my looks all the time..
...wouldn't be so afraid of ageing..
...would be treated as a female..
...and most importantly, would have a match between my character and body.. it would be a better fit..

...and I sure as hell wouldn't imagine my life as a male.

[Melissa_fox]

I like certain things about my male side and female side.  I think that its a blessing to be able to live life and enjoy the best of each side.

[Stephanie2]

Gee, the more I think of it, the more I hate being a man! I never liked an Adam's apple and wanted it removed as a teenage. I hate shaving my face and have shaved my under arms for many years now. I don't like the male organ, it is often in awkward positions in the underpants and has to be re-adjusted. The more I think about it, the more I want the operation. Only the recovery and time off work would not be good for me, plus money I don't have for the operation itself.

[Cassandra]

Yeah, I do, I especially don't like being treated like a man or expected to behave as one....as I don't feel I am one. The one thing that always irked me about it is people expect you to be tough, which I'm not...well I can be alittle tough, but not to the extent that's expected of guys. I've never liked how men "bond" with each other either...all the teasing and bullying...no thanks. I like to be treated with sensitivity.

[MbutF]

Yeah, I do, I especially don't like being treated like a man or expected to behave as one....as I don't feel I am one. The one thing that always irked me about it is people expect you to be tough, which I'm not...well I can be alittle tough, but not to the extent that's expected of guys. I've never liked how men "bond" with each other either...all the teasing and bullying...no thanks. I like to be treated with sensitivity.

I feel EXACTLY the same way.... that is almost exactly what I wanted to write, for a second there I thought I wrote it myself and forgot about it, 

[Kimberley Beauregard]

I like being a man and given the option to choose my sex back when I was conceived, I'd still be male.  Though I could be either gender depending on the day, I still lean towards the male side of the spectrum and like being referred to as one.  However, I yearn to act out my female side too.  As I live with my parents and would rather keep it from them and my siblings (even with the chance they would be okay with it), I can't do that yet, but I'm saving up to move out.

I like certain things about my male side and female side.  I think that its a blessing to be able to live life and enjoy the best of each side.

I can't wait until my situation changes so I can do that myself.

[janetcgtv]

I hate being born male as I would of rather been a mother, breast feed all my children and complain to my female friends about any difficulties of having problems with some of my periods. Also enjoy Mother's Day as my day. It's like when I believe Lee Remick rued by saying in a documentary about those who had SRS . She said that they cannot "conceive, lactate, and menstruate". Just the three biggest things about being born Female.

[mac1]

I like certain things about my male side and female side.  I think that its a blessing to be able to live life and enjoy the best of each side.

Yes, it would be great to be able to present one's self in either female or male mode as desired.

[Gina Taylor]

I've disliked being a man for a long time and whenever I'm dressed as a woman, my countenance improves 100%. I'm a totally changed person. It's actually strange though, because I was just telling my therapist  that I never consider my feminine self the same way that I do with my male self. They are 2 totally different entities. Two months ago, a friend invited me over to her house and I met her boyfriend. Then a few weeks later she needed some help, so my male self went over and helped her. Later on her boyfriend told her about her friends and he thought we were 2 totally different people.  She had a good laugh when she told him that we were one and the same but technically when I become my feminine self I'm a totally different person.

[Dani Davis]

First post.  Newbie.

Do I hate being a man?

I don't hate being a man.  I am just very disappointed at the cards I was dealt.  I would have been much better suited to being a woman.  And happier.  It is what it is.