Size does matter

[Brandon]

Well my mom and sister were having a discusdion about men and I commented and said I thought size didn't matter and that it's how you use it, And she made it plain an clear that size does matter and that she doesn't want no 3 inches, I know she's just one woman, But it made me so dysphoric and self concious hell the whole convo did because for one they were talking about the physical aspects of men and two becauseI know some women share her views, I feel like because of that ill never have the norm sex life at all, I mean no offence but I really don't want a tiny dick especially being black, I feel like I won't be able to please a woman with that, Phallo or Meta, Its not the same. I'm scared honestly, This is the reason I wish I was born right, Because I can't b normal anyway. Just a rant I guess.......

[geek]

No, it's not the same. You can't change these things, you can only use the tools we have available, it's probably time to accept the things you can't change, focus on the things you can change, and just find happiness within yourself

[Brandon]

No, it's not the same. You can't change these things, you can only use the tools we have available, it's probably time to accept the things you can't change, focus on the things you can change, and just find happiness within yourself

Yea that's not possible right know, Not that easy to accept that especially being young

[Jamie D]

Umm, how do I say this?

If you look at the distribution by ethnicity, you can see African-Americans are, on average, larger than other ethnicities.

And yet, there are like 4 billion Asians.  It's not the heat of the meat or the angle of the dangle that counts.

[Brandon]

Umm, how do I say this?

If you look at the distribution by ethnicity, you can see African-Americans are, on average, larger than other ethnicities.

And yet, there are like 4 billion Asians.  It's not the heat of the meat or the angle of the dangle that counts.

In some cases it is though, It depends on the woman, But what can you do with a it at 3 inches, Fact is some women do care about it

[Jamie D]

That's true.  It is also true a man can be too big.

Remember, it's a partnership.

[Cindy]

May I suggest you learn something that most men don't?

How to satisfy your partner as well as your self.

And I can assure you size doesn't matter in that regard!!

[lilacwoman]

I'm inclined to think that position can negate any size issues as the sexperts say that the inner reach of natural vaginas are insensitive and 3 inches would reach all the sensitive bits depending how the loins/groins were pressed together.

[thatboyfresh]

For one - The average woman's vagina is about 4-5 inches when in an "aroused" state. So with just that information it  goes to show that size isn't really the biggest factor. Size only matters in the mind.
For two - There is a huge difference between sex and satisfaction. A lot of people have sex, whereas not as many people are satisfied.
For three - If you study the anatomy of a woman the places where they might ( usually?) get the most stimulation from are more then reachable by about 3 to 5 inches on average.
For four - Believe me when I say if a person is good with there hands/mouth the size of what's between their legs is almost moot. At least in my experience.
For five - Would you really want to be with a person who cares more about what's in your pants then what is in your heart? IMO no.

[geek]

For five - Would you really want to be with a person who cares more about what's in your pants then what is in your heart? IMO no.

was going to thumbs up you for this, but the website hates my guts and wont let me.

[Sir Wafflinton]

I mean no offence but I really don't want a tiny dick especially being black

Wasn't going to jump in until I saw this. Race has nothing to do with penis size. I am guessing the graph that was put in was the result of a "study" by Richard Lynn that was so unscientific I can't even find a proper scientific article disputing it (and obviously nothing supporting it). Have this instead http://www.livescience.com/4489-penis-myths-debunked.html and these people who actually know what they're talking about's opinions

"Prof Lynn said that the study was mainly based on information taken from a website that collected data on penis length, but he admitted the website was not verified by other academics. Jelte Wicherts, professor of methodology at Tilburg University in the Netherlands, told The Sunday Times: "This is a brave paper in a controversial area but the data has no methodology and Lynn's paper should not have been published.""

The "different size penis" myth is racist in so many ways. It is based on the idea that penis size and brain size (supposedly this is supposed to correlate with intelligence) is inversely proportionate and a race must have one or the other to survive. So Asians have smaller penises (supposedly therefore a lower sex drive) but make up for it by being smart enough to ensure their children are nurtured properly whereas Africans are massive and put it in whatever hole they can find hoping some of the offspring will eventually turn out OK.

Like I said, racist. You don't have to feel insecure about being a black guy with a small dick. Plenty of black guys have small dicks. If you don't get enough growth for you to feel meta will do you, and feel phallo isn't your thing either then always remember there are many different ways of having sex with whoever you want, at least you'll never be boring in the bedroom

[Sir Wafflinton]

Btw, when I said "plenty of black guys have small dicks" I meant that as in "plenty of black guys are just like white guys, tan guys, blue guys, and green guys in their small dickishness"

[geek]

Btw, when I said "plenty of black guys have small dicks" I meant that as in "plenty of black guys are just like white guys, tan guys, blue guys, and green guys in their small dickishness"

Sir Wafflinton is clearly racist against people with small dicks

>_>

<_<

Dont beat me!

Edit: i think "Dickishness" has replaced "sassy" as my favourite word =p

[Ayden]

Gonna go out on a limb here. I have heard PLENTY of sex conversations on both sides, and I've found that the only people who care that deeply about penis size is penis holders. Because for some reason a thing that only you and your partner(s) see matters.

I've mostly heard women complain that their current boyfriends are obsessed with knowing how big the last guy was. Like Cindy and a few others have said, if you know how to please your partner, that's what matters. And penetration really isn't the most important or pleasurable aspect of intimacy. Unless you take porn as your holy grail.

[geek]

I'll be honest, when youre like 16 and a kid, things like this matters, when you grow up and youre in an adult relationship, things just work, and if they dont, you find someone who it does work with, it just feels like its the end of the world because youre so young.

[randomroads]

There's good advice here, but all I see in your posts is that you want to ask for advice and then argue about how it won't work for you, how you know better, and how everyone else is wrong despite the fact you ask their opinions in the first place.

Your penis size does not matter, in the long run. No one gives two ->-bleeped-<-s (or three or four!) what's in your pants when you're out in the real world. There's no secret handshake amongst men that includes penis size in order to be taken seriously. You don't need to measure up to get your man card, either. Sex takes up a very small percentage of your life, and if you want to attract women who are shallow enough to only care about your package then good luck, because that won't last long term. The best thing for ANYONE, regardless of gender, to do is to learn how to make people feel good without penetration. I've been around the block more than a few times and I'll have you know the men with the larger penises are the ones who sucked hardcore at making me feel good. A few of them were so bad I made them stop and leave.

[Brandon]

Yea well I do want to be able to penetrate my wife, That's a big part of sex

[Magnus]

"Preliminary work has revealed that only about 7% of women always have orgasms with {*}sex alone, he says, while 27% say they never do."  ({*} 'sex alone' as in 'penetration alone'). Source: http://www.latimes.com/features/health/la-hew-ordistance11feb11,0,2763149.story#ixzz2pXArH58J

What matters for those mere 7% of women is actually girth, not length. The more girth the better the clitoris is stimulated because that is just the way it is. Length gives nothing extra aside from affording more positions in kinky Kama Sutra and which hardly anyone really cares to take the time to learn let alone use anyway. Also, the clitoris is the sole reason a woman can orgasm in the first place and for the very same reason why a man without a glans wouldn't be able too either. That's where the necessary nerves are. Without them and their ability to be directly stimulated, forget about it. So that means the overwhelming majority of guys just can't get the job done with only their "perfectly normal" knob. Imagine that.

Let's really simplify that. A man with >5" girth but let's say 3" length will have a much better chance of pleasuring his female partner than would a man at <4" girth and 9" length. Amazing.

Anyway. It's also interesting to note that the... other cavity... has many more nerves than the vaginal one. Surprised? So was I, but its true. Go look it up because when you do, you'll find out that even the majority of women that can't orgasm from PIV, a lot more can from PIA (yes, despite the lack of a prostate)... how does that work? They're still figuring that out, I couldn't tell ya. It just does.

At the end of the day, a woman's pleasure is dependent upon the type and quality of foreplay. Women's favorite foreplay is pretty much the same as a man's... think in the neighborhood of where you're thinking from and you'll get it. Master THAT organ and you'll be able to pleasure any woman you want to the point of that woman simply not giving a flying ->-bleeped-<- about anything else 'in the bedroom', or so I've heard from 100% of the "perfectly normal" guys I hang with.

Yup, that's right... horny shmucks of all types have to pay their dues in foreplay before getting their grand prize in return. And the world keeps on a turnin'.

Sorry all, that last was my admittedly sub-par attempt at humor. No offense intended.

[Brandon]

Wasn't going to jump in until I saw this. Race has nothing to do with penis size. I am guessing the graph that was put in was the result of a "study" by Richard Lynn that was so unscientific I can't even find a proper scientific article disputing it (and obviously nothing supporting it). Have this instead http://www.livescience.com/4489-penis-myths-debunked.html and these people who actually know what they're talking about's opinions

"Prof Lynn said that the study was mainly based on information taken from a website that collected data on penis length, but he admitted the website was not verified by other academics. Jelte Wicherts, professor of methodology at Tilburg University in the Netherlands, told The Sunday Times: "This is a brave paper in a controversial area but the data has no methodology and Lynn's paper should not have been published.""

The "different size penis" myth is racist in so many ways. It is based on the idea that penis size and brain size (supposedly this is supposed to correlate with intelligence) is inversely proportionate and a race must have one or the other to survive. So Asians have smaller penises (supposedly therefore a lower sex drive) but make up for it by being smart enough to ensure their children are nurtured properly whereas Africans are massive and put it in whatever hole they can find hoping some of the offspring will eventually turn out OK.

Like I said, racist. You don't have to feel insecure about being a black guy with a small dick. Plenty of black guys have small dicks. If you don't get enough growth for you to feel meta will do you, and feel phallo isn't your thing either then always remember there are many different ways of having sex with whoever you want, at least you'll never be boring in the bedroom

I didn't say it was a race thing but the chart that Jamie D put up clearly proves it African Americans do tend to be larger,  Some black guys may be small but not no three inches I can guareentee you that and they can do something with it

[Brandon]

"Preliminary work has revealed that only about 7% of women always have orgasms with {*}sex alone, he says, while 27% say they never do."  ({*} 'sex alone' as in 'penetration alone'). Source: http://www.latimes.com/features/health/la-hew-ordistance11feb11,0,2763149.story#ixzz2pXArH58J

What matters for those mere 7% of women is actually girth, not length. The more girth the better the clitoris is stimulated because that is just the way it is. Length gives nothing extra aside from affording more positions in kinky Kama Sutra and which hardly anyone really cares to take the time to learn let alone use anyway. Also, the clitoris is the sole reason a woman can orgasm in the first place and for the very same reason why a man without a glans wouldn't be able too either. That's where the necessary nerves are. Without them and their ability to be directly stimulated, forget about it. So that means the overwhelming majority of guys just can't get the job done with only their "perfectly normal" knob. Imagine that.

Let's really simplify that. A man with >5" girth but let's say 3" length will have a much better chance of pleasuring his female partner than would a man at <4" girth and 9" length. Amazing.

Anyway. It's also interesting to note that the... other cavity... has many more nerves than the vaginal one. Surprised? So was I, but its true. Go look it up because when you do, you'll find out that even the majority of women that can't orgasm from PIV, a lot more can from PIA (yes, despite the lack of a prostate)... how does that work? They're still figuring that out, I couldn't tell ya. It just does.

At the end of the day, a woman's pleasure is dependent upon the type and quality of foreplay. Women's favorite foreplay is pretty much the same as a man's... think in the neighborhood of where you're thinking from and you'll get it. Master THAT organ and you'll be able to pleasure any woman you want to the point of that woman simply not giving a flying ->-bleeped-<- about anything else 'in the bedroom', or so I've heard from 100% of the "perfectly normal" guys I hang with.

Yup, that's right... horny shmucks of all types have to pay their dues in foreplay before getting their grand prize in return. And the world keeps on a turnin'.

Sorry all, that last was my admittedly sub-par attempt at humor. No offense intended.

Actually I know that already, I learned that a while ago but she does have G-spot, That also can be stimulated, I don't wanna just do foreplay, I actually want to feel the connection from me and her body, I want her to feel me is what some of you guys aren't getting