Telling him your TS

[Angélique LaCava]

lol thats sick!
I tried to be macho in highschool but in middle school I was just one of the girls so a lot of people saw through my bull->-bleeped-<- too. And when I did come out after grade 11 I did the same thing with my friends lol! I guess we were lucky in that sense. Those old friends of mine though arent my friends anymore i think their jealous tbh because when we started going to clubs id be the one getting all the attention from boys and then they would out me in an attempt to bring me down but that is a long story for another thread!

ive never gone to a club before, but i get attention even in a place like walmart lol, but ive always acted female. ive never tried to hide anything. all through my school years people called me gay and stuff so i only had a little group of friends which were justice friends for 12 years shade friends for 8 years, and katelyne friends for 8 years. they are still my friends even to this day.

[Heather]

Thanks I guess i'm just nervous because I haven't been in this situation yet, as a post op.

I understand but I suspect you'll catch on quick and those nerves will go away.

[missy1992]

ive never gone to a club before, but i get attention even in a place like walmart lol, but ive always acted female. ive never tried to hide anything. all through my school years people called me gay and stuff so i only had a little group of friends which were justice friends for 12 years shade friends for 8 years, and katelyne friends for 8 years. they are still my friends even to this day.

Thats great to hear! I have a friend from when I was 4, we  jumped rope together during recess aha.

I know what its like when people make fun of you cause they think your "Gay." it really sucks, people wanted me to "toughen" up always and my family is very conservative I was brought up in a religious household go to church, tradition etc.

The friendships with a lot of the girls i used to hang out with didn't work out cause they kept seeing me as a gay man and not a straight woman but oh well my companionship is their loss!

[Angélique LaCava]

i just read on the first post that u said ur post op. i didn't catch that wen i skimmed through it  haha. anyway if ur post and don't have a penis anymore then don't tell him. most likely he will be into it since u have a vagina now, but they do have some guys that still would concider u a boy no matter wat gender u identify as or wat parts u hav. so watch who u talk to.

[Jessica Merriman]

Baby, my career put me into situations where I transported serial killers. Do not underestimate anyone at all. One individual I transported was 5'4" and 132 pounds. This person killed three people at one time, very hideously and violently. If you think someone has to be big to kill you, think again. I served as a Reserve Deputy Sheriff for 4 years. In the Academy a guy 5' 6" and 145 took down four of us and our averages were 5'11" and 200 pounds, mostly muscle. Size doesn't matter, period. I had a really nice talk and hired a guy to make my daughter a hand made jewelry chest with an angel painted on top of it. It was beautiful and he was charming, he killed 9 people and was doing life without parole.

[missy1992]

most likely he will be into it since u have a vagina now

Thats what im thinking anyways, but I don't wanna not tell him cause I am a bit self conscious of my scars plus a lot of the people we have as mutual friends actually know me from before they either haven't told anyone or haven't made the connection yet so the last thing i want is to be called out for "not telling" etc

[missy1992]

Baby, my career put me into situations where I transported serial killers. Do not underestimate anyone at all. One individual I transported was 5'4" and 132 pounds. This person killed three people at one time, very hideously and violently. If you think someone has to be big to kill you, think again. I served as a Reserve Deputy Sheriff for 4 years. In the Academy a guy 5' 6" and 145 took down four of us and our averages were 5'11" and 200 pounds, mostly muscle. Size doesn't matter, period. I had a really nice talk and hired a guy to make my daughter a hand made jewelry chest with an angel painted on top of it. It was beautiful and he was charming, he killed 9 people and was doing life without parole.

Dam lol that is one depressing post!
I guess i'll tell him the way the a true Canadian girl would... with a hockey mask for protection and a broken hockey stick for offense! aha!

[Angélique LaCava]

Baby, my career put me into situations where I transported serial killers. Do not underestimate anyone at all. One individual I transported was 5'4" and 132 pounds. This person killed three people at one time, very hideously and violently. If you think someone has to be big to kill you, think again. I served as a Reserve Deputy Sheriff for 4 years. In the Academy a guy 5' 6" and 145 took down four of us and our averages were 5'11" and 200 pounds, mostly muscle. Size doesn't matter, period. I had a really nice talk and hired a guy to make my daughter a hand made jewelry chest with an angel painted on top of it. It was beautiful and he was charming, he killed 9 people and was doing life without parole.

totally agree. i dated a guy recently that just got out of jail for armed robbery and hes only 5'8 and 135 lbs, but he was bad from head to toe.

edit: he considered himself a gangster. wen i asked him why did he go and rob a store and beat up the cashier person he said " because im a gangster that why" he was very street, but i didn't care cause he didn't care i was transgender and he treated me really good. we had sex everytime we were around eachother i mean we couldn't keep our hands off eachother. the first time we met and went to his house we madeout for 6 hours straight and u don't want to see wat he did to my neck. lets just say it was covered in hickeys haha, but we only dated for a month cause he still had feelings for his ex.

[missy1992]

edit: he considered himself a gangster. wen i asked him why did he go and rob a store and beat up the cashier person he said " because im a gangster that why" he was very street, but i didn't care cause he didn't care i was transgender and he treated me really good. we had sex everytime we were around eachother i mean we couldn't keep our hands off eachother. the first time we met and went to his house we madeout for 6 hours straight and u don't want to see wat he did to my neck. lets just say it was covered in hickeys haha, but we only dated for a month cause he still had feelings for his ex.

Not gona lie thats kinda hot

[Jessica Merriman]

Not gona lie thats kinda hot

Not if it was your Mom working the late shift in that store to support you. Would he still be hot then? Just food for thought.

[missy1992]

Not if it was your Mom working the late shift in that store to support you. Would he still be hot then? Just food for thought.

For sure but the realm of my fantasies and imagination have no moral limits

[Angélique LaCava]

For sure but the realm of my fantasies and imagination have no moral limits

he wanted to record me and him having sex, but i said no cause i don't want it to end up on some porn site lmfao

[missy1992]

he wanted to record me and him having sex, but i said no cause i don't want it to end up on some porn site lmfao

lol good call! Or else you would have been a HungAngels star 

[missy1992]

Thank you so much to everyone who replied to this thread btw! I really appreciate it <3

Im going to be going to bed now since its 1 AM but i'll sign in tomorow and check this thread again.

If anyone has their 2 cents or a story to share that can relate to my situation that would be great

Thanks again goodnight for now everyone!

[Angélique LaCava]

lmao. this is him. sucks he broke it off wit me for his ex cause he was so hot.

[Sarah leah]

Stating I am 'gangster' is the coequal term for "I am a tool."


In terms of the question and your concerns you are expressing I can not say what is right or wrong, but I feel that being upfront to a point is paramount. Although perhaps go on a date see how it goes and then tell him you like him but you need to talk. Some guys are nice and will be fine, others are tools and you can do better.

[Madison (kiara jamie)]

i think the funniest way to tell him would be to go to a restaurant and tell him and after you tell if he is fine with it that is when you let him see you put your tazer back into your purse and smile at him, at that point he will know that your not to be messed with because your capable of taking him down lol

[missy1992]

i think the funniest way to tell him would be to go to a restaurant and tell him and after you tell if he is fine with it that is when you let him see you put your tazer back into your purse and smile at him, at that point he will know that your not to be messed with because your capable of taking him down lol

Lol that sounds a little extreme but I like it!

Anyone else care to share how they told a suitor/partner/bf etc their "story"

[Ltl89]

I can't share anything personal (I'm pre-op and still not dating as of yet), but I did want to wish you luck. 

One of my post-op friends did meet a guy and told him, but they were good friends for a while before she disclosed it.  While they are now in a happy relationship, he isn't happy about her past at all and she does everything to avoid bringing the subject up.  It seems that the familiarity was a good way to overcome the traditional difficulties most guys have.  Hope that helps. 

 

[missy1992]

If I were you though I wouldn't even consider dating him and would look for someone who doesn't know your group of friends. So many men..

But that seems to be the easiest way to meet men, through mutual friends. I met this guy at a party a good friend of mine was having. Your right though, I am definitely setting myself up for outing if things don't go well and the prospect of that occuring keeps playing out in my head making me feel nervous and anxious.