why do you think the non-trans have such a hard time understanding the trans

[Foxglove]

I had a wonderful nurse sit down beside me, wipe the tears off my face, and explain to me what being transgender was, and showed me a fashion magazine with the story of a British supermodel who was transgender and had transitioned.

Allie

Fabulous!  This is exactly what transkids need--somebody to explain to them what they are.  Ciskids go through the same process of self-discovery that we do, that is, copping onto what their gender identity is, but they have lots of people telling them in so many ways what they are.  Now of course a lot of what they're told is going to be a right nuisance to them, either in the short or the long term.  But at least they know what they are.  We transpeople on the other hand have to figure it out for ourselves.  And that's not easy, given that everything you're told amounts to telling you what you're not, rather than what you are.

[stephaniec]

Fabulous!  This is exactly what transkids need--somebody to explain to them what they are.  Ciskids go through the same process of self-discovery that we do, that is, copping onto what their gender identity is, but they have lots of people telling them in so many ways what they are.  Now of course a lot of what they're told is going to be a right nuisance to them, either in the short or the long term.  But at least they know what they are.  We transpeople on the other hand have to figure it out for ourselves.  And that's not easy, given that everything you're told amounts to telling you what you're not, rather than what you are.

yes, very true

[Allyda]

Fabulous!  This is exactly what transkids need--somebody to explain to them what they are.  Ciskids go through the same process of self-discovery that we do, that is, copping onto what their gender identity is, but they have lots of people telling them in so many ways what they are.  Now of course a lot of what they're told is going to be a right nuisance to them, either in the short or the long term.  But at least they know what they are.  We transpeople on the other hand have to figure it out for ourselves.  And that's not easy, given that everything you're told amounts to telling you what you're not, rather than what you are.

I was so appreciative of that young nurse. Her doing that dispelled some of my confusion, and validated for me I wasn't some freak. That I really was a girl. I just wish my adopted father had listened.

Allie