Chivalry Is Not Dead

[CrissyMarie]

So I'm just following up on my last reply to a different thread, as I believe that every girl deserves to be treated like a princess every now and then.  It's the little things like "holding a door open, pulling a chair out, giving a flower, having a coat placed around us".  It's these little gestures of kindness that make us smile, blush, and weak.  Yes we may be capable of doing things for our self, but when a man goes out of his way to show his chivalry, it means more then words.

So how many of you have experienced the chivalrous things that guys do for woman?

[Hikari]

Honestly I find it annoying when people do stuff like that for me. I am polite but internally I feel like "I don't know you, stay away from me". I would prefer someone to hold the door they just went thru for me, but to jump in front of me just to open the door annoys me every time.

I would feel appreciated if a lover were to make gestures like this, but I just find it weird and creepy when strangers do.

[LizMarie]

I am still getting used to this but I am glad it's happening. I enjoy it though I don't hesitate to try to hold doors if I get there first. However, usually when I try to do that, the man puts his arm behind me, grabs the door, and says "I've got it" so I try not to fight the tide. As old King Canute showed us, fighting the tide just gets us wet.

[suzifrommd]

So I'm just following up on my last reply to a different thread, as I believe that every girl deserves to be treated like a princess every now and then.

I do like it when men hold the door for me.

I also hold the door for men when I get the chance.

I mean, doesn't every guy deserve to be treated like a prince every now and then?

[Eevee]

I really don't like special treatment for anything. I do like kindness, but I think that should be shared among everyone. If it's just because of who I am, it actually keys into my anxiety.

[Ms Grace]

Not long after I transitioned a friend insisted on walking me to the train station after a movie we'd seen. It was night but there were still a lot of people around in an area I would characterise as safe. Or at least it had felt safe to me in guy mode. Also I am an inch taller than him and felt (at the time) able to look after myself. I did appreciate the gesture though. I do think it had more to do with him being worried I'd be hassled for being trans than me as a woman.

[alexis.j]

I actually had someone open a door for me today,  I think its quite sweet
It was the first time someone actually did that sort of thing for me, but I'm only fulltime for 2 or 3 weeks now.

[Jessica Merriman]

So I'm just following up on my last reply to a different thread, as I believe that every girl deserves to be treated like a princess every now and then.  It's the little things like "holding a door open, pulling a chair out, giving a flower, having a coat placed around us".  It's these little gestures of kindness that make us smile, blush, and weak.  Yes we may be capable of doing things for our self, but when a man goes out of his way to show his chivalry, it means more then words.

My thoughts exactly girl! I love it because it reinforces my femininity and makes me feel all gushy inside. It is also a very firm confirmation that I am looked at and acknowledged as a woman. I have had men put those big heavy (giggle) bags of dog food in my cart or carry them out for me. When something chivalrous happens I am just thrilled. 

[Foxglove]

I've had a bit of chivalry, and I don't mind it one bit.  Actually, I thoroughly enjoy it.

One discovery I made just a few days after I came out: I'd noticed about myself many years ago that whenever I was walking down the street and was going to run into someone, I would always get out of their way.  I eventually decided that I was simply obeying the Law of the Jungle--the smaller must always give way to the bigger, and at 5'3" I'm almost always the smaller.

But one day just after I'd come out, I was walking down the street and was on a collision course with some guy and so as usual I started to move aside.  Then I caught myself: "Wait a minute!  Let him get out of my way!  He can show a woman a bit of respect."  So I just kept going straight ahead and (lo and behold!) he stepped aside.  I was overjoyed.  "Ha! At last, a bit of respect.  And all I had to do to get it was to put on a skirt."

Ever since then, if I'm about to run into some guy, I just keep going and he always gets out of my way.  The only guys who don't would be really old geezers or the odd really rude guy.  But the overwhelming majority will give way to me.

And it's happened often enough that some guy holds a door for me.  Whenever that happens, I smile, thank him, sail on through and tell him, "You're right!  I am worth it!"  (I don't really say that.)

Your average guy does enjoy, I think, being chivalrous.  Makes him feel like a man.  So why deny him the pleasure?  I feel like I'm doing him a favour.

[Eva Marie]

I've had several guys walk me to my car before when it was late and dark and I appreciated it each time because I sensed the danger. As a guy I never gave my safety a second thought. I have also learned to ask for help when something is heavy and there is always a guy around that is more than happy to help me.

[Dread_Faery]

---k chivalry and ---k the patriarchy.

[monarch]

---k chivalry and ---k the patriarchy.

Yeah, a few years living as a woman has left me with a rather dim view of chivalry.

[RosieD]

I don't know about chivalry, I think you have to be born into the right family about 500 years ago and start training for it when you are about 8 years old. But. Yeah, it's sweet when some chap holds the door open for me. I smile, he smiles and we both have a slightly better day for it.

Rosie

[kira21 ♡♡♡]

---k chivalry and ---k the patriarchy.

I get your point but I think its a bit harsh. We can all be equal and all be nice. I like the way this post put it ...

I do like it when men hold the door for me.

I also hold the door for men when I get the chance.

I mean, doesn't every guy deserve to be treated like a prince every now and then?

[Dread_Faery]

Being polite and chivalry are not the same things. Being polite is well... Being polite. Chivalry is an entitlement to women's bodies based on the idea that treating a woman with respect means that the man in question is owed something.

[Blue Senpai]

I do like it when men hold the door for me.

I also hold the door for men when I get the chance.

I mean, doesn't every guy deserve to be treated like a prince every now and then?

Yes. At least I do.

[awilliams1701]

Keep in mind I'm pre-HRT, but as of now, I feel like it says that women can't do things for themselves. I feel like it demeans our gender. "Look at me I'm helpless and can't open a door without a big strapping man to help me" With that said I hold doors open for people, but I try not to wait for them. If they are right behind me that's about it. I've always believed that women are better than men in many ways and equal in others. So maybe its my feminist attitude talking. My attitude is that you don't need a man to do anything.

[Jessica Merriman]

My attitude is that you don't need a man to do anything.

I do not either, but I thrive on the attention myself. There is no harm in letting them feel good about themselves for helping me out. I find the politeness very sexy and admirable in this day and age. I am very girly femme so maybe this is why I like it.

[awilliams1701]

Actually I kind of like the idea that guys might hit on me eventually even though I'm not interested. Hopefully I will get girls hit on me too.

[V M]

I tend to not look at it as chivalry, but rather as people just being kind, thoughtful, considerate, courteous and respectful of each other

I'll hold the door or try to help in some way regardless of perceived sex and/or gender whenever the opportunity/need arises whenever I am able to do so

Maybe I'm weird, but for me it's about being a decent person towards other people with no other implication involved