Will I ever find true love ?

[TinaVane]

I mean if I don't it's all fine and dandy ... Is it harder for older cis women to find it so I'm sure it's hard for us to find it ? I play this strong can't be beaten role so much when I get dumped for saying what I am ... ( or they just want the experience which I gave up ) ... I'm 39 and I look younger like 22 so dudes that age or younger always want me ... But , uh ok I'm beginning to ramble ... And I'm getting into my feelings ... Stevie here in Alaska keep me calm at times and she tried to set me up with a guy but I think I have a lil bit of pride to not giving in and letting out my emotions ...

[BreezyB]

I wonder this exact same thing. I ask myself the question "Have I just made it 10,000 times more difficult to meet someone". I mean I've never had any problems meeting girls when I was a boy, so should meeting girls now I'm a girl be any harder? I think it will be. My girlfriend broke up with me as soon as I told her I was trans.
Unfortunately I'm not into men, just girls. So that would mean I'm looking for a lesbian right? But lesbian women generally hate men don't they, and would they just see me as another man?
I've decided meeting another trans girl might be better for me, that way we will at least not be after the experience. Oh and I get your point about that, and I never want to be someone's fantasy, it's just not me.
Now I'm rambling. But don't worry Tina, I'm sure we'll meet someone and fall in love.

Bree

[mrs izzy]

I will say.

Yes,maybe,no.

Comes down to what effort that is put into finding what you wish.

We just add a little baggage but that can be worked through with honest communication.

[kelly_aus]

Love found me, when I wasn't even looking for it. She didn't care about my past, she didn't care I was non-op. She loved me for me. Sadly, she passed away in May last year.

Unfortunately I'm not into men, just girls. So that would mean I'm looking for a lesbian right? But lesbian women generally hate men don't they, and would they just see me as another man?
I've decided meeting another trans girl might be better for me, that way we will at least not be after the experience.

Lesbians don't hate men, we just don't want to get in to relationships with them or sleep with them. And as to whether they see you as a man, well, my experience is no, they don't.. At least not in any greater or lesser number than anyone else.

[BreezyB]

Love found me, when I wasn't even looking for it. She didn't care about my past, she didn't care I was non-op. She loved me for me. Sadly, she passed away in May last year.

Lesbians don't hate men, we just don't want to get in to relationships with them or sleep with them. And as to whether they see you as a man, well, my experience is no, they don't.. At least not in any greater or lesser number than anyone else.

I so sorry to hear that Kelly, that must have been difficult, and no doubt still is.

And thankyou, you've restored my faith that a woman will not view me as a man

[Mark3]

Love found me, when I wasn't even looking for it. She didn't care about my past, she didn't care I was non-op. She loved me for me. Sadly, she passed away in May last year.

Lesbians don't hate men, we just don't want to get in to relationships with them or sleep with them. And as to whether they see you as a man, well, my experience is no, they don't.. At least not in any greater or lesser number than anyone else.

Kelly, I'm so sorry for your loss. 
I know lesbians don't hate men.. Just idiot men like everyone else does.!
By far my very closest friends have been lesbians, something about being a straight guy, and being atracted to the same thing(other women) makes us very compatible, and removes all that sexual tension from the relationship.
I'm sorry thats not the kind of true love you're looking for Bree.

[BreezyB]

I'm sorry thats not the kind of true love you're looking for Bree.

But that's the thing Mark, it is exactly what I want. I don't need to meet a cis woman to find true love. I just mean I'm only physically attracted to women, be it a trans woman or cis. Sex use to be important, but since starting my transition it's completely different, in a different level.

It was the humping smily wasn't it 

[Alice Rogers]

I hope you do, I really hope you do. I look around me at the relationships of my family, friends and people I know and I sometimes wonder how many people find it anyway.  I see couples that describe themselves as happy argue over trivia, people who flirt even though they identify as 'taken', people who think it's normal to scream at each other and it saddens me.

I am 38 now and I met my soul mate when I was 31, we met in an online social environment called second life, the place has its faults and its complications but it has a lot of good people looking for love or just looking for acceptance there, in fact Second life helped me begin my transition too as it is easy to gain acceptance as a whatever you wish to identify yourself as there.

I guess what I am saying is if you open yourself to as many different sources as you can hopefully love will find you. I wasn't looking for it when I met my other half but I am SO glad I was in the right place at the right time....

Good luck hun

Alice
xx

[Mark3]

It was the humping smily wasn't it 

Lol, I may have been actually referring to Tina.?
It was really early in the morning, and my brain was still half asleep.
Haha, cute smilies Bree. 

[suzifrommd]

It's been really frustrating for me.

But here's the way I look at it:

I'm bright, sexy, funny, interesting, financially independent, supportive, caring, loving, and good in bed. I have a lot to offer, so there must be a lot of people out there who would want someone like me.

If I could just find them

[Alaena_okc]

im not trying to gather points, so dont erase me - there is a lot helpful post here today - but i have to join in this one - finding love, i know it happens just not for me - i can drag in all of the horn dogs i want, you know the type, one night stands and you never see them again till months later and they call "can we get together, you was so awesome last time", even though not one phone call or text from them in 6 months. so my replay is always the same;

"f#*k off horn dog, and quit cheating on your wife"...

i wish i could laugh at that but it hurts too much...

and it really sucks being lonely, so i just work my arse off to not think about it... maybe we need a thread of successful relationships

[TinaVane]

im not trying to gather points, so dont erase me - there is a lot helpful post here today - but i have to join in this one - finding love, i know it happens just not for me - i can drag in all of the horn dogs i want, you know the type, one night stands and you never see them again till months later and they call "can we get together, you was so awesome last time", even though not one phone call or text from them in 6 months. so my replay is always the same;

"f#*k off horn dog, and quit cheating on your wife"...

i wish i could laugh at that but it hurts too much...

and it really sucks being lonely, so i just work my arse off to not think about it... maybe we need a thread of successful relationships

My life story !!

[BreezyB]

and it really sucks being lonely, so i just work my arse off to not think about it... maybe we need a thread of successful relationships

It really does. But great idea Alaena, I'm sure there are lots of success stories out there

And who needs a dating site when im already talking to all you beautiful girls everyday 

[♥︎ SarahD ♥︎]

...And who needs a dating site when im already talking to all you beautiful girls everyday 

Lol, oh you!  Stop flirting you'll make the rest of us blush! ♥︎*Hugs*♥︎

@OP: aww hunni, I've read about many people around here who are happily in love, so it's not as hard as it perhaps seems.  As Alice pointed out, it's good to spread your net wide by getting involved in a bunch of communities.  Online (forums, reputable dating sites and video games) are all great ways to get connected.  I'm in Second Life myself and it's really easy to make friends there, and there seems to be a general mantra within the community that people love each other for personality rather than physical looks.  If you're a gamer type, it's definitely worth checking out ♥︎

[LadyStaci]

As for Second Life I end up meeting so many people (( careful there some with one thing on their mind https://www.susans.org/forums/Smileys/susans/icon_censored.gif )) Meeting someone with common goals and likes in life is big plus. Sure taking the time to invest any romantic feelings into someone that will hopefully bloom into true love is risky no matter who you are trans or not. There is a big world out there and you never know unless you try. As I am not looking. Friends are welcome! I have learned over the years to be a bit guarded about myself.  Good luck to everyone who is in the search and I wish everyone that they find true Love!    

[Alaena_okc]

im still trying to discover if i should be looking for a genetic female, str8t male, cross dresser or another women such as myself - so far i lean towards another women such as myself, at least we would have something in common - dont get me wrong, cause im not looking at all, its just too disappointing - i get my hopes up then nothing, which makes it hard on my confidence and im so tired of of being disappointed...

i seem to be more happy when im not looking, so i just figure if it happens then great and what a glorious day it would be to feel love again - the last love was a genetic female when i first came out - she was kewl with me being transgendered, but when i showed her by shaving my legs and put on a pair of panties it hit her hard with reality and her commit was, im so sorry but i need a mans man and left me...

thats when i did something really stupid and went on drinking benge at a gay bar in fresno and got raped and brutally tortured - thats when i hit the bottom hard, if it wasnt for my family i dont know what i would of done or where i would be at this point...

so now a days i just say to hell with it and pray that i wont be alone for ever, till then im happy with the way it is...

the being raped thing is a thread i really need to start, dangers of dating wackoos at a bar...

[BreezyB]

I am so sorry Alaena, no one ever ever ever should have that happen to them. I hope you are as ok as one could be following such a horrific ordeal. I'm actually nearly speechless as it just makes me sick to think that could happen to anyone. I want to give you a big hug 

Yes I think a thread would benefit everyone.

Don't worry Alaena, I think love finds us when we least expect it. Look, and we don't find, don't look, and it finds us. It's a strange phenomenon but it's always been the way I've met people.

[kelly_aus]

Don't worry Alaena, I think love finds us when we least expect it. Look, and we don't find, don't look, and it finds us. It's a strange phenomenon but it's always been the way I've met people.

I was not looking to the point my last partner had to almost beat me around the head before I noticed she was there..

[BreezyB]

I was not looking to the point my last partner had to almost beat me around the head before I noticed she was there..

Lol, yep that's the way I find it works best. You were clearly a keeper though Kelly, she made you notice her 

[Allyda]

To answer the OP's question, for me, nope. I've given up. I'm so tired of giving my heart out just to get it smashed to pieces. I also doubt in this day and age if there even is such a thing as "true love."

Ally