Quote from: amber roskamp on January 13, 2015, 06:04:51 AM
how do you feel about sapiosexuality being included? For those of you who don't know it is attraction to intelligence. I don't really see it as a legt sexuality, bc seriously who doesn't want there partner to be intelligent. And also anyone who puts it down is showing extreme ignorance by saying "i know who is intelligent, and who isn't." which is kinda stupid because we literally don't have a legitimate way to measure intelligence. Also from what I have seen people who put that down sometimes get really attractive dates and im thinking so your only attracted to her intelligence ha?
Well... ok... but I'm a self identified Sapiosexual and really your comment merely shows that you you don't understand the identity. I know you didn't mean this as any sort of attack, so don't worry no offense taken, but just for future reference actually on a bad day I might find this comment slightly upseting, because at 30 years postop I'm FAR more far sapiosexual than I'm ever trans.
The point is its a kind of variant on Bi/pansexuality where one is declaring that the main thing we are after is NOT "hot sex" but true and deep mental connection. So in effect we don't care what your equipment is - and indeed there is absolutely no guarrantee that we will ever get physical at all - what we are looking for is connection, fidelity, and tenderness etc before any considerations of sex. So its kind of saying "I'm bi/pan, not particularly highly sexed, postrgraduate educated, and only interested if you want to spend a lot more time dicussing quantum physics, medicine, philosophy and proust that you do having sex."
To me its as valid as any other identity, and I think we should all take care before we dismiss something just because we don't get it. That, after all, is largely what the cis world tries to do to the trans identity.
