would you admit to being transif asked by a random person

[April_TO]

Whats between my legs is my own business. Do you normally ask someone "oh you do you have this or that?" Mainstream or not, admitting your condition to someone you randomly meet is reckless and should be met with caution.

[Zoetrope]

*But*, it will happen. We will be approached, and we need to be prepared for that. Especially now that transsexualism is hitting the mainstream.

How should we respond? Not with anger or offense. With grace. We need to give what we hope to receive. It goes both ways ...

[iKate]

Well, I see it being more of a medical issue than anything. That's why I feel that no one has the right to know if they ask me. I'm not going to blab about my other medical issues to people. So, why would I feel the need to talk about this one?

Exactly. I am not open about my other issues either, even though they were painfully obvious. I do tell some people I'm diabetic but I don't go shouting it.

[iKate]

*But*, it will happen. We will be approached, and we need to be prepared for that. Especially now that transsexualism is hitting the mainstream.

How should we respond? Not with anger or offense. With grace. We need to give what we hope to receive. It goes both ways ...

"I would rather not answer that question. Thank you."

I DO NOT know someone's intention.

And honestly I've never been asked if I'm trans by random strangers, even those who for sure read me.

[iKate]

Whats between my legs is my own business. Do you normally ask someone "oh you do you have this or that?" Mainstream or not, admitting your condition to someone you randomly meet is reckless and should be met with caution.

^^this

Do people ask random strangers if they are gay? If they are into BDSM? Who they slept with last night? Of course not.

"Are you trans?" Translated means,"I think I clocked you but I wanted to be sure."

[Devlyn]

Absolutely. I don't look at it as "admitting" anything. I'm loving Sarah Boo's approach in this thread!

Hugs, Devlyn

[Devlyn]

Not sure how sexual organs found their way into the conversation? 

Hugs, Devlyn

[FrancisAnn]

Sometimes when I shop at my local Goodwill store if dressed kinda male the clerks kinda look at me funny. It's not a very busy place so I tell them everything, on hormones.........plan surgery.......Then they are very nice to me like any woman shopper. I've even had some try to hook me up with men if interested. I look very nice & prettier than most all of the women there anyway to be honest. So why not tell some one if asked, what's the big deal about it. Be proud of your self, GF's.

[stephaniec]

safety would be a big issue for me. I rarely think about it because I live in a college community so I rarely have any fears .

[DanielleA]

I have only been asked about my gender status once (by a ramdom person) and I was honest then so I guess that I would be open and honest about me being trans as long as there is no forseeable bad repercussions. Beeing trans is not bad but it sucks when people treat you differently because of it and then spread the word around.

[April_TO]

Not sure how sexual organs found their way into the conversation? 
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Hi Devlyn, the concept of transgender has been mainly associated by cis normative people as someone who is different from their gender assigned at birth. I don't want to state the obvious but medical doctors normally determines your gender by the sex organ you have when you we're born. Hence the question of sexual organ can and possibly be asked to confirm if you're Trans or not. Otherwise, if sexual organ isn't part of the conversation/equation then what does it mean to be transgender.

If some people find that it empowers them to share their truth to random strangers, more power to them. I on the other hand regardless of the great strides our community has been getting recently would still be reluctant to do this just because it doesn't change the fact that a Trans person dies every 3 days around the world.




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[RebeckaJensen]

Whats between my legs is my own business. Do you normally ask someone "oh you do you have this or that?" Mainstream or not, admitting your condition to someone you randomly meet is reckless and should be met with caution.

This ^^^ is very much how I feel. Even tho I'm proud of who I am and believe that visibility and challenging the norms is a way of making change I would not consider some stranger asking about my privates a very polite person + whoever they are they might be transphobic and want to hurt you. I would tell someone I've talked a lot with and if it felt good to do so, but otherwise no. I want to choose myself how and when I tell people and not just to satisfy someones curiosity. Im not an object at a museum, and I don't live to excite/answer private questions for strangers I don't care for.

But for those who are super open: you are brave and I admire you. I hope that one day I can feel the same too. But right now: no.

[stephaniec]

Not sure how sexual organs found their way into the conversation? 

Hugs, Devlyn

I agree, where did that come from?

[April_TO]

I agree, where did that come from?

Are you trans is the sanitized way of asking do you have a different sex organ other than you're gender expression.


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[Devlyn]

What I meant, and what Stephanie seems to be confirming, is that the question asked if you would respond to being asked if you were transgender, not have you had surgery?

Hugs, Devlyn

[Zoetrope]

What I meant, and what Stephanie seems to be confirming, is that the question asked if you would respond to being asked if you were transgender, not have you had surgery?

Precisely. Whether or not we take that question as a personal comment about our bits, or as any other kind of affront, is up to us.

[stephaniec]

yes, trans is a wider term than if I still have that blob.

[stephaniec]

I'm guessing that someone might ask me if I'm trans just because of how I look in my avatar

[April_TO]

I value my life and my family. If you are willing to share your gender status to random people you meet more power to you. This is my last post. Thanks it's been an interesting thread.


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[Devlyn]

So I'll go all passive aggressive and ask if that means those of us who are open don't value our lives or families?

Bzzzzzz. Wrong answer.

Hugs, Devlyn