Deborah,
I sooo appreciate your comments about self criticism. We transgender women are sometimes over the top because of self doubt. My experience is fake it till you make it. I certainly spent my time in front of a mirror saying to myself I look like a fifty nine year old man with crappy hair, square jaw and no lips with a very masculine voice. OK OK I am a piece of work but, with that I am starting to get ma'am all the time because it takes more than being just pretty and its the whole person on stage. Ignoring the BS and being the female you know you are goes a long way. I personally can't go stealth because everybody knows me so who am I kidding. I am learning to take risks and experiment with my femaleness. Some of my CIS female friends get misgender because of low pitched voice so I am learning to leave my ego at the door.
❤️❤️Michelle