Quote from: Gorgy_Love on October 01, 2017, 03:34:52 AM
Hi Roll! I frequent these forums quite often (MtF 20 yr old here) and oddly enough this post inspired me to make an account so I hope my advice can help a bit. So firstly idk if it was mentioned here but how old are you if you're comfortable revealing that?
So my advice is you should look into clothing styles and find inspiration you don't have to force your style into a category but frequent instagram tumblr youtube blogs etc. take quizes and find what style you relate to. Are you more into bohemian, grunge, hipster, casual/comfy and then you can start to try out different styles and mix and match. Who says you can't wear ripped black jeans with a floral top? (That might look like a hot mess though but fashion is what makes you feel good) Also I know it can be hard at first I ran into the problem where I would look for fashion inspiration and compare myself to cis women but if you run into that it Will get easier.
Sizing. So it's good to read up on male to female conversion (mind you places will differ) but as a general starter point for tops and shirts you have to gauge how the clothing looks and go a size or two up meaning in men's shirts if you wear a small and you see a womans top go for a medium if it looks small in person or pictures don't hesitate to go to a large or xl. A lot of the time I have to wear women's XL tops simply because my shoulders. Jeans don't go by the actual waist size it's about a 20 difference starting from 29,30. By that I mean ok I used to work at this store called Plato's Closet you should look into it if theres one nearby super super cheap used clothes but a lot of hidden gems. Generally a womens 0-24 1/2-25/26 3/4-27 5/6-28 7/8-29 9/10-30/31 and those are all give or take depending on brands which you'll become familiar with over time. In general Forever 21 clothes run small I believe american eagle runs smaller than hollister abercrombie runs small too. Some pretty good brand name places I've found gap and old navy to be pretty good with sizes and ofc shopping at certain places have more of a certain style. Aeropostale tends to be for younger teens then there's pacsun which is more west coast style. In my opinion and from my girl friends target tends to be more trendy than wal-mart but wal-mart I believe is cheaper. As far as shoes go typically theres about a 2 size difference between mens shoes. I.E. a men's 5 womens 7 and so on so if you're like me men's 11 well you do the math :p. Though if you really experiment you can find some exceptions in the majority of female shoes I would have to go size 12/13 but in quite a few shoes I've tried on in target I can fit into a size 11 women's so target really has been a godsend. You also might run into the problem with women's jeans of your feet not being able to fit through the jean/jegging whole sadly with that you either have to look for a different cut at the bottom or just look for a stretchier pair or do the wiggle dance to force yourself in.
Sorry for the looong post but if you wanna talk or have any questions that I could maybe help with feel free to ask!
First off, I have to say it is a genuinely heart warming feeling that you made an account to respond to me.
I'm currently 35, so sort of in what sometimes feels to be an awkward middle of the age range since it seems that the majority tend to be transitioning on the ends of the age spectrum.
I've been slowly figuring my style just looking through online stores and paying attention more closely to what I see people wearing. I definitely like the look of the sort of "cute casual". Unfortunately, pulling it off is another matter, and I'll probably have to wait until weight loss and HRT effects to be able to. So far I think what I pull off the best is what seems to be a weird combination but doesn't look too bad, in wearing that wrap around style dress I linked (and can see me in in one of the pictures) with jeggings underneath, since the dress is short enough on me it can somewhat double as a tunic type top. The complete look had a bit of a bohemian thing going, I really felt like I should be wearing oversized sunglasses with it. (Though this being my best so far is partly because that dress does an amazing job hiding shoulders/upper arm I'm sure, so I picked up some real shirts with a similar shoulder cut to try.)
I've stuck to walmart online so far just since I've got a handle on their sizing. Also, the prices. I need to get the rest of my weight off so I can start buying long term clothes badly, Even at walmart prices my wardrobe bill is starting to stack up and I'm not sure how viable some of it will even be long term. Since my original posting of this thread my desire to buy clothes has become a runaway train. I never had this problem buying mens clothes.
I think I'm currently at about a 9 1/2 mens shoe (the "currently" because my foot has shrunk since losing weight
), so also just ordered some cheap (literally 10$) size 11s off of walmart as well. I can actually squeeze into my sister's 9 1/2 womens somehow (probably wouldn't be able to last a day in them though), so I figure trying the 11s from walmart will probably be a good starting point.
So far I think my thighs are the bigger issue for pants than feet, which doesn't bother me too much since that is actually a pretty typical issue even for cis-women and jeans/tight pants. My lower leg including feet/ankles is oddly (wonderfully?) slender, but my thighs just take all the extra fat they can get even as the rest of my thins out. One thing I bought for example (*embarassed mumbling*bodyshaper*cough*) I can fit just fine except for actually getting it around the thigh, and a pair of jeans I tried in the semi-distant past it was the same thing. Feet and ankles went through the hole fine, it was the rest that was the problem.
