Bari Jo's Corner

[Allison S]

Aw how cute Bari Jo [emoji7] I love the safety Helmut with you're name on it!! Really cool

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[MaryT]

I also like your Helmut although I hoped he would be taller.

[Bari Jo]

Apparently I am getting more brazen with my transition.  I got a call from my trade union, apparently I'm delinquent in dues.  I squared them over the phone, then asked if they could send me a new card with Bari Jo on it.  I did this on the phone within earshot of all my coworkers.  Eef!  Well, I'm not exactly hiding anything:)

Bari Jo

[Northern Star Girl]

Apparently I am getting more brazen with my transition.  I got a call from my trade union, apparently I'm delinquent in dues.  I squared them over the phone, then asked if they could send me a new card with Bari Jo on it.  I did this on the phone within earshot of all my coworkers.  Eef!  Well, I'm not exactly hiding anything:)

Bari Jo

@Bari Jo
Way to go....
...as time goes on self-confidence and self-assurance become your mode of operation!!!!
Thanks for posting your good report.
Hugs,
Danielle

[Roll]

Apparently I am getting more brazen with my transition.  I got a call from my trade union, apparently I'm delinquent in dues.  I squared them over the phone, then asked if they could send me a new card with Bari Jo on it.  I did this on the phone within earshot of all my coworkers.  Eef!  Well, I'm not exactly hiding anything:)

Bari Jo

Nice!

Progress on names I think is probably the biggest indicator of progress in self recognition there is. I've been really feeling it lately having to use male name for anything (lot of legal paperwork) personally and a few times I found myself accidentally deadnaming myself when put on the spot with food orders (always seems to be food orders) and feeling like crap about it after.

[sarah1972]

I am so happy to read your last few posts. I remember you being very nervous about work and coming out. Seeing you getting a new helmet and other "girly" gifts show how much people are accepting you. I like the helmet a lot, it looks very girly!

Yeah!!!

Congratulations!!

Hugs,

Sarah

[JudiBlueEyes]

Great news Bari Jo!  One more step forward.

Ellie, you wrote "I found myself accidentally deadnaming myself when put on the spot..."   This will eventually end as you become more comfortable and your past fades in the rear view mirror. 

Judi

[LizK]

Apparently I am getting more brazen with my transition.  I got a call from my trade union, apparently I'm delinquent in dues.  I squared them over the phone, then asked if they could send me a new card with Bari Jo on it.  I did this on the phone within earshot of all my coworkers.  Eef!  Well, I'm not exactly hiding anything:)

Bari Jo

Good on you Bari Jo great to see that confidence. Each small step is one step closer....

Take care

Liz

[Bari Jo]

As promised, I wanted to show pictures with my colored hair.  You can see how short it is still.  I can't wait for it to grow out, it's sooo slow. These pictures are all gendering wrong, grr, but at least I do look a bit more femme.  My stylist did this for me free even.  She told me she wanted me to have a perfect birthday weekend and pride weekend.  This made me cry happy tears immediately and we had to check my makeup again with giggles.  Without further ado, here I am.





Bari Jo

[Sonja]

@Bari Jo
Looking great - I am a huge fan of pink hair!! I love it!
Also that last photo is really, really nice, all 3 of you smiling and looking so happy!

Sonja.

[Northern Star Girl]

As promised, I wanted to show pictures with my colored hair.  You can see how short it is still.  I can't wait for it to grow out, it's sooo slow. These pictures are all gendering wrong, grr, but at least I do look a bit more femme.  My stylist did this for me free even.  She told me she wanted me to have a perfect birthday weekend and pride weekend.  This made me cry happy tears immediately and we had to check my makeup again with giggles.  Without further ado, here I am.





Bari Jo

@Bari Jo    
Wowzers.... I remember you telling us that you were going to color your hair, but my goodness, your stylist did an amazing job, the pastel pink is a very nice choice and not over-the-top....  and the style itself, although short, is very feminine...  the sides and the back are indeed a very feminine style ....  you should have no complaint about not looking femme ....  in my opinion you look absolutely wonderful, happy and very femme in your pictures... the job that she did with your makeup looks great.... and your eyebrows are shaped nicely too.

As your hair continues to grow out your stylist can do even more wonderful things with the different styles that you may like.
Please, keep updating all of us....  we are your biggest fans!!!

Hugs and well wishes as you continue your exciting journey.
Danielle

[LizK]

As promised, I wanted to show pictures with my colored hair.  You can see how short it is still.  I can't wait for it to grow out, it's sooo slow. These pictures are all gendering wrong, grr, but at least I do look a bit more femme.  My stylist did this for me free even.  She told me she wanted me to have a perfect birthday weekend and pride weekend.  This made me cry happy tears immediately and we had to check my makeup again with giggles.  Without further ado, here I am.



Bari Jo

Love the hair...looks great....

[Bari Jo]

Thanks everybody, so far the reception has been good.  I'm still on the fence.  When more hair has grown in, the effect will be better. Now off to work and surprise the coworkers.  Did I mention it's my B-day too?  What a day to come with pinkish hair!

Bari Jo

[Faith]

HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!

I love the hair, it really suits you.  I have enjoyed following your thread and watching you progress. Keep smiling

[Sonja]

Thanks everybody, so far the reception has been good.  I'm still on the fence.  When more hair has grown in, the effect will be better. Now off to work and surprise the coworkers.  Did I mention it's my B-day too?  What a day to come with pinkish hair!

Bari Jo

HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!   

Have a great day!

Sonja

[LizK]

Thanks everybody, so far the reception has been good.  I'm still on the fence.  When more hair has grown in, the effect will be better. Now off to work and surprise the coworkers.  Did I mention it's my B-day too?  What a day to come with pinkish hair!

Bari Jo

Happy Birthday Bari Jo what better day to go with pink than your birthday...

Hope you have a great day


Liz

[Roll]

Thanks everybody, so far the reception has been good.  I'm still on the fence.  When more hair has grown in, the effect will be better. Now off to work and surprise the coworkers.  Did I mention it's my B-day too?  What a day to come with pinkish hair!

Bari Jo

NOOOOOOOOOO, I MISSED WISHING YOU HAPPY BIRTHDAY ON TIME?! ....... well, better late than never I suppose, so...

HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO A GORGEOUS, AMAZING, PINK-HAIRED GIRL!

[Bari Jo]

Thanks everybody for the nice birthday wishes.  Its always appreciated and never late.  I love that this year people do refer to me as Bari Jo.  I'm hoping by next year everybody will and I'll look the part to boot.

Inbetween phases suck, but they are better than not doing anything.  Anybody remember their misery when just having dysphoria with no end in sight?  It seems distant now even though I'm probably only about halfway down my journey.  For those fighting the urge to transition, I say stop fighting.  I'm so much happier than I was before.  I wish i could go back in time to tell myself it's okay to be what I am and to transition earlier.  Really the fear is gone, well nearly gone:)

Bari Jo

[Bari Jo]

In October, I am attending a function at a private club.  I've been to this club a few times and have always been in a suit.  There is a dress code, must be formal or cocktail dresses, no denim.  I want to be considered femme to the point that people won't question at least that I'm trans.  I know I will be clocked, but want to have a good time too.  Oh, I'm attending with two old friends and their wives from high school.  They have not seen me dress, so nervous on that front too.  Ideas?

Bari Jo

[KathyLauren]

In October, I am attending a function at a private club.  I've been to this club a few times and have always been in a suit.  There is a dress code, must be formal or cocktail dresses, no denim.  I want to be considered femme to the point that people won't question at least that I'm trans.  I know I will be clocked, but want to have a good time too.  Oh, I'm attending with two old friends and their wives from high school.  They have not seen me dress, so nervous on that front too.  Ideas?

Bari Jo

Why not go "all the way" with a cocktail dress?  Or a skirt suit, or a clearly femme pant suit.  And a bit of bling.  Have fun with it!