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Started by Bari Jo, January 16, 2018, 10:04:51 AM

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KathyLauren

Bari Jo, congratulations!  Coming out at work is a big step towards being your authentic self everywhere.  I am glad that you have support from the brass and from your coworkers.

The cookies look good, if a bit suggestive.  Let me guess, you bite the dangly bits off first?  >:-)
2015-07-04 Awakening; 2015-11-15 Out to self; 2016-06-22 Out to wife; 2016-10-27 First time presenting in public; 2017-01-20 Started HRT!!; 2017-04-20 Out publicly; 2017-07-10 Legal name change; 2019-02-15 Approval for GRS; 2019-08-02 Official gender change; 2020-03-11 GRS; 2020-09-17 New birth certificate
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Jessica

Congratulations Bari Jo 🦄🦄🦄
I am so very happy for you!

"If you go out looking for friends, you are going to find they are very scarce.  If you go out to be a friend, you'll find them everywhere."


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steph2.0

Bari Jo, that is so fantastically awesome! I hate to say I told you so, but... no, actually, I love saying that, especially when my predictions come true. What you've done is such a huge step, but you found the courage and did it, with wonderful results. Congratulations, and if I can borrow the phrase from @Kendra, welcome to your new life!


Stephanie


Assigned male at birth 1958 * Began envying sister 1963 * Knew unquestioningly that I was female 1968 * Acted the male part for 50 years * Meltdown and first therapist session May 2017 * Began HRT 6/21/17 * Out to the world 10/13/17 * Name Change 12/7/2017 (Girl Harbor Day) * FFS With FacialTeam 12/4/2018 * Facelift and Lipo Body Sculpting at Ocean Clinic 6/13-14/2019 * GCS with Marci Bowers 9/25/2019
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Another Nikki

congratulations bari jo!  sounds like things went very well.
"What you know, you can't explain, but you feel it. You've felt it your entire life—that there is something wrong. You don't know what it is, but it's there like a splinter in your mind, driving you mad. It is this feeling that has brought you to me."
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Roll

!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! THIS IS AMAZING NEWS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! LOVE YOU GIRL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
~ Ellie
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I ALWAYS WELCOME PMs!
(I made the s lowercase so it didn't look as much like PMS... ;D)

An Open Letter to anyone suffering from anxiety, particularly those afraid to make your first post or continue posting!

8/30/17 - First Therapy! The road begins in earnest.
10/20/17 - First coming out (to my father)!
12/16/17 - BEGAN HRT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
5/21/18 - FIRST DAY OUT AS ME!!!!!!!!!
6/08/18 - 2,250 Hair Grafts
6/23/18 - FIRST PRIDE!
8/06/18 - 100%, completely out!
9/08/18 - I'M IN LOVE!!!!
2/27/19 - Name Change!

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JudiBlueEyes

Wow Bari Jo!  Your email message was great, brief and to the point.  I'm happy for you that it the event went over well.  I knew it would!
Judi
But now old friends they're acting strange
They shake their heads, they say I've changed
Well something's lost, but something's gained
In living every day.
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Bari Jo

I had a longer message but the company didn't want anything too personal in it, nor any of my treatment regamin.  I trimmed it to that.

Another update, this is from going to The Magic Castle last night. The staff pretty much are trained that trans people may attend.  I was gendered correctly the whole night except by the valet as we picked up my car.  I was wearing black satin and leather tuxedo pants, a Chinese formal ladies jacket and black suede boots with star rhinestones.  This goes along with pink hair, etc.  This time last year I also went to the same venue as my old self.  I was so miserable back then and happy today.  Oh I had to use the ladies room a few times and all the ladies were kind, no push back against the trans girl.  I got lots of looks mainly from ladies.  They were envy I think, either for the hair or the jacket.

All in all my confidence has increased.

Bari Jo
you know how far the universe extends outward? i think i go inside just as deep.

10/11/18 - out to the whole world.  100% friends and family support.
11/6/17 - came out to sister, best day of my life
9/5/17 - formal diagnosis and stopping DIY in favor if prescribed HRT
6/18/17 - decided to stop fighting the trans beast, back on DIY.
Too many ups and downs, DIY, purges of self inbetween dates.
Age 10 - suppression and denial began
Age 8 - knew I was different
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Stevi

Bari Jo,

Congratulations!  I am ecstatic for you.  Great coming out at work and a great going out to your social event

Stevi
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zirconia

Hearing that makes me happy...
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JudiBlueEyes

Oh I know you looked great!  I looked up The Magic Castle, that sounds like it was a fun night out!!
Judi
But now old friends they're acting strange
They shake their heads, they say I've changed
Well something's lost, but something's gained
In living every day.
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davina61

Just caught up (I know slapped wrists) GO GIRL GO ( line of cheer leaders and flag waving)
a long time coming (out) HRT 12 2017
GRS 2021 5th Nov

Jill of all trades mistress of non
Know a bit about everything but not enough to be clever
  • skype:davina61?call
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Rachel

Congratulations on coming out. I know how exhausting that is so make sure you treat yourself.

Hair, it has taken me a long time to grow my hair in, and I had two hair follicle transplants. I wish I had known the benefit of hydrolyzed collagen when I started. I buy a 5 pound box on Amazon ( I am on my second box)  for $64.00 and take 20 grams a day (2 scoops). I get my blood tested and I am on the low limit for protein ( I as always well below the low limit) so I will increase that to 20 grams twice a day. I was always so low in my protein level and had issues with iron too, my entire life ( all corrected now). My hair grows quickly too now as well as having nice nails and beautiful skin (when I go to Papillion for electrolysis the PA-c always comments on how good my skin is when she is injecting the numbing medicine).

Congratulations on coming out and expressing. You are doing the hard work now but it will pay dividends later.
HRT  5-28-2013
FT   11-13-2015
FFS   9-16-2016 -Spiegel
GCS 11-15-2016 - McGinn
Hair Grafts 3-20-2017 - Cooley
Voice therapy start 3-2017 - Reene Blaker
Labiaplasty 5-15-2017 - McGinn
BA 7-12-2017 - McGinn
Hair grafts 9-25-2017 Dr.Cooley
Sataloff Cricothyroid subluxation and trachea shave12-11-2017
Dr. McGinn labiaplasty, hood repair, scar removal, graph repair and bottom of  vagina finished. urethra repositioned. 4-4-2018
Dr. Sataloff Glottoplasty 5-14-2018
Dr. McGinn vaginal in office procedure 10-22-2018
Dr. McGinn vaginal revision 2 4-3-2019 Bottom of vagina closed off, fat injected into the labia and urethra repositioned.
Dr. Thomas in 2020 FEMLAR
  • skype:Rachel?call
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Bari Jo

Hello everybody.  I've been riding high on many trans experiences.  Everyone at work is using my name and trying hard with the pronouns.  My boss gave me a Minnie Mouse macaroon pillow in case I needed a hug.  I use only the ladies rooms here now too.

On Facebook my name and gender has been changed as well.  I did it without any announcement.  I just posted the pict from here as my profile pict.  I've had nothing but support.  I know some people check their friend counts before and after, I didn't bother.  If anybody unfriended me, i don't want to know.  Even my high school friends and girlfriends are supporting me.

All this was done after the family reunion in TX.  My mom said that was the last time I had to present male.  Well, since then my family in TX is all using my new name and showing support. I really do have a unicorn family and friends. Who would have guessed that growing up in AZ and TX.

Today I'm going to the courthouse to submit my name and gender change paperwork.  A good time all around for me.

Bari Jo
you know how far the universe extends outward? i think i go inside just as deep.

10/11/18 - out to the whole world.  100% friends and family support.
11/6/17 - came out to sister, best day of my life
9/5/17 - formal diagnosis and stopping DIY in favor if prescribed HRT
6/18/17 - decided to stop fighting the trans beast, back on DIY.
Too many ups and downs, DIY, purges of self inbetween dates.
Age 10 - suppression and denial began
Age 8 - knew I was different
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Megan.

Great news and lots to celebrate! [emoji4]. Super happy for you that's is gone well. X

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LizK

Quote from: Bari Jo on October 19, 2018, 10:22:07 AM
Hello everybody.  I've been riding high on many trans experiences.  Everyone at work is using my name and trying hard with the pronouns.  My boss gave me a Minnie Mouse macaroon pillow in case I needed a hug.  I use only the ladies rooms here now too.

On Facebook my name and gender has been changed as well.  I did it without any announcement.  I just posted the pict from here as my profile pict.  I've had nothing but support.  I know some people check their friend counts before and after, I didn't bother.  If anybody unfriended me, i don't want to know.  Even my high school friends and girlfriends are supporting me.

All this was done after the family reunion in TX.  My mom said that was the last time I had to present male.  Well, since then my family in TX is all using my new name and showing support. I really do have a unicorn family and friends. Who would have guessed that growing up in AZ and TX.

Today I'm going to the courthouse to submit my name and gender change paperwork.  A good time all around for me.

Bari Jo

Things sounds like they are really going well for you. This year has had some tough moments for you but you have hung in there. Its great when those around you show the kind of support you seem to be getting. Lovely to see you sounding so positive...congrats  :)

Take care

Liz
Transition Begun 25 September 2015
HRT since 17 May 2016,
Fulltime from 8 March 2017,
GCS 4 December 2018
Voice Surgery 01 February 2019
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Bari Jo

Quote from: LizK on October 20, 2018, 01:15:36 AM
Things sounds like they are really going well for you. This year has had some tough moments for you but you have hung in there. Its great when those around you show the kind of support you seem to be getting. Lovely to see you sounding so positive...congrats  :)

Take care

Liz

You are correct this year I've been damn near suicidal, but yes, I've stuck it out.  Transitioning really has helped my Outlook.  Even losing my dog, I think being on hrt have me more empathy and emotional depth for my best friend.  So finally I'm in a good place. I remember new years last year and crying in bed because I had to suppress Bari Jo to my family.  Oh what a year makes.

Bari Jo
you know how far the universe extends outward? i think i go inside just as deep.

10/11/18 - out to the whole world.  100% friends and family support.
11/6/17 - came out to sister, best day of my life
9/5/17 - formal diagnosis and stopping DIY in favor if prescribed HRT
6/18/17 - decided to stop fighting the trans beast, back on DIY.
Too many ups and downs, DIY, purges of self inbetween dates.
Age 10 - suppression and denial began
Age 8 - knew I was different
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Bari Jo

The more I thought about the before and after thread, the more I think I should post picts in here to document my progress.

The picts on top are a few years old.  While the bottom picts are 10 months on hrt and just over a year on hrt.  I'm only posting good picts of both.  I have tons of bad male picts that may show a more dramatic change, but I also have a ton of bad Bari Jo picts too, so best of both.




I am hoping another year will steadily improve my outside appearance.  I remember posting picts in the face app passing thread when I first started and I was told there isn't too much difference just softer.  Well, I'm getting tho not much difference just softer results with hrt.  I wish it was more, but I'm not disappointed either.

Bari Jo
you know how far the universe extends outward? i think i go inside just as deep.

10/11/18 - out to the whole world.  100% friends and family support.
11/6/17 - came out to sister, best day of my life
9/5/17 - formal diagnosis and stopping DIY in favor if prescribed HRT
6/18/17 - decided to stop fighting the trans beast, back on DIY.
Too many ups and downs, DIY, purges of self inbetween dates.
Age 10 - suppression and denial began
Age 8 - knew I was different
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LizK

I can see some real differences but the ones that stand out the most for me, are your smile and your eyes...Your smile seems bigger somehow and it extends all the way to your eyes. The last one is very different from the first.

Take care

Liz
Transition Begun 25 September 2015
HRT since 17 May 2016,
Fulltime from 8 March 2017,
GCS 4 December 2018
Voice Surgery 01 February 2019
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MaryT

I'm so glad that things are going well for you.
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Bari Jo

This weekend I dressed as Harley Quinn for Halloween. She is exactly the type of beauty, power and spunk I wish I had, but I do feel sometime inside.  Obviously I do not look like Margot Robbie from Suicide Squad, but who can live up to that.   I think I'll continue with this costume throughout my transition, just to see how things are progressing.  This picture was just before dinner, yes I went out like that.  Then I came back and tripled the makeup and added a lot of glitter too.  I got compliments all night on the makeup, and I beat a couple people with the bat!



Bari Jo
you know how far the universe extends outward? i think i go inside just as deep.

10/11/18 - out to the whole world.  100% friends and family support.
11/6/17 - came out to sister, best day of my life
9/5/17 - formal diagnosis and stopping DIY in favor if prescribed HRT
6/18/17 - decided to stop fighting the trans beast, back on DIY.
Too many ups and downs, DIY, purges of self inbetween dates.
Age 10 - suppression and denial began
Age 8 - knew I was different
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