I'm just curious how many of you would have rather been born CIS.

[Tatiana 79]

I just felt compelled to know what the consensus on this out here.
I personally was left extremely messed up by this.  I no longer could work at age 45 do to horrific insomnia that would last for weeks sometimes with zero sleep. Plus it also ripped out things like hope, hunger, enjoyment, lost all hobbies and interests and of course sleep.
Things are getting much better now for me since I figured out the root cause that has been naughing away at me my entire life till recently.
I know it's completely irrelevant now the future moves forward and I now have hope but I still would put myself in the being born CIS camp.
or would you prefer the Fantastic journey of transition
where would you put yourself?

[Charlie Nicki]

Not even a question for me. If I could choose I would be a cis straight female. Why would I wish this crappy journey upon myself?

[Tatiana 79]

Sorry I failed to mention being CIS male  and then transitioning.
Of course I'm sure we would all prefer CIS  female.
it was my error sorry

[Jen61]

It's hard to answer for me. Too many variables such as kids and spouse. Their happiness and existence..... I think I would choose to be a "nornal" male. That would keep everything the same but without self destruction by me that hurt everyone.

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[Devlyn]

I think you'll get nearly 100% agreement...in this subforum. In Transgender Talk the numbers would shift. I love being transgender, it's opened up a second life for me.

Hugs, Devlyn

[Tatiana 79]

Hello Jen,
I think that's an extremely honorable answer by putting your own needs on the back Shelf and sacrificing that for your family. hats off to you my friend.
as mr. Spock said the needs of the many outweigh the needs of the few or the one

[Tatiana 79]

Thanks Devlyn,
I will definitely take inspiration from your words and hopefully change my camp in the future but it's a ways off as this is just day two of HRT for me.
But thank you so much for your opinion sweetheart

[ainsley]

If I had no ties to this life existence, I would much prefer to be born cis female.  Having my best friend be my wife for the last 27 years, and having awesome children with her, and knowing that those two things would only happen in this life existence, then it is clear that I would rather be amab and transition to female.  They are worth all of the problems gender identity gave me.

[Tatiana 79]

 Thank you so much Ainsley for your valued opinion.
I noticed you're from Flint Michigan believe it or not the modular house I'm living in now came here from Dort Highway in Flint but was moved way up to da UP eh.
love you dogs we're dog people to we've got three sled dogs that we have a lot of fun with in our Long Cold Winters up here in the snow belt of gitche gumee
Take care of my fellow michigander love Tatiana

[MissyMay2.0]

I'm happy as I am.

[ainsley]

Thank you so much Ainsley for your valued opinion.
I noticed you're from Flint Michigan believe it or not the modular house I'm living in now came here from Dort Highway in Flint but was moved way up to da UP eh.
love you dogs we're dog people to we've got three sled dogs that we have a lot of fun with in our Long Cold Winters up here in the snow belt of gitche gumee
Take care of my fellow michigander love Tatiana

Oh, nice, another Michigander.  Are you a Flintoid, too?  I am a product of the now defunct Flint Central High School.    I am in Missouri now.  We have long cold winters, just no real snow to speak of.  I do miss it....I miss snowmobiling.

[Tatiana 79]

 First to Missy,
I thank you very much for your opinion dear.
I'm certainly not there yet on day 2 of HRT but know that I take inspiration and where you're at and hope to be there also in the future.

And to Ainsley,
no I'm not from Flint but I lived pretty close here's a quick story grew up in Dearborn hated the city move to Novi
Then it built up move farther out to South Lyon then it also built up finally moved way out to the Stockbridge area in the farmland but it still wasn't enough and ended up where I'm at.  I also used to snowmobile extensively here due to the 200 to 300 inches of snow  we average due to the lake effect off of superior. But due to a fatal snowmobile accident I was involved in where another sled crested the hill I was approaching went airborne and landed on me I was only going 20 miles an hour hugging the right Bank in the middle of the day but these boys were going way too fast and we're from Chicago and did not have the experience or knowledge of the trail that is needed here due to the extreme rock Bluff  Terrain. So then I bought a big powder sled and stayed off the trails and just stayed in the big powder but even that was affected by the trauma of the death inflicted on my hood. It pretty much took the wind out of my sails for any snowmobiling it's very fun but it's not worth dying for and most people out here probably don't realize there are no speed limits on the trails up here at all it's like the Autobahn but super narrow and twisty and a lot of trees and rocks I don't know if you ever came up here snowmobiling but being a snowmobiler you know what I mean.
Thank you both so much for your response all the best love Tatiana

[DawnOday]

Since being transgender was predestined by events not under my control I regret only that I did not pursue transition earlier.  It would make my loses much more bearable. But I am grateful for these last two years as it has opened my eyes to the possibilities and what if's. It has allowed me to break down the barriers that kept me from making friends. Unfortunately, I am just as boring as ever. My secrets are all out in the open. I have met some incredible people that have since become my friends and my life is a lot more enriched by their love and support. I just hope when I am reincarnated, they get it right next time from the beginning.

[Tatiana 79]

OMG Dawn,
I feel almost exactly the same dear.
I also feel I waited much too long and had to wait till I broke down.  but I do have hope now just starting HRT yesterday and am inspired by your wise words know that they were well received
also love your new Avatar pic
all the best to you love Tatiana

[KathyLauren]

Sorry I failed to mention being CIS male

Cis male?  Eww, no thanks.  Cis female?  Yeah, sure, it would be okay.  But I have led a darned interesting life, and I am heading into the final third or quarter (or whatever fraction is left to me) of it in a really excellent position.  I wouldn't change a thing.

[Jessica]

Not even a question for me. If I could choose I would be a cis straight female. Why would I wish this crappy journey upon myself?

In total agreement

[Dani]

For me, I wish I was born female and a thin, attractive one at that.

The dysphoria was just over whelming. I tried to man up, but that just did not work out.

[Tatiana 79]

 First off thank you so much Kathy
I really love reading your stuff and find you super intelligent and knowledgeable and truly you could have been anything you wanted to be in life I believe.
I'm just starting so from my perspective I have had more bad negative experience for decades compared to yesterday starting so I don't yet feel it but I sure hope to through the years ahead. I think a few good years for me would help balance the scales of all the Decades of negativity I went through. Thank you so much for your highly valued opinion hun. 

And to Dear Jessica,
I kind of made a mistake and should have put CIS male on my topic label.
I mistakenly assumed that being on this MTF sub-forum my intent would be understood but I should have been more clear I see now.
Sweetheart I'm sure there's not a one out here that would not wish to be born CIS female. But I know it was my error in not properly labeling this topic.  but thank you very much for your  highly experienced opinion it was very much appreciated.
thank you so much you dear hearts
hugs and love Tatiana

[Charlie Nicki]

First off thank you so much Kathy
I really love reading your stuff and find you super intelligent and knowledgeable and truly you could have been anything you wanted to be in life I believe.
I'm just starting so from my perspective I have had more bad negative experience for decades compared to yesterday starting so I don't yet feel it but I sure hope to through the years ahead. I think a few good years for me would help balance the scales of all the Decades of negativity I went through. Thank you so much for your highly valued opinion hun. 

And to Dear Jessica,
I kind of made a mistake and should have put CIS male on my topic label.
I mistakenly assumed that being on this MTF sub-forum my intent would be understood but I should have been more clear I see now.
Sweetheart I'm sure there's not a one out here that would not wish to be born CIS female. But I know it was my error in not properly labeling this topic.  but thank you very much for your  highly experienced opinion it was very much appreciated.
thank you so much you dear hearts
hugs and love Tatiana

Right now, since I identify as a woman, being a cis male sounds boring and lifeless BUT if I was born a cis male, that would be irrelevant since I would be happy with who I was and life would be easier. So basically, even if it hurts to say it, I would choose to be an attractive cis man.

[Tatiana 79]

Hello Dani
I really understand what you're saying about crippling dysphoria  and I'm sure we both know the power it contains to repress who we really are. I actually suffered to the point of complete physical breakdown at age 45 unable to function at all.
Very sweet of you to drop in with your opinion dear.

All the best to you love Tatiana