Chokers and Collars

[buttercup]

I try (really I do) not to correct too much grammar and spelling stuff on here, but this one is too much.  DIVA, comes from opera, meaning the lead female role, (she who sings the great arias, which are almost always written for a soprano ) she how must be catered to, because like Jerry Garcia's guitar, the show ain't happening without it.

please explain??   

We're all a bunch of divas!  Such is life.   

[tekla]

just a spelng thang.

[Lisbeth]

Well the spelng thang isn't so clear cut.  The deva are minor gods, the Hindu equivalent of angels.

[tekla]

That is not the implication of the way they used the world, if they even knew it in that context.  It's just that DIVA, like Cher, is spelled in the old world way, not in any Indian way.  Though Cher is an angel, just ask her.

An angel would never wear a collar either, they are owned - as it were - by something far beyond that master and slave deal.

[Lisbeth]

That is not the implication of the way they used the world, if they even knew it in that context.  It's just that DIVA, like Cher, is spelled in the old world way, not in any Indian way.  Though Cher is an angel, just ask her.

An angel would never wear a collar either, they are owned - as it were - by something far beyond that master and slave deal.

Except that diva and deva (and devil and demon) are etimologically related to the same Indo-European root.

[tekla]

Etymology:
    Italian, literally, goddess, from Latin, feminine of divus divine, god

[Lisbeth]

Have it your way.  You just demonstrated the philological relationship of the Euro to the Indic branch of the linguistic tree.

[Ell]

i wear an invisible collar that does not come off. it's a warning of my submissive status to one  person, and no other.

[Lisbeth]

i wear an invisible collar that does not come off. it's a warning of my submissive status to one  person, and no other.

I don't know if "warning" is as much the right word as "reminder."  We'll soon take care of the "invisible" part.

[JENNIFER]

I have a small collar that a friend of mine made and I wear it every so often, usually when the colours match the outfit.  I have also found that this type of accessory can cover the adam's apple and is widespread enough in its popularity to not stick out.  That is if you pick something understated and not a spiked dog collar like one.

Anyone else wear a choker?

Much has been said on this thread often tongue in cheek but I wondered if this thread and the author had a serious point in mind.  I work as a volunteer at my local Theatre as a  female and wear formal clothing that is expected of female staff.  I also wear a scarf around my neck, mainly as an accessory but also as a subtle way of minimising the dreaded 'apple' that resides within my throat.  Whether or not it makes a difference in how people percieve me I do not know but I feel more at ease with the scarf than without it.   

I cannot go so far as wear a collar around my neck,, it kind of represents a symbol of 'Gayness', being tough or maybe a member of Holy Orders....there are all types here in UK and I prefer to be subtle, do what is needed to protect my own dignity.

A nice feminine silky scarf works magic in my experience...

[tekla]

I like a nice scarf, chokers and collars are too tight.

[krisalyx]

well i've seen them just not here in virginia, where the heck do you buy one hot topic maybe?

[Rita Irene]

I love chokers/collars, I think they look super cute! Back when I first really got into dressing, I got a silver beaded one in some pack of hair stuff I bought...a hair band...but Ive always wore it on my neck and still have it to this day!

[kytheragraves]

What if I like the spiked collar look?   It won't do for the workplace, of course, but otherwise it's Abby's look on NCIS.

In general, chokers are adorable though, even without the spikes. You can get nice silk or velvet chokers with adjustable clasps that are suitable for business-casual workplaces. Wearing something that covers the front of your neck can take some getting-used-to, though.

[Kallisty]

Me, I think I'd be more comfortable with a scarf or necklace than a choker/collar, but I guess I'll figure that out eventually - good excuse to go shopping/looking for one

[sabrina]

Chokers are very cute as are scarfs I luv them both.  Not to sure about collars I guess its just a matter of definition.  To me a collar signifies being submissive to another and that just is not my style.  On the other hand they are basically the same thing so i guess it doesn't matter. 

Side note:  I knit as a hobby and have made several very cute hair bands that would prob work as a choker.  Not to mention many beautiful scarfs. 

[Lisbeth]

In general, chokers are adorable though, even without the spikes. You can get nice silk or velvet chokers with adjustable clasps that are suitable for business-casual workplaces. Wearing something that covers the front of your neck can take some getting-used-to, though.

My partner and I have a matching set of those, only they have leather ties instead of clasps. Yes, they take getting used to, and in the summer they get kind of hot.