"you just got to get used to being a cougar" :(

[Butterfly]

The age barrier can be a tough one...so many years of separation can mean different wants, likes, needs, etc.

But my opinion: happiness and a compatible partner are hard to find. If a woman happens to be 15-20 older than her Bf...and the 2 of them are happy...good for them! If they find happiness, then they shouldn't worry about the age.

Pia, my comments weren't directed at you.  You're just too young & pretty to be considered a cougar.

[Ell]

Pia, ya aren't a cougar.

as for older people, it is generally true that they are less attractive in many ways. but why generalize? i may be less attracted to older men than older women, for instance, but it always comes down to a case by case basis. just like relationships. i have met several older women who were in very nice shape physically, mentally, and personality-wise. what can i say? i was honestly attracted to them.

and while it's generally true that i have not met many attractive older men, i can name at least one right now who is in great shape physically, mentally, and personalty-wise, and i believe he gets (and deserves) alot of attention.

-ell

[NicholeW.]

The entire cougar madness thang basically resolves itself into yet another example of how our culture sets a premium on the superficial and eternal youth. Superficial has no depth and youth is always ephemeral (unless, of course you die young, but that seems a self-defeating choice.)

The answer seems to me to be find your bliss -- naw, really find it. I mean you're a forty y/o woman dating or married to a 70 y/o guy or seeing a 70 y/o woman. They're gonna have wrinkles, they're gonna have frailities, but if they have something or somethings about them that moves you, allows you to love and appreciate them does it matter? Really matter?

The same is true going in the other direction as well. So what if a boyfriend, husband, lover is 20 or more years younger (well, if they're over 21 ) It's the quality of your relationship with them, how well you're moved by the person there.

No one else is gonna make ya happy anyhow, that we all have to do for ourselves.

R~

[tinkerbell]

You know, considering that English is not my maternal language, I have to admit that I had never heard of the word cougar before until Pia mentioned it, so I had to look it up in the dictionary.  Now my question is this:  is there a similar word for older men who like to date younger girls?  In Spanish... we call them viejos verdes  but that is just too insulting a term, I think.

Viejos verdes! LOL they deserve it though 


tink

[Hazumu]

Grundig blaupunkt luger frug
  Watusi snarf wazoo
Nixon dirksen nazahist
  Rebozo boogaloo

More on Tink's term here

=K

[Ell]

In Spanish... we call them viejos verdes
tink

hm. this sheds new light on the meaning of "battling the mean green weenie"

[tinkerbell]

Grundig blaupunkt luger frug
  Watusi snarf wazoo
Nixon dirksen nazahist
  Rebozo boogaloo

More on Tink's term here

=K

Okay, it would be nice if I knew what that meant. *giggle*  But seriously and going to the Fotonovelas article, I think that it depends on the country you are from.  Not every Latin American country is so backwards and primitive where people don't understand the meaning of rape or where "the family is OK with a viejo verde dating or raping their daughter".  I mean, come on, we are talking "middle ages" here for heaven's sakes.  However, I am aware that this is a common misconception among some people here in the US.  They often think that just because a person is from "Latin America", he or she must be uneducated, stupid, and primitive.  Duh! nothing could be further from the truth, but that goes without saying! 

But hey going back to the viejo verde thingy.  Someone here asked me what that term exactly meant..well, to put it simply...literally, it would translate into "green old man" which doesn't have much sense (in English), I think.  Though the idiomatic expression in Spanish gives us this:

Viejo = old, ancient ('old man' in this case)

Verde = green...but why 'green'?  because everything that is 'old' (viejo) eventually turns 'green' (verde) as in "stale", "moldy",  'bloated', "putrid", "malodorous".

So that is the history of viejo verde! 

In Spanish... we call them viejos verdes
tink

hm. this sheds new light on the meaning of "battling the mean green weenie"

ROFL    No kidding!




tink

[Jay]

Personally I think its fine, if two people can connect.. then why the hell not?

I am 21 and I fell in love with a woman who was 19 years my senior. I just like older women, personally.

Also my best friend Ryan is 28 and his partner is 65. (No there is no money there btw, as some people may thing)

But Pia you aren't old not, old at all. Your only 28 jeez! No one would double take you plus you look alot younger than your age in your profile pic.

[klodefm42]

This is indeed an interesting thread. I wonder if I too will become a cougar. Personally I think the term is dumb but what can ya do 

[Nero]

more on cougars:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0H_6rSWX0Qo#noexternalembed&feature=rec-HM-rev-rn