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Does any gay FTMs here get a "Ships passing in the night" feeling with bioguys?

Started by petzjazz, March 22, 2009, 10:30:40 PM

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IanToxic

#20
March 27, 2009, 11:37:40 PM
oops i'm sorry :( alot of times i dont even realize i'm dropping them haha guess i gotta watch that and sadly i wish i could go without sex...i probably could but yeaaaaaah lol*hates his sex drive*
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JakeDenver

#21
March 27, 2009, 11:56:58 PM
I have no sex drive what so ever. It like does not exist. It actually doesnt bother me though. I have no self confidence and hate my body so I like to hide it. I try watching my swearing on here. Ian you better watch it I will get on your case if you get in trouble on here.
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IanToxic

#22
March 27, 2009, 11:59:49 PM
aww well please kill mine xD haha and no worries i'll watch it from now on :D
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Jaimey

#23
March 28, 2009, 12:12:00 AM
Hmm...sex drive is interesting.

I don't really have to deal with sexual attraction, but if I'm attracted to a person because of their personality...sex just becomes a way of being affectionate.  I think a lot of it is being comfortable in your body.  If you're uncomfortable, you definitely don't want t be intimate with someone and honestly, you just shut it off.  Maybe...it's a thought, anyway.  :-\
If curiosity really killed the cat, I'd already be dead. :laugh:

"How far you go in life depends on you being tender with the young, compassionate with the aged, sympathetic with the striving and tolerant of the weak and the strong. Because someday in life you will have been all of these." GWC
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IanToxic

#24
March 28, 2009, 12:17:33 AM
eh i'm the same way i mean if im with someone and i feel safe and comfortable with them and if i feel strongly towards them well then yeah to me sex is just a deeper form of affection and another way of saying i looofs you so for me while its not based on physical ->-bleeped-<- and mostly on comfort this is where the issue with bio guys comes in lol
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Nero

#25
March 28, 2009, 12:17:50 AM
no. but then I was only ever attracted to the straight ones.
Nero was the Forum Admin here at Susan's Place for several years up to the time of his death.
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perfectisolation

#26
March 28, 2009, 04:11:16 PM
What I find works to shut off my drive, is to just ignore it and do something else, and remind myself I can't do anything about it cause my body..

Then again, everything reminds me of sex, everything anyone says or does. And I'm always having sexual dreams, with me having a certain part, and wake up very very frustrated.  :eusa_wall:

*sigh* I must of had really bad karma in my past life.
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IanToxic

#27
March 28, 2009, 05:09:25 PM
lol i tried blocking it out...still do...it always comes back though...with pain :(
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JakeDenver

#28
March 29, 2009, 06:40:38 PM
Mine doesnt even try to appear. Like one day I think I was driving and my sex drive jumped out the window and was never to be found again. lets just say its been a year now since I have had any physical intimacy with anyone past kissing cuddling. I just cant do it. Anyways... Bioguys are amazing and I wish they would date ftms but most just see me as a friend and one of the dudes.
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IanToxic

#29
March 29, 2009, 06:43:44 PM
awww cheer up Jake I'm sure you'll meet a super awesome dude :D and if it makes you feel better I get the same ->-bleeped-<- with everyone! lol that or they see me as like a little brother haha
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Aiden

#30
April 02, 2009, 08:30:15 PM
Yep and i get what most of your saying.  I've been attracted to a few gay guys, usually feminine ones but get frustrated because am not a bioguy.  I thought was bi, not sure right now because women tend to make me uncomfortable with reminding me I have the same parts, the boobs even if on some bioguys make me uncomfortable because it's a reminder of what I have.

While either end girls or guys, I get frustrated because I'm missing a part that is very important to me in my desired role of a sexual relationship. 

But yeh my gay friends seem to just pass me off.  they knew me before I came out to them, so not intirely seen as a guy and even then I am still physically female.
Every day we pass people, do we see them or the mask they wear?
If you live under a mask long enough, does it eventually break or wear down?  Does it become part you?  Maybe alone, they are truly themselves?  Or maybe they have forgotten or buried themselves so long, they forget they are not a mask?
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Jaimey

#31
April 03, 2009, 04:22:51 PM
My attitude towards sex is "where there's a will, there's a way".  My best friend is pansexual, but he prefers guys.  He even dated an ftm, but he just wasn't sure about sexual compatibility, so I told him my motto.  I think for us, it's better to fall in love first and worry about sex last.  Of course, the other person has to be open minded as well...I think a lot of it comes down to communication.  *sigh*  If only people weren't so concerned about sex... :D
If curiosity really killed the cat, I'd already be dead. :laugh:

"How far you go in life depends on you being tender with the young, compassionate with the aged, sympathetic with the striving and tolerant of the weak and the strong. Because someday in life you will have been all of these." GWC
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Nero

#32
April 03, 2009, 04:38:03 PM
I don't know what it is, but I've never been attracted to any gay guys. I've been with bi guys but honestly wasn't that into them either, even though they're open to a wider variety of activities  ;).
Straight men have the heat.
As for girls, their sexual orientation really doesn't matter attraction wise, unless they're butch. I like femmes.
Nero was the Forum Admin here at Susan's Place for several years up to the time of his death.
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imaz

#33
April 03, 2009, 05:31:33 PM
Quote from: Nero on April 03, 2009, 04:38:03 PM
I don't know what it is, but I've never been attracted to any gay guys. I've been with bi guys but honestly wasn't that into them either, even though they're open to a wider variety of activities  ;).
Straight men have the heat.
As for girls, their sexual orientation really doesn't matter attraction wise, unless they're butch. I like femmes.

That's really weird, same here :)
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Nero

#34
April 03, 2009, 05:35:41 PM
Quote from: imaz on April 03, 2009, 05:31:33 PM
That's really weird, same here :)

yeah, it's funny this keeps coming up in my sessions. my therapist keeps asking 'you do know you won't be getting any more straight guys after this, right?'  :laugh:
Nero was the Forum Admin here at Susan's Place for several years up to the time of his death.
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Osiris

#35
April 03, 2009, 05:39:58 PM
Quote from: imaz on April 03, 2009, 05:31:33 PM
That's really weird, same here :)
I second that. :P
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imaz

#36
April 03, 2009, 05:49:03 PM
Quote from: Nero on April 03, 2009, 05:35:41 PM
yeah, it's funny this keeps coming up in my sessions. my therapist keeps asking 'you do know you won't be getting any more straight guys after this, right?'  :laugh:

Not necessarily true :)
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Jaimey

#37
April 03, 2009, 10:57:04 PM
Quote from: imaz on April 03, 2009, 05:49:03 PM
Not necessarily true :)

You know, I know a gay guy who "dated" straight men.  What he said was that "straight men just want to get off," so if he was able to get straight men, then anyone should be able to.  :-\  I think it's more about the guy being open minded.
If curiosity really killed the cat, I'd already be dead. :laugh:

"How far you go in life depends on you being tender with the young, compassionate with the aged, sympathetic with the striving and tolerant of the weak and the strong. Because someday in life you will have been all of these." GWC
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Silver

#38
April 10, 2009, 01:29:51 AM
Quote from: Jaimey on March 28, 2009, 12:12:00 AM
Hmm...sex drive is interesting.

I don't really have to deal with sexual attraction, but if I'm attracted to a person because of their personality...sex just becomes a way of being affectionate.  I think a lot of it is being comfortable in your body.  If you're uncomfortable, you definitely don't want t be intimate with someone and honestly, you just shut it off.  Maybe...it's a thought, anyway.  :-\

I'm not sure about that. My body makes me particularly uncomfortable, but I still desire sex. It probably depends on how you see sex.
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Jaimey

#39
April 10, 2009, 01:56:11 AM
Hm.  I suppose if you think of it in terms of wanting to have sex with another person or being fine taking care of things yourself...I think for some, though, their dysphoria complete removes any sexual feelings they have...so going with that logic, having sexual desire would mean that you are at least somewhat comfortable with your body.  That's not to say that you like the body you're in or anything like that, but you are comfortable enough to find pleasure in it...or something...at any rate, your dysphoria hasn't shut off sexual desire.  ...yeah.  (if that's incoherent, I'm exhausted...sorry :))
If curiosity really killed the cat, I'd already be dead. :laugh:

"How far you go in life depends on you being tender with the young, compassionate with the aged, sympathetic with the striving and tolerant of the weak and the strong. Because someday in life you will have been all of these." GWC
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