There are a lot of ways to answer the original question, and most of them have been mentioned, but years ago, when I considered myself limited to "cross dressing" in womens clothing for "sick and perverse reasons", I did have trouble looking at myself when I was wearing female clothing, mostly because I wanted to look like a man in a dress (so I thought) and tended to look like a badly dressed teenage gender bender. Now that I can accept the fact that I am actually a secondary transsexual, being in male clothing is being "cross dressed" and my male wardrobe is for someone nearly 30 pounds heavier, so it looks bad for that reason to boot!! Full circle in a weird way, since all of my first female clothing was too small and looked bad for that reason. Getting therapy, even if it starts as drug/alcohol addiction therapy, can really be wonderful and "life changing" if you put some work into it.
Ears pierced?? I have two piercings in each ear, and just bought two new sets of the most noticeable and heavy earrings I saw in a new store. (They are about three ounces each, and feel very erotic.) Two of the hoops are 5 inches across and keep bouncing off my collar bone! They are my one "over the top" feminine wear item. My "girlfriends" give me a hard time about them, but one recently came around with a pair almost as gaudy as the ones I like.
Glasses, I can't use contacts or have laser surgery done due to allergies, so I have three nice pair of large frames in a color that looks great on me as either gender, and my medical plan covers them, so why not. As a female, other females ask where I got them, and likewise and vice versa. I guess I just have good taste.
