I've been threatened...

[Inphyy]

Maybe foster care or a group home, but I don't see how she could send you to Juvenile.  You haven't done anything illegal.

She says that I don't listen to her and that i'm a bad child...She says i'm not normal and that if I don't straighten up and fly right, she might send me to Jev for being bad.

[Suzy]

Sounds like a pretty empty threat to me.  She is the one being bad by leaving you alone with no food.  I don't think parents can do that anyway, at least in my state it takes a court to put you there.   Group homes cost money.  I doubt she is willing to spend it if she will not even put out for food.

Oh, and normal is overrated.  Don't even bother trying it.   

Kristi

[Inphyy]

Sounds like a pretty empty threat to me.  She is the one being bad by leaving you alone with no food.  I don't think parents can do that anyway, at least in my state it takes a court to put you there.   Group homes cost money.  I doubt she is willing to spend it if she will not even put out for food.

Oh, and normal is overrated.  Don't even bother trying it.   

Kristi

Your funny thanks for the the little smile! :]

I don't know what is going to happen on Sunday though, Monday is back-to-school and I didn't go on Friday cause she wouldn't let me because I wanted to wear a dress. So I don't know if she is even going to take me to school anymore or if I am going to have to drop-out! :\

[bernii]

Ohhh Sweetheart!!

I cried and cried when I read your topic. I know that I am late in my reply, but hon, I am worried about you and your brother. Dearest, first off, you pass very well! I think that your future is going to be OK (I hope the same for Corrie!). Sweetie, please slow down and keep things simple. I know that being who you are is very important!! I do not know about your high school, but I hope that they are TG aware and sensitive, and will work with you and keep you and your brother safe. If they are not, then sweetheart take care!!! I urge you to wait until you can be safe to be yourself!!! This is no joke!!! Your family clearly does not support you. I am not sure if other people in your life support you at this time. This is perilous!!!

Be smart, Be safe, Be careful!!!

If it helps, your mother should read this...

http://wpath.org/Documents2/socv6.pdf

Love you hon

Brenda

[Suzy]

It might be a good idea not to wear that dress.  Why not just tone things down a bit, still be as femme as you can without making waves, and bide your time for a bit?  Maybe that was what set her off?

Kristi

[Inphyy]

Ohhh Sweetheart!!

I cried and cried when I read your topic. I know that I am late in my reply, but hon, I am worried about you and your brother. Dearest, first off, you pass very well! I think that your future is going to be OK (I hope the same for Corrie!). Sweetie, please slow down and keep things simple. I know that being who you are is very important!! I do not know about your high school, but I hope that they are TG aware and sensitive, and will work with you and keep you and your brother safe. If they are not, then sweetheart take care!!! I urge you to wait until you can be safe to be yourself!!! This is no joke!!! Your family clearly does not support you. I am not sure if other people in your life support you at this time. This is perilous!!!

Be smart, Be safe, Be careful!!!

If it helps, your mother should read this...

http://wpath.org/Documents2/socv6.pdf

Love you hon

Brenda

Thanks for the help! I'm sending her that file as a e-mail, but she might just delete it and it is pretty big so let's hope my lucky stars that she will read it!
Post Merge: August 15, 2009, 09:47:06 PM

It might be a good idea not to wear that dress.  Why not just tone things down a bit, still be as femme as you can without making waves, and bide your time for a bit?  Maybe that was what set her off?

Kristi

Well I just wanted to wear a dress...I just don't get how an article of clothing could make someone go in a rage! Plus Scottish people (both men and women wear skirts or kilts.)

[MeghanAndrews]

Inphyy,
If being thrown out is a real concern for you, which it sounds like it is, I'd contact Children's Hospital Transyouth clinic and explain your situation. The thing about most lgbt-youth shelters is that they are funded by HIV prevention funding from the State. Budget cuts are coming down hard by the end of the year. You waiting until you get thrown out to gather information would probably be a bad idea since places that might be able to house you will probably be cutting numbers of intakes by the end of the year.

My suggestion would be to do what you have to survive at home for the time being. Trust me, it's a bad, bad time to be a homeless trans-youth. Ontario, Chino, Riverside, very bad. LA, not much better. You are needing to be who you are but having food, clothing and shelter when you are <18 trumps that. Living on the streets might seem like a better alternative than the mess you are in now. It isn't, it really isn't. There's some good advice from people in here, in this thread Inphyy. Be well, Meghan

[Inphyy]

Inphyy,
If being thrown out is a real concern for you, which it sounds like it is, I'd contact Children's Hospital Transyouth clinic and explain your situation. The thing about most lgbt-youth shelters is that they are funded by HIV prevention funding from the State. Budget cuts are coming down hard by the end of the year. You waiting until you get thrown out to gather information would probably be a bad idea since places that might be able to house you will probably be cutting numbers of intakes by the end of the year.

My suggestion would be to do what you have to survive at home for the time being. Trust me, it's a bad, bad time to be a homeless trans-youth. Ontario, Chino, Riverside, very bad. LA, not much better. You are needing to be who you are but having food, clothing and shelter when you are <18 trumps that. Living on the streets might seem like a better alternative than the mess you are in now. It isn't, it really isn't. There's some good advice from people in here, in this thread Inphyy. Be well, Meghan

Thanks for the help! The recession is hitting hard on everyone so it makes people truly in need not get the help they need...That's sad. =[

[tekla]

Do your best to get through what you have to.  The rather bleak statistics are that people who hits the streets before they graduate HS and while they are still under 18 rarely find a way off of them.

[Inphyy]

Do your best to get through what you have to.  The rather bleak statistics are that people who hits the streets before they graduate HS and while they are still under 18 rarely find a way off of them.

That stat really scares me, but I don't want to just pass High School, I want to go to College...

Cause I know with the money issue, a College degree helps with a better job, which means better money.

[tekla]

If you do college right it means a better life, money not withstanding.  Money helps, but other things in the end are more important, and a good education helps you figure that out.

[Inphyy]

If you do college right it means a better life, money not withstanding.  Money helps, but other things in the end are more important, and a good education helps you figure that out.

The only problem I have is that last year in my Sophomore year, I became really depressed and at the start of the year, I had really good grades but they sank at the end -- Dramasticly, so i'm hoping to do better now in my Junior year! =]

And...For College, I'm hoping I can find a trangendered friendly one! =_=

[tekla]

There are a lot of liberal arts schools that are pretty open, most colleges have gender neutral policies anymore, and most people in college don't care. But grades do matter a whole bunch in terms of what college you can get into, and how easy the money is when you get there.

[Inphyy]

There are a lot of liberal arts schools that are pretty open, most colleges have gender neutral policies anymore, and most people in college don't care. But grades do matter a whole bunch in terms of what college you can get into, and how easy the money is when you get there.

Thank you for that piece of information! It makes me feel wayyyy better!
Now the only question I have left (for myself), Is what College to go to! LOL! xD

[tekla]

Don't worry about that till your senior year, your grades will have a lot to do with it.  For example, UC Berkeley is very open, very liberal, but if your not in the top 1% of your graduating class, your not getting near it - and even then...  But CSU San Francisco is somewhat less selective.  And you pick a college depending on your major.  Berkeley is great in some fields, a useless waste of time in other ones.  So it depends on what you want to study in the first place.

[Inphyy]

Don't worry about that till your senior year, your grades will have a lot to do with it.  For example, UC Berkeley is very open, very liberal, but if your not in the top 1% of your graduating class, your not getting near it - and even then...  But CSU San Francisco is somewhat less selective.  And you pick a college depending on your major.  Berkeley is great in some fields, a useless waste of time in other ones.  So it depends on what you want to study in the first place.

Photo Art and Photo-Journalism and maybe even just photography! =^_^=

[tekla]

Then you might as well go to the Academy of Art in SF, they have excellent programs in those areas.

http://www.academyart.edu/

[Inphyy]

Then you might as well go to the Academy of Art in SF, they have excellent programs in those areas.

http://www.academyart.edu/

Once again thank you! ~_~
That's why I love this community so much, they open everyone in open arms, I'm glad that Susan's is so kind to people--And I am also glad that I have had advice from so many friendly people here! 

[tekla]

Well I know people who have gone there and were pretty happy, and I took a class there a few years ago that helped me.  And its in SF, and it does not get more open to TG than that, and its in Cali, so that's easier than my alma mater, which has a very good program in photo stuff, but its a private 4 year deal, in the Midwest, so its far away, and rather expensive.

[Inphyy]

Well I know people who have gone there and were pretty happy, and I took a class there a few years ago that helped me.  And its in SF, and it does not get more open to TG than that, and its in Cali, so that's easier than my alma mater, which has a very good program in photo stuff, but its a private 4 year deal, in the Midwest, so its far away, and rather expensive.

Ouch! I heard the further south and the further east you go in the world, the more gay and transphobic the people are! I even heard in certain places if your openly gay or transgendered, you will be killed by everyone in that country! >:|