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What does being treated like an androgyne feel like?

Started by Pica Pica, August 09, 2010, 05:50:37 AM

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Kinkly

Most people don't see people as being anything other then Male or Female and when they see someone who doesn't fit as Male or Female their brains go all crazy and decide that this person is less then human or freak.  I regularly get called freak or Man in dress.  I somtimes have strangers complementing me on parts of my look.  but out and about most of the time it is just strange looks but I am regularly made to feel different or like an outsider
I don't want to be a man there from Mars
I'd Like to be a woman Venus looks beautiful
I'm enjoying living on Pluto, but it is a bit lonely
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hazelspikes

I tend to only really confuse little kids. Once when I was cashiering a boy was bragging about his new hockey table, which he wouldn't share with his sister. His sister and his mom were like "you have to share!" And I was like (scanning noises) "I liked air hockey too!" And the boy said "See! He gets it!" And then I held my tongue while his mom yelled at him.

Another common thing is "Mom why is that boy acting like a girl?" Because my sweatshirt/short hair=boy, way of talking=girl.

I'm trying to "walk like a man" as strange/binary-confined as that sounds...
With a laptop, my mounds of books, and history handouts, I could rule the world! Or, just think about my self-identity and help the world through being kind and teaching.
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VannaSiamese

Being androgynous, and being treated as such, means your treatment is usually relative to your overall demeanor, or signals you are giving as out the original poster stated.
I live my life in an androgynous state and occasionally going on either extreme of the gender role. However, because my voice is so feminine, and my movement and overall appearance is so feminine, that most people default to calling me a she, and treating me as such.  Oddly enough, If I tell people that I'm actually a boy, they still treat me like a girl.
Usually things are never awkward. As long as you are confident with yourself and who you are, then people will treat you with respect... And treat you like a human.
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Lyric

Quote from: VannaSiamese on January 22, 2013, 09:08:16 PM...If I tell people that I'm actually a boy, they still treat me like a girl...Usually things are never awkward.... And treat you like a human.

This is so true. One thing I learned long ago (and I was androgynous as far back as the 1970s) is that people tend to treat you more respectfully if you look very good-- even if it's not in a was consistent with your natural gender. I grew my hair very long soon after moving out of my parent's house and got lots of negatives about it early on, but once it was at a common long length and conditioned/styled very well, people seemed to be more comfortable with it-- even though it looked feminine.

I don't think there really is a way of being "treated like an androgyne", since androgyny isn't a common role in our culture. People will either treat you like a male or a female and, as Vanna pointed out, this is more a matter of impression than actually knowledge.

~ Lyric ~
"Your time is limited, so don't waste it living someone else's life." - Steve Jobs
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foosnark

Quote from: Kareil on August 22, 2010, 11:31:11 AM
Invisible, yes.  I can't count how many times I've had people walk into me on the sidewalk or in a mall as if they don't see me *at all*...

Yep.  Or getting no service at all in shops, sometimes.  Or startling people when they suddenly realize I am there.  I'm 6'1 and not particularly stealthy.

Some people seem to be intimidated or wary of me, and I had a friend and coworker who often misread me as angry despitehaving seen what my angry looks like.  But then, I also get the "love" and smiles treatment sometimes from people.
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torii

a group of friends I have seem to have an obssion with splitting into boy/girl teams recently, for sport or just needing to split up a large group (which drives me mad cause that's not enough categories)
I've noticed if someone needs to switch to make teams even its nearly always me I don't know if that related
I'm faab so that might affect the judgement but guys treat me differently to 'other' girls (most people know me as a girl) more so than girls treat me differently to 'other' girls...I kind of like it, it feels like I get trusted by both groups if that makes sense
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sicological

Quote from: torii on February 13, 2013, 02:56:27 PM
I kind of like it, it feels like I get trusted by both groups if that makes sense

Makes sense, though I tend to feel the opposite - neither group seems to know what to do with me and it sometimes makes me uncomfortable. I don't really know how they feel about it, but I tend to be left out of any stereotypically one-gender activity
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