We were having sort of this discussion in #Chat last night. My points in public room and in PM pretty well matched this, but Robbi has published a very clear and helpful article, IMHO.
Each journey does have similarities to others, but each is truly unique in some way.
While labels are necessary to form the rough picture, no one's identity or worth should be slave to labels. And no one is 'better' or 'worse' for the surgery options taken or not.
Robyn
The grandmother has spoken.