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Could you fall for someone's soul alone?

Started by Nero, February 13, 2011, 11:22:46 PM

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tekla

FIGHT APATHY!, or don't...
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melissa42013

Ladies and Gentlemen, please return your jaws to the upright position and thank you for flying TransAir.........lol


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JessicaH

Cant wait for some coffee and beignets from Cafe Du Monde.  It's so awesome to sit outside on the shore of the Mississippi River and enjoy the breeze  while enjoying good coffee and beignets and watching the freaks...

http://www.cafedumonde.com/ 
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tekla

Be careful down there, it's not like the old NO, in some ways it's a bit better, but in a lot of ways it got a lot worse.
FIGHT APATHY!, or don't...
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melissa42013

#24
Thanks for the heads up. Stacy knows New Orleans. I know the east coast. Next trip NYC. Plus, we really are two tg people dont want to mess with........ lol
What a wonderful life..... really..... Rather than the dull numb of florsecent bulbs and a "normal life" we were thrust kicking and screaming into..... this..... a wonderful life..... Who would have guessed? Who would have wanted this? But god, it has been a ride..........tbc....


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JessicaH

I was in New Orleans right after Katrina hit. In that former life, my team was better armed than the cops and military...lol. I saw some strange stuff in that place and had a lot of 18 hour days. I wouldnt miss that esperience for anything! Well, ALMOST anything... (36-24-36)  :-)
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sigmafan

I Honestly believe that people can fall in love based on mental appeal and heart alone, rather than someone who has a hot body or thousands of dollars in the bank or just because their "thang" is longer and thicker than the Simpsons Carbon Rod. 

I admit to be in this category, mainly because I'm not one that thinks much of someone's physical appeal.  I say that because without a solid head on their shoulders or great heart and soul, a picturesque partner is pretty much just there and there wouldn't be more to any sort of relationship than just oogling. 

In short, without the mental connection, the physical one means absolutely nothing.  Plus, I do admit that I don't look like one of the 1,000,000,000 best looking people in the world, but there ya go.
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tekla

Yeah, but it's about a lot more than just 'soul' vs. 'body'.  Personalty, goals, mind, social skills all come into play too.
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JessicaH

For a physically intimate relationship, there of course has to be a level of physical attraction. Personality can make a TEN a TWO or a TWO a TEN though.

As for qualities that Melissa and I share that draw us toward each other are also qualities that lend themselves to health, beauty and success. We have already been able to help each other with business issues that will have long term benefits for us both and we spend hours talking about and looking at business strategies that we can take advantage of to ensure our success in transition and in life.  We both have a fear of being stuck in the middle , simply due to lack of resources. We are both the kind of people that once we decide on something, we put everything we have into it to make it happen and not rely on luck, generosity of others or anything else like that.

We both share a philosophy that, "The harder you work, the luckier you become". We don't sit around all day playing video games waiting for someone else to offer us a job or opportunity. We know transition will be very challenging so we see it as important to make sure there are opportunities in place that if need be, wont require direct contact with the public or  community" unless we choose to do so.

Failure in transition IS NOT AN OPTION. It sucks, and it's not fair but the better and faster you can pass and the more attractive you can be with transition, the better people accept it. I hope I'm wrong with that but it's just my observation. If you have a different view, let's please discuss it. I never assume that my conclusions are 100% accurate.
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Amazon D

Quote from: sigmafan on February 15, 2011, 10:51:29 PM
I Honestly believe that people can fall in love based on mental appeal and heart alone, rather than someone who has a hot body or thousands of dollars in the bank or just because their "thang" is longer and thicker than the Simpsons Carbon Rod. 

Ok Sigmafan who is Simpsons Carbon Rod and how do you know about his thang ? inquiering minds want to know  :o
I'm an Amazon womyn + very butch + respecting MWMF since 1999 unless invited. + I AM A HIPPIE

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Rock_chick

I have a foot fetish...oh damn, wrong kind of sole.


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espo

Quote from: Helena on February 17, 2011, 04:58:20 PM
I have a foot fetish...oh damn, wrong kind of sole.
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That's freaken funny.  ;D
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Rosa

I fell in love with my best friend, first based on his personality and how he acted - not his looks.  We have a deep love for each other (probably me more for him) but at least for him, it can never be romantic because he likes girls and I don't have a girls body (yet  :D ).  I think people can be soul mates without having a romantic relationship, but I think it is very rare.  I like to imagine that those people have several lifetimes together, perhaps as lovers, best friends, family members, etc.  My best friend and I felt like we had known each other for a life time even though we were fairly new acquaintances. Now we are brothers for life (despite some current difficulties). 

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sigmafan

Quote from: M2MtF2FtM on February 17, 2011, 04:43:53 PM
Ok Sigmafan who is Simpsons Carbon Rod and how do you know about his thang ? inquiering minds want to know  :o

During an early episode, instead of Homer Simpson being dubbed Worker of the Week, The Carbon Rod was.  After several times of hating on the rod, he actually used it and it got even more popular and even became Time's man of the year because of it.  Homer has hated it since.  But it was quite long and thick.  About a foot long and diameter was about 4 inches.
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JessicaH

Quote from: melissa42013 on February 14, 2011, 10:23:18 PM
Thanks for the heads up. Stacy knows New Orleans. I know the east coast. Next trip NYC. Plus, we really are two tg people dont want to mess with........ lol
What a wonderful life..... really..... Rather than the dull numb of florsecent bulbs and a "normal life" we were thrust kicking and screaming into..... this..... a wonderful life..... Who would have guessed? Who would have wanted this? But god, it has been a ride..........tbc....

Well, we still haven't made it to New Orleans but we have made it to Charlotte, Charleston and many other places in that area on four different visits. Have I changed my mind? No  All I can say is that it's been almost 7 months since we met and it only gets better every day....   :-*  I just hope that I don't get stuck in Mozambique for too long since it will be much harder to talk to you or see you.
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melissa42013

Quote from: JessicaH on August 17, 2011, 11:31:54 PM
Well, we still haven't made it to New Orleans but we have made it to Charlotte, Charleston and many other places in that area on four different visits. Have I changed my mind? No  All I can say is that it's been almost 7 months since we met and it only gets better every day....   :-*  I just hope that I don't get stuck in Mozambique for too long since it will be much harder to talk to you or see you.
I agree totally and don't really care where we go just as long as we are together. Remember the day when my wife got curious and read this thread on Susans? Wow I thought that was the end of things for me. Well here we are many months later and things are looking really upbeat for all of us. Sure there are many challenges to face, but we can tackle them all together.

And all I can say about Africa is you do realize that while you are there I will have to call you my "African Princess..." ..lol
-M


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Stephe

Speaking from my own experience, yes it's totally possible to fall in love with someones soul. I have :) My present boy friend and I were online friends for almost a year (playing second life) and never even knew what gender either of us were. We became real close, had many very intimate conversations and we fell in love with each other. Finally I told him I was TG and he told me he was a guy. He said he never considered dating a trans person before and he considered himself het. We met in RL and things have just worked out. It took a lot of work and adjusting but 3 years later we are still crazy in love with each other. I actually feel this is the best relationship I have ever been in because I KNOW I love him, who he is inside not what he looks like and vice versa. I guess it didn't hurt when we did meet in RL he was cute :P
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Amazon D

Quote from: Stephe on August 18, 2011, 11:22:26 AM
Speaking from my own experience, yes it's totally possible to fall in love with someones soul. I have :) My present boy friend and I were online friends for almost a year (playing second life) and never even knew what gender either of us were. We became real close, had many very intimate conversations and we fell in love with each other. Finally I told him I was TG and he told me he was a guy. He said he never considered dating a trans person before and he considered himself het. We met in RL and things have just worked out. It took a lot of work and adjusting but 3 years later we are still crazy in love with each other. I actually feel this is the best relationship I have ever been in because I KNOW I love him, who he is inside not what he looks like and vice versa. I guess it didn't hurt when we did meet in RL he was cute :P

That would be interesting to join a online dating site which matches people without ever knowing their gender.. hmmm
I'm an Amazon womyn + very butch + respecting MWMF since 1999 unless invited. + I AM A HIPPIE

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Ann Onymous

Quote from: JessicaH on February 14, 2011, 10:11:24 PM
Cant wait for some coffee and beignets from Cafe Du Monde.  It's so awesome to sit outside on the shore of the Mississippi River and enjoy the breeze  while enjoying good coffee and beignets and watching the freaks...

http://www.cafedumonde.com/
The beignets are ok, but not sit in humidity to eat and people watch OK...I've been known to snag a couple of orders on my way back to the hotel at odd hours though.  Those big lumps of powdered sugar at the bottom of the bag sure make for a dangerous mess though.  And I am sure the hotel cleaning peeps hated when I would eat them in the room because the floor also tended to become a mess.

There is no question though that the mall locations definitely lose the ambiance that might otherwise have existed...
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Alexmakenoise

Quote from: Forum Admin on February 13, 2011, 11:22:46 PM
Could you fall for someone's soul (or personality, heart, etc, etc)? Or do you need that initial physical attraction?

Yes, but it's not the same as falling for the whole person, body included, and experiencing that intense combination of lust and love.

Frustratingly, I've only been experiencing stuff like this over the past year.  Feeling a real connection with someone, to a near-romantic degree of intensity, yet having no interest physically (tried to have a relationship; it didn't work).  Or feeling intense physical attraction to someone whose personality repulsed me in certain ways (intriguing, but decided not to go there).

I think it's because I'm still recovering from losing someone I cared about in every way possible.  We live on opposite sides of the world now.  We'll see each other again, but we can't have a relationship.  I fear it may take years to move on, if not a life time, though I am trying.
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