From my earliest memories, I knew that I was different. I didn't know in what way, just different. My behaviors seemed to be misunderstood. They thought I was doing x when I was trying to do y. There were times when I was convinced that I was some kind of alien sent to Earth to observe humans. In the third grade, I spent recess periods in the nurse's office, not due to injury, but as "protective custody" from the bullies who found it entertaining to assault me daily, both verbally and physically. I confided in a friend that I did not understand why this was happening, and he told me that it was because "I cried like a girl" and they were amused by it. I vowed then and there to never cry again.
The physical assaults moved off-campus and the bullies would catch me walking home from school and beat on me. My parents' efforts in talking to the school and the parents of the bullies had no effect. I had three younger brothers (I am the oldest) and my dad decided to teach us boxing so we could defend ourselves. As the oldest, the only people I had to spar with were my younger brothers. One pop to the face, down they went with a bloody nose. Mom put an end to that right there while telling me how I was responsible for looking after them, not giving them bloody noses. My only form of self-defense was running away. I became VERY good at running. By Middle School, I made the track team.
As a teen, I had no interest in sex. I had enough lectures from my parents about morality, teen pregnancy, etc. and I found that I enjoyed hanging out with girls. They were doing something meaningful: communicating with each other, while the boys were just interested in football, wrestling, and fighting. Of course, what they saw was this nerdy guy hanging out with "their" girlfriends, while they were busy trying to impress the other guys. They thought I was trying to move in on their girls. This resulted in more physical confrontation and more running practice for me.
Later, my parents divorced and remarried. My stepfather was an abusive monster who would constantly call me names like "Mary" or "sissy". It was him that convinced me that to avoid harassment I had to "man up". I began working in his welding shop until I could find an escape.
I tried to think of the manliest job I could come up with and I would strive to get there. Back in the late 1960s and early 70s, nobody knew much about transgender people. In my world, there were two options. You were either gay or straight, and if you were gay, you got a beating. I knew I wasn't gay because I was not attracted to men, women, or anything. I recognize beauty and handsomeness, but I never looked at someone and thought that I would like to have sex with them. I decided that the manliest job that I could get would be to join the Army. The recruiter had no openings for the nerdy things I was interested in, like computers. He showed me three brochures: Infantry, Artillery, and Armor. Infantry involved a lot of walking. Artillery was big cannons, but that would mean hauling big bullets. Armor. Tanks. Big guns with no walking and the tank hauls its own ammo. YES. Give me a tank!
During basic training, I learned some very valuable lessons. 1. Never volunteer for anything. 2. Never admit to any skills you might possess. 3. Everyone is anti-gay, so you better be too. I learned very quickly to "man up" and do the things that were expected of a manly man. It was the perfect camouflage. I also learned how to "play the game". The military does some strange things that make no sense. "Hurry up and Wait". Don't use soap dishes, ashtrays, or trash cans because they get dirty and won't pass inspection. The only way to escape living in the barracks with a bunch of guys and no privacy was to get promoted to Sergeant. The only way to get promoted was to play the game better than anyone else. So I did. I practiced every military skill to make sure that I was the absolute best. I didn't want to be the best in my unit, I wanted to be the best in the entire Army.
My efforts paid off. I was promoted to "Acting Sergeant" months before I was eligible for promotion. Upon eligibility, I passed all the boards with flying colors and was assigned as the gunner on the company commander's tank. This brought about new challenges because I had to be the best tank gunner in the world AND I was now in a leadership position. I got moved out to private living quarters and I was not about to jeopardize that.
The Army sent me to various leadership training schools and I was in the top 10% every time. I had to. I needed to maintain my image of being the Super Soldier. I excelled in marksmanship and fell into shooting competitions that eventually led to international shooting tournaments. This earned me various awards and added to my camouflage as a manly man. My skills were not just with pistols, rifles, and machine guns, my tank crew was rated top in our battalion. My commanders took notice. They wanted me to train the rest of the company the way I trained myself and my crew. They put me in charge of company training, but it was more of a management position. I didn't determine what training needed to be done, only how to do it. I trained the trainers, and they trained their troops. I was sent to Fort Knox, Kentucky to attend Master Gunner School. That was a tough course. Scoring in the top 10% was mandatory for graduation. Score less than 90 on any test and they send you home. We started with 53 candidates and graduated 13. I was then assigned as the Master Gunner/Operations NCO.
When I left the service, I was awarded the Meritorious Service Medal (the peacetime equivalent of the Bronze Star). Although I was proud to serve my country and happy with my achievements, I was not happy and I could not understand why.
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@LoriDee
Dear LoriDee:I was captivated by your first post on your new Blog Thread
"The Story of Lori" You did all the things that you needed to do to "survive" and even flourish as you were biding your time to get yourself ahead in the Army.
Your Blog thread is your journal and becomes your
"HOME" here on the Forum where members can find you and catch up with your life endeavors.
I not only keep my Blog thread frequently updated but I also keep a private (for my eyes only) personal journal at home... an "old school" pen&paper three ring binder (not a fancy journal book with a nice cover) stuffed with barely legible notes, snapshot photos, memorable greeting cards and letters that my friends have given to me, etc .... On cold nights I can found sitting in my comfortable chair in front of my fireplace reading over and over my past entries, many times with tears in my eyes.
When you share your "good news" all of us on the Forum will rejoice with you... and if you report "not-so-news" we will offer our shoulder for you to lean on.
Along with your avid readers and followers, I will be eagerly looking for your future postings as you unravel your continuing "The Story of Lori" and also your postings with your comments and thoughts around the various threads on the Forum.
Many HUGS, and more HUGS
Danielle [Northern Star Girl]
While in the service, my tank crew worked very closely as a team. We became very good friends. One of my friends who was in my platoon, later arrived at my new unit when I was transferred to Germany. As we were already old friends, we hung out a lot. Rumors began to spread that possibly we were a "couple". Working so closely with members of my unit, it is easy to notice who is dating, who is married, who is the drinker, the athlete, or the nerd. One thing that was noticed about me was that I didn't date anyone, ever. In a strong hetero community, this raised questions. My old friend was married and he would jokingly tell me that I needed to get laid. I couldn't tell him that I had no interest in that. But this brought up a chink in my armor, a hole in my camouflage. It is not about appearance alone. I needed to shape myself to fit the mold so I did not stand out and attract attention.
Drinking and dating were added to my agenda. I hung out with the guys in the bars, with their girlfriends and mine. This led to a more serious relationship, marriage, and children. What could be more normal than that?
My efforts to excel in my career came at the cost of always being away from home, either at school or on some assignment. She would get lonely while I was gone, which led to affairs, which led to divorce. I did love her, but could not tolerate disloyalty. I understood her position and sympathized. I tried to make the divorce as painless as possible, more like a mutual agreement to separate. It did not go well.
I have two beautiful children, a boy and a girl. Both are grown and have kids of their own. I am not in contact with them due to a painfully bitter divorce.
Wife #2 was an alcoholic. She had a traumatic childhood in a dysfunctional family, which affected her desire for sex, and that was okay with me. Sex was never important to me. It's not that I don't enjoy it, I most certainly do. It just wasn't a priority in my life. We loved each other and were together for 15 years. She was with me when I left the service.
The VA awarded a disability pension, but I wanted to work. I worked as an Electronics Technician, specializing in alarm systems (fire, burglar, nurse call), then expanded to include computer network wiring, telephone/intercom, commercial sound systems, and master clocks in schools. One cold morning in December, I slipped on some ice in my driveway and fell. I damaged disks in my neck and required fusion of the vertebrae. My neurosurgeon told me that I was done. Total disability. The battle with Social Security took 18 months. Without sufficient income the stress levels on my wife and I were through the roof. And as if we didn't have enough going on we had a family tragedy. Her son committed suicide and she never recovered from that. Her drinking escalated and she died in a Chicago hospital waiting for a liver transplant.
Wife #3 saved my life. I was in bankruptcy and foreclosure, on the brink of being homeless, and living on $100 per month from the VA. The death of my wife left me with huge burdens and a very uncertain future. She was a friend who wanted to move closer to work, and I needed a place to live. She suggested that we get a place together. She agreed to cover expenses until my disability came through.
She kept pressuring me suggesting we should get married. Her parents were old-fashioned and disapproved of their daughter "shacking up" with some unemployed dude. I tried to explain that I did not want to be married. It has not worked out well for me. All she heard was "I don't want to marry YOU." That was not the case at all. She had been very good to me and I loved her so we got married.
Over time, our differences became magnified. We had no common interests. I would try to be involved in her interests, but I was struggling with pain issues and popping Vicodin like Skittles. I never liked the idea of being labeled as "disabled". We began different side businesses at home that I could help with. I enjoyed selling candles and jewelry, but my pain levels prevented me from doing as much as I wanted.
I began looking for alternative ways for pain management. I tried acupuncture, herbal teas, and deep tissue massages. Nothing worked. I read an article about a dentist who had a hypnotist in his clinic who would hypnotize his patients so they could do dental work without anesthesia. The patients reported no pain. I began researching this and enrolled in the HMI College of Hypnotherapy. I had just finished certification as a Clinical Hypnotist when one of my classmates told me about an international college that was looking for students for their online courses. He and I enrolled in the International College for Clinical Hypnosis Practioners. I became certified as a Hypnotherapist in the U.S. and the U.K. and I opened a clinic specializing in pain management.
Wife #3 was not impressed with any of this and seemed extremely jealous of my female patients. Arguments ensued and she believed that the reason I "never wanted to be married" was so I could play the field. My camouflage as the "manly man" was working against me. She saw the role I was so aptly playing, believed it, and automatically assumed I was using my testosterone outside of the marriage. She had an old boyfriend come back to town and no longer had time for me. We agreed to a peaceful divorce.
I had been traveling to South Dakota in the summers as I was learning about gold prospecting. Spending a month camping turned into a couple of months, then spending the entire summer there. I love South Dakota and vowed to move here, retire, and spend my time gold prospecting. I sold my hypnotherapy practice and bought an old pickup truck. I spent one winter building a camper on the back with full insulation, electric lights and heat, and a propane stove. I moved in May and lived in the forest until my apartment became available in November. I filed for divorce and put the past in the past.
In my mind, I was now living the dream. Retired, free to do as I pleased. But I still was not happy. I began to reminisce and concluded that I had not been happy at any time in my life. Sure, I had happy moments, but overall I was not a happy person. I went looking for help.
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You're a good storyteller. The story clip-clops along with enough details for spice.
Quote from: LoriDee on February 23, 2024, 09:53:26 AMFrom my earliest memories, I knew that I was different. I didn't know in what way, just different. My behaviors seemed to be misunderstood. They thought I was doing x when I was trying to do y. There were times when I was convinced that I was some kind of alien sent to Earth to observe humans. In the third grade, I spent recess periods in the nurse's office, not due to injury, but as "protective custody" from the bullies who found it entertaining to assault me daily, both verbally and physically. I confided in a friend that I did not understand why this was happening, and he told me that it was because "I cried like a girl" and they were amused by it. I vowed then and there to never cry again.
The physical assaults moved off-campus and the bullies would catch me walking home from school and beat on me. My parents' efforts in talking to the school and the parents of the bullies had no effect. I had three younger brothers (I am the oldest) and my dad decided to teach us boxing so we could defend ourselves. As the oldest, the only people I had to spar with were my younger brothers. One pop to the face, down they went with a bloody nose. Mom put an end to that right there while telling me how I was responsible for looking after them, not giving them bloody noses. My only form of self-defense was running away. I became VERY good at running. By Middle School, I made the track team.
As a teen, I had no interest in sex. I had enough lectures from my parents about morality, teen pregnancy, etc. and I found that I enjoyed hanging out with girls. They were doing something meaningful: communicating with each other, while the boys were just interested in football, wrestling, and fighting. Of course, what they saw was this nerdy guy hanging out with "their" girlfriends, while they were busy trying to impress the other guys. They thought I was trying to move in on their girls. This resulted in more physical confrontation and more running practice for me.
Later, my parents divorced and remarried. My stepfather was an abusive monster who would constantly call me names like "Mary" or "sissy". It was him that convinced me that to avoid harassment I had to "man up". I began working in his welding shop until I could find an escape.
I tried to think of the manliest job I could come up with and I would strive to get there. Back in the late 1960s and early 70s, nobody knew much about ->-bleeped-<-. In my world, there were two options. You were either gay or straight, and if you were gay, you got a beating. I knew I wasn't gay because I was not attracted to men, women, or anything. I recognize beauty and handsomeness, but I never looked at someone and thought that I would like to have sex with them. I decided that the manliest job that I could get would be to join the Army. The recruiter had no openings for the nerdy things I was interested in, like computers. He showed me three brochures: Infantry, Artillery, and Armor. Infantry involved a lot of walking. Artillery was big cannons, but that would mean hauling big bullets. Armor. Tanks. Big guns with no walking and the tank hauls its own ammo. YES. Give me a tank!
During basic training, I learned some very valuable lessons. 1. Never volunteer for anything. 2. Never admit to any skills you might possess. 3. Everyone is anti-gay, so you better be too. I learned very quickly to "man up" and do the things that were expected of a manly man. It was the perfect camouflage. I also learned how to "play the game". The military does some strange things that make no sense. "Hurry up and Wait". Don't use soap dishes, ashtrays, or trash cans because they get dirty and won't pass inspection. The only way to escape living in the barracks with a bunch of guys and no privacy was to get promoted to Sergeant. The only way to get promoted was to play the game better than anyone else. So I did. I practiced every military skill to make sure that I was the absolute best. I didn't want to be the best in my unit, I wanted to be the best in the entire Army.
My efforts paid off. I was promoted to "Acting Sergeant" months before I was eligible for promotion. Upon eligibility, I passed all the boards with flying colors and was assigned as the gunner on the company commander's tank. This brought about new challenges because I had to be the best tank gunner in the world AND I was now in a leadership position. I got moved out to private living quarters and I was not about to jeopardize that.
The Army sent me to various leadership training schools and I was in the top 10% every time. I had to. I needed to maintain my image of being the Super Soldier. I excelled in marksmanship and fell into shooting competitions that eventually led to international shooting tournaments. This earned me various awards and added to my camouflage as a manly man. My skills were not just with pistols, rifles, and machine guns, my tank crew was rated top in our battalion. My commanders took notice. They wanted me to train the rest of the company the way I trained myself and my crew. They put me in charge of company training, but it was more of a management position. I didn't determine what training needed to be done, only how to do it. I trained the trainers, and they trained their troops. I was sent to Fort Knox, Kentucky to attend Master Gunner School. That was a tough course. Scoring in the top 10% was mandatory for graduation. Score less than 90 on any test and they send you home. We started with 53 candidates and graduated 13. I was then assigned as the Master Gunner/Operations NCO.
When I left the service, I was awarded the Meritorious Service Medal (the peacetime equivalent of the Bronze Star). Although I was proud to serve my country and happy with my achievements, I was not happy and I could not understand why.
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LoriDee,
Thank you for your military service. I will read through your blog in more detail and may comment, right now I need to actually be off of here and finish up something.
But I did want to thank you right now for your service to our country.
Chrissy
A tale well-told, and just another example of how each of us arrives her through our own unique narrative.
Bonus points for the pleasant, rhyming title. I feel like the phrase "The Story of Lori" could easily be repeated over and over as a vocal warmup.😘
One of the first lessons we learned about therapy is that a good therapist will see a therapist. Psychologists see a psychologist and psychiatrists see a psychiatrist. There is nothing unusual about this. When you are trying to help someone through a trauma, they unburden themselves onto you. You must then have someone to talk to for the same reason. Additionally, if you have a situation that you are unsure how to handle, a mentor or colleague might be able to give advice.
In school, it was required for us to have a mentor. My classmate who recommended the course in England was quite competitive, so we talked frequently and helped each other. He lived in London, so we stayed in touch via Skype. I established my practice in Illinois but he moved to Thailand to study Eastern philosophy. He and I were very different in the way we approached problems and the methods we used to solve them. That made him a good therapist for me. I think someone who perceived things or did things similar to me would be too easy to agree with me. I needed a different viewpoint.
During one of our weekly meetings, where we got caught up on each other's personal lives, he suggested that I might want to talk to a local therapist in a face-to-face meeting. He said that he felt that I might be dealing with something that he would not be able to help me with. I took his advice and began meeting with a therapist. After a few months, the therapist told me something similar, that I should probably speak with a licensed psychologist, that she did not feel she was qualified to help me go further in my therapy. She suggested a psychologist that she knew and I met with him.
I explained to him that I was trying to examine my behaviors and figure out what was wrong with me. Why was I not happy? Why do I have no desire to be in a "normal" relationship? I did not blame others. In my marriages and other relationships, I was the common factor. It's hard to assume you are right and everyone else is wrong. So what was wrong with me? No matter where I went or what I did, I did not feel "normal" or like I fit in. We began a very in-depth examination of my life. It seemed like I was finally gaining some insight when disaster struck (again).
I was out goldpanning and pulled a muscle in my back. It was very painful, so I packed up my gear and began the long hike out of a very steep canyon. It began to rain and the rocks were getting slippery as I climbed a near-vertical ascent up to the parking area. I slipped on a rock and slid a short distance, but was okay. After I got home, my elbow began hurting. When I fell I landed on my elbow but did not notice at the time. I had my doctor check it out. After many tests, I needed surgery. They did an ulnar nerve transposition, which means they moved my funny bone. My only insurance was Medicare at the time, so I got hit with copays, coinsurance, and deductibles. My finances took a big hit, so my therapy sessions got put on hold.
My disability rating from the VA is due to a back injury that prevented me from doing some things but was not considered total disability. My back was still bothering me and I couldn't afford physical therapy on my arm and my back. I went to the VA to see if they could cover my physical therapy. I didn't know it, but in the decades since I had left the service the VA's policy had changed. Doc said that my disability rating was enough to cover all of my medical costs, including mental health services.
Wait. What?
Including mental health services? Absolutely.
I began seeing a VA psychologist. I permitted my previous psychologist to send his notes so we could dig right into where I left off. Sort of. Every therapist has their methodology and point of view. My new psychologist never looked at the notes. We started from scratch.
I won't embarrass myself and bore you to tears by detailing what went on in those sessions, and they were intense. But I will share what I learned. Maybe as you have been following along, wondering why I brought up this or that, or maybe you related to it, what I learned will kind of explain what was happening.
His observations had him thinking that I might be transgender. I rejected that outright. I am not gay. So we spent many sessions teaching me what gender dysphoria was and what it was not. I had to learn the difference between biological sex, gender identity, and sexual preference. As he explained, I began to remember things I learned in school about personality, identity, id, and ego. I learned about medical conditions that affect the body's sensitivity to hormones. I learned that DNA is not "binary" as many would have us believe. There is more than just XX and XY. There is also XXY and XYY even though those cases are rare. He allowed me to ask questions, never forcing any ideas upon me, just allowing me to reach my own conclusions. Things started to make sense. He said that in his opinion, I would be described as "asexual trans feminine".
All my life I viewed myself as a girl, but not in a sexual way. My astrological sign is Virgo, the Virgin. That is how I saw myself, feminine but not sexually so. When forced into stereotypical male roles I was very uncomfortable, but I fully understood the consequences if I failed. Later I learned how to fit in and at least appear normal.
I finally asked my psychologist if there was some kind of test that would help me figure out if I am transgender, and he said YES! The test is very simple. We start with Hormone Therapy. Many call it Hormone Replacement Therapy (HRT), but in this case, it is FHT (Feminizing Hormone Therapy). Do the hormones for 30 days. If there is ANY sign that this is not right, STOP immediately. Watch for depression, suicidal thoughts, moodiness, and anything that seems like something isn't right. If you experience any of these things, we will stop and look in another direction to figure out what is going on. I continued in therapy for two years before I agreed to take the test. During that time, I began studying on my own to learn all about what I was going through and what this all meant. I stumbled onto a website filled with information, anecdotes, and advice from REAL PEOPLE who were going through the same thing. It is called Susan's Place. Maybe you've heard of it?
I began taking hormones on 11 January 2020 and I feel great! Physically, I felt good, mentally I felt good. All signs pointed to THIS IS IT!
My next obstacle... the VA already knew, but how do I come out to friends and family?
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Hello Lori,
Your story is captivating! Both because it so well composed but also because we all have lived similar lives. Thank you for sharing and I'm looking forward to your next installments!
Warmly,
Brooke
Hi LoriYou mentioned the following in one of your posts:
Quote from: LoriDee on February 24, 2024, 12:02:33 AMI stumbled onto a website filled with information, anecdotes, and advice from REAL PEOPLE who were going through the same thing. It is called Susan's Place. Maybe you've heard of it?
Is it any good?
Quote from: LoriDee on February 24, 2024, 12:02:33 AMI began taking hormones on 11 January 2020 and I feel great! Physically, I felt good, mentally I felt good. All signs pointed to THIS IS IT!
About bloody time, your story is fascinating Lori, will wait with abated breath for further installments.
Quote from: LoriDee on February 24, 2024, 12:02:33 AMMy next obstacle... the VA already knew, but how do I come out to friends and family?
VA already knew?
Tell one member of the family and Chinese whispers will ensue.
Best Wishes and HugsSarah B
I have always been an introvert. My psychologist says that it is at least partly due to past traumas. I learned early on how to be alone without being lonely. I had to. In Middle School, I was introduced to the works of Edgar Allan Poe. The beginning of his poem, "Alone" brought me to tears.
From childhood's hour I have not been
As others were—I have not seen
As others saw—I could not bring
My passions from a common spring—
From the same source I have not taken
My sorrow—I could not awaken
My heart to joy at the same tone—
And all I lov'd—I lov'd alone—
I would always have a few friends, but no one that I could really share my innermost feelings with. I tried with my spouses, but there was no way to explain what I did not understand myself. In two years of therapy, I began to learn what I was going through enough to accept that this is who I am. I learned enough that I could explain it to someone if they were willing to listen with an open mind.
The VA already knew that I was transgender. My Primary Care Physician submitted the consult to Mental Health Services. My Psychologist entered a diagnosis of "Gender Dysphoria" and recommended hormone therapy. This brought me back to my Primary, who then submitted a consult to Endocrinology to begin hormone therapy... medications being filled through the VA Pharmacy, and lab technicians who draw blood to monitor said hormones. So my entire Health Care Team was on board, and it was all documented in my health records. But no one else had a clue.
[SIDEBAR] Why do we call it "Gender" Dysphoria? We do not have a problem with our gender. It is Body Dysphoria, and it applies to people who are not transgender as well. We don't try to change our gender, we change our bodies to match our gender. [End Sidebar]
I am a very introspective person. I often think about my behaviors, appearance, and spirituality. Usually overthinking everything. I had gone through the process of accepting who I was and decided that I would no longer play the role I had been forced into my entire life. I was going to be ME.
BUT... (why is there always a but?) In my introspection, I often play the "What if?" game.
What if I tell everyone that I am transgender, and some new test comes along that proves conclusively that I am not?
What if my psychologist was WAY off base?
How do you go back and say "Oops, my bad"?
I don't think there would be any way to recover from that, except maybe to blame it on a brain tumor or something. This weighed heavily on my mind. I even asked my psychologist about this. I asked him how he knew that I am transgender and not a transvestite. Both are classified under the category of transvestism. He said, "We already covered that." Oh?
"Yes. Textbook transvestites are sexually aroused from cross-dressing, and you told me that you are not aroused, just comfortable as if it were nothing different."
Back and forth we went. I finally confessed that I had not come out to anyone and wasn't sure it was even necessary. He disagreed. So we drew up a sheet of Pros and Cons that I was to think over and fill in over the next month. The basic questions were:
1. By telling _______, how will that change their life? How will it change mine?
2. By not telling ________, how will that change their life? How will it change mine?
It was not as easy as it looked. I changed that list many, many times. And still got it wrong.
I jumped on the second question first because that is the easiest. If I don't tell anybody, nobody knows and neither of us is affected. Easy.
But if I tell _____, then they will change their opinion of me. I could lose a friend/family member. Can I live with that? Hmmm. I don't know.
Eventually, the hormones will kick in and it will be difficult to hide my new look. WAIT!
If I hide who I am, play the role expected of me, then nothing has changed. That is obviously not the answer either.
I kept debating this with myself back and forth for months. In the meantime, I had set up a second email address as Lori Dee. I played a lot of online video games and expressed myself through that persona.
I expected the biggest resistance to come from my step-mother. She is a wonderful person, but a devout Catholic. If she disapproves of anything, my dad will follow suit. Next would be my brother. I have two living younger brothers. We lost the youngest in a tragedy when we were all kids. The oldest of the two did some despicable things to me decades ago and we haven't spoken since. My youngest brother and I were always close. I will try to broach the subject with him and maybe get some ideas about how to talk to my dad about this.
My brother is an Over-The-Road truck driver. Occasionally, his route will bring him into town, so we have a chance to catch up. COVID happened and we decided to pause meeting in person for a bit. He is a fundamentalist Christian with VERY strong opinions. When we did meet up, we barely got through the small talk and he began criticizing the words I used. I hadn't even gotten to a point where I could bring up important stuff. I had said "goddamn" and he heard me taking the Lord's name in vain. I told him it was one word not two. He rolled his eyes and I agreed to work on it. I waited on talking to him about more important issues
Several months went by and I sent my mom & dad an email. Just basic catching up, this is what happened this week kind of stuff. I am a gold prospector and they enjoy seeing photos of the Black Hills and reading about how much gold I hauled in that week. I hit send and realized that I had sent it to them from the wrong email address. [insert panic attack]
I quickly sent an email from my dead-name address explaining that I just used the wrong address. My dad called me and wanted to ask questions. Why are you using an alias? I told him everything. I was three years into HRT and five years since I started therapy. He had a lot of questions and I explained it as best I could.
The next day, I got an email from my mom. Here we go. She said that they would support me no matter what I was going through. If I preferred, they would address me as "Lori" and the bottom line is that I am loved no matter what. I was shocked, but it was SO welcomed.
Next, I got a phone call from my dad. He assured me that he loves me dearly, BUT...
he was there when I was born and I will ALWAYS be his SON. I tried to explain the difference between sex and gender but he had other things to do rather than listen to me. And he insisted on calling me "Larry".
I sent an email to my mom. I thanked her for being so supportive and agreeing to address me by my LEGAL NAME. I assured her that I understood that it did not mean she agreed with what I am doing, or even that she understands what I am doing. The fact that she was willing to try to comply with my wishes was greatly appreciated. After that, Dad changed his mind on how he should interact with me. He tries to call me Lori.
My brother called and told me that he and other family members were setting up a 50th wedding anniversary party for my parents. He invited me to join and help out. Time to tell him. I explained that my appearance had changed dramatically since he last saw me, and told him the whole story. His last words to me were that I was "an abomination in the eyes of God" and that he was angry. He would never accept this. I told him I understood his feelings and that his reasoning was flawed. He has no authority to speak on behalf of God, and his refusal to accept me is due to his lack of knowledge on the subject. I said I will always love you, Brother. And he hung up.
Next was my cousin. Her father, my dad's brother, always lived fairly close to us. All of us kids grew up together. My brothers and I had no sisters, and my cousin had no brothers, so we got along more as siblings than cousins. I was talking to her on the phone and told her I had something important to tell her. I told her the story, the abridged version, not what I have been sharing here. She was delighted! Our conversation quickly changed to clothes and make-up and such. She begged me to send her pictures. I had taken a few over the years and sent her those. She called me back and said, "Don't take this the wrong way, but you are a prettier girl than you were a handsome man." Made my day. ;D
Next, I called her dad, my favorite uncle. By then, word had spread. I told him my story. He asked a few questions, then said he didn't care what I did. It is MY life and he would love and support me no matter what. He has always been there for my family and I really thought he might become distant. Nothing changed. We are just as close as ever.
In a recent conversation with my dad, he brought up that I had "hid" this from him for years. I explained my Pros and Cons list and why I waited. He said that I had forgotten something that was a very important factor. In my deliberations, I never gave him a chance to decide for himself. By not being forthcoming, I was almost being dishonest. I assured him that I am no different now than I have been all my life. The only difference is that now he has information, intimate details, about my life that I had never shared before with anyone.
The moral of this story is that no matter how much you overthink it, it all boils down to honesty. When you deceive others, you are also deceiving yourself. Our entire transition is about being true to ourselves about who we are. Be honest with others too. Let them decide if they will accept it or not.
Some will accept it. Some will accept it and be supportive. Some will have nothing to do with you anymore. Do you need that negativity in your life? Probably not. Surround yourself with loving people who accept you for who you are. Everyone else is basing their decisions on appearances, bigotry, and/or misinformation. Help them understand. But allow them the courtesy to decide if they want to be a part of your life. It is YOUR life after all. Live it!
I'd love to change my gender. I don't know how. I don't think anyone else does either. Transitioning is all I have been offered.
Quote from: REM.1126 on February 25, 2024, 10:09:36 PMI'd love to change my gender. I don't know how. I don't think anyone else does either. Transitioning is all I have been offered.
Your gender is a facet of your identity. You can no more change it than you can change your soul. It is who you are in this lifetime. There are psychological techniques that can be used to alter or disguise your gender, but it would just be a facade. You cannot be happy if you are being untrue to your self. I can explain why that is, but it would be beyond the scope of this blog. I may address some of these issues over in the Spirituality section at a later date.
Quote from: REM.1126 on February 25, 2024, 10:09:36 PMI'd love to change my gender. I don't know how. I don't think anyone else does either. Transitioning is all I have been offered.
We were born female. An unfortunate birth defect caused us to be 'assigned male at birth'. It took us a long time to discover the error, even though we knew something was wrong for decades. Now we have a choice. We can either continue living the charade we've been forced to live by family and society, or we can allow our soul to escape the darkness in which it has been imprisoned since birth. Both options are painful, but one option will allow us to find the happiness we have sought for most of our life.
Love always -- Jessica Rose
In my case, I don't sense that I was born female. I am not non-binary, I like the binary and want to be in the female side. But, I was born mixed.
My neurology was and is feminine (according to the radiologist that looked at my CTScan). He wouldn't believe the images were my brain, and kept insisting a mistake had been made because this was clearly a female patient's brain, and I was clearly not female. When he finally became convinced it was me, he was embarrassed and literally ran down the hall, telling me I was ok and he left the room.
But, anatomically I was born male. I have a DSD. My body doesn't produce some needed hormones for sexual development. Without medication, my T levels are too low to be detected. The lab ran them repeatedly, each technician thinking the others had messed up the test.
My body is mixed. My gender is feminine. My neurology is feminine, my genitalia is masculine (ridiculously small, but masculine nonetheless).
Not that it matters, but I don't want to be mixed. I want to be happy one way or the other. I guess there is some non-binary person who would be delighted with my body.
Another well-told installment, Lori. Still estranged from your truck-driving brother?*
Thanks for sharing this:
"From childhood's hour I have not been
As others were—I have not seen
As others saw—I could not bring
My passions from a common spring—
From the same source I have not taken
My sorrow—I could not awaken
My heart to joy at the same tone—
And all I lov'd—I lov'd alone—"
So apt.
*Taking the Lord's name in vain means much more than Christians think. If I fail to complete a novel, I wrote in vain. If I secretly pine for someone, I love in vain. If a Christian beseeches God for divine intervention and Heaven is silent, that person asked in vain, WHICH happens countless times everyday. Applying my above average understanding of language, the Bible warns us to NOT ASK God for gifts in vain.
The etymology of vanity is "that which is vain, futile, or worthless."
So, don't treat God as a concierge, a gofer, or personal assistant. To do so is the veriest vanity.
Lori, wonderful post.
What struck me, probably because I'm at the phase of telling folks, is the idea of people being upset that we were lying and/or keeping this from them for years and/or decades.
I think of all the things people could be upset with me about, that is the one I am best equipped to handle. I can't speak for all of us, but I would think most would feel similarly - if I was lying to anyone for an extended period of time, it was to myself, first and foremost.
It was only when I finally started telling myself the truth, did I immediately start to get a handle on what the truth actually was, so I could share it with the important people in my life.
Years ago, every sentence would have been couched with "I think..." and "I hope not, but.." and every other sort of equivocation and naïveté. That wouldn't have done anyone any good.
Again, thanks for being so thoughtful and open, and sharing your story.
Love,
Allie
@ Oldandcreaky
Yes, he has still not contacted me. I have heard through the rumor mill that he is being "openly unsupportive" for lack of a better term. I feel sorry for people who have such closed minds. They fail to learn things and then become prone to repeat their mistakes. If he comes around, I will accept any apology offered. If not... my life goes on.
QuoteYes, he has still not contacted me.
^This^ speaks to his character.
QuoteI will accept any apology offered.
^This^ speaks to your character.
Yesterday, I met with my new Gynecologist. I had been under the care of an Endocrinologist. When she retired from the VA they had no more Endocrinology Department. They transferred my care to a community (non-VA) provider. Now (2024) they have a new policy that all care will be handled within the VA if the services are available. They canceled my authorization to continue with the Endocrinologist and brought me in-house to the Women's Health Department.
I was pretty upset that they did this without asking me how I felt about it, or even bothering to tell me they were doing it. I found out when they scheduled the appointment.
Anyway... while I was being bounced around among Endocrinology departments, my new Gynecologist was on hiatus in Europe studying transgender medicine. She is now back and the VA brought me under her care. She is a wonderful woman. My appointment was scheduled for one hour since I was technically a new patient to her. We covered my history, issues I have had with various medicines (oral vs patches), other concerns I had, and what my goals were. She spent two hours with me.
One of the issues is electrolysis. No one in this area does it. My Dermatologist attempted laser hair removal, but my beard is gray. She told me I must have electrolysis. The Medical Chief of Staff agreed that it would be "medically necessary" for MtF transgender veterans. Over the past three years, I have begged them to find a way to send me wherever I need to go to get it done. They are the Federal Government. If the only place available is in Puerto Rico, then why am I not on a plane?
I also told her that about three years ago I asked about voice training. My Endo at that time contacted the Voice Therapist at Fort Meade VA and was told "No". I don't know if the therapist was not qualified, unwilling, or what. But the answer was still "no".
Today, I had an appointment with my Psychologist to show me how to use the Biofeedback machine as Stress Management training. It was a fun experience. I have never used any biofeedback device, so this was very interesting to me. And she enjoyed showing it off.
After the appointment, she told me that our LGBTQ++ Care Coordinator had found a way for me to get voice lessons. Apparently, it is a national program called GAFF?? Gender Affirming {something something}? So she is arranging Tele-Medicine appointments to get me started on that. She also said that she has been in contact with other LGBTQ++ Care Coordinators at other VA Medical Centers in our region. Some vets have been able to get beard removal and pre-op electrolysis, but there is some special way to get it approved. They have discovered the secret handshake needed and are working on it. They will let me know if they can get it approved for me. [Hallelujah!]
After two years of stasis, I am finally seeing action to help me move forward. I am very thankful.
Quote from: LoriDee on February 27, 2024, 06:18:21 PMAfter two years of stasis, I am finally seeing action to help me move forward. I am very thankful.
Lori,
Very happy for you that you are able to start moving forward.
Ellen
Lori,
That is wonderful news. So glad this change has worked out for the better and to aid you further. Hugs
Mariah
QuoteAfter two years of stasis, I am finally seeing action to help me move forward. I am very thankful.
I'm thankful for you too.
[POSSIBLE TRIGGER WARNING]
When I came out to my parents, my dad had many questions. One of them was whether or not I would change my birth certificate. I told him that I had no plans to.
My birth certificate is a historical document. For our friends across the pond, an historical document. ;D There is no place to record gender, and the doctors and staff have no way of knowing what the gender will be. So from my point of view, the record is accurate. It describes the observations of medical personnel at that moment in history. I am not ashamed and I have no intentions of trying to erase my past. It starts with birth certificates, school records, military records, and on and on. There is no reason to change any of it.
As many have pointed out, we are not the same person anymore. I acknowledge who I was then and what I achieved. I learned a lot from that person, and what he learned shaped the woman I am today... good and bad.
I was inspired by Susan's progression photos showing what she looked like over the years. I think it is brave and a bit therapeutic to be able to look at where you came from and see how far you have come. I don't believe anyone on this forum has any doubt that Susan is an amazing and wonderful woman.
As a part of The Story of Lori, I will share with you where I came from. [POSSIBLE TRIGGER WARNING]
If you don't want to see me in a beard, or stitches from eye surgery, proceed no further.
The Story of Lori (Photos) (https://imgur.com/a/AEZXBWe)
Love love love this Lori. :icon_flower:
I, of course, 100% percent understand and respect those who determine and decide that the best course of action for themselves is to erase all traces of their life up to the point of transition. Whatever works for an individual is the right answer for that person - it's beyond dispute.
I just happen to come at this the way you do. When I came out to our son I described it like this:
"I wouldn't change anything about my life up to this point. I'm right where I'm meant to be. With your mom and with you. I don't regret a single second of any of it."
That doesn't mean that I didn't spend years with crushing guilt, confusion, longing to make the crispy shell match the noughty center... but that's all part of what got me here. It's all part of the totality that will make me the woman I am and will continue to grown into.
So especially with friends and family... it's nothing I am ashamed of.
Love,
Allie
@imallie Exactly! Well said.
We all walk our own paths. This one is mine. Sometimes we meet people on different paths. Sometimes our paths cross. Sometimes we go in opposite directions. It doesn't mean anything except we are on our own path.
Hugs.
I am going to vent here for a moment because I want to strangle someone. Well, not really. But...
When I first started my transitioning, the VA told me that my care would be handled by the Minneapolis VA Endocrinology Department. I had several appointments with them via telemedicine. They did the initial 1,000-question interview to ask every conceivable question to be absolutely certain that I understood what I was doing and the risks involved. They wrote my first prescriptions. I got tired of seeing different interns each time who would keep asking the same questions. You have informed consent, can we PLEASE move on? Finally, I talked to my Primary Physician and told her I wanted to see someone local. Someone who will get to know me and I can get to know them. She made it happen.
Three times I requested electrolysis for hair removal. No one in the VA here does it. No one in the local community does it. So my requests were closed as "Service Not Available". I did a Google search for electrolysis and came up with 20 providers in this region. Denver had 14. There is a school in Wisconsin. Chicago will sedate you with general anesthesia so multiple technicians can clear you in one session. I gave my list to the Community Care Coordinator. She claims that she called every one of them. They are all a cash/credit provider and demand payment at the time of service. They don't want to wait for the VA to write them a check 3 months later. Since the VA does not pay with cash or credit, "Service Not Available".
Fast forward to this week. I was speaking to my LGBTQ++ Care Coordinator and she has been in conferences with other Coordinators throughout the Region and at the National level. She said they have contacted every State Health Department and requested a list of all licensed electrolysis providers in that state. Then they called each one and asked if they would be interested in working with the VA to help veterans needing hair removal. One said yes and is already signed up. Another one said yes and is in the process of doing the paperwork.
Tonight I stumbled onto the Minneapolis VA website. Under the heading, "Transgender, gender expansive, non-binary Veterans' guide to navigating Minneapolis VA" is a list of services that the Minneapolis VA provides. Going down the list I read:
"Hair removal
Veterans in the Minneapolis VA Health Care System are eligible for facial hair removal by laser or electrolysis. This care is provided through a care in the community consult. If you have been diagnosed with gender dysphoria, your primary care or mental health provider can submit a community care dermatology consult for this medically necessary procedure to alleviate symptoms of gender dysphoria."
In other words, the Minneapolis VA already has a provider that they are sending veterans to. So why did this not come up early in my transition when my care was through the Minneapolis VA? Why was this not brought up during the Midwest Care Coordinator Conferences that happen every week? Why didn't anyone know this until I found the website by accident and sent a link to my Care Coordinator?
Who the hell is steering this boat?
Come Monday, somebody got some 'splaining to do.
{End of Rant}
Thank you for attending this Ted Talk.
Wow... how far down the road out of pocket are you on hair removal, Lori?
I guess the good news is, hopefully this means you can get it covered going forward. But I wonder if there's any chance for reimbursement for past expenses? I'd guess not but who knows?
All my electrolysis has been out of pocket.. $85 per week, for 16 months now.
It's funny, I remember people saying that hair removal for your face would cost like $10k and I thought that was crazy... but now I get it completely.
Lori, typical government run agency. If you don't specify exactly, fill out every forum correctly, its on you. They love to say the have made available $xxx in funds for... but make it almost impossible for anyone to get.
Good luck.
Hugs Gina
Quote from: imallie on March 02, 2024, 11:11:08 PMWow... how far down the road out of pocket are you on hair removal, Lori?
I guess the good news is, hopefully this means you can get it covered going forward. But I wonder if there's any chance for reimbursement for past expenses? I'd guess not but who knows
My problem is that there is no one local who does it. I would have to travel at least four hours driving to the nearest one. I can't afford to fly. Flights in and out of Rapid City start at $500 round-trip.
So I have to deal with it as best I can. I have tried creams, blades, electrics, and epilators (OUCH!).
@Gina P is right. The VA moves at the speed of government. They have been making us promises since 2016 and no meaningful action in that direction. Lots of political rhetoric.
I talked to my psychologist about this. Is it any wonder that I am stressed out, frustrated, and depressed? That is the magic word. They freak out over depression because veterans (especially LGBTQ Veterans) have a high rate of suicide. I have told them that my spirituality will not allow me to commit suicide, but the diagnosis of "moderate to severe depression" lit a fire under them. Now that I have their attention I use that as leverage to force them to do their jobs. My Trans Care Coordinator told me to advocate for myself, be demanding, and hold their feet to the fire. So that is what I am doing. At least now, I can almost see a light at the end of the tunnel. Hopefully, it isn't an oncoming train. ;D
Oh I'm so so sorry to hear ALL of that. People talk about the pain of electrolysis... and I don't discount anyone who does experience it that way... but for me it is beyond a doubt the most affirming hour I spend each week.
Everyone's transition is unique to them, however. So I hope and pray you are able to find a solution to this as soon as possible that works for you. The way you are self-advocating makes me confident that if there IS a way to crack this, you will find it!!
Good luck!
Allie
Received a message from my Trans Care Coordinator, regarding hair removal issues.
Yes, Minneapolis has a non-VA provider that they use. No, Minneapolis is not part of the community in Rapid City, SD. It is not a question of whether I need it. It is not a question of it being "medically necessary". Previous requests for LOCAL care have been authorized, then died on someone's desk as "service not available".
The issue is this: Rapid City VA and the Black Hills System have no one local. Minneapolis does, but it is a non-VA provider. (Think HMO out of network). Minneapolis can send vets to their provider. Rapid City can send vets to the Minneapolis VA, but not a non-VA provider in Minneapolis.
So what they are working on is an authorization for travel to Minneapolis for medical care. That may mean I have to check in at the Minn. VA and then let them refer me to their local provider. They can authorize travel and expenses only under specific circumstances, so they are trying to word the request so it hits all of the checkboxes and gets approved. It feels like no one has ever transitioned in South Dakota through the VA and I am out there swinging my machete, clearing a path through the jungle. I'm ok with that, but I know that I am not the first veteran to transition through VA in this area and I am not the only one now.
It's a good thing that 14+ years of Army training has helped me develop the critical skill of "Hurry up and Wait". {sigh} More to follow
Hi AllieQuote from: imallie on March 03, 2024, 12:27:36 PMOh I'm so so sorry to hear ALL of that. People talk about the pain of electrolysis... and I don't discount anyone who does experience it that way... but for me it is beyond a doubt the most affirming hour I spend each week.
One needle or 16 needles, at a time? ;) :D ;D
Hugs and HugsSarah B
Quote from: Sarah B on March 05, 2024, 10:53:09 AMHi Allie
One needle or 16 needles, at a time? ;) :D ;D
Hugs and Hugs
Sarah B
Just one, and a lot of lot of laughs.
My quarterly Botox is 40 injections, many of them much closer to my eye... and while that doc is super nice, very kind and gentle... not nearly as many laughs. Plus, she doesn't yet know I'm trans. 🤫😂. No, I need to tell her.. likely at our session next month.
It's just REALLY difficult to find a time to shock someone when they are really close to your face with dozens of ultra sharp needles. Surprisingly, it does not naturally come up in conversation.
The latest in another saga with the VA.
I legally changed my name in December 2022. I sent copies of the court order to everyone (VA, Social Security, credit bureaus, banks, credit card companies, vehicle registration, and driver's license.)
I moved into my new apartment in August 2023 and notified the VA of my new address. On the website portal, after logging in, I can access a Health Summary document which is a copy of my medical records that I can download and share with non-VA providers.
I noticed that my address was not correct. Just a minor thing, they forgot to put the apt number and the last four of the zip code is wrong. Then I noticed under the insurance providers section, my deadname listed about ten times in various spellings and variations. One of those entries was a nickname, and the Medicare account number isn't even mine!
I have talked to the Administration office and they showed me their computer screen. That is not what they have on file for me. They show my correct legal name, address, and account number. Then I went to Patient Accounts and talked to them. They have a very nice woman whose title is Insurance Billing Verifier. She showed me her computer screen. She has the correct information on file and no outdated stuff. So where is the information in my online records coming from?
I logged into VA.gov and checked there. Everything they have on file is correct and accurate. I contacted the Help Desk and submitted problem tickets. Later I got an email saying the ticket was closed and the issue was "resolved". I logged in and nothing changed.
Last week, while talking with my Trans Care Coordinator, we were talking about my stress levels and various triggers. They work in the Mental Health department with my psychologist. I asked her what I would need to do to have my deadname completely removed from my medical records. She started investigating.
She is friends with a new Help Desk representative and she explained my situation. I had taken screenshots of what is in my file vs what is in the VA records and the records held here in my local health care system. I suspect that somehow somebody's records got mixed up with mine and the two are linked. I wonder if there is a veteran out there somewhere complaining about his Gender Dysphoria diagnosis and subsequent appointments with Gynecology.
I got a call this morning from the Help Desk rep. He said I needed to call the Help Desk number and a technician should be able to get this resolved. I told him I had done that many, many times without success. Maybe he alerted someone that I was calling. So, I called and explained who I was and what the problem was. They can't help me because they cannot see my records. Hence they can't change anything in them. I need to call the Local Help Desk Coordinator to get that changed. Got the number and the extension.
I call and get the standard menu. I enter the extension number. Another menu, I wait and get a voicemail. I leave my contact info and a detailed explanation of what I need help with. A few minutes later, I got a call from the same guy who called me this morning and sent me on this goose chase.
He explained that he cannot see my records and, therefore cannot change anything in them. However, he is willing to escalate the issue to someone who can. He agreed to meet me tomorrow at the clinic after my doctor's appointment. We will sit down with documents in hand and he will call God or somebody to finally get the issue to the right person. After nine months or so, it still has not been resolved. How hard can it be to fix an address?
So what did I do this afternoon? SHOPPING!
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@LoriDee
Dear Lori:You had such high hopes for a good outcome with your face-to-face
meeting today with the VA people...
.... and unfortunately you hit the government red-tape brick wall.
So, I was glad to read that after the disappointing meeting with the VA you
proceeded to have "shopping therapy" .... one of my favorite things to do
when things go wrong during the day, and chocolate helps too.
I trust that you will finally get things resolved... you need to continue
to be persistent. The squeaky wheel gets the grease, but don't squeak
too much and in an aggressive way.... wheels like that get replaced and/or
removed.
Kindness, understanding and polite attitude... and persistence
will hopefully help unblock the bureaucratic brick wall.
Get some ice cream, chocolate, and buy a new pair of shoes...
... that usually helps me in times of distress.
HUGS and many more HUGS,
Danielle
Lori,
I am sorry for all the problems you are having. FYI, I had a similar issue at my pharmacy. It took forever for them to find the software bug that was causing the automated phone system to say my <deadname>.
Ellen
I am using their own rules against them.
You want to contact me? Fix my address.
Stop triggering me with all these wrong names in my file.
And the other one was in the Allergies section. It says that there is no allergy assessment on file at the West LA VA Medical Center. Of course not, I've never been there!
So where is the allergy assessment that was done here a year ago? Why isn't that in my records?
The Help Desk Rep admitted that these errors could be quite serious. I didn't tell him that all 80 tests were negative and I have no allergies. But what if it said I was allergic to penicillin? And it isn't listed in my medical records. Tomorrow is the face-to-face meeting. I have all my documents. Hopefully, I have their attention now. Squeaky persistence. ;D
A quick update.
I had an appointment with a Nutritionist this morning to discuss my low vitamin levels in February's labs. The Help Desk Rep (Carl) agreed to meet me at the clinic too.
I was expecting bad weather so I left early. (Of course, now it is a beautiful sunny day). I was early enough to speak with Carl before checking in for my appointment. We went over all of my documents and records. With screenshots printed out, he was able to see what I see when I log in. He told me that he had already escalated my case to the National level and that he would forward the documents I gave him. Things are looking up.
Then I met with the Nutritionist who didn't tell me much that I didn't already know. "Eat more vegetables". My response was "Have you been to the store lately?". Ok, I will work on that. She gave me a bunch of handouts from the FDA on meal planning, shopping lists, etc. Overall, a good visit.
Then I got home and began reading all of what she gave me. According to the meal planner I will need to buy turkey, chicken, tuna, Canadian bacon, oranges, apples, grapes, bananas, lettuce, tomatoes, fruit juices, vegetable juices, potatoes, noodles, hamburger buns, whole wheat bread, and dinner rolls.
Right.
1. That would cost more than what I pay to rent my apartment. (not an exaggeration).
2. Most of that would spoil before I could eat it all. I know because it has happened many times.
3. I would need a much bigger refrigerator/freezer just to hold it all.
I am not a good cook and I don't enjoy cooking. But I agreed to try to develop better habits and maybe build a new skill set. But with depression comes a lack of motivation and energy.
I do recognize that there are many things that I need to work on, and they are all interconnected. But conflicting advice is not helpful. Buy this much food. but Watch your budget. Exercise outdoors in the sun to get some vitamin D. but Stay out of the sun, you have already had 7 skin cancers removed. Wear sunscreen. but Wash your face four times a day or more.
Sometimes it feels like I have one foot nailed to the floor and I am running in circles going nowhere.
It will work out and I'll get there. Baby steps, one at a time. Any progress is still progress and I count my blessings every night.
Dont think much of your nutritionist , avoid fruit juice as its full of sugar, no white bread as its "empty" calories. Avoid ready meals as they are full of chemicals, salt, sugar and fat. Plan your meals with a good balance of veg and meat and only buy what you will eat that week (thats if you do a weekly shop) Frozen veg and fish is a good store cupboard standby as well as tinned veg.
Thanks. My Primary warned me about fruit juice. She said when you eat the fruit, it has fiber which slows digestion so you don't get a spike in blood sugar. With juice, it goes straight into the bloodstream with nothing slowing it down.
I questioned why I needed bread and buns and dinner rolls. The intent is to provide a variety. Fine. But I eat when I am hungry and for no other reason. Occasionally, I will treat myself to a Buffalo Burger or a steak dinner. But for the day-to-day meals, protein is protein. I switch between chicken, pork, and tuna. I have been slacking on the veggies, so I will start incorporating more of them into my meals.
Thanks for the advice!
Hugs!
Maybe get some cooking lessons? or at least a basic cook book. I taught myself to cook and I mostly live of Indian food cooked from scratch following recipes from my 12 Indian cook books. I also have a recipes for one or two book that is easy to follow as well as several other good cook books. Batch cook meals as well and freeze them in meal sized containers, that cuts cost of cooking and saves ingredients. Not often I have to throw food out, if veg is going over its best I make a mixed veg curry.
There is a cooking class being offered to the residents of our apartment building from March 20 - April 17th. I have thought about it. I don't want to sign up for the class if it is something that I won't enjoy. I gave it some serious thought as I read through the brochure. My dysphoria would be in hyper-drive and the brochure says "Bring your kids!". Knowing the people in this building, it would be total chaos and I would be more annoyed than interested.
I do have a book, not a cookbook, that has recipes in it. The book is "Staying Healthy with Nutrition" by Elson M. Haas, MD. "The Complete Guide to Diet and Nutritional Medicine" was our textbook for a class I took decades ago. It covers everything from vitamins to carbohydrates, and has some recipes and special diets, like for diabetics or to relieve other issues, like arthritis. I bought a second copy for my parents. It is a hefty volume, clocking in at over 920 pages counting the index. I mostly use it now as a reference, but in class, we read it cover to cover.
Sounds like it is time to dust it off and see what I forgot.
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Quote from: LoriDee on March 07, 2024, 08:58:44 PMI am using their own rules against them.
You want to contact me? Fix my address.
Stop triggering me with all these wrong names in my file.
And the other one was in the Allergies section. It says that there is no allergy assessment on file at the West LA VA Medical Center. Of course not, I've never been there!
So where is the allergy assessment that was done here a year ago? Why isn't that in my records?
The Help Desk Rep admitted that these errors could be quite serious. I didn't tell him that all 80 tests were negative and I have no allergies. But what if it said I was allergic to penicillin? And it isn't listed in my medical records. Tomorrow is the face-to-face meeting. I have all my documents. Hopefully, I have their attention now. Squeaky persistence. ;D
LoriDee,
How did this meeting go?
Chrissy
@ChrissyRyan Good thanks! The post got buried on the previous page, but thanks for asking!
Hugs!
Lori - feel free to pm me and we can discuss diet and meal planning as much or little as you would like. Happy to be a resource. Aside from my own personal 175+ lbs weight loss, I then got nutrition certified so I better understood the science beyond what I'd accomplished so that not only could I continue it, but help others.
Again happy to help/discuss things if you'd like. If not, no worries!
Love,
Allie
The class I took was a certification in Nutrition and Wellness by the AFPA (American Fitness Professionals Association). They mostly certify Personal Trainers and the course was part of their training. I only wanted the N&W part, so got a discount on tuition. At that time, I was still recovering from neck surgery (cervical fusion of C6-C7 vertebrae) and my disability claims were still being reviewed. A friend of mine set me up selling Shaklee products for income. I thought the certification might be a great marketing tool, but (like you) I wanted to be able to speak with people intelligently about nutrition and general wellness.
That would have been back around 2001 - 2002, so a little while ago. Since then... life... and I sort of stopped paying attention to what I was doing. The same thing happened with my mental health. I retired as a hypnotherapist and closed my practice almost ten years ago. I stopped paying attention to my own mental health. I have had a bit of a wake-up call, so now I am getting back on track.
Thank you for the kind offer! I might just take you up on it someday. Hugs!
Quote from: LoriDee on March 08, 2024, 05:58:45 PMThe class I took was a certification in Nutrition and Wellness by the AFPA (American Fitness Professionals Association). They mostly certify Personal Trainers and the course was part of their training. I only wanted the N&W part, so got a discount on tuition. At that time, I was still recovering from neck surgery (cervical fusion of C6-C7 vertebrae) and my disability claims were still being reviewed. A friend of mine set me up selling Shaklee products for income. I thought the certification might be a great marketing tool, but (like you) I wanted to be able to speak with people intelligently about nutrition and general wellness.
That would have been back around 2001 - 2002, so a little while ago. Since then... life... and I sort of stopped paying attention to what I was doing. The same thing happened with my mental health. I retired as a hypnotherapist and closed my practice almost ten years ago. I stopped paying attention to my own mental health. I have had a bit of a wake-up call, so now I am getting back on track.
Thank you for the kind offer! I might just take you up on it someday. Hugs!
That all sounds good, Lori. Yeah, I did mine through PN (Precision Nutrition).
But I have kind of taken all that really just to validate the things I learned in my journey, and have evolved it from there. Because, as you know, what works for me, will not necessarily work for you. The principles will... they might help guide you to some set of "Lori rules"... but that's it.
By the way, just one little thing to get back to something you mentioned earlier after your appt with the nutritionist, and how she wanted you to go to the store and spend your life savings on fruits and veggies?
Yes, it's true that while everyone should fill 1/2 their plates with veggies, and eat all the fruit they can...that stuff is not only expensive, but also often there can be a great deal of food waste, when items go bad too quickly, or if you get items that never ripen, etc.
One solution that people for some reason think is less-than - shop for fruits and veggies in your freezer section. The are so much less expensive, they are ALL picked and packaged at their peak of flavor, and it is by far the most cost effective way to get your fruits and veggies.
Yes, if you planned to eat them raw, you need fresh. But if you're cooking, baking, etc... frozen is the way to go. It also is the alternative to pre-packaged meals. It's the compromise. You can also get flash frozen chicken breasts, and have them and veggies in the freezer, so you literally just need some sort of sauce you like that you can heat up and you will always have a high protein, nutrient-dense meal at the ready with limited cooking time and effort.
Love,
Allie
Thanks, Allie!
I forgot about frozen fruit. I was buying canned because it stays good until I am ready to eat it. I would buy a bag of apples to munch on as a snack, but halfway through the bag, I found some that were badly bruised and even rotting. Ugh. I don't reward bad behavior or poor quality. I stopped giving them my money and bought them at other stores.
My dysphoria doesn't allow me to go shopping every week. If I am already out running errands or for appointments, I will stop and pick up supplies. I do grocery shopping about twice a month, so things need to last at least a week.
Allie, my dear, I believe you have given me the answer. When I am picking up frozen veggies, I will grab fruit too! Now I want some frozen strawberries over pound cake. ;D
Hugs!
Also SOOO great for making smoothies. No need for ice when you're already using frozen fruit!
Apples can be cored and sliced down, zapped in the microwave and then frozen . Great for a pie filling or crumble.
The weather is warming up rapidly. Today I had to clean out the rock tumblers. The stones are now running through a cleaning cycle of borax, then they will get inspected. Those that need more work will go back to the same or earlier stage. Those that are ready will move to the next stage.
I have three stones that will not shine when polished. The material is too porous to take a shine. All three are being done by request. One is a heart-shaped stone a gal found and she had me engrave an initial into it and it will become a key ring (it's too heavy to be a pendant).
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One is a cool stone called many things because of its funny shapes and colors. Some call it Fruit Jasper, some call it Pimento Jasper, but it is not a jasper at all. It is a form of marble called Sabalgarh Marble. Jasper is a hard stone and polishes easily. Marble is very soft - the reason it is used in sculpture.
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And the third piece also has many misleading names. Often called Sanskrit Jasper, Arabic Jasper, or Calligraphy Stone. The legend is that ancient prophesies were carved into the stone. The truth is that it is not a jasper at all. It is a fossil from the Himalayan region in India called Miriam Stone.
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Since they won't take a shine, I took them outside in the warm sunshine and sprayed them with a Clear Coat. They look amazing, but we will see how they look tomorrow after the coating fully cures.
With gold's spot price (price per ounce) setting records and continuing to hover above $2,100 per ounce I am getting anxious to get back out to the mine and get to digging. Every election year causes economic uncertainty which affects the stock and commodities markets. I don't invest, I dig. The gold I dug out of the ground back in 2016 has almost doubled in value... without any additional work on my part.
So tomorrow I will be inspecting my gear, checking that everything is in order and ready to rock and roll. The water will still be cold as there is still a lot of ice melting up at higher elevations. My insulated chest waders work well in keeping my feet warm in ice water, but my hands are another story. I have been looking for some insulated diving gloves that will be waterproof, keep my hands warm, and still have the flexibility to move my fingers as needed.
Or I may just suck it up and deal with it as I have for the past 7 years or so. ;D
I watch some gold prospecting programs, hard work dear but if it pays off its worth it.
It doesn't always work out. It's feast or famine. Luckily I met an old hard rock miner who owns a gold mine not far away. He told me that he moved here in the 50s and was a fur trapper, so he knows every inch of this creek. He pointed to several locations and told me what he saw. That was in 2017 and I have been digging gold from that area since then. I found a map that was the first map ever drawn of this area. It was published in 1900 and it shows a gold claim already at that spot. I guess that it may have been part of a series of claims from further upstream. It still pays. Some seasons are better than others, but it keeps me off the streets at night. ;D
More good news.
I just received a letter from the Social Security Administration informing me that I am no longer "disabled". Does anybody know if Jesus works there? (Hallelujah!)
Apparently, as of March 2024, I have reached the official full retirement age, so they are changing my SS records from "Disabled" to "Retired". Since I am entitled to full retirement benefits there will be no change in income. Disability requires that I pay Medicare insurance premiums. Retirement has no such obligation. I can now opt-out and save $200 per month. I want to do it, but I might need Medicare for surgery down the road, so I will wait.
Veggies can be very tasty!
Most everything costs so much nowadays. I eat a lot of fish, chicken, pasta, cheese, and veggies. Per pound, typically cheaper than prime beef.
Eggs seem to have gone down in price.
Chrissy
I eat the same way. But I promised to increase my fruit and veggie intake. I prefer frozen over canned, so I will be stocking up on those. Davina also gave me a tip to buy fresh apples, core them then freeze them. I am looking forward to trying that. I love Honeycrisp apples, but I kept getting too many bad ones in a bag. And the packaging doesn't allow you to see inside. I think I'll just open the bag and inspect them. The worst they can do is make me buy them. If they are bad, I'll march right on over to customer service and demand a refund.
The supermarket I use is one of the cheaper ones and you have to inspect veg before it goes in your trolley, cauliflowers that have started to go brown, apples rotten in the bag and things like that. Also have to keep an eye on the use by dates. Bargains can be found in the clearance shelf as when they have a few items of an item they go into the bargain bin and they can have long dates.
Quote from: LoriDee on March 10, 2024, 01:26:59 PMI eat the same way. But I promised to increase my fruit and veggie intake. I prefer frozen over canned, so I will be stocking up on those. Davina also gave me a tip to buy fresh apples, core them then freeze them. I am looking forward to trying that. I love Honeycrisp apples, but I kept getting too many bad ones in a bag. And the packaging doesn't allow you to see inside. I think I'll just open the bag and inspect them. The worst they can do is make me buy them. If they are bad, I'll march right on over to customer service and demand a refund.
I prefer fresh over frozen or canned. I do not mind canned sweet peas and mushrooms.
If you enjoy soft asparagus, canned asparagus is not bad at all!
I do enjoy eating fresh picked fruit and veggies.
Chrissy
Here we go again. The battle continues...
I saw my Gynecologist on Feb 26. After a very long discussion about the issues I have had with Mylan patches, she said she would talk to the pharmacist and determine if a name-brand patch was available. The pharmacist assured her that they were, so doc placed the order on Feb 29 with explicit instructions to not substitute for Mylan patches. The mail-order pharmacy shipped the order on Mar 5. Through all of this time, I have been PMSing due to low hormones fluctuating.
Today, I received my new patches!
What's wrong with this picture?
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[Sigh}
@LoriDee Dear Lori:What is wrong with the picture? It would be interesting to show that picture or the
box to your pharmacist...
.... they all seem to be very confused!!!!
The trials and tribulations of HRT.
HUGS, Danielle
I just sent a Secure Message to my doctor with this picture as an attachment. She is pretty good at getting right back to her patients. I would love to be a fly on the wall when she confronts the pharmacy with WTF.
I have to laugh at it. When I was in the Army serving as the Operations Sergeant, I put a sign on the wall behind my desk. It read:
"Incompetence is the worst form of corruption."
Then I moved the hanger mount on the back of the frame so the picture would always hang crooked. Anyone who has served will know that it would drive people nuts. Everything must be perfectly vertical, horizontal, dressed right, and covered down.
At night, people who were being punished had to clean the offices. Without fail, they would try to straighten the frame, but it would just fall crooked again. One guy got a nail and drove it into the wall for the frame to rest against to keep it straight. Of course, I ripped him a new one for putting an unauthorized hole in my wall, but gave him points for taking initiative and being creative in finding a solution. Everyone was so focused on the frame being out of whack that they didn't bother to read the message.
Gotta love the government.
Quote from: LoriDee on March 11, 2024, 01:14:13 PMHere we go again. The battle continues...
I saw my Gynecologist on Feb 26. After a very long discussion about the issues I have had with Mylan patches, she said she would talk to the pharmacist and determine if a name-brand patch was available. The pharmacist assured her that they were, so doc placed the order on Feb 29 with explicit instructions to not substitute for Mylan patches. The mail-order pharmacy shipped the order on Mar 5. Through all of this time, I have been PMSing due to low hormones fluctuating.
Today, I received my new patches!
What's wrong with this picture?
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[Sigh}
Looks like they made a mistake with the substitution. Sorry they goofed!
Chrissy
I think I will likely just stick with Estradiol pills. Generic and inexpensive, although there was a price increase earlier this year at my usual pharmacy.
Chrissy
Fortunately, I have a good team looking out for me. I just got a call from the pharmacist (who worked there for 22 years) and she explained how that happens. Anything that is written on the label is never seen by a human. The order is submitted via computer and a computer fills the order from whatever is in stock that matches the order, including equivalents. It is quick and efficient. So the pharmacy tech had to submit the order specifically specifying the brand that is to be filled. Since that is a "special order" they have to update various files, but all of that will happen this week. She also refunded my copay. By the time the meds arrive, I'll have been PMSing for a month. Such is life.
Quote from: LoriDee on March 11, 2024, 06:16:42 PMFortunately, I have a good team looking out for me. I just got a call from the pharmacist (who worked there for 22 years) and she explained how that happens. Anything that is written on the label is never seen by a human. The order is submitted via computer and a computer fills the order from whatever is in stock that matches the order, including equivalents. It is quick and efficient. So the pharmacy tech had to submit the order specifically specifying the brand that is to be filled. Since that is a "special order" they have to update various files, but all of that will happen this week. She also refunded my copay. By the time the meds arrive, I'll have been PMSing for a month. Such is life.
Sounds like a solution. What about the next fill though? Will the problem occur again?
Perhaps the solution is for the physician to specify the brand name with no substitution.
Chrissy
That is what the pharmacist did today. Special orders can't go through normal channels. Once it is in the system, then all future fills will follow that instruction until rescinded by my prescriber.
Hugs!
One of my favorite books of all time is "Illusions: The Adventures of a Reluctant Messiah" by Richard Bach. He has some interesting ways of looking at things from a different point of view.
A passage that I really like reads:
"There is no such thing as a problem without a gift for you in its hands. You seek problems because you need their gifts." ― Richard Bach
We intuitively know that we are not happy with ourselves. We know the change required (transition) will be a problem for us. But we seek it out because we need that gift. It is difficult to love someone else if we don't love ourselves first. If we don't look after our own happiness, we won't have any left to give to someone else. Be kind to yourself. Find that love and it will expand exponentially, and there will be plenty to share.
Hugs!
Quote from: LoriDee on March 11, 2024, 09:11:14 PMOne of my favorite books of all time is "Illusions: The Adventures of a Reluctant Messiah" by Richard Bach. He has some interesting ways of looking at things from a different point of view.
A passage that I really like reads:
"There is no such thing as a problem without a gift for you in its hands. You seek problems because you need their gifts." ― Richard Bach
We intuitively know that we are not happy with ourselves. We know the change required (transition) will be a problem for us. But we seek it out because we need that gift. It is difficult to love someone else if we don't love ourselves first. If we don't look after our own happiness, we won't have any left to give to someone else. Be kind to yourself. Find that love and it will expand exponentially, and there will be plenty to share.
Hugs!
Lori - Absolutely LOVE the sentiment behind that quote.
HOWEVER... someone who writes that, feels to me like someone who has never, for example, faced the scoreboard power going out just before going on the air for a nationally televised basketball game from your home arena, and all the TV folks running out of the trucks with wide eyes looking at you to suddenly have an electrical license and solve it.
I found exactly ZERO gifts handed to me in that situation. And believe me, I looked. HARD
;D
I mean, I got a good story out of it? So maybe that's what I needed? But whoo, that's pushing it.
But even so... like I said, I love the sentiment. And as it relates to transition, I, all kidding aside, think it's lovely. Quite lovely.
Love,
Allie
LoriDee,
I am wishing that you have a full week of absolutely no barriers and bad issues, and that you do have a wonderful week ahead. Then for the good times to always, all in all, overshadow hardships that will always come our way, as they are part of life.
Take care.
Chrissy
Thank you, Chrissy. Your support and well wishes are very much appreciated!
And may all that you wish for me, come back to you tenfold.
Hugs!
Quote from: imallie on March 12, 2024, 12:00:42 AMLori - Absolutely LOVE the sentiment behind that quote.
HOWEVER... someone who writes that, feels to me like someone who has never, for example, faced the scoreboard power going out just before going on the air for a nationally televised basketball game from your home arena, and all the TV folks running out of the trucks with wide eyes looking at you to suddenly have an electrical license and solve it.
I found exactly ZERO gifts handed to me in that situation. And believe me, I looked. HARD
@imallie For context: Within the story, he finds a book entitled something like "Messiah's Handbook and Manual for Advanced Souls". The idea is that you hold a question in your mind and open to any page and it will give you the answer. The above quote is one of the answers given.
At the end of the story, he turns to the last page which reads, "Everything in this book may be wrong."
;D
Quote from: LoriDee on March 13, 2024, 10:05:52 AM@imallie
For context: Within the story, he finds a book entitled something like "Messiah's Handbook and Manual for Advanced Souls". The idea is that you hold a question in your mind and open to any page and it will give you the answer. The above quote is one of the answers given.
At the end of the story, he turns to the last page which reads, "Everything in this book may be wrong."
;D
The ability to look from within for answers, and at the same time believe that those very same solutions of our own might be completely cuckoo for Cocoa Puffs? THAT kind of amazing self-awareness I can completely get behind. Love it! ❤️
I wish I could post the "story within the story" here. I found it very insightful and it helped me "let go" of some of the baggage I continued to carry with me. The book is a very short read (only 72 pages) and you can download a free copy online "for educational purposes". Highly recommended.
This is a most interesting blog of yours LoriDee.
I hope you have no further problems with medicines and medical care coverage. Plus that you will have good providers not far away.
If I went panning for gold I would likely find sand, iron pyrite, and miscellaneous little pebbles. No gold.
Chrissy
For a few years, that is exactly what I found. I began to doubt that I would even know it if I saw it. Maybe what I thought was pyrite was gold. Maybe my panning technique is not good enough and I wasn't catching it. I joined gold prospecting clubs and they showed me a great way to practice using lead shot.
Gold is 19 times heavier than water and lead is 11 times heavier. Most everything else in the river is lighter. I put lead shot in the gold pan with dirt and pan it. If the lead shot stays in the pan, your technique is good and you will catch gold. My first gold flake was found while I was practicing using dirt on a lake shore. It was in the pan right next to the lead shot. Once I saw it, there was no doubt that it was gold.
Over time, I learned how and where to find it, and even custom-designed my sluicebox for optimum efficiency. I had been sharing pictures on my website and finally decided to write about what I learned so others could learn too. The website articles led to a few people offering to hire me as a consultant to look over their claims and tell them where to dig. The last offer was in Montana and I decided that I didn't want to travel that far. The offer was a good one, it was just a bit too far for my comfort zone.
I've tried panning for gold but never had any luck. I tried in the mountains of Georgia on my step mothers place where rumor had it the previous owner made enough panning gold from the river to squeak out a living. I like the lead shot idea to hone the technique, Ill have to try that next time.
Gina
@Gina P Thar's gold in them thar hills. Sluiceboy Prospecting does YouTube videos of places he prospects in Georgia. He and family members have a few claims there. He does very well. I have even bought some of his paydirt to pan in the winter. I was curious how the gold down yonder compared with the gold here in the Black Hills.
This week is off to a good start. I still have this hacking cough that has plagued me since Wednesday. I received a text message that my new order of Grove brand estradiol patches is on the truck and out for delivery.
I was in the middle of yet another hacking cough fit when my phone rang. I didn't recognize the number (out of state), but I managed to gasp "Hello". The Voice Training pathologist from Iowa City VA called to set up an appointment. I start training via TeleMedicine on March 27th! <insert Woohoo! emoji here>
I don't demand milestone achievements every day. Even a little progress goes a long way to fuel hope and ward off frustration and depression. It has been two years that I have been waiting my turn patiently while the VA is constantly telling me that this or that service is unavailable.
This year hit me hard. During my semi-annual physical with my Primary, she noticed frustration and depression and got me in to see my psychologist the next day. She diagnosed me with Moderate to Severe Depression. I asked, "Can you blame me?" The VA told me they would help with my transition, and they gave me hormones. Period. Every other service needed as a part of the transition is "unavailable". It is available somewhere, and the VA is part of the federal government. If a service is available in Seattle, then why am I not on a plane heading West? The VA has left me as this disfigured freak without any means to go forward or back. I am stuck mid-transition and it is their fault. And you wonder why I am depressed?
That set things in motion.
My Trans Care Coordinator, a psychologist in our Mental Health department, jumped into action. They still haven't figured out how to get electrolysis for me because of some stupid rules. The Minneapolis VA sends their veterans to a local provider for electrolysis. Since I am not receiving care from Minneapolis, they can't send me to that provider. That provider has no contract with the Black Hills VA system, so travel is not authorized to send me to Minneapolis. To override that, my team must go back through my records and document that this is indeed "medically necessary". That much is in progress now.
While searching for programs available nationwide, they discovered the Trans Voice Training Program offered by Iowa City VA. I said sign me up!
Once again I am moving forward and life is good.
@LoriDee Dear LoriDee:Your most recent posting here on your Blog Tread has really touched my heart.
Obviously you are hitting the stumbling blocks that many of our transitioning
members have encountered or are now encountering.
Thank you for sharing from your experience.... please keep me and the rest
of your avid followers updated... only as you feel comfortable sharing.
I am sending my Big HUGS to you.Danielle (https://i.imgur.com/edS1Dkpm.png)
So glad you have an effective member of Team Lori now — looking out for your best interest and trying to cut through all the redtape for you! That's invaluable!!!!
Is there a way that we can codify this into law?
Instead of 50 gazillion things not to discriminate against, why not make the law clear and simple?
Thou shalt not discriminate. Period.
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It turns out that polishing rocks is quite the workout. I currently have three tumblers, one single-barrel, and two double-barrel, each with a 3-lb capacity. I am rolling 15 lbs of rock 24/7. This mostly happens in the background for a week at a time. After a week, it is time to clean off the stones and inspect them. Some get moved to the next stage, some need a little more work and will stay. Sometimes, they crack and break and may need to return to the first stage and start over. Stage 1 is for Shaping the stones, rounding off sharp edges, and clearing surface damage. Stage 2 begins Smoothing the stones so they can take a polish. Stage 3 is Pre-Polish which makes the stones very smooth. And the Polish stage is where the stones are given a good shine. Not all stones will shine. Soft and porous stones will keep a dull matte finish, so I spray them with Clear Coat to bring out their colors and features.
Any time I am outside, I am always looking at rocks. Sometimes the colors catch my eye. Maybe it's the banding, swirls, or even clarity when a light shines through them. Sometimes I recognize what kind of stone it is and how it was made. Other times I will be completely bewildered. I still enjoy them.
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Isn't Nature just grand?
Quote from: LoriDee on March 20, 2024, 03:13:55 PMIt turns out that polishing rocks is quite the workout. I currently have three tumblers, one single-barrel, and two double-barrel, each with a 3-lb capacity. I am rolling 15 lbs of rock 24/7. This mostly happens in the background for a week at a time. After a week, it is time to clean off the stones and inspect them. Some get moved to the next stage, some need a little more work and will stay. Sometimes, they crack and break and may need to return to the first stage and start over. Stage 1 is for Shaping the stones, rounding off sharp edges, and clearing surface damage. Stage 2 begins Smoothing the stones so they can take a polish. Stage 3 is Pre-Polish which makes the stones very smooth. And the Polish stage is where the stones are given a good shine. Not all stones will shine. Soft and porous stones will keep a dull matte finish, so I spray them with Clear Coat to bring out their colors and features.
Any time I am outside, I am always looking at rocks. Sometimes the colors catch my eye. Maybe it's the banding, swirls, or even clarity when a light shines through them. Sometimes I recognize what kind of stone it is and how it was made. Other times I will be completely bewildered. I still enjoy them.
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Isn't Nature just grand?
LoriDee,
You rock!
Chrissy
Quote from: LoriDee on March 11, 2024, 09:11:14 PMOne of my favorite books of all time is "Illusions: The Adventures of a Reluctant Messiah" by Richard Bach. He has some interesting ways of looking at things from a different point of view.
A passage that I really like reads:
"There is no such thing as a problem without a gift for you in its hands. You seek problems because you need their gifts." ― Richard Bach
We intuitively know that we are not happy with ourselves. We know the change required (transition) will be a problem for us. But we seek it out because we need that gift. It is difficult to love someone else if we don't love ourselves first. If we don't look after our own happiness, we won't have any left to give to someone else. Be kind to yourself. Find that love and it will expand exponentially, and there will be plenty to share.
Hugs!
Hey Sis!
Well this figures... That is one of my absolute all time favorite books as well!... That quote was one of the standouts and I believe I quoted it here on the forum but, it disappeared with the lost years... Alas but, perhaps it is for the best because here it is again, as shiny and new as Don Shimoda's Travel Air...You aren't from the Holy Land of Indiana are you? 🤔... I had a few Johnathan Livingston Seagull posts in my old blog as well 🤗
Love Ya Girl!!!
A 😀💕🌻
Quote from: LoriDee on March 20, 2024, 03:13:55 PMIt turns out that polishing rocks is quite the workout. I currently have three tumblers, one single-barrel, and two double-barrel, each with a 3-lb capacity. I am rolling 15 lbs of rock 24/7. This mostly happens in the background for a week at a time. After a week, it is time to clean off the stones and inspect them. Some get moved to the next stage, some need a little more work and will stay. Sometimes, they crack and break and may need to return to the first stage and start over. Stage 1 is for Shaping the stones, rounding off sharp edges, and clearing surface damage. Stage 2 begins Smoothing the stones so they can take a polish. Stage 3 is Pre-Polish which makes the stones very smooth. And the Polish stage is where the stones are given a good shine. Not all stones will shine. Soft and porous stones will keep a dull matte finish, so I spray them with Clear Coat to bring out their colors and features.
Any time I am outside, I am always looking at rocks. Sometimes the colors catch my eye. Maybe it's the banding, swirls, or even clarity when a light shines through them. Sometimes I recognize what kind of stone it is and how it was made. Other times I will be completely bewildered. I still enjoy them.
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Isn't Nature just grand?
Those are great, Lori! What do you do with them?
The only reason I ask is we had this woman in our department (her title was "secretary" but it might as well have been "person who actually runs things since everyone else here has the maturity of a child" - but that's too long for a desk plate) and she collected/polished stones as well!
She would fill clear vases and/or tall squared or oval glass jars with stones and put them on her desk and the effect was quite lovely. Everyone would always comment on them.
They were always a source of UTTER fascination for every coach's child who ever ventured by her desk, especially!!
But I also know, from what she said, there are countless other things people do with their stones... and some people just like to polish them for the sake of polishing them and enjoying them as is!
Curiously yours,
Allie
@imallieThanks, Allie!
I am in the process of learning how to make wire-wrap jewelry with them. Not all of them are jewelry-grade, or the right size, so I have some in a candy dish and others in small bowls. Most will become either necklace pendants or possibly keychains.
Rough Stones to Jewelry (https://imgur.com/a/rX0k4Ho)
Hugs!
Hi LoriYou said;
Quote from: LoriDee on March 20, 2024, 02:48:20 PMIs there a way that we can codify this into law?
Instead of 50 gazillion things not to discriminate against, why not make the law clear and simple?
Thou shalt not discriminate. Period.
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Simple, put it into the constitution!
HugsSarah B@LoriDee
Quote from: LoriDee on March 20, 2024, 09:28:53 PM@imallie
Thanks, Allie!
I am in the process of learning how to make wire-wrap jewelry with them. Not all of them are jewelry-grade, or the right size, so I have some in a candy dish and others in small bowls. Most will become either necklace pendants or possibly keychains.
Rough Stones to Jewelry (https://imgur.com/a/rX0k4Ho)
Hugs!
Oh very nice!!!
Hey Lori!
Your post above got Illusions swirling in my head and inspired me to open my copy of Messiah's Handbook I keep in my nightstand this morning and see what quote came up... Some of the quotes were used in Illusions but, most were not... Today's was a good one for all who see it...
"The Only Thing That Shatters Dreams Is Compromise" 🌻
https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/29944.Messiah_s_Handbook
Onward We Go!
A 😀💕🌻
Another of my favorites:
"In order to live free and happily,
you must sacrifice boredom.
It is not always an easy sacrifice."
Hugs!
Quote from: LoriDee on March 21, 2024, 03:38:55 PMAnother of my favorites:
"In order to live free and happily,
you must sacrifice boredom.
It is not always an easy sacrifice."
Hugs!
and the ever popular...
"Argue for your limitations and sure enough, they're yours"
Onward!
A 😀💕🌻
"No act of kindness is too small."
Chrissy
"every cloud has a silver lining" well it does for me.
Seeing so many wonderful posts over in Photography, got me putting together some pics I took last summer when I was homeless/camping/prospecting/waiting for my new apartment to get built. I took hundreds of pics. I won't post them all right here.
In early 2015, when I first moved to the Black Hills, I studied the history. Specifically, the gold mining history. What I learned was that most of the old abandoned gold mines were not abandoned due to a lack of gold. During World War II, gold mines were closed as they were not considered "essential" to the war effort. That left a lot of unemployed young men to go off to fight the war. When they returned (if they returned), many were too old or disabled to resume mining. The mines filled with water, became run-down and very dangerous places. Many had previously used dangerous chemicals like arsenic or mercury. The gold is still there, it just isn't easy to get to. For decades, the mines sat because the price of gold made reopening old mines prohibiting. Today, with gold price at over $2,000 per ounce, large mining companies are looking into buying up old gold claims.
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Empire Gold Mine was a top producer in Pennington County, SD
My favorite photo was taken in August 2017. I was in the creek getting set up to do some mining. The valleys are steep, so it takes time for the sun to rise high enough to warm the valley below. I looked upstream and the sun was warming up that area while I was still in the shade. It was so peaceful and calm, I had to snap a pic. Behind me is where I have been digging gold since May 2017. This picture hangs on my wall to this day.
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Interesting history. World Wars caused a migration of farmers. Farm boys in Vermont heard about places where folks could farm without hitting rocks all day long and moved west!
Very beautiful picture Lori.
Mission Impossible: The Story of Old Blue
Grab some popcorn while I regale you with this tale of woe and despair. Ok, well maybe that is inaccurate. Sue me.
For those who may not be gold miners and unfamiliar with some of the jargon, a "lead" (pronounced Leed), is an indicator that gold may be found in the area. There is a town in the Northern Black Hills of South Dakota by that name with a very large gold mine. The Homestake Gold Mine was one of the top gold producers in the U.S.
There is a particular type of rock that has a blue-colored sheen to it, and the old-time prospectors called it "blue lead". Again, it is a lead (clue). One summer, I was with my mining buddy and we were digging samples from a new location in the creek. Just below the surface of the fine sand was a blue rock!
My buddy is no slouch when it comes to unearthing large rocks from our "office". Our thinking is that this rock has been sitting in this spot for hundreds if not thousands or even millions of years. What is under it? As a blue lead, it could very well be sitting on top of a large gold deposit. So we started digging all around it to see if we could loosen it up and lift it out of the hole. We nicknamed the rock "Old Blue".
We dug and we dug and could not locate all of the edges. How big is this thing? We kept digging and digging and digging. We soon realized that we were not going to be able to lift it ourselves. I returned to my truck and brought back more tools. I have a cable puller that can pull 2,000 lbs. I have an extra pulley that I rig so that I can pull 4,000 lbs (2 tons).
The plan was to dig under the rock enough to be able to wrap a tow strap around it, and then attach the cable puller. I can anchor it to a tree on the shore and winch Old Blue out of the creek. But we couldn't find the bottom of it! I dug a hole four feet deep and still did not find the bottom of the rock.
We were only able to unearth two sides of this massive boulder. We were able to clear off about 8 feet x 5 feet, but could not find the other edges, or get underneath. I was beginning to suspect that this might be a chunk of bedrock that formed the bottom of the creek. But there are no other rocks in the area that are this color.
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All of the sand and gravel we pulled out of the hole was loaded with very nice chunky gold. That is a very good sign that we were close to the source vein. If we could just get that beast out of the hole!
This was late Fall, so the temps were starting to get colder. We worked the rest of the season trying to unearth Old Blue, but never got her to budge even the slightest. Never got a strap around her. Eventually, it just got too cold and we had to wrap it up.
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The following Spring we had a flood. The water level was almost five feet above Old Blue. The holes filled with gravel and rocks and we had to start all over. Then COVID happened and we decided to sit the season out and let the flood waters recede.
To this day Old Blue is still in the same spot, buried about two inches below the surface just waiting for me to try again.
What is the best theory as to why the lead stone is correlated to finding gold? Are the forces that caused the gold to be present there the same forces that cause the blue stone to be present?
AS I understand it the gold comes to the surface from volcanic activity, usually associated with quartz. So if the blue rock is some sort of volcanic material then yes a good indicator for a gold seam but then it could be the edge of a HUGE slab.
@REM.1126 I think it is just one of those things that happen often enough to point to and say, "See?" but when it doesn't happen, no one notices. I suspect that it has something to do with copper content. The best place to find gold is where there is a high mineral content. In this area, that means lots of copper, silver, tin (cassiterite), manganese, etc. I think the copper/silver content may be responsible for the color. But I am just guessing.
@davina61 You are correct about the formation of gold in the earth, but quartz is just a side-effect. Quartz (silicon oxide) is the second-most common mineral on the planet. So it is common to find gold in quartz, but also quartz with no gold. In every place I have ever found gold, there was quartz, iron, and garnets. All three or I struck out. I had never encountered a blue lead like that before, so I got really excited. As we were digging, I was feeding the sand and gravel through the sluice box. Seeing the gold just fed the excitement. But the truth is that it hasn't happened enough for me to confirm or deny the stories.
How often do you pan for gold?
Chrissy
@ChrissyRyan"How often do you pan for gold?"
Years ago I would camp on the creek for a week at a time. Now I try to go two or three times a week. Age is catching up with me, so it takes longer to recover. I think HRT might also have something to do with it. I don't have the upper body strength that I used to have. I seem to have more doctor appointments than before too. I know there will come a time when I just can't do it anymore. But each year I head back out saying, "I'm not done yet!"
Just returned from an appointment in Sturgis at the Fort Meade VA Hospital. Today was my first-ever Bone Density Scan. 80-minute round-trip drive for 15 minutes on the table. My doctor will receive the full report in a few days. The preliminary results are that I do indeed have bones. She refused to comment further. So, yay! I got bones!
;D
When I had a scan on my wrist the tec said I had good bone density, all the years on the spanners I suspect. Only thing is the years on the spanners are coming home to roost now and I am finding it harder to work on the hot rod, HRT not helping as well.
Quote from: LoriDee on March 26, 2024, 04:45:21 PMJust returned from an appointment in Sturgis at the Fort Meade VA Hospital. Today was my first-ever Bone Density Scan. 80-minute round-trip drive for 15 minutes on the table. My doctor will receive the full report in a few days. The preliminary results are that I do indeed have bones. She refused to comment further. So, yay! I got bones!
;D
It is good to have bones.
Chrissy
When I had my first density scan it was at the start of HRT and I was still in stealth. I was the only "man" there. I was a bit uncomfortable but they scan for other reasons than just osteoporosis, right?
Gina
Even men can have osteoporosis. But I believe you are correct that they use the scan to see other things. It is such a low dose of radiation, that the technician operated the scanner from her desk right next to the bed I was lying on. She said the dose was less than an x-ray. The room wasn't even in the Radiology Department, where patients were waiting for DEXA (Bone Density), CT, MRI, and X-ray. Men and women both were waiting there to be seen.
Yesterday was a busy one for me.
I had a morning appointment with my VA Psychologist. She hooked me up to a biofeedback machine to teach me how to use paced breathing for stress reduction. She did a baseline test run of about five minutes where I just do diaphragmatic breathing, then she shows me on the graph how I need to work on my Heart Variability Rate. When she called "time," she asked if I was just messing with her. My breathing rate was near perfect and my Heart Variability Rate was very good. All I did was use my own hypnosis techniques coupled with the breathing technique that she taught me.
So then our discussion switched over to hypnosis and the ways that the mind can heal the body, no matter what the illness. She seemed skeptical, so I gave her several anecdotes of video-recorded hypnosis sessions where it appeared miracles were being performed. She stated that she was still skeptical since video can be faked. I asked her if she trusted the National Institute of Health. I gave her a link to a web seminar where a psychiatrist with a very long list of credentials demonstrates to healthcare providers how clinical hypnosis can be helpful in their practice. For example, helping someone through a dental procedure without anesthesia.
In that seminar, he presented a case of a man with Parkinson's Disease who needed a brain implant to control the tremors in his right arm. The patient must be awake so that the surgeon can speak with him to ensure the implant is placed in exactly the correct location. The patient could not relax long enough to do the surgery. The hypnosis session helped him relax, but the miraculous part is that while relaxed (and without any suggestion), the tremors in his arm stopped.
For those who don't know, Parkinson's involves actual physical damage to the nervous system. It is not a psychosomatic disease. So the question I gave my Psychologist was, "How is it possible for the Subconscious Mind to temporarily bypass physical damage to the nervous system." She said it is not possible. And yet she just witnessed it happen.
I told her that I know the answer. It is how spiritual healing is accomplished every day, and I am such a healer. (I am an 11th Degree Rosicrucian). She immediately made me promise to share my wealth with her when I figure out how to permanently cure Parkinson's. ;D
That afternoon, I was scheduled to phone in for a Group Therapy session. I got busy with other things and lost track of the time. I went to call in and my phone was dead. But I still had time to drive back down to the VA and attend Group in person. I am so glad I did! I finally got to meet our two Transgender Care Coordinators in person, and three other trans veteran women. The meeting went well but I was concerned about the body language the other ladies were exhibiting. They were clearly uncomfortable even though they were "regulars" to the Group.
They participated in the activities, I just wish there was something I could do to help them relax and understand that they were in a safe place. Maybe as we get to know each other better, things will loosen up.
Overall, it was a good day. I like good days. :)
I agree deep meditation can slow the heart rate and do wonders for the body. I used to practice daily and had a tooth filled with no Novocain. The dentist said it was a deep cavity and he didn't recommend not using Novocain. Also said if I started squirming around to much he would stop. A few seconds of deep breathing and relaxing I transported myself to my favorite lake to fish during the procedure. The annoying thing was the dentist kept stopping and asking if I was still with him!! Making me respond. I suppose I should have explained a bit before he started. I have gotten out of practice but I should really do more.
Pain management was what got me interested in hypnosis in the first place. I specialized in it in my practice, but most clients were there to lose weight or quit some habit like smoking or nail biting.
In the video, the psychiatrist's only suggestion was for the man to go to a favorite place. He imagined he was lying on a beach and the tremors in his arm stopped.
This is the web seminar if anyone wants to watch:
Tranceformation: Hypnosis in Brain and Body (https://videocast.nih.gov/summary.asp?Live=15741&bhcp=1)
I hope you have a wonderful day. I hope that everyone has a wonderful day.
Now, go make it so!
Chrissy
Day 10 of "Early Spring".
33 degrees and sideways snow.
I think the Sun is taking a holiday.
<sigh>
Quote from: LoriDee on March 30, 2024, 02:34:26 PMDay 10 of "Early Spring".
33 degrees and sideways snow.
I think the Sun is taking a holiday.
<sigh>
Same here in northern Nevada. We had a few days of spring a week ago. It's been snowing pretty much non-stop for the last 2 days. I think we've gotten a foot of snow overall, but it's been melting off at times as the temperature swings between, just below freezing and 38 degrees (F). Oh so muddy.
Happy Easter Lori.
Warm Regards,
Paulie.
@LoriDee @Paulie Yes indeed, winter is not letting go. It has been
unseasonable colder that it should be for this time of year.
Temperature now 16 degrees(f) (-9 C) and forecast to be much colder
in the next few days:
Sunday 10 degrees(f) (-12 C
Monday 4 degrees(f) (-16C)
Tuesday (minus) -5 degrees(f) (-21 C)
Wednesday 7 degrees(f) (-14 C)
I am wondering...
does this mean that we will have a hotter than normal summer?
Stay warm everyone.HUGS, Danielle
It has been very nice and springy here in the south of the UK, a couple of days without rain, temp yesterday was 13C not a cloud in the sky. This morning 7am there is not a sky in the cloud. Max temp is expected to be 14c rain coming in the evening then rain for the rest of the week.
Hugs
Jessica
Xxx
It was wall to wall blue first thing but cloudy now although its not rained yet. 2 week long range says rain every day, I need to do some gardening----------
The snow continues to fall, but at 33 degrees (F) it isn't sticking. The streets are wet but no ice.
Had a great lunch and now I'm fat and lazy. Time for PJs and a nap.
Happy Easter, all.
I just got back from a friend's house. But I have had time to shower and get comfy in my nightgown. I will listen to some music, read perhaps, catch a podcast, then doze off.
Chrissy
We now have about four inches of snow on the ground. On the bright side, it looks like Christmas outside. Spring time? April Fools!
Quote from: LoriDee on March 31, 2024, 10:55:10 PMWe now have about four inches of snow on the ground. On the bright side, it looks like Christmas outside.
Our neighbor wished us Merry Easter in light of the Christmas look outside.
Paulie
@Paulie That's great! Merry Easter, everyone.
Does Santa Bunny wrap the eggs, or just hide the presents?
I am all for a good prank or practical joke on April Fool's Day, but I think a line has been crossed.
I have contacted the Pennsylvania Department of Fish & Game and applied for a Groundhog Hunting license. I wonder how many assassination attempts have been made against old Punxsutawney Phil over the years.
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It is still snowing. This is really putting a damper on my outdoor activities. I live in Rapid City, not even up in the mountains.
Tomorrow's forecast calls for sunny and 53. If true, we will have to deal with flooding when all this crap melts. On the plus side, flood waters in the creeks dislodge gold. Maybe this is just a set up for me to have a banner year. If not, I can spend my summer in Pennsylvania hunting a certain groundhog. ;D
@LoriDee Dear LoriDee:Unseasonably cold this Spring for me too.
Welcome to my world !!!!
Temperature is 7 deg(f) [-14C)
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It is beautiful in Alabama.
@Northern Star Girl I don't know how you do it. I would love to do some prospecting up there, but the ground only thaws out for about fifteen minutes a year. ;D
@REM.1126 In my senior year of high school, I lived in Crestview, Florida. I loved the South! The Gulf's clear ocean water and the white sand beaches. That was the first time I ever saw pine trees growing on a beach not far from sea oats. We would skip across the border into Alabama to buy beer. When I joined the Army I told the recruiter I wanted to be stationed in Florida. The closest he could get me was Fort Polk, LA. Many years later, both my children went to college in Pensacola. I seriously considered moving back many times.
I should also mention that we hit 60 degrees today and the snow is gone. And no flooding so far.
Quote from: LoriDee on April 03, 2024, 11:03:22 PMI should also mention that we hit 60 degrees today and the snow is gone. And no flooding so far.
Tuesday we were at a baseball game (albeit a chilly one) - right now it's snowing and we're due to get anywhere from 3-6 inches tomorrow. *deep sigh*
It looks like the start of my mining season might still be another month away. Our so-called "Early Spring" has yet to manifest. Today and tomorrow will be rain/snow and everything in between mix.
In 1972, we had a flood here that destroyed part of Rapid City. Google can show you pictures. It was devastating. In response, the US Geological Survey installed stream gauges along waterways from up in the mountains out to the flatlands as an early warning system. The ones in higher elevations measure precipitation, water depth, and water volume. Further downstream they monitor just water depth and flow.
Their website has access to live data coming from these gauges. The one that I watch is shown below. It is quite a ways downstream from my mining area, but over the years I have learned how to extrapolate the data.
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As you can see, our recent precipitation has had a significant impact on the creek. The water level has only risen about one foot. The gauge reads a water depth (not shown) of 5.2 feet. I know that at my location that means the water will be about three feet deep. That is ideal for my uses.
However, the discharge amount (shown above) shows the creek is flowing at over 61 cubic feet per second. That is dangerously fast and I won't venture out into that. To give you a visual, one cubic foot is about the size of a bowling ball. American bowling, not Bocci. Imagine standing on the bank of a creek and 61 bowling balls go past you every second. That's fast-moving water.
Since it takes me about 20 minutes to drive up to my site, I check the gauge to see what is happening and if it is worth making the trip. Since the weather is crap and the water is unsafe, I will stay in PJs and fuzzy socks and make jewelry today.
It was dry yesterday and today here but so Wiiiiinnnnnnnnnnddddddddddddddyyyyyyyyyyy. I was hoping to get on the veg patch but looks like it will be okay next weekend. Might get up to 20C as well.
Now this I think we can all relate to. I just saw a meme (I won't post it here) that went something like this.
Doctor to you: "You need this medication."
Doctor to Pharmacy: "She needs this medication."
Pharmacy to Insurance: "She needs this medication."
Insurance Company: "Does she though? Let's ask her doctor."
I've been going through this (as you know) concerning electrolysis. My Psychologist submitted a consult to Minneapolis VA who have a non-VA electrolysis provider where they send their veteran patients. My Psychologist asked if it is possible to send me to that provider, or possibly to send me to Minneapolis VA so they can send me to their provider. Simple, right?
Without even looking at my records, Minneapolis had a team of not less than three people respond. They all stated that my records need to have documented that this is not cosmetic, but "medically necessary". The provider in Minneapolis does laser only, not electrolysis. The VA (the largest healthcare provider in the United States) has no one that does electrolysis in-house. And since the VA will cover electrolysis for pre-op genital surgery, it is automatically considered "medically necessary".
So my Psychologist (God bless her) did a deep dive, combing through my medical records. She quoted various provider notes going back to 2019 that show a determination of "medically necessary" no less than three times each year. The providers making that determination include my Primary Care Physician, three Psychologists, two Endocrinologists, a Gynecologist, and the Medical Chief of Staff for the Black Hills Healthcare System.
So now, we have firmly established the need (mental health), and the medical necessity. The next obstacle is a provider. Every provider that I have contacted (over 20 in all) demands payment at the time of service, cash or credit. The VA pays their bills like an insurance company. And there are none in the immediate area.
I found a provider that I am interested in. I won't post a link, but Clear4Life in Williams Bay, WI does electrolysis on any body part, including for gender-affirming surgery. I am trying to get the VA to cover the costs of travel, service, food, and lodging for an overnight stay if needed, or give me written approval guaranteeing reimbursement if I pay for it all myself on a credit card. I could just get it done, but the VA likes to take months to reimburse expenses. That won't work for me. Electrolysis requires multiple sessions and I will be paying credit card interest rates. I need to be reimbursed within 60 days or else I will quickly max out my credit limit.
I am continuing to standby to standby in case I need to standby to hurry up and wait. ;D
Quote from: LoriDee on April 08, 2024, 10:22:46 AMNow this I think we can all relate to. I just saw a meme (I won't post it here) that went something like this.
Doctor to you: "You need this medication."
Doctor to Pharmacy: "She needs this medication."
Pharmacy to Insurance: "She needs this medication."
Insurance Company: "Does she though? Let's ask her doctor."
I've been going through this (as you know) concerning electrolysis. My Psychologist submitted a consult to Minneapolis VA who have a non-VA electrolysis provider where they send their veteran patients. My Psychologist asked if it is possible to send me to that provider, or possibly to send me to Minneapolis VA so they can send me to their provider. Simple, right?
Without even looking at my records, Minneapolis had a team of not less than three people respond. They all stated that my records need to have documented that this is not cosmetic, but "medically necessary". The provider in Minneapolis does laser only, not electrolysis. The VA (the largest healthcare provider in the United States) has no one that does electrolysis in-house. And since the VA will cover electrolysis for pre-op genital surgery, it is automatically considered "medically necessary".
So my Psychologist (God bless her) did a deep dive, combing through my medical records. She quoted various provider notes going back to 2019 that show a determination of "medically necessary" no less than three times each year. The providers making that determination include my Primary Care Physician, three Psychologists, two Endocrinologists, a Gynecologist, and the Medical Chief of Staff for the Black Hills Healthcare System.
So now, we have firmly established the need (mental health), and the medical necessity. The next obstacle is a provider. Every provider that I have contacted (over 20 in all) demands payment at the time of service, cash or credit. The VA pays their bills like an insurance company. And there are none in the immediate area.
I found a provider that I am interested in. I won't post a link, but Clear4Life in Williams Bay, WI does electrolysis on any body part, including for gender-affirming surgery. I am trying to get the VA to cover the costs of travel, service, food, and lodging for an overnight stay if needed, or give me written approval guaranteeing reimbursement if I pay for it all myself on a credit card. I could just get it done, but the VA likes to take months to reimburse expenses. That won't work for me. Electrolysis requires multiple sessions and I will be paying credit card interest rates. I need to be reimbursed within 60 days or else I will quickly max out my credit limit.
I am continuing to standby to standby in case I need to standby to hurry up and wait. ;D
I do not have any VA coverage or know how they operate. The best situation seems to be is for the VA to pay the provider directly (and reasonably quickly) but you know that! This would avoid any heartbreak if you paid the provider and later find the VA will not pay after all.
I wish you the best results Lori. I realize that this is a tough financial situation.
Another option to consider is that you can get some services cheaper with discount offers like a Groupon deal. You will pay it all but at a lower fee. Maybe you can get a few initial sessions this way to see how it is like for you.
I would not expect anyone to pay for my lodging but I do not know how the VA works.
If it is an entitlement, try to obtain it. It would be another way for the country to compensate you for your long military service. Thank you for serving.
Chrissy
@ChrissyRyan Thanks, Chrissy! And thank you for your support!
Because I am a disabled veteran all of my medical care is covered within the limits of government regulations. I pay a reduced copay for meds, but that is all. Anything covered means all expenses are covered, including travel and related expenses to get that care.
The VA will not cover anything considered "cosmetic". Hence the need to establish "medically necessary" care. Hormone Therapy is medically necessary, as are various "cosmetic" prosthetics such as wigs, breast forms, binders, gaffs, and packers. The other glitch is that the VA does not pay providers directly. They use an insurance company. In the midwest it is Optum. Out west it is Tri-Care.
Insurance companies never pay on demand, even if a procedure is medically necessary and pre-approved. And electrolysis providers demand "payment at the time of service". Somewhere in the country, there are a few providers that have agreed to treat veterans and accept the VA's insurance payments. Most of them are still in the process of getting state licenses, and certifications, and signing the contracts. So there is movement in this area.
The next big hurdle is gender-affirming surgery. Currently, government regulations prohibit "gender-altering" surgeries of any kind. So that includes genitals, facial feminization, voice surgery, tracheal shaves, etc. A complaint was filed against the VA in 2016 claiming that this was discriminatory in that it discriminates against transgender veterans and only transgender veterans. The VA said they agreed and would change their policy. In 2018, the VA said they had to change the Federal Regulations in order to change their policy. In 2021, the VA said they were changing the regulations, but it would take about two years to implement since they needed equipment and trained personnel. In 2024, TAVA (Transgender American Veterans Association) filed a lawsuit against the VA to get a court order for the VA to change the regulations immediately and stop stalling. That case is still pending.
There is another option that I am looking into. I don't recall where I saw it, but there are organizations that provide grants for gender-affirming care. The funds are limited and they receive many applications each year. I fear that I would apply, receive the funds, and then the VA would start covering the care as promised. I don't want to take funds that could be available for someone else who may need care immediately if my care is going to be covered.
There is progress being made and I don't mind waiting in line, but I don't want to try to get all this done when I am 70 (in three years). I'd like to start living MY life. ;D
Lori,
Go to jimcollinsfoundation.org
The 2025 grant cycle will open on June 1, 2024 and will close on August 15, 2024.
Chrissy
I will check it out, thanks!
The one I was thinking of applications had to be in by November.
Quote from: LoriDee on April 08, 2024, 01:43:04 PM@ChrissyRyan
Thanks, Chrissy! And thank you for your support!
Because I am a disabled veteran all of my medical care is covered within the limits of government regulations. I pay a reduced copay for meds, but that is all. Anything covered means all expenses are covered, including travel and related expenses to get that care.
The VA will not cover anything considered "cosmetic". Hence the need to establish "medically necessary" care. Hormone Therapy is medically necessary, as are various "cosmetic" prosthetics such as wigs, breast forms, binders, gaffs, and packers. The other glitch is that the VA does not pay providers directly. They use an insurance company. In the midwest it is Optum. Out west it is Tri-Care.
Insurance companies never pay on demand, even if a procedure is medically necessary and pre-approved. And electrolysis providers demand "payment at the time of service". Somewhere in the country, there are a few providers that have agreed to treat veterans and accept the VA's insurance payments. Most of them are still in the process of getting state licenses, and certifications, and signing the contracts. So there is movement in this area.
The next big hurdle is gender-affirming surgery. Currently, government regulations prohibit "gender-altering" surgeries of any kind. So that includes genitals, facial feminization, voice surgery, tracheal shaves, etc. A complaint was filed against the VA in 2016 claiming that this was discriminatory in that it discriminates against transgender veterans and only transgender veterans. The VA said they agreed and would change their policy. In 2018, the VA said they had to change the Federal Regulations in order to change their policy. In 2021, the VA said they were changing the regulations, but it would take about two years to implement since they needed equipment and trained personnel. In 2024, TAVA (Transgender American Veterans Association) filed a lawsuit against the VA to get a court order for the VA to change the regulations immediately and stop stalling. That case is still pending.
There is another option that I am looking into. I don't recall where I saw it, but there are organizations that provide grants for gender-affirming care. The funds are limited and they receive many applications each year. I fear that I would apply, receive the funds, and then the VA would start covering the care as promised. I don't want to take funds that could be available for someone else who may need care immediately if my care is going to be covered.
There is progress being made and I don't mind waiting in line, but I don't want to try to get all this done when I am 70 (in three years). I'd like to start living MY life. ;D
I hope you all of this taken care of. You seem thoughtful and you are nice looking.
Thank you again for serving our country with your military service.
I wonder if Admiral Rachel Levine could help you with the VA. She is transgender, and she is a four star admiral, and she is a MD.
Chrissy
She is the Assistant Secretary of Health. Maybe some influence but the VA is like its own animal. Also, Dr. Levine's rank is in the United States Public Health Service Commissioned Corps. Same government but a different agency. But then again, if I'm going on a letter-writing crusade, I can always include Mr. Biden. I have responses from Reagan and Obama from previous crusades. ;D Not that anything got done. Hard to expect action from a politician.
Yup not unless it wins votes or puts $/£s in their pockets (cynical me?!)
Hey Lori -
Just a suggestion based on what I know from my son's experiences working within the Federal government:
I know you're in PA - and I believe there your districts are pretty well split between dems/rep in terms of congress members. So I'm not sure who your member is. But if you've got a dem representing you, I think you might want to try contacting your rep's office.
They are (well, the good offices any way) EXCELLENT at negotiating the red tape of the VA, Social Security, etc... whatever constituent issues arise. And if you get lucky you might find an advocate in the office who can open some doors for you and might know who to call and make things happen for you.
If you happen to not have a friendly congress member, you could reach out to your senator — but their constituent service game is not as tight, but again... might be worth a call/email.
Love,
Allie
Thanks, Allie
But I am in South Dakota, one of the reddest of the red states. I was born in PA but only lived there for six months. (I was six months old when our family moved to CA.)
I have contacted our congressman, Governor, and Senator on several occasions unrelated to this. You are correct in that they have some pull with government agencies. When I was in the service, one thing that our commanders absolutely dreaded was a Congressional Investigation. They usually ended with people resigning or going to jail.
As always, I do appreciate your advice.
Hugs!
Quote from: LoriDee on April 08, 2024, 09:32:40 PMThanks, Allie
But I am in South Dakota, one of the reddest of the red states. I was born in PA but only lived there for six months. (I was six months old when our family moved to CA.)
I have contacted our congressman, Governor, and Senator on several occasions unrelated to this. You are correct in that they have some pull with government agencies. When I was in the service, one thing that our commanders absolutely dreaded was a Congressional Investigation. They usually ended with people resigning or going to jail.
As always, I do appreciate your advice.
Hugs!
Ugh sorry.
Thune isn't the worst R of them all, but your lone rep is Dusty Johnson, right? I can't imagine in a one rep state that they are very proactive with constituent services even if they were LGBTQ+ friendly.
Sorry for the confusion. Not sure why I thought you were a PA gal. 🤔
Yeah, Dusty Johnson talked a good game to begin with. Shortly after his election, he started toeing the line and kissing up to Queen Kristi Noem. I was at Mount Rushmore to see Donald Trump give his speech. Dusty Johnson was the only state delegate to wear a mask (Covid was still a thing). By the end of the speech, he had removed the mask and put it away. After that, I started paying attention to what he did in office and how it compared to Queen Kristi's Executive Orders.
Thune is all Republican. He is the senior Republican and on numerous committees. He won't risk his chances for higher office. I wrote to him on several occasions about gun rights. He supported several "red flag" laws that I disapprove of. The laws allowed anyone with a grudge to file a complaint and have your personal property confiscated without notice or going to court. He tried to tell me that the laws were designed to pre-emptively prevent people with mental illness from owning a gun. I reminded him that the Constitution does not state that certain people do not have a 2nd Amendment right. Until the Constitution is changed, only a court of competent authority can prevent a citizen from exercising all of their rights. I also cited about ten Supreme Court cases that prove he is wrong.
He decided not to respond, so I challenged him to a debate. Again, no reply.
I finally realized that the whole political system is corrupt to the core.
Quote from: LoriDee on April 08, 2024, 10:26:10 PMYeah, Dusty Johnson talked a good game to begin with. Shortly after his election, he started toeing the line and kissing up to Queen Kristi Noem. I was at Mount Rushmore to see Donald Trump give his speech. Dusty Johnson was the only state delegate to wear a mask (Covid was still a thing). By the end of the speech, he had removed the mask and put it away. After that, I started paying attention to what he did in office and how it compared to Queen Kristi's Executive Orders.
Thune is all Republican. He is the senior Republican and on numerous committees. He won't risk his chances for higher office. I wrote to him on several occasions about gun rights. He supported several "red flag" laws that I disapprove of. The laws allowed anyone with a grudge to file a complaint and have your personal property confiscated without notice or going to court. He tried to tell me that the laws were designed to pre-emptively prevent people with mental illness from owning a gun. I reminded him that the Constitution does not state that certain people do not have a 2nd Amendment right. Until the Constitution is changed, only a court of competent authority can prevent a citizen from exercising all of their rights. I also cited about ten Supreme Court cases that prove he is wrong.
He decided not to respond, so I challenged him to a debate. Again, no reply.
I finally realized that the whole political system is corrupt to the core.
I don't think it's the whole system. I just think you happen to live where the cogs in the machine are broken beyond repair.
QuoteThe next big hurdle is gender-affirming surgery. Currently, government regulations prohibit "gender-altering" surgeries of any kind. So that includes genitals, facial feminization, voice surgery, tracheal shaves, etc. A complaint was filed against the VA in 2016 claiming that this was discriminatory in that it discriminates against transgender veterans and only transgender veterans. The VA said they agreed and would change their policy. In 2018, the VA said they had to change the Federal Regulations in order to change their policy. In 2021, the VA said they were changing the regulations, but it would take about two years to implement since they needed equipment and trained personnel. In 2024, TAVA (Transgender American Veterans Association) filed a lawsuit against the VA to get a court order for the VA to change the regulations immediately and stop stalling. That case is still pending.
I would argue that we aren't changing our gender, we are simply trying to correct an unfortunate birth defect. It's not our fault that we were born with the wrong equipment, or that people couldn't recognize our thought patterns, so they treated us as the gender they assumed / wanted us to be. Just about any other birth anomaly would have been corrected without our consent, but correcting other people's assumption about who we are requires a long, expensive fight. Good luck Lori, and everyone else who is fighting this battle.
Love always -- Jess
Lori,
I have another counseling session this afternoon. I hope it is helpful.
On another matter, I will be signing off here momentarily, gosh I have so many posts still to try to read and respond to during the day, but I just need to get ready for the day.
I have this absolutely beautiful navy floral long dress and cute short boots I plan to wear today. This is absolutely gorgeous. Wish that myself had a better body but I wore this last evening and my sweetie gave me nice compliments, she loved it too.
Gotta go.
Chrissy
ChrissyRyan Dear Chrissy: I am wishing you well with your therapy session.
The outfit that you described that you are going to wear sounds beautiful....
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Let us know how your session went for you.HUGS, DanielleQuote from: ChrissyRyan on April 09, 2024, 08:39:46 AMLori,
I have another counseling session this afternoon. I hope it is helpful.
On another matter, I will be signing off here momentarily, gosh I have so many posts still to try to read and respond to during the day, but I just need to get ready for the day.
I have this absolutely beautiful navy floral long dress and cute short boots I plan to wear today. This is absolutely gorgeous. Wish that myself had a better body but I wore this last evening and my sweetie gave me nice compliments, she loved it too.
Gotta go.
Chrissy
@Jessica_Rose I agree with you 100%. I have always questioned the term "Gender Dysphoria". We are not dysphoric about our
gender. We don't change our
gender. The correct diagnosis is "Body Dysphoria" and it applies to non-transgender people as well. Gender-affirming surgery is aptly named.
@LoriDee Dear LoriDee:You are "right-on" with your comment regarding GD and with GRS
Thank you for sharing.HUGS, DanielleQuote from: LoriDee on April 09, 2024, 09:45:24 AM@Jessica_Rose
I agree with you 100%. I have always questioned the term "Gender Dysphoria". We are not dysphoric about our gender. We don't change our gender. The correct diagnosis is "Body Dysphoria" and it applies to non-transgender people as well. Gender-affirming surgery is aptly named.
Hi Lori
You will love this posting by me!!!!!
Gender Dysphoria Proven Wrong (https://www.susans.org/index.php/topic,81855.msg582835.html#msg582835)
and this
One of my Posts on it (https://www.susans.org/index.php/topic,81855.msg582410.html#msg582410)
Written 14 years ago
Love and Hugs
Sarah B
Official Greeter
I like your thinking!
When I was in school learning hypnotherapy, we briefly studied gender identity. I think we were using Version V, and now I think we are on to version VI.
There are different classifications for various mental issues. "Dysphoria" merely means being somehow disturbed by something. I have "Neighbor Dysphoria" because my neighbors disturb me often. However, it is not classified as a "disorder" unless it interferes with your life (socializing, family, work, school, etc.). So you can have Body Dysphoria, meaning you are disturbed by how your body looks, acts, or is shaped. Many people who are transgender may not be "disturbed" by it enough to want hormones or surgery. They are no less transgender, they just are not dysphoric to the point of it being a disorder. Their coping mechanisms allow them to live in stealth or be content with the uneasiness.
Back in earlier versions of the DSM, this distinction was clear and it was called "Gender Identity Disorder". This is what we now call "Gender Dysphoria". But note that it is not a "disorder" unless it is severe enough to interfere with one's life. Now they have everything lumped together under the diagnosis of "Transvestism" with two sub-categories. One for cross-dressers and one for transgendered persons.
Another thing concerning the "mental illness" part. The reason is to determine if one is dysphoric, and is that dysphoria a disorder. It is also to determine if some other cause results in that behavior or thinking. One could be schizophrenic or delusional. Gender Identity is mental. You can't see it on an MRI, so it must be examined by a mental health professional. The point is to narrow it down to a specific diagnosis. You can go to a physician and not be sick. Most mental health professionals go to other mental health professionals. It doesn't mean they have a mental illness.
My psychologist's diagnosis is something along the lines of "Transvestism: with chronic gender dysphoria since adolescence." He didn't know me when I was young, so he made that determination by my answers to his questions and the descriptions I gave when relating specific events. In my opinion, it started when I was about six years old, but his diagnosis accomplished the same thing. For many of us, puberty is the most difficult to deal with (if we have a disorder).
Quote from: Northern Star Girl on April 09, 2024, 09:42:14 AM ChrissyRyan
Dear Chrissy:
I am wishing you well with your therapy session.
The outfit that you described that you are going to wear sounds beautiful....
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Let us know how your session went for you.
HUGS, Danielle
My appointment is coming up in a little while today. I have a lot on my mind.
Chrissy
No exciting news today. It will hit 80 degrees today. That's F, not C for you ladies across the pond. ;D
I am struggling with dysphoria today. But I am having lunch with the girls to repay them for taking me out on Easter. It will be good to take a break and relax in good company.
Have a Great Day!
Lunch was great. One of the gals gave me a necklace and bracelet that she found when they were out thrifting. The bracelet is an adorable charm bracelet with three charms that read: Dream, Believe, and Achieve. The necklace matches. I think I needed to read that today. :)
I realized that I have not updated my latest jewelry pics, so here we go...
(https://i.imgur.com/JPGRlhT.jpeg)
This stone is called Miriam Stone. Some call it Sanskrit Jasper, Arabic Jasper, or Calligraphy Stone. Legend says that there are ancient prophesies written on these stones. The fact is that it is not a jasper, it is a fossil! Millions of years ago there was a swamp near the Himalaya region in India. What you are seeing are fossilized roots and shells that were stuck in the swamp mud. The stone was almost cube-shaped, so I cut it in two and made two pieces from the same stone.
(https://i.imgur.com/DCDWUDk.jpeg)
(https://i.imgur.com/gwMInrE.jpeg)
This is a piece of Teepee Agate that I found in Teepee Canyon. The canyon is west of Jewel Cave which is an awesome place (Google it). Teepee Canyon and Hell Canyon are well-known for producing beautiful red, orange, and yellow agates and jaspers. This piece broke off of a larger stone during the tumbling/polishing process. It ended up shaped like a shark tooth. It was a challenge trying to figure out how to wire-wrap it.
(https://i.imgur.com/ycSS8cb.jpeg)
This is a piece of clear quartz crystal that I found out at the Fairburn Agate Beds while hunting for the elusive Fairburn Agate. I often find clear quartz out there and some even look like ice cubes. This one was well-rounded and ended up almost like a crystal ball.
(https://i.imgur.com/FXAnyjb.jpeg)
This Tiger Eye is one of my favorites. The stone came in a sample bag with one of my new rock tumblers. I used the gold-colored wire to accent the gold color of the gemstone.
(https://i.imgur.com/RD3Vmqg.jpeg)
This is the darkest colored Amethyst I have ever seen except at the Geology Museum. I wanted to keep the wire wrap simple to keep the stone as the focal point. I'd like to find a few more of these. (Few = multiples of 100). ;D
EDIT: The whole photo album is here. https://imgur.com/a/rX0k4Ho
Whoa! Those are so, so, sooooooooooooo beautiful. Thanks for sharing, LoriDee.
Absolutely Gorgeous Work Sister!!! 💕💕🤗💕💕💕
Hi Lori and Ashley Ashley said;
Quote from: tgirlamg on April 13, 2024, 04:11:39 PMAbsolutely Gorgeous Work Sister!!!
Lori I agree with her, unquestionably, stunning work!
Love and Hugs to AllSarah BOfficial Greeter@LoriDee @tgirlamg
Very nice.
Pretty!
@LoriDee
WOW, that is a 60 degree(f) difference.... This morning as I am getting ready to go to church...
....planning to dress warm!!!! ....Cold this morning 21deg(f) [-6 deg C]
DanielleQuote from: LoriDee on April 13, 2024, 11:42:24 AMNo exciting news today. It will hit 80 degrees today. That's F, not C for you ladies across the pond. ;D
I am struggling with dysphoria today. But I am having lunch with the girls to repay them for taking me out on Easter. It will be good to take a break and relax in good company.
Have a Great Day!
It was 22C yesterday, 12C tomorrow!!! Staying in-----
Very beautiful work Loridee. That Jewry is so pretty. NICE!
Hugs Gina
I like some types of agates.
A busy morning today. I had to submit letters of income verification to the property management. My rent is based on income and there are tax credits and things that offset how much my rent is.
The certification came back approved so I had to go back to the Property Manager's office and sign a stack of forms. But my lease has been renewed for another year with no increase in rent. WIN! :eusa_dance: <--- this is me doing my Happy Dance. ;D
Good news, my rent support was doubled this year .
When rent goes up it is not always the result of the Landlord's greed....
...increases in property taxes, maintenance costs, changes in local regulations, and
price increases related to additional financial burdens on the Landlord are not
always in their control.
The financial uncertainty in the world today is causing much difficulty for
both Landlords and Renters..... and everyone else.
HUGS, Danielle
I got an update on my voice training today.
{Back Story} The VA Trans Care Coordinator submitted a request for the lessons. The request was approved and the Voice Coach at the Iowa City VA called and set up an appointment for my first visit. I was to go to my local VA Clinic and we would do a telemedicine appointment there.
About a week before my appointment, my Care Coordinator said my appointment had to be canceled due to "technical issues". She agreed to look into it and said if the issue could not be resolved, they would give me an iPad so I could do the lessons from home. Our VA Clinic here in Rapid City is brand new. Very modern looking with state-of-the-art technology. I assumed that some IT guy checked the router and ... no router. But such was not the case.
Two weeks went by and I asked my Care Coordinator if they had fixed the "technical issue" yet, and if it was going to take time (ordering parts or whatever), then they should set me up with the iPad and reschedule my appointment.
This morning the Care Coordinator told me that the reason they canceled the appointment was not due to telemedicine connection issues. The problem is that the VA in Rapid City does not have an "agreement" with Iowa City to provide care to me, since I am not a patient of Iowa City VA. ???
The paperwork has been submitted so that the VA can share my records with the VA and I can be treated by the VA.
Meanwhile, they cannot seem to figure out who is entering someone else's information into my records. Apparently, it is acceptable to reference (in my records) someone who has a different name and a different Medicare account number. Apparently, it is acceptable to allow someone to change my Primary VA Healthcare Facility to places I have never been to. However, when it comes to in-house VA care, they will not allow the VA to access my VA records without an agreement between the VA and the VA. ???
Fortunately, I have been in contact with our Privacy Officer whose job it is to ensure that medical data is kept confidential. He is quite concerned that I have someone else's data in my records and this is under investigation. I have since had my files marked as "Private" which does nothing to prevent information flowing one way or the other. It causes a log to be created that can trace any information changes so I can find out who requested it.
So other than that, my day is going great. ;D
My typical laundry schedule:
Wash Machine: 40 minutes
Dryer: 50 minutes
Folding and putting away: 3 - 5 business days.
That's why we have chairs in our bedroom. ;D
Better than a floordrobe, 50 min wash and dry setting is my normal and then hang it on the drying rack in my bedroom for a few days. Sometimes it just gets folded and goes on the chest of drawers.
I liked it when records were kept in a file drawer in the Dr. office. Not as convenient but much more secure. I'll take the more secure option any time.
I hope they get the situation straightened out.
Good luck on the voice lessons. Navigating any government agency is the worst. My insurance would pay but my copay was $800 for the evaluation then $75 per lesson. If I did it out of pocket it was only $65 for the evaluation and $65 per lesson. Obviously I choose to go out of pocket.
Hi Everyone
Arriving in Sydney 35 years ago and within 3 months I was living and working as a female. I had no makeup or voice lessons. I taught myself and of course there was no YouTube then to learn from. In addition I dressed appropriately for my age, work and the social occasion.
The only information that I had at the time was a book on plaits and a book on makeup (I'm not sure on this book). If I do have that book it is still within my collection of books. I will soon be unpacking my books and when I come across those books I will list those books that helped me no end. In addition I will add a photo of each one.
Why after all that time, would I still have those books? Simple, I love books.
I keep my privacy private, in other words I do not tell any government department about my 'medical condition' and that includes 'doctors' or any organization as well, except for the few doctors that I have revealed my condition to recently, I emphasize that is not to be recorded in their computer systems. This ensures I have no hassles whatsoever.
Take care and have a wonderful weekend that is coming your way
Love and Hugs
Sarah B
Official Greeter
I can put "tons of books" on my electronic tablet yet its weight remains constant.
Absolutely amazing.
Hehehe I am a silly woman at times.
Today is a rock tumbler clean-out day. Last night I washed out the barrels and put the rocks back in and ran them overnight with just water and borax. That cleans off the grit so it doesn't transfer to the next stage. Those that are in the final polishing stage get cleaned up so they are nice and shiny.
On Tuesday, my friend and I will be at an Arts & Crafts event here in the apartment complex. I'll have a chance to sell some of my jewelry and polished stones. I'm not looking to make much money from it but a few sales will offset the cost of materials so I can make more. Pics to follow later.
LoriDee
Dear LoriDee:I am always amazed at the final result of the rock polishing procedures....
...what starts out as something that may have been tossed away becomes a beautiful piece,
and then adding your embellishments makes a desired item suitable for sale or for your
own enjoyment!!!! Keep posting your photos as you feel comfortable sharing.
HUGS, DanielleQuote from: LoriDee on April 20, 2024, 10:15:17 AMToday is a rock tumbler clean-out day. Last night I washed out the barrels and put the rocks back in and ran them overnight with just water and borax. That cleans off the grit so it doesn't transfer to the next stage. Those that are in the final polishing stage get cleaned up so they are nice and shiny.
On Tuesday, my friend and I will be at an Arts & Crafts event here in the apartment complex. I'll have a chance to sell some of my jewelry and polished stones. I'm not looking to make much money from it but a few sales will offset the cost of materials so I can make more. Pics to follow later.
One of the reasons I like Bubblegum Agates is they are ugly on the outside, like a piece of chewed bubblegum. But sometimes, after being tumbled a bit, they have colors and banding and patterns that you wouldn't expect. The way I see it, it is a treasure left for me to find. And after millions of years, I am the only human to ever see it.
Another crazy busy morning. Since I have renewed the lease on my apartment I needed to have an annual inspection. The manager said it would only take ten minutes. She checked everything and 30 minutes later I signed the inspection form.
I am on the Resident Council here, which is just a go-between for residents and management to air concerns, and talk about planned events, new policies, etc. We have a meeting this evening.
We have our first Arts & Crafts event tomorrow, so I am busy getting rocks and jewelry together for that. At least I won't be bored!
You rock Lori!
Chrissy
I went to our Resident Council meeting last night and, the meeting is next Monday. Tonight was Walking Tacos Night. But I had already eaten before the meeting.
Today's Arts & Crafts Event has been postponed until next month. Only three residents signed up for it and it was not going to be the type of event I thought it was. My wife (now ex-) and I sold jewelry and scented candles at all kinds of craft shows, fundraisers, and state and county fairs. What they wanted to do here was more of a Local Artists Showcase where we just put some things on display for other residents to enjoy. Um, no. So the event is postponed and will be an Arts & Crafts Show and we will invite artists who may be local but not necessarily residents of our community. We will see how it goes.
I added a few more jewelry pieces to my photo album.
Rough Stones to Jewelry by Lori Dee (https://imgur.com/a/rX0k4Ho)
The sun is shining, my best friend / fellow rockhound / mining buddy is with me, and I have a full tank of gas, so we drove out to check on the creek. The water level is a little bit high but doable. The water is still running fast though, and still not even 40 degrees. Brrr.
But look at that sky!
(https://i.imgur.com/AbUcTqv.jpeg)
We are still lacking the Spring green, and my Bestie thinks we will skip Spring and just go straight to HOT. We decided to drive back up into the Hills further where I spent last Summer when I was homeless camping for six weeks.
This is Boulder Hill. I wonder how it got that name?
The reason it is shaped like that is because it is an extinct volcano.
(https://i.imgur.com/lhAAXnd.jpeg)
When lava cools quickly, it forms glassy rocks like obsidian. When it cools very slowly, the rock becomes very hard and dense like granite. What you see sticking out at the top was the lava that cooled slowly and formed these boulders. They don't erode away as quickly as the surrounding mountainside that was largely soil and ash. Now you understand why Devil's Tower looks like it does. It was once a huge volcano and everything eroded away but the center.
Behind one of my campsites was this cool sunbathing rock... or mountain lion perch. It depends on who gets there first. Mountain lions are skittish around people unless they are really hungry. I don't eat mountain lion so our arrangement worked out well.
(https://i.imgur.com/l8B0923.jpeg)
Here kitty kitty. psp psp psp
I wish photos could capture the smell of these pine trees. I love that smell.
(https://i.imgur.com/3rp8N4X.jpeg)
Now I'm home and ready for a nap. ;D
I find it interesting that although quartz is a mineral, quartz countertops are man made. Quartzite, a rock, is not man made. Quartzite countertops are made from rock, as are granite ones.
Quartzite sounds fake (man made) and quartz sounds natural. But it is the other way around for countertop material.
@LoriDee
Dear LoriDee:Thank you for posting the pictures of your trip out to check on the creek
with your rock-hound buddy.
The pictures that you shared and your commentary was nice for me to see and to read....
... and I am very much enjoying your Rough Stones to Jewelry photo album with
beautiful photos of the beautiful work that you do making rocks into very pretty jewelry..HUGS, Danielle
Well, the hike in the forest took an unexpected toll on my knees. The next day I was in a lot of pain. I have a torn meniscus in my left knee and was treated with a cortisone injection. Everything was just fine. Until I started climbing around on rocks like some young 65-year-old.
Now I am in "rest and relax" mode. One of my appointments yesterday at the VA was to get my 3-month injection of Eligard. I was wearing a knee brace and she kept checking the medication order thinking I was getting cortisone. We got it straightened out. I told her I planned to get some Epsom salts and soak in the bath. She recommended just using bags of frozen peas. The cold will reduce the swelling and they are reusable and cheap.
My next appointment was with my Psychologist. She has been teaching me how to pace my breathing (for stress management) using a biofeedback machine. We had some girl-talk time and then set up the machine. My goal is to be able to do 6 breaths per minute in a steady repeatable cycle. I clocked in at 6.1 breaths per minute and told her I beat that video game. Then we got into more serious stuff.
I don't mind sharing it here because everyone here has had, or may have a similar experience. When I began transitioning, I searched several online sources (including Susan's) for some type of checklist to help me understand what I want/need to get done. To this day, I am still following that checklist.
The "problem" arises, (the source of my anxiety, stress, depression, and frustration), is that I get stuck at one point and feel as though I can't move forward. Paced breathing calms me while doing it, but then reality sets in and I am still stuck. For example:
My list
Social transitioning:
- Coming out to friends and family as transgender - YES
- Asking people to use preferred pronouns - YES
- Going by a different name - YES
- Dressing/grooming in ways that match gender identity - YES
- Cosmetic prostheses (wigs, breast forms, etc.) - YES {VA Provided}
- Changing all legal documents - YES
Medical transition:
- Mental Health evaluation - YES {VA Provided}
- Hormone therapy - YES {VA Provided}
- Hair removal (face, body, genital hair if preparing for surgery) - VA says Service Not Available
- Voice training - VA said Service Not Available - New VA Program is available now
- Breast augmentation (implants)? - Service Not Available (Cosmetic Surgery not allowed)
- Orchiectomy - Service Not Available (Not Medically Necessary)
- Tracheal shave - Service Not Available (Cosmetic Surgery not allowed)
- Facial feminization surgery - Service Not Available (Cosmetic Surgery not allowed)
- Vaginoplasty - Service Not Available (also due to VA Regulations)
Not everyone will follow this list. Not everyone, including me, will want everything on this list. It is just a generic list for MtF transition.
What happened was that I got stuck at Facial Hair Removal (Electrolysis) and felt like I couldn't move forward. I wanted the opportunity to get to know the electrologist and see their office (is it clean?). Not all electrologists will do pre-op genital clearing, so is this a person I want working down there?
My Psychologist is awesome. She did a "deep dive" into my medical records and documented each and every time some provider mentioned that electrolysis was medically necessary. No less than three times each year since 2019 my Primary Physician, Endocrinologist, Psychologist, Gynecologist, or the Medical Chief of Staff here, stated it was medically necessary and would be covered by the VA. It still has not happened, but the documentation is there and the push is on.
What I explained to my Psychologist is that all of this is wonderful except that we are so focused on getting this one step done, we have lost track of the end goal. I need documentation that Gender Affirming Surgery is medically necessary. The reason it has not been documented as thoroughly as anything else is because VA Regulations do not allow "Genital Altering" surgeries.
If I was on active duty in the military, bottom surgery would be provided at no cost to me. If I was a convicted felon in prison, bottom surgery would be provided at no cost to me. However, the Department of Veterans Affairs continues to discriminate against us based on sex, which is a violation of federal law. Medicare will cover the surgery, but I need this well-documented in my medical records that surgery is necessary (because hormone therapy alone has been unsuccessful in "curing" my dysphoria). I will also need letters of medical necessity from each of my doctors. (I don't need that many, but more is better and I want every medical specialty in agreement that it is necessary and in my records). And with our current political climate, I can't wait around to get this documented. I need it now.
My Psychologist agreed and has begun working on getting all of this down in my medical records. That will set the precedent, so when I see my Gynecologist in June I can ask the same from her. Then when I see my Primary in August I can ask the same from her. Either the VA changes its policy and I will be a candidate for surgery, or it will not but I will have enough documentation to apply for grants or other financial assistance. Hopefully, I can avoid becoming a convicted felon to get the surgery. ;D
When I got home from my appointments, there was a package in front of my door. I hadn't ordered anything. I opened it up and it is a new iPad from VA TeleHealth Service to use for my Voice Training! I contacted the Voice Training Program Coordinator to tell him I had received it and he is notifying the Iowa City VA that we can proceed with scheduling appointments. We are still waiting for the agreement to allow Iowa City access to my records in South Dakota. (It's a HIPAA thing). Once that paperwork gets processed I can get started and check another item off my list. :icon_joy:
If the speed of light is the fastest speed there is, then the speed of government is the slowest. Everything in the Universe is in motion. You are not stuck, just not moving in the preferred direction. Every step forward is a movement forward and counts as a win. Keep moving forward at any pace.
Hi Lori,
That is great news about the iPad and voice training!
It takes a lot of of work to ingrain new muscle patterns so you can do it subconsciously.
Tons of short frequent practice sessions will help.
Good golfers will endure what it takes to get a better golf swing. Often to improve consistent ball striking.
Takes months for the small changes to become ingrained so it can be done without thinking.
Marion
Lori,
Practice. Investigate. Follow-up. Relax.
Good things often come in time. May not be to your exact timetable though.
Cheers,
Chrissy
Congrats on the Ipad and voice training. My voice coach recommended a breathing exercise to relax before lessons. Breath in from the belly for 4 count, hold for 8 count, and exhale through pursed lips slowly for 12 count. Do this for 3 minutes for heart rate to slow.
So sorry you have so much trouble with the VA. The Vets have always gotten the short end of the stick.
Hugs Gina
Hope you enjoy the voice training! I did some very early on and I haven't gone back to it but I found the whole process really enjoyable and affirming!
What's funny is that my coach and I agreed that when I get closer to full time maybe we'd restart for a few weeks to try to match voice to appearance. But leading up to this I've been feeling guilty that maybe my training was wasted.
Then I called Sara about something last week and she said "hey your voice sounds really great" and I didn't think I was doing anything. 😀
Now she's met me in person and heard the same voice, so mostly I think this just means my voice is way ahead of my look - but I'll take it!
And with your look already so great Lori - if you tweak your voice to where you're happy with it? You'll be an unstoppable monster - but, you know, the good kind. 😘
Good luck with your voice training.
Chrissy
It was great hearing that the VA is finally going to come through with some voice training. You may want to consider an app or two which can help you monitor progress. The 'Voice Pitch Analyzer' is free, and there is another similar tool with more features which is about $15. Something else you must remember to reduce frustration -- the voice you hear isn't the same as the voice other's hear. Make a recording of something like 'the rainbow passage' before you start, and make another recording after a few sessions. Progress is often slow, but the recordings will be markers you can use to gauge improvement. Comparing where you are to where you were will help you hear the changes. Don't get discouraged. Many people go weeks without hearing any difference, then one day everything suddenly 'clicks' and you hear a voice you never thought possible. Keep tissues handy. Ocular leakage will occur. You can do this.
Love always -- Jess
Thanks, Jessica.
I have the Voice Pitch Analyzer on my phone. It has you read a passage and record the results. I think that is what the VA Clinician will want me to use too. They mentioned using an app, but they didn't say which one. Knowing the VA they might have their own. I will know more when we have the first appointment. I expect progress to be slow because I have no voice training experience... except in the Army calling cadence while marching and yelling at Privates to stop being stupid. ;D
I have been an instructor, in the Army and elsewhere, so public speaking is not an issue. But no experience controlling my voice, like singing or doing imitations. It will be a fun adventure and I am looking forward to it. It will be nice to talk to a stranger on the phone and get "ma'am" instead of "sir".
Lori,
I have used Christilla's Voice Up with in app purchases.
Although in the feminine range consistently, there is much more than pitch to work out, for sure.
I found this app when borrowing a friend's iPad for an extended time. Eventually I got my own iPad, but it took maybe two years! He is the type that upgraded a lot so he let me use his that was sort of "left behind" or orphaned as he used the newest stuff.
But he did not have this app, and I did not buy the add ons until I had my own tablet and account. I do not remember what the add ons cost.
I think it was worth it. I still refer to it for practice.
Thanks, Chrissy!
At our Trans Support Group meeting, I was speaking with one of the gals who went through the VA program. She has a very nice voice but she is still self-conscious of it. Like you said, it is way more than just pitch. I had been watching Trans Voice Lessons on YouTube and they are a great help, but as this gal pointed out, the one-on-one training allows someone (not a machine) to listen to you speak and help you correct what you are doing wrong... well, not wrong, but how to do it better. Most apps cannot teach you how to train things like your sub-laryngeal folds. I just learned that term and I finally got to use it! ;D
One of the reviewers on Christella's said they really liked the lessons but hoped they didn't acquire her accent. Then I saw that Chistella is in the UK. :laugh:
I wish I had a sweet sounding, all female voice, all the time.
Chrissy
The few lessons I got from the GIC via Teams were good, she said I had (just) the right pitch. Trouble is I need to practice a bit more, when you talk to someone you have known for ages I find I tend to slip.
My first voice coach it was all about pitch. There is so much more to the female voice than pitch. My new coach started with pitch and we have moved on to less breathiness, softer, and more emphasis on each word spoken more clearly.(Males then to be lazy and run thier words together.) Projecting the sound out from being in my chest or throat to a more forward sound. Also adding more loudness without loosing the rest of it. My wife is of little help she says it sounds phony. I have reverted to not practicing in the same room whenever possible.
I just got the call this morning. My lessons start on Friday (3rd) first thing in the morning!
I am stoked.
@Gina P I was watching Trans Voice Lessons on YouTube and she said that many coaches start with that. She has found that some do better with learning to control resonance. She gave some exercises to work on breathiness, pitch, weight, etc. I am curious about what the VA coach will do, but at least I have an idea about the kinds of things we will be talking about.
I am a total newb at doing anything like this, but I love learning new things. Who knows, maybe I'll take up singing. When the neighbors get noisy I can fight back. ;D
Quote from: Gina P on April 29, 2024, 05:47:23 AMMy first voice coach it was all about pitch. There is so much more to the female voice than pitch. My new coach started with pitch and we have moved on to less breathiness, softer, and more emphasis on each word spoken more clearly.(Males then to be lazy and run thier words together.) Projecting the sound out from being in my chest or throat to a more forward sound. Also adding more loudness without loosing the rest of it. My wife is of little help she says it sounds phony. I have reverted to not practicing in the same room whenever possible.
What your wife says matters less than what strangers think. For example, are you identified as female on the phone when talking with strangers?
The Internet was newborn when I transitioned. There were no YouTube videos for coaching and I sought no coaching. I did it by fumbling trial and error.
Quote from: LoriDee on April 29, 2024, 09:38:42 AMI just got the call this morning. My lessons start on Friday (3rd) first thing in the morning!
I am stoked.
@Gina P
I was watching Trans Voice Lessons on YouTube and she said that many coaches start with that. She has found that some do better with learning to control resonance. She gave some exercises to work on breathiness, pitch, weight, etc. I am curious about what the VA coach will do, but at least I have an idea about the kinds of things we will be talking about.
I am a total newb at doing anything like this, but I love learning new things. Who knows, maybe I'll take up singing. When the neighbors get noisy I can fight back. ;D
I believe I have my gesticulation down pat, it has become second nature. The voice has far more practice needed. It is hard work, some days I just wonder why I am working so hard at this. Maybe it is not to be. Then I think I must keep on trying, I must keep on practicing, and perhaps the male voice will become the voice hard to do.
Chrissy
Another day of cleaning out the rock tumblers.
Previously, I had mentioned that I like the Bubblegum Agates because they can be full of surprises. Here is an example:
When I find it on the ground and wash it off it looks sort of like this.
(https://i.imgur.com/Df14h4b.jpeg)
Then after rolling around in the tumblers, the abrasive grit wears away the "husk" and we get a glimpse of what's inside. This is how this one turned out.
(https://i.imgur.com/KyanRkh.jpeg)
and the other side.
(https://i.imgur.com/OyCQ94U.jpeg)
Here are a few others that turned out nice.
This one came from Teepee Canyon. I'll be going back to get more soon.
(https://i.imgur.com/TC4C1hh.jpeg)
(https://i.imgur.com/b3jo2Lh.jpeg)
(https://i.imgur.com/TKWprvC.jpeg)
My expertise in jewelry making is improving.
Check out this engagement ring. Now that is a rock any woman would love to receive.
(https://i.imgur.com/9zE2yvE.jpeg)
Or not. ;D
Love them! As a child, polished stones enchanted me. Heck, they still do.
Quote from: LoriDee on April 29, 2024, 02:33:09 PMAnother day of cleaning out the rock tumblers.
Previously, I had mentioned that I like the Bubblegum Agates because they can be full of surprises. Here is an example:
When I find it on the ground and wash it off it looks sort of like this.
(https://i.imgur.com/Df14h4b.jpeg)
Then after rolling around in the tumblers, the abrasive grit wears away the "husk" and we get a glimpse of what's inside. This is how this one turned out.
(https://i.imgur.com/KyanRkh.jpeg)
and the other side.
(https://i.imgur.com/OyCQ94U.jpeg)
Here are a few others that turned out nice.
This one came from Teepee Canyon. I'll be going back to get more soon.
(https://i.imgur.com/TC4C1hh.jpeg)
(https://i.imgur.com/b3jo2Lh.jpeg)
(https://i.imgur.com/TKWprvC.jpeg)
My expertise in jewelry making is improving.
Check out this engagement ring. Now that is a rock any woman would love to receive.
(https://i.imgur.com/9zE2yvE.jpeg)
Or not. ;D
I like all of them, except the one with the rock inside prongs. I guess some people might like that one too but it is not one that I would wear.
Lori,
Do the finishes called polished, matte, and leather apply to the rock work you do?
Chrissy
Quote from: ChrissyRyan on April 29, 2024, 04:22:09 PMDo the finishes called polished, matte, and leather apply to the rock work you do?
Chrissy,
Not exactly. The harder rocks like agates and jaspers will get nice and shiny. The softer ones like Fuchsite are too porous so they get smooth but not really shiny. The problem is that softer rocks have to be tumbled with care because they get worn down pretty quickly and can break apart. So they don't get as long of a cycle in the tumbler.
I have some "exotics" that I will be tumbling soon. Amethyst is a hard stone, but like quartz, it can fracture and bruise easily. So they need special care too. I have some jade, amethyst, tiger eye, amazonite, and quartz ready to start next week. I have to add "padding" in the form of small stones so they don't crash into each other as they tumble. I am anxious to see how they come out.
Quote from: LoriDee on April 29, 2024, 04:34:19 PMChrissy,
Not exactly. The harder rocks like agates and jaspers will get nice and shiny. The softer ones like Fuchsite are too porous so they get smooth but not really shiny. The problem is that softer rocks have to be tumbled with care because they get worn down pretty quickly and can break apart. So they don't get as long of a cycle in the tumbler.
I have some "exotics" that I will be tumbling soon. Amethyst is a hard stone, but like quartz, it can fracture and bruise easily. So they need special care too. I have some jade, amethyst, tiger eye, amazonite, and quartz ready to start next week. I have to add "padding" in the form of small stones so they don't crash into each other as they tumble. I am anxious to see how they come out.
Lori,
That is interesting.
Chrissy
Affirmations. Sometimes the simplest thing can make my day.
I remember when I was just beginning to develop, the first time I felt a jiggle when I walked. Or the touch of my breast on the inside of my arm while washing dishes. Little things that made me smile.
Now it is four years later and my dysphoria still kicks in whenever I need to leave my apartment. Today was no different. I needed to run to Wally World to do some grocery shopping. I hate that place so I want to get in and out as quickly as possible.
I am expecting a package to arrive containing new mascara and eyeliner that I want to try. I didn't want to put on makeup to go to Walmart and then need to wash it all off when I got home to try the new stuff. I just put on a very light touch of lipstick and skipped everything else.
Over the past month, I have lost ten pounds thanks to eating better and going for short walks several times a day. The best part is they didn't come from my top (as usual) but from my belly. Yesterday, on one of my walks I felt my breasts bouncing. (Definitely some development happening now with the new patches.) I always weigh and measure myself on the first of each month and I was happy to see these results. That means I could wear a tighter-fitting T-shirt with my jeans and worry less about it showing my belly fat. I threw on my pink stocking cap and off I went.
Dysphoria: "Are you sure about that?"
Me: "It's only Walmart. No one is going to look at me. They are too busy blocking the aisles and chatting with their neighbor."
Dysphoria: "Are you sure about that? Really, really sure about that?"
In Walmart, the men were very polite getting out of my way and saying, "Excuse me, Miss." And the women were more friendly, even saying "hello" which seldom happens.
So what is different today from any other day? I wasn't all dolled up, wearing the same clothes and carrying the same purse I always do. Boobs visible and a touch of lipstick were all it takes to pass?
I'll take it as a win! Told my dysphoria to take a day off. I'm enjoying this. :)
Hi LoriDee,
I also went to Walmart today, as well as two grocery stores.
Yes, people are very nice.
I wore a pink jacket and my new flannel lined jeans, as it can be really cold inside the grocery stores.
Wore my 2 inch heel booties and carried my phone in a tiny black bag.
Forgot to put on lipstick but got everything I wanted to buy!
Marion
@LoriDee
Dear LoriDee:Your summary of your "Affirmations" posting was right on.
Usually it is easier to pass if one is wearing casual clothing,
wearing a minimal amount of makeup and nail polish...
appropriate shoes (even sneakers with pink highlights) and accessories,
purse ... and wearing curve hugging jeans and a fitted top,
and obvious, "boobage" showing
(but not over-the-top) AND, very importantlyhaving the
self-confidence and
self-acceptance to be seen.
Thank you
LoriDee for posting and sharing.
HUGS, Danielle
Hi Lori It's so good to hear that your trip to Walmart was an enjoyable one. I agree with what Danielle said 110% and that was:
Quote from: Northern Star Girl on May 01, 2024, 02:20:11 PMUsually it is easier to pass if one is wearing casual clothing,
wearing a minimal amount of makeup and nail polish...
appropriate shoes (even sneakers with pink highlights) and accessories,
purse ... and wearing curve hugging jeans and a fitted top,
and obvious, "boobage" showing (but not over-the-top)
AND, very importantly
having the self-confidence and self-acceptance to be seen.
In addition just be yourself. Your trip to Walmart is just one of many more to come the epitome of living the life that was denied you for all those years.
Take care and I know you will have many more wonderful days like this.
Love and HugsSarah BOfficial Greeter
I think it is best to attempt to fit in with how other women
appear in whatever setting you find yourself in and NOT standing out
with skin bearing flashy clothing and overdone makeup and appearance.
Danielle
Quote from: Northern Star Girl on May 01, 2024, 03:49:28 PMI think it is best to attempt to fit in with how other women
appear in whatever setting you find yourself in and NOT standing out
with skin-bearing flashy clothing and overdone makeup and appearance.
Danielle
Exactly this.
I see so many of us with dresses and makeup way over the top. Formal gowns are for formal events, not business meetings or reading stories to kids at the library. If you want to be accepted as a woman then look and act like a woman. Even cis-gendered women don't approve of what you are describing. In my day, they would call them floozies and look down their noses at them.
You can't be a target if you can blend in undetected, what we call "passing".
Having lived for nearly 40 years as a woman, I only apply a touch of eyeliner when dining somewhere fancy or attending a party. And I brush my hair too for special events.
"You look so nice," people will say because when you're so rough and ready like me, the slightest improvement impresses.
Danielle, you offer great advice.
Of food shop this morning, it will be jeans, trainers and a "top" . Not sure what jacket to wear yet as rain about but not cold, might be a fleece.
Dress modestly and appropriately. Just fit in.
I had my first appointment with my new Voice Coach. I am in Rapid City, SD and she is in Iowa City, IA so the appointment was done through a telemedicine video link. It was mostly giving her background information on prior training, and medical stuff like injuries or trauma to the neck or head. I do have a cervical fusion of neck vertebrae but I doubt that affects my voice. She wasn't concerned. We had a great time chatting and both of us griping about the impossibly slow pace of government.
We set up the next two appointments. We will meet each week. My "homework" is to download an app. Done. Our next question will be filling out a bunch of questionnaires. She says it is boring, but the government loves its paperwork, and we must get through it.
After the appointment, my Bestie called and asked if I could take her shopping. She had some great news she wanted to share. Her son has moved back here from Sioux Falls and I haven't seen him in a couple of years. He would be coming along. No problem.
I picked them up and the son said he finally won his disability claim from Social Security, AND he received all of his back pay. Over $70,000. Wowza. He bought a car and needed a ride to the bank to get cash and then to the car dealer to finalize the purchase. He got a good deal on a 2004 Jeep Grand Cherokee. It's in great shape.
I was kidding with him and said, "So what is the great news you wanted to share?"
He handed me $20 and said, "You don't need to drive us to Walmart!"
They went shopping and I went home. I'm a little richer and they now have the freedom to go places without relying on me or her sister. Win-Win.
Quote from: LoriDee on May 03, 2024, 12:41:59 PMI had my first appointment with my new Voice Coach. I am in Rapid City, SD and she is in Iowa City, IA so the appointment was done through a telemedicine video link. It was mostly giving her background information on prior training, and medical stuff like injuries or trauma to the neck or head. I do have a cervical fusion of neck vertebrae but I doubt that affects my voice. She wasn't concerned. We had a great time chatting and both of us griping about the impossibly slow pace of government.
We set up the next two appointments. We will meet each week. My "homework" is to download an app. Done. Our next question will be filling out a bunch of questionnaires. She says it is boring, but the government loves its paperwork, and we must get through it.
After the appointment, my Bestie called and asked if I could take her shopping. She had some great news she wanted to share. Her son has moved back here from Sioux Falls and I haven't seen him in a couple of years. He would be coming along. No problem.
I picked them up and the son said he finally won his disability claim from Social Security, AND he received all of his back pay. Over $70,000. Wowza. He bought a car and needed a ride to the bank to get cash and then to the car dealer to finalize the purchase. He got a good deal on a 2004 Jeep Grand Cherokee. It's in great shape.
I was kidding with him and said, "So what is the great news you wanted to share?"
He handed me $20 and said, "You don't need to drive us to Walmart!"
They went shopping and I went home. I'm a little richer and they now have the freedom to go places without relying on me or her sister. Win-Win.
It all sounds good. Except that her son is disabled, that is a bummer.
Chrissy
Wow Lori! I just spent an hour reading as much as could of your journey. Even though our life paths were quite a bit different, we still have a lot in common. I actually learned some new things about myself by reading your story. Thank you for posting this and I will be watching for updates.
@LoriDee Dear LoriDee:Along with your other readers and avid followers, I am eagerly awaiting for your next installment of "The Story of Lori"Many HUGS, Danielle
Lori,
I wish you really good results with all of your upcoming voice lessons and practice.
Chrissy
You could try "Voice tools" a free app that I use and like. Helps with pitch and offers playback so you can hear what you sound like. Good luck with the lessons. Nothing like having a professional help guide you.
Thanks, Gina
That is the one the Clinician had me download. I was using Voice Pitch Analyzer, but she said different apps use different ranges for each gender and Voice Tools is what she uses herself. She said her voice is consistent at 187Hz. Then one day she was at 200 for some unknown reason. She told her co-workers that she finally found her "girl voice". (She is cis). ;D
A professional's advice is good on what sounds natural.
It seems common for people to have excessively high expectations.
I had an interesting development during voice training, my voice coach told me, after I laughed, that we had to work on my laugh. Seams I laugh in a deep temblor like a man. Who knew. I had never thought about this.
My coach's initial assessment is my voice is in the mid to high male range. My laugh is similar, but my cough is awful. I gotta work on that too. ;D
@LoriDee Dear LoriDee: There are so many things that we utilize our voice for.... talking, laughing, and... in my own experience since I like to sing I found it easier and more natural for me to sing in a proper female range, mainly because when singing I am focusing on being on the correct note, but in causal conversation there is very little focus about that so one has to practice enough for it to become a natural expression.
Thank you for sharing and posting... very interesting indeed.HUGS, DanielleQuote from: LoriDee on May 07, 2024, 07:38:37 AMMy coach's initial assessment is my voice is in the mid to high male range. My laugh is similar, but my cough is awful. I gotta work on that too. ;D
I have no talent for singing, but I was told something similar, that singing allows you to raise your pitch effectively. I hope that as I get better at voice control I might be able to do some singing to broaden my effective range. I have always been a fan of Terri Nunn, the lead singer of Berlin. Her pitch is similar to mine, but wowza can that girl sing!
Song
Now It's My Turn by Berlin
From the album Love Life
https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLgaFNC_I_ZkmpklGPTS241unTYKHCTa4K
The female voice can be so soothing.
Quote from: LoriDee on May 07, 2024, 07:38:37 AMMy coach's initial assessment is my voice is in the mid to high male range. My laugh is similar, but my cough is awful. I gotta work on that too. ;D
That's a pretty good starting point, Lori!
Because the female voice isn't all about pitch... there are LOTS of women whose natural voice is right in that range you are in... but it's then a lot about the shape of your voice, meaning... pitch variability -- male voices tend to be more monotone, while female voices tend to move up and down the vocal range.
And you'll work on resonance... trying to feel your voice coming from your throat and not your chest... "raising up" your voice, and "opening up" your voice, so to speak... which adds more air to the way you speak.
I really enjoyed voice training and it just takes a few weeks for things to kind of click in place... and then it takes a lot longer to really perfect it, I'm sure. I know that once I'm presenting in public I am certain I will need to go back to my coach for a refresher to make sure I'm on the right path.
Good luck and so glad you're having fun!!!!
Quote from: LoriDee on May 07, 2024, 07:38:37 AMMy coach's initial assessment is my voice is in the mid to high male range. My laugh is similar, but my cough is awful. I gotta work on that too. ;D
So much to retrain. Yawns, laughs, burps, coughs. I wonder if I can ever fully do it. Golotoplasty seams like an easier option but even that doesn't work without training. I find I do well reading doing training but as soon as I have to think of what I'm going to say the brain reverts back to old voice. My coach says in time this won't happen but its very frustrating now.
I had a Dermatology appointment at the VA this morning. I had been seeing a non-VA dermatologist for several years. The VA decided I needed to be treated in-house, so this was my first visit with this one. She was awesome and we spent some time going over my medical history. I have had seven Basal Cell carcinomas removed over the years, so I have to get checked every six months.
She didn't see anything suspicious that might need a biopsy. So she just froze a few thousand pre-cancerous spots with liquid nitrogen. I have a large spot on my back that I thought was a mole. It is ugly and black and about 2 inches long by an inch wide. The issue is that it is right under my bra band, so it gets irritated. She said it was a "barnacle", benign and she could freeze it. It may fall off or we can just keep attacking it during each visit. I agreed.
So then I am driving home and it is really getting sore from being frozen, my bra sitting across it, and I am sitting trying to drive without leaning back in the seat. Wowza.
I enter my apartment building and my property manager sees my face (red blotches and blisters all over), and asks if I am okay. I asked her if the Violence Against Women Act applies if the culprit is your doctor. We laughed, but I can see a pain pill in my immediate future.
Good times.
Ouch!
I hope the pain subsides for you.
Chrissy
Thanks, Chrissy.
The pain has subsided. I had to put Vaseline on my face and bandages on my arms to cover the blisters so I don't rub them against anything. It will be a couple of days then they dry up and start sloughing off. It's a necessary evil that I am willing to endure.
This winter, she will send me two topical creams that will be lots of fun. They work like a chemical peel and eat all the cancerous and pre-cancerous cells. They do it in the winter because your skin becomes super sensitive to sunlight. I can't even go near a window. So I suppose I will become a vampire for a week or so.
For now, I am focused on Voice Training and have my second appointment in the morning. Yay!
I would like to sing with a nice woman's voice.
Chrissy
I had my second voice appointment this morning. Filled out a bunch of questionnaires. Took the whole hour just doing those. The coach said next week we will start working on resonance. She feels that since my voice already has a warmer pitch, by working on raising my resonance, the pitch will follow and should drop me dangerously close to the pitch I am working towards. She asked me about about a voice model. I said Renee Zellweiger. She has such a soft, feminine voice that I love. Even if she screamed at you it would sound like a loud whisper. I want to hit that kind of softness.
The red blotches and blisters from yesterday's dermatology appointment have calmed down. No pain and the blisters on my face have receded into the blotches. The ones on my arms are still the size of quarters and I am not ready to try tearing off the bandages yet. I have to continue keeping everything slathered in Vaseline and stay out of the sun this weekend. So of course, the rain stopped and it is a warm sunny day.
Maybe next week we can get out and do some rock-hounding.
@LoriDee
Dear LoriDee: SUNBLOCK, HATS, cover arms and neck with a light cotton shirt....
You can't stay out of the sun in the summer, especially when rock-hounding but
please do your best to take necessary protective steps.
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Several years ago I had a Basil Cell Carcinoma and had "Mohs" surgery remove a
continuously reoccurring spot above my eye. Freezing it did not prevent it's return.
If the Basil Cell Carcinoma keeps returning, like it did for me, you
perhaps should ask your dermatologist about "Mohs" Surgery. Mine never came
back years after the surgery but before that it always came back a month or
two later after freezing it.
Mine was done in the doctor's office sitting in a chair like a Dental office
visit, with local anesthetic only.
Most of those procedures leave very little scarring if any if they are caught
early...I don't have any visible and obvious scarring.... but obviously your
dermatologist is your best source of information as it applies to you. https://www.mayoclinic.org/tests-procedures/mohs-surgery/about/pac-20385222HUGS, Danielle
Thanks, Danielle,
I have had seven Basal Cells removed. Five via Mohs and two by ED&C. Hence the reason they have me come back for a recheck every six months. The stuff they are freezing is pre-cancerous. She said none of them looked suspicious enough for a biopsy.
I have to be careful while gold panning or sluicing. Any oil coming in contact with fine gold can make it float. It's the weirdest thing to see. Gold is 20 times heavier than water, but oil has just enough surface tension to make it float.
I do wear a wide-brim hat and long sleeves, (See pic), whether prospecting or just hiking. The nice thing about mining is if I get too hot, I just sit in the creek and wet my shirt.
Pic of me at Teepee Canyon (https://www.teepee-canyon-south.lori-dee.com/set/eb642f3c-7051-4b87-acf1-c8107703f00f?pgid=eb642f3c-7051-4b87-acf1-c8107703f00f_97ec7663-acc5-47f2-a1de-886aed0e2e3c)
I apply sunscreen to my face (because the sun reflects off of the water), then wash my hands before starting work. With rock hounding, I have more leeway. Same uniform, but I don't need to be as cautious about cleaning sunscreen off my hands.
That's a very youthful picture of you, Lori Dee! You look like late 20's or early 30's!
I also like all the details of the rocks you show, especially the crystals.
Hugs,
Heidemarie
Yes, Lori rocks!
Chrissy
@Iztaccihuatl @ChrissyRyan Thank you, ladies.
That is one of the few where the lighting was just right, the camera was not too close, and it worked its magic. So it is one I don't mind posting on my website.
My rock-hounding buddy and I are hoping to get back there again soon. Maybe this month. Other rock hounds have been posting pics of their finds out there and it makes me want to hurry up and get there.
It is about an hour and a half drive from here. It isn't far in miles but the winding mountain roads are only 30 mph in places, like up around Mount Rushmore and going through the Jewel Cave National Monument. It is also almost 2,000 feet higher in elevation. An old survival trick I learned is that for every 1,000 feet increase in elevation the temperature drops about ten degrees. So on a warm 60-degree day here in the city, it is only about 40 degrees up there. Not bad, but we just got some heavy snow two days ago up in the Hills. Forest Service roads are poorly maintained and snow and ice are never cleared, so we wait.
The crystals I found are calcite. I love the peach tint. Crystals are a common find in that area and is how Jewel Cave got its name. Rockhounding in the park is not allowed, but just west of the Monument boundaries is Hell Canyon, and west of that is Teepee Canyon. Both are popular rock hunting grounds.
Jewel Cave fascinates me. It reminds me of Jules Verne's
Journey to the Center of the Earth. A couple of gold miners discovered it around 1900. It is still not totally explored. Every year cavers map a few more miles, but it keeps going. At more than 200 miles in length, Jewel Cave is currently the fifth-longest cave in the world.
Jewel Cave Information (https://nps.gov//jeca/learn/historyculture/a-small-cave-no-more.htm)
Better bring plenty of bred crumbs next time you go into the cave. :) Sounds like a lot of fun, finding a rough stone and turning into a beautiful piece of jewelry. I have to agree, you really look like a young woman in those pics. Looking good Lori.
Not only are you a pretty girl, but you're an outdoors girl, which is my favorite kind of girl!
Quote from: Oldandcreaky on May 11, 2024, 07:07:22 AMNot only are you a pretty girl, but you're an outdoors girl, which is my favorite kind of girl!
The best part is that she IS a girl!
I have always been the outdoor type. Growing up in the California desert, we had a ranch where we raised rabbits commercially. There were about seven ranches grouped together, so all of us kids hung out together. Rockhounding, hunting snakes, lizards, and jackrabbits, riding horses or motorcycles. As a family, we did a lot of hiking, camping, fishing, and hunting.
Of course, all that sun exposure is now why I have to see the dermatologist every six months. But given the chance to do it over, I doubt I would change anything.
Interesting anecdote about my dad:
He worked for NASA as an Electronics Engineer during the Apollo program. While he was working there, two historical events occurred that had never before occurred in the history of humankind. He worked out at the Mars Deep Space communications station.
Goldstone Tracking Station (https://www.nasa.gov/technology/nasas-deep-space-network-looks-to-the-future/)
In preparation for the Moon landing, NASA needed to know things like how far away is the Moon, how much fuel is needed, etc. To measure the distance between the Earth and the Moon, they would fire a laser at the surface and see how long it takes for the light to travel there and back. It was not a very good system because the light would scatter when it hit rocks or craters on the Moon's surface. But since no one had been there before, it was all they had.
One of the many tasks my dad did was to align the telescope. Our veterans and shooters will be familiar with boresighting. My dad had to look through a small telescope up on the dish and align the dish with a point on the Moon's surface. Then the operators would set the dish's settings accordingly and they could easily move the dish to those coordinates and it would be pointing at the Moon.
During Apollo 8 when astronaut Lovell and crew were going to orbit the moon for the first time, as they traveled around the back side of the moon there was no line-of-sight and thus no communications with the spacecraft. Using geometry and knowing the distance to the Moon and its diameter, they could calculate the circumference. Knowing how fast the craft was traveling they could calculate how long the craft would be out of communication with Mission Control. It turns out that their calculations were wrong.
But the first time the craft went behind the Moon and lost communications was the first time in human history that a human being could not see Earth. Think about that.
The second event was during Apollo 11 when Neil Armstrong was the first human to set foot on the Moon's surface. One of the greatest achievements in human history and my dad worked for NASA and helped with that mission. But at the moment when that happened, my dad was not at work. He was on a camping trip with me!
We went backpacking in the Sierra Nevada mountains in California. We spent eight days hiking 53 miles of the John Muir Trail. One morning as we were having breakfast, one of the other members of our party was listening to a portable radio. He said, "Well, we have now walked on the Moon."
While the astronauts were there, one of their projects was to install large prisms to act as mirrors. Now when they fire lasers at the Moon's surface they get very accurate data and know exactly how far away it is. All the Conspiracy Theorists who say that the Moon Landing never happened can't explain how those mirrors got there. They can be seen from Earth, so we know they are there.
I watched this at school, they put the TV on in the hall for us all to see.
Quote from: LoriDee on May 11, 2024, 08:44:08 AMI have always been the outdoor type. Growing up in the California desert, we had a ranch where we raised rabbits commercially. There were about seven ranches grouped together, so all of us kids hung out together. Rockhounding, hunting snakes, lizards, and jackrabbits, riding horses or motorcycles. As a family, we did a lot of hiking, camping, fishing, and hunting.
Of course, all that sun exposure is now why I have to see the dermatologist every six months. But given the chance to do it over, I doubt I would change anything.
Interesting anecdote about my dad:
He worked for NASA as an Electronics Engineer during the Apollo program. While he was working there, two historical events occurred that had never before occurred in the history of humankind. He worked out at the Mars Deep Space communications station.
Goldstone Tracking Station (https://www.nasa.gov/technology/nasas-deep-space-network-looks-to-the-future/)
In preparation for the Moon landing, NASA needed to know things like how far away is the Moon, how much fuel is needed, etc. To measure the distance between the Earth and the Moon, they would fire a laser at the surface and see how long it takes for the light to travel there and back. It was not a very good system because the light would scatter when it hit rocks or craters on the Moon's surface. But since no one had been there before, it was all they had.
One of the many tasks my dad did was to align the telescope. Our veterans and shooters will be familiar with boresighting. My dad had to look through a small telescope up on the dish and align the dish with a point on the Moon's surface. Then the operators would set the dish's settings accordingly and they could easily move the dish to those coordinates and it would be pointing at the Moon.
During Apollo 8 when astronaut Lovell and crew were going to orbit the moon for the first time, as they traveled around the back side of the moon there was no line-of-sight and thus no communications with the spacecraft. Using geometry and knowing the distance to the Moon and its diameter, they could calculate the circumference. Knowing how fast the craft was traveling they could calculate how long the craft would be out of communication with Mission Control. It turns out that their calculations were wrong.
But the first time the craft went behind the Moon and lost communications was the first time in human history that a human being could not see Earth. Think about that.
The second event was during Apollo 11 when Neil Armstrong was the first human to set foot on the Moon's surface. One of the greatest achievements in human history and my dad worked for NASA and helped with that mission. But at the moment when that happened, my dad was not at work. He was on a camping trip with me!
We went backpacking in the Sierra Nevada mountains in California. We spent eight days hiking 53 miles of the John Muir Trail. One morning as we were having breakfast, one of the other members of our party was listening to a portable radio. He said, "Well, we have now walked on the Moon."
While the astronauts were there, one of their projects was to install large prisms to act as mirrors. Now when they fire lasers at the Moon's surface they get very accurate data and know exactly how far away it is. All the Conspiracy Theorists who say that the Moon Landing never happened can't explain how those mirrors got there. They can be seen from Earth, so we know they are there.
Is this trail near or in the Muir Woods area?
Windy roads near there along the coast.
Going to go to a golf club in about an hour. I never been there. Girl lunch.
I prefer to snow ski than golf, and I am not much good at golfing. Although jet skiing looks like fun. Do have a good day!
Chrissy
Quote from: ChrissyRyan on May 11, 2024, 11:22:11 AMIs this trail near or in the Muir Woods area?
I can barely remember what I had for breakfast yesterday and you want me to remember where I was in 1969? I was 12 years old! ;D
I know the trail we hiked was from Rock Creek to North Lake on the John Muir Trail. I know we climbed Mount Whitney, San Gorgonio, and some other peaks along the way. Mono Pass and Bear Ridge were cliffs we had to ascend. The trail would switch back and forth, it was a long slow climb. So fun!
Muir Woods is around 15 minutes from the Golden Gate Bridge, down mount tam.
Jenn
We were much further south than that!
Thanks, Jenn. I had no idea where it was. I thought she meant a National Forest.
Maybe you can grow some veggies from seed to save on money? Maybe use one of those indoor produce growing systems bought on sale? Some places have community gardens too.
Buy the ugly looking produce to save money where it is available. Just as fresh and nutritious, it is just not pretty.
Eat canned veggies when on sale or fresh produce in season?
I am on the Resident Council here in my apartment building. It is a resident liaison group that brings complaints and such to management and helps management keep residents informed of policies and upcoming events. At our last Council meeting, we discussed putting in a community garden.
There is one about a block away that repeatedly gets trashed by homeless people. They leave trash and destroy the plants. So we plan to fence off an area only available to residents, and they must contact a Council member to gain access. We have funding for $5,000 for the garden itself, but the fencing falls under a "build" category because we need a property line survey, fencing permits, etc. We have requested the funding for the fence build, but won't receive those funds until later.
I will be curious to see how many residents make use of it. From what I have witnessed, many want a hand-out, not a hand-up. Especially if they have to put in some work to get anything. It is so sad.
I went outside tonight to see if I could see the Northern Lights. We have a clear sky and I can see stars, but no lights. Kristi Noem probably banned them from appearing over South Dakota.
"We have Mount Rushmore. We don't need any fancy lights in the sky."
It could be all the city lights make it nearly impossible to see. I had a similar issue in 1986. I took my four-year-old daughter up on a mountain above the city, away from the lights, so we could photograph Halley's Comet as it went by. She had no clue what we were doing, but I wanted to try to show her. Because the next time the comet passes by Earth, she will be 80 years old. She will be one of the very few people who will have seen Halley's Comet twice in their lifetime.
I still have the pictures, but it is hard to see if you don't know what you are looking for. It just looks like any other star. But I took pictures from the same location a month later, and then comparing the two before and after pictures, you can see that the "star" has moved.
You inspired me to go out and look too. No Northern Lights visible here too. From the map I saw, we were on the fringe of the viewing area. I think the city lights on the other side of the hill are just a little too bright.
Quote from: LoriDee on May 11, 2024, 11:09:43 PMI am on the Resident Council here in my apartment building. It is a resident liaison group that brings complaints and such to management and helps management keep residents informed of policies and upcoming events. At our last Council meeting, we discussed putting in a community garden.
There is one about a block away that repeatedly gets trashed by homeless people. They leave trash and destroy the plants. So we plan to fence off an area only available to residents, and they must contact a Council member to gain access. We have funding for $5,000 for the garden itself, but the fencing falls under a "build" category because we need a property line survey, fencing permits, etc. We have requested the funding for the fence build, but won't receive those funds until later.
I will be curious to see how many residents make use of it. From what I have witnessed, many want a hand-out, not a hand-up. Especially if they have to put in some work to get anything. It is so sad.
See: https://americanliterature.com/childrens-stories/the-little-red-hen
I tried again last night to view the Northern Lights, thinking that maybe the early morning hours might provide better environmental conditions.
Still no lights.
I saw two deer ambling through our parking lot. So I named them "Aurora" and "Borealis". I tried to snap a picture but they were having none of it, so I went back inside and went back to bed.
No lights here in NJ either. The weather was rainy when I went to bed Friday. Was supposed to be mostly cloudy closer to morning. 4:00 am was still very cloudy, 5:00 am thick fog. Raining again after a mostly sunny Saturday. Rain all last night. Oh well, maybe next time.
This is turning out to be a great week.
Had a great visit over lunch yesterday and learned a lot!
Had my third Voice training this morning. The first two were just backstory and paperwork. Today, we went through some exercises, and I'll get homework to do over the next week.
@Jessica_Rose had given me some pointers and coincidentally that is the stuff we covered today. I always enjoy learning new things, especially if it is something that helps me improve myself to be a better me. It could be anything from learning gestures, unlearning habits, practicing my walk, or my speech. I am digging it!
My rock tumblers are completing their cycle, so it is time to wash some rocks. Then I can take a break for a couple of days until Saturday when we have the DAV / VA LGBTQ+ Listening Session (https://www.susans.org/index.php/topic,248010.0.html). I'll get to meet up with some of the gals from our local VA Transgender Support Group.
Every morning when I get up, I think about the things I will be doing that day. I don't think of them as things I
have to do. I think of them as things I
get to do. Keep thinking positive thoughts. Always find a way to see things from a positive point of view. Never say, "I can't do this." Instead, ask yourself, "How can I get this done?"
Laundry seems to be the exception.
"I don't
have to do this, I
get to do this."
No. You
have to do this.
"How can I get this done?" Hey, kid, wanna make $20?
I wanted to run a rock tumbler when I was a kid but the electric bill would have been too high.
One idea I have is to use a windmill to power a rock tumbler! I already one that is 8ft tall in my yard that doesn't do anything but look pretty.
I find changing my bed a chore and taking the rubbish out (have to go down and back up 3 flights to go out side, down side of living on the 2nd floor but the view is great) .I am used to the how can I do this, comes from being a mechanic I suppose and I will try anything at least once . When I say anything there are some things I will never do!
@Maid MarionModern rock tumblers use very little electricity. I run three (one single-barrel, and two double-barrels) processing 15 lbs of rock 24/7. My electric bill went down so I know they are not a factor.
In one of the Rock Tumbling Groups I belong to, someone wanted to power their tumbler using a solar panel. Of course that would require a battery and the solar would keep the battery charged. I think a similar setup would work with a windmill. We did some calculations and determined that it
could be done, but would not be more efficient than just running it off the line power coming into the house.
A truck driver has his tumbler in his truck running off an inverter. He does this because he is seldom home. All of these can work as an interesting experiment. But for the purpose of polishing rocks, it is easier and less complicated to just plug it into an outlet.
If you do go for the windmill power, let me know how it works out. I think it would be an awesome idea to share.
@davina61 I truly understand that. My previous apartment was on the third floor. Carrying a case of bottled water up those stairs put me in a world of hurt.
Fortunately, my new apartment here (2nd floor) has an elevator, a trash chute, and laundry on each floor. But I live towards one end and it is a LONG walk to the center of the building where all of those things are. I use a cart to haul my groceries now. Work smarter, not harder!
Now that I'm outside most of the time my electric bill has dropped below $60 for the 2nd month in a row!
I'm inside today because it has been raining on and off all day.
I use a Big Red Wagon with large tires for gardening. I use it all the time to move stuff around the yard.
Lunch with my Bestie today. Then had to go to Menard's for a furnace filter, then Walmart to get some essentials (coffee, milk, eggs, bread... and donuts, of course).
It is now 80 degrees. Boob sweat. The struggle is real.
There is a mysterious flower that grows here in the Black Hills. I first saw one up near my gold mining spot. I just thought it was the most beautiful thing. They are called Dame's Rocket (among other things). They only bloom in May and have no scent. Until sundown, then they are reported to have the most wonderful fragrance.
I have been back to that spot several years in a row, but couldn't find one. My thinking was that I would bring one home and plant it so I could see how it smelled in the evening.
Today, I spotted three of them growing near our parking lot! I will be out tonight to sample the perfume.
(https://i.imgur.com/tl0runA.jpeg)
This week keeps getting better and better.
@LoriDee Dear Lori:I am sorry to read about your "80 degrees boob sweat" problem!!!!
Here where I am the temperature was 23 deg(f) early this morning.
The recent afternoons are in the low to mid 50 degree(f) range.
Have a good day and i hope that you had a nice lunch with your bestie.HUGS, Danielle
Unsure which is worse: boob, back, or underarm sweat.
I think I would pick underarm.
When using a tumbler to polish rocks, it is important to check the hardness of the stone, and/or KNOW what stone it is. The reason is that if you tumble softer stones with harder stones, the harder stones will grind the soft ones into sand.
About a week ago, my Bestie found this cool rock. (The big one).
(https://i.imgur.com/NAhtydB.jpg)
It was still dirty and I thought she had found a Petoskey Stone, which is fossilized coral. She said she found it up by Lead, SD. Petoskeys are found in Michigan, especially near the Great Lakes. They are not found in the Black Hills of SD.
After washing it off, I saw no coral formations, so it is not a Petoskey. It looks like Dolomite with these cool quartz veins. It should look awesome once it has been polished.
(https://i.imgur.com/HrxbPqC.jpg)
I ran it in Stage 1 (46/70 abrasive grit) for a week. Took it out today and ... oh my.
(https://i.imgur.com/cSj59Zn.jpg)
What I thought was quartz, which has a hardness of 7 on the Mohs scale (diamond is 10), turns out to be Calcite, which has a hardness of 3. :icon_yikes:
It still turned out to be a cool rock. I cleaned out the holes with a waterpik and they are connected. There might be a pocket of crystals in the back. I put it under the stereoscope and can confirm they are Calcite crystals. Calcite is very common in limestone and dolomite. Quartz, not so much.
Bestie is happy with her cool find now that it is all clean and smooth. I got a reminder to check the rocks carefully before starting them in the next cycle. Back to the basics.
Working with stones appears to be a cool hobby.
I like the middle picture of that rock the best.
Chrissy
It's 85 degrees outside so I stayed in. Got some laundry done and worked on a few more jewelry pieces.
I was watching YouTube videos and trying to learn how to add a rose as a decorative item.
I need to work on that more.
(https://i.imgur.com/JZOyHi2.jpg)
A couple of others I finished yesterday.
(https://i.imgur.com/Iq4mTGs.jpg)
(https://i.imgur.com/pWjh4Di.jpg)
I was looking for a way to try something different from the standard wire frame.
I found a video tutorial for a "fishnet" basket. So I tried that.
Yeah, I need a lot more practice.
(https://i.imgur.com/N6wmWGj.jpeg)
I now have 24 pieces that I have done. When I get to 30, I will start listing them in my store on Etsy. I don't know if I will sell any, but learning how to do it is fun. If I can cover the cost of the wire, I'm ahead since the stones are free.
Very nice jewelry Lori!
Chrissy
We have a Community Event planned for tomorrow. Basically, a Meet & Greet so people can socialize with our neighbors. I was the first resident to move in after this apartment building was finished back in August. I am also on the Resident Council, so most of the tenants know me. I was informed that the tenants have a new nickname for me: "Prospector Lori". I showed a couple of guys my website and the nickname spread like wildfire.
This morning we got a message from the Taco Truck. Due to a scheduling mistake, it will be here today! So we are scrambling to accommodate the change and offering residents a free lunch. We still plan to have the main event tomorrow. Busy, busy, busy.
Malissa's Frybread has a reputation as being the best in the State.
My first time having frybread or an Indian Taco. Did not disappoint.
Five stars!
(I pigged out.)
Another busy day today.
Our Resident Council is meeting this morning to walk the property to discuss the Community Garden we plan to put in this summer. Then from 12-4 is our Meet & Greet event. I'm looking forward to the Bouncy Castle! Just kidding. I'm pretty certain that would put me in the hospital. ;D
My rock tumblers are finishing up their "wash cycle", so later today I will need to empty them and reload them with another batch of stones for polishing.
Monday is Memorial Day so I will drive up to the Black Hills National Cemetery near Sturgis. I try to go each year. They do some really nice memorial services there. Various speakers and songs and dances by the Oyate. Oyate is the Lakota Sioux word meaning "The People", specifically referring to themselves, the Lakota tribe of the Sioux Nation. I enjoy it when they put out the flags on each grave. It is such a well-maintained cemetery. One of the most beautiful I have ever seen. I'll share some pictures when I return.
When I had to go to the Fort Meade VA Hospital at Sturgis, I always salute the cemetery as I drive by. My way of saying, "Thank you for your service and sacrifice." Now that our Specialty Clinics have been moved to Rapid City, I don't get up that way very often. Some day, that will be my final resting place and just maybe someone will salute my grave as they drive by.
After a quick trip to the cemetery, I will head across the interstate (I-90) to the Fort Meade Recreation Area to do some rockhounding if my knees hold up. It is a huge acreage with a mix of grassland and forest. It was once a training area for soldiers stationed at Fort Meade, so no metal detecting or digging is allowed. They don't want someone to accidentally discover an unexploded bomb.
Within the Recreation Area is the old Fort Meade Cemetery. It is very small, but some of the graves date back to the early 1900s. It is no longer in use but is preserved for historical reasons. Volunteers continue to maintain the site for family members who wish to visit.
Have a great weekend, everyone. Be safe!
Yesterday's event was a huge success. The weather was sunny and hot and the local children really enjoyed the Bouncy Castle.
We decided that the location for the Community Garden would not work and selected another area. We spoke with many residents and got their input on events and features/services they would like to see.
I went in full girlie mode, with black pants, black leather boots that come to just below the knee, a t-shirt, hair, makeup, and jewelry. One of the residents that I have seen around but never spoken to said, "You look nice today." I said thank you, but then the old dysphoria kicked in, and I questioned if she was implying that I don't on other days. Did she mean... STOP. Take the compliment and move on.
We had some disabled residents who had not been able to get an Indian Taco from the frybread truck the day before, so we stashed some extras in the Community Room refrigerator so they wouldn't miss out.
Now we have thunderboomers going off outside, so I am back to washing rocks.
I love my life. ;D
Quote from: LoriDee on May 26, 2024, 02:47:14 PMYesterday's event was a huge success. The weather was sunny and hot and the local children really enjoyed the Bouncy Castle.
We decided that the location for the Community Garden would not work and selected another area. We spoke with many residents and got their input on events and features/services they would like to see.
I went in full girlie mode, with black pants, black leather boots that come to just below the knee, a t-shirt, hair, makeup, and jewelry. One of the residents that I have seen around but never spoken to said, "You look nice today." I said thank you, but then the old dysphoria kicked in, and I questioned if she was implying that I don't on other days. Did she mean... STOP. Take the compliment and move on.
We had some disabled residents who had not been able to get an Indian Taco from the frybread truck the day before, so we stashed some extras in the Community Room refrigerator so they wouldn't miss out.
Now we have thunderboomers going off outside, so I am back to washing rocks.
I love my life. ;D
Yea for the big day!
But, as someone who loves the way sentences are structured... I always bump against the "you look great today" trope. And that's regardless of dysphoria. I just don't like the construction of it all.
My typical response is "Oh? How do I normally look?"
and then I explain that "today" is not only unnecessary in the sentence, it's counter-productive.
It's a bit like saying "it's raining outside". "Outside" is really adding nothing to that sentence.
And now, dear friend, you know why I am seldom invited places by, you know... people. 😘
I never read anything into things like that, bad grammar on most folks part! Its a compliment so take it .
It turned out to be a beautiful day. Bright blue sky, sunshine. It is windy but that is keeping the temperature right about 70.
I headed up to Sturgis to the Black Hills National Cemetery to pay my respects. When I first came to the Black Hills, I understood immediately why the Lakota Sioux revere them as sacred ground. They believe that their culture originated here. But there is more to it. The Hills have a spiritual energy about them. It could be all the quartz minerals being pressed by heavy granite, releasing piezoelectric energy... or maybe something else entirely.
I think this is one of the most beautiful cemeteries I have ever seen. It has a strong emotional impact on me and it doesn't take long before I am wiping tears from my cheek. But I do not feel death here. I feel love and respect, a sense of duty, and sacrifice. It is a unique emotion and I embrace it. Sometimes I think I need to feel this for some reason.
While taking pictures, a Vietnam Vet pulled up in his truck and asked if I had everything all lined up and in focus. I said I did and he said "This is a great place to mingle with the old-timers". I looked around the cemetery, and said, "Not very chatty, are they?" He laughed and said, "That's a good thing!"
I took a few more pictures. There were many families putting flowers on graves and spending time with each other. I try to avoid taking pictures of them and leave them to their gathering.
I left the cemetery and entered the Fort Meade Recreation Area to get to the old Fort Meade National Cemetery. It is a small cemetery that was built shortly after Fort Meade was built by General Custer's 7th Cavalry. There are two Medal of Honor recipients interred here and I try to salute them every year when I visit. Why there, a Coast Guard Veteran stopped to chat with me. He retired from the Fort Meade VA Hospital three years ago. He said he drove by this cemetery many times, but this was his first time to stop and walk the rows.
Memorial Day Photo Album (https://imgur.com/a/Z5gphyh)
Now I am at home and restoring my emotional energy. Sometimes, we just need a really good emotional purge. Just let it out and make room for the good things to come.
May they all rest in peace. The world in fact needs more peace everyday. There always seems to be conflicts, wars, and hostilities.
Chrissy
@LoriDee Dear LoriDee:Thank you for posting your thoughts and pictures that help
explain and honor what Memorial Day is about.
The photos were beautiful.
On many of my road trips from where I had previously lived
in Eastern Montana...
...I had visited Custer's Last Stand - The Little Big Horn Battlefield National Monument in Montana
and also Mount Rushmore, Sturgis and the Black Hills Cemetery in South Dakota
that you mentioned.
Those were always enjoyable and beautiful fairly close by road trips.
Thank you again for sharing your trip, your pictures, and your posting.HUGS, DanielleOn a much smaller scale than the Black Hills National Cemetery that you showed in your photos, here is a photo of my
small town cemetery that my Tooth-Fairy and I visited this afternoon to pay our honor and respect to our local military members. See my posting on my Blog: https://www.susans.org/index.php/topic,246825.msg2270766.html#msg2270766 (https://i.imgur.com/1G8QclHl.jpg)
I love the small cemeteries like that. I notice the markers lay flat. Where my brother is buried in California, they do that so they can mow the grass more easily.
But then I look at our cemeteries here. The grass is mowed and neatly trimmed right up next to each headstone. I appreciate the extra effort the VA puts into ensuring that each grave is nicely maintained, whether families still visit or not.
Two more jewelry pendants are done.
These were just quick pics to see how they look in a photo.
This one needs the wires to be tightened up. But I am getting better at making the "rose" decoration.
(https://i.imgur.com/GRWFz7z.jpeg)
This stone is Fuchsite, aka Chromium Mica. The silver mica is so shiny it reflects light, so doesn't look as good in pictures. I'm not sure how to fix that. Leaving it in shadow and using indirect light might be what I need to do with these.
(https://i.imgur.com/WQDJd09.jpeg)
Any photographers out there with suggestions, I'm listening. TIA
@LoriDee Dear LoriDee:Thank your sharing your photos of your handiwork...
..the pendants that you made are very beautiful.HUGS, Danielle
This should be interesting...
I have a telemedicine appointment with my Voice Coach this morning at 10 am. The VA loaned me an iPad so I could make the appointments from the privacy of my apartment.
Last night, our Property Manager notified us that they will be testing the fire alarms today...
at 10 am.
So I will be in my Jeep with the iPad in the parking lot, using cell data to connect.
Beautiful jewelry Lori!!!
From spending COUNTLESS hours overseeing photo shoots and listening to photographers drone on about stuff, I'm surprised to say certain things have leeched into my brain that I'm happy to wring out and share with you, in case they might be of help.
All of these, I believe, should relate to jewelry, as they are things that applied when shooting things like trophies, awards, cups, rings, etc... so it should translate.
1. Use natural light.
2. As a beginner, start with a plain white or gray background (this was the advice given to us when/if we had to shoot things ourselves quickly, without the aid of the professionals who we often hired. Sometimes they would break this rule... but they were pros)
3. Use a tri-pod if possible
4. (If shooting on your phone) do not zoom.
Those are the true basics. White balance is a big key, and HOW you use the natural light (and sometimes an additional light source) is important if you're hoping to get that real "gem stone sparkle" or "precious metal burst" off the item...
I think that's all I remember!
Thanks, Allie!
I will give that a shot. I am using my phone and zoomed in because it has a macro feature. I can always crop the excess background instead.
Oh, BTW, in my Voice Training class this morning I relayed your "sneeze story". My coach said it is wonderful that you have that immediate feedback available. (NOT GOOD! from the other room.) ;D
She said sneezing and coughing are two of our most difficult challenges because they are reflex actions. So if you are getting "Good Job!" from the other room, you are doing very well.
Good job!
@imallie
Voice Training went well without any issues.
Of course, the fire alarm guy never showed up, so the test never happened. {Sigh}
Quote from: LoriDee on May 29, 2024, 12:52:43 PMVoice Training went well without any issues.
Of course, the fire alarm guy never showed up, so the test never happened. {Sigh}
Glad to hear the voice training sessions are going well. They start off slow, and it may take several sessions before you begin to notice anything. Like most things, practice helps.
As for the fire alarm test, maybe it was a silent alarm?
Love always -- Jess
@Jessica_Rose I am getting comfortable with speaking and catching myself so I can adjust. Now my coach wants me to practice reading aloud and talking on the phone. She told me jokingly to start making prank calls. ;D
Actually, the test is to call local businesses and ask simple questions like when they are open, what is their price for {whatever}, and see if I am gendered correctly.
I just saw the fire alarm guy in the hallway at 1:30. He is walking around with a clipboard. Maybe he is looking for a clock because he obviously doesn't know when 10:00 a.m. is. :laugh:
Quote from: LoriDee on May 29, 2024, 12:49:43 PMThanks, Allie!
I will give that a shot. I am using my phone and zoomed in because it has a macro feature. I can always crop the excess background instead.
Oh, BTW, in my Voice Training class this morning I relayed your "sneeze story". My coach said it is wonderful that you have that immediate feedback available. (NOT GOOD! from the other room.) ;D
She said sneezing and coughing are two of our most difficult challenges because they are reflex actions. So if you are getting "Good Job!" from the other room, you are doing very well.
Good job!
@imallie
Yeah, you have that split second to think about it!
As for voice? It's funny.. one of my friends who I speak to every day asked me about that. He asked if my voice was going to change. And I told him that I'd been changing it slightly over the last year or so, so he really hadn't noticed... but that I did reflexively change it now when I'm dressed... my wife picked up on that.
It was actually something my vocal coach used to tell me we were done. I had forgotten I had to start some slow cooking thing for dinner really early that morning, so I apologized to him but I had to do it while we were starting our session.
And after a few minutes he started laughing and said "do you realize you've been doing the voice this whole time, while you've been cooking?" And I did not. That's when he said. "You're all set."
And now it's the same thing, it was only that first day when I went out dressed that my wife said I was altering my voice, and I didn't really notice it. So... I promise you Lori, it'll sort of become second nature really fast!
I was able to show my friend the little change it takes to alter it... adding more air, making the voice feel like it's coming from my throat and face, not my chest... but things you do automatically.
Oh and one thing that my coach did that I find still really helpful. We landed on a sentence ... one that automatically pops me into my voice. For me it's "I want to tell you a secret." Because it makes me think of being a bit more quiet, adding a bit of inflection and air... and once I do that, I'm off to the races.
Anyway, so so glad you're finally doing the training... especially knowing how much you've been wanting to!!!!
Quote from: imallie on May 29, 2024, 03:01:06 PM"I want to tell you a secret."
I love it. I have found that if I start right, I can keep it going. I used "Good morning" or "Hello" as a starter because they are short. I like the secret. That has everything. Thanks!
"You have got this Chris" is my thought that helps me with talking more femininely.
I am going to lunch with the a couple of CIS female friends today. They have always been nice to me. I am not sure why they have understood my transition so well. We almost never talk about me transitioning now. I am just accepted as another woman by them, as far as I know.
Chrissy
Another busy day today.
It's raining and the forecast says rain for the next five days. My mining buddy is hoping the creek will run fast enough to erode the bottom a bit. Then when we get there later all the gold will be just sitting there waiting for us to scoop it up.
The first-ever Pride Parade in Rapid City happens tomorrow. I'm not certain how the rain will affect it, or the turnout. I need a Pride Rainbow-colored rain jacket. ;D
I paid my rent then I had to do some grocery shopping. I try to keep it under $200. Today's total was $245, but I got a new ceramic-lined cookware set that accounts for $60 of it. So it really was under $200. That's right, I am now the proud owner of a Dutch Oven! I haven't had one in about ten years. Funny I never missed it.
I also splurged and got some movies. One new Blu-Ray and two DVD sets. One is a six-movie collection of Children of the Corn. That should keep me off the streets at night... for a week or so. But nine movies total for less than $25 is not a bad deal.
I have a couple of people who have asked for jewelry pieces and I was able to get more wire today. I'll work on those while it's too wet to go outside.
All of this doing takes a lot of energy, so I am now replenishing with chocolate donuts for lunch. ;D
Does the real gold look bright and shiny when you find it?
Chrissy
Yes, it is unmistakable. I love the way it shines when sunlight hits it.
Did you check out my photo album on my website?
The website is Lori Dee's Corner (https://www.lori-dee.com/)
I have three photo albums there. Two for rock hounding and my Gold Gallery (https://goldgallery.lori-dee.com/).
Happy Pride Day!
The weather has cleared and the first-ever Pride Parade in Rapid City will begin in five minutes. I won't be participating due to... issues. I will try to post pics if I can get some. Our local newspaper hides everything behind a paywall.
On the first of each month, I do a "Progress Check". I weigh myself and measure my bust, underbust (ribs), waist, and hips. Being the nerd that I am, I enter these on a spreadsheet so I can graph my progress. The spreadsheet is also where I record my dosage and estradiol levels for comparison.
This has been amazingly helpful because I can point to a specific point in time and say, "Here is where the problem started", or "Here is where progress was being made". My doctor can then cross-reference my medical records to verify what I am seeing. This enabled me to show my doctor that the generic Mylan patch was not working, that the oral tablets were not working, and that I was making progress when I first went on the Grove brand patches. This in turn got the Pharmacist to place a special order so that I will only be prescribed Grove brand patches until my doctor changes something.
So what has happened since April 1st when I started the Grove brand patches?
From April 1 to May 1, I lost 9 lbs. I lost 1/4 inch from my bustline (negligible), one inch from underbust, 1/2 inch from my waist, and 1 inch from my hips. Considering almost ten pounds lost, all of that makes sense.
From May 1 - June 1 I lost no weight at all. But I lost almost two inches (1.75") from my bust (Unacceptable), 1/2 inch from underbust, 1/2 inch from waist, and no change in hips.
I know that our weight and mesurements will change daily, even throughout the day. In my Hypnotherapy practice, I would tell my weight-control clients not to weigh themselves every day. Once a week, on the same day, at the same time of day will give more accurate results. I follow the same rules except I do it once a month.
A half-inch plus or minus is nothing I worry about. Weight fluctuations, or maybe I held the measuring tape a little differently, things happen. A one-inch difference makes me examine where did it go? Was I exercising more? Eating right? How does one measurement compare to the others? Did I lose weight in all areas? (The boobs are always the first to go).
But if I am gaining weight, or even holding steady, and losing inches I begin to question what is going on. Today I have been struggling with my frustration and depression, and today's weigh-in results didn't help. But on Monday morning I see my Psychologist and then right after I get labs drawn to check my hormone levels. Based upon how I feel and my spreadsheet numbers I am willing to bet my levels are still too low. I have been taking my vitamins twice daily, so they can't blame them.
We will see what happens. The struggle continues.
With mental health issues (stress, frustration, depression, anxiety, etc.) there are three things you can do to feel better.
1. Change your thinking. It really is that simple. Just think about something else. Bonus points if it is something that interest you and unrelated to the issue that is triggering you.
2. Change your activity. Do something else. A hobby, read a book, listen to music, take a bubble bath, paint your nails, practice your makeup skills, play a video game.
3. Change your environment. Go for a walk, "touch grass", talk to a neighbor, visit a museum, sit in your yard, visit Nature.
You can actually do all three at the same time. Take a hike while listening to music. Take a bubble bath while reading a book. I love being out in Nature. It recharges my soul. It can be as simple as watching the hawk flying overhead, listening to the robins, or looking at wildflowers.
(https://i.imgur.com/JTH0mDi.jpeg)
(https://i.imgur.com/3331hGg.jpeg)
See? It's working already.
I find my belly is the first to go and makes the boobs look bigger by comparison. Most of my weight has been accumulating on my thighs. I guess that is a common place for women. Weight cycling can be a real thing. Loose some then gain it back and with the help of the hormones goes to more female locations.
Quote from: LoriDee on June 01, 2024, 12:35:33 PMWith mental health issues (stress, frustration, depression, anxiety, etc.) there are three things you can do to feel better.
1. Change your thinking. It really is that simple. Just think about something else. Bonus points if it is something that interest you and unrelated to the issue that is triggering you.
2. Change your activity. Do something else. A hobby, read a book, listen to music, take a bubble bath, paint your nails, practice your makeup skills, play a video game.
3. Change your environment. Go for a walk, "touch grass", talk to a neighbor, visit a museum, sit in your yard, visit Nature.
You can actually do all three at the same time. Take a hike while listening to music. Take a bubble bath while reading a book. I love being out in Nature. It recharges my soul. It can be as simple as watching the hawk flying overhead, listening to the robins, or looking at wildflowers.
(https://i.imgur.com/JTH0mDi.jpeg)
(https://i.imgur.com/3331hGg.jpeg)
See? It's working already.
So pretty flowers!
Chrissy
I don't know what the yellow one is, but the pink/purple one is called Dame's Rocket. One of the residents in my building is from Scotland and she said they call it Sweet Rocket. At night, they smell like perfume.
Recently we have been discussing things over on the Personal Safety thread. Normally, I don't worry too much about it because I am confident that I can handle most situations.
Then SafeHome.org released their report ranking all US states on how LGBTQ+ friendly they are. The report is based upon LGBTQ+ legislation (restricting rights, protecting rights, etc.) and the FBI database on hate crime. NBC News Article (https://www.wesh.com/article/florida-second-worst-state-lgbtq-people/60938699)
The safest places to live are:
#1: Rhode Island
#2: New Hampshire
#3: Delaware
#4: Alaska
#5: Hawaii
The absolute worst places to live are:
#1: South Dakota
#2: Florida
#3: Wyoming
#4: Ohio
#5: Alabama
Really? South Dakota is worse than Texas? Worse than Florida? Of course, the media is focused on how Florida is the second-worst, only casually mentioning that SD is even more unsafe. Yeah, let's talk about Florida. Nobody cares about the Midwest.
I knew SD was a conservative state. I am mostly conservative in my views on many things. When I was researching where to move to, (I wanted to leave IL really bad), I looked at things like the cost of living, crime rate, unemployment rate, housing costs, etc. LGBTQ-friendliness was not on my radar because I had no idea that I was transgender.
When Kristi Noem became Governor, things began to change here... for the worse. I liked her when she was our Congresswoman. As a governor, she thinks she is the Queen and news reports repeatedly expose her corruption. But no one seems to care. You know it is bad when the Sioux Nation has banned her from setting foot on any of the Reservations in South Dakota.
Yesterday was Rapid City's first Pride Parade. The media announced it beforehand. But no mention of it in the news yesterday or today. Did they not have any reporters there? Did no one take any pictures? Why the silence?
It seems I picked a bad place to get diagnosed with Gender Dysphoria. (Like I had any choice). I could move to a more friendly state, but I can't afford the cost of living on a fixed income. It's not like I can get a pay raise or anything.
I am meeting with a VSO (Veteran Services Officer) this month to re-evaluate my VA disability. When I first applied for veteran disability back in 1990, I was told that there was no compensation for service-connected tinnitus. The policy has changed since then and living on a tank for almost 15 years certainly covers the service-connected part. If my claim is approved, my disability rating will increase by 10%. That doesn't sound like much, but it will put another $200 per month in my pocket.
With a little extra income each month, I can get a nice used vehicle...
and "live in a van down by the river". ;D
I'm back from my appointment with my VA Psychologist. She is truly a wonderful person. She is working on a recommendation for Gender Affirming Surgery. Although the VA won't do it, her report documents a long history of Gender Dysphoria and that HRT alone has been unsuccessful as a treatment.
After the appointment, I had the lab draw blood to check my Estradiol level. I have been on the new Grove brand patches since April, so I should be finally near my target level. But based on how I feel and my June 1st measurements, I still believe the results will be too low.
I see my Gynecologist in two weeks. The lab results will be back by then, so we can discuss why I am so dissatisfied with my progress. I will also ask her to do her version of a surgery recommendation. Then in August, I will talk to my Primary and try to get a recommendation from her too.
Even though the VA currently does not cover Gender Affirming Surgery, that could change. There is currently a lawsuit against the VA by TAVA (Transgender American Veterans Association) to change this discriminatory policy. If the lawsuit fails, I can use the recommendations from my doctors to pursue surgery through Medicare.
So, yet again, I am standing by to stand by. *sigh*
Today's Motivational Message:
(https://i.imgur.com/FKXZs60.jpeg)
Straighten your crown and have a great day!
@LoriDee Dear Lori:
EXCELLENT motivational message.
Thank you for sharing.
HUGS, Danielle [Northern Star Girl]
Everyday try to think positive thoughts.
Chrissy
Quote from: ChrissyRyan on June 04, 2024, 12:20:58 PMEveryday try to think positive thoughts.
Chrissy
@ChrissyRyan Dear Chrissy;Yes indeed, you are right on !!!! Positive Mindset... put away negativity https://www.susans.org/index.php/topic,238255.0.htmlHUGS, Danielle [Northern Star Girl]
It's raining (again) so I emptied the rock tumblers and got them going on their next cycle.
These are the ones that have finished polishing. I like the Chevron Amethyst (top-left). Quartz in the middle, some banded jasper on the right. The bottom left is Teepee Agate, which is actually a dark red. And the bottom right is Bubblegum Agate.
(https://i.imgur.com/fpdqtWC.jpeg)
Some cameo shots showing details:
Chevron Amethyst
(https://i.imgur.com/NLVCUZD.jpeg)
Dark Amethyst backlit
(https://i.imgur.com/PWrE1sS.jpeg)
Teepee Agate... is that a pre-historic paw print? ;D
(https://i.imgur.com/mh3yeJA.jpeg)
Bubblegum Agate... I love the swirls of color
(https://i.imgur.com/299BiE4.jpeg)
These will get added to the ever-increasingly large pile of stones that eventually, someday, will become a piece of jewelry, maybe, someday. I think.
Today was a great day!
82 degrees in the city. Up in the forest, about a 1,000-foot elevation difference, it was 72. The water was running a little high and fast, but not dangerously so. My mining partner/bestie/photographer was having knee issues. (It was replaced a few years ago, so I told her to return it to the shop on a warranty claim.) She was content to sit in the shade and watch me work.
Our main dig site is rather hidden and involves crossing another creek to get to a "sort of island". It sits between two creeks and is bordered on a third side by a very wet marsh. We decided to wait until the water level drops a bit more. But in the meantime, there is plenty of dirt we can search.
Across the creek, the Dame's Rockets are in full bloom. They are everywhere. At the bottom and all the way up this rock face.
(https://i.imgur.com/yCRWd2k.jpeg)
A close-up of my favorite wildflower.
(https://i.imgur.com/TJMGwom.jpeg)
I followed the smaller creek and the water felt so nice and refreshing. I use a Garrett AT Gold metal detector to locate "drop zones" where gold collects. Usually, the gold is too small to be detected, but if a pile of it collects together I can find it. I also listen for signals that indicate lead shot, like from shotguns, or even bullets. Lead is 11 times heavier than water, gold is twice that at 20 times heavier. So if a signal tells me that lead shot has collected at a spot, I usually find gold there too. All the heavy stuff collects in the same spots. Write that down. There will be a test.
(https://i.imgur.com/WJZDaVm.jpeg)
Think I am having fun? Yup.
(https://i.imgur.com/zbpIgNQ.jpeg)
OK. Where are you?
(https://i.imgur.com/zWlaXg6.jpeg)
Gotcha!
(https://i.imgur.com/VKKR04m.jpeg)
Come to Momma!
(https://i.imgur.com/Esn0Rre.jpeg)
I forgot my glasses. Where did it go?
Each season I periodically post pictures in my Gold Gallery on my website. The link is in my profile, then go to the photo albums section. I don't post all of what I find, but if I have a good day or if there is something interesting about the gold I found, I will post it. Just not today. ;D
Very nice pictures!
Chrissy
I saw a halo around the moon last night.
Growing up in the desert in California I met a Navajo Medicine Man. He told me that a halo around the moon means a storm within three days. So far, he has never been wrong.
And here it is — wind, rain, and hail. Gotta love Springtime in the Black Hills.
Quote from: LoriDee on June 10, 2024, 05:08:34 PMI saw a halo around the moon last night.
Growing up in the desert in California I met a Navajo Medicine Man. He told me that a halo around the moon means a storm within three days. So far, he has never been wrong.
And here it is — wind, rain, and hail. Gotta love Springtime in the Black Hills.
@LoriDee Dear LoriDee: I have heard that also... regarding a halo around the night moon
predicts a coming storm.
I have always called the halos around a night moon, Moon-bows
They can be a simple halo around the moon or it can include all the
colors of a daytime rainbow.
Here is an informative explanation: (with photos) Do You See A Moon Halo Or A Moonbow? https://www.farmersalmanac.com/what-is-a-moonbow
HUGS, Danielle
@Northern Star Girl That's awesome. I've never seen one as big as they describe. Usually, it is just moonlight shining through clouds. But the halo is completely round even though the moon was just a crescent. I did a lot of camping at Yosemite when I was younger, but never saw a Moonbow. Adding that to my bucket list. ;D
If you want to see a moonbow you need to visit Cumberland Falls in Kentucky. They claim it is the only place in the western hemisphere where a moon bow shows predictably, usually for 5 nights every month.
Here is how it looks with a camera. Please notice the stars in the sky, the big dipper to the right. The human eye, btw, only sees black and white during the night.
(https://i.imgur.com/nxfSBOK.jpeg)
Wow, Heidemarie.
That is a great pic! Thanks for sharing.
The saga continues...
I was switched from oral estradiol to patches because I was experiencing a hormonal rollercoaster. Hot flushes, night sweats... yeah, PMS daily. The patches provided a steady dose, but never enough to hit my target serum levels.
I was switched to a different doctor who tried to increase my dosage, but I was already at the highest dose patch and wearing two a day. So she switched back to oral and upped the dose. And I went back to daily PMSing.
Then the VA decided to bring my care in-house and assigned me a new doctor. She switched me back to patches and increased the dose to three a day. The pharmacy screwed up and sent the generic Mylan patches, which I already know don't work. So Doc got with the Pharm Tech and ordered Grove brand patches.
That was back in March. On June 3rd I had labs drawn to check my serum levels on the Grove patches, compare those results with my previous experience with them, and compare their effectiveness vs the generic Mylan patches.
The results came in today: 78. I had one doctor tell me my target serum level was between 200-250. This doctor said I should be just under 200.
In almost five years, I have been over 100 exactly three times, and never consecutively. It also has nothing to do with Mylan or Grove brand, or oral. It appears that none of these are working at this dose and I am frustrated to the point of anger.
I see my doctor next Monday. She is a wonderful person. She recently traveled throughout Europe studying the latest in Transgender Medicine. I have only had one visit with her, so I am very curious how she will handle this issue. I expected to have this figured out four years ago and just be on a maintenance dose by now. *sigh*
My levels were never high enough on patches. I was switched to weekly injections which has worked for me. A pain injecting but worth it.
I was wondering about that since patches and oral do not seem to get the job done. It will be interesting to see what she suggests. My first Endocrinologist and I would have arguments about how I wanted things and what the VA policies would allow.
Woohoo!
UPS delivered my new 10-man tent today. Last summer I had an 8-man tent and it was barely big enough to accommodate me and my gear. That tent got destroyed during a wicked hail storm. I was under trees, but tennis-ball size hail ripped two holes in the tent.
I now have all my gear packed up in the Jeep. In addition to mining and camping gear, I also have three 6-gallon water cans that I use for bathing and washing dishes. I still need to do laundry and clean out my rock tumblers. Then load up clothing, food, and drinking water.
The plan is to spend five days a week at the mining site. There is no cell service out there, so I will be limited on updates. I have doctor's appointments and other commitments which will bring me back to the city. I typically use those days to shower, do laundry, and resupply before heading back out.
I won't be posting photos here for security reasons. I have been open about who I am and what I do, but the exact location of where I go is something I keep "close to the chest". I will continue to check in from time to time as I can. Sometimes the night air allows a decent cell signal where I can access the internet.
I am hopeful that this will be a great season.
Hi Lori,
My son told me the newer iPhones can make a satellite call. Just saying. I know those things are pricey!
Sounds like a fun adventure. Be safe out there and hope you find some shiny things.
Hi Kay, I heard that too but I think it's more of a T-Mobile and Starlink thing than just an iPhone.
It might be worth talking to someone at T-Mobile to see how far it's come along.
This article is from the first of the year.
https://www.satellitetoday.com/connectivity/2024/01/03/spacex-launches-first-direct-to-cell-starlink-satellites-for-service-with-t-mobile/
Came back early due to the weather forecast. Tomorrow is predicted to be 93 degrees and rain. When that happens it almost always results in wicked thunderstorms with dangerous hail. I learned my lesson last summer. I had two hailstones the size of tennis balls rip through my tent. I'll have to dig out the pics and share them.
The outing was not a failure though. There is a spot a short distance upstream from our usual mining spot. It has all of the signs of being a large drop zone that may have been collecting gold for decades or longer.
If you have read my articles on prospecting that I have posted on my website, you should understand this: The creek travels in a relatively straight line, then makes a sharp 90-degree turn. The creek gets its energy from the flowing water (kinetic energy) that pushes material like sand and gravel along the bottom. If the water slows down, it loses energy and can no longer push the heavy stuff along the bottom. So heavy materials like gold, lead, platinum, etc. will drop and settle to the bottom.
As the creek makes a turn, the water on the inside of the bend slows down. Think about the wheels on a car as it turns. The wheels on the outside of the turn go faster and on the inside go slower. So it is common for gold to be found on the inside bend of a creek or stream.
In this case, the creek flows in a straight line, then hits a rock face at the base of a cliff. The momentum almost comes to a full stop, then the water makes a 90-degree right turn. My guess is that when the water hits that rock face and nearly stops, all the heavy materials will drop right there.
In previous years when I checked that spot, there was a nice deep "fishing hole" there, probably from the turbulence of the water against the rock. But that hole was about five feet deep. I can stand in a hole that deep, but then can't bend over to do any shoveling without taking a deep breath first. Shoveling dirt underwater is hard enough, then add the current of the stream flowing.
Over the years that area has flooded twice since I started mining there. Now, that hole is mostly filled in with sand and silt. The good news is that I can easily walk to the spot and dig. The bad news is I am digging sand and silt. It will take a while to get down to the heavy gravel. If we have a dry year, the water level will drop and allow me to continue digging. Too much rain and that spot might have to wait another year.
Forecast for the next seven days: rain, sun, rain, sun, rain, sun. rain.
*sigh*
Last summer, I was "between apartments" so I went camping for six weeks during July and August.
IT. WAS. HOT. It hit 108 in Rapid City.
I found an excellent campsite, in the shade of trees, protected from wind and being seen by humans.
(https://i.imgur.com/TmpW6OC.jpeg)
I was settled in nicely and doing some prospecting in the area when my emergency radio alert went off. Severe Thunderstorms coming. So I backed the Jeep further under the trees to better shield it.
The hail was so big and coming down so hard I could not make a run to get in the Jeep. I sat it out in my tent wearing a bucket on my head for a hard hat. I'm glad I did. Two hailstones with jagged edges ripped holes in my tent. One near the door and the other on the back side panel.
(https://i.imgur.com/lcwTD4t.jpeg)
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I have a video I shot looking out the tent window. Imgur won't let me upload it because it is too long. But I shot the video of these hailstones bouncing off my Jeep. I thought they were going to bust out a window for sure and I wanted video for any insurance claim. The trees minimized the damage to the Jeep, my tent, and me.
My friends said they wished they had a picture of me sitting in my tent with a bucket on my head.
Hey Lori -
First of all - so cool that a) you do that and b) you get such a kick out of it!
So can I ask a couple of questions which are, I'm certain, pretty ignorant... but they're just because I'm curious?
These mining sites --is it a law of diminishing returns? I assume the more they are mined, the more difficult it is to mine subsequently both in terms of quality and quantity of stone, yes? And unlike, say rooting for truffles or something, they aren't in a constant cycle of growth, right? So how do you combat this?
Second, does the rain or any foul weather play into this in a positive way? I know it certainly can make a pleasurable experience unpleasurable... but I mean, does erosion ever refresh a site or an area?
Just curious how the mechanics of all this works! Seems fascinating!
Love,
Allie
I am glad that you chose to return home and be safe!
@LoriDee Dear LoriDee:
Welcome back from your camping trip....
You were much missed here on the Forum while you were away.
HUGS, Danielle [Northern Star Girl]
Quote from: imallie on June 14, 2024, 11:32:52 PMHey Lori -
First of all - so cool that a) you do that and b) you get such a kick out of it!
So can I ask a couple of questions which are, I'm certain, pretty ignorant... but they're just because I'm curious?
These mining sites --is it a law of diminishing returns? I assume the more they are mined, the more difficult it is to mine subsequently both in terms of quality and quantity of stone, yes? And unlike, say rooting for truffles or something, they aren't in a constant cycle of growth, right? So how do you combat this?
Second, does the rain or any foul weather play into this in a positive way? I know it certainly can make a pleasurable experience unpleasurable... but I mean, does erosion ever refresh a site or an area?
Just curious how the mechanics of all this works! Seems fascinating!
Love,
Allie
Hi Allie,
The simple answer... it depends. In hard rock mining where they carve rocks out of a mountain, it depends on the vein they are mining. It might be small and become huge, or start huge and dwindle to nothing.
I have studied the Empire Gold Mine here. It was one of the top gold producers in the county back in the day. In places, the shaft is 500' underground and over a mile of tunnels. The veins of gold they were following started at six feet wide, but got thinner and thinner until they disappeared. They dug a lot of prospecting pits hoping the vein continued so they could locate it, but never did.
What I do is placer mining. I collect gold that has already eroded out of the mountain. Here again, the answer is... it depends. If five ounces of gold erode out of the mountain and wash down into the stream, and I find five ounces, obviously I have collected it all and would need to move on. But we have no way of knowing how much is in the mountain, or how much has eroded out over the past 1,000+ years.
For this reason, I do a lot of sampling. I look for drop zones and use my metal detector to locate hidden drop zones. I then sample those and record the results. Once I determine where the gold is, where the paystreak lies (the gold is deposited in straight lines), and at what depth then the fun begins. In some cases, I didn't find anything, or so little it did not catch my interest. The spot where I am now continues to pay off. In 2018, my mining buddy and I changed the flow of the river and dug up the whole bottom of the creek to knee-deep and an area of about 20' across by 40' long.
While researching the area, I found a copy of the very first map ever drawn of this area in the "Dakota Territories". It was surveyed in 1898-1899 and the map was published in 1900. On that map was drawn a survey of "my spot" where someone already had a gold claim. I believe the claim was filed as early as 1878 and was part of the gold rush that started when the Custer Expedition discovered gold on French Creek far to the southwest of here.
The fact that this area continues to pay off (for over 100 years), tells me that there is a large source that is slowly eroding into the creek. I believe I have located the vein that the Empire Mine lost track of. I don't know its exact location, but I believe that is the source that is eroding out. I have checked every inch of these mountains in a mile radius and the source is not on the surface. Perhaps it is in the creek bottom, or near enough to it that the Spring floods replenish the supply each year.
As to your second question, yes bad weather can have a good outcome. Heavy rain can erode the lodes faster and wash the gold downhill into the creek. The flood waters have more energy so can move gold downstream more easily, and erode the bottom to expose new gold, or old deposits that were too large to move in the past. Even a forest fire can burn hot enough to fuse tiny specks of gold in the soil into larger detectable flakes.
The obvious downside to severe weather is the danger of high water flooding and strong currents. It also forces me to wait, sometimes more than a year for the water level to drop to safe conditions. 2020 was like that. The creeks and rivers were still recovering from a flood in 2019. Then COVID happened, so 2020 was a year that I never got out to the creek. I had stockpiled pay dirt from before the flood. I would set up a Gold Cube in my garage so I could continue through the winter. I had enough to keep me occupied for most of the summer too.
If you are fascinated by how all this works, I have written some articles and posted them on my website at Lori-Dee.com. I intended to make tutorials and I am in the process of rewriting them to improve clarity and make them more useful to those who are interested. I have a couple more that I intend to write when I have more time, (usually in winter).
Thanks, I do find it fascinating. Plus, I always find it time well-spent listening to people share their knowledge and what they are passionate about. So thank you very much for taking the time to write all that.
One of the expressions in our house when we hit a "vein" of new information on a subject, new or old, is to say "Hey, I got a little bit smarter today." And I very much feel that way today - thanks to you! 😘
In winter, I do a lot of research. I study geology maps, geology reports, mining journals, and even old newspapers. I get "cabin fever" coupled with a side dish of "gold fever" and want to get outside.
We started just sluicing buckets in the creek, but a fellow prospector suggested a setup to be able to prospect year-round. Towards the end of our season when the weather is beginning to cool off, we screen extra buckets of dirt to bring home. We run the dirt through screens to remove the large rocks that we don't want to carry. The law says we cannot take dirt away from the site, but we are allowed to take "concentrates". Concentrates means that the dirt has had something removed from it, so we were legal. We would only take one or two 5-gallon buckets home each trip out and store them in my garage.
The apartment complex rents out half of a two-car garage. I rented both halves so I had the building to myself. It had electricity, but no heat and no insulation. I stored the buckets of paydirt in there and when ready would fire up my propane heater and shop lights. It was by no means warm, but it kept the water above freezing so it would flow through my Gold Cube.
Mike Pung invented the Gold Cube to separate very fine gold from the black sands common where he prospected on the beaches of Lake Michigan. It works very well and since I was finding fine gold here, I used it as my winter-mode sluicebox.
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An electric bilge pump forces water up the black hose to the "slick plate" of the Gold Cube. This is where I feed the paydirt. The water washes the dirt down through various traps and riffle systems and the fine gold is extracted.
The water exits the Cube at the bottom into the white washtub. All the excess dirt gets washed down to there, and any gold that did not get caught ends up in that tub. The heavy stuff settles to the bottom and the lighter stuff is washed over the edge into the black tub. There, the water is calmer which allows more sediment to settle and the lighter stuff gets washed over the edge with the "clean" water. The pool is large enough to allow further settling of the sediments and the pump is submerged there to draw water from. And the cycle repeats. Over time the water becomes too saturated with dissolved solids and has to be changed. (That is a real PITA.)
Over time, I got better at locating gold and before long I was no longer finding just fine gold. I was finding larger flakes that the Gold Cube was not designed to capture. Eventually, I stopped using it and saved $75 per month by not renting the garage. Now I just store the buckets in my apartment, and definitely not as many.
Pro Tip: add a squirt of dish soap to the dirt when you bring it indoors. I learned the hard way what happens when fish's toilet water is allowed to warm up to apartment temperatures. Yikes that is smelly stuff. The dish soap kills all the bacteria from the creek and does not affect panning the dirt later if you carefully rinse the soap out first.
Hi Lori,
Which beaches of Lake Michigan are they finding gold?
I don't know exactly. Prospectors often do not reveal exact locations.
From what he told me, he looks for large rocks on the beach, then looks to see if they have black sand at the base of them. Black sand is heavy so it can be a sign the fine gold is there too.
Then it is just a matter of sampling to see if there is gold. If there is... dig, dig, dig! ;D
I watch Ozzie gold hunters so I have seen how they collect the gold, sluice, dry blowers and cyanide ponds. Its not all about nuggets.Mind you finding sun bakers with a detector is a thrill!!
Family dynamics can be thought-provoking. Since my transition, I have changed my role within the family dynamic. < deadname > was married three times, divorced twice, widowed once, and had two children during the first marriage which ended in a bitter custody battle. The children ended up being placed in "the system" and were adopted by my brother during the custody battle. He forbade the children from contacting me, so there is no relationship between <deadname> and that part of the family.
Since transitioning, I realize that Lori Dee is single, has never been married, and has no children. I celebrate Mother's Day and Father's Day to pay tribute to my parents and do not expect the same in return from <deadname's> offspring.
This morning, I got a heartwarming text message from my cousin. She has been very accepting, even joyful about my transition, but we only talk occasionally... usually around holidays.
Her message this morning made me smile because she is trying very hard:
"Hey, Cuz, this is kinda hard for me. I know I missed Mother's Day and now it's Father's Day!! But I'm confused on which day I should be wishing you a Happy ________ Day??? Either way, I want you to know I am thinking about of you!!! Love you!!! < heart emoji >
It is always refreshing to have someone in your life who doesn't have an agenda.
Quote from: LoriDee on June 16, 2024, 08:53:13 AMFamily dynamics can be thought-provoking. Since my transition, I have changed my role within the family dynamic. < deadname > was married three times, divorced twice, widowed once, and had two children during the first marriage which ended in a bitter custody battle. The children ended up being placed in "the system" and were adopted by my brother during the custody battle. He forbade the children from contacting me, so there is no relationship between <deadname> and that part of the family.
Since transitioning, I realize that Lori Dee is single, has never been married, and has no children. I celebrate Mother's Day and Father's Day to pay tribute to my parents and do not expect the same in return from <deadname's> offspring.
This morning, I got a heartwarming text message from my cousin. She has been very accepting, even joyful about my transition, but we only talk occasionally... usually around holidays.
Her message this morning made me smile because she is trying very hard:
"Hey, Cuz, this is kinda hard for me. I know I missed Mother's Day and now it's Father's Day!! But I'm confused on which day I should be wishing you a Happy ________ Day??? Either way, I want you to know I am thinking about of you!!! Love you!!! < heart emoji >
It is always refreshing to have someone in your life who doesn't have an agenda.
Lori,
It is the nice thought that counts. They can make a big difference in our lives.
Chrissy
@LoriDee
Dear LoriDee:I much enjoyed reading your last post... filled with good news,
acceptance, and a loving and heartwarming message from your cousin.
Thank you for sharing and posting.Hugs, Danielle
Just returned from my appointment with my Gynecologist. I explained to her that I was very frustrated with my (physical) progress and that it was affecting my mental health. She said she had spoken with my Psychologist and understood my issues.
In a nutshell, I have been on HRT for over four years. In that time, various doctors (two Endocrinologists and now a Gynecologist) have prescribed various dosages of estradiol, both oral and transdermal patches. During this entire period, my serum levels have never come close to the target levels they wanted to achieve. So I asked her, if we were to take almost five years' worth of data, examining dosage vs serum levels, can we extrapolate my correct dosage? Does that mean I need to apply twelve patches per day? Should we add a patch, test in one week, add another, test in one week, and keep going until I am wearing 25 patches? What is the next step? 26 patches?
My Primary doctor believes that my body metabolizes things faster than others. So how do we test that? Do I sit in the lab and have them draw blood every hour to check how fast my levels drop?
After much discussion, I told her that we started with low levels and kept increasing the dosage to reach the target level. That has not worked. She has informed consent. Let's start high and slowly decrease until we hit the target level.
We decided to ditch the patches and switch over to injections once a week to see if that would work better. I insisted on a high dose first and work on dropping as needed. She agreed. Her scheduler will call to set up an appointment with the Specialty Nurse at Fort Meade to show me how to do it. (I have never injected anything in my lifetime, so this should be fun.) The Specialty Nurse who does injections is a friend of mine. She is one of those wonderful people who just radiate happiness to everyone near her. I haven't seen her in a year, so it will be good to catch up.
Welcome to the injection club! I didn't have anyone show me how to do it, but I found a few helpful videos. It was still nerve-wracking the first time, and the second, and the third... After a year it still isn't high on my 'favorite things to do list', but it's nice having a weekly injection instead of a steady supply of patches.
The vials of estradiol valerate don't need refrigeration, room temperature is fine (unless your room is below 32F or above 90F). Hopefully they will provide appropriate injection supplies. My doctor orders 23g needles to draw the estradiol, and 25g to inject. Unfortunately, my pharmacy always sends me 22g needles! I order mine on Amazon.
I hope your new plan results in more appropriate levels.
Love always -- Jessica Rose
@Jessica_Rose Thanks for the tips!
I'm not sure what will be included in the "kit" but the VA's copay is low enough that cost shouldn't be an issue. I will ask about the needle gauge to see what they are using. I can always ask for something else. Their pharmacy is very accommodating.
The plan is to start once a week, then test in 3 months to see if the dosage needs adjustment. If I can maintain a steady serum level like you do, we might switch to the every-other-week injections. But that decision is way down the road. It will take a couple of weeks for my supplies to arrive, so I think my training appointment will be a week from now.
Doc also said she wants to be sure I do my labs halfway between injections. She doesn't want to see the highs or lows but about where my average will be.
I love learning new things but stabbing myself with a needle was not on my bucket list. ;D
I inject in my upper thigh. Oddly, it's a little like electrolysis. One spot may be completely painless, while 2mm over may feel like you've hit a nerve. My injection needles are 1.5 inches long, and I never learned how to do it quickly. It's definitely not something to do while driving down a jeep trail, or at a traffic light! I found a website which attempts to simulate your levels based on dosage (it does not require any personal information). It is an estimate only and should not be used to calculate your dosage. However, it may help you understand how much your levels can vary over time.
https://transfemscience.org/misc/injectable-e2-simulator/
Love always -- Jessica Rose
Thanks for the info!
She wants to start with sub-Q injections. She said as it builds up in the fatty tissue it stabilizes how much is released into the system. IM seems to be metabolized faster (which makes sense to me). So if we find my levels are steady but too high, we may switch to IM to see how much they drop before lowering the dose. The hope is that as the levels fluctuate, my lows will still be higher than where I am now. My lab on June 3 was at 78. She wants me close to 200. I have only been above 100 three times in four years and they were not consecutive tests.
So, yeah, I'm all over the place. Time to try something different.
I have my levels checked a few hours before my weekly injection, so it should be near my lowest level of the week. My last few checks showed levels around 250, so during the week I'm probably quite a bit higher. I could probably reduce my dosage a bit, but things feel 'off' when it gets too low. My doctor and I are both comfortable at this level, so we don't plan to change anything. What dosage and level is right for you? Whatever both of you are comfortable with. I hope you find a dosage that works well.
Love always -- Jess
Watching Ozzie Gold Hunters last night and they found a 30oz nugget . Keep digging dear.
Hi Lori,
My introduction to Susan's has been supported by your kind and encouraging greetings, it feels like I'm being taken by the hand and guided through these steps. Now I started reading your Blog. I couldn't stop and I'm feeling quite emotional right now -it really got to me. What a powerful journey - it really helps others when you share this. Your spiritual / mystical interests really make sense, I love the photo album - in the post transition pictures - your inner beauty really radiates.
Love
Mandy
@Mandy Spencer Thank you, Mandy. That is very kind of you.
We had a wonderful light show last night. A powerful thunderstorm to the south with lots of lightning lit up the sky in an impressive show of power. It was far off in the distance and the security lights of the city prevented me from taking a photo. (So I stole one.)
I have always been fascinated by lightning. As a child, it frightened me. My father, an Electronics Engineer, tried to explain what it was to me. Six-year-old me didn't understand anything he was saying. My mother stepped in and told me that lightning is a crack in the sky, and if you look quickly you might catch a glimpse of heaven.
Many years later, I learned that lightning travels at 200,000,000 mph. It is up to five times hotter than the surface of the Sun. When it strikes a tree, the heat instantly vaporizes the water in the wood converting it to steam. The steam cannot escape that quickly, thus exploding the tree. It is so hot that the ionized air is converted to plasma, which is neither solid, liquid, or gas. It takes 30,000 volts for electricity to arc one centimeter, or about 75,000 volts to arc one inch. The awesome power of lightning is mind-boggling.
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[God said] ... "and from the gleam of my eye the lightning received its wonderful nature, which is both fire in water and water in fire, and one does not put out the other, nor does the one dry up the other, therefore the lightning is brighter than the sun, softer than water and firmer than hard rock."
~ The Book of the Secrets of Enoch II, Chapter 29, XXIX, verse 1. (circa 300 - 200 BC)
Lightning is so cool. Natures fireworks. Having been in close proximity to strikes on many occasions really gives on an appreciation of the true power.
Good old Enock ,taken for a trip by aliens (if you believe the ancient alien lot )
Quote from: Gina P on June 18, 2024, 12:41:15 PMLightning is so cool. Natures fireworks. Having been in close proximity to strikes on many occasions really gives on an appreciation of the true power.
So true!
When I was a sophomore in high school living in New York State, I was on the second floor looking out my bedroom window. A large oak tree in the neighbor's yard across the street was struck by a huge bolt of lightning. The light was blinding and the thunder so loud and instant that I thought a bomb had gone off. The tree was split right in half.
The next day, my dad and I were looking at the tree. You could see all the grain of the wood inside. He pointed to it and said, "That proves it! Trees are made out of boards." < Dad joke >
Quote from: davina61 on June 18, 2024, 12:44:02 PMGood old Enock ,taken for a trip by aliens (if you believe the ancient alien lot )
I'm not convinced it was aliens, but "the Lord works in mysterious ways".
Enoch is my favorite Old Testament character. One of the unsung heroes of the Bible. I think he got a raw deal.
Think about it. In recorded history, only three people have ascended ("were taken by God"). Enoch, Elijah, and Jesus. Of those three, Enoch and Elijah did not experience death. Enoch was a holy man, described as one who "walked with God" and is mentioned in the Bible only a few times in passing.
There should be entire chapters dedicated to him. The only other Old Testament figure who "walked with God" was Adam and he got a lot more press than poor old Enoch. ;D
One of my double-barrel rock tumblers is dying a slow and noisy death. I thought the noise was coming from the rollers, so I oiled up the bearings but it was still noisy. Yesterday, I shut it down and did a better examination and it seems the noise is coming from a bearing on the motor shaft. Not a problem, I just oiled that too and the noise quieted down.
This morning, the noise is back. Shut it down again, and the sound may be coming from the electric motor. I got out the canned air and blasted the carbon dust out of the armature housing. Then, I oiled all the bearings again, but this time I flooded them to flush out dust or debris.
By this afternoon the noise was driving me bonkers. I logged on to The Tumbler's Bench and ordered a new motor. They had pairs of sealed motor bearings on sale so I grabbed two pair. This evening I received an email that the parts have already shipped! Now that is quality service.
By this weekend, I will be doing a complete rebuild of this rock tumbler. If I kept the box and the receipt I could have returned it. My experience with rock tumblers has been that you get another faulty one in exchange. But if you buy the parts from a third party and rebuild the machine yourself, it seems to last much longer.
I rebuilt the National Geographic (made in China) single-barrel machine in the same way. I replaced the ball bearings with sealed motor bearings and replaced the motor with a slow-speed, high-torque motor. It has been running smoothly 24/7 for almost a year.
If you want something done right, sometimes you just have to do it yourself.
The weather forecast calls for 79 degrees and rain. It is 70 now and not a cloud in the sky.
I got a text message from USPS that my rock tumbler parts will not be here until Monday. The tumblers have been running on an extended cycle waiting. Normally, I run each cycle for seven days. Beyond that, the abrasive grit breaks down to where it is ineffective. This is day eleven, so I'll go ahead and clean them out, set the rocks aside, and wait til Monday when I can rebuild Tumbler #2.
If the rain doesn't show up, I might be able to get out to the creek tomorrow. My sluice box is begging for attention. If it rains today, it should clear up enough that I can do some rockhounding elsewhere.
"To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven: ... A time to cast away stones, and a time to gather stones together; ... " ~ Ecclesiastes 3:5
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Hi Lori,
When I was growing up, I got a rock tumbler for Christmas. My father bought several more and it was more like his hobby. I was turning into a teen and trying to figure out my confused life, like these different gender feelings! I am nearing retirement and your posts have me thinking about just maybe buying a rock tumbler!
A couple of the name-brand tumbler companies have gone out of business or have been bought out by other companies, so the availability of the good ones and parts can be limited.
Avoid the National Geographic brand as they are known to have issues. Lortone is top of the line but the company was bought out. The new company promises to have production back up by this summer.
Thumler is another good one. A lot of people on the Rock Tumbling forums have them and love them. One of the forum Admins has about ten or more of them.
Harbor Freight/Chicago Electric went out of business but some can still be found. I don't like them. They are noisy and generate a lot of heat. That is the model I am rebuilding.
I would recommend the Highland Park model. I have never used one, but they have good reviews on Rock Tumbling forums. Leegol is built almost identically so has good reviews as well.
The key is to go cheap at first until you get hooked like I did. You can always upgrade once you learn what you like or don't like. The forums have a lot of wonderfully helpful people for advice and troubleshooting.
The National Geographic has issues, but they have great customer service. If you get a bad one, they will replace it. I just got tired of having to replace it every few months and decided to rebuild it. It has been running for about nine months now with no issues. I am hoping to have similar success with the Harbor Freight/Chicago Electric.
@Kay226
Thank you Lori! I have a box of rocks from my father sitting next to my desk. I know that he wanted to tumble/polish them. Maybe I will get to them and then I will be hooked like my father and it took over most of his basement! I will definitely look at the brands that you recommend.
The rain finally arrived. Not much of a soaker, more like a few wet clouds. But off to the west, it looks like the Hills are getting hit. I don't know how much rain will fall overnight.
Tomorrow, I will head to the southern shore of the Badlands. I won't be far from the Fairburn Agate Beds. There are some areas I want to hunt that are not as picked over by tourists. With any luck, I may find the elusive Fairburn Agate. I have been looking since 2016 and have not found one yet.
It's going to hit 90 in the city tomorrow and I would rather be anywhere else. Except for Las Vegas. ;D
Back home in the air conditioning now. The forecast for today was 90, but now it says today it got to 86. It was an hour-and-a-half drive out to the "spot" and I had the a/c cranked the whole time. I parked in the shade. We got in the creek as quickly as possible. Instead of refreshingly cool, it was like bath water. WTH?
I could have just gotten in the bathtub. It has less algae and leeches, and almost less fish poop. We were pulling rocks off the bottom of the creek — nothing to write about. The day became more about playing in the water.
Got back to the WHITE Jeep with sunscreen in the windshield and back windows blacked out, and parked in the shade.
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Tomorrow's forecast calls for 88... so I guess that means 108?
Oh and on the way there, we normally stop at a small local truck stop/convenience store for a potty break and to grab some sandwiches for lunch later. Over the intercom, they were piping in Musak and this song came on. It is now stuck in my head and my Bestie and I have been humming it all day.
It is quite an affirming song, so sing along:
Overall, not a bad day.
Dear LoriDee:
I am glad that you had fun playing in the creek in the warm water with
the algae and leeches.... I am fairly certain that you got a nice
shower or a clean bath when you arrived back home.
So sorry to read about the high temperatures there... for me where I live
this early morning started out at 44 degrees(f) and got up to 66 degrees(f).
Tomorrow on Monday it may get up to into the low 70's ... plenty warm
enough for me.
Thank you for keeping me and the rest of your avid followers updated
with you life adventures.
HUGS, and more HUGS,
Danielle
I just witnessed the dangedest thing. I was outside talking with a neighbor and the birds were screeching really loud. It seemed to be coming from all directions. There were two Meadowlarks up on the peak of the roof and a Grackle a short distance away from them. Sparrows and Robins were in the trees. There was a Prairie Falcon perched up on one of the parking lot security lights. The smaller birds kept flying at him screeching, and dive-bombing him trying to scare him off. The falcon is much bigger and just watched them flying around like it didn't bother him.
That is the first time I have ever seen several different species working together to scare away a predator. The Falcon doesn't eat birds. He was probably looking for mice. The other birds don't eat mice, but they don't want him in their territory.
New medications arrived today. I have an appointment tomorrow morning so a nurse can show me how to do injections without stabbing myself in the eye. ;D
Parts arrived for the rock tumbler rebuild. The motor is wired slightly differently (2-wires instead of 3), but it is an AC circuit so easy enough to figure out. Got the motor replaced and it runs nice and quietly. Went to replace the bearings on the rollers. Hmmm, no bearings. It has plastic bushings that the rollers turn inside of. I pulled the end cap off and it is just a snap-ring keeping the roller from sliding and the end cap was packed in grease.
The User Manual says to oil the rollers periodically with a light sewing machine oil. That is just wrong. Lightweight oil would dilute the thick grease and provide no benefit at all. Like I said, you have to do it yourself sometimes. I pulled the end caps, cleaned them up, repacked them with Vaseline, and replaced them. Everything is working just fine.
Tomorrow sometime I'll refill the barrels and start another batch of rocks on their way to beautiful polished glory.
The nurse appointment went well this morning. Did my first injection under supervision and didn't even feel it!
Afterward, we were talking about disability claims. I have an appointment tomorrow afternoon with a County VSO (Veteran Service Officer) to talk about filing additional claims. My nurse said she recently filed a claim for the same reasons and it got denied. She is in the process of a higher review. She said tinnitus is becoming harder to claim under some new rules that I am not aware of. But with hearing loss and tinnitus, I should have a better chance. So tomorrow's outfit will include earrings and my VA-issued hearing aids. Hard to deny hearing loss or any other claim when it was the VA that diagnosed it. They just say that it isn't service-connected. Really? I lived on a tank for almost 15 years and it isn't service-connected? Huh? What? Can you speak up, please?
I got the rock tumblers refilled and rolling again. I decided to take a look at the old motor to see if I could figure out what went bad on it. As I manually turn the motor shaft, I can feel it catch sometimes, like there is a burr or debris in the bearings.
Wait...
Motor bearings. They come in a set of two. I'm looking at the motor and it has two bearing housings. Duh. I found where the bearings go! Some days I feel extra blonde. ;D
Wait, you didn't live on one of those QUIET tanks? I am pretty sure I read about those... 🤔
Sorry you have to deal with all that bullshoot. It takes a lot of strength to not lose your focus and just keep plowing forward in a system designed to make you give up.
Love,
Allie
The loudest part is the gunfire when shooting the main cannon. 105mm shells go big boom. But the part that affects tankers the most is the squeak from the tracks when moving. It causes high-frequency hearing loss. When I first filed for VA disability (1990), the VSO at the American Legion told me that this would not be covered. The VA's position was that it was preventable. Whoever made that decision never wore earplugs while wearing a communications helmet. It can't be done. The squeaks and booms come right through the intercom.
Since then, the VA has changed its position. I spoke with the VA Director of Public Affairs for this area and he told me to file a claim. He said it would get approved. So... fingers crossed.
Quote from: LoriDee on June 25, 2024, 04:46:07 PMThe loudest part is the gunfire when shooting the main cannon. 105mm shells go big boom. But the part that affects tankers the most is the squeak from the tracks when moving. It causes high-frequency hearing loss. When I first filed for VA disability (1990), the VSO at the American Legion told me that this would not be covered. The VA's position was that it was preventable. Whoever made that decision never wore earplugs while wearing a communications helmet. It can't be done. The squeaks and booms come right through the intercom.
Since then, the VA has changed its position. I spoke with the VA Director of Public Affairs for this area and he told me to file a claim. He said it would get approved. So... fingers crossed.
It doesn't go without saying, so I'm going to say it:
Thank you for your service. That all is unimaginably and utterly terrifying to me.
My sister works with Vets returning mostly from Iraq and Afghanistan... as they try to reintegrate and pursue a college degree. She's dealt with so many cases of PTSD, and some suicides... but met so many wonderful, brave and amazing people. To not take care of our veterans is a great shame.
I worked with bae systems for about 2 years. I was a tester/fixer of armoured vehicles the factory was producing for its military contracts. There was a time where I drove nothing but the new ACV for the Marine corps and the armys Bradley's, ampv, and the cat ammunition hauler and the mobile howitzer.
It was mandatory we had to use double hearing protection when driving or in the vehicles while driving. Which made it very difficult to ensure the comms and radios were working while driving. Although I don't ever remember having to do hearing tests while working for them.
The Army went through a phase where they became fanatics about hearing protection. We were required to wear a set of earplugs in a case on our uniform to ensure we had them. We didn't wear them in the tank, relying instead on the CVC helmet. But just mechanicking in the motor pool we would wear them.
If a hearing test showed you had hearing loss, you had to wear the double protection like you described. Insertable ear plugs with the headset "cans" over your ears. That was a PITA. We figured out how to cheat on the tests. Whenever the hearing test machine would send a tone, a light would come on. We would watch for the light in reflections on the tester's glasses, or if facing away from them, in a window or glass picture frame. Then it was just a matter of clicking the button every time we saw the light. Amazing how our unit seems to have no hearing loss and never had to wear those awful earplugs.
Of course, now, that will come back and bite me because my medical records won't show hearing loss, and I could be denied that claim. We will see what the outcome is.
Spent today helping a friend. The passenger electric window on her car wouldn't stay up. We ripped the door panel off (after consulting YouTube on how to do it). The regulator is working, and the glass is intact but the regulator won't hold the window closed. Rain is in the forecast and she lives in a "not nice" part of town.
She has a walk-in appointment at Tires Plus for tomorrow morning. I loaned her a tarp to cover the window just in case. She planned to go with me tomorrow to a new site I want to scout. But it will be just me.
It is a little over an hour's drive, so I will be AFK most of tomorrow (if it doesn't rain). I'll have to bring my selfie stick so I can share some pics of Lori Dee in the wilds. ;D
Today was a great day. I had planned to drive to Conata Basin for some rockhounding but changed my mind at the last minute. Instead, I drove to Railroad Buttes. It is a lot closer to home and I haven't been there yet. It is just south of the Badlands, so the terrain is similar.
(https://i.imgur.com/NWrQLda.jpeg)
I found a Prickly Pear (aka Beaver Tail) cactus in full bloom. The flowers were full of bees so I kept my distance. It is looking pretty gnarly but it is the first one I have seen in bloom this year, so I'm sharing it. Deal with it.
(https://i.imgur.com/HWhnLcY.jpeg)
It was very windy and more than a couple of times I thought the wind was going to blow me right off the cliff. I didn't overdo it, afraid I might twist a knee and be laid up for a week. No, thank you.
I found a nice outcrop of some rocks that I had never seen before. They are thin like pieces of glass, and even clink when you bang them together. I thought they might be Calcite but testing them indicates they are quartz and I have never seen quartz in this form. [EDIT: a local rock hound told me this stuff is chalcedony.]
(https://i.imgur.com/lDhF9fX.jpeg)
(https://i.imgur.com/fpip2T6.jpeg)
Some other cool ones that we call "signers". That means they have signs (patterns) of the rare Fairburn Agate, but are not quite gem quality enough to be called a Fairburn.
(https://i.imgur.com/boUMkac.jpeg)
(https://i.imgur.com/8cX549o.jpeg)
Then to top off the day, this:
(https://i.imgur.com/jnKiNG9.jpeg)
When you see stones like that you can certainly understand where the passion comes from. They're really cool and interesting... and there's things like that out there just WAITING for you to find them!
I think that is why I love being out in Nature so much. Discovering things that have been around for thousands, if not millions of years. I was 60 years old before I finally saw a mink in the wild. I have seen pictures or seen them in zoos. Then one day, I looked up from my gold pan and there he was running along the far side of the creek.
When things like that happen, I thank the Creator for giving me that experience. There are people around the world who have never seen one, or a real gold nugget or have ever smelled the pineapple/vanilla scent of a Jeffrey Pine. I try to be grateful.
Speaking of Mother Nature (that b*tch). ;D We had a storm blow through here and lightning hit a transformer. Our power is back on now, but people over in Custer are still in the dark. The energy company here is fantastic. They know how we freak out when we don't have internet and are forced to talk to each other.
Now I have to go around re-setting the time on all my clocks.
There are two kinds of people that I cannot tolerate: liars and thieves.
I have a neighbor who lives down the hall from me. She is the sweetest person you would ever meet. She is a widow and has trouble walking due to knee replacements. She is a Gold Star mom. Her son served in the Navy. When he got out, he decided he didn't like all that water and joined the Army. He served in Iraq and Afghanistan and was killed in action.
Last night, at 2:45 a.m. two low-life A-holes, broke into her car and stole it. She has a handicap placard and her license plates indicate a Gold Star Family. She is devastated. The property is monitored with video cameras so we know when and how many there were that did this.
For people like this, I would vote to bring back firing squads. People like this make it very difficult for me to remain "ladylike".
(https://i.imgur.com/lqYgcEG.jpeg)
Quote from: LoriDee on June 30, 2024, 10:22:51 PMToday was a great day. I had planned to drive to Conata Basin for some rockhounding but changed my mind at the last minute. Instead, I drove to Railroad Buttes. It is a lot closer to home and I haven't been there yet. It is just south of the Badlands, so the terrain is similar.
(https://i.imgur.com/NWrQLda.jpeg)
I found a Prickly Pear (aka Beaver Tail) cactus in full bloom. The flowers were full of bees so I kept my distance. It is looking pretty gnarly but it is the first one I have seen in bloom this year, so I'm sharing it. Deal with it.
(https://i.imgur.com/HWhnLcY.jpeg)
It was very windy and more than a couple of times I thought the wind was going to blow me right off the cliff. I didn't overdo it, afraid I might twist a knee and be laid up for a week. No, thank you.
I found a nice outcrop of some rocks that I had never seen before. They are thin like pieces of glass, and even clink when you bang them together. I thought they might be Calcite but testing them indicates they are quartz and I have never seen quartz in this form. [EDIT: a local rock hound told me this stuff is chalcedony.]
(https://i.imgur.com/lDhF9fX.jpeg)
(https://i.imgur.com/fpip2T6.jpeg)
Some other cool ones that we call "signers". That means they have signs (patterns) of the rare Fairburn Agate, but are not quite gem quality enough to be called a Fairburn.
(https://i.imgur.com/boUMkac.jpeg)
(https://i.imgur.com/8cX549o.jpeg)
Then to top off the day, this:
(https://i.imgur.com/jnKiNG9.jpeg)
Very nice pictures!
Chrissy
Good news!
My neighbor whose car was stolen recently has her car back! She asked me to show her how to install a Club on her steering wheel.
They left the car parked in front of a house, out of gas. The tank was full when they stole it. The property manager and I reviewed the security video. Three of them, one no bigger than a school-age child. They looked at several vehicles in the lot before choosing hers. They used a Slim Jim to get in and drove off. They also took about $10 in quarters and a sweater from the vehicle.
Who steals little old lady's sweaters?
These criminal masterminds left behind a lot of chewed gum and a ski mask. The police now have their DNA as well as the security footage.
The police said nine cars were stolen in the first two days of July.
I need to find a better place to live.
Quote from: LoriDee on July 06, 2024, 05:01:49 PMI need to find a better place to live.
OR you need to go full Robocop and electrify the outer shell of your car... ;)
Or one of those South African security car flame throwers, throws flames out from under the doors to stop car jackers!!!!!
Quote from: Sephirah on July 06, 2024, 06:05:54 PMOR you need to go full Robocop and electrify the outer shell of your car... ;)
Quote from: davina61 on July 07, 2024, 02:48:46 AMOr one of those South African security car flame throwers, throws flames out from under the doors to stop car jackers!!!!!
The neighbor said she couldn't see her parking spot from her apartment. She needs to go to the laundry room to look out. She is now parked next to my Jeep because a) I can see both vehicles from my living room window, and b) I have a rifle with a scope. ;D
I have a cargo rack on top of my Jeep. In it is a 4-tine rake, a shovel, a folded tarp, and a gas can. There is a small plate on each side that I wanted to decorate, so I put a decal on that reads:
"Zombie Outbreak Response Team"
I came out of Walmart and a woman was looking at my cargo rack. She said she had no idea there was such a thing. I assured her that there is and we are highly trained for such matters.
She looked puzzled for a minute, then asked, "Should I be worried?"
I said, "No, we got this covered."
She smiled and walked into the store.
I ordered another parts kit to rebuild the bearings on one of my rock tumblers. It is a modification that will convert the plastic bushings to metal bearings. The package arrived at the UPS Hub in Rapid City on July 4th... still waiting. The latest tracking update shows it still there but the delivery date has been moved to "not later than July 10th". ??? I think they lost it.
In the meantime, I have tumblers still rolling. They are now on day 12 of a seven-day cycle. My thought was to shut them all down at once and do the maintenance and rebuild at the same time. Running them longer won't hurt the ones in the smoothing and polishing phase. They just get smoother and shinier. But after seven days the grit breaks down and doesn't accomplish much.
On the other hand, the Stage 1 tumbler has very coarse grit that aggressively shapes and rounds the stones. The grit still breaks down after seven days, but larger rocks start getting smaller. So it looks like I will be washing rocks this afternoon and let the tumblers sit idle while I wait for parts.
You know they have lost or it got pinched when you get the message damaged , had that on something that was "impossible" to damage!
I meet with my psychologist this morning to discuss... issues. Then take the stack of forms over to the County office for the Veteran Service Officer. He will then be submitting a VA claim to have my disability rating reviewed. He told me that since my existing claim (spinal injuries) is over 20 years old, the VA cannot reduce my rating. It can only be increased, so I have nothing to lose to have it re-evaluated. Many VA regulations and policies have been changed since 1990, so the review will follow current guidelines. We will see how it goes.
Good luck with the VA, Lori
I got a call this afternoon from my Veteran Service Officer. He has all the paperwork and is submitting my claims today. Over the next three months, they will pull copies of my military and VA records, schedule exams, and then submit their findings to the Compensation Board for a determination of ratings for each claim. He assured me that if I disagreed with any of the findings, he would help me submit an appeal to have the decisions reviewed. The good news is that even if they decide to disapprove all of the claims, my current claim is untouchable since it is over 20 years old. So my rating cannot go down, only up or no change.
So now it is just wait and see.
On the other side, reporting things that happened to me while in the service opened up a box of things I had buried for 50 years. I am dealing with that and I have a great psychologist to guide me through those triggers. Even if the claims process fails, at least I will be able to deal with some old scars and become a happier person. It is still a win.
I was sorting laundry and found a lighter in my pocket. I keep my lighters in my vehicle. I figured I would take my pre-bedtime walk and put it back where it belongs.
I stepped off the elevator and a man asked me if I had a lighter. I handed it to him and he said I saved the party. He invited me inside where friends and family were gathered around a cake waiting to sing "Happy Birthday". Introductions were made all around.
We lit the candles and sang "Happy Birthday", (they sang in Spanish), and everyone applauded as she blew out the candles. The party broke up as it was getting late and everyone said thank you for the use of my lighter. I was happy to be of service and I got invited to a birthday party and I don't know any of the people there. Win!
Sometimes, it's little twists of fate that can make me smile.
@LoriDee Dear LoriDee:Thank you for sharing and posting that "feel good" story regarding your lighter and "saving" the Birthday party.
That was a great example of things that we do, even little things, can have a bigger impact on other lives, plus
it give you a wonderful feeling of helping another person in their time of need.
Yes, there is great importance and impactful results that can come out of "chance" meetings and unexpected circumstances.
Again, thank you for sharing.
HUGS, Danielle
It is already 88 degrees at 9:00 a.m.
Technically, Rapid City is not "in" the Black Hills but is the "gateway to the Black Hills" similar to the Front Range of the Rocky Mountains in northern Colorado. At an elevation of 3,356 feet above sea level, we are not exactly "flatlanders" either. The highest point in South Dakota is just a short distance to the southwest of here.
Here's a fun fact:
At 7,242 feet, Black Elk Peak — previously known as Harney Peak — isn't just the highest point in South Dakota. It's the highest elevation between the Rocky Mountains in the western United States and the Pyrenees Mountains in France.
Happy Friday, Everyone!
Hi LoriDee. I am finally getting caught up on your blog. Now I understand that you are a serious rock hound and where you live makes sense. I hope your VA appeal worked for you and I am glad that they can't reduce your benefits.
I hope the heat isn't too brutal.
@Emma1017 While growing up, I collected pretty rocks. Later I home-schooled myself in Geology. I came here to South Dakota to mine gold. (Did you check out my website?) I encountered some pretty cool rocks in that process, so I brought them home.
Lately, my spinal injuries have been preventing me from doing the heavy lifting of gold mining. Rockhounding is so much fun, so started polishing them. Now I am trying to learn how to make jewelry because it does not involve shoveling heavy wet gravel.
There is an option that I am exploring. My mining buddy and I were discussing that we are getting too old for this. Jokingly, she suggested we hire a couple of shirtless young studs to do the heavy digging for us, while we sit in the shade sipping iced tea. :icon_idea:
But neither one of us wants to reveal our site location. And how do you vet someone to be sure that they won't go back and fill their own pockets? We have a couple of ideas that we are kicking around. No decisions yet.
Lori, rock hunting sounds like a lot of fun. I definitely want to try it some time. It's not easy to do here in NYC.
My cousin is a rock hound and he lives in Kansas. He once teased me because I lived in crowded NYC and I reminded him that I have the entire Atlantic Ocean at my doorstep to explore. I have been scuba diving since I was sixteen. I get to bring back the occasional lobster and mussels. No cool rocks though.
@Emma1017 I think the problem with NYC is all the rocks are buried under concrete and asphalt. ;D
Maybe if you get some time to get out in the country you could find some cool-looking rocks.
When I wade through creeks and I find stones, I take some home to crack them. Most have a empty center full of crystals. Rather cool.
Chrissy
Those are called "geodes", and yes they are very cool. I have never found one yet. Here there are a few places where they are found, but they are not close by.
I read somewhere about lots of them being found in creeks. I'm not sure where that was. I want to say Georgia or someplace in the South. Are y'all a suthern gal, Chrissy? ;D
So today has been "interesting" so far.
Last week, the property manager was away meeting with corporate execs in Minnesota. While away, one of the "problem" families decided they could be extra annoying to the other tenants in the apartment building. I corrected them (more than once) and thought I would address the issue with the property manager when she returned. Then the male tenant, with a child in tow, decided to knock on my door and threaten me at 2:00 a.m.
This morning, the property manager, a witness, and I spent several hours reviewing security video of each of the incidents. She took down our statements, spoke with other tenants who had complained to her via text message, and began writing up her reports.
That household has had numerous complaints to property management, the police, and Child Protective Services. This led to property management declining to renew their lease. The issues continued, so the manager issued them an eviction notice. They were to be gone by the end of the month. Now, they are getting a three-day notice to evacuate.
Our manager has extensive experience managing properties in "not-so-nice neighborhoods" and does not take these things lightly. We are blessed to have her.
Quote from: LoriDee on July 14, 2024, 08:47:58 PMThose are called "geodes", and yes they are very cool. I have never found one yet. Here there are a few places where they are found, but they are not close by.
I read somewhere about lots of them being found in creeks. I'm not sure where that was. I want to say Georgia or someplace in the South. Are y'all a suthern gal, Chrissy? ;D
No, not really but I enjoy the south. I specially enjoy the west and coastal areas. Those do not have to be at oceans or seas, they can be by lakes.
Chrissy
The parts I ordered online to rebuild one of my rock tumblers got lost somewhere at the UPS hub here in town. The tracking number shows it is still at the hub as of July 4th. The seller shipped out a replacement order and that arrived yesterday evening.
I am thinking of doing a step-by-step tutorial in case other rock hounds are interested in doing the same. A video would be too long, so I may just take photos of each step and mark them with arrows to highlight that step.
QuoteThen the male tenant, with a child in tow, decided to knock on my door and threaten me at 2:00 a.m.
Yikes! Scary. I'll be glad when he's gone and I pity the people of wherever he's going.
Hi Lori, I must tell you I am intrigued with mining. I have never done any. But I became very interested in it as I became a fan of Gold Rush. I believe It is a much larger scale than your mining operation, but gold mining still fascinates me.
Gwen
@gwenf369 Hi Gwen,
Yes, my operation is WAAAYY smaller. It's just me and one other gal. She is the perfect gold mining partner. She has no interest in gold whatsoever. She likes pretty rocks and volunteered to screen the gravel for me. Our agreement is that she can keep anything she finds on the screens. Once she hands the buckets over to me, it's all mine! We joke about what if she finds a HUGE gold nugget in the screens. I say a deal is a deal and it is all hers. But we both know she would give it to me and I would take her shopping. ;D
I have written several articles about gold mining (placer mining, not hard rock mining) and they are on my website, if you want to learn some details they don't explain on TV. I have a photo album too so you can see what I have collected over the years. The link is the blue earth icon in my bio. Enjoy!
I enjoy watching Aussie gold hunters on TV, all small scale stuff mostly. Sometimes they find ounce chunks but a lot is flakes/5 gram nuggets and they do wet and dry wash ,lots of very fine stuff.
I think that Lori's favorite genre of music must be ROCK music.
Sorry for poking my nose in but... wow. As Terry Pratchett would say: "We live in interesting times." Damn girl. You are one of the world's optimists. I think I understand you more now.
We need more people like you in the world.
Quote from: ChrissyRyan on July 18, 2024, 07:21:20 PMI think that Lori's favorite genre of music must be ROCK music.
Classic Rock... well, what they called Classic rock in the 90s... so Old Rock. ;D
@Sephirah I do try to always be positive. It isn't easy, I have my struggles the same as most people. There are choices that we can make. Even when the odds are against us and things seem impossible, I CHOOSE to believe there is another way. I choose to be happy. The Great Spirit has never failed me and never will. No matter what is happening around me, I try to remember that "this too shall pass". That's just me. :)
Is a very good way to be. And it bleeds through to others.
Same as me dear, things might pee me off but it never lasts. I trust in the universe/spirit in the sky/what ever to see me right. Be nice to folk and they will be nice back, a smile goes a long way.
I finished rebuilding one of my rock tumblers. It is running smooth and quiet now. Tomorrow I'll clean out the tumbler that's been running for a week, then reload all five barrels and start another cycle.
I was taking some tools back downstairs to my Jeep. As I was getting off the elevator, two young boys crowded on so I had to squeeze by them. (No sense of etiquette taught in that household). The older one (maybe 10 years old), is the one who came with his dad at 2 am to threaten me. I didn't say anything and just stepped off the elevator (a "lift" for our gals across the pond).
As the elevator doors were closing this brat yelled out, "B*tch!"
At least he got my gender correct.
He will be gone soon. They received their eviction notice. Good riddance.
Last week I received a notice from my credit card company stating an app subscription had been renewed for $31.85. I checked the app and it shows my renewal date as August 2 for $39.99. I no longer use the app, so I canceled the subscription and contacted support to refund the charge.
I received an email from support that they do not process subscription payments, third parties handle those and I should contact Apple. I log into my Apple account and it shows the subscription is canceled and would have renewed on August 2. Last year, my credit card was charged $39.99 on August 2 for the annual subscription. So why was I charged in July this year and only $31.85?
I contacted my credit card company and it shows the charge as GOOGLE <app name>. I deleted my Google account years ago and made sure there were no subscriptions before I did. I never gave Google any payment information. Ever. So I have submitted a dispute on the charge and noted possible fraud.
The credit card rep (who speaks English well, but her accent was so heavy I could hardly understand her), said they would credit my account and it is up to the billing merchant to prove the charge was authorized.
Exactly how I planned to spend my Sunday morning. [/sarcasm]
Woke up this morning coughing and sneezing. The Air Quality Index is in the "Unhealthy" category due to wildfires in Montana and Wyoming. I used the Flonase my doctors gave me and waited a couple of hours while doing laundry. It didn't work. The wildfires are still burning and the Black Hills are still covered in smoke.
The Air Quality Index is still in the Unhealthy category. "Everyone may experience health effects." Please don't breathe our unhealthy air. We apologize for any inconvenience.
Yikes, Lori.
So here is an interesting mental journey.
I've been very concerned about the political climate here in the US of A. With the upcoming elections, the country is quite divided on issues that mean so much to us. If you watched the RNC Convention coverage, you saw the animosity being directed squarely at us.
So what do we do to protect ourselves from the "powers that be"? Do we migrate to Canada, Mexico, or California? Can we claim asylum?
That led me to an interesting website that I will link below. (Don't look yet) Here is some information gleaned from that website:
Can You Claim Asylum Based on Being a Persecuted LGBTQ+ Person?
If you have been persecuted or have a well-founded fear of future persecution because you are LGBTQ+, you could have a claim for asylum
... courts have found sexual orientation to be a recognizable social group, saying that homosexuals and transgender people constitute a social group for purposes of claiming asylum. Some early decisions on this include Matter of Toboso-Alfonso, 20 I&N Dec. 819 (B.I.A. 1990), Pitcherskaia v. INS, 118 F.3d 641 (9th Cir. 1997), and Hernandez-Montiel v. INS, 225 F.3d 1084 (9th Cir. 2000)).
If you were loud and proud about your identity, such as volunteering for a gay rights group, leading a pride parade, or writing media articles or social media posts that were widely viewed, you could be viewed as having expressed a political opinion. If the authorities in your country viewed that opinion as offensive and persecuted you (or you reasonably fear they will do so in the future), that could be grounds for an asylum claim.
... submit information to show that homosexuals and/or transgender persons are persecuted in your country. ... submit copies of any laws, reports of incidents in newspapers, or statistics compiled by organizations.
Interesting, no?
These are the rules and laws governing people seeking asylum IN THE UNITED STATES.
The problem is that you must apply for asylum within one year of entering the country. I am six decades too late.
The website that has this information is: Nolo.com Legal Encyclopedia (https://www.nolo.com/legal-encyclopedia/claiming-asylum-based-sexual-orientation.html)
I had a couple of appointments at the local VA clinic this morning. I have had trouble with my lower back for decades, but lately, it seems to be affecting my walk. I messaged my doctor and she ordered a bone study survey.
They took x-rays of my lower back, then the radiologist said he was going to do a "leg length survey". I assured him that both of my legs go all the way down to my feet with no gaps and do not protrude out the bottoms. He said he had to humor the doctors and do it anyway, and since he forgot his tape measure they would just use this expensive x-ray equipment instead.
Fair enough.
My sister has one leg shorter, Gran could not work out why the skirt she was making would not fit right till they measured her. She has a twisted spine as well but it has not affected her.
We had a partial power outage yesterday. The local power company that we nicknamed Black Hills Flicker & Flash reported that 174 households were affected. I think they lost one phase because many parts of the building were unaffected. In my apartment, the TV was on, and the lights in the kitchen, but the stove, microwave, bedroom, and A/C were out. Power was restored within the hour but my A/C just blows warm air. Put in a maintenance request first thing this morning.
The outside air is still rated as "Unhealthy" due to smoke from wildfires in Montana and Wyoming. The forecast calls for 100 degrees today. It is 80 degrees in my apartment while just out in the hall the air is quite cold. So I have my air purifier running in my doorway pulling cold air from the hall into my apartment.
So now I wait.
It seems like I am always waiting for someone else to do their job so I can get on with my life.
< sigh >
Yesterday:
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Again today:
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I found where I used to work that in the summer the traffic fumes made my breathing tight, not helped as the narrow road had tall buildings along it and on a bus route to bus station. Take the bus they say and save pollution, the diesel bus chuck out more fumes than the cars!!
@davina61 That is sort of what happens here. Rapid City sits in a valley. From May - October is
terrorist, oops I mean TOURIST season. So more traffic, high heat, and the fumes just sit until we get wind. Now, the wind coming from the northwest is bringing in all the smoke from the wildfires and that just adds to the mix.
We are learning to not breathe from May to October. ;D
I ended up fixing the air conditioning myself. It was 83 degrees inside and a fan did not seem to help. I did a "technician's reset", which is turning off the thermostat and then the circuit breakers to kill power to the unit. Waited ten minutes then powered it back on and nice cold air started blowing. Yay!
One of the other residents, also a veteran, did the same thing and got her's working. A technician showed up the next morning and got everyone else's units working too.
The car thieves who stole my neighbor's car came back to try again. They were seen last Wednesday and again last night. My next-door neighbor is a security guard at a local hotel. He was coming home from work, saw them, and chased them off. We had an emergency session of our Resident Council and have asked management to have more cameras installed covering the lot and to do a security audit to make sure all cameras work and can clearly see all parts of the lot.
Additionally, we have formed a Community Watch. Two of us veterans, the security guard, and another resident who is built like a linebacker, have volunteered to patrol the parking lot in shifts. We are no longer interested in scaring them away. Our goal is to apprehend at least one of the three and get them to rat out the other two. These are teenagers (about 15 years old) and one is considerably younger.
The local police and Sheriff's dept are busy with the Sturgis Rally which starts on the 2nd. So there are no extra patrols that could watch our lot. However, we have officially deemed ourselves a Community Watch group, and the police have been notified that we are patrolling our property, we are authorized to apprehend and make a Citizen's Arrest. Once we apprehend any of them an officer will be dispatched immediately to take them into custody.
We are done playing games with these morons. Time to show them some "Tough Love".
Last night was another "insomniac" event, so I took extra long walks through the parking lot. At 1:30 or so I was going downstairs and my neighbor who had her car stolen was using her walker to go to the laundry room. She said she wanted to look out the window and check on her car. She had been sitting in her car for a couple of hours before she went upstairs to her apt. I told her to go get some sleep and I will watch her car for her.
I was walking in the parking lot when "Linebacker" and his wife came home from the movies. We chatted for a bit to discuss if there was any suspicious activity. Then the wife drove her dad home since he had been babysitting to give them a night out. When she returned, we chatted a bit more and then she started looking past my shoulder behind me. I turned around and two teenagers were walking through the parking lot.
The female had a hoodie on and was holding it up to cover her face. A younger male was walking with her dressed completely in black and wearing a ski mask. I tried to stop them and question them (with video recording on) but they kept walking. So I followed them and then they broke into a run and I stayed right on their heels. I let them get a little ahead of me so they would think they outran me and I followed them right to their apartment building.
The video isn't great because I was walking fast/running after them. But I was able to grab a single frame that shows Mr. Ski Mask. The people who stole my neighbor's car wore all black and ski masks to conceal their faces from the security cameras.
So now I am waiting for our Property Manager to wake up so I can send her the video and photo. Then she will review all of the security cameras to see if we can ID the suspects. Interestingly, she has access to the apt building where they went. They are without a manager currently and she helps out there with inspections and such. If they have cameras at that building we will have more evidence to hand over to the detective that is investigating the car theft.
Now, I need more coffee.
Our Property Manager has been helping out over at that other apartment building while they hire a new manager. So she has Manager Access there. She now has video footage of these kids entering their building (still wearing the ski mask) and walking down the hall showing their faces. By lunchtime, she will know who they are. She is also checking video footage from Wednesday and Friday there and here to confirm it is the same people who tried to steal the car a second and third time.
Once she has all the evidence compiled, she is going to file trespass charges against them. If it turns out they are the same ones who stole the car, they will be spending adolescence behind bars. Grand Theft Auto is not just a video game. It is also a felony with a 5-years and thousands of dollars price tag.
Lori God created tequila for such moments. ;D
By the way there are some really great rocks in Manhattan in a place called Tiffany's. They won't let me prospect there sadly....
A friend of mine owns an accounting business and was teaching me how to do tax returns. His advice was, "You can do anything until they tell you that you can't."
I will be visiting Tiffany's with a rock pick and gold pan. ;D
@Lori Dee Dear Lori:Here is my unsolicited and more than likely unwanted comment reply....
...you really want to be as careful as you can when you submit your tax work.
You really do not want the IRS to write you letters regarding your tax filing and
submission errors. If that happens enough, you will eventually end up on a list of
audit possibilities and receive more and undesired scrutiny for future tax submissions.
From your CPA Forum friend... :) HUGS, Danielle [Northern Star Girl]
Quote from: Lori Dee on July 27, 2024, 02:24:36 PMA friend of mine owns an accounting business and was teaching me how to do tax returns. His advice was, "You can do anything until they tell you that you can't."
I will be visiting Tiffany's with a rock pick and gold pan. ;D
That is very true. I was merely filling out the forms. All returns were reviewed by him before being submitted. So any errors or investigations fell on him, not the staff. His business, his e-file code, so his responsibility.
Sometimes I would have questions about a particular client's deduction or income and he would show me how to do it. Then he would say, "It's not what you say but how you say it."
For example, claiming home-based business deductions on Form 8829 vs claiming the exact same deductions on Schedule C. He had a tax attorney who worked in the office and was on an editorial board that reviews new regulations. The position we (his firm) took was that a business is a business regardless of what address is used. So why should Microsoft be able to use Schedule C but Joe Citizen must use an 8829 which offers a smaller return? So his accounting firm had the policy to never use an 8829 because it is not in the client's best interest.
I have been audited three times in my life and each time the examiner agreed with my position. The key is that the people doing the audits are not tax attorneys and are less familiar with tax law than someone like you who works in the industry. The bonus is that once audited, they cannot audit you again for the next three years. So you use that time to "stick it to the man" and recoup any losses suffered from the audit.
A sign in the waiting room read:
"It's ours, not theIRS!" ;D
Your insight is never unwelcome, Danielle. I am grateful for your wisdom and guidance.
As a massively uneducated Brit, can I ask... does everyone in the US have to do their own taxes?
Quote from: Sephirah on July 27, 2024, 05:18:19 PMAs a massively uneducated Brit, can I ask... does everyone in the US have to do their own taxes?
@Sephirah Dear Sephirah:Doing our own individual taxes is an option HOWEVER for many Americans if their
taxes are more complex they can go to an online tax service like Turbo Tax or a
local tax preparation/CPA (Certified Public Accountant) such as my business.
A lot of Americans that have less complicated tax issues and can do it themselves
with the help of the IRS publications.
HUGS, Danielle [Northern Star Girl]
@SephirahNo. You can take your chances and not do them at all. Many people fear the government, but don't want to be bothered with doing "maths", so they hire accountants. But businesses like Danielle's also cater to businesses for income tax, sales tax, payroll taxes, and so forth. In that case, it pays to have a professional looking at your books to make sure you stay legal and maximize your return.
The issue is that it is a Tax
Return. You paid taxes all year. The forms are to claim what you paid in that the government says you are entitled to receive back. People don't really understand that the government runs on money paid all year long by individuals and corporations. Filing the forms is just asking for your share to be returned. If you don't ask, you don't get anything.
It's like the example I gave Danielle. The question we posed to the tax attorney was: Is there any regulation that says you MUST file any particular form? The answer is NO. You do not have to file at all (as a citizen). Businesses work differently. But then you get no money back. You can file a simple 1040-EZ and be done quickly. But by doing that, you are not claiming many deductions that you might be entitled to, such as education or work-related expenses. Since there is no rule that I must file a Form 8829, I can skip that and claim my business expenses the way other businesses do on Schedule C. And when you do the math, your return is larger by doing it that way. I didn't know that until my friend showed me. We went back three years and filed amended returns using his method and I got back almost $6,000. That is when he asked me to come to work for him during peak tax season.
When I became disabled most of my income was tax exempt. But I do have a private disability pension that is taxable. So I would pay tax each year, then at the end of the year, claim it as disability income and they would send it back. About ten years ago I decided that I would rather keep the money in my pocket instead of giving it to the government to use without interest. So I stopped paying and stopped filing a return. Over the years the income threshold has changed so now that pension does not count as taxable because it is below the threshold.
@LoriDee
Dear Lori:
The IRS can audit you more often for specific issues... in that case,
they are not limited to the 3 year rule.
The 3 year rule only applies to "random" audits and if the audit reveals
irregularities, you end up on the "scrutiny" list and can be audited again.
HUGS, Danielle
@Northern Star Girl Ah yes, thank you. I forgot about that.
Yes, as in the case of suspected fraud.
One of the times I got audited, it turned out they were not even investigating me. They were investigating the owner of the business on some investment thing that he was only tangentially involved with. My account got flagged because I marked the form as "Self Prepared" but it was submitted with his e-file code. When I explained that I worked there and did my own return, they understood and left me alone. I still screwed them the following year because I was immune to random audits. ;D
Thank you, both, for your explanations. That is very enlightening. See... in the UK, unless you're self employed, your employer takes care of all your taxes for you. In a scheme known as PAYE (Pay As You Earn). You literally don't even have to think about it. Your taxes are deducted from your wages each month before you even get them. You never even see a form or have to send anything to HMRC (our version of the IRS). For people working for someone else in the UK, the idea of doing their own taxes is utterly alien.
Quote from: Sephirah on July 27, 2024, 06:27:51 PMin the UK, unless you're self employed, your employer takes care of all your taxes for you. In a scheme known as PAYE (Pay As You Earn). You literally don't even have to think about it. Your taxes are deducted from your wages each month before you even get them. You never even see a form or have to send anything to HMRC (our version of the IRS). For people working for someone else in the UK, the idea of doing their own taxes is utterly alien.
Our taxes are deducted from our pay also. I think the difference is that we file a return to get some or all of the taxes back. Sounds like that is not the case there. Now, this only applies to Income Tax. Social Security tax is taken out of your pay and you don't get it back.
Quote from: Lori Dee on July 27, 2024, 09:19:32 PMOur taxes are deducted from our pay also. I think the difference is that we file a return to get some or all of the taxes back. Sounds like that is not the case there. Now, this only applies to Income Tax. Social Security tax is taken out of your pay and you don't get it back.
No that's not the case in the UK. No one in the employ of someone else ever has anything to do with HMRC. All our taxes are lumped into one thing. Income tax and National Insurance {which is the tax everyone in the UK pays to make sure our healthcare is free for everyone who needs it). Unless they send you a letter to say you've paid too much tax and they owe you. You never owe them. It's always the other way round, because we have here what's called "Emergency tax". It's what you pay when they can't work out how much you should
actually be paying. So you pay the maximum amount while they work it all out. Then when they have, they give you back everything you've paid in excess.
OK, I understand now. Thanks.
The Bumblebee
I spent my morning meditations today, as I usually do, with a walk in Nature. I enjoy observing things that Nature provides for us and thinking about what we can learn from them.
This morning several bumblebees were working on flowers of some weeds that have grown quite tall. They seemed impervious to my close observation. They just went about their business, apparently without a care in the world. A smaller bee would attack the bumblebee to try to get it to leave the flower, but the bumblebee just shook it off and continued.
The bumblebee is an accepted part of Nature. It provides vital functions to the ecosystem. Sure, it has predators that will kill it. But it appears common knowledge that if you provoke it, you will suffer the consequences. And yet this bee repeatedly fended off the attacks by the other bee and just got on with living his own life.
Humans are homeostatic in that we resist change. We try to just get along and go about our business. But there are always those other "bees" attacking us and trying to disrupt what we are doing. It is none of their business. So do we just shake off their attacks and keep on keeping on? Or do we unleash the full power of our wrath and make them suffer the consequences? There will always be new predators waiting in line to take their place for a chance to attack us.
The bumblebee just kept his head down and went about living his life, ignoring anything that did not stop him from being a bee. Maybe that is the answer. Just keep on bee-ing.
"Your only obligation in any lifetime is to be true to yourself. Being true to anyone else or anything else is not only impossible, but the mark of a fake messiah. The simplest questions are the most profound. Where were you born? Where is your home? Where are you going? What are you doing? Think about these once in awhile and watch your answers change." ~ Richard Bach, Illusions: The Adventures of a Reluctant Messiah
Lori that was was lovely. Thank you for sharing. I feel that natural harmony on the water. We have dolphins that I love to watch whenever they show up. More fun than the sharks lately... :D
@Oldandcreaky Quote from: Oldandcreaky on July 28, 2024, 03:07:37 PMLori, I'd like to hear the story of losing your home if you don't mind sharing.
I don't mind.
I had purchased the home while it was in foreclosure, so I got a good deal on it. It is in a very small town in IL so I qualified for the USDA Rural Development Program.
I contacted my local bank and was approved for the loan. The bank told me that they do not service these types of loans, so would likely sell my Note to another bank that does that sort of thing. I agreed.
The loan was closed and after a few months, I received a letter from the bank notifying me that the Note for the loan had been sold to Countrywide Financing. They included a certified copy of the Note showing it was signed by officers of the local bank and Countrywide. I made every payment after that to Countrywide.
If you have seen the movie, "The Big Short" you will know what happened next. The housing market collapsed and Countrywide went bankrupt.
I contacted Countrywide and asked how I continue making payments. I also contacted an attorney friend and asked about my obligations considering the mortgage company was out of business. The attorney friend said that I had two options: continue making payments as usual, but make certain to document them, such as by certified mail signature required, or I could just wait for them to reply with instructions.
I sent my payments by certified mail with a return receipt and signature required. Two months went by and I received a call from a collection agency. They claimed that they represented Bank of America about my past due mortgage payments. I have a couple of years of experience in the legal department of a national collection agency, so I told him that I was disputing the bill and demanding proof. They followed up with a letter (Demand Notice) and I replied in writing reiterating my dispute that I have no account with Bank of America, and never have. I refuse to do business with Bank of America.
Next, I received a Notice of Intent to Foreclose. I also received a letter from Bank of America stating that they did not own the Note but were the servicing agency that would be handling my account. All future payments were to be made to them. I demanded that they provide any document signed by Countrywide giving them the authority to do so. They never did.
When I received my summons to appear in court, I filed an answer to the complaint stating that I have no account with Bank of America and that Bank of America has shown no proof that they own the Note. Under IL State law only the owner of the Note can file for foreclosure. That ownership document must be provided to the Court at the beginning of any foreclosure proceedings. They did not.
I stopped sending payments to Countrywide because the certified letters went unclaimed and were returned by the post office. I submitted them to the court, unopened, as evidence that I had been making payments. I also provided a copy of the letter from Bank of America stating that they did not own the Note but were only the servicing agency.
When I appeared in court, my defense remained that I have no account with Bank of America and that Bank of America has not shown evidence that they own the Note. The three attorneys representing Bank of America claimed that my Note was purchased from Countrywide by Bank of America in a batch sale of such Notes. I asked to see a Proof of Sale. I was ignored.
This went on like this during each court hearing every 90 days. I asked my friend what I should do and he said to stay the course. At least I was living in the house for free.
I went to the Court Clerk's Office and asked to see the Note that was filed with the complaint forms. I wanted to make sure that they had not filed some document that I didn't know about. It was the same copy of the Note that I had been given that showed Countrywide as the Note owner.
At almost the last hearing another group of two attorneys joined the Plaintiff Party. They represented some remote property holdings company and they asked the judge to join the suit as co-Plaintiffs. The grounds for the request was that Bank of America had now sold my Note to them. As the new owners of the Note, they wished to proceed with foreclosure. The judge allowed it. I objected because Bank of America had yet to prove they owned the Note. They cannot sell property that they do not own. Again, I was ignored.
Bank of America had themselves removed from the proceedings and the foreclosure continued with new plaintiffs. They immediately moved for judgment and the judge ordered it and gave me 90 days to vacate. The property was then auctioned off and sold for precisely the amount shown that was still owed on my Note. I contacted the Judiciary Oversight Committee and filed a formal complaint against the judge for ignoring State Law during the proceedings. Nothing ever came of it.
About three months after the house was sold, I was at the courthouse for some reason I don't recall. I stopped in at the Registrar of Deeds office and requested to see all deeds registered for that property over the past ten years. The most recent entry was one showing Bank of America selling the property to the holding company. No one seemed to notice that there is no record of Countrywide selling it to Bank of America.
I have never purchased a home since then, and probably will not. When your only course of action against a corrupt corporation is the legal system and it too is corrupt to the core, I choose not to play by those rules.
Today's rock tumbler cleanout produced some nice surprises.
Somewhere I had posted a picture of a piece of Sunstone. Sunstone gets its name from mineral inclusions like copper. The bits of copper reflect light when held at certain angles. That shine is called a "flash". In Sunstone, the copper flash is a gold/orange color.
The flash is hard to see in this picture, but it is toward the bottom and you can see sparkles to the left side.
(https://i.imgur.com/5IyVBPh.jpeg)
In this latest batch of rocks, I polished up some Moonstone. Moonstone has a blue flash sort of like moonlight.
(https://i.imgur.com/G4rWYph.jpeg)
(https://i.imgur.com/hFxbkNo.jpeg)
Then there are some small pieces of Moss Agate, which is clear agate with green dendrite inclusions that look like moss.
(https://i.imgur.com/oXhzvOM.jpeg)
(https://i.imgur.com/YKnETZK.jpeg)
Then a piece of Citrine with some gold flash happening.
(https://i.imgur.com/TPvoGCo.jpeg)
Then one of my favorites is the gold flash of Tiger Eye, which is caused by the alignment of mineral fibers within the stone.
(https://i.imgur.com/kuHke13.jpeg)
I just love this stuff. Now to turn it into jewelry!
Gosh, that's a sad story, Lori. It seems like you did everything right and it all came out wrong.
I do love your polished stones. I can see why you love them too. Do you have any "before" pics?
I used to do "before" pics, but very often the stone just doesn't make it through the process. Sometimes the stone will break, and develop fracture lines, pits, and things that make it an unsuitable candidate for the final polish. Now I just take pictures of the graduating class, then another picture once it is made into jewelry or a paperweight.
One of the "less than desirable" stones was given to me by a friend who wanted it polished. It didn't turn out badly, just not really jewelry grade. His mother asked if I could make it into a keyring for him. He would like that, so that is the road that one will follow.
I do have a batch in the tumbler now just getting started. I took before pics of those because I have no idea how they will turn out. I have never tumbled this type before. They are a form of chalcedony that forms here locally in plates, like pieces of frosted glass. I expected them to be quite fragile, but so far they have turned out to be durable. So we will see over the next few weeks what happens to them.
Can you share one before photo of any stone? I'm curious how you descry the potential in a rock? Is it purely your expert eye and is a stone with potential something an untrained eye like mine might spot?
That Tigers Eye is stunning! What will you make of it?
As for your story... it's heartbreaking.
Do you mind if I ask a delicate question? It seems like you chose not to retain counsel for all of this, is that correct? May I ask why? Believe me, as a former attorney I know more than some about what's wrong with our legal system... but I also have some dear friends who are dedicated to their job and really good at it. And even with my background, if I were in a dispute I would retain counsel, just because sometimes you don't get in the game unless you have a player in uniform.
Not, by the way, that this would necessarily have made any difference (except making you lighter in the purse)... but I am curious as to why you didn't at the start, or any any point during that sh*t show you were forced to endure.
Love,
Allie
Quote from: Oldandcreaky on July 28, 2024, 08:09:51 PMCan you share one before photo of any stone? I'm curious how you descry the potential in a rock? Is it purely your expert eye and is a stone with potential something an untrained eye like mine might spot?
The first thing to look for is: "Do you like it?" Is there something that appeals to you, such as shape, color, clarity, patterns like banding, and so forth? If you like the shape, tumbling it will knock off any rough edges and smooth them out. So things like crystals are not good candidates as it would ruin the shapes of the crystals.
Next is the type of stone and this is tied to the stone's hardness. The Mohs Scale ranks stones from Talc (1) to Diamond (10). If you know the type of stone, you can determine its hardness. If you don't know, you can test it. If you can scratch it with a fingernail, it is soft, less than 2.5 hardness. If you can't scratch it with a fingernail but it scratches with a copper penny, it is less than 3.5, and so on. I use a steel nail or a file (6.5 hardness). If it scratches, it will need a closer look and may be too soft. If it doesn't scratch it is in the 7.0 range which puts it in with quartz, jaspers, and agates. The harder a stone is, the better it will take a nice shine.
Testing the hardness is the best way to go unless you know exactly what the stone is. Some stones can be bought on the internet or in reputable rock shops but they use "trade names" to make them more marketable. But the names are very misleading.
This stone is marketed as "Pimento Jasper" or "Fruit Jasper". I had many issues with it, so I did some research. It is not Jasper at all. It is called Sabalgarh Marble and it is from India. Marble is a soft stone, which is why it is used in sculpture (it is easy to carve).
(https://i.imgur.com/YaRbwqZ.jpg)
Because it is porous, the polishing grit darkened the color. Because it is soft, much of the stone's mass wears away very quickly. The porosity also prevents it from taking a shine. I had to spray it with clear acrylic to seal it and make it a little more durable.
This is called Fuchsite, also called Chromium Mica. It is very soft (4 -5 hardness).
(https://i.imgur.com/inZcdeR.jpg)
The mica gives a nice silver shine, but the stone is quite porous and flakes off under pressure. I had to polish this by hand so I could control the outcome. I have since learned that soft rocks are often not used in jewelry because they are not durable enough. Jewelry gets dropped and knocked around and soft stones can't take any abuse.
This is a piece of agate. Agates rank at 7.0 hardness. The only things harder are Topaz( 8 ), Rubies and Sapphires(9), which are the same stone just different minerals change the color, and Diamonds(10).
(https://i.imgur.com/GehzR6r.jpg)
Notice that the grit did not change the shape much. Agates are a 7 hardness and the grit we use is about a 9.25 hardness. I did not leave it for a full cycle so that I could preserve the shape. Then I moved it into the smoothing and polishing phases for the final finish.
I belong to a few rockhounding and rock-tumbling forums and we often get questions from members to identify rocks that they have found. People far more experienced than I can usually tell if it is a good candidate for tumbling. If I have doubts, I throw it in the tumbler for a week and see what happens to it. Sometimes disaster, sometimes treasure.
I also have rocks that I consider too precious to risk in a tumbler, so I either hand-polish them or leave them as they are. I have a candy dish that my late uncle made when he worked in a bronze foundry. That candy dish is filling up with stones that won't go in the tumbler.
One last thing is size. The tumbler reduces the mass by as much as 25%. So if you start with pebbles, you will end up with sand. But you also can't go too large either. It must fit in the barrel of the tumbler with enough room for medium and small stones to roll around with it. My barrels have a 3-lb capacity. I have 3 machines running a total of five barrels at once. So I am tumbling 15 lbs of rock 24/7. It is the stones rubbing and sliding against each other that give the grit its abrasive power. Fill it too full and the rocks can't roll and slide. Not filling it enough will cause the rocks to get thrown around (think clothes in a dryer) and the rocks will get chipped and broken. I like golf ball-size stones, as they end up just the right size. Any bigger and I "resize" them with a 3-lb sledgehammer. If that would ruin it, it doesn't get tumbled.
I know a few people who choose only rounded stones, like you find in rivers or on lake shores. Mother Nature has already shaped them and sized them so they can skip the first stage and move right to smoothing and polishing. Some people have found some amazing rocks in their driveway or landscaping stones. Another guy uses Google Earth to locate houses with rock-covered roofs. He gets permission from the owner and climbs up. He has found some great stones there too.
The nice thing about rockhounding is there is never a shortage of rocks. ;D
Quote from: imallie on July 28, 2024, 09:09:35 PMDo you mind if I ask a delicate question? It seems like you chose not to retain counsel for all of this, is that correct? May I ask why? Believe me, as a former attorney I know more than some about what's wrong with our legal system... but I also have some dear friends who are dedicated to their job and really good at it. And even with my background, if I were in a dispute I would retain counsel, just because sometimes you don't get in the game unless you have a player in uniform.
Not, by the way, that this would necessarily have made any difference (except making you lighter in the purse)... but I am curious as to why you didn't at the start, or any any point during that sh*t show you were forced to endure.
Mostly financial reasons. I did talk to my friend by phone for advice. He was out of state so not available. My experience in the legal department of a collection agency and the advice from my friend, and we believed it was a slam dunk on our end. They can't collect on a debt that isn't theirs. And the law is clear that they must show that they own the debt. Simple. Case dismissed.
As it went on, I kept checking in with my friend and he felt the same as I did that my defense was solid. He even told me to submit a Discovery to demand they show ownership documents. The judge dismissed my motion saying we were already past that phase, whatever that meant. I was just amazed that I kept being ignored. But like you said it goes better when you have a player in uniform.
My honest suspicion is the judge took a bribe. I can't prove it, but he seemed very chummy with the three attorneys from BoA. When they spoke, he listened carefully to what they said. When I spoke, he was usually doodling or busy doing something more important than listening to the defendant.
Oh well. The Land of Lincoln is now the Land of Corruption.
Fun Fact: For the fourth year in a row, Chicago is America's most corrupt city, and Illinois is the third-most corrupt state, according to a new report from the University of Illinois at Chicago. (As of Nov 3, 2023)
Bonus Facts: New figures from a WLS-TV report found Illinois has tallied 891 public corruption convictions since 2000, more than any other state. This does not include the guilty plea filed Jan. 28 by former state Sen. Martin Sandoval for bribery and tax fraud.
Last year, the University of Illinois at Chicago compiled U.S. Department of Justice data from 1976 to 2017 and found the U.S. District Court for the Northern District of Illinois had 1,730 federal corruption convictions: more than any other district court in the country.
And no other state has seen four of its past 10 former governors go to prison.
Feb 20, 2020 Report (https://www.illinoispolicy.org/illinois-home-to-more-public-corruption-convictions-than-any-other-state-since-2000/)
The best advice I ever received came from my cousin who said, "Vote with your feet and get out of there."
Quote from: imallie on July 28, 2024, 09:09:35 PMThat Tigers Eye is stunning! What will you make of it?
It will become a necklace pendant. I am not sure how I will wrap it. I like it horizontal as shown, but pendants hang better vertically. When I start a new piece, I turn the stone around at different angles and in different lighting to see what gives the best flash. Also to determine which face will be the front of the stone. If they have blemishes, I put those in the back. Sometimes the feature and the blemish are on the front, so I look to see if I can conceal the blemish with the wire while still showcasing the feature.
I am still learning and exploring my creative side. I have never really had any art talent. Always good at storytelling, but never art. My grandmother once told me that when I was in the fourth grade, I would write short stories and send them to her. I don't recall that, and she is gone now. So now I am exploring the artsy-crafty side to expand my horizons, and I enjoy it.
I just like making things, being a trained mechanic leaves me short of skills for crafting. Panel beating and body work skills I have picked up from working with folks and just doing my own stuff. I think I have got better, I like making the steam punk style lights. Stones look great, getting the settings to work is the hard bit!
Quote from: davina61 on July 29, 2024, 03:41:01 AMStones look great, getting the settings to work is the hard bit!
That is true. I like the wire wrap technique because I can wrap any stone. The hard bit is wire gauge and color selection, then figuring out what design to make while wrapping. With limited experience, my wraps look similar, but it is the stone that is unique.
Lori, I do think, as Shakespeare nearly wrote, that something is rotten in Illinois. I hate that they took your home from you. You truly loved it, as evidenced by your improving it.
Thanks for teaching me about stones. Does you tumbler draw a lot of energy?
Quote from: Oldandcreaky on July 29, 2024, 08:46:04 AMDoes you tumbler draw a lot of energy?
Not at all. At first when I added the third machine, my electric bill went up. I panicked, but it dropped the following month and is holding steady. I can pull the specs to see the total current draw. Two of the machines are 12 VDC so they run on power adapters. I have one machine that runs on AC, so it pulls more current and some of that energy is wasted in heat, but not overly so.
Quote from: Oldandcreaky on July 29, 2024, 08:46:04 AMLori, I do think, as Shakespeare nearly wrote, that something is rotten in Illinois. I hate that they took your home from you. You truly loved it, as evidenced by your improving it.
No doubt about the corruption there. When I was installing security systems, we got a job to install panic buttons in all the judges' chambers at the courthouse. I was paired up with an Electrician and he and I became good friends. He was Italian and gave me some tips on telling if someone was mob-connected or just a wannabe.
We had to go into the County Building Inspector's Office to get some blueprints. Before we walked in, he said to pay attention to everyone who works there. They were all Italians with the same last name! He told me later that they are all related. When a job opening becomes available, family gets the first call and they tend to skip the interview. ;)
My girlfriend and I had been living together for about five years. Her mother was diagnosed with ALS and her father was elderly, so we bought the house there to be close to them if they needed help. We planned to stay there indefinitely, did our own remodeling (slowly), and even got married in the Town Park. Yes, IL leaves a bad taste in my mouth. When I left, I never looked back. No regrets.
And yet, you are so loving and supportive at Susan's. I'm your fangirl.
Aw, shucks. (blushes) ;D
Dealing with security issues again (still). The car thieves returned again last night. Same MO, dressed all in black wearing ski masks. The Manager is having problems with the security cameras, so will have to call the service techs.
In the meantime, I am repositioning my Jeep so the dashcam covers the parking lot. I'll be matching their outfits wearing all black, minus the ski mask. It may take a few more days before they come back, but I'll be waiting. I don't plan to hurt them, but if I can intimidate them enough to make them need to change their underwear, it may help. If I get one in custody, I'll let the police handle it.
@Lori Dee Dear Lori: I most certainly agree with @Oldandcreaky
Add me also to your list of fangirls !!!
Keep up the excellent work that you are doing on the Forum. You are very
much appreciated.HUGS, Danielle [Northern Star Girl]
Quote from: Oldandcreaky on July 29, 2024, 04:15:35 PMAnd yet, you are so loving and supportive at Susan's. I'm your fangirl.
Quote from: Lori Dee on July 29, 2024, 04:38:27 PMAw, shucks. (blushes) ;D
Be careful Lori. You could get hurt being watchful.
Admirable to be a crime watch person but it comes with risks.
Plus in many municipalities, prosecutors are very lenient and criminals are let out so easily and often with low or no bail bonding.
Back the Blue. Get more police in your community. It is a job fewer people want as they are being disrespected by many, as are schoolteachers! Can you imagine, many parents not helping their kid's schoolteachers much at all with their kid's learning? Even if they have to work more than one job, they should be supportive of their teachers and not assume their kid is always the angel and diligent in the classrooms. They must work together to help the kids. Parents often put so little effort in helping their kids mature, to be responsible, to be accountable for their behavior, and that is reflected in the classrooms.
Do not get black, blue, bruised, or otherwise injured. Thieves often carry weapons too.
Hugs,
Chrissy
Quote from: ChrissyRyan on July 31, 2024, 04:09:21 PMBe careful Lori. You could get hurt being watchful.
Admirable to be a crime watch person but it comes with risks.
Plus in many municipalities, prosecutors are very lenient and criminals are let out so easily and often with low or no bail bonding.
Back the Blue. Get more police in your community. It is a job fewer people want as they are being disrespected by many, as are schoolteachers!
Do not get black, blue, bruised, or otherwise injured. Thieves often carry weapons too.
Hugs,
Chrissy
Thanks, Chrissy.
I will be careful. Our local police are now busy with the Sturgis Rally and Tourist season. So locals are left to fend for themselves mostly. They are busy handling crimes and can't sit idle in our parking lot. But I can. As a 15-year veteran, I spent a LOT of time on guard duty. I know what I can and cannot do.
Since they were here last night, I do not expect them to show up again tonight. The suspects are teenagers and not armed. On the other hand, I am always armed. The dashcam on my Jeep is set to Parking Mode which means it will turn on if it detects motion and will record for ten minutes. Between that and the building security cameras, there will be plenty of video evidence that I acted to protect private property. Not only is South Dakota an open carry state, meaning there are no special regulations governing me being armed, but South Dakota is also a "Stand Your Ground" state.
"South Dakota has a 'stand your ground' provision, which means you are not obligated to retreat before using force if you believe it is necessary to protect yourself or others. South Dakota law also permits using force, including deadly force, in self-defense situations outside the home."
I do not expect a situation where any of that might come into play. Each time they have been seen here, they just run away when confronted. I will be cautious, with my safety in mind, but enough is enough. Someone needs to step up and let these punks know that we will not be victims.
If any law enforcement officer wishes to argue that with me, they are welcome to patrol the property with me. The reason we formed a Neighborhood Watch Group is because we know the police and sheriffs are very busy this time of year. We back the blue by filling in where they cannot. We have elderly and disabled residents here that need protection.
I hear what you are saying, Chrissy. I respect and am grateful for your concern. Thank you.
@Lori Dee Dear Lori:A lot of this crime by brazen criminals is perpetuated by many of the "soft of crime" prosectutors
that seem to provide incentive to the criminals because they are aware that they will probably be
out on cashless bail, never charged, and never go to jail...
....according to what I read in the "news' this certainly seems to be true in some cities, states,
and jurisdictions.
I live in a very rural area about 2 miles from a very small town in Alaska, our biggest worry is
the dangerous wildlife, bears and wolves especially.
I don't go hiking, fishing, or camping without my 2 friends, Smith and Wesson.
Be careful, be safe.
HUGS, Danielle [Northern Star Girl]
Quote from: Northern Star Girl on July 31, 2024, 04:49:39 PMI live in a very rural area about 2 miles from a very small town in Alaska, our biggest worry is the
dangerous wildlife, bears and wolves especially.
I don't go hiking, fishing, or camping without my 2 friends, Smith and Wesson.
Exactly. I believe Alaska is an open-carry state too, right? We only have the occasional bear sighting. Rangers believe they wander in from Wyoming, definitely not native. We do have wolves and mountain lions. Our biggest predator is the two-legged kind.
I agree that the courts are too lenient. Early release for "good behavior"? Should have thought about that before becoming a criminal. I think they should serve every minute of their sentence. Prosecutors make deals because it counts as a win on their record. There should never be any deals made. Let a jury decide if the crime warrants the sentence, or if the circumstances warrant a lesser crime.
Elect me Queen of the World and I will straighten this crap out on Day One!
It would probably take a week just to have my minions write down all the changes I make. ;D
I enjoy watching a movie while I eat dinner. I have about 600 movies in my collection.
Tonight's entertainment:
The Purge: Election Year
I think it might be appropriate.
I got some arrows for the compound bow my wife left me when she passed. She was also short so the bow fits me really well.
While not for everyone, I think it makes an excellent home self defense weapon for anyone who is a natural at hitting targets. If I can hit a tree at 100 ft I can certainly hit the center of mass at across the basement! Closing distance in a typical New Engand basement is not like running across an empty field! Especially when you control the lights!
That Moonstone is beautiful. Utterly beautiful.
That is very much the stuff I would like jewellery made from.
Quote from: Sephirah on August 01, 2024, 03:11:26 PMThat Moonstone is beautiful. Utterly beautiful.
That is very much the stuff I would like jewellery made from.
Thanks. I have a few stones that I really like that are not native. I will be looking for a good quality source in the future, maybe even this winter. When I get these pieces put up on my Etsy site, I plan to offer a discount code for members here. I may even recover my shipping costs and then donate the proceeds of member purchases to Susan's. I'm still working out the logistics of that since the site is wide open to non-members too. I might do the code through PM or something. I'll figure it out. ;D
It never fails to amaze me just how jaw-droppingly beautiful the world around us can be. Especially geologically. How can you not feel utterly moved when you find things you've posted, Lori? How can you not be utterly enraptured by the sheer, wordless appreciation of the world we live on?
Keep your diamond rings. Our planet has a grasp of beauty that goes way beyond.
Quote from: Sephirah on August 01, 2024, 03:43:29 PMIt never fails to amaze me just how jaw-droppingly beautiful the world around us can be. Especially geologically. How can you not feel utterly moved when you find things you've posted, Lori? How can you not be utterly enraptured by the sheer, wordless appreciation of the world we live on?
Keep your diamond rings. Our planet has a grasp of beauty that goes way beyond.
Exactly. I had found an interesting rock I thought might contain gold, so I broke it in half and viewed it under my stereoscope. At 40x magnification, I found tiny red and green crystals that were smaller than a pinhead but so gorgeous. I thought about that. That rock was formed millions of years ago, then I found it and smacked it with a hammer. I am the only human ever to see those beautiful crystals inside. They were put there for me to discover. How amazing and special is that?
Quote from: Lori Dee on August 01, 2024, 04:51:00 PMExactly. I had found an interesting rock I thought might contain gold, so I broke it in half and viewed it under my stereoscope. At 40x magnification, I found tiny red and green crystals that were smaller than a pinhead but so gorgeous. I thought about that. That rock was formed millions of years ago, then I found it and smacked it with a hammer. I am the only human ever to see those beautiful crystals inside. They were put there for me to discover. How amazing and special is that?
It's extremely special. The art of the world rivals the art of any person alive or dead. It's something I feel not enough people really have an appreciation for. Nature... in all its grandeur, makes us feel often very small. For good reason. In the vast blizzard of the universe, we are but one snowflake.
It takes a certain way of seeing the world to appreciate the sheer beauty in all things. You have this, Lori. It's something I wish more people shared. Maybe then the world might be... better. <3
Wow, a lot covered in your blog Lori.
I agree that you are a loving person with a wonderful heart and a beautiful smile.
Post a sign on the car "The owner is watching you and she has a rifle aimed at you right now." That should be a good enough deterrent. Leave a roll of toilet paper for them.
Sp many stones can be so amazing and their colors can carry such depth and complexities. "40x magnification, I found tiny red and green crystals" too bad you can't photograph that.
Quote from: Emma1017 on August 01, 2024, 05:21:15 PMWow, a lot covered in your blog Lori.
I agree that you are a loving person with a wonderful heart and a beautiful smile.
Post a sign on the car "The owner is watching you and she has a rifle aimed at you right now." That should be a good enough deterrent. Leave a roll of toilet paper for them.
Sp many stones can be so amazing and their colors can carry such depth and complexities. "40x magnification, I found tiny red and green crystals" too bad you can't photograph that.
Thank you!
I actually considered a sign like that! A friend of mine had a custom conversion van. On the driver's window was a small sticker that said: "If you value your life as much as I value this van, do not ->-bleeped-<- with it!"
I do have an adapter on my scope so I can take pictures! Now, I'll have to see if I can find that rock again. I only have a couple million or so. But thanks for the idea. I'll post another photo album of just stereoscope pics.
Quote from: Emma1017 on August 01, 2024, 05:21:15 PMWow, a lot covered in your blog Lori.
I agree that you are a loving person with a wonderful heart and a beautiful smile.
Post a sign on the car "The owner is watching you and she has a rifle aimed at you right now." That should be a good enough deterrent. Leave a roll of toilet paper for them.
Sp many stones can be so amazing and their colors can carry such depth and complexities. "40x magnification, I found tiny red and green crystals" too bad you can't photograph that.
Emma,
You assume these criminals can read. If they spent more time learning, they might be able to read or read better than they do. Likely they are habitual absentee students at their schools.
Chrissy
There was little activity last night.
I spoke with the Manager and she knows the adult relative of the culprits. She let her know that she is responsible for her guests and relatives whether they live there or not, and that she could lose her housing if she continues to allow them to run free without supervision. We have far too many parents these days who are afraid to parent. They are more interested in being friends than parents.
Now we wait and see how well the message was received.
I took some photos of some rocks I have lying around through the AmScope stereoscope.
By popular* demand** I am posting them here and have started a new album for them.
*popular =
@Emma1017 is popular
** demand = She suggested nicely
A few gold nuggets magnified. These pics are posted on my website in my Gold Gallery album:
(https://i.imgur.com/BtfgVbC.jpeg)
(https://i.imgur.com/hU8vCdv.jpeg)
(https://i.imgur.com/IpHyvV7.jpeg)
(https://i.imgur.com/HLvrDpd.jpeg)
Compare to what Pyrite Crystals look like:
(https://i.imgur.com/Z8u0oJA.jpeg)
The Moonstone piece I recently polished has a nice hidden feature:
at 20x magnification
(https://i.imgur.com/6iokIbG.jpeg)
Zoomed in to 40x magnification:
(https://i.imgur.com/czvw8Sk.jpeg)
Zoomed in at 120x magnification:
(https://i.imgur.com/qyDLPyc.jpeg)
This is a piece of Fuchsite, also known as Chromium Mica. It has blue, green, and clear crystals with silvery chrome mica. The tiny red specks are rubies embedded in the stone.
(https://i.imgur.com/y90y895.jpeg)
While gold panning, I found a couple of pieces of raw platinum.
(https://i.imgur.com/ifEp7pk.jpeg)
I didn't know if it was silver or platinum. Silver has a hardness of 3 on the Mohs scale, which means you can scratch it with a copper penny. Platinum is harder at 4.5 - 5 so a penny won't scratch it, but a piece of glass or a knife blade will. It didn't scratch, it fractured instead into a bunch of tiny fragments.
(https://i.imgur.com/eqt7pGq.jpeg)
And finally a piece of Tree Agate. Tree Agate is not a true agate because it is not clear like Moss Agate. Tree Agate is usually white but has the same dendrites that give it the look of branches, ferns, or moss inside. The green dendrites are caused by a mixture of iron oxide and manganese oxide that give it a green color.
(https://i.imgur.com/lj48b8F.jpeg)
Some stones look better as they are and magnification does not reveal anything spectacular. I have several specimens of large Calcite clusters that are really cool. But magnified you only see one or two crystals, so it is rather unimpressive. I have those listed on my Etsy store with closeups of the crystal pockets. If you want to see those, they are at loridee605(dot)etsy(dot)com Since those were not photographed with the stereoscope they are not included here.
If I find more to add to the album, I'll post a link to those.
This concludes this morning's rock porn. Thank you.
@Lori Dee Dear Lori:
Fantastic photos.
The magnification reveals much hidden beauty.
Thank you for sharing and posting.
Please keep your updates coming.
Hugs,
Danielle
Lori the photos are beautiful. Thank for posting them...way cool!
Far more interesting than the boring granite from the hills (extinct volcanos ) that we have here, more interesting is the fossils found in the sand and gravel beds formed when it used to be a shallow sea.
@davina61 We have that here too. The entire Badlands was once oceanfront property. As the Black Hills rose, the area became dry, but there were lots of fossils of sea creatures left behind. Next, the dinosaurs moved in. The Badlands is famous for T-Rex skeletons. If you can find it, watch the movie
Dinosaur 13. It is about a local team of paleontologists who uncovered the largest most complete T-Rex ever found. Nicknamed "Sue" after the woman who discovered her, she now resides at the Denver Museum of Natural History after a very lengthy court battle with the government. Locals here fought the government tooth-and-nail to keep her here but eventually lost the battle.
We have to be careful about collecting fossils here. Federal Regulations prohibit it on Federal land without a special permit. Those permits are only given to credentialed paleontologists. So most rockhounds just claim it was found on private property to avoid any issues.
I still maintain the Moonstone is the most beautiful thing... ever. It's like a rainbow trapped in ice.
Quote from: Sephirah on August 02, 2024, 02:55:05 PMI still maintain the Moonstone is the most beautiful thing... ever. It's like a rainbow trapped in ice.
I found a supplier and they market it as "Rainbow Moonstone".
You called it. Right on the money.
Quote from: Lori Dee on August 02, 2024, 01:12:57 PMWe have to be careful about collecting fossils here. Federal Regulations prohibit it on Federal land without a special permit. Those permits are only given to credentialed paleontologists. So most rockhounds just claim it was found on private property to avoid any issues.
Because if dudes in suits can find a way to own petrified dinosaur bones, you can bet your bottom dollar they'll try to. I just have to shake my head at this. It's just dumb. "If you're not Sam Neill you're not getting in" is just silly.
I hope no property is stolen or damaged in your area Lori.
Catalytic converters and electric vehicle charging station wires are ripped off a lot nowadays.
Chrissy
Since my neighbor's car was stolen (she got it back), we have had 8 burglaries. People are breaking into cars and ransacking them taking anything of value: pocket change, GPS, clothing. Management put a warning in our newsletter and the Resident Council is warning people about locking up and not leaving valuables. With a couple of us walking the lot at night, hopefully, we can put an end to this.
I am not confident it will happen until arrests are made. And those are not in the immediate forecast. So we patrol and take care of our own.
WE had a spate of thinks like that, turns out drug users financing their habit.
Lori,
Can you move to a safer area? If you want to, that is.
Chrissy
Quote from: ChrissyRyan on August 03, 2024, 11:47:51 AMLori,
Can you move to a safer area? If you want to, that is.
Chrissy
I have considered it. Financially, I cannot yet. I renewed my lease on my apartment so I am stuck here until August 2025. The biggest issue is cost. I am in one of the lowest cost of living states with no state income tax, and sales tax is only 4%. Places that are more LGBTQ-friendly are very expensive.
Last year, I was trying to decide what I wanted to do. I tried to buy an RV that I would live in full-time. I could winter down near the CA/AZ border where I can rent a campsite for 7 months for $189 total. Then as the desert warms up, I could slowly work my way north and spend the summer here. That way, I could prospect year-round, and if any location becomes hostile I can just turn the key and leave. No worries about breaking leases or transferring utilities. Just go somewhere else.
Then parking becomes an issue. Here, an RV parking space (overnight) can cost more than a hotel room. In the summer during
terrorist tourist season, everything is expensive. And I don't want to have to drive an RV to appointments and grocery shopping. An option is to get a truck and pull a trailer. I can drop the trailer at a campsite, and drive the truck to run errands.
I am looking at various options. Right now, none of them are affordable. I would prefer to spend money on my transition instead. If my VA Claims evaluation swings my way, I will be able to afford both. I still won't know the decision until Oct-Nov timeframe and with time still on my lease, I have plenty of time to make plans.
(PS: if I get an RV, it WILL have a machine gun nest and sniper's perch... just in case of a zombie apocalypse). ;D
I am lucky to have a garage to store my little chick car!
It is a tight fit when I have the lawnmower on one side and the storage cabinets on the other side.
The average car thief may have trouble getting inside my car when it is parked safely in the garage!
I've been studying the advantages of my bow and arrow for defense. It is relatively silent and doesn't create a tell tale flash in the dark. Home field advantage. Did you know that Major League baseball parks aren't standardized?
Quote from: Maid Marion on August 03, 2024, 01:50:52 PMI've been studying the advantages of my bow and arrow for defense. It is relatively silent and doesn't create a tell tale flash in the dark. Home field advantage.
That's why mine are air rifles. No flash. My scope is optical, with no lasers. My "sniper rifle" is a Benjamin Prowler. I like how the silencer is incorporated right into the barrel. At .22 gauge it is more powerful than a BB gun. At long range, it is hardly lethal, but it will leave a mark and lots of pain.
I have no plans to use it against a person. I don't carry it when I am walking the lot. I wear my Daily Carry for that. The rifle's purpose is when I am upstairs, see something and cannot get downstairs in time to prevent a crime. Then it comes in handy as an AT&T Tool.
Remember the old AT&T commercials? "Reach out and touch someone." Yup. That it will do.
Just be careful and wise. Lots of places are expensive.
It would be good to be in a safe neighborhood.
Chrissy
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7U4ZYOBzEEs
Make this a thing.
@Lori Dee
Here is the car to get that will not get stolen.... HUGS, Danielle https://www.nbc.com/saturday-night-live/video/chameleon-xle/2859849
Sephirah and Danielle are both great ideas. They had me laughing.
Similar to the "Chameleon," I encountered something in Illinois. I was still in training for residential security system installation. We had a job on the West side of Rockford, in a very "not nice" neighborhood. We arrived at the house. Junk car in the front yard where grass didn't dare try to grow. The front windows were covered in plywood and the house needed paint.
When we went inside, it was night and day, just like that car. Some of the nicest furniture I have ever seen. The place was decorated like something you would see in magazines. Nice paintings on the wall, everything was very tastefully done. Even the carpet looked brand new.
After the installation was done and we were heading home, I commented that they should do some work on the outside of the building so the neighborhood would look nicer. But all the other houses looked similar. My Lead Technician said they do it to keep property taxes low. Since the entire neighborhood looks the same, home values in that area are as low as they can go... thus they pay the lowest taxes in the city.
I don't have anything fancy because I live within my means. Much of my furniture was given to me but is in good condition. I'll be buying a new (used) vehicle this Fall and probably a new recliner. I replace things as needed and when I can afford them.
(https://i.imgur.com/jQxNPqB.jpeg)
It is wise to stay within a planned spending habit.
Many people go off of it. It is sad when medical issues cause that.
It is not sad but rather foolish when people live beyond their means for only self pleasing reasons.
Buy when you save up. There will be future sales too, there is very little need to not wait because of a retail deal.
Cars are problematic. Older ones are cheaper in the long run and easier to repair, to an extent, if in good condition and no rust. But used car prices are not low. Deals abound in new cars are they are harder to sell now than good used cars. Or so they say.
Chrissy
I have been able to get good deals toward the end of the year. This Fall, dealerships will be trying to clear out the 2024 models to make room for shiny new 2025s. That means good deals on 2023s and 2022s that are still new. Back in 2000, I traded a Ford conversion van I had customized for two (his & hers) 1998 Dodge Daytonas. This year, I want to upgrade my Jeep Patriot for a Grand Cherokee. That will give me a more powerful engine and more room in the back. The Patriot (4-cylinder) doesn't have the power to climb hills and I need something to get me where I need to go so I don't have to hike as far. It will be more spendy on gas, but it will save wear and tear on my knees. Getting old sucks.
Acceptance in any form is always a blessing.
My next-door neighbor went through a bitter divorce recently. His son would often wave to me from his apartment window or we would say hello in the hallway. Since the divorce, he has lived with his mother and only occasionally visits his dad. His uncle often brings the boy and his cousin for a visit on the weekends.
I was out this morning for a walk and as I was entering, this young man held the door for me. He opened his arms offering me a hug and said, "It's been a long time!" We hugged and he introduced me to his young female cousin and chatted about what he has been up to recently.
This kid has no agenda and does not see me as male or female, just the friendly neighbor next door. I hope he never outgrows it. He is a great kid who is always a pleasure to have around.
Quote from: Lori Dee on August 04, 2024, 10:28:58 AMI have been able to get good deals toward the end of the year. This Fall, dealerships will be trying to clear out the 2024 models to make room for shiny new 2025s. That means good deals on 2023s and 2022s that are still new. Back in 2000, I traded a Ford conversion van I had customized for two (his & hers) 1998 Dodge Daytonas. This year, I want to upgrade my Jeep Patriot for a Grand Cherokee. That will give me a more powerful engine and more room in the back. The Patriot (4-cylinder) doesn't have the power to climb hills and I need something to get me where I need to go so I don't have to hike as far. It will be more spendy on gas, but it will save wear and tear on my knees. Getting old sucks.
Three other tips when car buying that will help you tremendously with getting the best deal:
1. Always go in to buy the last couple of days of a month. Dealerships have quotas. They're always looking to hit them so they're much more amenable in the days before their numbers are locked.
2. Be flexible and prepared to take a car off the lot. Buying from a dealer's inventory is also an incentive for them to sell at a the lowest possible price.
3. Research and find ACTUAL dealer cost. Negotiate from THAT number. Once a dealer knows you're well informed, and ready to take on premise inventory at the end of a month? They're happy to make a few hundred off of you... and make more money off the next person who walks through the door.
I learned # 3 from wife # 2. Before she passed away, she worked as a bookkeeper at a car dealership for a few years. That is the same advice she gave. She was with me when we negotiated the trade of my van for his & her Daytonas. She got the purple one with a T-top and automatic, I got the one with a stick shift because she couldn't drive a stick. She was instrumental in negotiating that trade.
Good advice, thank you!
I was thinking about my encounter with my neighbor's kid. He is about ten, so like 1/5th my age. That reminded me of an interesting math problem.
Here goes (don't make it creepy):
A 40-year-old man meets a 10-year-old girl. He is 4 times older than she is. (4x10=40).
Five years later, she is 15 and he is 45. He is only 3 times older than she. (3x15=45).
Fifteen years later, she is 30 and he is 60. He is only twice as old as she. (2x30=60).
How long until they are the same age?
Quote from: Lori Dee on August 04, 2024, 03:43:08 PMI was thinking about my encounter with my neighbor's kid. He is about ten, so like 1/5th my age. That reminded me of an interesting math problem.
Here goes (don't make it creepy):
A 40-year-old man meets a 10-year-old girl. He is 4 times older than she is. (4x10=40).
Five years later, she is 15 and he is 45. He is only 3 times older than she. (3x15=45).
Fifteen years later, she is 30 and he is 60. He is only twice as old as she. (2x30=60).
How long until they are the same age?
They will never be the same age, of course.
"I woke last night to the sound of thunder
How far off I sat and wondered
Started humming a song from nineteen sixty-two... "
Neighbor yelled at me to shut up.
So I went back to bed.
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The past week has been hot with temperatures hovering near 100. Yesterday the humidity joined in as a prelude to last night's storm.
I was chatting with a new tenant who just moved into our apartment building. She said she was from Alabama. She commented that she did not move this far north just to have more Alabama weather.
I said, "Welcome to the Upper Midwest where we have everyone's weather except our own."
The marquis across the street says it is 61 and sunny. It is pouring rain. < sigh >
@Lori Dee Dear Lori:
Seriously your neighbor yelled at you to shut up? ???
Were you singing especially loud or did you and your neighbor have your windows open???
HUGS, Danielle [Northern Star Girl]
Quote from: Lori Dee on August 06, 2024, 10:04:34 AM"I woke last night to the sound of thunder
How far off I sat and wondered
Started humming a song from nineteen sixty-two... "
Neighbor yelled at me to shut up.
So I went back to bed.
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The past week has been hot with temperatures hovering near 100. Yesterday the humidity joined in as a prelude to last night's storm.
I was chatting with a new tenant who just moved into our apartment building. She said she was from Alabama. She commented that she did not move this far north just to have more Alabama weather.
I said, "Welcome to the Upper Midwest where we have everyone's weather except our own."
The marquis across the street says it is 61 and sunny. It is pouring rain. < sigh >
Quote from: Northern Star Girl on August 06, 2024, 04:43:32 PMSeriously your neighbor yelled at you to shut up? ???
Were you singing especially loud or did you and your neighbor have your windows open???
Especially thin walls.
The trials and tribulations of an apartment dweller. ;D
Lori said, "Started humming a song from nineteen sixty-two... "
Neighbor yelled at me to shut up.
So I went back to bed."
Really? It much soundproofing between walls? And/or What loudness level did you set the speakers for your karaoke?
Chrissy
When the flat below's washing machine goes on spin and I am sat on my sofa it turns into a massage chair!!
Quote from: davina61 on August 07, 2024, 03:36:47 AMWhen the flat below's washing machine goes on spin and I am sat on my sofa it turns into a massage chair!!
Amazing.
Earlier, I was chatting with a friend here about makeup. Over the years, I have tried various wig styles and colors. Some worked and some... not so much. In reviewing some photos I have taken I noticed how a subtle nuance can make a big difference. Generally, I do my makeup the same way and even stick to the same palette. With a warm-colored skin tone, you want warm colors, or like me with cool-colored skin, a cool palette of blues and greens. But for hair, it can be the opposite (as you will see). With a cool skin tone, warm blondes and reds seem to work well, but cool gray/silver not so much.
Another difference is lighting. The way you look in your makeup mirror is not the same as how you look in the bathroom mirror, or sitting in your car or office. Small things like false lashes, sunglasses, jewelry, and such can change the way you look and even make you look younger or older.
So here are some pictures of me since coming out in 2019.
(https://i.imgur.com/4gN0kfx.jpeg)
FaceApp was used to give me more prominent cheekbones, but sadly it washed out the color of my hair. It gave me an idea of what look I wanted and how to achieve that with makeup.
(https://i.imgur.com/n37iRJM.jpeg)
October 2021 - Same hair - my favorite wig. I struggled with droopy eyelids and eventually had surgery to fix them.
(https://i.imgur.com/chXpJkB.jpeg)(https://i.imgur.com/fIZoPhs.jpeg)
Both of these were taken on May 19, 2022. Notice the difference? On the right, false lashes and sunglasses hide the top of my head making my head look smaller. The lighting is different too: bathroom light vs sitting in my Jeep.
(https://i.imgur.com/PaOheRN.jpeg)
November 2022 - same hair, lashes, and makeup. No sunglasses. The look is similar because the lighting is similar.
(https://i.imgur.com/OLUIUG7.jpeg)
January 2023 - going to a New Year's Day party. The makeup is a bit heavy up close, but from a distance, it looks good.
(https://i.imgur.com/8ccdJA1.jpeg)
January 17, 2023 - Makeup toned down. Just enough coverage on the face and a little eyeliner.
(https://i.imgur.com/1SOl0Vv.jpeg)
August 11, 2023 - Camping in the Black Hills, so no wigs. Makeup is a bare minimum, mostly sunscreen. The forest lighting was very kind and helped hide my "old lady wrinkles".
(https://i.imgur.com/zrHd2iT.jpeg)
The next day, August 12, 2023 - Rockhounding out at Teepee Canyon. Again minimal makeup, and sunscreen as a coverup. I think the commonality between this one and the previous one is both were taken outdoors in the morning when the sun was not so harsh.
(https://i.imgur.com/cH8Piud.jpeg)
August 25, 2023 - the start of a Steampunk Halloween costume that never transpired. The buckles are silver and the buckles on my boots are gold. I was also done with this wig. It was human hair, so required styling after every wash. My hair grew long enough to be a pain to wear under this wig and remain comfortable. So I donated the wig to a friend of a friend.
(https://i.imgur.com/qe0AvmF.jpeg)
October 12, 2023 - Makeup again a bit on the heavy side, but not bad from a distance.
(https://i.imgur.com/jP2BKQH.jpeg)
Taken the same day, but indoors. Different wig - A new topper (that doesn't match my hair color).
(https://i.imgur.com/dszErQF.jpeg)
December 4, 2023 - my favorite wig again. This pic shows the color much better. Sadly, it is wearing out and I have not been able to find this one again. My stylist attempted to recreate the look by coloring my hair like this and a matching topper. That did not go well.
(https://i.imgur.com/l71z1U4.jpeg)
December 26, 2023 - I toned the topper to correct for the brassiness (see the pic up a couple) But I overcooked it and it turned gray. I decided to embrace the gray and colored my hair to match (Nice N Easy 8S Silver Gray). Better, but I am so over the gray bit.
(https://i.imgur.com/F9WAL25.jpeg)
Same day - Back to one of my older wigs. Add a touch of eye shadow and it's a whole new look.
I don't have any pics from 2024 yet. I'll wait until I see what the new Raquel Welch wig catalogs have to offer, and then I'll add to this album (https://imgur.com/a/3xR9eT2).
Lori,
You are pretty.
Chrissy
Thanks, Chrissy!
I continually find so interesting that the same woman can have such a variety of looks by changing a few things here and there.
You look great in every pose.
Chrissy
Quote from: ChrissyRyan on August 07, 2024, 06:35:26 PMI continually find I so interesting that the same woman can have such a variety of looks by changing a few things here and there.
Thanks, Chrissy. That's the point I was trying to make.
Very often when feeling dysphoric we try different things and somehow we just don't see ourselves. Then that one thing, that one subtle difference pulls it all together and then we see it. It's fun to experiment with different looks. You never know what you might discover.
Quote from: Lori Dee on August 07, 2024, 07:48:30 PMThanks, Chrissy. That's the point I was trying to make.
Very often when feeling dysphoric we try different things and somehow we just don't see ourselves. Then that one thing, that one subtle difference pulls it all together and then we see it. It's fun to experiment with different looks. You never know what you might discover.
Lori,
Do you have a favorite look from all the photos you posted above?
Chrissy
Quote from: ChrissyRyan on August 07, 2024, 08:33:49 PMLori,
Do you have a favorite look from all the photos you posted above?
Chrissy
My profile pic is my favorite, but I want to get back to the strawberry blonde long curly wig if I can find a replacement.
This one:
(https://i.imgur.com/dszErQF.jpeg)
Lori,
At least you were singing a great oldie by Bob Seger "...aint it funny how the Night Moves?" It isn't your fault your neighbor can't appreciate good music.
Gwen
Quote from: gwenf369 on August 07, 2024, 10:14:36 PMLori,
At least you were singing a great oldie by Bob Seger "...aint it funny how the Night Moves?" It isn't your fault your neighbor can't appreciate good music.
Gwen
Strange how the night moves
With autumn closing in
;)
Lori Dee - It's great to see these pictures and a range of looks.
You are beautiful!
Mandy
Lori, you look amazing, incredibly confident and comfortable in your photos. It's inspiring!
@Mandy Spencer @Lillis
Thank you, Ladies. :-*
Every time I come here, all you folks have like 2-4 more pages in your blogs. :o
Lori, omg you are legit beautiful, girl. And it's not just in how you look. There's something behind your eyes. Something, at peace... something... deep. Your eyes are amazing. Like properly amazing. If they're the windows to the soul... you have a stunning soul. Damn. You have incredible eyes.
:icon_geekdance: :icon_walk: :icon_tetter: :icon_sitonitnrotate-nerd: :icon_joy:
Lori is rocking good looks!
Chrissy
The Story of Ray's Rock.
A friend of mine was rockhounding up near Lead, SD (pronounced leed) where he lives. He found this rock and wondered how it would look after running through the rock tumblers. I told him that it wasn't a good candidate, but I would throw it into the next batch and see what happens.
That was about six weeks ago. The rock has been through all of the stages of polishing, (left side pic), so I made him a keychain out of it. I am not driving 60 miles to deliver it. I'll give it to his mom and she can give it to him next time she sees him.
(https://i.imgur.com/liocI3Y.jpeg)
Quote from: Lori Dee on August 09, 2024, 01:47:44 PMThe Story of Ray's Rock.
A friend of mine was rockhounding up near Lead, SD (pronounced leed) where he lives. He found this rock and wondered how it would look after running through the rock tumblers. I told him that it wasn't a good candidate, but I would throw it into the next batch and see what happens.
That was about six weeks ago. The rock has been through all of the stages of polishing, (left side pic), so I made him a keychain out of it. I am not driving 60 miles to deliver it. I'll give it to his mom and she can give it to him next time she sees him.
(https://i.imgur.com/liocI3Y.jpeg)
That was a really awesome thing to do, Lori. It's beautiful. What is that white band?
Quote from: Sephirah on August 09, 2024, 03:08:39 PMThat was a really awesome thing to do, Lori. It's beautiful. What is that white band?
Thanks!
The rock is granite. The band is quartz. Granite usually doesn't tumble well because of having different minerals and different hardnesses. The softer ones erode faster leaving an uneven finish. I was surprised this turned out as well as it did.
Some people call this a wishstone: A rock with a band that completely circles it. You trace the band around the stone with your finger while making a wish. Then give the stone to someone else and your wish comes true. Too often people like the stone so much they don't give it away.
Sometimes there may a rock balanced on a tall thin rock. That is interesting to see.
Bryce Canyon National Park has some interesting rock formations.
So does Arches National Park.
Volcanic rock is interesting too.
Lots of rocks and stones are interesting, for that matter.
Chrissy
May go to Crater of Diamonds State Park to see if I can find a diamond.
Chrissy
Quote from: Lori Dee on August 09, 2024, 04:05:25 PMThanks!
The rock is granite. The band is quartz. Granite usually doesn't tumble well because of having different minerals and different hardnesses. The softer ones erode faster leaving an uneven finish. I was surprised this turned out as well as it did.
Some people call this a wishstone: A rock with a band that completely circles it. You trace the band around the stone with your finger while making a wish. Then give the stone to someone else and your wish comes true. Too often people like the stone so much they don't give it away.
That is legitimately awesome.
I love that you're into this, like hard. Because I feel like everyone finds beauty in different things. And different rocks can mean different things to different people. It is literally the definition of "Beauty is in the eye of the beholder."
What one person finds unappealing, someone else may find it to be the most achingly beautiful thing they've ever seen. And that is just awesome to me. What is ordinary to one person, is extraordinary to someone else. It's a metaphor for life.
I watched a youtube video recently of the only Russian satellite to land on Venus. All you saw was a rocky, barren landscape under a pale yellow sky, before it got burned up and crushed under the awful conditions there... but all I could think was.. these rocks tell a story. And that's kind of how it is here. Geology is memory. And I love that.
Quote from: Sephirah on August 09, 2024, 04:15:18 PMWhat one person finds unappealing, someone else may find it to be the most achingly beautiful thing they've ever seen. And that is just awesome to me. What is ordinary to one person, is extraordinary to someone else. It's a metaphor for life.
I collected rocks as a kid growing up in the California desert. My brother would just look at me and shake his head, "They are just rocks!"
A unit of weight is called a stone.
If you drink too much alcohol, you might become stoned.
In old times, they stoned people to death.
Then there is someone who was knocked out stone cold.
There is stone soup.
Lots of uses of the word stone.
Pebbles, stones, rocks, boulders. I wonder where the size changes are made to a more appropriate word (stone to rock, etc.)
Fascinating is the Painted Rocks National Seashore in Michigan. It is at the upper of Michigan's two peninsulas.
Chrissy
Quote from: ChrissyRyan on August 09, 2024, 04:52:58 PMPebbles, stones, rocks, boulders. I wonder where the size changes are made to a more appropriate word (stone to rock, etc.)
Great question!
Look here. Scroll down just a bit and there is a size chart.
https://www2.tulane.edu/~sanelson/eens1110/sedrx.htm (https://www2.tulane.edu/~sanelson/eens1110/sedrx.htm)
Quote from: Lori Dee on August 09, 2024, 04:36:54 PMI collected rocks as a kid growing up in the California desert. My brother would just look at me and shake his head, "They are just rocks!"
They are the memory of the whole planet. The single most important indicator of everything that has ever been in this world.
Not to mention, some of the most beautiful things around. To have that passion is... it's special, Lori. It's having a love of the deepest parts of this world. You show things that are... I mean... I find them amazing. Works of art set down by chance. Waiting for people to find them. More beautiful than all the paintings in all the galleries in the world.
I can see why you do this. And I thank you for bringing it to others. <3
Can I ask, Lori, what is the one thing that makes you go "wow"? I don't think it's gold. What is one thing which has took your breath away?
Quote from: Sephirah on August 09, 2024, 08:02:45 PMCan I ask, Lori, what is the one thing that makes you go "wow"? I don't think it's gold. What is one thing which has took your breath away?
Could it be the world's largest gold pan, located in Canada?
Nah.
Quote from: ChrissyRyan on August 09, 2024, 08:05:53 PMCould it be the world's largest gold pan, located in Canada?
Nah.
Lol, I don't think that's who Lori is. She has a massive appreciation for beauty most other people would never see.
Quote from: Sephirah on August 09, 2024, 08:10:18 PMLol, I don't think that's who Lori is. She has a massive appreciation for beauty most other people would never see.
True.
Obviously I have nothing better to do tonight than make inane or silly posts.
Should eat something.
Should do my laundry. I have a week of clothes to wash and dry and fold or hang.
Plus I do want to wear a clean bra at work on Monday. I think I have only two clean ones left. Ugh.
At least I did the dishes and silverware.
Chrissy
Quote from: ChrissyRyan on August 09, 2024, 08:09:55 PMObviously I have nothing better to do tonight than make inane or silly posts.
Should eat something.
Should do my laundry. I have a week of clothes to wash and dry and fold or hang.
Plus I do want to wear a clean bra at work on Monday. I think I have only two clean ones left. Ugh.
At least I did the dishes and silverware.
Chrissy
Omg,. Chrissy, go eat something. What even! I only eat one meal a day... if you don't even do that there is something wrong. Go eat something!!!
Quote from: Sephirah on August 09, 2024, 08:13:13 PMOmg,. Chrissy, go eat something. What even! I only eat one meal a day... if you don't even do that there is something wrong. Go eat something!!!
Oh I ate earlier today.
Quote from: ChrissyRyan on August 09, 2024, 08:14:12 PMOh I ate earlier today.
Good. Did it involve some kind of bacon?
Quote from: Sephirah on August 09, 2024, 08:19:17 PMGood. Did it involve some kind f bacon?
No, just Kielbasa. No bacon.
Kielbasa is actually quite good. At least, I think so.
Quote from: Sephirah on August 09, 2024, 08:02:45 PMCan I ask, Lori, what is the one thing that makes you go "wow"? I don't think it's gold. What is one thing which has took your breath away?
One thing? Wow. ;D
I probably say "wow" fifteen times a day. The other day, I saw an orange-belted bumblebee for the first time in my life. A while ago, Jessica Rose posted a picture of a sunset over a bayou. A few years ago, I was gold panning and saw a mink running along the bank of the river. First time I had ever seen one in the wild. It is usually a wonder of Nature, not so much with man-made creations.
I think what strikes me most is when my eyes are opened and my consciousness expands. I had been searching for spiritual answers most of my life. One day, I read some things that just "clicked" and I could see the whole picture. My mind opened and for the first time, I could see the workings of the Universe and our place in it. Everything made sense. It became clear to me that my destiny was to share that vision with anyone willing to see it. Since that time, I have been writing about it. I am not a writer, so sometimes it is difficult to express a concept and what I write can be confusing. I am working on that and trying to put it all together in a book. Maybe someday it will get published, but for now, I just keep re-writing it over and over, improving the text a little each time.
Lori,
I want to encourage you because I think you are a pretty good writer. I am constantly amazed by your breadth of knowledge, and your passion to help others with your knowledge. I think you will find more than on person on this web site that will agree with me.
I am not able to log into the site every day, but when I do, I find that The Story of Lori is one of the most read topics on the site. Keep writing. It is good for all of us.
Gwen
Quote from: gwenf369 on August 09, 2024, 09:32:06 PMLori,
I want to encourage you because I think you are a pretty good writer. I am constantly amazed by your breadth of knowledge, and your passion to help others with your knowledge. I think you will find more than on person on this web site that will agree with me.
I am not able to log into the site every day, but when I do, I find that The Story of Lori is one of the most read topics on the site. Keep writing. It is good for all of us.
Gwen
Yeah, Gwen you are very astute. Lori is someone who... this girl just gets it. She is both humble and nurturung. Someone who doesn't ever tell anyone how they're supposed to feel. Only how she feels and how what other people are dealing with stuff might attribute to Lori's specific... It is something you can be yourself. <3
Quote from: ChrissyRyan on August 09, 2024, 04:12:13 PMMay go to Crater of Diamonds State Park to see if I can find a diamond.
Chrissy
There is a place in northern Colorado, not far from my parents' place, with a Kimberlite outcrop. It was on private land when I was in high school there. Over the years it has been abandoned and purchased many times. I have always wanted to go there and poke around. But I am no claim-jumper. I am allergic to bullets!
Quote from: ChrissyRyan on August 09, 2024, 04:10:21 PMVolcanic rock is interesting too.
Devil's Tower in Wyoming was a huge volcano. You might remember "Mashed Potato Mountain" from the movie
Close Encounters of the Third Kind.
When magma cools quickly it forms glassy rock, like obsidian. But when it cools slowly, it forms rock that is very hard and dense, like granite. The Devil's Tower volcano cooled and left a huge granite tower in the volcano's center. Over time, the softer outer soil of the mountain eroded until all that was left was the tower. That is a very interesting volcanic rock!
Quote from: gwenf369 on August 09, 2024, 09:32:06 PMLori,
I want to encourage you because I think you are a pretty good writer. I am constantly amazed by your breadth of knowledge, and your passion to help others with your knowledge. I think you will find more than on person on this web site that will agree with me.
I am not able to log into the site every day, but when I do, I find that The Story of Lori is one of the most read topics on the site. Keep writing. It is good for all of us.
Gwen
Thanks, Gwen and
@Sephirah I will keep posting, if for no other reason than I need the practice. ;D
A Profoundly Wow Moment
Many years ago in Illinois, my mother-in-law passed away from ALS. Her family has very deep roots in that area going back to before Abe Lincoln's time. Her ancestors were all buried at a small local church, but the cemetery had no room left. The family agreed to scatter her ashes in the creek that flows past the cemetery. We all gathered on a bridge, a toast was given and we said our goodbyes.
Several months later, my father-in-law passed. He too was from a local farming family (he told me a story of his grandfather meeting Abe Lincoln when Lincoln was in the local militia). When he passed, he wanted his ashes scattered in the creek where his wife's ashes were scattered. It was brutally cold out, windy, and snowy. About a dozen of us gathered on the bridge, gave a toast, said goodbye, and dumped the ashes.
As the ashes hit the water, two birds flew out from under the bridge, did a kind of dance in the air like they were happy to see each other, then flew off together. Everyone on that bridge just stood there with their mouths open. No one said a word. There was no need to. We all knew what we had just witnessed and no one wanted to tarnish the moment with commentary.
I got my grocery shopping done and cleaned out the rock tumblers. The rocks all got a good rinse and then put back in their barrels. I add a couple of tablespoons of borax, add water, and let them run overnight. The borax cleans off the last bit of abrasive grit and polish.
Tomorrow, they will get another rinse to remove the borax and then undergo inspection. Those that are ready to move to the next stage will be moved to the next barrel. Those that need more work will stay in the same barrel for another week or so. Those that are done with the final polish will go into my ultrasonic jewelry cleaner for a final wash.
Then I take pictures of any that really stand out. I will look for any that might be interesting to see under the stereoscope so I can share those pictures. I have also ordered a UV flashlight that has both long-wave and short-wave UV light.
Some minerals fluoresce under black light (UV). Some react to long-wave, some react to short-wave, some react to both, and some are just stupid rocks that don't want to play. I have some pieces of chalcedony that look gray in sunlight but have a slight purple tint under a fluorescent light due to the blue light frequencies of fluorescent lighting. We will see how those look under UV light. There could be some other surprises that I haven't noticed yet. I am pretty stoked about it.
Quote from: Lori Dee on August 09, 2024, 10:07:18 PMDevil's Tower in Wyoming was a huge volcano. You might remember "Mashed Potato Mountain" from the movie Close Encounters of the Third Kind.
Honey, you just dated yourself. I still enjoy that movie! Fantastic special effects without CGI!
It was on the telly the other day and I watched the last 2/3 as nothing else to watch that interested me.
Quote from: D'Amalie on August 15, 2024, 07:53:03 AMHoney, you just dated yourself. I still enjoy that movie! Fantastic special effects without CGI!
On a cross country run (Think Cannonball Run) spring 1980, I went out of my way to visit the tower. Impressive! Cost me three hours. Well worth it.
OK, I got all five barrels of the rock tumblers cleaned out. That's 15 lbs of rocks for those playing the home version of this game. I got everything rinsed off, got the barrels reloaded, and spinning again for another 7- to 10-day cycle.
I had been polishing a couple of amethyst crystals. They got pretty beat up in the rough stage tumbler.
(https://i.imgur.com/26QyjpM.jpeg)(https://i.imgur.com/U3YKJ8k.jpeg)
They have some nice color and would look great as jewelry. So I used my Dremel tool with a diamond cutting wheel and smoothed some of the rough stuff. Then dropped them back in the abrasive grit to tumbler for the past 10 days. They still have some rough spots, so they will get another 10 days of smoothing before they are ready for polish.
(https://i.imgur.com/aF8ubgl.jpeg)(https://i.imgur.com/A0RuNfE.jpeg)
Today's final polish batch is done. I snapped some pics before dumping them into the ultrasonic cleaner.
(https://i.imgur.com/eXFgCdq.jpeg)
Some of the highlights:
This is a large Bubblegum Agate. It is too large for jewelry or a key chain. I didn't want to tumble too much so I don't wear away the exterior colors. So this will go in my candy dish as another paperweight.
(https://i.imgur.com/pqTPsSl.jpeg)
Another Tiger Eye. The flash is caused by mineral fibers of amphibole that reflect light perpendicular to them. The amphibole fibers are chemically altered by limonite, which is a very common form of iron ore. There is a blue version of Tiger Eye called Hawk's Eye and the blue is from fibers of Crocidolite, which is a blue asbestos.
(https://i.imgur.com/aSbGA0e.jpeg)
A piece of Bubblegum Agate. These can be so interesting inside, while some pieces just stay ugly inside and out.
(https://i.imgur.com/6m76OQq.jpeg)
This is a piece of Jasper I found out at Teepee Canyon. The hole is a pocket of quartz crystals that was hidden beneath the surface. As the abrasive wore away the surface it exposed the pocket. I'll have to do some work on it before I use it for jewelry.
(https://i.imgur.com/Z77Q6WH.jpeg)
This is a piece of Bubblegum Agate that I have nicknamed "Calico". It reminds me of a Calico cat I had. I called her my confused kitty and often told her to make up her mind and pick a color. She preferred to wear "all of the above". She was such a sweet cat.
(https://i.imgur.com/vWsTamS.jpeg)
Another piece of agate from Teepee Canyon. The agates and jaspers from that area are known for their reds, oranges, and yellows. The more spectacular pieces sell for a good price. So everyone and their brother hunts in that area. Fortunately, I have a secret spot where most people don't go.
(https://i.imgur.com/n4B9UJE.jpeg)
This is a piece that broke off a larger rock that I call the "Hot Fudge Sundae".
(https://i.imgur.com/mmAAFHq.jpeg)
This is a piece of quartz that has impurities lined up in bands. I would love to make a fishing lure out of it, but I'm afraid I would break it by drilling holes. So it will go to the jewelry pile.
(https://i.imgur.com/CtlAedp.jpeg)
Another piece of Teepee Canyon Jasper. I was surprised at how intricate the patterns are.
(https://i.imgur.com/RWCuChT.jpeg)
And the biggest surprise was this one. In the Group Photo above, you see two green stones. The lighter green one is Aventurine, a form of green quartz. I suspected the dark green one to be Bloodstone, which is dark like some jade but has red spots. I put it under the light (after putting on my reading glasses) to look for the spots. It is not Bloodstone, it is Moss Agate!
(https://i.imgur.com/ZM7PXuS.jpeg)
I don't know how well I can image it, but I will try to get a shot of it under the stereoscope. Many years ago, there was a photographer who would photograph Moss Agates with a macro lens. The shot was so close up that it looked like an alien landscape. Some look like a forest. I think they are so cool. I will check my local source to see if they have imported any. I might have to burn up my credit card to get more of these.
@Lori Dee Dear Lori:I love seeing your photos of the final polishing... reminds me of myself during my transition,
a little polish can provide astonishing results. HRT and surgeries are not the only solutions.
Thank you for sharing and posting.HUGS, Danielle
Quote from: Northern Star Girl on August 15, 2024, 06:16:14 PM@Lori Dee
Dear Lori:
I love seeing your photos of the final polishing... reminds me of myself during my transition,
a little polish can provide astonishing results. HRT and surgeries are not the only solutions.
Thank you for sharing and posting.
HUGS, Danielle
So true! We all start out with a cold, rough exterior. But with a little polish, we can SHINE!
Lori those stones are amazingly beautiful!
I agree Danielle, they are a great analogy to transitioning. Every stone starts rough but in the end each is different but all are beautiful.
That last picture looks as if you're seeing a bird's eye view of a rainforest through a wizard's magical scrying stone, lol.
Amazing.
Quote from: Sephirah on August 16, 2024, 01:06:44 PMThat last picture looks as if you're seeing a bird's eye view of a rainforest through a wizard's magical scrying stone, lol.
Amazing.
That is why I love Moss Agates. I'm still working on getting some close-up pics. The stereoscope doesn't have a strong enough light (to prevent blinding the observer). I am using a super-bright LED flashlight but the camera wants to focus on everything except the stone. I have an idea and if it works, I should be able to get some really cool shots.
Quote from: Lori Dee on August 16, 2024, 01:47:06 PMThat is why I love Moss Agates. I'm still working on getting some close-up pics. The stereoscope doesn't have a strong enough light (to prevent blinding the observer). I am using a super-bright LED flashlight but the camera wants to focus on everything except the stone. I have an idea and if it works, I should be able to get some really cool shots.
Please do, Lori. Everything you've posted shows the natural, raw beauty of the world. You nurture that and show it in a kaleidoscope of light and a multitude of facets of things that... very few people ever see, let alone appreciate. We take so much for granted... and often miss the things right in front of us. That you see the beauty in this and show it to others is a real gift. To allow them to see it too. You show that what someone might consider mundane, is actually quite beautiful in the right light. And this applies to life.
Thank you for illuminating the often hidden depths of things. And showing that to others. Not all that sparkles are diamonds. Not all that glitters is gold. So much of this world, and what's in it, is inherently beautiful. Just needs the right encouragement to show it. :)
Quote from: Sephirah on August 16, 2024, 01:59:12 PMNot all that glitters is gold.
Wait. Wut?
< rethinking my activities over the past decade >
Quote from: Lori Dee on August 16, 2024, 02:40:44 PMWait. Wut?
< rethinking my activities over the past decade >
Lol.
In your case, Lori... it's your eyes, your smile and your words that glitter. Funding that is something else. :) What you do is bring the beauty of everything around us to people who may not have ever seen it. That is honestly priceless. :)
Quote from: Sephirah on August 16, 2024, 02:42:33 PMLol.
In your case, Lori... it's your eyes, your smile and your words that glitter. Funding that is something else. :) What you do is bring the beauty of everything around us to people who may not have ever seen it. That is honestly priceless. :)
I think it is just a matter of the things I have learned about life, the universe, and everything.
@Sarah B will say it is 42, but it is so much more than that. I'm just an old soul that has seen a few things. ;D
My experiments with getting a picture of the Moss Agate under the stereoscope failed. So I lit it up with a bright LED flashlight. After dozens of photos, only one turned out half okay. I might need to make a lightbox of sorts that I can use for pics of stones and jewelry.
(https://i.imgur.com/h3jQxB5.jpeg)
Thanks for sharing. It's nice that you don't need to pay for film. You couldn't have done this just 15 years ago.
Hi Everyone Lori you said in your post above:
Quote from: Lori Dee on August 17, 2024, 12:22:32 AMI think it is just a matter of the things I have learned about life, the universe, and everything. @Sarah B will say it is 42, but it is so much more than that. I'm just an old soul that has seen a few things. ;D
Yes I do say that which I have highlighted in pink. I have also been around and seen a few things and I'm a spring chicken compared to you by two years. I said previously:
Quote from: Sarah B on August 14, 2024, 06:16:17 AMYou are right Iztaccihuatl, "The answer to the ultimate question of life, the universe and everything" is of course 42. However, the question is why 42?
Well in computer programming 42 is represented by the character '*' and the '*' represents the wild card or what ever the user would like the '*' to be. This is why 'Deep Thought' gave the answer of 42. This leaves the symbolic meaning of 42 as the answer to life, the universe and everything, is anything the user would like it to be.
So answering their question with 42, my answer could be anything and still they would not understand.
You are right I do say the 'answer' is 42 and I do note that 42 is so much more by me saying "This leaves the symbolic meaning of 42 as the answer to life, the universe and everything, is anything the user would like it to be."
Which I have highlighted in Green. Means 42 can be so much more in the eyes of the beholder.
Love and HugsSarah BOfficial Greeter@Lori Dee
And here I am, brain the size of a plant parking cars. sigh-------
Quote from: Sarah B on August 17, 2024, 02:42:29 AMYou are right I do say the 'answer' is 42 and I do note that 42 is so much more by me saying "This leaves the symbolic meaning of 42 as the answer to life, the universe and everything, is anything the user would like it to be."
I wasn't being mean, just yanking your chain, Sis. :-*
OK I just add that the Moss Agate and your eyes are just stunning.
Hi Lori Quote from: Lori Dee on August 17, 2024, 09:44:33 AMI wasn't being mean, just yanking your chain, Sis. :-*
You did a good job. You got me got me good and proper. Sis, thats what Aussies do!!!
Love and HugsSarah BOfficial GreeterPS I know you were not mean.
@Lori Dee
My best friend's sister and niece have been in town visiting from Georgia. They are building a cabin in the north end of the Black Hills. Today, my friend said her niece wanted to buy a few pieces of my jewelry. I told her the Friends & Family Discount means she only pays for shipping.
Ten minutes later, they pulled into my parking lot on the way to the airport. "Sold" five pieces. She insisted that I should charge something. I told her to wear them often, it is free advertising for me. She said she would be watching my Etsy shop and would be back this way for Thanksgiving to buy more.
I already have a handful of customers and no jewelry listed on Etsy yet. I am building anticipation and hopefully, they will go fast once I start listing them. I better get on the ball and start making more. I've been slacking lately. :)
Hi Everyone Quote from: davina61 on August 17, 2024, 03:15:19 AMAnd here I am, brain the size of a plant parking cars. sigh-------
Marvin the Paranoid Android, my all time favourite in the HHGTTG.
Love and HugsSarah BOfficial Greeter@davina61
Hi Everyone How can one not like Marvin with quotes like:
Quote"Here I am with a brain the size of a planet and they ask me to pick up a piece of paper. Call that job satisfaction?"
and
Quote"Life', said Marvin,'don't talk to me about life"
and
Quote"It's the people you meet in this job who really get you down. The best conversation I had was over 34 million years ago.
- Oh, dear!
- And that was with a coffee machine."
That last one always cracks me up. God rest is soul.
Love and HugsSarah BOfficial Greeter
Quote from: Sarah B on August 17, 2024, 02:42:29 AMYou are right I do say the 'answer' is 42 and I do note that 42 is so much more by me saying "This leaves the symbolic meaning of 42 as the answer to life, the universe and everything, is anything the user would like it to be."
Which I have highlighted in Green. Means 42 can be so much more in the eyes of the beholder.
The meaning of life, the universe and everything passed me by a couple of years ago. Almost three now. ;D
I am ashamed to say, I know nothing of The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy. It's something I never got into. I know it's a cult thing, where if you know, you know. Kind of like everything by Terry Pratchett. But... it was just never my thing.
The door when told to open quietly says loudly was that quiet enough for you, I have read the books and seen the TV shows.
Hi Everyone
One last word on the HHGTTG.
"So long and thanks for all the fish,"
Is the message left by the dolphins when they departed planet Earth just before it was demolished to make way for a hyperspace bypass.
Love and Hugs
Sarah B
Official Greeter
Quote from: Sarah B on August 17, 2024, 07:21:52 PMHi Everyone
One last word on the HHGTTG.
"So long and thanks for all the fish,"
Is the message left by the dolphins when they departed planet Earth just before it was demolished to make way for a hyperspace bypass.
Love and Hugs
Sarah B
Official Greeter
One of my favorites:
The Pan Galactic Gargle Blaster is an alcoholic beverage invented by the ex-President of the Galaxy Zaphod Beeblebrox, considered by the Guide to be the "Best Drink in Existence." Its effects are similar to "having your brains smashed out by a slice of lemon wrapped around a large gold brick."
Beeblebrox advised that you should "never drink more than two Pan Galactic Gargle Blasters unless you are a thirty-ton mega elephant with bronchial pneumonia."
;D
Hi Everyone
Zaphod Beeblebrox's famous pan galactic gargle blaster, yeah one cannot, not order one at the 'Restaurant at the End of the Universe".
Memories.
Love and Hugs
Sarah B
Official Greeter
I've got my towel!
I'm ready for anything the universe dishes me.
Quote from: Gina P on August 18, 2024, 10:50:42 AMI've got my towel!
I'm ready for anything the universe dishes me.
That and a hitchhiking thumb are all you need!
A satisfied customer sent this pic. It goes well with her other jewelry.
(https://i.imgur.com/zAcVbiv.jpeg)
It is a yellow quartz, but not dark enough to be considered a Citrine gem.
She loves it, so I am happy.
@Lori Dee
Dear Lori:Nicely done !!!!
Thank you for sharing and posting.HUGS, Danielle
My thoughts this morning as my brain is still absorbing caffeine and trying to wake up.
In the news lately, are various policies and regulations by government agencies, school districts, and even churches that continue to address things they know nothing about.
The State of Missouri has changed its policy to change the gender marker on driver's licenses and state IDs. "Customers are required to provide either medical documentation that they have undergone gender reassignment surgery... "
Gender cannot be "reassigned", by surgery or any other means. The surgery is A treatment for Gender Dysphoria, but not the only treatment. Many people can live their lives without surgery, and may not want, or be able to have surgery for medical/financial reasons. Their gender remains the same with or without surgery.
Many of the new anti-LGBTQ laws being proposed and passed refer to "gender assigned at birth". Gender is not assigned at birth. Gender is not assigned, it is an inherent part of our personality. Some use the phrase "sex assigned at birth". If you are not required to present a birth certificate, how can they possibly know?
Usually, the purpose of the birth certificate is to establish citizenship, not gender or sex. Children may need it to enroll in school, adults may need it for things like passports and driver's licenses. Very often, they are used to prove identity. The problem is that birth certificates are not photo IDs, so anyone can request a copy and claim it is theirs. That is how identity theft happens.
To help combat this problem, The U.S. Government (Homeland Security) came up with the REAL-ID program. Driver's licenses and state IDs that have a gold star on the front are REAL-ID compliant. What does this mean? It means that sufficient documentation has been presented (birth certificate, social security number, etc.) to positively identify who you are.
On May 7, 2025, U.S. travelers must be REAL ID compliant to board domestic flights and access certain federal facilities. Homeland Security - REAL ID (https://www.dhs.gov/real-id)
In 2022, I received a letter from my Endocrinologist stating that I had "appropriate clinical treatment for transition to the gender of female". I used that document as "evidence" submitted to the Circuit Court for a Legal Name Change. With the letter and the court order, I was able to change my name and gender on my driver's license (which has the REAL-ID gold star).
As this is now a federally accepted PHOTO ID, I use that (with my legal documents) to change things like my Social Security card, VA Disabled Veterans PHOTO ID, etc.
My point is that, two years later, my birth certificate is irrelevant. My State driver's license is a photo ID that is REAL-ID compliant, and my VA photo ID is issued by a federal agency. There is no longer any reason to have a copy of my birth certificate.
Interrogator: "What sex were you assigned at birth?"
Me: "I don't know. It was so long ago, and I was very young back then."
Interrogator: "What does it say on your birth certificate?"
Me: "I don't have a copy of my birth certificate, do you?"
Interrogator: "We need to verify that you are who you say you are."
Me: < presents two federally recognized photo IDs >
You are not required to reveal ANY part of your medical history to anyone. Law enforcement agencies can gain access to your records through a subpoena or court order, but YOU are not required to reveal anything. Since my letter of gender change came from my endocrinologist, that is part of my medical history and is protected under HIPAA.
The Privacy Rule protects all "individually identifiable health information" held or transmitted by a covered entity or its business associate, in any form or media, whether electronic, paper, or oral. HIPAA Privacy Rule (https://www.hhs.gov/hipaa/for-professionals/privacy/laws-regulations/index.html#:~:text=The%20Privacy%20Rule%20protects%20all,electronic%2C%20paper%2C%20or%20oral.)
You are not required to reveal that you changed your name. If someone feels they need to know, they can go through the court records to find out. You are not required to reveal it.
So getting back to these discriminatory laws, they can affect children who do not have court orders, name changes, or driver's licenses. But it is different for adults.
If you live in Missouri or belong to a church that will not allow you to preach The Word because you wear a dress, come to South Dakota and get a driver's license with a REAL-ID gold star on it. South Dakota recognizes nomads and full-time travelers, who may live in an RV/camper or maybe a truck driver. South Dakota Full Time Travelers (https://dps.sd.gov/driver-licensing/renew-and-duplicate/full-time-travelers)
There are always ways to fight back against an overbearing government. Many methods are even non-violent. ;D
I need more coffee.
@Lori Dee
Dear Lori:
Not enough coffee yet this morning... I understand.
Thank you for sharing and posting your venting...
I, along with you and most other transitioners reading your last posting here
on your Forum Blog thread fully understand your frustration with how people in
general and certainly our government agencies consider us... we seem to be an
area of concern for them as they try to legislate us into oblivion.
Again thank you for sharing and posting.... and venting.
HUGS and more HUGS,Danielle [Northern Star Gir]
NOW.... a big coffee for you! The barista at my next door to my office Coffee Shop
always puts a PINK lid on the coffee that she makes for me and for my friends.
(https://i.imgur.com/HWBM1skm.jpg)
Quote from: Northern Star Girl on August 21, 2024, 01:09:02 PMNOW.... a big coffee for you! The barista at my next door to my office Coffee Shop
always puts a PINK lid on the coffee that she makes for me and for my friends.
Exactly what I needed! Thank you.
ouch, it's still hot! ;D
From a very old book:
'To know is power' - Let us then be wise
And use our brains with every good intent
That in the end we come with tired eyes
And give to Nature more than what she lent.
~ Count Louis Hamon (Cheiro) 1866 - 1936
To add to that one of my own...
"Knowledge is knowing how something works. Wisdom is knowing why something works. Enlightenment comes when you understand the difference." :)
My UV flashlight arrived and I have been going through my stones to see which ones fluoresce. The light produces short-wave UV (250nm) and long-wave UV (365nm). So I gathered about a dozen stones that show off some pretty fluorescence in green, yellow, and purple at the different wavelengths.
I had everything ready to go in my bathroom where there are no windows, (therefore no other light interference). And ... ???
The flashlight does not produce enough UV energy for the camera to see it. I can see it with my eyes, but the camera does not respond to ultraviolet light. :icon_frown: And if I allow a little bit of light into the room so that the camera works, it still doesn't see the UV light, so doesn't capture the fluorescence. Bummer.
Oof.
So you don't get any of this?
(https://th.bing.com/th/id/R.15f7af4713f73997769243264f95485c?rik=%2bTQEjdpxlBJe%2fA&riu=http%3a%2f%2fimages2.fanpop.com%2fimages%2fphotos%2f2900000%2fTOW-Ross-Teeth-6-08-friends-2946293-780-589.jpg&ehk=8wCBIPUwcOl2TvPetmLFSFrthLWzUko6lTc379XOKpo%3d&risl=&pid=ImgRaw&r=0)
That's literally the only thing that comes to mind when talking about blacklight, lol.
Quote from: Sephirah on August 22, 2024, 01:54:11 PMOof.
So you don't get any of this?
(https://th.bing.com/th/id/R.15f7af4713f73997769243264f95485c?rik=%2bTQEjdpxlBJe%2fA&riu=http%3a%2f%2fimages2.fanpop.com%2fimages%2fphotos%2f2900000%2fTOW-Ross-Teeth-6-08-friends-2946293-780-589.jpg&ehk=8wCBIPUwcOl2TvPetmLFSFrthLWzUko6lTc379XOKpo%3d&risl=&pid=ImgRaw&r=0)
That's literally the only thing that comes to mind when talking about blacklight, lol.
< inhale > 'ere! < pass > and exhale ;D
Hahaha, love you, Lori <3
You would honestly hate my accent. I am as far removed from what you get as "British" on shows and movies as it's possible to get. I am as common as muck. Well maybe not quite that far since the Navy made an effort to get me to talk "all proper, like" so I could be an officer.
Think female Sean Bean and you wouldn't be far off. His accent is a little bit thicker than mine, but we're from the same hometown.
I do not do the whole Hugh Grant, received pronunciation thing. That's for southerners in London.
If you want an idea of British dialects, check out this video:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2pZ-Ny8q22o
While I was researching my family history, I was curious if any phrases that were common to my great-great-grandparents were passed down unwittingly through the generations.
Most of the family came from Leeds. My great-great-great grandfather was from the Louth area in Lincolnshire but raised his family in Leeds. Their son immigrated to the Toronto area of Canada, so I am sure that he had an accent that his children may have picked up.
Then their son, my great grandfather immigrated to the U.S. when he was sixteen. Having never met or spoken with any of them, I have no way of knowing if a certain way of saying something is actually a family tradition that filtered down to us.
I think that would be fascinating.
Quote from: Lori Dee on August 22, 2024, 03:05:36 PMWhile I was researching my family history, I was curious if any phrases that were common to my great-great-grandparents were passed down unwittingly through the generations.
Most of the family came from Leeds. My great-great-great grandfather was from the Louth area in Lincolnshire but raised his family in Leeds. Their son immigrated to the Toronto area of Canada, so I am sure that he had an accent that his children may have picked up.
Then their son, my great grandfather immigrated to the U.S. when he was sixteen. Having never met or spoken with any of them, I have no way of knowing if a certain way of saying something is actually a family tradition that filtered down to us.
I think that would be fascinating.
Leeds is an awesome place. It's very Yorkshire. Very Northern.
Quote from: Sephirah on August 22, 2024, 03:14:54 PMLeeds is an awesome place. It's very Yorkshire. Very Northern.
Well, not so much back in the late 1800s. I have old photos and written descriptions that describe living conditions back then. Housing was non-existent, so they built shacks on the backs of houses. Of course, no plumbing. The air was polluted by the factories, and the river was used to dump sewage, garbage, and even corpses. I understand why my ancestors moved to Canada. My great-grandfather was only 3 years old when they made the voyage from Liverpool to Ontario.
Now, I suspect it has been cleaned up and modernized. Recent photos show it as a very nice place.
Quote from: Lori Dee on August 22, 2024, 05:45:08 PMWell, not so much back in the late 1800s. I have old photos and written descriptions that describe living conditions back then. Housing was non-existent, so they built shacks on the backs of houses. Of course, no plumbing. The air was polluted by the factories, and the river was used to dump sewage, garbage, and even corpses. I understand why my ancestors moved to Canada. My great-grandfather was only 3 years old when they made the voyage from Liverpool to Ontario.
Now, I suspect it has been cleaned up and modernized. Recent photos show it as a very nice place.
Lori, that was literally the whole country back during the Industrial Revolution. A lot of people didn't want to be there, but a lot of people stayed. And it got better. I have a few friends from Leeds and they're some of the most fiercely patriotic people you will meet.
That whole period led to some of the most amazing leaps in sanitation and cleanliness we still have to this day. Liverpool was one of the first places to have an entire closed off sewage network. Because it was so toxic... necessity is the mother of invention, as they say.
I need to teach you how to say "Eyup" properly though, as an honorary northern lass. <3
eeeeee bygum lass.
I can't throw stones at any city back then. New York City was an open sewer by 1890. Thank God we have all come a long way since then.
My family came from the Cotswold. I have no idea what their accent is.
Quote from: Emma1017 on August 23, 2024, 06:49:29 AMMy family came from the Cotswold. I have no idea what their accent is.
I had to look it up. Wow, that is some beautiful country!
Cotswold images (https://www.google.com/search?sca_esv=0f21de5e4dfdbf6b&sca_upv=1&q=cotswolds&udm=2&fbs=AEQNm0Aa4sjWe7Rqy32pFwRj0UkWd8nbOJfsBGGB5IQQO6L3J3ppPdoHI1O-XvbXbpNjYYwWUVH6qTfR1Lpek5F-7GS5G77zCDGUiyO9thp-XYOUMayl5yTrq7rriA_FB1wL0Kdj_tvjMoNGzWa2FMRJvYhOGWchAHxXaXr6MzDlE7uqvQ8rC0mmysmMri9cNUFZoISEheJP6aWXlQEWN_fh-q0laRumwg&sa=X&ved=2ahUKEwjRkNPHpoyIAxX5_8kDHZsDOOQQtKgLegQIERAB&biw=1280&bih=615&dpr=3)
I live at the base of the Malvern hills and from the top you can see the Cotswolds and view across the Severn valley, another lovely place to live.
Yesterday was a busy day.
Our apartment building, called "The Radiant" hosted a National Night Out event. Yesterday was also one year since our Grand Opening, so it was also a "birthday" celebration.
At the first Grand Opening, it was all about the owners of the property patting each other on the back and thanking the sponsors and contractors for a job well done. As the first tenant to move into the building, the manager asked if I would say a few words to thank all of the sponsors for contributing to this project. I agreed, but then the corporate owners decided they didn't want to hear from the residents, it was more important to thank the "money" people.
This year, it was all about the residents and corporate was not invited. As a part of National Night Out, we had many vendors and resource representatives here. The Rapid City Police set up a Slip-N-Slide for the kids (it was over 90 degrees outside). We got a chance to meet several of the patrol officers and the supervisors who are responsible for this part of the city.
We also had Malissa's Fry Bread food truck here. Each tenant received a ticket to get a free Indian Taco. For those who don't know, Malissa's is the BEST Indian Taco on the planet. If you are ever passing through Rapid City, SD look for the red food truck. I can't eat a large and the small ones are very filling and delicious! She has a Facebook page if you are curious.
We also had vendors from the Paul Mitchell School, Youth & Family Services, South Dakota Medicaid, Complete Healthcare, and others that I just can't recall off-hand. We also had an indoor basketball arcade machine, a corn hole game, and the biggest Jenga game I have ever seen. In addition to Malissa's Fry Bread, we also had Little Caesar's pizza and lots of donated goodies for the kids from drinks to candy and toys. I used my tire inflator and filled about three dozen balloons. The kids were having a great time playing with balloons, getting photos taken with police officers, playing games, and just running around screaming. It was total chaos.
Three of us older ladies found a nice couch in the Community Room where much of this was happening. It was comfy and we tried to have a nice chat which was difficult to do without shouting at each other.
The three of us were just sitting there like:
(https://i.imgur.com/GVjFGho.jpeg)
Overall, everyone had a great time. The Community Room looks like a grenade exploded in there, but that's why we have a housekeeping service.
Today is mostly R&R (Rest and Recover), but my rock tumblers are finishing up a cycle so I will still have plenty to do. No rest for the wicked.
Today is Rock Washing Day!
The two amethyst crystals are looking very nice and are ready for final polish. Once I get everything rinsed off, I'll see if any are pic-worthy. ;D
I love when you share your rocks!
My brother says I have rocks in my head, but I think he means something else. ;D
I don't know Lori but based on my older brother, I don't think it was a compliment.
Quote from: Lori Dee on August 26, 2024, 02:36:37 PMMy brother says I have rocks in my head, but I think he means something else. ;D
Maybe he just didn't have proper vocabulary? When he said 'rocks', he really meant 'pearls', as in 'pearls of wisdom'.
Love always -- Jess
I got the rock tumblers cleaned out and started on their next cycle. The two amethyst crystals still are not quite "gemmy" enough so they are back in the polish barrel for another 10-day cycle. I might only run them for seven depending on how my schedule goes.
Those that finished today had a few cool surprises... and quite a few disappointments. But that is okay. There is never a shortage of rocks.
Today's group shot:
(https://i.imgur.com/EcWmWRV.jpeg)
The red one with the squiggly bands near the top right is a Fairburn Agate, the South Dakota State Gem. (It is so shiny my camera wouldn't focus for a close-up). Fairburns are only found in the area near the town of Fairburn, SD near the Badlands. They are a fortification agate, meaning the bands represent a fortress. The gem versions have multiple bands and bright colors. Do an internet search to see some real beauties.
I may have shown this one before. It is finally finished polishing and it came out looking spectacular.
(https://i.imgur.com/O10GhSW.jpeg)
Next is a piece of banded chert. It has a secret window that shows up when you shine a light through it.
(https://i.imgur.com/RyMNhYc.jpeg)(https://i.imgur.com/OE3w60M.jpeg)
I love finding pieces of clear quartz crystal. Sometimes they polish up and look just like melted ice cubes.
(https://i.imgur.com/ShrHy6u.jpeg)
A tiny piece of banded agate.
(https://i.imgur.com/tGMFTcr.jpeg)
This one turned out so shiny I couldn't find any angle to prevent the reflections of the white lights.
(https://i.imgur.com/TxIr6Kd.jpeg)
This piece of Teepee Canyon Agate is interesting. On the left, you see the quartz crystal pocket that was exposed. The one on the right is not. It is beneath a "window of clear quartz. The stone is smooth there. You can see smaller windows above it in between the layers of red jasper.
(https://i.imgur.com/OVNY5aQ.jpeg)
This piece of Bubblegum Agate has a tornado inside.
(https://i.imgur.com/sNfAdGI.jpeg)
This little pretty has a lot of black tourmaline crystals in it.
(https://i.imgur.com/bGuBA9F.jpeg)
This batch had two pieces of Moss Agate. The camera wouldn't focus on the smaller one until I put a light behind it. The color is too dense. But the bigger one has enough clear agate to see the green dendrites inside.
(https://i.imgur.com/zAatuAH.jpeg)(https://i.imgur.com/gB6ohsK.jpeg)
(https://i.imgur.com/W0zJ8k1.jpeg)(https://i.imgur.com/zQamIjG.jpeg)
(https://i.imgur.com/jiBJgR5.jpeg)
That concludes our show for today. Thank you for coming and don't forget to tip your Moderators.
Gotta love the VA.
A few weeks ago, I messaged my Primary that I was having trouble walking and suspected I needed an MRI to check for a pinched nerve. The response was that they could schedule me for Physical Therapy or Chiropractic. I'm thinking, "What if I am lying on the ground with a broken pelvis? Perhaps we should get a diagnosis BEFORE we start treatment?"
So I saw my Primary and she did a physical exam. She does not believe it is a pinched nerve but might be arthritis in my SI joints. So she ordered x-rays of my hips and Physical Therapy. Physical Therapy starts on the 3rd.
Yesterday, I sent a follow-up message that I have a PT appointment, but have not had the hip x-rays. Do I need them before I start PT? The response was that I do not need them before PT. ???
This morning first thing, I got a call and I now have a radiology appointment this afternoon at 2:00 right after I see my psychologist at 1:00. So maybe having the x-rays before starting treatment was a good idea after all.
They are all good people, but sometimes they are so eager to help a vet that they leap to treatment before knowing what the issue really is. I'll get them trained eventually. ;D
Its like herding cats dear------------
Quote from: davina61 on August 27, 2024, 01:12:51 PMIts like herding cats dear------------
So true. Spent an hour with my psychologist and then got the X-rays.
X-ray Technician: Put your leg in this position.
Me: Ouch! It doesn't bend like that!
I have been on the phone with the VA Pharmacist this morning.
They were going to ship out my estradiol, but there is a backlog of estradiol cypionate and it won't be available until October. They have plenty of estradiol valerate in stock and can send that, but she wanted to know if I had enough doses to last. I don't.
I just had labs done on August 23rd, so Doc is waiting for those results to come back. She may need to adjust my dosage. If she is going to switch over to Valerate, then she needs to adjust the dosage anyway. Cypionate dosage is typically lower than Valerate because Cypionate has a longer peak level. Switching to Valerate would mean increasing my dose, but if my dose of Cypionate is already too high according to the labs, then she may just go with the same dose of Valerate as I am currently taking with Cypionate to see what the next labs show.
And that is why they make the big bucks. They get to do the math and figure out what needs to be done. I'm not concerned which way she goes, but if my boobs start shrinking, someone is going to hear about it. ;D
I hope they can get the estradiol soon. When I had to stop taking it prior to surgery, I started getting cranky after about two weeks. I'm using estradiol valerate. We have settled on a dosage that seems to work well, and my doctor just sends in a new prescription whenever I ask. I think I have at least a year's supply in my cabinet! Although it means putting up with a weekly jab, I do prefer the injections over the patches.
Love always -- Jess
I prefer the injections too. I can feel the difference.
On patches, my levels were above 100 three times in four years and those were not consecutive tests.
My last labs were done on a Monday (I inject on Tuesdays), so my low point was 244. But Doc wanted the labs done on a Friday to see my mid-point and get an idea of my average. So we will see what happens.
The VA Pharmacy does ship out 90-day supplies at a time and they are pretty good about keeping things stocked. But the mail-order warehouses get backed up. I was just reading that injectable estradiol is almost exclusively used for gender-affirming care, so stockpiles fluctuate quite a bit as new people start on HRT.
I usually pick mine up at Walmart. Using 'Good Rx', it's actually cheaper than using insurance. One vial lasts me 4 - 5 months. The last time I picked it up, the pharmacist asked if I needed any injection supplies. I thought that was really nice of him. Although I have a prescription for the supplies, I have to go through mail order and they never send exactly what was requested. I've been getting my injection supplies from Amazon.
I normally have my labs done Wednesday morning, and inject Wednesday night. My levels have been around 250, and my doctor is OK with that. I may back off my dosage a little. My goal should be the lowest dose that keeps me happy.
Love always -- Jess
Quote from: Jessica_Rose on August 28, 2024, 06:21:19 PMI usually pick mine up at Walmart. Using 'Good Rx', it's actually cheaper than using insurance. One vial lasts me 4 - 5 months. The last time I picked it up, the pharmacist asked if I needed any injection supplies. I thought that was really nice of him. Although I have a prescription for the supplies, I have to go through mail order and they never send exactly what was requested. I've been getting my injection supplies from Amazon.
I normally have my labs done Wednesday morning, and inject Wednesday night. My levels have been around 250, and my doctor is OK with that. I may back off my dosage a little. My goal should be the lowest dose that keeps me happy.
Love always -- Jess
I think your vials must be larger, or you are on a smaller dose. My vials have 5 doses and they send three vials at a time. The Valerate may be different. I'm okay with it however they do it. As a disabled vet, my medicine copay is $33 for a 90-day supply of any medication. I pay around $100 a few times a year, but that it for all of my meds.
I just saw a reminder that Skynet becomes self-aware today, August 29, 2024.
And we did nothing to stop it.
I took a sledgehammer to my toaster, just to be safe and to give my vacuum cleaner a warning.
Quote from: Lori Dee on August 29, 2024, 03:34:57 PMI just saw a reminder that Skynet becomes self-aware today, August 29, 2024.
And we did nothing to stop it.
I took a sledgehammer to my toaster, just to be safe and to give my vacuum cleaner a warning.
I was wondering why our robo vac was acting weird today...
Love always -- Jess
Quote from: Jessica_Rose on August 29, 2024, 06:52:16 PMI was wondering why our robo vac was acting weird today...
Love always -- Jess
KILL IT! Quick! ;D
To be fair, they suck up all the granola you thought you ate.
:)
Quote from: Lori Dee on August 29, 2024, 03:34:57 PMI just saw a reminder that Skynet becomes self-aware today, August 29, 2024.
And we did nothing to stop it.
I took a sledgehammer to my toaster, just to be safe and to give my vacuum cleaner a warning.
So to honor Skynet's awakening, I am now watching Terminator: Genesis. At the very beginning of the movie, it says that Skynet awakened on August 29, 1997. We are too late!
I looked over at the scrap metal that used to be my toaster. I wonder if I should apologize.
The final battle, The Battle of Los Angeles doesn't happen until 2029. But then they go back in time to 1984. What the heck is going on here?
I need to finish watching this movie.
I think my vacuum cleaner just stuck its tongue out at me.
Quote from: Lori Dee on August 29, 2024, 08:16:19 PMSo to honor Skynet's awakening, I am now watching Terminator: Genesis. At the very beginning of the movie, it says that Skynet awakened on August 29, 1997. We are too late!
I looked over at the scrap metal that used to be my toaster. I wonder if I should apologize.
The final battle, The Battle of Los Angeles doesn't happen until 2029. But then they go back in time to 1984. What the heck is going on here?
I need to finish watching this movie.
I think my vacuum cleaner just stuck its tongue out at me.
You are definitely linda hamilton. Forget all the recent stuff. It's just hollywood being hollywood.
(https://i.pinimg.com/originals/f9/2c/0a/f92c0a7f6f7ec56497a86ae411fe8eda.png)
I have been getting tired of wearing the same wig for close to two years now. Last year, I got a new topper but the color was all wrong. A series of disasters and I ended up going with gray. I am SO over it. I ordered a new wig in "strawberry blonde with light brown mix". A) It is NOT strawberry blonde, it is just strawberry, actually ginger. B) the "light brown mix" is blonde which softens the color somewhat. From behind, it does sort of look like strawberry blonde, but from the front, it is more ginger.
I wore it for a few days, took pics, and sought feedback from friends. A common comment was that the ginger is okay because it goes with my complexion. So, this winter I'll be a ginger instead of a blonde. Hopefully, that means I can remember things better (less ditzy?). If it works for me, I'll embrace it until I get tired of it and want something else.
I have to admit that it does make me look younger. Not bad for an old lady.
Quote from: Sephirah on August 29, 2024, 08:27:51 PMYou are definitely linda hamilton. Forget all the recent stuff. It's just hollywood being hollywood.
My hairdresser was trying to get me to embrace the gray hair, saying I reminded her of Linda Evans. I was like, Linda Evans? I tried on the platinum blonde wig and I saw it too. Linda Evans is a beautiful woman, but she was an old lady when I was much, much younger. Thanks, but no thanks.
I don't mind
BEING an old lady. I just don't want to look like one yet. I'll get there soon enough. I am in no hurry.
@LoriDee
Dear Lori:
WOW-Whee .... you look terrific in your newest and latest avatar/profile photo...
... and it is not just the new wig that does it... it is a beautiful picture of you.
Thank you for sharing and posting.
HUGS, Danielle
Aw, shucks. < blushes >
Thank you!
OK, it has been a few minutes since I posted any pictures of rocks, so brace yourselves.
I figured out how to get a picture of a rock with the UV flashlight. The camera won't pick up the light so I had to do it during the daytime and illuminate the rocks from behind. Take notes, there may be a test.
Today's experiment is with chalcedony. (Kal-se-dunny). It is a cryptocrystalline quartz but is more of a category than an actual mineral. Agate, jasper, onyx, carnelian, etc. are all forms of chalcedony. Chalcedony is a mixture of quartz and moganite. Both are silicate minerals but have different crystal structures. Moganite is often green-colored due to the presence of nickel.
Typically, chalcedony is found in rounded shapes or nodules. But not far from Rapid City is a place where it formed in sheets and looks like gray frosted glass. The various minerals in it are what give it its colors because the minerals reflect different frequencies of light.
(https://i.imgur.com/UpVXqIe.jpeg)
This is how they look in indirect sunlight.
But under a fluorescent light, like the one above my kitchen sink, other tints are visible.
(https://i.imgur.com/EUfZzHS.jpeg)
In between the layers of the stone are tiny pockets of quartz crystals. You can see the black grit from the rock polishing has gotten into the pockets.
(https://i.imgur.com/MMOpDfO.jpeg)
Some of these pockets are very deep, which makes cleaning the grit out of them quite difficult even using a Waterpik.
(https://i.imgur.com/vItAJz9.jpeg)
Here are some comparisons showing lighting effects.
Incandescent light vs fluorescent light
(https://i.imgur.com/pM2I19a.jpeg)(https://i.imgur.com/WXonuh3.jpeg)
The nickel in the Moganite reacts by fluorescing green under short-wave ultraviolet light.
(https://i.imgur.com/zkEkceh.jpeg)
The quartz component reacts blue under long-wave UV (black light). Same stone.
(https://i.imgur.com/uTfPmsb.jpeg)
That concludes today's mineralogy lesson. I lied about the test. ;D
That hair looks great on you dear, shiny rocks but can you grind them into shapes?
Quote from: davina61 on August 30, 2024, 04:46:02 PMThat hair looks great on you dear, shiny rocks but can you grind them into shapes?
Thank you, Davina. As a sister Ginger, I think you might be biased. ;D
Yes, they will break some while tumbling. The edges will become rounded and smoothed. Many of them I will leave in irregular shapes just to keep them interesting as jewelry pieces.
The hard part is smoothing the flat faces. One side is smooth like glass and the other is quite rough. Tumbling them so far has not worked well, so I am thinking of other ways to do it. I used my Dremel tool with a diamond cutting wheel as a grinder. But that takes forever to do a single piece.
I don't have any lapidary equipment like saws or grinders, so I might just need to put some time and elbow grease into it. I am hoping they will make nice necklace pendants.
Quote from: Lori Dee on August 30, 2024, 01:36:54 PMI have to admit that it does make me look younger. Not bad for an old lady
You are only as old as you feel, Lori.
The way you express yourself, the energy you have, the sheer electricity you put into everything you say here... honey, I would go mid 30s at best.
I don't need to see you to feel you. And trust me, you have the energy of someone way younger than you think. Hell, you even look like it. Which is frankly, you should bottle that and sell it to Maybelline.
You remind me of Laura Harris (https://www.imdb.com/name/nm0364977)
Nothing wrong with being a redhead, sweetie. I kind of think blonde is overrated. :P
I love your smile. It reaches your eyes. That's the most telling thing for anyone. <3
New profile pic looks beautiful Lori! :-*
Quote from: imallie on August 30, 2024, 10:35:38 PMNew profile pic looks beautiful Lori! :-*
I agree.
I think you need to do the same, Allie, because you are equally beautiful. <3
Quote from: imallie on August 30, 2024, 10:35:38 PMNew profile pic looks beautiful Lori! :-*
It is more casual, I think. I compared it to my old pic and the old pic looked studio-ish? I spent hours practicing my makeup and then wham! It came together. The new pic is more casual because I don't spend as much time on makeup anymore, but it still turned out pretty good. Thanks again!
Quote from: Sephirah on August 30, 2024, 10:43:01 PMI agree.
I think you need to do the same, Allie, because you are equally beautiful. <3
Aww, thanks. Happy to share pics with fam and friends, but the public forum pic thing isn't for me.
My latest hair has more light streaks in it but its brown, now my past life "memory" had me as a tall thin red head in a Celtic village .
Less is more dear on the makeup, more natural is the way to go looking like you have non on when you just spent 1/2 hour doing it!!!!
I need coffee...
(https://i.imgur.com/Zdkwz0U.jpeg)
Grocery shopping at Wally World this morning. Ugh.
Local struggles.
Payday. End of the month. Holiday weekend. Labor Day, so all the terrorists tourists are restocking their RVs for the trip home.
Fortunately, I have donuts AND a therapist. I can survive anything. ;D
@Lori DeeDear Lori:Good luck shopping at WalMart on this holiday weekend... I would imagine that the store
will be very, very busy.
As you stated: You have donuts AND a therapist. You can survive anything.
I agree with that but I would add copious amounts of chocolate...
Are you "entertaining" at home and doing a cookout for the holiday??? ... or
are you going somewhere with others?
HUGS, Danielle
Chocolate is definitely on the menu. My birthday is on the 3rd, so I bought a triple chocolate cake.
It turns out, it doesn't have to be your birthday. You can buy a birthday cake and eat it at any time. No one checks!
My best friend, her son, and sister are taking me to lunch for my birthday. After that, I think I have a date with Jose Cuervo. We will see how it goes. There could be a plethora of drunken debauchery.
But I won't get my hopes up. ;D
Quote from: davina61 on August 31, 2024, 02:20:09 AMMy latest hair has more light streaks in it but its brown, now my past life "memory" had me as a tall thin red head in a Celtic village .
Oops, sorry. The way the light was shining on your hair, I was thinking red. Or maybe I'm just remembering seeing you in a past life. ;D
The VA has confirmed my physical therapy appointment for the 3rd.
The results from my hip X-rays show there are no fractures. ???
Wouldn't I know if I had a fractured hip?
The joints appear to be normal... appear to be?
Let's not get too definitive in that diagnosis, Doc. It's just an X-ray, so we can ballpark it.
Let the physical therapist twist her legs around and if she screams a lot, then maybe we could order an MRI. Or not.
It's official, it is September 1st and I am now a redhead. It is a bit darker than I wanted but the gray is gone. It will look nice tucked up under my wig. ;D
Hi Lori
Look at my Avatar, now that is a redhead according to Danielle! ;D ::)
Me, it's Auburn :o ;D ::) 8)
Love and Hugs
Sarah B
Global Moderator
Quote from: Sarah B on September 01, 2024, 07:33:11 PMHi Lori
Look at my Avatar, now that is a redhead according to Danielle! ;D ::)
Me, it's Auburn :o ;D ::) 8)
Love and Hugs
Sarah B
Global Moderator
Mine is pretty close to that now. Just a little lighter. I will wait a bit then maybe add some highlights to lighten it. I love red hair, but not firetruck red! ;D
Hi Lori Quote from: Lori Dee on September 01, 2024, 07:42:36 PMMine is pretty close to that now. Just a little lighter. I will wait a bit then maybe add some highlights to lighten it. I love red hair, but not firetruck red! ;D
It was very rare for me to put a color through, once three shades. However, these days I have to contend with the greys, maybe its time to up my game on dyeing my hair!! Pretty much the same color. Me being conservative.
If only I was younger.
Happy coloring and dyeing
Love and HugsSarah BGlobal Moderator
Quote from: Sarah B on September 01, 2024, 07:49:04 PMHi Lori
It was very rare for me to put a color through, once three shades. However, these days I have to contend with the greys, maybe its time to up my game on dyeing my hair!! Pretty much the same color. Me being conservative.
If only I was younger.
Happy coloring and dyeing
Love and Hugs
Sarah B
Global Moderator
The gray was my priority. My hair had grown out enough that 2/3 was gray with just blonde ends. Since my new wig (profile pic) is reddish, I wanted to try to match the color. Of two options, one too light and the other too dark. I went with darker to cover the gray. Now, maybe I'll just shave my head and start over. :icon_no: Umm, nope. Not happening.
@Lori Dee Dear Lori:Hey girl... tomorrow on Tuesday September 3rd is your special day... you are not only
becoming older but you are also getting wiser.I am wishing YOU a very HAPPY BIRTHDAY :icon_flower: :icon_flower: :icon_birthday: :icon_birthday: :icon_flower: :icon_flower:
Have a wonderful day of Birthday Celebrations.
Be sure to check your profile on your Birthday to find a special gift.HUGS, and my best wishes,
Danielle [Northern Star Girl]
(https://i.imgur.com/Ov71PYml.jpg)
I will get in early, do I have to make cake? Have a good one dear XX
Thank you!
Yes, tomorrow I turn 67.
I realized that for my entire life, from birth until now, I was a younger person.
Since is my first time turning 67, I don't know what to expect.
Let the journey begin!
@Lori Dee Dear Lori:
I am aware that you wanted a chocolate cake for your birthday tomorrow on September 3rd....
HUGS, Danielle (https://i.imgur.com/97U3FVyl.jpg)
The nice thing about this one is that it will never go bad. And it has SPRINKLES!
Thanks, Danielle!
Hay I am 69 and still think I am 20 (till the body gives up!)
Quote from: davina61 on September 02, 2024, 04:56:24 PMHay I am 69 and still think I am 20 (till the body gives up!)
I refused to stop aging at 25.
Sadly, my body did not get the memo.
Quote from: Lori Dee on September 02, 2024, 05:08:34 PMI refused to stop aging at 25.
Sadly, my body did not get the memo.
Groucho Marx is credited with saying "A man is only as old as the woman he feels".
Assuming that applies to all points of the gender spectrum, several of my favorite 'parts' are only 4 - 5 years old.
Love always -- Jess
Quote from: Jessica_Rose on September 02, 2024, 05:33:28 PMGroucho Marx is credited with saying "A man is only as old as the woman he feels".
Assuming that applies to all points of the gender spectrum, several of my favorite 'parts' are only 4 - 5 years old.
Love always -- Jess
:D That's great!
Happy Birthday Lori,
I hope you do something special today, maybe find some cool rocks.
Hugs Gina
HAPPY Birthday, Lori
Hope you have a wonderful day.
Love,Susan_Rose
Thanks to all of you for the birthday wishes.
My Physical Therapy went well. I learned that the stretches and exercises I have been doing for decades are great for my back, but my issue is in my hips. I was born with pigeon toe (feet turned in) and so my legs are a bit bowed from the knee down (I forgot the medical term). It is not the same as bow legs where the entire leg from hip to ankle is bowed. In my case, the bow is from knee to ankle. The therapist thinks my left knee is more bowed than the right, which would explain the torn meniscus in that knee.
The pain in my right hip is a sign that my body is trying to compensate for the left knee issue and that it throwing things out of whack. So he showed me six new exercises to work on strengthening the core, hip, and glute muscles. With just him showing me how to do them and watching to make sure I did them correctly, I walked out of there without limping. I will be looking forward to doing these so that I can get back out to the creek and dig some gold!
After my appointment, my best friend, her sister, and her son took me to Ruby Tuesday for a birthday dinner. We had a great time.
My Bestie's card is awesome. It reads:
Some girls are just born with glitter in their veins,
Sparkle on, Birthday Girl!
(She knew me pre-transition and has been a wonderful ally.)
I don't drink and drive, so I waited until I got home to start my date with Jose Cuervo. He was a perfect gentleman and no matter how hard I tried I could not get him to play with my boobs. ;D
If you want the job done right, you just gotta do it yourself.
Thanks again, I had a great day.
Today I am playing catch-up on all of the chores I refused to do yesterday.
The Property Manager has announced that the State will be doing another periodic "random" inspection. Since many of the apartments receive various grants and subsidies to offset the housing costs, they periodically choose ten apartments at random to inspect. The purpose of the inspection is to ensure that management is maintaining the property under a multitude of guidelines to ensure compliance for future subsidies and grants.
Since the "random" inspection is on Friday, I'll be doing some "random" cleaning.
I'll start by washing some "random" rocks that have finished their cycle in the rock tumblers. ;D
HAPPY BELATED BIRTHDAY LORI!!!!!❤️❤️❤️🍾🍾🍾👍🎂
Thanks, Emma!
I get flat inspections from the agents, I used to do a deep clean before they came but they only look to make sure the doors are still on and no holes in walls!!! Just a vac and dust now-----
Happy birthday Lori!
Chrissy
Quote from: davina61 on September 05, 2024, 03:36:40 AMI get flat inspections from the agents, I used to do a deep clean before they came but they only look to make sure the doors are still on and no holes in walls!!! Just a vac and dust now-----
That is pretty much how it is here too. They will be here for about three minutes looking around. I'm not spending an hour to clean for a three-minute visit.
It's my dust and it is right where I left it. They will just have to get over it. ;D
OK, the rocks are washed and back in for the next cycle. Those that are finished polishing are now in the ultrasonic cleaner. Pictures to follow soon-ish.
I dusted, swept, and vacuumed because
@davina61 said I had to. ;D
Later tonight, I'll organize my workspace. Right now it is a jumbled mess of polished rocks, jewelry wire, and far too many hand tools. I tell myself that there might be a $20 under that mess so I had better straighten it up to know for sure.
Quote from: Lori Dee on September 05, 2024, 04:31:06 PMOK, the rocks are washed and back in for the next cycle. Those that are finished polishing are now in the ultrasonic cleaner. Pictures to follow soon-ish.
I dusted, swept, and vacuumed because @davina61 said I had to. ;D
Later tonight, I'll organize my workspace. Right now it is a jumbled mess of polished rocks, jewelry wire, and far too many hand tools. I tell myself that there might be a $20 under that mess so I had better straighten it up to know for sure.
Let us know if you find your $ under your pile of things!
LOL
Chrissy
I agree with Chrissy. Let us know if you find more, then bury a few more $20's and we'll all come over to clean your house....
Quote from: Emma1017 on September 05, 2024, 04:50:09 PMI agree with Chrissy. Let us know if you find more, then bury a few more $20's and we'll all come over to clean your house....
That could be a fun treasure hunt Emma! Would it be finders keeepers? Hehe
Chrissy
Or it could used for a group party. That would be excellent and possibly epic!
Quote from: Emma1017 on September 05, 2024, 04:56:53 PMOr it could used for a group party. That would be excellent and possibly epic!
We should of course invite Lori to that party! Hehe.
Chrissy
A very belated Happy Birthday, Lori. And no... Like many other people here I refuse to believe you are as old as you say you are. There is no way. You, ImAllie, Sarah B... no, just no. Both you and Allie look younger than I do, and I'm mid 40s now. Either you are both actual witches, or you both have that bit of your life that lets you live it to the full.
Maybe a bit of both. ;) Where do you get your asp milk from? ;D
Quote from: ChrissyRyan on September 05, 2024, 05:00:50 PMWe should of course invite Lori to that party! Hehe.
Chrissy
I have tequila!
(I always have tequila.) ;D
Quote from: Sephirah on September 05, 2024, 05:04:13 PMA very belated Happy Birthday, Lori. And no... Like many other people here I refuse to believe you are as old as you say you are. There is no way. You, ImAllie, Sarah B... no, just no. Both you and Allie look younger than I do, and I'm mid 40s now. Either you are both actual witches, or you both have that bit of your life that lets you live it to the full.
Maybe a bit of both. ;) Where do you get your asp milk from? ;D
I think it is a combination of good genes, good living, and spiritual healing. Of course, I think hormones have something to do with it too... and makeup. ;D
Quote from: Lori Dee on September 05, 2024, 06:05:19 PMI think it is a combination of good genes, good living, and spiritual healing. Of course, I think hormones have something to do with it too... and makeup. ;D
Mhm... suuure. I think y'all take baths in milk. Cleopatra recipe. :P
That's what llamas are for. :eusa_shhh:
Quote from: Lori Dee on September 05, 2024, 06:17:44 PMThat's what llamas are for. :eusa_shhh:
LOL!! You know the really weird thing about that? Where I live, I have several farms near me who keep Llamas. I guess they ran out of sheep. But LOL! That made me chuckle. Nasty spitty things. Do they even give milk? I always thought it was battery acid :P
Quote from: Sephirah on September 05, 2024, 06:41:40 PMLOL!! You know the really weird thing about that? Where I live, I have several farms near me who keep Llamas. I guess they ran out of sheep. But LOL! That made me chuckle. Nasty spitty things. Do they even give milk? I always thought it was battery acid :P
You need an albino llama and it must be milked during a new moon while singing "Clementine".
Now you know the recipe. ;)
Quote from: Lori Dee on September 05, 2024, 10:34:09 PMYou need an albino llama and it must be milked during a new moon while singing "Clementine".
Now you know the recipe. ;)
I shall endevour to find this eldritch beast, ma'am!
LOL!
Doing a bench and workshop clean today, doubt I find any money just loads of grinder dust and metal off cuts once all the tools get put away.
Quote from: davina61 on September 06, 2024, 03:52:17 AMDoing a bench and workshop clean today, doubt I find any money just loads of grinder dust and metal off cuts once all the tools get put away.
Maybe you will find a lost misplaced tool!
Chrissy
mmmmmm no as cant find a pair of side cutters-------------
Got the final polished batch out of the ultrasonic cleaner. As always, I find some interesting stones once they get polished and clean.
(https://i.imgur.com/jwDId9d.jpeg)
The two amethyst pieces turned out nice, but they clearly have internal flaws that would make them undesirable as gemstones. They will look good hanging in a necklace pendant though.
(https://i.imgur.com/Xofzxkh.jpeg)(https://i.imgur.com/7tJP7av.jpeg)(https://i.imgur.com/daXzkmj.jpeg)
A nice piece of banded jasper.
(https://i.imgur.com/RYonrMk.jpeg)
A piece of Bubblegum Agate.
(https://i.imgur.com/TD0ICUA.jpeg)
A piece of Teepee Canyon Agate.
(https://i.imgur.com/d7Cp2EE.jpeg)
Another Teepee Canyon Agate.
(https://i.imgur.com/ssqWbBW.jpeg)
This piece of Bubblegum Agate surprised me. Along the right edge are "eyes" that are typical of Lace Agate. They are quite small, so only noticeable up close.
(https://i.imgur.com/K2GQ0AP.jpeg)
The rock tumbler beat this one up pretty badly, so it will need to go back and get smoothed out. But it is showing some very nice colors typical of Teepee Canyon jaspers and agates.
(https://i.imgur.com/Es0RShU.jpeg)
This is a piece of the same rock that broke off during tumbling. I wonder if I were to paint a couple of eyes on it, would it look like the head of a duck?
(https://i.imgur.com/splVujL.jpeg)
This piece of Teepee Canyon Agate has some interesting surprises. Toward the bottom, it has a sort of mosaic pattern. It is more prominent on the back. The cement in between the pieces is quartz crystals.
(https://i.imgur.com/YiWeDE9.jpeg)(https://i.imgur.com/BVTcjws.jpeg)
If you stayed awake during my previous rock pictures post, you may recall that quartz crystals glow blue under short-wave UV light, and moganite crystals glow green. This piece has some of each.
(https://i.imgur.com/35V5kJj.jpeg)(https://i.imgur.com/TH4hPE4.jpeg)
And finally, a piece of quartz lit up with a soft white light so you can see what's inside.
(https://i.imgur.com/fS0bBHq.jpeg)
This is the inside of Lori Dee's brain on rocks. ;D
oohhhh Tequila. I am definitely in!!!
Quote from: Lori Dee on September 06, 2024, 01:58:44 PMGot the final polished batch out of the ultrasonic cleaner. As always, I find some interesting stones once they get polished and clean.
(https://i.imgur.com/jwDId9d.jpeg)
The two amethyst pieces turned out nice, but they clearly have internal flaws that would make them undesirable as gemstones. They will look good hanging in a necklace pendant though.
(https://i.imgur.com/Xofzxkh.jpeg)(https://i.imgur.com/7tJP7av.jpeg)(https://i.imgur.com/daXzkmj.jpeg)
A nice piece of banded jasper.
(https://i.imgur.com/RYonrMk.jpeg)
A piece of Bubblegum Agate.
(https://i.imgur.com/TD0ICUA.jpeg)
A piece of Teepee Canyon Agate.
(https://i.imgur.com/d7Cp2EE.jpeg)
Another Teepee Canyon Agate.
(https://i.imgur.com/ssqWbBW.jpeg)
This piece of Bubblegum Agate surprised me. Along the right edge are "eyes" that are typical of Lace Agate. They are quite small, so only noticeable up close.
(https://i.imgur.com/K2GQ0AP.jpeg)
The rock tumbler beat this one up pretty badly, so it will need to go back and get smoothed out. But it is showing some very nice colors typical of Teepee Canyon jaspers and agates.
(https://i.imgur.com/Es0RShU.jpeg)
This is a piece of the same rock that broke off during tumbling. I wonder if I were to paint a couple of eyes on it, would it look like the head of a duck?
(https://i.imgur.com/splVujL.jpeg)
This piece of Teepee Canyon Agate has some interesting surprises. Toward the bottom, it has a sort of mosaic pattern. It is more prominent on the back. The cement in between the pieces is quartz crystals.
(https://i.imgur.com/YiWeDE9.jpeg)(https://i.imgur.com/BVTcjws.jpeg)
If you stayed awake during my previous rock pictures post, you may recall that quartz crystals glow blue under short-wave UV light, and moganite crystals glow green. This piece has some of each.
(https://i.imgur.com/35V5kJj.jpeg)(https://i.imgur.com/TH4hPE4.jpeg)
And finally, a piece of quartz lit up with a soft white light so you can see what's inside.
(https://i.imgur.com/fS0bBHq.jpeg)
This is the inside of Lori Dee's brain on rocks. ;D
How long do these rocks tumble in your machine?
Yes, it could look like a duck if you painted eyes onto it.
Very nice!
Chrissy
Quote from: ChrissyRyan on September 06, 2024, 02:41:47 PMHow long do these rocks tumble in your machine?
I have three machines running 24/7. The first machine has only one barrel, the other two are double barrels. Each barrel has a 3-lb capacity. So five barrels rolling 15 pounds of rocks.
Typically, each stage is a 7-day cycle. Stage 1 is for shaping and rounding. Then I move it to the next barrel for Stage 2, smoothing. Stages 2-4 are just progressively finer grit (think sandpaper) that removes the scratches from the previous stage. By Stage 4, they are very smooth and are ready for Stage 5, which is the final polish.
On average, that would equal five weeks from start to finish. But for some of the harder stones, like quartz, jaspers, and agates, it can take several cycles through Stage 1 to get them shaped and rounded. I have stones in Stage 3 right now that spent months in Stages 1 & 2.
It is a hobby that requires patience. I just tell myself that I am trying to do in a month what Mother Nature does in hundreds or thousands of years.
Quote from: Lori Dee on September 06, 2024, 03:48:36 PMI have three machines running 24/7. The first machine has only one barrel, the other two are double barrels. Each barrel has a 3-lb capacity. So five barrels rolling 15 pounds of rocks.
Typically, each stage is a 7-day cycle. Stage 1 is for shaping and rounding. Then I move it to the next barrel for Stage 2, smoothing. Stages 2-4 are just progressively finer grit (think sandpaper) that removes the scratches from the previous stage. By Stage 4, they are very smooth and are ready for Stage 5, which is the final polish.
On average, that would equal five weeks from start to finish. But for some of the harder stones, like quartz, jaspers, and agates, it can take several cycles through Stage 1 to get them shaped and rounded. I have stones in Stage 3 right now that spent months in Stages 1 & 2.
It is a hobby that requires patience. I just tell myself that I am trying to do in a month what Mother Nature does in hundreds or thousands of years.
Interesting, that is.
Met with my Gynecologist this morning.
Over the past four years, my estradiol has only gone above 100 three times, and they were not consecutive tests. Now that I have been switched over to injections, My lowest level was 244 and my mid-cycle average is 251. Right at the "sweet spot" where I wanted to be.
The pharmacy ran out of estradiol cypionate and it is back-ordered until next month. So Doc switched my formulation over to estradiol valerate. The only difference is that cypionate has a longer peak level, so a lower dose can achieve the same level. With valerate, it is the equivalent of 0.76% so a slightly higher dose may be needed to achieve the same level. We agreed to hold at the same dose and check labs again in 3 months, then see if a dose adjustment is needed.
She also asked if I noticed any changes now that I am taking my progesterone three times a day (lower dose) rather than once a day. I have no measurable increase in bust measurement. I fluctuate about a 1/4 - 1/2 inch depending on weight gain or loss. However, my breasts have become more shapely and rounded due to the progesterone, so my bras fit better. She asked if I would recommend the 3x daily dose for other transgender women on hormone therapy. I said, "YES! Highly recommended."
Other than that, some small-talk and I see her in three months. Overall, a good visit.
@Lori DeeDear Lori:That is terrific news that you reported about your doctor visit today.
Is sounds to me that between you and your doctor that you are getting the
dosages dialed in.
Thank you sharing and posting.
HUGS, Danielle
Quote from: Northern Star Girl on September 09, 2024, 04:01:15 PM@Lori Dee
Dear Lori:
That is terrific news that you reported about your doctor visit today.
Is sounds to me that between you and your doctor that you are getting the
dosages dialed in.
Thank you sharing and posting.
HUGS, Danielle
Yes, finally. My previous Endocrinologists were set in their ways and not willing to look at recent studies. My Gynecologist told me that transgender medicine is relatively new, so not many studies have been done. Most of the medications we are prescribed are made for women in menopause or men with prostate cancer.
She has an open mind, so when I tell her about a recent study and what I think about it, she is willing to listen. When I explain to her what I know about hormones and why I think ... will be better, she is willing to try with my consent. My other doctors were amused by her quote in my medical records when I told her, "You have informed consent. Let's do this!"
Most providers do not have time to do research or even bother to read studies. It is up to us to be informed and educate them. Over time, we will have providers who have a special situation and can remember something that we told them. Everyone learns and eventually, the prescribing guidelines will change to what works best for us.
I'm so glad you found a doctor who is willing to listen and learn. I think that's why they call it 'practicing' medicine, because they should always be learning. I hope your treatments continue to produce the results you seek.
Love always -- Jess
I hope it all works out too for Lori.
It is good to have a doctor that listens and spends time with you.
I have heard that many are pressed to handle maybe too many patients in a day.
Chrissy
Quote from: ChrissyRyan on September 10, 2024, 04:25:02 AMI have heard that many are pressed to handle maybe too many patients in a day.
That happens a lot, sadly. In the service, we called it "punching cattle". You go in with a broken leg, they hand you a bottle of aspirin, and ... "NEXT!"
In the civilian world, this happens in the big cities where they have many more patients and are often short-staffed. Every time I have heard a complaint about VA Healthcare, it is almost always a large city. Here, the VA has changed policies to ensure they spend enough time answering your questions and addressing your issues. We get surveys after every visit asking about the visit, the staff, the facility, the ease of getting an appointment, waiting times, etc.
I am blessed to have a Gynecologist and nursing staff who volunteered to be the providers for transgender veterans. She has been with the VA as a Gynecologist for many years. A few years ago, she took a hiatus and traveled to Europe to study Transgender Medicine. When she returned, they canceled my appointments with Endocrinology and brought me into the Women's Health Clinic under her care.
She learned a lot and enjoys learning new things that will help her help the next veteran. So if I have to wait in the waiting room longer because the doctors are running late, I do not complain because I know that means a veteran is being taken care of. And someday, I might need a little extra time with the doctor for some reason.
Some people are impatient patients. ;D
Quote from: Lori Dee on September 10, 2024, 09:29:51 AMThat happens a lot, sadly. In the service, we called it "punching cattle". You go in with a broken leg, they hand you a bottle of aspirin, and ... "NEXT!"
In the civilian world, this happens in the big cities where they have many more patients and are often short-staffed. Every time I have heard a complaint about VA Healthcare, it is almost always a large city. Here, the VA has changed policies to ensure they spend enough time answering your questions and addressing your issues. We get surveys after every visit asking about the visit, the staff, the facility, the ease of getting an appointment, waiting times, etc.
I am blessed to have a Gynecologist and nursing staff who volunteered to be the providers for transgender veterans. She has been with the VA as a Gynecologist for many years. A few years ago, she took a hiatus and traveled to Europe to study Transgender Medicine. When she returned, they canceled my appointments with Endocrinology and brought me into the Women's Health Clinic under her care.
She learned a lot and enjoys learning new things that will help her help the next veteran. So if I have to wait in the waiting room longer because the doctors are running late, I do not complain because I know that means a veteran is being taken care of. And someday, I might need a little extra time with the doctor for some reason.
Some people are impatient patients. ;D
So some patients need more patience.
OK, so were you ever reading something and think, "Wait. What the heck did I just read?"
I know it happens a lot on forums and social media but in scientific studies?
I was looking over the report in my medical records authored by my Physical Therapist.
One comment he made was about my spine curvature and he described it as "lumbar lordosis". It is a natural curve of the spine, but too much can cause problems like low back pain, problems walking, etc. Thus my PT stretches and exercises are specifically to correct my lordosis.
Doing a quick internet search on lordosis confirmed the exercises and that I am doing them correctly, but it will take time to fix the problem.
Then I came across a study that says, "... arching the back in women is considered to be a display and reliable signal of sexual receptivity, which is a phylogenetically conserved mechanism across the taxa. This behavior in females of different species elicits male's response through increased attention and copulation attempts, not because animals consider the female attractive, but because the posture signals a female′s sexual receptivity.
The arching of the back causes the buttocks and the belly to stick out. One signals sexual receptivity and the other " signals the ability to successfully support multiple pregnancies."
Link to Study (https://www.mdpi.com/2411-5118/3/1/5)
Moral of the story:
If you have a fat butt and a beer belly, women will think you are attractive and therefore a threat to their relationship because men will think you are hot and will hit on you. It doesn't matter what you look like.
I guess there is hope for all of us. ;D
23 years today, on September 10, 2001, my late wife was reading the local paper.
She asked me, "Did you know that tomorrow is National 911 Day?"
I said, "No, what's that? Are they celebrating 911 Operators?"
She said, "I don't know."
How did she know that? I remember that conversation like it happened yesterday.
I have searched Federal records on "National" holidays and there is no "National 911 Day" before September 11, 2001. I have searched newspaper archives, internet archives, and even the Library of Congress Digital Collections. No mention of any 911 Day before the Twin Towers fell.
There is a National Public Safety Telecommunicators holiday, but that is the second week in April. There is a National First Responders Day in October.
{ insert Twilight Zone theme music }
I can believe this, I mean how can I find water or pipe work or electric cables in the ground with 2 bits of bent wire?
Quote from: davina61 on September 10, 2024, 02:34:09 PMI can believe this, I mean how can I find water or pipe work or electric cables in the ground with 2 bits of bent wire?
I knew a guy who was quite good at "dowsing". He would use two welding rods bent at a 90-degree angle. I have also seen him use a forked tree branch looking for water. He was a well-driller. He would look at hydrology reports to locate the best area, then use a tree branch (usually a Willow) to locate the exact spot to drill. He used the welding rods to locate metal, like underground wires or pipes.
I do not have that skill, so I use my metal detectors. ;D
I went to visit a family friend with my folks at their farm in Wales and he cut a forked stick from the hedge and said see if you can find the under ground water course. Well I had done the wire thing but never the twig, to my surprise it twisted up so hard it nearly jumped out my grasp!!
Very often, during the earliest part of our transition, we wonder what our place in the world really is. We wonder if we will fit in, will we be accepted, and we fear that we could lose everything just by being ourselves.
My first psychologist diagnosed me with Gender Dysphoria and I was very concerned about what that meant. He told me that I should just be who I am.
He said, "It should never be difficult to be yourself."
This is not a new concept. The late, great Sammy Davis, Jr. talked about it in his song,
"I've gotta be me." Give it a listen.
A busy morning today.
I paid the VA the prescription copay for this quarter. A whole $42.07, so no complaints here.
I renewed my vehicle registration on my Jeep. Cost $77.80, then they add another fee if I use a bank transfer, credit or debit card, plus another fee to process said payment. ??? Total of $80.80 but it is better than standing in line for an hour just to pay cash and save $3.
I wasn't sure if I wanted to renew it just yet or not. The plate stickers expire at the end of this month. The Jeep gets paid off next month and I want to get something with at least 6 cylinders. This Jeep has been good to me. The 4-cylinder engine has been very good on gas and is great on flat-level ground. But it can't pull its own weight going up a hill. I drove to Yellowstone a few years ago and climbing the Big Horn Mountains on the highway had the engine screaming trying to maintain 50 mph.
Fortunately, here in South Dakota, you own the plates and they just get transferred to a new vehicle. So mine will already have valid tags, just have to pay the title transfer fees, which a dealership will handle and tack it on to the price of the vehicle.
I got a letter from Dakota Imaging. They have been doing my mammograms (through the VA) every year since 2020. My PCP said that since I have no risk factors, she is switching them to every two years. So the letter was to remind me that it is time for my annual mammogram. No, sorry. Talk to my PCP.
:D They miss my boobs. ;D
Quote from: Lori Dee on September 12, 2024, 02:01:06 PMA busy morning today.
I paid the VA the prescription copay for this quarter. A whole $42.07, so no complaints here.
I renewed my vehicle registration on my Jeep. Cost $77.80, then they add another fee if I use a bank transfer, credit or debit card, plus another fee to process said payment. ??? Total of $80.80 but it is better than standing in line for an hour just to pay cash and save $3.
I wasn't sure if I wanted to renew it just yet or not. The plate stickers expire at the end of this month. The Jeep gets paid off next month and I want to get something with at least 6 cylinders. This Jeep has been good to me. The 4-cylinder engine has been very good on gas and is great on flat-level ground. But it can't pull its own weight going up a hill. I drove to Yellowstone a few years ago and climbing the Big Horn Mountains on the highway had the engine screaming trying to maintain 50 mph.
Fortunately, here in South Dakota, you own the plates and they just get transferred to a new vehicle. So mine will already have valid tags, just have to pay the title transfer fees, which a dealership will handle and tack it on to the price of the vehicle.
I got a letter from Dakota Imaging. They have been doing my mammograms (through the VA) every year since 2020. My PCP said that since I have no risk factors, she is switching them to every two years. So the letter was to remind me that it is time for my annual mammogram. No, sorry. Talk to my PCP.
:D They miss my boobs. ;D
We certainly must take care of our boobs.
Quote from: ChrissyRyan on September 12, 2024, 02:07:57 PMWe certainly must take care of our boobs.
I went through a lot to grow them in the first place. I love them and won't take them for granted. ;)
I know better than to comment on peoples' blogs that grow like bacteria in a petri dish. ;D
Lori... you make rocks look beautiful. Just looking at all those pictures... just reinforces what a beautiful place we live in. There are no ugly rocks. I think that is a metaphor for life. <3
They can make for pretty jewelry.
Quote from: ChrissyRyan on September 12, 2024, 02:25:17 PMThey can make for pretty jewelry.
Uh... like your avatar, Chrissy. What is up with that? Never figured you for a blonde chica. :o
Speaking of, I think I need to change my avatar, although I really like this one.
Quote from: Sephirah on September 12, 2024, 02:28:03 PMUh... like your avatar, Chrissy. What is up with that? Never figured you for a blonde chica. :o
Speaking of, I think I need to change my avatar, although I really like this one.
When I was on vacation I did try on a blonde long hair wig. But I did not buy it.
The story behind that avatar remains a secret for the time being. I put it up only briefly at times.
Chrissy
Quote from: ChrissyRyan on September 12, 2024, 02:51:05 PMWhen I was on vacation I did try on a blonde long hair wig. But I did not buy it.
The story behind that avatar remains a secret for the time being. I put it up only briefly at times.
Chrissy
Please do tell. PM me if you want. <3
Quote from: Sephirah on September 12, 2024, 02:54:44 PMPlease do tell. PM me if you want. <3
I would need to get permission from the creator of that avatar before and IF sharing.
Yes, if I said anything about it, it would be in a PM.
With that said some things are more interesting when they remain a mystery.
Chrissy
Quote from: ChrissyRyan on September 12, 2024, 02:57:51 PMI would need to get permission from the creator of that avatar before and IF sharing.
Yes, if I said anything about it, it would be in a PM.
With that said some things are more interesting when they remain a mystery.
Chrissy
I get that, lol. :P
All good, girl. You are kind of like me with the avatars. ;)
I just received an interesting text message. I get these from time to time and they are from a trusted sender.
"There is a considerable difference between concentrating upon a dream or hope and concentrating upon building that dream into realization."
Sometimes we forget that there is a difference. Don't dream that dream, go build it!
AS Bad Chad says to the youngsters "do you have a dream, then follow that dream and make it real". Bad Chad is a Canadian hot rod and custom builder who now builds cars for himself and earns from his you tube feed, living the dream!
Friday the 13th
Why is Friday the 13th day so fearful?
Some attribute the origins to the Code of Hammurabi, one of the world's oldest legal documents, which may or may not have superstitiously omitted a 13th rule from its list. Others claim that the ancient Sumerians, who believed the number 12 to be a "perfect" number, considered the one that followed it decidedly non-perfect.
One of the most popular theories, however, links Friday the 13th with the fall of a fearsome group of legendary warriors—the Knights Templar.
Founded around 1118 as a monastic military order devoted to the protection of pilgrims traveling to the Holy Land following the Christian capture of Jerusalem during the First Crusade, the Knights Templar quickly became one of the richest and most influential groups of the Middle Ages, thanks to lavish donations from the crowned heads of Europe, eager to curry favor with the fierce Knights. By the turn of the 14th century, the Templars had established a system of castles, churches and banks throughout Western Europe. And it was this astonishing wealth that would lead to their downfall.
For the Templars, that end began in the early morning hours of Friday, October 13, 1307.
History.com - Why Friday the 13th Spelled Doom for the Knights Templar (https://www.history.com/news/why-friday-the-13th-spelled-doom-for-the-knights-templar)
A bit like Monty Python, no one expects the Spanish Inquisition But they were forewarned and hid and moved a lot of treasure, see the curse of oak island .
And they are still searching on Oak Island Davina. They made more money on the show than the treasure. Still fun to watch and fast forward as need. :D
I managed to survive grocery shopping at Wally World.
I picked up a few supplies, but I mostly wanted a bigger pot for my Money Tree. It has been doing well but I want to re-pot it before winter. Money Trees are tropical so are picky about humidity, temperature, too much light, not enough light, too much water, etc.
My window is north-facing so it doesn't get direct sunlight and is doing well there. But in winter when we get more gray than sunlight, it will go dormant. I want to ensure it has had time to get its roots settled in before that happens.
Walmart has begun its usual holiday remodeling. The Halloween stuff is going out. Nobody cares about Thanksgiving. The Garden Center gets completely emptied and filled with Christmas decor. So... no pots, no potting soil, and maybe a garden hose or two are still left.
Dashed over to Menards where the Garden Shop is still fully stocked (11% Rebate on everything) and found a pot and some cactus potting soil. Money Trees love plenty of water but the soil must drain very well or root rot will set in. I have some Money Tree potting soil from a commercial grower, but it seems to hold the moisture too well. So I will mix the Money Tree soil with some cactus soil, and that should ensure proper drainage.
The sun is pretty bright today, so it looks dark in my apartment, but here is my Money Tree.
(https://i.imgur.com/lMmYlDx.jpeg)
When I got it, it was delivered as five "sticks" in a pot about twice the size of a large coffee mug. It is actually five trees. The trunks are typically braided together. The greenhouse that I ordered from just used a rubber band around the roots and a metal wire twist tie for the trunks. I cut those off. It seems like the poor plant was being strangled.
After this repotting, I won't need a new pot for two or three years. You can't braid the trunks when they turn brown because those are more woody. The green stalks can be braided because they are very flexible. Since the base is not braided, I'm not sure what I might do with the upper stalks.
@Lori Dee Dear Lori:I will be eagerly looking for future photos showing the progression of
your Money Tree growth.... let me know when it starts blossoming
with $100 bills... I will be right over to help you prune your Money Tree.
Thank you for sharing and posting.HUGS, Danielle [Northern Star Girl]
@Northern Star Girl,
Strangely enough, I have a lot of people volunteering to help with the harvest. ;D
Some facts about money trees:
Symbol of Good Fortune: In East Asian cultures, the tree is believed to bring good luck and fortune, particularly in financial matters. This belief is rooted in Feng Shui, where the plant is thought to create positive energy ('Chi').
Placing a money tree plant in an area where you deal with money, such as a business or home office, is thought to summon good luck and good fortune. And, to make the plant's supposed powers even stronger, money trees are also often adorned with additional luck-bringing symbols, such as coins and red ribbons.
The story is that a man from Taiwan was initially down on his luck, and he discovered the money tree, took it home, and soon started cultivating more trees. Eventually, he started selling the trees and made a fortune. This tale is one of the reasons why money trees are so popular, especially in locations such as East Asia.
"And now you know the rest of the story." - Paul Harvey
I just called my uncle to wish him a happy birthday.
We talked for a bit and I could hear some commotion in the background.
He said his buddies just delivered his birthday present... 81 cans of beer!
I suggested that he pace himself, no need to drink them all today.
He assured me that none would be wasted, but he would feel bad if he allowed them to get stale.
I am glad I called early enough that we could talk.
Later, I suspect he might not be able to hold his phone. ;D
You probably called just in time!
Chrissy
Here in Jeju island, S. Korea, there are wild plants called 'money tree' (Pittosporum tobira), which I think is different from the 'Money Tree' (Pachira aquatica). In East Asia, only S. Korea calls P. tobira as money tree, and others call P. aquatica as money tree.
https://en.namu.wiki/w/%EB%8F%88%EB%82%98%EB%AC%B4
Cheers,
barbie~~
Quote from: barbie on September 14, 2024, 04:35:16 PMHere in Jeju island, S. Korea, there are wild plants called 'money tree' (Pittosporum tobira), which I think is different from the 'Money Tree' (Pachira aquatica). In East Asia, only S. Korea calls P. tobira as money tree, and others call P. aquatica as money tree.
https://en.namu.wiki/w/%EB%8F%88%EB%82%98%EB%AC%B4
Cheers,
barbie~~
Yes, I have seen pictures of both. Mine is the
Aquatica and can grow to 5 feet tall. The others, we call them money tree plants, but they are beautiful too. I might need to plant some of those around the base of my tree. Maybe I will get more money! :laugh:
Rock tumblers have been cleaned out and the stones reloaded with borax and water. They will run through the cleaning cycle (some call it burnishing) overnight. Tomorrow they will get rinsed off and inspected. Those that are not ready will go back for more tumbling. Those that pass inspection will go into the ultrasonic jewelry cleaner to get them ready for picture time. :)
Quote from: Lori Dee on September 14, 2024, 05:22:24 PMRock tumblers have been cleaned out and the stones reloaded with borax and water. They will run through the cleaning cycle (some call it burnishing) overnight. Tomorrow they will get rinsed off and inspected. Those that are not ready will go back for more tumbling. Those that pass inspection will go into the ultrasonic jewelry cleaner to get them ready for picture time. :)
How much does all of this rock polishing equipment and related supplies cost?
How much for a basic hobbyist rock polishing setup and related supplies?
Chrissy
Quote from: ChrissyRyan on September 14, 2024, 05:27:15 PMHow much does all of this rock polishing equipment and related supplies cost?
How much for a basic hobbyist rock polishing setup and related supplies?
Chrissy
You can find a hobby-level machine for under $100. They will usually come with basic grit and some sample rocks to polish. It is a great way to get interested without a huge expense. The grit is usually substandard though, so the rocks don't come out looking as good as they could. What they call Stage 4 or polish is not polish. It is more like a pre-polish. You can always buy a better polish.
The next step up is to use the hobby machine but buy better grit and polish. I get my supplies from The Rock Shed. They have a great reputation among the tumbling community nationwide, and they are local to me. Located in Keystone, SD the home of Mount Rushmore.
Once you are fully addicted like most of us, you will want to get a professional-grade machine. The Rock Shed sells some or you can even get the Chicago Electric brand from your local Harbor Freight store. I have one of those, plus two others, so... yeah... I'm invested in this a bit.
My goal is to use good weather to collect local rocks and polish them. Then when the snow flies, make jewelry and sell it on my Etsy store to recover the costs. So far, I am still in the collect and polish phase. ;D
Quote from: Lori Dee on September 14, 2024, 05:42:44 PMYou can find a hobby-level machine for under $100. They will usually come with basic grit and some sample rocks to polish. It is a great way to get interested without a huge expense. The grit is usually substandard though, so the rocks don't come out looking as good as they could. What they call Stage 4 or polish is not polish. It is more like a pre-polish. You can always buy a better polish.
The next step up is to use the hobby machine but buy better grit and polish. I get my supplies from The Rock Shed. They have a great reputation among the tumbling community nationwide, and they are local to me. Located in Keystone, SD the home of Mount Rushmore.
Once you are fully addicted like most of us, you will want to get a professional-grade machine. The Rock Shed sells some or you can even get the Chicago Electric brand from your local Harbor Freight store. I have one of those, plus two others, so... yeah... I'm invested in this a bit.
My goal is to use good weather to collect local rocks and polish them. Then when the snow flies, make jewelry and sell it on my Etsy store to recover the costs. So far, I am still in the collect and polish phase. ;D
Thanks for all that information.
Chrissy
Mum has "green fingers" as everything in pots in her house flourishes, window sill in her kitchen is full and the Christmas cactus is huge.
I am fascinated by the whole rock polishing thing. Do the tumblers draw much electric?
I finished repotting my Money Tree. It has been returned to her spot in the window and seems to be happy with the whole arrangement.
(https://i.imgur.com/3ElYnMb.jpeg)
Next up on my "Things To Do And Say" List was to finish rinsing all the rocks and get the next cycle back into the tumblers. They are rolling, so that part is done.
The batch that is finished polishing has some interesting pieces.
(https://i.imgur.com/loQRvAy.jpeg)
Some close-up shots of the cool features:
(https://i.imgur.com/21bk6FB.jpeg)
I have shown quite a few of these from Teepee Canyon, with their signature fiery reds and oranges. If you click on the picture, you can zoom in and see the color formations in more detail. This is both sides of the same stone:
(https://i.imgur.com/QSwt5Uo.jpeg)(https://i.imgur.com/phYSrCV.jpeg)
As the weather cools down, the tourists go home and the locals don't venture out that far. That is the time when I like to go back to Teepee Canyon and collect all the stuff they missed. Then I head south to the Fairburn Agate Beds and do the same thing to restock my supplies.
This is a piece of Bubblegum Agate from the Fairburn Beds.
(https://i.imgur.com/ApIlse0.jpeg)
My mining buddy found a rock out by Fairburn (near the Badlands) that looked exactly like a potato. I thought it was a potato and she was pulling a prank. It really was a rock, but too big to put in the tumbler. With her permission I "belittled" it with a 3-lb sledgehammer. Some of the pieces have been tumbling for months, but it has some cool colors inside.
(https://i.imgur.com/3ItB7BO.jpeg)
Another piece of Dawn's Potato Rock:
(https://i.imgur.com/DZuPVoy.jpeg)
A piece of Bubblegum Agate that revealed some kind of alien skin.
(https://i.imgur.com/8yDHbLr.jpeg)
A piece of jasper from Teepee Canyon.
(https://i.imgur.com/xpg3aMI.jpeg)
A Teepee Agate, both sides.
(https://i.imgur.com/YKUaCga.jpeg)(https://i.imgur.com/KTknurM.jpeg)
At first, I thought this was just "dirty" quartz until I shined a light through it. It is Dendritic Agate. The red dendrites are likely hematite, a form of iron oxide that looks red.
(https://i.imgur.com/XQYFzlQ.jpeg)(https://i.imgur.com/3Vaxb6v.jpeg)
For comparison, here is a piece of "dirty" quartz. Notice the inclusions are close to the surface, whereas dendrites run throughout the stone.
(https://i.imgur.com/U9NaJFW.jpeg)(https://i.imgur.com/W4lD7XU.jpeg)
A piece of green Aventurine. The only green stone in the batch.
(https://i.imgur.com/ceWLVOo.jpeg)
Tic-Tac-Toe anyone? Quartz crystals often have fractures, sometimes multiple fractures that run parallel due to the force that caused the fracture. But two sets of fractures at 90 degrees to each other is not very common. I like the light pink color of Rose Quartz, our state gemstone.
(https://i.imgur.com/tcZwzwH.jpeg)(https://i.imgur.com/0BPAh2m.jpeg)
Sometimes when I am hunting for Rose Quartz, I find some clear pieces that look like ice.
(https://i.imgur.com/MuQzHge.jpeg)(https://i.imgur.com/G30jgxz.jpeg)
And finally, a piece of local chalcedony that has a nice purple hue. It looks very different under UV light.
(https://i.imgur.com/Z03HtAU.jpeg)
Quote from: Gina P on September 15, 2024, 08:25:22 AMI am fascinated by the whole rock polishing thing. Do the tumblers draw much electric?
@Gina P cc: @Lori DeeDear Gina:Smaller rock tumblers aimed for "home or hobby use" DO NOT draw very much electricity...
...roughly ½ amp.... perhaps about the same a small table top fan
or a 60 watt, or maybe 75 watt incandescent light bulb.
Lori Dee might have a better answer for you.HUGS, Danielle [Northern Star Girl]
Quote from: Gina P on September 15, 2024, 08:25:22 AMI am fascinated by the whole rock polishing thing. Do the tumblers draw much electric?
Your rocks turned out nicely Lori.
Some cool rocks, that will keep you occupied for a bit making the settings!
So. much. beauty.
Quote from: Northern Star Girl on September 16, 2024, 06:04:14 PM@Gina P cc: @Lori Dee
Dear Gina:
Smaller rock tumblers aimed for "home or hobby use" DO NOT draw very much electricity...
...roughly ½ amp.... perhaps about the same a small table top fan
or a 60 watt, or maybe 75 watt incandescent light bulb.
Lori Dee might have a better answer for you.
HUGS, Danielle [Northern Star Girl]
Quite accurate. Some tumblers are DC voltage, so they have an AC adapter like your phone charger. Some are AC-powered so they plug right into an outlet. I have two DC machines and one AC. When I added the third machine my electric bill went down (I have no idea why).
As Danielle said, the current draw is minimal. If you need to save enough electricity to run your tumblers, just turn off your computer and unplug it before going to bed. Turn off all lights and unplug all unused appliances. By doing that, you could easily power three rock tumblers with no change in your electric bill.
All three of my machines run 3-lb barrels. Some machines are designed to tumble 12-, 15-, or even 40 lbs at a time. Those will draw some power and are always AC-powered.
There was a gal in one of my online Rock Tumbling Clubs who owned a 40-lb machine and was asking for assistance. Everyone kept asking her, "What are you going to do with 40 pounds of polished rocks?"
Her answer: "Look at them."
Quote from: Lori Dee on September 17, 2024, 04:53:24 PMQuite accurate. Some tumblers are DC voltage, so they have an AC adapter like your phone charger. Some are AC-powered so they plug right into an outlet. I have two DC machines and one AC.
So when you tumble, you go both ways?
Love always -- Jess
Quote from: Jessica_Rose on September 17, 2024, 05:19:49 PMSo when you tumble, you go both ways?
Love always -- Jess
At the same time!
24/7 ;D
Friday 13th is like my lucky day lol. I had a mail from the NHS saying the mass behind my eye wasn't (as I always assumed it was) a "brain tuna." It was just a massively painful abscess. So I'm not going to suddenly die. I'd call that a win. :D
I had a wonderful eye doctor appointment today.
So now my eyes are dilated and I look like some cartoon character with eyes the size of saucers. I am sitting in my darkened apartment wearing dark sunglasses... only because I am that cool.
The downside is that I can't see my keyboard, so my spellchecker is very confused trying to figure out what I am typing and do I really want to add those words to my dictionary.
My prescription has been stable for a couple of years now, so tomorrow I go shopping for a pair of titanium lightweights.
@Jessica_Rose gave me the idea and now I can't wait to get some. The VA has a very small collection of free "birth-control" glass frames. If you are not familiar with the term... if you wear those, stay home because you are not getting lucky wearing those ugly things. But free is free.
Instead, we have a place here in Rapid City whose store looks like a warehouse. They have every kind of frame you can imagine, and they have a lab on-site, so no long wait to get your glasses. I'll be bringing my Fashion Advisor, aka Mining Buddy and Best Friend, for final approval.
During the appointment, I discussed some issues that I would like addressed. When I had my eye surgery, the scars below my eyes are quite noticeable unless I bury them in makeup. There is a vein that mysteriously appeared there as well. I also have a skin tag on my eyelid that my dermatologist said she can't fix because it is on top of my eyeball. The surgery also resulted in my eyelashes not growing as thick as I like.
She is referring me to a non-VA local surgeon to see about correcting the scars, skin tag, and bulging vein. For lashes, the only FDA-approved product is Latisse. It is a glaucoma medication that has the interesting side-effect of growing lashes. The VA considers that a "cosmetic" product, so does not stock it in its formulary.
I pointed out that since I am transgender, this could be a "medical necessity" to help relieve my dysphoria. She agreed. Also, the VA covers "all corrective or revision procedures" even if the VA did not do the original surgery. So it looks like I'm in like Flynn. Since the VA does not stock the product and therefore cannot prescribe Latisse for me, she included in a note to the non-VA surgeon that if he prescribes it through a local pharmacy, the VA will cover it as included in his "corrective procedures".
I am feeling pretty happy with this so far. Hopefully, no one will drop the ball on this. I would kill to have nice long and full natural lashes. Anything close to the false lashes I have worn in my profile pics, and I will be doing a happy dance! :eusa_dance:
Maybe your eyes and lashes will be the most beautiful ones found in your state soon!
Some women who wear glasses are stunningly good looking in their avatars. Kelly here is one of them. I probably should not have said that as there is a risk of omitting names on a list, like, what is wrong with me that you did not mention me? She is simply one lady that comes to mind first.
Chrissy
Quote from: ChrissyRyan on September 18, 2024, 04:30:49 PMMaybe your eyes and lashes will be the most beautiful ones found in your state soon!
Some women who wear glasses are stunningly good looking in their avatars. Kelly here is one of them. I probably should not have said that as there is a risk of omitting names on a list, like, what is wrong with me that you did not mention me? She is simply one lady that comes to mind first.
Chrissy
I usually just wear glasses for reading. I am supposed to wear them all the time, but they are just too heavy. I have an old pair that are very light and the bows are rubberized so they don't slide off your head. I wear those when I am gold panning. I asked if the VA would just replace the lenses in those frames as my old eye doctor did. Nope. The government has a contract with some mail-order company and you get what they order.
I wouldn't mind wearing them often if they were lightweight and fit properly. My neighbors would appreciate me not crashing into them in the hallway too. I was petting the neighbor's dog and telling him he was a good boy. The dad told me to get away from his kid. (Just joking) ;D
Quote from: Lori Dee on September 18, 2024, 04:44:01 PMI usually just wear glasses for reading. I am supposed to wear them all the time, but they are just too heavy. I have an old pair that are very light and the bows are rubberized so they don't slide off your head. I wear those when I am gold panning. I asked if the VA would just replace the lenses in those frames as my old eye doctor did. Nope. The government has a contract with some mail-order company and you get what they order.
I wouldn't mind wearing them often if they were lightweight and fit properly. My neighbors would appreciate me not crashing into them in the hallway too. I was petting the neighbor's dog and telling him he was a good boy. The dad told me to get away from his kid. (Just joking) ;D
There are some inexpensive frames at WalMart. I mean, they are under $20 and lightweight.
Quote from: ChrissyRyan on September 18, 2024, 04:54:02 PMThere are some inexpensive frames at WalMart. I mean, they are under $20 and lightweight.
The same issue of limited selection. Trying to find women's frames that fit my big head is a challenge. I can go with large frames so I look like George Burns or Sally Jessy Raphael, but I can get those free. I want something that is less like a plastic window holder and more like a piece of face jewelry. I may spend a bit on them since it will be all out of pocket, but if they are nice it will be worth it. If Jessica hadn't been wearing hers, I might have snatched them. ;D
Quote from: Lori Dee on September 18, 2024, 05:00:56 PMThe same issue of limited selection. Trying to find women's frames that fit my big head is a challenge. I can go with large frames so I look like George Burns or Sally Jessy Raphael, but I can get those free. I want something that is less like a plastic window holder and more like a piece of face jewelry. I may spend a bit on them since it will be all out of pocket, but if they are nice it will be worth it. If Jessica hadn't been wearing hers, I might have snatched them. ;D
Lori,
I do not think you have a big head. You are so humble.
Physically your head is just right.
You have a good head on your shoulders.
Let me give you a heads up: You will find the frames you want.
Chrissy
Quote from: Lori Dee on March 20, 2024, 09:28:53 PM@imallie
Thanks, Allie!
I am in the process of learning how to make wire-wrap jewelry with them. Not all of them are jewelry-grade, or the right size, so I have some in a candy dish and others in small bowls. Most will become either necklace pendants or possibly keychains.
Rough Stones to Jewelry (https://imgur.com/a/rX0k4Ho)
Hugs!
My wife would love you. We prob have over 2000 in crystals that she has bought over the years, mostly from Sedona, but now we're finding better places to shop online, way better prices.
Quote from: Robbyv213 on September 18, 2024, 05:46:59 PMMy wife would love you. We prob have over 2000 in crystals that she has bought over the years, mostly from Sedona, but now we're finding better places to shop online, way better prices.
I have never bought any crystals, but I have found some nice calcite crystal clusters. One is on a slab of dolomite and the crystals have a nice peach color. I have photos on my website under Photo Albums, then Teepee Canyon, SD. I also have them listed for sale in my Etsy store. I won't link it here, but the link is on my website. ;)
I received a copy of a sample ballot for South Dakota. The state released it early so that voters can see what measures will be on the ballot. This gives them time to study the issue, do some research, or whatever so they know how they will vote when they see that measure on the ballot at the polls.
This ballot has some interesting things on it.
One measure will change the State Constitution so that all existing male pronouns (he, him, etc.) are replaced with the title of the person specified. So instead of saying "he will.." it will say, "The Governor will ..." and so on.
Also, a measure to change the State Constitution to specify a right to abortion. There are other measures that we have been fighting long and hard for that are coming up for a vote again, like repealing the sales tax on food items, decriminalizing possession of marijuana, and so forth.
The ballot also provides for voting for the electors who will vote for President. We don't vote directly for who we want in the highest office but instead, vote for the people who will vote for them. These people are called electors and together they make up the Electoral College. What I found interesting, is this note from the government archives website:
The U.S. Constitution contains very few provisions relating to the qualifications of electors. Article II, section 1, clause 2 provides that no Senator or Representative, or Person holding an Office of Trust or Profit under the United States, shall be appointed an elector. ~ National Archives (https://www.archives.gov/electoral-college/electors).
That makes sense. Usually, the Party selects senior party members to be the electors. That also seems ok. But then I saw this: (my notes in red)
(https://i.imgur.com/3wFFlLu.jpeg)
So my question is, are they trying to pull a sneaky trick on us voters?
Or is this perfectly legal?
Maybe the implication is that the highest offices in our state government are not an "Office of Trust" as specified in the U.S. Constitution. I know that I don't trust them.
The other question I have is in regards to Initiated Measure 29, Legalizing Marijuana. The text explains what the new law will allow and what it won't. It all looks good until you get down to the Fiscal Note where they explain how this will affect the State budget. It says, "... as the measure will not decriminalize the sale of cannabis... ". Hmmm
The law makes it legal to possess and consume for any purpose up to two ounces of marijuana. But it remains illegal to sell it. Are the cannabis dispensaries going to give it away for free? The law does allow you to grow your own (up to 12 plants), but where am I supposed to acquire two ounces if I can't buy it? Maybe if I wandered into a dispensary and "found" a couple of ounces regularly, I could make a "donation" to the dispensary because the cashier has a nice smile. ;)
The end result will not affect me because I live in a drug-free zone. The property management has a zero-tolerance policy on any drugs without a prescription, but that policy does not allow medical marijuana on the property. Maybe that policy will change if the law gets voted in again. Or maybe Kristi Noem will issue another Executive Order to sue the People and have the vote declared "Unconstitutional" again. (No lie, she really did this.)
Your system is screwed up!! I mean nothing like that happens in the UK-----------
I do sarcasm as well!
I always wonder how pot can be legal in many states but illegal on the federal level?? Strange country we live in.
Lori,
It is legal. They hold state office, not an office of the United States. The states are sovereign entities that are separate from the United States. This is the same principle that allows the federal government to try a person for the same act that they were found not guilty on in a state court.
Ellen
Quote from: EllenW on September 19, 2024, 06:43:12 AMIt is legal. They hold state office, not an office of the United States.
I assumed that was the case. But I still hold that they are not an "Office of Trust". ;D
Quote from: Lori Dee on September 19, 2024, 10:10:43 AMI assumed that was the case. But I still hold that they are not an "Office of Trust". ;D
What political office is on of trust? Now days I am not sure one exists anymore
Ellen
Just met one of my new neighbors. The family moved in at the beginning of the month, so I had seen them around. One of them seemed like they wanted to talk, but never had a chance.
Today I was out putting my new stickers on my license plate. They are parked next to me so we were able to chat. Her name is Violet and she is transgender. She is very nice and we chatted for a couple of hours. She knows she has an ally and someone she can talk to. She has not started medical transition yet, due to paperwork for a disability claim. It is nice to have a fellow member in our small community.
OK, I did my part. Now it's up to the rest of the country.
Today was the first day of Early Voting in South Dakota, Minnesota, and Virginia.
I already had my Absentee Ballot so I hand-delivered it. Not taking any risks that the post office will "lose" it somewhere between my home and ten blocks away to the Secretary of State's Office. ;D
I wonder if many people think that politicians say what they they voters want to hear so they can get elected (to paraphrase Bernie Sanders recently said of one candidate) then after they get elected their main focus is to become reelected.
What about their responsibilities of serving the public? Is not that why they got elected?
Chrissy
From my own personal experience, they will say anything to get into office. Once there, all they care about is staying there.
I supposedly have a City Council member, a Mayor, a County Commissioner, a Governor, ONE Representative in Congress, and two Senators elected to represent me. The only time they have ever contacted me was to ask for money and ask for votes. Never once did they ever ask what they could do for me. I have had a few letter-writing battles where I questioned their proposals as unconstitutional. They responded with BS, so I challenged them to a public debate on the issue. No one has accepted.
I wonder how many we send to Washington come out very rich, they cannot have done that easily on their own salaries. Maybe they could if there for a long time or were already rich.
They seem to have a really good retirement plan and health care plan.
Interesting I received a ballot (primary) in nj for my dead name and one for my new name. I wonder who updates these things.
Quote from: Gina P on September 21, 2024, 06:35:50 AMInteresting I received a ballot (primary) in nj for my dead name and one for my new name. I wonder who updates these things.
Mine was in my correct name, but I had the wrong ballot. I didn't pay attention and had filled out a sample ballot. When I took it to the county auditor they said it was no problem and I was not the first. They just had me fill out a regular ballot on the spot. The mail-in (absentee ballots) were mailed out yesterday, so I may get another in the mail.
Lori if I can jump into your blog for a moment. I recently wrote this and thought it fit here:
As of 2022, estimates for the total percentage of U.S. adults who are transgender or nonbinary range from 0.5% to 1.6%. According to the 2020 US Census, 258.3 million were adults. That's 1,291,500 to 4,132,800 LGBTQ adults who are eligible to vote this November.
We need to make sure that everyone in the LGBTQ community votes and also we need to get our supporting family and allies to vote as well.
Thank you Lori for voting!!!!!!!!!!!!
Quote from: Emma1017 on September 21, 2024, 10:43:55 AMLori if I can jump into your blog for a moment. I recently wrote this and thought it fit here:
As of 2022, estimates for the total percentage of U.S. adults who are transgender or nonbinary range from 0.5% to 1.6%. According to the 2020 US Census, 258.3 million were adults. That's 1,291,500 to 4,132,800 LGBTQ adults who are eligible to vote this November.
We need to make sure that everyone in the LGBTQ community votes and also we need to get our supporting family and allies to vote as well.
Thank you Lori for voting!!!!!!!!!!!!
Those numbers are close to what I had heard too. Total LGBTQ+ are just above 1% of the population and Transgender people are just over 0.5% so roughly half of all LGBTQ+.
It is also estimated that there are just less than 150,000 transgender veterans, (144,000 at last count). And all of us are being discriminated against by the Department of Veterans Affairs.
If Trump gets in (not likely), I'll need to get a passport and find a new country to live in. If Harris gets in, I will start a letter-writing campaign congratulating President Harris and asking her to order the VA to change their policy like Biden ordered the Department of Defense.
Wouldn't that be something for the White House to receive 150,000+ letters of congratulations and ask her to stop the discrimination? I bet FOX News won't report on that. ;D
Hope is so strong in the transgender community. We are also pretty tough after all we have been through.
I think Portugal would be a great LGBTQ oasis.
Quote from: davina61 on September 19, 2024, 03:20:42 AMYour system is screwed up!! I mean nothing like that happens in the UK-----------
I do sarcasm as well!
Yeah it actually is though. It's not sarcasm. I saw the travesty of a debate the two candidates had... because it's only ever two candidates.
I like Kamala and I hope she wins but... from what I saw, If she wins, it will only be because everyone finally realises what a nutcase Trump is. She isn't strong. It felt like most of the time she had no idea what was going on. Like being in a Hollywood B-movie. She won't win the election. Trump will lose it... again. The democrats don't have anyone out there enough to touch him. Which may be a good thing for the rest of the world... but literally half the US is as mental as he is... or he wouldn't have got in last time. Just sayin'.
Most other countries wouldn't let someone run for office if they've been convicted of one (or more) crimes. This is actually the best you folks can come up with?
Early voting has started in some parts of the USA for the office of President of the United States. I am unsure where.
The election always comes around the time of my birthday. November 2nd. Probably gonna stay up all night to see just how screwed you folks and the rest of the world are. ;D
Quote from: Emma1017 on September 21, 2024, 05:57:32 PMHope is so strong in the transgender community. We are also pretty tough after all we have been through.
I think Portugal would be a great LGBTQ oasis.
I would love to visit the Azores. The last remnants of Atlantis!
Quote from: Sephirah on September 21, 2024, 06:15:56 PMThe election always comes around the time of my birthday. November 2nd. Probably gonna stay up all night to see just how screwed you folks and the rest of the world are. ;D
And we thank you for your support! :-*
Quote from: Lori Dee on September 21, 2024, 08:02:46 PMAnd we thank you for your support! :-*
I believe in you all, Lori. I think you will all do the right thing. The rest of the world is counting on you. <3
Quote from: Sephirah on September 21, 2024, 08:13:18 PMI believe in you all, Lori. I think you will all do the right thing. The rest of the world is counting on you. <3
It's like that song...
What the world needs now...
Is more ammo... oh, no it's Love, Sweet Love. ;D
Lol. ;D
I've talked to a number of... what's the right term... "Trumpists"? "Trumpites"? "Trumpophiles"? And it all comes down to "well you weren't here, he made our country better... apparently." I mean maybe, I don't live there. So I can't comment on that. Maybe he did. But what I can say with 100% certainty is that when he was president... no one in the rest of the world took the US seriously. And most of the rest of the world is scared of him because we feel like it's giving a 5 year old a big red button and telling them not to push it. There are countries in the world literally coming up with emergency protocols for what to do if that dude gets back in power. That's how little the rest of the world thinks of him... in spite of what he pretends. :P
Quote from: Sephirah on September 21, 2024, 08:24:28 PMLol. ;D
I've talked to a number of... what's the right term... "Trumpists"? "Trumpites"? "Trumpophiles"? And it all comes down to "well you weren't here, he made our country better... apparently." I mean maybe, I don't live there. So I can't comment on that. Maybe he did. But what I can say with 100% certainty is that when he was president... no one in the rest of the world took the US seriously. And most of the rest of the world is scared of him because we feel like it's giving a 5 year old a big red button and telling them not to push it. There are countries in the world literally coming up with emergency protocols for what to do if that dude gets back in power. That's how little the rest of the world thinks of him... in spite of what he pretends. :P
I remember when he and his
Maggots ... MAGAists made fun of Biden when he would stutter. At least he wasn't as insane as some of the things I have heard recently from the right.
Quote from: Lori Dee on September 21, 2024, 08:41:54 PMI remember when he and his Maggots ... MAGAists made fun of Biden when he would stutter. At least he wasn't as insane as some of the things I have heard recently from the right.
Yeah because the guy decided to not have a retirement but come back just to protect the world from that orange lunatic. To be fair to Joe, he should be watching daytime soaps and having a cute nurse come to change his bed pans. He should not have had to put himself in that position. He should not have even had to run. To be fair, neither of them should. They are both over 70. Trump is 78 years old. Like... why? Why is it so hard to have a president that's like 50 or less? The only thing keeping Trump going is his penchant for hookers... alledgedly.
No other country in the civilised world does this, lol.
But you buy the presidency, its all down to who has the bucks.
They both seem to have access to lots of funds.
It is more than money though to get elected but it is also required.
They need the votes obviously. One can argue if some votes are bought with promises, access, and favors.
Chrissy
If you look around the world, there are too many autocrats running countries. We don't need to add the US to the list.
At the beginning of the year I wanted to make a flag that said, "2024 IS THIS THE BEST WE GOT?"
I want to ask the MAGA people when was America great? In the 1950s when racism was institutionalized, gays were arrested, transgender people were committed to mental wards, and misogyny was an accepted way of life?
Quote from: davina61 on September 22, 2024, 02:44:08 AMBut you buy the presidency, its all down to who has the bucks.
A bit harsh, I hope ;D. Last time Trump was elected, Russia got blamed. Perhaps this time we can rely on China ;).
Quote from: davina61 on September 22, 2024, 02:44:08 AMBut you buy the presidency, its all down to who has the bucks.
Quote from: MaryT on September 22, 2024, 12:59:42 PMA bit harsh, I hope ;D. Last time Trump was elected, Russia got blamed. Perhaps this time we can rely on China ;).
Or, perhaps, Russian member Alice Vesh will be right again:
Quote from: Alice V on May 13, 2019, 12:38:41 PM,,,
Oh, dammit, there's already rumors about us choosing new president of the USA ;D
Quote from: Emma1017 on September 22, 2024, 08:02:21 AMIf you look around the world, there are too many autocrats running countries. We don't need to add the US to the list.
At the beginning of the year I wanted to make a flag that said, "2024 IS THIS THE BEST WE GOT?"
I want to ask the MAGA people when was America great? In the 1950s when racism was institutionalized, gays were arrested, transgender people were committed to mental wards, and misogyny was an accepted way of life?
No, see... that's the saddest thing. 95% of the American folks I've had the pleasure of getting to know, to understand, to form friendships with... America has ALWAYS been great. We rib at each other across the pond but... don't sell yourself short. It isn't about making America great again. It's about embracing what makes you folks great in the first place. And it's not backwards views on stuff that most countries have. Blaming other people for stuff. We all do that.
What makes America great is... honestly it's your optimism. It's your belief that no matter who you are, you can always be better. It's the core of the American Dream. It's the steadfast assertion that you can come from nowhere, and go somewhere. It's the encouragement you have for people. To want to lift folks up to be better. I know that hasn't exactly shone through lately with how disillusioned a lot of folks there are with the world... but you folks are some of the best at being inclusive, encouraging, and uplifting out of probably anyone. You just need to convince half your country that this is who you are, and why it's a good thing.
I know it is, everyone else in the world who has had relations with the US knows it is. You have been known for doing the greatest, most amazing things.
Making America Great Again is just a case of realising and embracing what made America great in the first place. And the reason countries like the UK has had such a close, special relationship with you folks for so long. Where the Queen, for the first time ever, broke tradition and had the changing of the guard play the US national anthem in solidarity on 9/11.
You are already great. You just need to shake off the hatemongering. I honestly believe that. :)
Too serious of conversations going on here.
Take a break.
Austin Powers tent scene. If you say you did not laugh, I will not believe it.
https://youtu.be/oK2oR73TGP8
Your regularly scheduled conversations now continue.... HAHA
Nope, doesn't do it for me. Sorry, Chrissy. :P
This, on the other hand...
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mF629C5WRqU
Quote from: Sephirah on September 23, 2024, 05:01:42 PMNope, doesn't do it for me. Sorry, Chrissy. :P
This, on the other hand...
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mF629C5WRqU
Okay!
Well I hijacked your thread Lori. I guess I have been a naughty girl.
Chrissy
Quote from: ChrissyRyan on September 23, 2024, 05:06:27 PMWell I hijacked your thread Lori. I guess I have been a naughty girl.
Chrissy
Do you need a spanking? ;) ;D
Just to say one last thing on this, then I'll shut up. Do you know that you folks in the US have sovereign territory in the UK. The Queen gifted land to the US for a memorial to one of your greatest ever presidents. Someone who... got it. There's a little part of America in green and pleasant England. :)
I never knew this till recently... but this is what happens when we all work together...
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0g2AWLJfAY0
Quote from: ChrissyRyan on September 23, 2024, 04:56:42 PMToo serious of conversations going on here.
Take a break.
Austin Powers tent scene. If you say you did not laugh, I will not believe it.
https://youtu.be/oK2oR73TGP8
I really tried not to laugh, just to prove you wrong. I failed.
Quote from: Sephirah on September 23, 2024, 05:01:42 PMNope, doesn't do it for me. Sorry, Chrissy. :P
This, on the other hand...
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mF629C5WRqU
That made me laugh too. Perhaps I'm
schizophenic shizophrenic schizofhrenic Perhaps I have a split personality.
Quote from: Sephirah on September 23, 2024, 05:10:01 PMJust to say one last thing on this, then I'll shut up. Do you know that you folks in the US have sovereign territory in the UK. The Queen gifted land to the US for a memorial to one of your greatest ever presidents. Someone who... got it. There's a little part of America in green and pleasant England. :)
I never knew this till recently... but this is what happens when we all work together...
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0g2AWLJfAY0
If I sit on the memorial for five years, will I qualify as a natuaralized US citizen?
Do British police have the authority to drag me off the memorial?
If I order food to be delivered, will the British or US customs and excise authorities cause any problems?
Quote from: MaryT on September 23, 2024, 05:27:34 PMI really tried not to laugh, just to prove you wrong. I failed.
Hehe
Maybe there is a Trump farce in the making?
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ca7063tXIP4
Quote from: Lori Dee on September 23, 2024, 05:08:13 PMDo you need a spanking? ;) ;D
Thanks, It's been a long day and you just made me laugh out loud. :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:
I attended a meeting last night with WAVI, a local outreach and support group. WAVI = Women Against Violence, Inc. and last night's presentation was "Adaptation and Resilience" for those who have experienced traumas of violence. The presentation meshed nicely with where I currently am with my therapy addressing my experiences and the resulting PTSD symptoms.
I was uncertain if I would attend, but they served sub sandwiches and that meant I didn't have to cook. So yeah. Sign me up. The meeting went well with several of my neighbors attending. After the meeting, they insisted that there be no leftovers, so we pigged out and visited for a bit.
Fall has definitely arrived and the trees are beginning to yellow. My apartment is on the second floor so I have a great view when their color change hits its peak.
My Money Tree is doing well and seems to be happy in its new pot. I have two Golden Pothos plants that were attempting to take over my apartment. I gave them a good trim, cutting off almost twenty feet of vines total from both plants. Repotted them with fresh soil and gave them all a good soak.
Within the next couple of days, the next batch of rocks will be ready to pull from the rock tumblers. I have a couple of rocks in there I am looking forward to seeing how they turned out. I have a large mixing bowl, plus several plastic containers full of polished rocks. I may start shutting down tumblers as each stage completes and focus on converting the ton of stones into jewelry.
Of course, you all will get to see them first!
Your avatar picture looks great. How did you get those tight abs? ;D
Could you post a link to where we could buy your jewelry. I would love to see it.
Quote from: Gina P on September 26, 2024, 05:40:53 AMYour avatar picture looks great. How did you get those tight abs? ;D
Could you post a link to where we could buy your jewelry. I would love to see it.
Mining is very hard work! ;D
I don't have any jewelry posted yet. I have an Etsy store set up with some crystal specimens that I found out at Teepee Canyon, SD. Rather than post the link directly, I have it listed on the front page of my website, which is linked in my profile under the globe icon.
Etsy recently changed the way sellers list their products so I delayed listing anything else until I have more time. The change is a good one. It is intended to provide more information to buyers about whether the product is hand-made, natural, or supplies for crafting. Plus we have to list all of the materials used in the product. Since I am not a business, each listing can take quite a bit of time with pricing, descriptions, photos, videos, and all the other background paperwork.
I have a lot more time to get that done when the snow flies. For now, the goal is to get enough materials stocked and get to makin'. I have some uploaded on Imgur under an album called Rough Stones to Jewelry, but I uploaded a bunch of pictures of stones and not jewelry and that album needs some serious housekeeping.
Here are some pictures of pieces I have done. Many of these are no longer available. Some were made for a specific person and some became "last-minute-birthday" gifts. My neighbors know in a "gift emergency" they can go shopping at Lori Dee's place. ;D
(https://i.imgur.com/inZcdeR.jpeg)(https://i.imgur.com/GehzR6r.jpeg)(https://i.imgur.com/yhPh6Gr.jpeg)(https://i.imgur.com/0U7UbRK.jpeg)(https://i.imgur.com/J9JUYeX.jpeg)
(https://i.imgur.com/XzMVXX0.jpeg)(https://i.imgur.com/WjJUtwZ.jpeg)(https://i.imgur.com/sokU4wP.jpeg)(https://i.imgur.com/YaRbwqZ.jpeg)(https://i.imgur.com/MjIAxnh.jpeg)
(https://i.imgur.com/5gJg5x5.jpeg)(https://i.imgur.com/JPGRlhT.jpeg)(https://i.imgur.com/DCDWUDk.jpeg)(https://i.imgur.com/gwMInrE.jpeg)(https://i.imgur.com/ycSS8cb.jpeg)
(https://i.imgur.com/FXAnyjb.jpeg)(https://i.imgur.com/4H4r0b7.jpeg)(https://i.imgur.com/TkF5iIx.jpeg)(https://i.imgur.com/yvOCOqj.jpeg)(https://i.imgur.com/liocI3Y.jpeg)
(https://i.imgur.com/zAcVbiv.jpeg) Family friend Brooklyn modeling her birthday present.
Already 81F (27C) at 9:00 a.m. and going up to 93F (34C) today. I am melting.
So what am I doing? Drinking hot coffee and doing laundry. Un-blonding my hair did not improve my intelligence apparently. ;D
Beautiful work, you have a great sense of taste.
This isn't jewellery, but still, I have a chocolate museum in my town, if you're interested I can take some photos. Your creations require a lot more labour than chocolate sculptures but maybe you'll find it fun.
Who doesn't love chocolate?
I would love to see those photos!
OMG, I love your works of art! they are beautiful.
Thank you!
Wire Wrap Jewelry is pretty common. What makes each piece unique is the stone. Guaranteed that no one else in the universe has something just like it. ;D
The stones and the way you wrapped them are stunning. When can I buy them on etsy?
..and your avatar is way cool!
Quote from: Emma1017 on September 26, 2024, 04:56:44 PMThe stones and the way you wrapped them are stunning. When can I buy them on etsy?
..and your avatar is way cool!
Emma,
See the message numbered 780 for the answer. Your message is numbered 786.
Click her globe icon.
Quote from: Emma1017 on September 26, 2024, 04:56:44 PMThe stones and the way you wrapped them are stunning. When can I buy them on etsy?
..and your avatar is way cool!
No jewelry posted there yet. I plan to work on getting things done this winter. As soon as I have enough to start posting, I will say something here first.
Sadly, I'm not set up to do international shipping and I am looking at ways to offer Susan's Place members a discount. I have a lot of work to do to make that happen, so it may be a busy winter. I'd like to do international as well but I have to figure out how to process VATs and Customs tags. I did it a few decades ago, so I want to see how Etsy processes things and how much of the process can be automated.
Susan's Place will be the first to see what goes up before anyone else.
Quote from: ChrissyRyan on September 26, 2024, 05:57:58 PMEmma,
See the message numbered 780 for the answer. Your message is numbered 786.
Click her globe icon.
Thanks, Chrissy,
I think she meant when will something be available. Right now there is no jewelry posted on the site. Just some crystal specimens I found this summer.
Quote from: Lori Dee on September 26, 2024, 10:44:27 AMAlready 81F (27C) at 9:00 a.m. and going up to 93F (34C) today. I am melting.
So what am I doing? Drinking hot coffee and doing laundry. Un-blonding my hair did not improve my intelligence apparently. ;D
Your melting? I thought I remembered something about a desert rat?
I'd love a few more days in the 90s but I'll take the low 80s we're supposed to get this weekend.
The snow will be flying soon enough.
Your jewelry looks awesome.
Paulie.
I wish for some melting, its a frost tonight and about 10C tomorrow. Soon be double coat weather!!
Quote from: Paulie on September 27, 2024, 12:30:02 AMYour melting? I thought I remembered something about a desert rat?
You got me there. ;D
I do prefer heat over cold, but ... ok, I'm old. :)
The eyeglass store called and now I have my new glasses!
Now I have no excuse for typos, except maybe "Fat Finger Syndrome".
The rock tumblers have completed their wash cycle, so today they get a good rinse before picture time.
I imagine taking pictures of rocks and finding the best-looking to show off to be similar to taking a group photo of your children...
"OK, everybody smiles! Wait!"
"Tommy, go comb your hair."
"Alyssa, what in the ______ are you wearing?"
"Gregory, put down that cat... and what are you eating? Spit that out!"
In desperation, you go next door and take pictures of the neighbor's kids and claim they are yours.
OK. Rocks are nothing like that. I just wanted to make you smile. ;D
I am glad that you received your glasses.
I was looking at some at Warby Parker's. Did not get any.
Chrissy
It amazing how a good pair of glasses can help. Like my "a-dug" moment.
Quote from: ChrissyRyan on September 26, 2024, 05:57:58 PMEmma,
See the message numbered 780 for the answer. Your message is numbered 786.
Click her globe icon.
Quote from: Lori Dee on September 26, 2024, 12:03:14 PMWho doesn't love chocolate?
Me. :) It makes me nauseous. :P
Gotta say, Lori... I kind of think the real you is more beautiful. But damn that's a cool avatar. ;D
Quote from: Lori Dee on September 26, 2024, 08:25:55 PMNo jewelry posted there yet. I plan to work on getting things done this winter. As soon as I have enough to start posting, I will say something here first.
Sadly, I'm not set up to do international shipping and I am looking at ways to offer Susan's Place members a discount. I have a lot of work to do to make that happen, so it may be a busy winter. I'd like to do international as well but I have to figure out how to process VATs and Customs tags. I did it a few decades ago, so I want to see how Etsy processes things and how much of the process can be automated.
Susan's Place will be the first to see what goes up before anyone else.
I can't wait to see the results. I have an obsession to buy something for my daughter. I understand that international shipping is difficult, but I'm willing to pay for the product + shipping itself.
The eyes have it!
(https://i.imgur.com/5gJg5x5.jpeg)
This is my favourite. It is warm like a heartbeat.
Quote from: Sephirah on September 28, 2024, 06:28:30 PM(https://i.imgur.com/5gJg5x5.jpeg)
This is my favourite. It is warm like a heartbeat.
That is the one that my friend took as a birthday gift. She is wearing it in the last pic.
:)
Quote from: Sephirah on September 28, 2024, 06:28:30 PM(https://i.imgur.com/5gJg5x5.jpeg)
This is my favourite. It is warm like a heartbeat.
It reminded me of the story of Danko. It's a short story from Maxim Gorky, written in the autumn of 1894.
There's a very, very old cartoon called "The Legend of the Flaming Heart"
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uRIQak4q2Ns
"...And he tore out his flaming heart to show the way to others..."
Rock tumblers are all cleaned out and ready for the next batch.
After running the rocks in the tumblers overnight in borax and water, they are clean and ready for the next step. For those that completed their polish, I normally run them through an ultrasonic jewelry cleaner for a final cleaning. But the ultrasonic can't hold them all.
After scratching my head on this, I thought that what I need is a large container that could give them a good power wash and dry them off automatically. Hmm. I do have a dishwasher. But the rocks are too small to fit in the racks. So I loaded up the silverware tray and gave it a run. It worked out beautifully!
Since this was going to be a "proof of concept" experiment, I took pictures of them before potentially ruining them in the dishwasher. I wasn't concerned about the soap or the pressure, but the drying cycle. Some stones will change color under high heat. With some the colors become more vibrant, and some it causes them to change colors. It is a technique that is often used with gemstones. Fortunately, the dishwasher doesn't get that hot.
This batch did a good job holding still for a Group Photo:
(https://i.imgur.com/Wmb8zRy.jpeg)
And some of the stars that turned out nice:
These are agates from Teepee Canyon. As you know from previous posts, the agates and jaspers from that area have very rich reds and fiery oranges.
(https://i.imgur.com/YCRCS8P.jpeg)(https://i.imgur.com/qiu0HCq.jpeg)(https://i.imgur.com/59nQuk7.jpeg)(https://i.imgur.com/10HdMBG.jpeg)(https://i.imgur.com/ZOzc916.jpeg)(https://i.imgur.com/8oWvK2U.jpeg)
These have a "window" of quartz. Shining a light in the window lights up all the quartz inside.
(https://i.imgur.com/tpWCilU.jpeg)(https://i.imgur.com/tsPwSYL.jpeg)(https://i.imgur.com/7GTPlCX.jpeg)(https://i.imgur.com/JtxSwvO.jpeg)
These are Bubblegum Agates. In the rough, they looked like chewed bubblegum. But when the rock tumbler wears away the outer husk they sometimes show some cool features:
(https://i.imgur.com/EAon35a.jpeg)(https://i.imgur.com/iR8KLJ7.jpeg)(https://i.imgur.com/uvsoThW.jpeg)
One of my favorite stones is the Moss Agate. Many people confuse this stone with Moss Agate or call it a Tree Agate. But it is not an agate. Since light does not shine through it, it is a jasper. So here is this beautiful Tree Jasper.
(https://i.imgur.com/JIqtPEM.jpeg)
:)
Nice, some good veins of colour. Best we get here is granite with a quartz vein. As the hills are extinct volcanoes there is a chance of gold!
Quote from: davina61 on September 29, 2024, 03:03:57 PMNice, some good veins of colour. Best we get here is granite with a quartz vein. As the hills are extinct volcanoes there is a chance of gold!
I lost a bunch of gold over there, so if you find it, it's mine! ;D
Lori is a gem!
(https://i.imgur.com/chXpJkB.jpeg)(https://i.imgur.com/fIZoPhs.jpeg)
Both of these were taken on May 19, 2022. Notice the difference? On the right, false lashes and sunglasses hide the top of my head making my head look smaller. The lighting is different too: bathroom light vs sitting in my Jeep.
I love this wig. Looks amazing on you ❤️
Quote from: TracieCarolinaGirl on September 30, 2024, 11:04:55 PMI love this wig. Looks amazing on you ❤️
Thank you! My cousin agrees with you. She said it makes me look so young. I said, "Not bad for a 66-year-old lady, huh?"
I had a lot of fun with that wig, but after a while, I wanted a different look and I prefer longer hair.
Quote from: Lori Dee on September 30, 2024, 11:10:49 PMThank you! My cousin agrees with you. She said it makes me look so young. I said, "Not bad for a 66-year-old lady, huh?"
Not bad indeed. In fact quite good. You look much younger than your age in all your pics. 😊
Quote from: TracieCarolinaGirl on September 30, 2024, 11:15:46 PMNot bad indeed. In fact quite good. You look much younger than your age in all your pics. 😊
Thank you. I just turned 67. I get told in person that I don't look my age.
Just got to take care of your health. If you don't take care of your body, where are you going to live? ;D
Lots of good looks in Lori's photos, for sure.
You look great, Lori! Gold digging agrees with you.
Love always -- Jess
I heard that transgender people tend to look younger. Also, they may live longer: https://www.npr.org/sections/health-shots/2012/09/25/161746488/korean-eunuchs-lived-long-and-prospered
Cheers,
barbie~~
The latest development here.
Last night the car thieves came back. One of the tenants saw them messing with cars in the parking lot and chased them off. We will be kicking our Neighborhood Watch back into high alert status.
Today, our electrical contractor installed a new camera (now nine total exterior cameras) and made adjustments so we can now see every inch of the apartment property clearly. We also received the warning signs (24-hour video surveillance - All activities are monitored) that we have been asking for over the past year. So, yeah. Progress.
We are in the process of establishing subcommittees for our Resident Council. We are trying to get apartment residents more involved in things that interest them.
I will be heading up the Security and Neighborhood Watch committee. We will also be establishing committees for Event Planning, Garden Club, Youth Activities, and an Arts/Crafts committee to start with. More as needed depending on interest.
Quote from: TracieCarolinaGirl on September 30, 2024, 11:04:55 PM(https://i.imgur.com/chXpJkB.jpeg)(https://i.imgur.com/fIZoPhs.jpeg)
Both of these were taken on May 19, 2022. Notice the difference? On the right, false lashes and sunglasses hide the top of my head making my head look smaller. The lighting is different too: bathroom light vs sitting in my Jeep.
I love this wig. Looks amazing on you ❤️
I don't even care about the hair... Lori, your eyes are incredible. I know there's the tired adage of the eyes being the window to the soul... but in your case it's true. Every picture I've seen of you, you have the most beautiful, warmest, incredible eyes of anyone I've ever seen.
I have never been someone to take much stock in hair length, colour, body shape, even gender. I don't get attracted to people in that way. You have the most beautiful, expressive, gentle, world-weary, understanding eyes of probably anyone I've ever known. Which explains a lot. :)
Forget the age thing. Age is just a number.
You are truly beautiful.
Thanks, Lauren.
I'm just an old soul doing what I can to make this ball of dirt a better place to live. :-*
Quote from: Lori Dee on October 03, 2024, 04:31:52 PMThanks, Lauren.
I'm just an old soul doing what I can to make this ball of dirt a better place to live. :-*
Nuh-uh. You are a young, vibrant soul finally realising how beautiful the world is. :)
Not gonna lie though, Lori, you look extremely sexy with a fringe, or "bangs" as you US folks refer to it. :P Probably 10x more if you did the whole Wednesday Addams, black hair gothic deal... but that's just wishful thinking :D
I do prefer bangs. I think all of my wigs have them of varying lengths. Some are short like those pics and some are longer and are cut to be pushed aside. Once I get used to this new wig, I can always cut the bangs shorter. I have already considered it so thanks for the feedback. I might just order another one of these wigs and sacrifice one to "fringe science" experiments. ;D
Bangs can be pretty.
(https://i.imgur.com/chXpJkB.jpeg)(https://i.imgur.com/fIZoPhs.jpeg)
The "two sisters" photographs. Both are pretty. Definitely beauty runs in this family.
Chrissy
#LoriLee
<3
This is where my other avatar came from. The cut stuff from this song.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5anLPw0Efmo
I had a quick impromptu meeting with the other Neighborhood Watch members.
One is going to patrol the lot from 10 to midnight, then I'll take it from midnight to 2-ish. Eventually, we will get a regular schedule so the thieves know that we have security guards and cameras monitoring their trespasses.
I'll get some groceries in me, then take a short nap for a bit so I am ready for my shift. I'll probably be around. I'm curious how the members in the other time zones live. ;D
Quote from: ChrissyRyan on October 03, 2024, 05:44:04 PM(https://i.imgur.com/chXpJkB.jpeg)(https://i.imgur.com/fIZoPhs.jpeg)
The "two sisters" photographs. Both are pretty. Definitely beauty runs in this family.
Chrissy
A family of one. They are both me, just different accessories and lighting. ;D
Quote from: Lori Dee on October 03, 2024, 06:14:39 PMI had a quick impromptu meeting with the other Neighborhood Watch members.
One is going to patrol the lot from 10 to midnight, then I'll take it from midnight to 2-ish. Eventually, we will get a regular schedule so the thieves know that we have security guards and cameras monitoring their trespasses.
I'll get some groceries in me, then take a short nap for a bit so I am ready for my shift. I'll probably be around. I'm curious how the members in the other time zones live. ;D
Landmines are your friend :P
Quote from: Sephirah on October 03, 2024, 06:17:25 PMLandmines are your friend :P
I talked to a gal (from Scotland) who will be in the Garden Club. The Corporate Office won't finance fencing for the back part of the property. Too much red tape with permits, inspections, and such. So to bypass the BS, the Garden Club is going to be planting a lot of rose bushes. They work better than barbed wire if you plant them thick enough. That should discourage people from cutting through the property. Maybe.
Quote from: Lori Dee on October 03, 2024, 06:15:38 PMA family of one. They are both me, just different accessories and lighting. ;D
Yes, I do know that. I was just having a little fun there with my comments. You do look a bit younger in the photograph on the right. ;D
Quote from: Lori Dee on October 03, 2024, 06:22:09 PMI talked to a gal (from Scotland) who will be in the Garden Club. The Corporate Office won't finance fencing for the back part of the property. Too much red tape with permits, inspections, and such. So to bypass the BS, the Garden Club is going to be planting a lot of rose bushes. They work better than barbed wire if you plant them thick enough. That should discourage people from cutting through the property. Maybe.
They should plant several feet of red tape, instead. That would be the ultimate irony. Just piledrive a few fenceposts and cover them in red tape! very sticky... electrified red tape. That's what I would do.
Maybe something like this:
Firethorn. Pyracantha is ready to go to battle with just about anything you could throw at it, which includes those pruning shears. It's armed with needle-sharp spikes every few inches along its stems and branches, and features tips with 4-inch-long hypodermics. Firethorn can grow 10 feet tall and nearly as wide.
Love always -- Jessica Rose
That stuff sounds dangerous! And vaguely familiar. ;D
The plan is to make it decorative and functional. The city can't accuse us of putting up a fence if it just a flower garden. Bordered by genetically enhanced 4-inch hypodermic needle trees. :icon_yikes:
Quote from: Lori Dee on October 03, 2024, 08:39:55 PMThat stuff sounds dangerous! And vaguely familiar. ;D
The plan is to make it decorative and functional. The city can't accuse us of putting up a fence if it just a flower garden. Bordered by genetically enhanced 4-inch hypodermic needle trees. :icon_yikes:
Ouch!
Quote from: Jessica_Rose on October 03, 2024, 07:29:39 PMMaybe something like this:
Firethorn. Pyracantha is ready to go to battle with just about anything you could throw at it, which includes those pruning shears. It's armed with needle-sharp spikes every few inches along its stems and branches, and features tips with 4-inch-long hypodermics. Firethorn can grow 10 feet tall and nearly as wide.
Love always -- Jessica Rose
LOL! I need to get some of tbat :D
The natural fencing can be a thorny issue.
I am late to this party but, first, Lori your photos (both) are beautiful, and second, I am all for defense gardening. Nothing like a thorn bush or densely packed pine trees to build your perimeter with style.
I helped a friend plant yucca plants at the beach. They have pointed leaves to keep neighbors' dogs out of her yard. They require no maintenance or watering. You can harvest sprouts off the main plant and replant them easily.
I grew up in the California desert and we had yucca plants all over. My mom had a cactus garden.
Survival tip: you can eat yucca too. The root is edible after boiling it to soften it up.
Dose "yucca" describe the taste??? ::)
Quote from: Emma1017 on October 04, 2024, 12:21:01 PMDose "yucca" describe the taste??? ::)
It isn't bad. I have seen the extract used in shampoo. Most cacti have little to no flavor, as they are mostly water. Yucca has some flavor similar to a yam. It is used to flavor tapioca pudding. I wouldn't put it in the "fine dining" category. But if you ever get stranded in a desert it is food that can keep you alive.
Sounds better than fermented shark.
Pretty sure Tequila is made from cactus. That's about the only alcoholic spirit I can stomach without going full exorcist in the bathroom. I think it's the Agave rather than the Yucca, though.
It's very tasty.
Quote from: Sephirah on October 04, 2024, 07:11:40 PMPretty sure Tequila is made from cactus. That's about the only alcoholic spirit I can stomach without going full exorcist in the bathroom. I think it's the Agave rather than the Yucca, though.
It's very tasty.
You are correct. Tequila is made from Weber Blue Agave plant and only in certain districts in Mexico. Just like true champagne only comes from Champagne County in France. Other drinks made from agave plants that do not meet the standards are called Mezcal.
I'm a fan of tequila. I used to be able to drink it all night, but old age has caused me to limit it to one drink. Then I'm ready for bed. ;D
What is the drink that is said to have a worm in the bottle?
Quote from: Lori Dee on October 03, 2024, 06:14:39 PMI had a quick impromptu meeting with the other Neighborhood Watch members.
One is going to patrol the lot from 10 to midnight, then I'll take it from midnight to 2-ish. Eventually, we will get a regular schedule so the thieves know that we have security guards and cameras monitoring their trespasses.
I'll get some groceries in me, then take a short nap for a bit so I am ready for my shift. I'll probably be around. I'm curious how the members in the other time zones live. ;D
Lori,
How did your night patrol go?
Chrissy
Quote from: ChrissyRyan on October 04, 2024, 08:23:56 PMLori,
How did your night patrol go?
Chrissy
Uneventful. I didn't see anyone from midnight til 2 am. But I got a text message from the Property Manager that someone's car got rifled through. We don't know what time, so Monday she will go through the video footage and see what we can figure out. I guess that he left the car unlocked and it didn't happen last night. We will see what comes of it.
I'm not going out tonight. Jose Cuervo has asked me out on a date. ;D
Quote from: Lori Dee on October 04, 2024, 08:30:41 PMUneventful. I didn't see anyone from midnight til 2 am. But I got a text message from the Property Manager that someone's car got rifled through. We don't know what time, so Monday she will go through the video footage and see what we can figure out. I guess that he left the car unlocked and it didn't happen last night. We will see what comes of it.
I'm not going out tonight. Jose Cuervo has asked me out on a date. ;D
It would be good to NOT be possibly impaired in any way if on patrol, reaction time may need to be good. So a night off sounds wise as you have that date.
How do you get into Hidden status on the Forums?
Yes, we have it divided into shifts so no one person is spending all night outside. It is starting to get cold at night, so we may shorten the shifts so people can come inside and warm up.
The Manager is also contacting the corporate office in Minneapolis to see if she can get funding for a security guard. I doubt that will happen, but she can be persuasive. She will be in Minnesota for a week in meetings and various training seminars. Corporate is beginning to understand that we don't ask for funding unless there is a real need. So it could happen.
Quote from: Lori Dee on October 04, 2024, 08:39:30 PMYes, we have it divided into shifts so no one person is spending all night outside. It is starting to get cold at night, so we may shorten the shifts so people can come inside and warm up.
The Manager is also contacting the corporate office in Minneapolis to see if she can get funding for a security guard. I doubt that will happen, but she can be persuasive. She will be in Minnesota for a week in meetings and various training seminars. Corporate is beginning to understand that we don't ask for funding unless there is a real need. So it could happen.
Maybe she can persuade. The skill of ethical persuasion is a good one to have.
Quote from: ChrissyRyan on October 04, 2024, 08:19:00 PMWhat is the drink that is said to have a worm in the bottle?
That is Mezcal. The worm is one that eats Peyote cactus, which is the source of the hallucinogenic drug mescaline. The idea is that the worm consumes a very small amount and leeches into the alcohol of the mescal producing a better high. From my experience, it only produces high-projectile regurgitation, so I leave that stuff alone. ;D
Well, Jose got stood up on our date (again).
I was digging in the dark recesses of my freezer to retrieve some ice and found that I still have a little Kemp's Old Fashioned Homemade Vanilla ice cream. Sorry, Jose. Ice cream wins.
I'm not one to buy into marketing hype. OK, I question all marketing hype.
I wonder how is it even legal to label something made in a factory as "Old Fashioned Homemade Vanilla ice cream"?
Does the factory have a bunch of people turning the cranks on the old-fashioned ice cream maker machines?
And do these people live at the factory, thus making it their home?
Or maybe it is only the vanilla that is homemade, not the ice cream itself. Are there little old ladies supplementing their pensions by growing vanilla and hauling truckloads of vanilla beans to the factory? You know, the old-fashioned way?
Inquiring minds want to know.
This is pretty good ice cream though.
I did 6months working in a bottling plant where they concocted sherry, made in vast stainless towers and lables said oak barrels!! They got in trouble making Irish cream whiskey as it had no real whiskey in it. How they control the amount of alcohol in a drink is take the alcohol out and then mix it back in so all this "new" 0 alcohol drinks are not new as they have been doing this for years.
You can market anything. This is still my favorite example:
(https://i.imgur.com/PKzMUUU.jpeg)
You can still buy it on ebay for $29.00
I remember those!
There is a place in Goldfield, Nevada called the Pet Rock Cemetery. For a fee, they do full memorial services, singing hymns, etc. And people go to visit the pet rocks.
There was a time when we thought the cause of stupidity was a lack of access to information.
Yeah, it wasn't that.
Well you can sell ice cream in Alaska!!!
Ice cream can be so tasty!
Quote from: davina61 on October 05, 2024, 10:02:06 AMWell you can sell ice cream in Alaska!!!
@davina61 Dear Davina:
Yes indeed, we have plenty of ice cream here...
....even in the dead of winter.
HUGS, Danielle
Strawberry ice cream sounds good. With chunks of berries in it.
An old superstition here is that women should fully expose their forehead once they are married, or they will have some misfortunes. This is also applied to married men. And I believe it, and never tried bangs.
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Cheers,
barbie~~
Quote from: barbie on October 05, 2024, 01:03:18 PMAn old superstition here is that women should fully expose their forehead once they are married, or they will have some misfortunes. This is also applied to married men. And I believe it, and never tried bangs.
Cheers,
barbie~~
Glad to be single! ;D
An interesting turn of events...
My best friend was about to head to the local laundromat. Her sister decided it could wait and that my friend, the sister, and my friend's son should go to Deadwood to the casino instead.
Her son was playing a dollar slot machine and was down about $100 but then started winning free games. He kept playing and won over 1,000 free games. Meanwhile, my friend is freaking out and sending me pics of the slot machine. Win after win.
He is currently cashing out and paying his taxes on his final count. $3,532.70
I have spent a lot of time in Las Vegas casinos. I gave him the best advice I could. STOP PLAYING!
Go have a very nice lunch to celebrate, but take the money home with you. You are not a winner until you get home with more money than when you left.
He listened. They are having a very fancy lunch and then walking away as WINNERS.
Yeah, who needs to do laundry when you can go buy a new wardrobe? ;D
If I put my pet rock outside in the winter and it gets white that usually means it is snowing.
If it moves across the patio it likely means it is windy.
If it gets wet, it could be rainy or the sprinkler is on.
If it gets hot, it may be very sunny.
And if there are pebbles around it whats it been up to!!
Quote from: davina61 on October 05, 2024, 04:54:35 PMAnd if there are pebbles around it whats it been up to!!
:laugh:
Quote from: Lori Dee on October 05, 2024, 02:35:03 PMAn interesting turn of events...
My best friend was about to head to the local laundromat. Her sister decided it could wait and that my friend, the sister, and my friend's son should go to Deadwood to the casino instead.
Her son was playing a dollar slot machine and was down about $100 but then started winning free games. He kept playing and won over 1,000 free games. Meanwhile, my friend is freaking out and sending me pics of the slot machine. Win after win.
He is currently cashing out and paying his taxes on his final count. $3,532.70
I have spent a lot of time in Las Vegas casinos. I gave him the best advice I could. STOP PLAYING!
Go have a very nice lunch to celebrate, but take the money home with you. You are not a winner until you get home with more money than when you left.
He listened. They are having a very fancy lunch and then walking away as WINNERS.
Yeah, who needs to do laundry when you can go buy a new wardrobe? ;D
I've never been to a casino in my life. Well, it looks like the winnings limit was exhausted after this case, and no one can win for an extended period of time. If you enter such periods, you have no chance of winning when it concerns any electronically controlled games.
If I wanted to win, I would approach it with mathematical precision. I would watch everyone who wins and record the time intervals between wins, finally starting to play in the exact time period from the last win. Of course I'm kidding, it's nonsense, no one is able to figure out what the limit of money to give away at a particular casino is. I am always unlucky, so I like reliability and confidence in the future.
Quote from: CaringWhisper on October 08, 2024, 05:26:59 AMI am always unlucky
No you are not always unlucky! What about your daughter? You won the great slot machine game of life with her, did you not?
Quote from: TanyaG on October 08, 2024, 05:54:02 AMNo you are not always unlucky! What about your daughter? You won the great slot machine game of life with her, did you not?
Yes, you're right, but unfortunately in our world it is not enough just to give birth, it is necessary not to lose your baby, and to win a place for your child in the society. I don't want to talk much about my motherhood on a blog that isn't mine because of respect for Lori Dee, sorry.
When I lived in Germany, I took the bus back and forth to work. At the bus station, there was a slot machine that I enjoyed. I had been working all night, so was at the bus station early in the morning to go home. The wait was going to be about 45 minutes, so I ordered a coffe and waited.
A man came in and unlocked the slot machine. He was carrying a gray plastic basket with holes in the sides. The basket was about half full of coins. He pulled a similar basket out of the machine, and as he did I saw a spring-loaded tray connected to some cables and pulleys. I quickly started drawing on a napkin what I saw. The coin basket sat in the metal tray. When he lifted the old basket out, the tray elevated which pulled cables and turned some wheels. When he replaced the basket in the tray it settled back into position again.
I figured out that the machine is monitoring the weight of the basket. If the basket is full and heavy with coins, it needs to pay out so that coins do not overflow the basket and fall into the machine's mechanisms. If the basket is empty, it cannot pay out as there would be no coins to pay.
After that, any time I saw one of those machines I would watch it. If someone won, I would not play it. But if they kept feeding it coins and they didn't win, I would play it inserting the heaviest coin (5 DM back then). Sometimes I would win rather quickly, sometimes it would take a bit for the weight to engage the mechanism. But I always won more than I spent.
I loved that machine.
Quote from: Lori Dee on October 08, 2024, 08:25:06 AMI loved that machine.
All the mechanical vending machines I've seen in my town have always been toy machines. I wouldn't go near them if my daughter didn't want to get one or another plush toy. My first sensation was that the machine's fingers were opening on their own at the very last moment. Maybe this machine has certain numbers programmed in it when the claws don't open, and the greedier the owner, the more minuscule the positive values are. I have discovered another pattern - I am able to get the toys out of fresh, recently delivered machines, while I always fail to get the toys out of old machines.
Quote from: Lori Dee on October 08, 2024, 08:25:06 AMWhen I lived in Germany, I took the bus back and forth to work. At the bus station, there was a slot machine that I enjoyed. I had been working all night, so was at the bus station early in the morning to go home. The wait was going to be about 45 minutes, so I ordered a coffe and waited.
A man came in and unlocked the slot machine. He was carrying a gray plastic basket with holes in the sides. The basket was about half full of coins. He pulled a similar basket out of the machine, and as he did I saw a spring-loaded tray connected to some cables and pulleys. I quickly started drawing on a napkin what I saw. The coin basket sat in the metal tray. When he lifted the old basket out, the tray elevated which pulled cables and turned some wheels. When he replaced the basket in the tray it settled back into position again.
I figured out that the machine is monitoring the weight of the basket. If the basket is full and heavy with coins, it needs to pay out so that coins do not overflow the basket and fall into the machine's mechanisms. If the basket is empty, it cannot pay out as there would be no coins to pay.
After that, any time I saw one of those machines I would watch it. If someone won, I would not play it. But if they kept feeding it coins and they didn't win, I would play it inserting the heaviest coin (5 DM back then). Sometimes I would win rather quickly, sometimes it would take a bit for the weight to engage the mechanism. But I always won more than I spent.
I loved that machine.
Clever girl!
You know it is time to go grocery shopping when you are cleaning cobwebs out of your freezer. :(
I know the situation will be dire. Early scout reports indicate heavy concentrations of enemy troops in the area. I have donned my battle armor and brought extra grenades. I am sure I will survive the battle but at what cost? We will see. Onward into the fray.
I hate shopping at Walmart. ;D
Well I survived that fiasco. Only minor battle scars from it.
My neighbor was working at the Money Center counter. She said people are shopping to day to avoid the dreaded Food Stamp Day tomorrow. But today, corporate is conducting their annual inventory. I asked why they don't do that at night when there are no customers trying to spend money. She shrugged her shoulders and said, "I don't make the rules, Hon. I just work here."
I am now engaging in chocolate-covered-donut therapy. I might recover from this trauma.
Can you catch PTSD from Walmart? ;D
My turn tomorrow dear, yup its my weekly battle around Lidl helping mum get stuff from the top shelf! Between the folks with the oversize trollies and the "old" folks dawdling it can be a battle to get up the aisle.
Quote from: davina61 on October 09, 2024, 02:29:14 PMMy turn tomorrow dear, yup its my weekly battle around Lidl helping mum get stuff from the top shelf! Between the folks with the oversize trollies and the "old" folks dawdling it can be a battle to get up the aisle.
Then add all the employees in the aisle picking orders for delivery, plus others trying to inventory and a squad of security guards that have never been here before. ARRRRGGGGHHHHHH
No security guards here as its a nice area but yes I forgot about the shelf stacking carts!
Did you get your food despite your obstacles?
Quote from: ChrissyRyan on October 10, 2024, 06:57:57 AMDid you get your food despite your obstacles?
I did!
I also got a new selfie stick for taking photos today, but it didn't work. I had to go back into the fray to exchange it. That one wasn't working either, but I figured out that the Bluetooth remote was broadcasting a different ID that what the instructions said. So I got it working. Yay!
Dont you just love a German supermarket, got a new pair of work trousers and mum treated me to a work gilet (okay body warmer to me!). Whizzed round today!!
Dear Lori:Every few months when I make the trip to Fairbanks to go shopping and I am at Walmart,
I always look for the employees with their carts that are picking up orders for online
customers... they know where everything is in the store... saves me a lot of time
looking for that hard to find item in the store.
One thing about Walmart and similar stores, the "people watching" can be very
entertaining and enlightening for sure.
HUGS, DanielleQuote from: Lori Dee on October 09, 2024, 03:42:48 PMThen add all the employees in the aisle picking orders for delivery, plus others trying to inventory and a squad of security guards that have never been here before. ARRRRGGGGHHHHHH
Quote from: Northern Star Girl on October 10, 2024, 09:39:10 AMOne thing about Walmart and similar stores, the "people watching" can be very
entertaining and enlightening for sure.
Have you seen the website called People of Walmart?
Ugh.
I needed extra therapy after people watching there. ;D
Yesterday was my best friend's birthday, so we drove up to Spearfish Canyon. We drove south through the canyon to see the Fall colors which are almost at their peak. The drought made the waterfalls a bit ... meh. The smoke from the Elk Creek Wildfire near Sheridan, WY produced a haze that you can see around the hills in the distance.
I had my dashcam running, but the video file is too big for Imgur or even email, so I posted it on Facebook. My profile there is not public, so you would have to be logged in to watch the video at Lori Dee's posts (https://www.facebook.com/search/posts/?q=Lori%20Dee)
After driving the canyon, stopping at every turnout to take pictures, we went back to Deadwood and had luch at The Lodge. Then, since it was a birthday celebration, we donated some extra cash at the casino. It was a long day, but a lot of fun. Another hour drive home and I was wore out.
Spearfish Canyon's Fall colors with evergreen trees against a backdrop of limestone cliffs. Pictures and video just don't do it justice. But I'll try.
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Believe it or not, this photo is actually upside-down. I think it looks better this way.
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This is Bridal Veil Falls. In non-drought conditions, it is quite spectacular. The falls are about 60 feet tall.
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We ended the canyon drive down near the town of Savoy. From there we drove over to Roughlock Falls. The falls got their name from the term rough locking because early pioneers had to roughlock the wheels on their wagons when going downhill. It involves tying a rope through the wheels so they don't turn, thus preventing the wagon from rolling down into the pack mules that are pulling it. The mules then have to drag the wagon downhill with the brakes locked.
Roughlock Falls is only half as tall as Bridal Veil Falls. It's hard to tell but the falls are 30 feet tall.
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There are more pictures of the canyon in an album on Imgur at: Spearfish Canyon, SD 10/10/2024 (https://imgur.com/a/spearfish-canyon-sd-10-10-2024-4TKPI5S)
Pretty pictures.
I like your pictures, and Jess's, and look forward to seeing them.
Very scenic my dear, tree in the carpark is just turning to a nice gold.
It looks like you had a very nice day out. Spearfish canyon looks like a very lovely place.
I would spend more time there but it is an hour drive from my place, and it gets "touristy" with sightseers from all over the country.
But it was a great day.
Beautiful pictures Lori. I could spend all day at a place like that. Looks like an fun outing.
How is the security patrol doing in your complex?
How often do you have a shift doing this watchout duty?
Chrissy
Quote from: ChrissyRyan on October 13, 2024, 07:57:58 PMHow is the security patrol doing in your complex?
How often do you have a shift doing this watchout duty?
Chrissy
I complained to the Manager that I was the only person out walking the patrol. We have four people who signed up, six who said they would but two never did. The guy who was supposed to cover 10-12 decided he was too tired and went to bed at 11:00. I decided that I will stay inside where it is warm and watch my Jeep from my window.
Maybe others will care about their vehicles when they get broken into. I have decided that I can't care more about their stuff than they do. So if it gets stolen, its on them.
The manager said she is trying to get funding to have a security guard patrol here during the winter. They can drive around the lot in their car better than I can limp around in the snow. ;D
The patrol idea sounds like it may make sense.
Too bad there are criminal minded people in the world.
Chrissy
Some low life broke into a van by cutting a hole by the rear door lock opposite my mates house and had a mooch at his car trailer. Good job he has 3 locks on it with one around a lamp post, he is getting a 360 deg camera to fit on that side of his place as his door bell camera has a blind spot.
Quote from: davina61 on October 17, 2024, 03:11:09 AMSome low life broke into a van by cutting a hole by the rear door lock opposite my mates house and had a mooch at his car trailer. Good job he has 3 locks on it with one around a lamp post, he is getting a 360 deg camera to fit on that side of his place as his door bell camera has a blind spot.
It is awful that someone would do that!
Chrissy
Quote from: davina61 on October 17, 2024, 03:11:09 AMSome low life broke into a van by cutting a hole by the rear door lock opposite my mates house and had a mooch at his car trailer. Good job he has 3 locks on it with one around a lamp post, he is getting a 360 deg camera to fit on that side of his place as his door bell camera has a blind spot.
Sometimes I just wonder what is wrong with people. But addictions can make people do crazy stuff.
It is finally raining. Lightly, but we need the moisture.
It has been almost 30 days since our last measurable rainfall.
Hopefully, it will help the firefighters to dowse the wildfires west of here.
You know it has been a long dry spell when the deer start carrying canteens.
I saw a nice buck in our parking lot the other day. I don't know how they count the antler points here. Some places count only one antler and some count all of the points. So this guy was either a 4- or an 8-point buck.
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The night security lights don't allow for good photography.
Were you looking for his canteen? He left it in his truck right there.
The weather bug also says it is 50 degrees outside, so I grabbed a sweater. But the "Feels Like" temperature is 37.
Wait. Wut?
Better grab the jacket. Brrr.
I am wondering if, later tonight when the temperature drops, if the temperature is 40 and the "Feels Like" temperature is 27, will raindrops "feel like" snowflakes?
Does this create some sort of physics dysphoria?
I am just happy that I am getting a free car wash out of this deal.
@Lori Dee Dear Lori:Nice pic of the 4 point buck... that is what us Alaskans would call it.
I think the "general" rule is: West of the Mississippi River it is a 4 point
East of the Mississippi it is an 8 point
When I lived in New England going to college in Connecticut... I know that
they would have called it an 8 point.
Cold here 13 degrees(f) [ minus -11 deg C] and going down... some rain earlier when it
was a little warmer, but when it is this cold I sometimes am getting some light snow,
and heavy frost in the mornings.HUGS, Danielle [Northern Star Girl]
Quote from: Northern Star Girl on October 17, 2024, 11:33:56 PM@Lori Dee
Dear Lori:
Nice pic of the 4 point buck... that is what us Alaskans would call it.
I think the "general" rule is: West of the Mississippi River it is a 4 point
East of the Mississippi it is an 8 point
When I lived in New England going to college in Connecticut... I know that
they would have called it an 8 point.
Cold here 13 degrees(f) [ minus -11 deg C] and going down... some rain earlier when it
was a little warmer, but when it is this cold I sometimes am getting some light snow,
and heavy frost in the mornings.
HUGS, Danielle [Northern Star Girl]
That sounds like what I remember. When I lived in New York state it would be 8 but in Colorado, it would be 4.
We sometimes get snow in September here. We had a blizzard on Labor Day around 2013. But since then we have had long droughts for years, then one wet year, then more drought. It is looking like we might have a dry winter this year, which is okay with me. That leads to an early Spring, and not like that groundhog predicts. A real early Spring where I can start mining in the creek in March.
Quote from: Lori Dee on October 17, 2024, 11:16:39 PMIt is finally raining. Lightly, but we need the moisture.
It has been almost 30 days since our last measurable rainfall.
Hopefully, it will help the firefighters to dowse the wildfires west of here.
We were supposed to get a little rain yesterday, wound up getting about an inch and a half. There was no rain in the forecast for today day but we got a lot of light rain in the valley. When I got home there was about a half inch of snow on some surfaces up here. I know is has, but I can't remember the last time it snowed in October.
It's 30 degrees F Here now. I had to run out back and turn off the irrigation water and drain the lines when I got home at 8:30. It looks like we are in for another wet winter. Too soon to really tell of course.
Dear Lori,
Were you able to see the Northern Lights any time this past few weeks? I didn't but some folks in the Reno/Carson City area of Nevada were able too. I was thinking of you when I heard they were visible here.
Danielle, is the light show any different up there during these solar events we are having as of late?
Paulie.
@Paulie The Aurora light show is always spectacular up here... where I am located in the higher northern latitudes just a little south of the Arctic Circle, the light show is very high in the sky and many times extends nearly over head. The "solar max" period that has been recently going on just means that there are more displays of the Aurora... some can be very colorful with red colors intermixed with the normal green displays.
As winter is fast approaching our daytime is shorter and we are having longer nightime hours so their is more opportunity to see the aurora from the late afternoon until mid morning the next day.
HUGS, DanielleQuote from: Paulie on October 18, 2024, 01:22:44 AMQuote from: Paulie on October 18, 2024, 01:22:44 AMDear Lori,
Were you able to see the Northern Lights any time this past few weeks? I didn't but some folks in the Reno/Carson City area of Nevada were able too. I was thinking of you when I heard they were visible here.
Danielle, is the light show any different up there during these solar events we are having as of late?
Paulie.
Herefordshire (just a spit away over the hills) has had 135 percent of normal Oct rain, roads flooded and now the drain off is heading into the rivers this side of the hills so you can have some of our water! More heading this way tonight so need to put the barrier back on workshop door.
Quote from: Paulie on October 18, 2024, 01:22:44 AMDear Lori,
Were you able to see the Northern Lights any time this past few weeks? I didn't but some folks in the Reno/Carson City area of Nevada were able too. I was thinking of you when I heard they were visible here.
Sadly, no. The city lights were too bright, and we couldn't see the comet either. I miss stuff like that.
When Halley's Comet passed by in 1986, I took my kids up into the mountains to see it. My daughter was four, and my son was six, so they had no interest. I had a Pentax 35mm camera with a tripod and took long-exposure shots of it. I wanted to make sure to include them because it is possible that they can see it twice in their lifetime.
Being deserted by family and friends is not the end of the world.
You can start over.
Start fresh, wipe the slate, and begin a new life.
Things might just work out even better than you imagined.
Go for it. Make it happen.
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Never a dull moment here.
Yesterday, I began cleaning out my rock tumblers. One is down for repairs, and I discovered that a second one had developed a leak in the seal. Both machines have had a few modifications over the past year. They were poorly designed and used cheap parts, so I upgraded them, and things seemed fine. Now this.
I have enough rocks polished that I could take these two machines and dump them into the "spare parts" box and just be done polishing until next year. Then shift my focus to using the rocks I have to start making jewelry for the winter.
Then this morning I received a text message to confirm my appointment on Nov. 5 at 10:00 am. I have a surgical consult at the Black Hills Eye Institute to see about repairing the scar tissue under my eyes from my FFS. However, the text message gave the wrong address for the appointment. So I called the VA and it is two separate appointments scheduled for the same day and time.
The reminder was for a new appointment for the re-evaluation of my VA claim for the back injury I suffered while in the service. It's a different evaluation of my spine, not my eyes. After an hour on the phone with scheduling we got that moved up to Halloween morning at 10:00.
I was worried they would push the appointment out to Nov. 12th when I have a Dermatology appointment, or Nov. 13th when I have a colonoscopy scheduled. Then on Nov. 14th, I am meeting with the Communications rep with the corporate office that owns my apartment building. They want to do video interviews with residents to discuss how we like this new building, etc. I guess they are too busy to fly out here from Minnesota, so they will just watch us on TV.
Quote from: Lori Dee on October 25, 2024, 01:41:52 PMNever a dull moment here.
Yesterday, I began cleaning out my rock tumblers. One is down for repairs, and I discovered that a second one had developed a leak in the seal. Both machines have had a few modifications over the past year. They were poorly designed and used cheap parts, so I upgraded them, and things seemed fine. Now this.
I have enough rocks polished that I could take these two machines and dump them into the "spare parts" box and just be done polishing until next year. Then shift my focus to using the rocks I have to start making jewelry for the winter.
Then this morning I received a text message to confirm my appointment on Nov. 5 at 10:00 am. I have a surgical consult at the Black Hills Eye Institute to see about repairing the scar tissue under my eyes from my FFS. However, the text message gave the wrong address for the appointment. So I called the VA and it is two separate appointments scheduled for the same day and time.
The reminder was for a new appointment for the re-evaluation of my VA claim for the back injury I suffered while in the service. It's a different evaluation of my spine, not my eyes. After an hour on the phone with scheduling we got that moved up to Halloween morning at 10:00.
I was worried they would push the appointment out to Nov. 12th when I have a Dermatology appointment, or Nov. 13th when I have a colonoscopy scheduled. Then on Nov. 14th, I am meeting with the Communications rep with the corporate office that owns my apartment building. They want to do video interviews with residents to discuss how we like this new building, etc. I guess they are too busy to fly out here from Minnesota, so they will just watch us on TV.
Lori,
You sure have a busy schedule.
Chrissy
Quote from: ChrissyRyan on October 25, 2024, 06:01:39 PMLori,
You sure have a busy schedule.
Chrissy
It keeps me off the street at night. ;D
Sounds like you are a busy girl!
Quote from: Lori Dee on October 25, 2024, 06:12:55 PMIt keeps me off the street at night. ;D
Yes, stay off the streets!
Use sidewalks.
Thank you for all your hard work for us Lori!
Chrissy
It's a labor of love.
I have received so much from all of the members and staff here. I am just returning the favor and helping out where I can.
Thank you!
Quote from: Lori Dee on October 26, 2024, 08:57:13 AMIt's a labor of love.
I have received so much from all of the members and staff here. I am just returning the favor and helping out where I can.
Thank you!
This is why you're awesome. No, honey, you go above and beyond. You go out of your way to help people in need. You make it your mission to take the hurt away from people who are hurting. You are an embodiment of the good in this world. You are an aspiration, and an inspiration for a whole lot of people. Take it from someone who's haunted this site for a long time.
The world is a better place because you are in it. You and Sarah both. She is a lot like you. You both want the best for people. You both want people to not hurt. To look at themselves, and examine why they feel the way they do.
Be proud of yourself, Lori. You aren't "Just" anything, sweetie. You are amazing. You are a gift to the world. And to people here. A big heart is worth more than probably anything, in this world. You are the light in the darkness. The cool breeze in a heatwave (that's a somewhat personal thing because I hate the heat, lol)
I am proud of you. And I am deeply grateful for everything you do. How much you give of yourself. You remind me of me, like 15 years ago. Probably why I see a kindred spirit. :)
I have been having internet issues lately. I know it is on my end.
For some reason, Windows keeps turning on services that I turned off and disabled. I even set them to disabled in the Registry and rebooted. I hate that I am the sole operator of this computer, the Administrator, and the All-Powerful Control of the Electrical Outlet, and Windows still thinks it knows better than me what I want MY computer to do (or not do).
I might need to find those system files, take ownership of them, and then deny System access to them. I am sure Windows will have a stroke if I do that, but I know CPR. (Computer Programming and Repair). ;D
I think I have the issue fixed now.
I threatened the computer with a water hose.
Just give me an excuse to get an upgrade.
Hmmm a water cooled computer.
A place for big servers seems to me to be in outer space as it is very cold out there and that would take care of cooling down the computers. But I suppose they would need to work out a number of other issues.
Quote from: ChrissyRyan on October 26, 2024, 10:37:23 PMA place for big servers seems to me to be in outer space as it is very cold out there and that would take care of cooling down the computers. But I suppose they would need to work out a number of other issues.
That's why they cal it the Cloud.
And to power it, they have a really, really, really long extension cord. ;D
I made an electric car but cant find a long extension lead!!
Quote from: Lori Dee on October 26, 2024, 11:54:11 PMThat's why they cal it the Cloud.
And to power it, they have a really, really, really long extension cord. ;D
They may be able to use solar power out there.
Ditto to everything Sephirah posted earlier. I already am indebted to this website and the beautiful people.
Thanks,
Many hugs,
Louis
@Louis Thank you for sharing your comments... Yes indeed, our Susan's Place site and
the Forum is a cornerstone of information for our members and visitors.
As you exchange more of your comments and thoughts around the various threads
and topics here on the Forum you will find discussions of interest and answers
to your questions.
We have a lot of members here that can offer their comments based of many
years of their own personal experiences. HUGS, Danielle [Northern Star Girl]
The Forum Administrator
Quote from: Louis on October 27, 2024, 05:15:27 PMDitto to everything Sephirah posted earlier. I already am indebted to this website and the beautiful people.
Thanks,
Many hugs,
Louis
Getting ready for an appointment today.
I'll be back later this afternoon.
@Northern Star Girl
Quote from: Lori Dee on October 29, 2024, 11:52:58 AMGetting ready for an appointment today.
I'll be back later this afternoon.
@Northern Star Girl
I hope it went well!
Chrissy
Quote from: ChrissyRyan on October 29, 2024, 07:22:01 PMI hope it went well!
Chrissy
It did, Chrissy. Thanks. It was just a therapy check-in with my Psychologist, but we went overtime by 15 minutes.
My next big appointment will be on Thursday morning. That one is scheduled to be a 90-minute evaluation. It will be re-evaluating my VA disability claim for spinal injury, neurological damage, pain, etc. I probably won't know the results of any of these re-evaluations until next year. So, we will see.
Lori, I hope the results are exactly what you want and that you get them soon!
Lori,
Did you fix or upgrade your rock polishing tumbler machines?
Chrissy
Quote from: ChrissyRyan on November 02, 2024, 08:29:34 PMLori,
Did you fix or upgrade your rock polishing tumbler machines?
Chrissy
I got the leaky seal repaired with Shoe Goo. I have yet to reassemble it.
The other one, I got the motor mount screws out, but still need to get some replacements (maybe tomorrow).
I haven't been in a rush to get it done because I'm not sure if I want to start another batch yet. The batch that is just finishing up may be the last for the year. I have plenty that are ready to go, so now I need to start making them into jewelry.
The problem there is that I have appointments almost every day for the next two weeks. So it might be a little while before I get to that. ;D
That is a busy appointment schedule Lori.
I hope they all go smoothly.
Chrissy
Today will be my last "day off" before my schedule gets busy, so today will be grocery shopping and laundry. Ugh.
Most of my appointments are just one-hour consults and check-ups. So I won't be totally AWOL all day, just in and out constantly.
Tomorrow, I meet with an eye surgeon for a consultation about fixing the two-year-old scars under my eyes from surgery. I am not sure what he can do or how he might do it. Hence the consultation to find out.
Wednesday is just my Physical Therapy appointment in the afternoon, so not a big deal. My mom is scheduled for major surgery on Thursday, so my mind will be focused on that while I babysit my phone for updates.
Next week will be fun [extreme sarcasm]. On Tuesday, I meet with my Dermatologist. Fortunately, that is early in the morning, because when I get home I get to start drinking five gallons of nasty stuff to prep for my colonoscopy first thing Wednesday morning.
Many, many years ago, humor columnist, Dave Barry wrote a story in the Miami Herald about his first colonoscopy. Definitely a must-read. It is hilarious.
Dave Barry's Colonoscopy (https://www.miamiherald.com/living/liv-columns-blogs/dave-barry/article1928847.html)
Quote from: Lori Dee on November 04, 2024, 09:21:06 AMToday will be my last "day off" before my schedule gets busy, so today will be grocery shopping and laundry. Ugh.
Most of my appointments are just one-hour consults and check-ups. So I won't be totally AWOL all day, just in and out constantly.
Tomorrow, I meet with an eye surgeon for a consultation about fixing the two-year-old scars under my eyes from surgery. I am not sure what he can do or how he might do it. Hence the consultation to find out.
Wednesday is just my Physical Therapy appointment in the afternoon, so not a big deal. My mom is scheduled for major surgery on Thursday, so my mind will be focused on that while I babysit my phone for updates.
Next week will be fun [extreme sarcasm]. On Tuesday, I meet with my Dermatologist. Fortunately, that is early in the morning, because when I get home I get to start drinking five gallons of nasty stuff to prep for my colonoscopy first thing Wednesday morning.
Many, many years ago, humor columnist, Dave Barry wrote a story in the Miami Herald about his first colonoscopy. Definitely a must-read. It is hilarious.
Dave Barry's Colonoscopy (https://www.miamiherald.com/living/liv-columns-blogs/dave-barry/article1928847.html)
It is work taking care of our bodies. Sometimes the care can be little adventures themselves. Wishing you the best.
Many hugs,
Leigh
I'll be getting ready for my Physical Therapy appointment this afternoon. The timing is perfect. On Monday while grocery shopping, I must have twisted my knee while loading a case of bottled water into my cart.
That knee has a torn meniscus and I had a cortisone shot in it back in March. Now it is back to painful to walk on. So I will let my therapist take a look and see if it needs another shot, or if we should just amputate it just above the shoulders.
If I can't type when I return, it is because the VA opted for the amputation. ;D
@Lori Dee Dear Lori:I am wishing you and your PT therapist success in dealing
with your knee injury and pain..
Take all the time you need to recover from the sometimes painful PT.
Please keep us posted.
HUGS, and my best wishes, ❤️
Danielle [Northern Star Girl]
Quote from: Lori Dee on November 06, 2024, 12:00:59 PMI'll be getting ready for my Physical Therapy appointment this afternoon. The timing is perfect. On Monday while grocery shopping, I must have twisted my knee while loading a case of bottled water into my cart.
That knee has a torn meniscus and I had a cortisone shot in it back in March. Now it is back to painful to walk on. So I will let my therapist take a look and see if it needs another shot, or if we should just amputate it just above the shoulders.
If I can't type when I return, it is because the VA opted for the amputation. ;D
I'm back from my Physical Therapy appointment. I got new hardware installed.
He fitted me with a new knee brace that looks like it was designed by a Department of Defense contractor. My old brace had plastic stays along the side like a cheap corset. The new hardware has steel braces with hinges, and 17 straps, (five of which have velcro), Kevlar plates, and lots of pockets to hold ammo and hand grenades.
OK, well it does have steel braces with hinges.
He said to keep my leg straight and elevated and use a heating pad as needed. I think he means only do that while sitting down. I tried it the other way and I just fall over.
Tomorrow, my mom is having surgery, so I will likely be "off the net" most of the day. I will try to check in now and then, in case you are having a party without me. ;D
I hope the new knee brace makes your life easier and your mom's surgery went well.
Thanks, Emma.
Surgery is tomorrow, so we will know something later in the day.
I have a recliner sofa, that helps my knee and back. Also good for an afternoon nap!
Quote from: davina61 on November 07, 2024, 03:45:46 AMI have a recliner sofa, that helps my knee and back. Also good for an afternoon nap!
I have one of those electric lift recliner chairs that was given to me ages ago when I hurt my back.
It is getting old and wobbly but I often fall asleep in it, so it must still be comfy.
One of my goals for next year to is get a new chair and/or sofa like yours. I have been hesitating because I might be moving next year.
When I was at the VA yesterday, the MAGA hats were in full bloom. Everyone proudly showed off that they belonged to the winning team. Normally, in a Red State, that is not cause for alarm. However, South Dakota was ranked the most unsafe state in America for transgender people due to anti-LGBTQ laws and FBI Hate Crime statistics.
Under the next Administration, I do not expect it to get better. Probably much worse, considering Queen Kristi Noem will do anything to please Trump. So I am scouting new locations to park myself.
Quote from: Lori Dee on November 07, 2024, 08:32:51 AMI have one of those electric lift recliner chairs that was given to me ages ago when I hurt my back.
It is getting old and wobbly but I often fall asleep in it, so it must still be comfy.
One of my goals for next year to is get a new chair and/or sofa like yours. I have been hesitating because I might be moving next year.
When I was at the VA yesterday, the MAGA hats were in full bloom. Everyone proudly showed off that they belonged to the winning team. Normally, in a Red State, that is not cause for alarm. However, South Dakota was ranked the most unsafe state in America for transgender people due to anti-LGBTQ laws and FBI Hate Crime statistics.
Under the next Administration, I do not expect it to get better. Probably much worse, considering Queen Kristi Noem will do anything to please Trump. So I am scouting new locations to park myself.
Lori,
Were these veterans or staffers wearing these hats? Were they wearing them at prior visits?
I know some who are MAGA and they are as nice and accepting as can be of transgender folks.
I do not widely socialize but I know a lot of people. These people are not pretending to be accepting, they are accepting. No issues with trans adults.
They just do not want kids getting trans surgeries or medicines without their parent's consent. They did say that counseling is fine to receive but parents still should be aware. Many non MGA people likely think the same way. Transgender acceptance seems to be waning though in our country.
I would not let the hats bother you. Just wear what you want to wear, they are exercising their rights to choose too I guess. If anyone attacks you, regardless what they were wearing, that would be another matter.
I do not think those hats mean they hate us. At least try not to make that assumption they do.
Maybe there is the familiarity issue. Many people are negative of congresspersons but they like THEIR congressperson. Maybe people are not welcoming of transgender people they do not know, but they are welcoming of me because they know me, there is a relationship.
Getting back to the hats, try to not let them bother you. If you get to know some of them, maybe your feelings would change at least for those persons. Share the love, be kind.
Chrissy
These were veteran patients in the waiting area, waiting to be called for their appointments.
It is not the hats that bother me, it is what they represent. And you are correct that I am prejudging them by what they are wearing. However, given what the hats represent, that causes me concern.
In Germany, it is illegal to wear a swastika. Why? Because of what it represents. One person, the leader of a country, who committed a multitude of atrocities on innocent people.
Here, we have people who are proud of being part of a movement whose leader is a convicted felon and has committed numerous civil rights violations during his first term. A leader who has stated publicly that he will end gender transitions and other "gender ideologies". By himself, he is powerless. But I saw what happened on Jan. 6, 2020, at our nation's capitol caused by his supporters. And now, he has the power of the Senate behind him and possibly the House as well.
I'm not worried about the Average Joe on the street. He doesn't care. I'm not worried about the people who know me. As you said, they know I am a good person. I worry about a group of red-hat fanatics who want to strip my right to medical care and who wish us physical harm. Most of them will not physically attack me personally. But it only takes one to end my life.
Most will attack us through the media and legislature. It has already started, and with their hero in the White House, they will only feel more powerful. The FBI Hate Crime statistics do not lie. I am currently in a place that ranked worse than Texas or Florida for violence against transgender people.
What is that old saying, "It's not paranoia if they really are after you." ;D
My mom's surgery went well and she is now home and resting.
Thanks, everyone for the well-wishes.
Quote from: Lori Dee on November 07, 2024, 10:13:44 PMWhat is that old saying, "It's not paranoia if they really are after you." ;D
And as the old (alleged) graffiti put it:
"Just because you are paranoid, it does not mean that they are not out to get you."
Good news your mum is doing okay.
Glad your mom is doing well, Lori.
Now that the election is over, I hope the media will get over getting everyone worked up and scared and just go back to reporting the news! I live in a Red county in NJ and many of my friends are Republicans. Most support me. I don't think things will be as bad as everyone worries. We must just keep on our paths to happiness as before. The media has everyone so worked up that some have even tried to kill the man. Its time for everyone to calm down and breathe. I had a customer who in 2016 went to New Zealand to live just because Trump won. She came back a couple of years latter.
I was thinking of you the other day, I saw a shirt that said, "Just a girl that loves rocks". How goes the rock hounding? I had a vibrating polisher given to me. Can I use this to do stones?
Quote from: Gina P on November 09, 2024, 06:05:04 AMI saw a shirt that said, "Just a girl that loves rocks". How goes the rock hounding? I had a vibrating polisher given to me. Can I use this to do stones?
I love it! I have a hoodie with a picture of a gold pan on it and it says,
"I wash rocks and I know things. That's what I do."
Most vibe polishers are made to polish brass casings for reloading ammo. People do use them as a final step in polishing rocks. They work much more quickly. The tumblers use a grinding action, so the stones get more rounded and smaller. Vibes are good if you don't want to change the shape or size much, but still want a nice smooth polish.
I'm done hounding for this season. The weather has turned cold and rainy. I need to do maintenance and repairs on my machines, one is waiting for parts. I pulled the last batch out of the polisher yesterday. Now my focus will be on turning them into jewelry as time permits.
I agree with you that we tend to worry more about things that get exaggerated in the media. I like to do my own research to determine just how much of a threat he really is. Both the ACLU and Amnesty International filed hundreds of legal challenges against his policies during his first term. That tells me he will likely follow through with any "promises" he made for his second term.
He outlines his plans for the second term on his website under the heading Agenda 47. There, he outlines his plans for immigration, education, economy, etc. The one that concerns me the most is this one:
https://www.donaldjtrump.com/agenda47/president-trumps-plan-to-protect-children-from-left-wing-gender-insanity
All of my medical care is through the Veterans Administration. I have Medicare insurance, but can't afford to use it. If Trump follows through with these threats, I will never be able to complete my transition in this lifetime, unless I move out of the country.
This presents another conundrum. If Congress passes the law that all gender is based on the biological sex assigned at birth, what happens with our post-op friends? They are no less transgender, their bodies no longer match with the government's definition. Some states do not allow changing birth certificates and others will but specify that it is an amended document.
Changing my birth certificate won't matter as my name and gender change are fully documented in my Veteran Medical records as well as my Social Security file. It will be interesting to see how this plays out.
Also interesting is that the U.S. State Department allows a person to apply for asylum in the US due to persecution from their government because of their LGBTQ status. I am sure that will be part of the change that scrubs all references to "gender" status.
I wonder what New Zealand's asylum policy is. ;D
You can always come to the UK ,despite what you may have heard its okay here.
Thanks, Davina.
I would love to visit and see where my ancestors lived in Leeds and Lancashire. Sadly, I cannot drive there or to New Zealand successfully. I am sure it has been attempted, but my Jeep is not that waterproof. ;D
It is not my intent to be a "Negative Nellie" (apologies to any members named "Nellie"), but my point is that we cannot just put our heads in the sand and hope it will go away. Personal safety needs to be on everyone's mind.
I can drive to Minnesota in five hours, or Canada in seven. But there is no guarantee that things will be better there. We will just have to wait and see how this plays out.
Insurance is such a scam.
I got a letter today from Delta Dental Insurance. Starting in January 2025, they are increasing my monthly premium by $10 per month to $60.50 and that is with my Veteran Discount.
I see my dentist every six months for cleaning and exams. He bills the insurance for the visit $273. Dental Dental covers all but $70, so I pay $70 every six months.
If I pay Delta Dental $60.50 per month x six months = $363. Then I pay another $70 that they did not cover.
That's $433 that I pay for a $273 treatment. And this happens twice a year.
Goodbye, Delta Dental.
I'll pay my dentist in cash and save a couple hundred dollars a year.
I have not had dental insurance for quite a while for that same reason. I also self pay for many of my therapy sessions. Copay is $75. Self pay is $55-65, so I self pay! I think the DR. offices take advantage of the insurance companies, which is probably why our premiums are so high.
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Quote from: Lori Dee on November 09, 2024, 09:13:40 PMInsurance is such a scam.
I got a letter today from Delta Dental Insurance. Starting in January 2025, they are increasing my monthly premium by $10 per month to $60.50 and that is with my Veteran Discount.
I see my dentist every six months for cleaning and exams. He bills the insurance for the visit $273. Dental Dental covers all but $70, so I pay $70 every six months.
If I pay Delta Dental $60.50 per month x six months = $363. Then I pay another $70 that they did not cover.
That's $433 that I pay for a $273 treatment. And this happens twice a year.
Goodbye, Delta Dental.
I'll pay my dentist in cash and save a couple hundred dollars a year.
Yes, but the dental plan also pays in part some major dental work expenses besides the preventive stuff. If you have good teeth then you may get by without insurance. Ortho periodontic, root canals, crowns, extractions, false teeth, fluoride, maybe even implants (not the breast type though, awww shucks).
Also many dentists have their own office plans which covers the two cleanings, X-rays, exams, and provides 10-30% off major or other work. So it could be cheaper than the big dental insurance company plans.
Shop wisely, then show off your pretty smile!
Chrissy
Thank you for serving us all Lori!
Thanks to all active duty and former active duty soldiers.
I wonder why some people think that veterans are only the retired 20+ years of service soldiers. Veterans anlso include active duty soldiers and soldiers that do not get retirement or disability benefits but have left the service except under a dishonorable discharge.
Chrissy
Quote from: ChrissyRyan on November 10, 2024, 06:39:25 PMYes, but the dental plan also pays in part some major dental work expenses besides the preventive stuff.
This is very true. But they only cover 40% of the bill.
My dentist lets me run a tab and pay as I can. At one time I owed him over $5,000 for bridges, crowns, etc. I have all that paid off now, so I will just continue as a cash patient.
Quote from: ChrissyRyan on November 10, 2024, 06:44:39 PMThank you for serving us all Lori!
Thanks to all active duty and former active duty soldiers.
Thank you for your support, Chrissy.
I served 14 years, six months, and two weeks. They wanted to put me out on a Medical, but I refused. Took my Honorable and filed for disability through the VA.
To quote the tank crew in the movie, "Fury":
"Best job I ever had." :)
Yesterday as I drove up the narrow road from my flat someone opened the passenger door blocking my way, an elderly gent got out wearing his medals so I gave him a salute. The road through town was closed off for the parade and they were all gathered ready to march to the memorial by the old church tower. BTW that tower is all thats left of the 14th century church.
Thank you for your service Lori.
Lori,
Thank you for your service.
I pulled a muscle digging ore today...it was a miner injury. Hope that was a new funny for you.
Leigh
Quote from: MsLeigh on November 11, 2024, 04:44:51 PMLori,
Thank you for your service.
I pulled a muscle digging ore today...it was a miner injury. Hope that was a new funny for you.
Leigh
Thank you too, Leigh!
Quote from: Lori Dee on November 09, 2024, 09:40:19 AMI have a hoodie with a picture of a gold pan on it and it says,
"I wash rocks and I know things. That's what I do."
Lori,
Years ago my grandmother lived in Deadwood. A man used to walk by her house with his summer pack and he would camp somewhere above her place. In the fall when it would get to cold to camp and pan he would walk by with his pack and a quart Mason jar with gold. He would rent a place in Deadwood and live off the gold for the winter. The next year when spring came he would be seen walking up the road.
He had life figured out for himself.
I think of you heading out with a shovel and pan and it brings warm memories of my grandmother telling me stories about life. She was great.
Hugs,
Leigh
Quote from: Gina P on November 09, 2024, 06:05:04 AMI don't think things will be as bad as everyone worries. We must just keep on our paths to happiness as before. The media has everyone so worked up that some have even tried to kill the man. Its time for everyone to calm down and breathe.
Gina,
Thank you for posting, I agree 100% with your calming words. Things don'tgo so well when we get shook up. I am not too worried as I think they will be busy with their agenda.
Hugs,
Leigh
Quote from: Lori Dee on November 09, 2024, 09:13:40 PMI see my dentist every six months for cleaning and exams. He bills the insurance for the visit $273. Dental Dental covers all but $70, so I pay $70 every six months.
I know it. Here in S. Korea, I pay about US$ 10 for cleaning and exams. I can go to any dental office even without reservation.
I remember I had taken out all of the baby teeth of my 3 kids in the States. Here no parent takes out a tooth for their children, because it just costs a few US$ even without insurance.
A threat here is that some big companies are trying to change the health system to an American one to exploit the people more.
barbie~~
Quote from: Lori Dee on November 10, 2024, 07:49:02 PMThank you for your support, Chrissy.
I served 14 years, six months, and two weeks. They wanted to put me out on a Medical, but I refused. Took my Honorable and filed for disability through the VA.
To quote the tank crew in the movie, "Fury":
"Best job I ever had." :)
As another ex-military gal... Just another reason I love you. Thank you for your service, Lori. It is kind of the place you get a second family. I was in the Royal Navy. Didn't see the down and dirty like a lot of folks did. Trained for it all though, lol. It takes a certain kind of person to do something like that. And it's something that sticks with you for the rest of your life.
So, Kristi Noem, the Governor of South Dakota, which has no international borders is going to be the Secretary of Homeland Security. For those who don't know, that puts her in charge of Immigration and Customs, Border Security, the TSA, FEMA, and other agencies.
Now we have JFK, Jr., the anti-vaccine, anti-science, conspiracy theorist who will be in charge of Health and Human Services.
And recently resigned House member Matt Gaetz, who was investigated by the House Ethics Committee over allegations of sexual misconduct with a minor, will be our new Attorney General.
In a recent article in The New Republic, Nina Burleigh accurately portrays this as:
Just in the last few days, with this wackadoodle clown car situation or whatever you want to call it, it's pretty clear that shock and awe is the road that they're going to travel.
Well said, Nina. Well said.
Just think what would happen if they said left handed folk would be forced to use their right hands.
My concern is this:
If Trump succeeds in getting Congress to make it law that "The only genders recognized by the U.S. government are male and female—and they are assigned at birth" what will be the outcome?
Does that mean that all ID documents need to be changed to match birth sex?
What if you are post-op and your body no longer matches your birth sex?
What about name changes? Are they reversed, or are we stuck with a female name but a male sex?
Many of us are pre-op for a variety of reasons, yet have been on hormones for many years. Those changes are permanent and require surgery to correct.
It was the government (the VA) that diagnosed me with GD and it was the government (the VA) that provided the treatment that resulted in permanent changes to my body but the government (the VA) refused to completely treat my GD due to the government's own rules and regulations. Is that grounds for malpractice?
Will the VA now include disfigurement on my list of disabilities?
How much are they going to pay me for screwing up my life and my body?
Somebody will need to pay, and pay BIG time.
Lori, the courts will decide much of this and our protection will be fragile depending on the jurisdiction. I sadly believe that this will trigger gender migration and that many who can't move will suffer, particularly children.
I honestly don't know where this will go.
Lets just hope this will bring the administration down, normal decent folk will see this as a witch hunt akin to Nazi and other genocides. Shame you cant oust them for 4 years unlike the UK when we can rid ourselves of useless Prime Ministers.
Quote from: davina61 on November 16, 2024, 03:04:16 AMShame you cant oust them for 4 years unlike the UK when we can rid ourselves of useless Prime Ministers.
Congress can impeach him and have him thrown out. Since he is a convicted felon, there are already grounds for that. But for that to happen, he must be convicted by the Senate, and Republicans control the Senate right now.
That was my understanding.
So far, we have had a mild winter. The overnight lows reached the 30s, but we only had one night below freezing — 30F. Currently, it is 33 and only expected to hit 39 later today.
I have another appointment this morning. My Psychologist and I will be discussing how the VA's current refusal to provide gender-affirming surgeries, and possibly all gender-affirming care after January 20th, is impacting the mental health of transgender veterans.
Our previous discussion involved the irony of a healthcare provider for veterans that causes mental health issues in veterans by discriminating against them and refusing to treat their condition.
Can you spell H I P P O C R A T I C O A T H ?
I had a good appointment with my therapist. She agreed to put my usual therapy on hold so we could discuss the "here and now".
A couple of times she mentioned that, as a federal employee she must remain apolitical. But she said that it isn't hard to read between the lines. As an example, she said that if a patient were to ask her opinion on the whole "gender ideology" situation, she would say that she cannot comment on that... while subtly gesturing to the Pride sticker on the back of her laptop. ;D
After the session, she said "Fellow nerd to fellow nerd", since I enjoy researching things, perhaps I would be interested in a certain Newsweek article that discussed what other people are researching. <wink, wink>
Hehe, I love my shrink.
https://www.newsweek.com/donald-trump-how-change-vote-election-day-1984939
Has the security at your apt. complex been enhanced yet?
Chrissy
Quote from: ChrissyRyan on November 23, 2024, 10:01:27 PMHas the security at your apt. complex been enhanced yet?
Chrissy
No. They did replace a malfunctioning camera and adjusted all of them so now every inch of the property can be seen. It is being recorded, but no one is watching the monitors. No preventive steps are being taken and we have had several cars broken into and a bicycle stolen.
My manager told me about a guy pulling a gun on a woman in a neighboring apartment complex and warned me to be careful when I am patrolling the parking lot. The night before she told me that, a cop shot a moron who pulled a gun on him at another nearby neighborhood. That same night, a neighbor who also patrols at night said he thought he heard gunfire at about 3 am. And another neighbor reported a stabbing at another housing development. I told the manager that we were not going to patrol any longer. The risk is too high that someone might get seriously hurt. They need an armed uniformed officer patrolling the lot and watching the camera monitors. She said she would look into it... which means "No".
I keep my Jeep parked where I can see it from my apartment window. I have confirmed that South Dakota is a "Stand Your Ground" state, which means that I can use force to defend myself or others or to protect my private property. In the defense of life or limb, we are authorized to use lethal force if necessary. But that is not necessary against someone just breaking into cars at night. So it won't be lethal but will leave an easily identifiable mark if I catch them messing with my Jeep.
I just read an article about people rushing to buy guns and take shooting classes. I think that is a bad idea because they are doing it for the wrong reasons. If you are an experienced shooter and have experience handling firearms, go buy all you think you need. But if you have never handled a firearm, or have very limited experience, you would be better off taking a martial arts or self-defense class.
Guns and ammo are expensive and require maintenance. I used to shoot as a hobby and competed in international shooting tournaments for many years. To stay sharp you need to practice, practice, practice. And not just standing and pulling a trigger in front of a paper target. You need to practice different scenarios. In training my team, we would practice something different each weekend. Shooting with your off-hand, shooting while tied up in an awkward position, while running, even blindfolded. Your attacker is not going to stand still and let you shoot them. You need to train for every possibility. It can be a lot of fun.
On the other hand, taking a self-defense class makes more sense. You pay for the class. No ammo, cleaning supplies, or weapons. You learn to use your body and whatever you have available, like car keys. If you are going to be attacked, it will not be from a distance, so a gun will not be much help. But if you have trained in self-defense and hand-to-hand combat, you can take down your opponent as soon as they get within arms' reach. The same rules apply: practice, practice, practice. Then practice every possible scenario, including having your hands tied or being blindfolded. By practicing these things, if (God forbid) you find yourself in such a situation, you will know what to do immediately.
Sorry, I got carried away there. But safety is something we should all be thinking about all the time.
Happy Thanksgiving LORI,
Chrissy
Happy Thanksgiving, Chrissy!
Happy Thanksgiving to all of you. Yes, even you. ;D
I always seem to forget how stressful family get-togethers can be. I have read a few articles that even suggest avoiding them for your own mental health. That is one of the reasons that I do not visit family members like I used to.
I was invited to Thanksgiving dinner by my best friend, her sister, and her son. We were going to meet over at the Golden Corral for their lunch buffet. I did not get dressed up. No wig or makeup, just me as me. Then my bestie sent me a text message saying her oldest sister, (who lives in Lead, SD) was coming to Rapid City and would be joining us. Her oldest sister is a wonderful woman, very friendly and the kind of drop-dead gorgeous that we all aspire to be at that age. She has a wonderful personality and is a pleasure to visit with each time she comes to visit. She moved here from Georgia, so maybe it is her Southern charm that comes through.
When we arrived, it was 18 degrees with a wind-chill of 10 and a long line to get in. While freezing in line, I learned that the oldest sister's husband would also be joining us. Her dad and step-mom drove in from Custer and would be joining us as well. My bestie then whispers to me that if her dad and step-mom are rude to me, just ignore it. She didn't expect them to say or do anything, but just to let me know what kind of people they were since I had never met them.
They didn't have any tables to seat 8 people, so we were in groups of four seated as close as possible. Me, my bestie, her sister, and bestie's son. Dad, step-mom, oldest sister, and her husband. The older sister spent a lot of time going back and forth talking to our group, catching up with her sisters, and chatting with me. The step-mom stopped by our table and said hello to the sisters and bestie's son, but did not acknowledge that I was there. The dad and brother-in-law never even said hello even though I was sitting about a foot away from dad.
Our group finished eating and bestie's sister was rather upset with the others' behavior and said she was ready to leave. So our group said goodbye to the oldest sister and left. They did not say goodbye to dad, mom, or brother-in-law.
I felt good that my friends stood by me and sent a subtle message to the others that their rude behavior was unacceptable. They ignored them the same way that they had ignored us. Once we got outside, I gave each of them a hug and told them that I enjoyed sharing a Thanksgiving meal with my friends and thanked them for inviting me.
Later, when reflecting on this, I recalled similar family get-togethers with my own family. There always seemed to be some conflict, argument, or drama. Not just at my parent's house, but even when I was younger and the whole family met at my grandparents' house. Family should be the closest relationship one has and yet it seems this is seldom the case. I don't get it.
My dad used to say, "Only your friends will do it to you because you don't let your enemies get that close." The truth is, I have received more hurt from family than I have from friends.
"The bond that links your true family is not one of blood, but of respect and joy in each other's life. Rarely do members of one family grow up under the same roof."
― Richard Bach, Illusions: The Adventures of a Reluctant Messiah
I hope all of you had a wonderful time with real friends and family.
Lori,
That situation s*cks.
Chrissy
Quote from: ChrissyRyan on November 29, 2024, 09:47:44 PMLori,
That situation s*cks.
Chrissy
I was happy to hang out with my friends. Some people feel obligated to invite family members even if they are a--holes. I no longer feel that obligation to my own family, as they have no such obligation toward me. Hence, they live in Colorado and I do not.
But for this situation, I must say that there was no drama or arguing. Sister said she was done eating and was ready to leave. We all agreed, got up, and left. Those we did not say goodbye to never questioned why we were leaving.
"If my absence doesn't matter, then my presence didn't matter."
Not my problem.
I have a hearing test at noon tomorrow. The VA is sending me to a "third party" to evaluate my claims for hearing loss and tinnitus. I don't know why they need another test for this. A) My military records are fairly descriptive of my service of 14 years, 6 months, and 2 weeks on a tank. B) My VA medical records show a diagnosis of hearing loss and tinnitus and a current prescription for hearing aids.
But I guess it's a government thing, so I will play the game. I have been studying for this test all day today. I have been practicing key phrases like, "Huh?", "What?", and "What did you say?"
I have also been practicing moves such as turning up the hearing aids, pulling them out and blowing on them, tapping them on the table, etc. to make sure they are still working. ;D
Quote from: Lori Dee on December 01, 2024, 09:45:29 PMI have a hearing test at noon tomorrow. The VA is sending me to a "third party" to evaluate my claims for hearing loss and tinnitus. I don't know why they need another test for this. A) My military records are fairly descriptive of my service of 14 years, 6 months, and 2 weeks on a tank. B) My VA medical records show a diagnosis of hearing loss and tinnitus and a current prescription for hearing aids.
But I guess it's a government thing, so I will play the game. I have been studying for this test all day today. I have been practicing key phrases like, "Huh?", "What?", and "What did you say?"
I have also been practicing moves such as turning up the hearing aids, pulling them out and blowing on them, tapping them on the table, etc. to make sure they are still working. ;D
Lori,
I HEAR you!
Chrissy
I'm Baaaack!
Picked up the new TV. Disconnected the old TV and moved it out of the way. Set the new TV into place, and...
The old TV had all the input connectors on the right and the power cord on the left. The new TV is exactly the opposite. I moved my PC, Modem, and IR Headphones transmitter from the right side of the TV stand to the left. Now the TV stand isn't centered in the Living Room. Ugh. (OCD much?)
Moved the furniture, and untangled the rats' nest of cables... why has no one ever vacuumed back here?
I got a snow shovel and scooped up all the dust (not really), vacuumed thoroughly, and wiped all the cables down with a damp cloth. Moved the furniture back into place (now centered) and turned the TV on. Now my recliner is off-center. Readjust, and now everything is working well.
Mission accomplished. I haven't eaten all day, so it looks like leftover pizza is on the menu.
@Lori Dee Of all the things going on in the world these days.... the issues that you
described with connecting your new television sound awfully like "first world" problems.
Enjoy your new television and furniture arrangement... and enjoy the fact that you
have dusted and vacuumed, and neatened up the cords and cables.
Are you pleased with how everything is working now? ???``````````````````````````````
How did your hearing test turn out? ???HUGS, Danielle
Quote from: Northern Star Girl on December 03, 2024, 06:09:50 PMAre you pleased with how everything is working now?
Indeed I am. I have not tested the other inputs yet. So later, I will watch a movie on my Blu-ray player, then maybe catch the late news on antenna TV just to make sure all is well.
So far, so good. Thanks!
@Lori Dee
How did your hearing test turn out? ???
HUGS, Danielle
Quote from: Northern Star Girl on December 03, 2024, 06:18:37 PM @Lori Dee
How did your hearing test turn out? ???
HUGS, Danielle
They can't give me an "official" report because they do not offer treatment. Their job is to evaluate and send a report to the VA Benefits Review Board.
He did show me the screen that shows moderate to severe high-frequency hearing loss. (No surprise)
I expect the board will rule in my favor for hearing loss and tinnitus. That could be a minimum increase in my rating by 20%.
On the 17th, I have my regular annual audiology exam. She will likely do the same hearing tests again to see if the program in my hearing aids needs to be adjusted.
I figure that by the time all these evaluation reports get to the Review Board, it will be Christmas, the New Year's. So the soonest I will know anything will be late January. I don't know how many other veterans are having claims processed, and it could be thousands. So I may not get a decision until February or March. Any increase at all will get backpay to June 26th when I filed the claims. If they decide no increase at all my rating stays the same and I lose nothing. The claims are over 10 years old (actually 30 years old), so those benefits are protected by law.
I doubt that I will get a 100% rating. That would be life-changing for me. 50% is possible, but iffy. I think 40% is realistic and anything less than that and I will appeal.
So now I wait.
I have all of my paperwork now for my passport. Tomorrow I will call and see how busy they are. I can make an appointment, which would be on a Monday. If they are not too busy, I can walk in Tuesday - Friday. I'm waiting for payday so the checks don't bounce. That would not be good. ;D
Quote from: Lori Dee on December 03, 2024, 09:00:45 PMI have all of my paperwork now for my passport. Tomorrow I will call and see how busy they are. I can make an appointment, which would be on a Monday. If they are not too busy, I can walk in Tuesday - Friday. I'm waiting for payday so the checks don't bounce. That would not be good. ;D
If the passport checks bounce, you may need to leave the country. ;D
I paid extra to have mine expedited, and I received it in less than two weeks. Good luck.
Love always -- Jess
Another "exciting" morning.
I need to go grocery shopping, so I checked my bank balance. :icon_yikes:
My internet service double-charged me. I upgraded my service in November, so the payment was slightly higher than usual due to proration. I signed up for autopay, which gives me a $10 discount, and payments are made on the 18th. On the 25th, they still had not pulled the payment. So I called Customer Service. They said I have to make a manual payment for the first billing cycle, then the autopay kicks in. So I made a payment (minus the discount).
Yesterday, the autopay kicked in for some unknown reason and they took out a payment for December (not due until the 18th) and for January and still without the discounts. Another call to Customer Service and he agreed that payment processing got jacked up, possibly due to the holiday weekend. So he has ordered a refund of January's payment, but it will take a few days for it to get back to my bank account. Meanwhile, they kept December's payment (without the discount) even though it isn't due yet.
Our property manager has been out of the office dealing with a family emergency for a month, so our rent checks have not been deposited. The corporate VP was here yesterday and will get those deposited. This means when the rent gets taken out, I'll have $10 left in my account until payday on the 11th. At least the rent check won't bounce.
Which brings me back to grocery shopping. That will have to go on the credit card today, then I can pay that (and my new TV) when payday gets here. Well, not exactly... The passport office wants almost $300 for the passport, card, photo, and expedited service... and that must be paid by check or money order, no credit or debit cards. So that comes out of the money that would go toward the credit card payment.
It's all good. I am an experienced financial juggler.
I was planning to start selling my gold anyway, so now would be a good time to start that. Once Trump gets sworn in, the price of gold will drop. It did last time he was elected, so I want to take advantage of the high price now while it lasts.
I also sufferer from tinnitus. Is there any treatment for that?
And me ,too many years using power tools when we didnt have ear defenders
Quote from: Gina P on December 04, 2024, 11:50:55 AMI also sufferer from tinnitus. Is there any treatment for that?
Sadly, no. There are herbal remedies with no science to back them up. High-end hearing aids can counteract it so it is less bothersome, but not a cure. It gets worse with age.
An audiologist told me that it is a sound being produced by the brain to compensate for the hearing loss at that frequency. The brain no longer receives that sound, so manufactures it to make all the other sounds seem normal. Thus, no medication or ear drops will fix it.
I don't know how the hearing aids can compensate, but I intend to ask my VA Audiologist about it on the 17th. I had suspected that they might use a sound masking technique, but that won't work if it is manufactured by the brain and is not an actual sound.
When I worked as a Technician, I installed a sound masking system in a call center. The system works using microphones placed throughout the office (full of cubicles) and samples the sound of phones ringing, conversation, etc. That sound is fed through a processor which inverts the wave and feeds the inverted sound back out through the intercom speakers. Since the two sound waves are exactly opposite in phase, it cancels the sound to zero amplitude. The employees only hear a hissing sound like white noise or the sound of the HVAC system and quickly get accustomed to it. The effect is that all sound is confined to the cubicles and is deadened past that. Nothing echoes and sound can't travel very far, so it sounds muffled. That was a fun project.
Protect your ears, they are important!
Chrissy
Lori,
Are all of your rock machines now working well?
Still fixing any?
Chrissy
Quote from: ChrissyRyan on December 04, 2024, 08:57:27 PMLori,
Are all of your rock machines now working well?
Still fixing any?
Chrissy
They are still under repair. Two of the machines are working, but one still needs parts. It hasn't been a priority since I am done rockhounding for the year. I want to start making jewelry with all the stones I have now, but there just doesn't seem to be enough hours in a day. :(
Quote from: Gina P on December 04, 2024, 11:50:55 AMI also sufferer from tinnitus. Is there any treatment for that?
Same here. I did a lot of pistol shooting 20 years ago but always wore ear protection. The tinnitus didn't start until years later. Go figure?
Mine does change volume. Sometimes it's hardly noticeable other times it's loud and clear. Never defining, just there.
Quote from: Paulie on December 05, 2024, 02:14:10 AMSame here. I did a lot of pistol shooting 20 years ago but always wore ear protection. The tinnitus didn't start until years later. Go figure?
Mine does change volume. Sometimes it's hardly noticeable other times it's loud and clear. Never defining, just there.
Mine changes volume like that, too. I thought it had something to do with blood pressure. I mentioned this to the examiner, and he just said, "That's normal," without any further explanation.
On the firing ranges, I always wore hearing protection. But that isn't possible inside a tank. Our helmets have communications (headphones and microphone) built in, and wearing earplugs defeats the purpose of the headphones. The microphones are used to communicate commands to my crew, as well as over the radio, but they also pick up ambient noise like cannon fire, machine gun fire, track squeak, and engine noise. That exposes the entire crew to the noise. Since the maker of the helmets was the lowest bidder on the contract, those headphones had no noise-canceling abilities.
Sounds very promising Lori.
Chrissy
I have tinnitus as well. As long as other noises are around, I don't notice it much. If I'm in a quiet place, the ringing is deafening. I've started using a white noise generator, it helps me sleep at night. Good luck.
Love always -- Jess
Quote from: Jessica_Rose on December 04, 2024, 10:41:49 AMI paid extra to have mine expedited, and I received it in less than two weeks. Good luck.
That is my plan as well. The cost is $241.36 for the passport book and card, plus expedited service, $35 paid to the passport office in the post office, and $15 for a passport photo.
I haven't been able to get through on the phone to ask questions. "This mailbox is full, please call back later."
However, they have a way to schedule an appointment online. I guess I'll make an appointment to ask them if I need an appointment. Gotta love government efficiency. ;D
Got my appointment for 16 DEC at 1:15pm. Woohoo!
"No one is free whose mind is not like a door with a double-hinge swinging outward to release their own ideas, and inward to receive the worthy thoughts of others." ~ Ralph M. Lewis
When we try to go about living our lives, we often encounter people who are trapped within their own closed minds. Trying to educate them doesn't work. They are not interested in anyone else's opinions. It is only what they think that matters.
I received a phone call from my dad. He and my mom had been recently hospitalized, but are now home and healing up. They are staunch Republicans and have worked as Election Judges since the 1970s.
I explained to him that I may be moving in August when my lease expires. I have an appointment to get a passport and my first stop will likely be across the state line in Minnesota until I can better assess the political climate. He didn't understand why I needed a passport to go to Minnesota.
I told him that the passport was for after Minnesota, in case I needed to leave the country due to persecution from his beloved Trump Administration. He still seemed confused. I asked him if he watched any of Trump's campaign rallies. He did. When I told him that millions of dollars were spent by Republicans in attack ads during the campaign, he didn't believe it. I told him that it was all over the news. He said it was not on OAN (One America News), as if that is the ONLY news outlet in America.
He also proceeded to tell me about all of the "fake news" channels that he refused to watch. I told him to go to Donald J. Trump's website and read his Agenda 47 (https://www.donaldjtrump.com/agenda47/president-trumps-plan-to-protect-children-from-left-wing-gender-insanity) for himself. If you don't want to read it, watch the video of this man speaking the words himself. Not coming from any media outlet. From the horse's mouth.
He then told me that he had been without internet service for a month. His ISP has decided they can no longer provide coverage to his address (in the middle of a large city). He says he has switched to the city's fiber-optic network and the city is in the process of installing a network node in his house this week.
I told him I would send him a link to the website, but he didn't hear me because he discovered my mom had left some papers on the desk and probably wanted him to make copies, so he had to go. Yeah. Bye, Dad. Love you too.
I am pretty sure that once I move, I will "be without internet for a month" and I am sure that the internet in Mexico is too sketchy to stay in contact with people who support erasing us from existence. I don't need that crap in my life so I will tell them what I told my ex-wife. "See ya!"
@Lori Dee
Dear Lori:
I immediately thought of you when I saw this story on my news feed this morning:
Geologists Might Have Stumbled Upon the Largest Gold Mine in the World
https://www.yahoo.com/finance/news/geologists-might-stumbled-upon-largest-133000185.html
Your thoughts?
HUGS, Danielle
Quote from: Northern Star Girl on December 07, 2024, 09:51:34 AM@Lori Dee
Dear Lori:
I immediately thought of you when I saw this story on my news feed this morning:
Geologists Might Have Stumbled Upon the Largest Gold Mine in the World
https://www.yahoo.com/finance/news/geologists-might-stumbled-upon-largest-133000185.html
Your thoughts?
HUGS, Danielle
That is huge, but discoveries like this are not "valuable" until the gold is mined. 9800 feet is very deep and costly, so the value of the find is offset by the cost of recovering it. If the computer models are accurate, it could be fantastic. China has been hoarding gold for decades, even buying other countries' reserves. They mostly use it in manufacturing and typically use more than they produce, so this could put them in a strong position economically.
As have many others, I have been selling off my gold, which has caused the gold price to drop slightly. On Wednesday, the price was just over $87 per gram, now it is down to $84.64. I am waiting to see if the market rebounds a bit before I make my final sale.
This is what placer gold looks like when dug out of the ground. I have been selling off my stash very slowly, taking advantage of the fluctuations in the spot price.
(https://i.imgur.com/zHBctFk.jpeg)
This last batch weighs 10.3 grams. On Wednesday, it was worth $896.10. Today, the spot price is down so it is only worth $871.80.
(https://i.imgur.com/esCymyt.jpeg)
Another factor when selling placer gold is that buyers never pay the spot price. Because this gold came out of the ground, it is not pure gold. It will have copper, silver, and maybe platinum mixed in. The Spot Price is for gold that is 99.999% pure. Usually, buyers pay around 80% of the spot price.
I could pay a smelter to melt it down, purify it, and give me back .999 pure gold. But it will not be 10.3 grams after they remove the impurities which could be around 20% of the total weight. Plus there is the cost of paying the smelter to do the work.
I could purify it myself using hydrochloric and sulfuric acid, but that is not practical in a small one-bedroom apartment. There are other methods, equally dangerous, and still involve the cost of chemicals.
So what most sellers do is shop around and find a buyer who pays 80% or more. Most pawn shops and jewelry stores do this. Eventually, they buy enough to make it worthwhile to smelt so they can use it in jewelry. Pawn shops usually don't melt it and just use it for trade or to sell to the public.
I don't care what they do with it. Just give me cash with no questions and I'll be on my way. The key is to sell it in small amounts over many transactions. Over $600 worth and there are government forms to fill out wanting to know where you found it and wanting you to pay income tax on it. Nope. Not happening.
I have been asked if it is legal to do it this way.
Danielle will appreciate this. When I worked in my friend's accounting office, I hung a sign on the wall that read:
"Any one may so arrange his affairs that his taxes shall be as low as possible; he is not bound to choose that pattern which will best pay the Treasury; there is not even a patriotic duty to increase one's taxes." ~ Judge Learned Hand, Helvering v. Gregory, 69 F.2d 809, 810-11 (2d Cir. 1934).
"Over and over again courts have said that there is nothing sinister in so arranging one's affairs as to keep taxes as low as possible. Everybody does so, rich or poor; and all do right, for nobody owes any public duty to pay more than the law demands: taxes are enforced exactions, not voluntary contributions. To demand more in the name of morals is mere cant." ~ Judge Learned Hand, Commissioner v. Newman, 159 F2d 848 (1947)
@Northern Star Girl
I checked the VA website and my claims are in the "gathering evidence" phase. They received my hearing test results on Dec 5th. According to the website (assuming they have all the needed evidence) it takes an average of 140 days to reach a decision. That means I should have an answer by April 24, 2025.
Some of the claims are re-evaluations of existing claims, so those could be backdated to either the date of the injury (1977) or the day after I left the service in 1990. The other claims are new, so they should be backdated to the date they received them, which was July 10, 2024.
All of this could be affected by the regime change and whatever policies The Fuhrer, enacts between January and April. If all goes well, I will have already resettled in a temporary "safe haven" while I plot my next move.
I have two appointments tomorrow morning, psych and gynecology. I plan to ask for letters recommending surgery from them and my Primary. They have said they will enter the recommendations into my medical records, but now I will demand a hard copy that I can hand to a surgeon in Thailand or Mexico. I figure I had better get them now before such letters become outlawed.
Once I get resettled, the question of medications will be important. I will be able to continue to get them from the VA Pharmacy, but I don't know what their policy is on shipping them internationally. Each country has its own laws that govern what can be brought in and how much you can legally have on hand. For example, opioid pain medications are illegal in Mexico. I am not sure what the rules are for hormones and hypodermic needles. Carrying a suitcase full might raise some eyebrows.
I am not too concerned with what restrictions other countries have, as I intend to fully comply with their laws. My concern is that Kristi Noem will be in charge of Homeland Security which includes the TSA, Border Security, and Customs and Immigration. I don't want to be needlessly detained while trying to leave the country. If they want to prevent me from returning, well... then maybe returning isn't in my best interests anyway.
Which brings me to my next thought. If Trump gets his way and Congress enacts a law that the government only recognizes two genders and they are assigned at birth as he has promised, does that mean that post-op I will be illegal? My transition is well-documented in various government databases, including what my original birth certificate said. If that does not match the person standing in front of them my citizenship is not verified any longer. That would make me an illegal or undocumented alien. Then Kristi Noem could order me to be rounded up with the other illegals and sent to who knows where.
I need to develop a Plan B, C, D, E ...
I realize these are worst-case scenarios, but still.
"If you fail to plan, then you plan to fail."
Oh Lori I am so sorry that you are fighting so much.
For whatever it is worth, my job has brought me into situations where I have to advise people leaving a hostile government what they can do to move wealth across international borders...clearly not the US but in other politically unstable countries like Yemen.
Gold is way too heavy, currency is too bulky, and diamonds are controlled by the De Beers company* which sets their over-inflated price and loses value like a new car leaving the lot.
Over the years, one of the few things that can be physically moved by a person across borders is precious stones like rubies, sapphires, emeralds, and opals. No monopoly controls the value.
Just an FYI with no guarantees.
*De Beers is a South African-British diamond company that mines, trades, and sells diamonds. They are the world's leading diamond company, with operations in 35 countries.
@Emma1017 Thanks, Emma.
Fortunately for me, my income is solely from disability (VA & private pension) and Social Security, and they will pay internationally. I would likely keep my bank account in the States as long as that is an option. I have no wealth and if I were to leave, I would sell off everything like furniture and my Jeep. Then do international bank transfers of cash only as needed. That way, I can leave the country with nothing to declare and re-enter with nothing to declare. ;D
I had a friend of mine who married a Thai woman. They would fly to Thailand a few times a year to visit her family. They always brought back a LOT of gold chain necklaces. It was a nice little side business. ;D
lori,
Nice avatar pic. Curious if all of your gold is found by panning or if you have one of those new slewth box's.
A close friend of mine is going to move to Columbia at least for a short time. He says the rate of exchange if increadable. Took a family of 5 out to dinner there for 17 dollars. He married a girl from thier and says crime is not a problem in thier area. I don't know if would have that much courage to just move there.
Quote from: Gina P on December 11, 2024, 08:00:53 AMCurious if all of your gold is found by panning or if you have one of those new slewth box's.
Thanks, Gina.
I use both gold pans and sluice boxes. The sluice I use the most is one that I designed myself. I had one that was factory-made, but I was not having much luck with it. I began studying mining reports that discussed sluice design and realized that most companies are selling junk.
It is five feet long and was made in sections, so I can fold it up and fit it into my backpack. I figured out what design I needed for the conditions in my area, then bought several sections of rubber mats from Gold Hog that fit my design. Later, I bought a Stream Sluice from Gold Hog, but it could not outperform my design, so I seldom use it.
After using my design for a few years, I felt I had proven it works well. So, I wrote a couple of articles on my website about sluice box designs and how to use them.
https://www.lori-dee.com/post/sluices-long-toms-and-dredges
Lori,
You are filling out nicely, judging by your current (12/11/2024) avatar.
Chrissy
Quote from: ChrissyRyan on December 11, 2024, 11:34:55 PMLori,
You are filling out nicely, judging by your current (12/11/2024) avatar.
Chrissy
The miracles of AI photography give me the figure I want and keep me looking young. ;D
(https://i.imgur.com/4cntBG6.jpeg)
Lori Dee is two years old today! :eusa_dance:
On this day in 2022, I had my court date for Legal Name Change.
I have officially been Lori Dee ever since.
Celebrate every little milestone when you get them. It is good for your mental health.
Happy re-Birthday Lori! Those first few years being 'you' can be quite difficult. Taking a little time to celebrate some of those anniversaries really is important. I hope you have a fabulous day!
Love always -- Jess
Quote from: Lori Dee on December 12, 2024, 09:52:09 AMThe miracles of AI photography give me the figure I want and keep me looking young. ;D
(https://i.imgur.com/4cntBG6.jpeg)
Awesome.
Quote from: Jessica_Rose on December 12, 2024, 11:57:21 AMHappy re-Birthday Lori! Those first few years being 'you' can be quite difficult. Taking a little time to celebrate some of those anniversaries really is important. I hope you have a fabulous day!
Love always -- Jess
Well, I appreciate that.
I was in a car accident. I was on my way to sell the last of my gold and got rear-ended. I'm ok, no injuries. I think the car that hit me might be totaled. My Jeep has some plastic trim on the bumper that got cracked. It's 20 degrees out, so no surprise. I am really surprised that my damage was minimal.
I have the police report and have filed a claim against her insurance. She couldn't apologize enough for hitting me.
The police took down our information and asked me how long I had lived in the city. I said since 2015. He said they don't have a "name card" on file for me. I told them that 2 years ago today I had a legal name change done through the court. I had to give him all my old information so they could update their records. He was cool about it. Said people get married and change their names all the time, so it's no big deal to update their files.
When getting ready to leave the officer warned me that I might get sore after the adrenaline wears off. So I will be taking it easy today. If I need to I can go down to the VA tomorrow and get checked out, but I believe I am okay.
Enough about me, how is your day going? ;D
Quote from: Lori Dee on December 12, 2024, 09:58:50 AMLori Dee is two years old today! :eusa_dance:
On this day in 2022, I had my court date for Legal Name Change.
I have officially been Lori Dee ever since.
Celebrate every little milestone when you get them. It is good for your mental health.
Yay!
Lori, you have been busy!
First, I am so glad that you are OK. Car accidents are so random.
Second, your avatar is HOT!
Third, the world is filled with countries where the dollar goes the distance. Best to find one with good medical care and a fair judicial system. After that have fun finding your "Spot".
Yes her avatar is attractive.
But in real life she is too, in other ways besides looks too, I am confident.
Chrissy
Lori,
I wonder if frost and frost heaves uncover gold for you out in the field? Does it or is there no way of really telling?
Chrissy
Quote from: ChrissyRyan on December 14, 2024, 02:32:09 PMLori,
I wonder if frost and frost heaves uncover gold for you out in the field? Does it or is there no way of really telling?
Chrissy
Not directly. It's not like there will be little piles of gold. I wish.
but it helps erode the ore out of the lode. Water gets in the cracks and expands when it freezes. That makes the crack bigger, so more water can get in, and the process repeats.
https://www.lori-dee.com/post/where-to-find-gold
Quote from: Lori Dee on December 12, 2024, 02:21:20 PMWhen getting ready to leave the officer warned me that I might get sore after the adrenaline wears off. So I will be taking it easy today. If I need to I can go down to the VA tomorrow and get checked out, but I believe I am okay.
I was rear ended about 20-25 years ago. I was fine after the accident and went about my business. A day or so later I had sever back and neck pain. My doctor at the time prescribed some muscle relaxers and that did the trick. Haven't had any back issues since. It's funny how the body reacts to trauma.
I glad you're okay after the accident.
Warm Regards,
Paulie.
Quote from: Lori Dee on December 12, 2024, 02:21:20 PMWell, I appreciate that.
I was in a car accident. I was on my way to sell the last of my gold and got rear-ended. I'm ok, no injuries. I think the car that hit me might be totaled. My Jeep has some plastic trim on the bumper that got cracked. It's 20 degrees out, so no surprise. I am really surprised that my damage was minimal.
I have the police report and have filed a claim against her insurance. She couldn't apologize enough for hitting me.
The police took down our information and asked me how long I had lived in the city. I said since 2015. He said they don't have a "name card" on file for me. I told them that 2 years ago today I had a legal name change done through the court. I had to give him all my old information so they could update their records. He was cool about it. Said people get married and change their names all the time, so it's no big deal to update their files.
When getting ready to leave the officer warned me that I might get sore after the adrenaline wears off. So I will be taking it easy today. If I need to I can go down to the VA tomorrow and get checked out, but I believe I am okay.
Enough about me, how is your day going? ;D
Lori,
Jeeps are quite sturdy. Are you doing okay today?
Chrissy
Yes, thanks!
I was sore for a day, but all is well.
I will be busy Monday and Tuesday with appointments, so I'll be back on Wednesday.
I hope your appointments go well.
We look forward to your return.
Chrissy
Today's appointment at the passport office went well. In and out in a matter of minutes. No lines, no waiting. I was a little early for my appointment, but the clerk brought me in we got it done.
I noticed that she had a coffee cup on the counter being used as a pen holder. It had rainbow stripes on it. Not exactly a Pride flag, but the same colors.
She told me that the passport and card should arrive in 14 days, but due to the holidays, I will likely receive them by the first week of January. I said that was fine as long as I had it before the 20th. I am not going anywhere right away, but I want to make sure I have all my documents in order.
She said not to worry, many of the claims being made about changes to the government will never happen. But just the same (she paused thinking of the correct phrase) people are getting things like this done, just in case. She wanted to say "transgender" but stopped herself. She knew I was because she had my court order with name and gender change right in front of her. She said that my original paperwork would be mailed back to me.
I told her that when that happens, I can apply to have my birth certificate corrected, but Pennsylvania is taking 5 months to get it done. She said she believes it because Pennsylvania has more ... (another pause) ... people than South Dakota. :)
This whole conversation and process, including the photo, swearing an oath, and signing the form took about five minutes. No exaggeration.
Tomorrow, I have a hearing aid check-up in the morning, and then in the afternoon, I take the Jeep over to the body shop to get a damage estimate for my insurance claim.
Any guesses on how much the damage will be for my Jeep?
Her car:
(https://i.imgur.com/kimCgRV.jpeg)
My Jeep:
(https://i.imgur.com/71KKkMq.jpeg)
I am so happy that no one got hurt.
I've never been more proud of a motor vehicle.
$1,475.50
Quote from: ChrissyRyan on December 16, 2024, 10:57:40 PM$1,475.50
So far, Chrissy's guess is the closest!
WINNER GETS A FREE TICKET!
Quote from: Lori Dee on December 16, 2024, 11:04:53 PMSo far, Chrissy's guess is the closest!
WINNER GETS A FREE TICKET!
What can the ticket be redeemed for?
Hey, I am the only guess so far. Someone else step up and guess!
Chrissy
When a scratched bumper can be a $600 repair, I would say the damage is closer to $2000.
Glad to hear you didn't suffer any lasting injury.
Love always -- Jess
Quote from: ChrissyRyan on December 17, 2024, 09:11:56 AMWhat can the ticket be redeemed for?
That's a secret. Isn't this exciting?
Quote from: Jessica_Rose on December 17, 2024, 10:57:58 AMWhen a scratched bumper can be a $600 repair, I would say the damage is closer to $2000.
Glad to hear you didn't suffer any lasting injury.
Love always -- Jess
Thanks, Jess.
I am very grateful that no one was hurt. Of course, her parents might have beaten her senseless when they saw what she did to their car. I wonder if their Medical Coverage covers that? ;D
I have the estimate, but I am trying to get caught up before a dinner date.
That gives everyone more time to guess.
Details to follow...
Vehicle repairs are very expensive.
Even more so for Teslas and Rivians I have heard.
And now for the rest of the story...
If you are a veteran and you do not have USAA, you are doing it wrong. I bank with USAA, so it makes sense to have auto and renter's insurance through them.
A few years ago (more than five), I had a 1994 Silverado pickup that I had paid cash for. That truck moved me to South Dakota and took me to some very interesting places deep in the forests of the Black Hills.
I was at a grocery store looking for a place to park, and a young gal backed her truck right into the side of my truck. It put a large dent in the side near the fuel filler tube. It was on private property (a grocery store), so no police report. We exchanged information and took photos of each other's license, registration, insurance cards, and damage to my truck. Uploaded the photos to USAA via their app while still on-scene in case they asked for some other information. All was good and a claim was filed.
By the time I got home, the claims adjuster called and had an appointment for me at a local body shop to get an estimate the next day. I went to the shop and he gave me the bad news. The damage to my truck was $50 more than the truck was worth, so they considered it totaled. I called the claims adjuster and they let me keep the truck and paid me for the damage, less the $500 deductible. I had the money in my bank account two days after the accident!
Today, I went across the street to the body shop to get the estimate for the damage to my Jeep. At first, he said it probably looked worse than it really was. I told him that I did not want to hear the word "repair". The key word here is "replace". If they broke it, they can BMA (Buy Me Another).
They will replace the rear bumper, the plastic splash guards, and the trim pieces that got broken. The heat shield above the muffler was crushed, so that gets replaced. The tailpipe has a slight dent, so that will get repaired. The floor pan got dented too. That is a small well in the back where the spare tire is kept under the floor of the trunk. It is a small dent so I agreed to have them pop that back into shape. He said the job will likely take 10 days to finish.
I left the shop 35 minutes later and returned home across the street. Or as Google Maps claims, 0.1 miles away. As I entered the front door of the building, I received several text messages from USAA. One told me that the estimate had been received. The other gave me options to get the vehicle repaired at that shop or another of my choosing. The third text said that a payment was issued to the shop in the amount of...
$2,031.18 to begin repairs.
So the Jeep was not totaled. The repairs will cost half of the Jeep's book value. ;D I made an appointment and will drop it off tomorrow so they can tear it apart and start ordering parts.
For those of you playing from home, that makes
@Jessica_Rose our winner! Congratulations!
I will be sending you your Free Ticket. Suitable for framing, lining bird cages, or training puppies.
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I am glad you are getting it fixed.
I was looking at just the back end for replacement, not that hidden damage.
Jess will appreciate the ticket, one she does not have to send in with a fine and court costs payment.
Chrissy
Quote from: ChrissyRyan on December 17, 2024, 08:07:19 PMI was looking at just the back end for replacement, not that hidden damage.
I didn't know about the hidden stuff either. He said the estimate could be low. Once they get it torn apart, they can possibly find other things that need to be fixed. I'm covered no matter what, so it's all good.
Quote from: Lori Dee on December 17, 2024, 08:10:29 PMI didn't know about the hidden stuff either. He said the estimate could be low. Once they get it torn apart, they can possibly find other things that need to be fixed. I'm covered no matter what, so it's all good.
Yes that is good.
Quote from: Lori Dee on December 17, 2024, 07:58:06 PMFor those of you playing from home, that makes @Jessica_Rose our winner! Congratulations!
I will be sending you your Free Ticket. Suitable for framing, lining bird cages, or training puppies.
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I've been with USAA forever, at least it seems that way. They aren't perfect, but they've always come through for me.
Thanks for the ticket! Susan said I could redeem it for some hot cocoa.
Love always -- Jess
Modern cars are built to crush in a bump to take away the energy so a little bump causes a lot of damage, I have seen twisted body shells from what looks a very minor damage. My Yeti got hit a few years ago taking out the left rear door by a woman pulling out as I drove by, no problem with new door fitted and side of car resprayed. I would think her car was totalled as it took most of the front plastic off as well as lights, but thats the thing. The damage to mine would have been far worse were it not for the plastic giving way (as well as my avoiding swerve).
Wow, what a busy day.
My Best Friend texted me saying that she was going north to Lead, SD for Christmas and offered to run me to the store for any supplies I might need until she got back. She ran me to the store and handed me a bag of goodies that her sister had made last night. Buffalo Jerky and Cashew Clusters. YUM!
When I got home, I got a text message from USAA saying that the payment for my Jeep repairs had been canceled. What? ???
Then I got a text update from the shop saying my Jeep would be ready today! Great! I had better make sure the shop was getting paid because I didn't have a couple thousand dollars in my wallet.
I sent a text message to the insurance adjuster asking why the payment was canceled. No response.
Then I got a call from the shop saying my Jeep was done and I could come and get it. All they need is my $500 deductible. < insert panic attack >
But my Claims Adjuster had told me my deductible was waived. The other insurance company admitted liability, not my fault. They should pay my deductible. Well, the shop is getting paid from MY insurance, not the other company. Ugh.
So I called USAA and asked to speak to my Claim Adjuster. I got her voicemail and her voice sounds like she is really sick. She will be out of the office until the 24th.
Um, no that is Christmas Eve. I need to talk to someone now. In her voicemail, she left a number and extension for her supervisor. Great.
I called the supervisor, but the menu system does not recognize that extension number. Can someone else help? Yes! And I get rerouted back to the voicemail. Ugh.
The third time is a charm. I called the automated system, just asked for a status update on an open claim and I got routed to... Juanita! I explained the situation and she transferred me to Seth, another Claims Adjuster.
I explained the situation and he verified that my deductible had been waived. He set up a three-way conference call with the shop and verified that my deductible was waived. The reason the payment was canceled was because it did not include the $500 deductible that the shop needed to release my Jeep. I thanked USAA profusely for getting everything sorted for me.
While I was on the phone, the shop called me to say that their payment had been adjusted and I could come get my Jeep. Hooray! :eusa_dance:
My Jeep is now parked back in MY SPOT with a shiny new rear bumper, and I am munching on cashew clusters and buffalo jerky for lunch.
Life is good. ;D
Quote from: Lori Dee on December 23, 2024, 03:37:32 PMWow, what a busy day.
My Best Friend texted me saying that she was going north to Lead, SD for Christmas and offered to run me to the store for any supplies I might need until she got back. She ran me to the store and handed me a bag of goodies that her sister had made last night. Buffalo Jerky and Cashew Clusters. YUM!
When I got home, I got a text message from USAA saying that the payment for my Jeep repairs had been canceled. What? ???
Then I got a text update from the shop saying my Jeep would be ready today! Great! I had better make sure the shop was getting paid because I didn't have a couple thousand dollars in my wallet.
I sent a text message to the insurance adjuster asking why the payment was canceled. No response.
Then I got a call from the shop saying my Jeep was done and I could come and get it. All they need is my $500 deductible. < insert panic attack >
But my Claims Adjuster had told me my deductible was waived. The other insurance company admitted liability, not my fault. They should pay my deductible. Well, the shop is getting paid from MY insurance, not the other company. Ugh.
So I called USAA and asked to speak to my Claim Adjuster. I got her voicemail and her voice sounds like she is really sick. She will be out of the office until the 24th.
Um, no that is Christmas Eve. I need to talk to someone now. In her voicemail, she left a number and extension for her supervisor. Great.
I called the supervisor, but the menu system does not recognize that extension number. Can someone else help? Yes! And I get rerouted back to the voicemail. Ugh.
The third time is a charm. I called the automated system, just asked for a status update on an open claim and I got routed to... Juanita! I explained the situation and she transferred me to Seth, another Claims Adjuster.
I explained the situation and he verified that my deductible had been waived. He set up a three-way conference call with the shop and verified that my deductible was waived. The reason the payment was canceled was because it did not include the $500 deductible that the shop needed to release my Jeep. I thanked USAA profusely for getting everything sorted for me.
While I was on the phone, the shop called me to say that their payment had been adjusted and I could come get my Jeep. Hooray! :eusa_dance:
My Jeep is now parked back in MY SPOT with a shiny new rear bumper, and I am munching on cashew clusters and buffalo jerky for lunch.
Life is good. ;D
Yay!
I'm glad to hear you got your Jeep back so quickly! I detest those automated answering systems.
Love always -- Jess
AI has made those calling trees worse, maybe not for company's labor costs but for customers who simply prefer to talk with a person rather than have an interaction with a computer.
Thank you, Emma!
Since the election, I have spoken with several people who voted for Trump. Every one of them denies that Trump has specifically targeted transgender rights and they all claim they did not see any of the attack ads that were run on TV.
Last night, I was talking to my dad (a strong Trump supporter) and got the same response. He didn't understand why I felt that I needed a passport. I asked if he watched the news. He said he watches the news every day and Trump never said any of these things. For reference, the only news outlet he watches is OAN (One America Network).
He then began to tell me about all the "fake news" outlets spewing lies about him. I stopped him right there while he denied that Trump had said any of these things. He was seated in front of his computer, so I directed him to go to Trump's website (donaldjtrump.com), click on "Agenda 47," scroll down, and click on the second page.
https://www.donaldjtrump.com/agenda47/president-trumps-plan-to-protect-children-from-left-wing-gender-insanity
I told him that he could watch the video later and watch as this man actually speaks the words, but for now, let's read the transcript together.
1. Revoke Joe Biden's cruel policies on so-called "gender affirming care" ...
2. Sign a new executive order instructing every federal agency to cease all programs that promote the concept of sex and gender transition at any age.
3. Ask Congress to permanently stop federal taxpayer dollars from being used to promote or pay for these procedures. ...
5. Declare that any hospital or healthcare provider participating in the chemical or physical mutilation of minor youth will no longer meet federal health and safety standards for Medicaid and Medicare—and will be terminated from the program. ...
9. ... Ask Congress to pass a bill establishing that:
The only genders recognized by the U.S. government are male and female—and they are assigned at birth.
He said, "Okay, but how does that apply to YOU?" What? ???
All of my medical care is through the Veterans Administration (a Federal Agency). My only health insurance is through Medicare (a Federal Agency). If those two agencies are prohibited from providing "gender-affirming care", that means that I lose my health insurance coverage and can no longer receive medical treatment, including mental health services. If I can't get therapy and medicine in this country, I will need to go somewhere that I can. This is not the country that I gave 14 years of my life to defend. "All men are created equal." "Everyone has the right to life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness." Ring a bell?
Dad said that he doesn't believe that any of this will happen. So I asked him if that meant that Trump was lying. He is here on his website saying he will do these things. He was in Arizona recently where he said he would do these things "on Day One". Was he lying? Are you saying that he is a liar? He said no, he wasn't lying but people can interpret this to mean different things.
I said, "If I show up on your doorstep with a loaded gun pointed at you, and said that I will pull the trigger in fifteen minutes, would you be concerned?" Maybe I am lying. Maybe you misunderstood what I said.
He finally admitted that I have good reason to be concerned, but for any of this to take place would take a long time, maybe even years. I agreed.
So what do I do in the meantime? If Congress and the courts agree that "The only genders recognized by the U.S. government are male and female — and they are assigned at birth", where does that leave me?
My citizenship in this country is based upon the fact that I was native-born on U.S. soil. But the document that proves that no longer matches my current identity documents. The name and gender are different. Does this mean that I am no longer a U.S. citizen? Does this mean I am an undocumented alien and subject to deportation? To where? If I have no country of origin, will I live in an airport terminal like Snowden did?
What if the "Federal Agencies" "cease all programs that promote the concept of sex and gender transition at any age"? Does my Social Security account get reverted to what was on my birth certificate? Does that mean I would no longer qualify for any of my pension income or Medicare insurance?
We don't know the answers to these questions. Will it take a long time for any of this to become a reality? Probably. There are numerous civil rights organizations ready to file lawsuits "on Day One" and will probably hit the courts before the ink is dry on these Executive Orders.
But that is not the point.
It is the fact that this man is even willing to try, with the power of the U.S. Government.
I wish I had gone to Law School. I would mount the largest class-action lawsuit in the history of the world. I would bury the courts in paperwork, from medical studies and Supreme Court cases to statements from 26 professional medical associations that support gender-affirming care as a medical treatment for gender dysphoria. I would demand reparations of $1 million for every transgender person who has been openly discriminated against by an elected official.
Prohibit taxpayer funds for gender affirming procedures?
Nope, you just financed all of them. Up yours.
Merry Christmas, everyone. ;D
Hopefully he will get whats coming to him!! Anyway dear HAPPY CHRISTMAS XXX
Merry Christmas Lori!
Chrissy
Merry Chistmas, Chrissy!@ChrissyRyan
I am bored with all of the usual "holiday classics". I refuse to watch "Home Alone" or "It's a Wonderful Life" even one more time... ever!
So for tonight's entertainment, I will be watching the ever-popular "Elf" (Will Farrel) and then I will watch "Fatman" (Mel Gibson). These are my new "holiday classics".
Have a wonderful night, everyone!
Big Giant HUGS!
I actually like Tim Allen in 'The Santa Clause'. My favorite holiday show is 'Charlie Brown'.
I hope you have a wonderful Christmas, Lori.
Love always -- Jess
Santa the grammarian has subordinate clauses.
Quote from: Lori Dee on December 24, 2024, 06:22:37 PMI am bored with all of the usual "holiday classics". I refuse to watch "Home Alone" or "It's a Wonderful Life" even one more time... ever!
So for tonight's entertainment, I will be watching the ever-popular "Elf" (Will Farrel) and then I will watch "Fatman" (Mel Gibson). These are my new "holiday classics".
Have a wonderful night, everyone!
Big Giant HUGS!
I recommend these old romance films, all with at least one holiday time scene. Plus Sleepless in Seattle actually starts on Christmas Eve!
Sleepless in Seattle
You've Got Mail
When Harry Met Sally
If you have to pick just one, go with the very nice Christmas time setting movie Sleepless in Seattle.
Chrissy
Quote from: ChrissyRyan on December 24, 2024, 07:21:57 PMI recommend these old romance films, all with at least one holiday time scene. Plus Sleepless in Seattle actually starts on Christmas Eve!
Sleepless in Seattle
You've Got Mail
When Harry Met Sally
If you have to pick just one, go with the very nice Christmas time setting movie Sleepless in Seattle.
Chrissy
The problem with older movies like that is that I have seen them a gazillion times and have difficulty staying awake watching them. They are all good movies, but I need something I haven't seen in a few years to keep me interested.
Like the movie, "Jesus Christ Superstar". When the movie first came out, I worked at a movie theater running the projectors. The theater ran the movie for a week, three shows a day. I know every word of the script and every note of every song in the entire movie. I love the movie, but I have to avoid it for a while to keep it from getting stale.
Now that I think about it, I haven't seen it in a while. Maybe I'll watch it again tomorrow.
Happy Birthday, Jesus!
Some good new telly on tonight, Dr Who, a new Wallace and Gromit and the final Gavin and Stacy. With you on the movies, watched Ghost Busters Afterlife last night for the 2nd time.
Quote from: Lori Dee on December 24, 2024, 10:20:59 AMSo what do I do in the meantime?
This is the question that we are relying on to keep us sane.
My wife is changing her documents as quickly as she can.
We're sending letters to our legislators. Then newspapers, maybe.
We're distracting and rejuvenating ourselves with unrelated, challenging, meaningful, creative projects.
Thank you for sharing your conversation and thoughts.
Best wishes to you!
Quote from: Jessica_Rose on December 24, 2024, 07:05:22 PMI actually like Tim Allen in 'The Santa Clause'. My favorite holiday show is 'Charlie Brown'.
I hope you have a wonderful Christmas, Lori.
Love always -- Jess
Merry Christmas, Jess and Susan.
Last night, I was getting ready for bed. It was just after midnight, I was in my nightie and had just finished brushing my teeth, and I caught some fat guy trying to break into my apartment!
I was pushing him back out the door and he kept saying he needed to use the door because my apartment doesn't have a fireplace.
I kept pushing him and telling him to get out and he said he needed to put some gifts under my tree. I gave him one final shove and pushed him into the hallway and locked my door. The joke's on him. I don't have a tree. Freakin' pre-vert!
I waited a little while to make sure he was gone, then opened the door. He left a rock on my doormat! I think it is a piece of coal.
The joke is still on him. I love rocks and this is a rather nice specimen to add to my collection.
;D
Merry Christmas, everyone!
Quote from: Lori Dee on December 25, 2024, 09:45:15 AMLast night, I was getting ready for bed. It was just after midnight, I was in my nightie and had just finished brushing my teeth, and I caught some fat guy trying to break into my apartment!
I was pushing him back out the door and he kept saying he needed to use the door because my apartment doesn't have a fireplace.
I kept pushing him and telling him to get out and he said he needed to put some gifts under my tree. I gave him one final shove and pushed him into the hallway and locked my door. The joke's on him. I don't have a tree. Freakin' pre-vert!
I waited a little while to make sure he was gone, then opened the door. He left a rock on my doormat! I think it is a piece of coal.
The joke is still on him. I love rocks and this is a rather nice specimen to add to my collection.
;D
Merry Christmas, everyone!
Oddball for sure, he was towards you.
Chrissy
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Merry Christmas
and a
Happy New Year
From an Aussie Down Under!
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May all your dreams and wishes come true
Best Wishes AlwaysSarah B@Lori Dee
Merry Christmas Lori. Rock on!
In the evenings, I enjoy watching a movie while I eat. Recently, I watched
"Predestination" (Ethan Hawke) which is one that I really enjoy.
Although it is billed as a science-fiction-time-travel-paradox movie, the entire plot is based upon a woman who is born intersex. I won't give away any details if you haven't seen it, but if you step back and watch how her story unfolds, I found a lot of commonality with my own journey: knowing that you are different but not understanding why, trying to excel in things that seem to fit who you are, then the sudden revelation of why and the shock of what that means for you. If you haven't seen it, watch it.
Then last night, I watched
"Bloodshot" (Vin Diesel) and I must admit that I slept through some of it. The lines that stuck with me were:
- "But you don't need a history to have a future."
- "Who we were doesn't have to define who we are going to be. We can choose."
This made me think about perspectives. When someone asks (about you), "Who is that?" the answers often contain keywords. "That is the ... who ..." or "That is my ..."
People can only relate what you are to them from their perspective. They cannot know who you really are, the real you.
So in the past, we may have been known as "that guy/gal" the firefighter, soldier, airman, techie, nerd, or whatever. And that changed over time. It is still YOU, but now maybe you are known as the ..., my ..., our ..., or whatever. We remain the same people but the perspective of others has changed, our acquaintances and circle of friends have changed. Even the people that I call "family" have changed.
"Who we were doesn't have to define who we are going to be. We can choose."Be the person you choose to be.
The perspective of others will catch up. It just takes them a while to adjust.
"Progress is impossible without change, and those who cannot change their minds cannot change anything." ~ George Bernard Shaw
Quote from: Lori Dee on December 25, 2024, 09:45:15 AMThe joke is still on him. I love rocks and this is a rather nice specimen to add to my collection.
;D
Merry Christmas, everyone!
You'll have to break the rock, maybe it will have a gold nugget in it....
Leigh
Quote from: davina61 on December 25, 2024, 02:53:16 AMa new Wallace and Gromit
I love Wallace and Gromit. Not well known. It is fun to see the film mentioned!!
Leigh
People misunderstand the "cost-of-living increase".
My VA disability pay went up $4.38.
My dental insurance premium went up $10.
The real "cost-of-living increase" is $5.62 because that is how much my cost increased.
Quote from: Lori Dee on December 28, 2024, 07:29:07 PMPeople misunderstand the "cost-of-living increase".
My VA disability pay went up $4.38.
My dental insurance premium went up $10.
The real "cost-of-living increase" is $5.62 because that is how much my cost increased.
Think of the brighter side Lori.
This is a better situation than NOT receiving the $4.38 pay increase but still having the $10 premium increase.
Chrissy
So it's been like six whole pages since I last poked my nose in here, lol.
Just to wish you a happy new year, Lori. I doubt I'll be around on the actual date.
Keep doing what you do, you're an inspiration.
Love you, girl. <3
L X
Happy New Year, Everyone!
I'm off to go watch some fireworks.
Have fun! Happy New Year, sweetie <3
Lori,
You are fabulous!
Happy New Year!
Chrissy
Quote from: Sephirah on December 31, 2024, 08:59:08 PMHave fun! Happy New Year, sweetie <3
Sephirah,
Happy new year, you wonderful lady!
Chrissy
And to all,
Happy New year from me too.
I received two text messages today:
1. My passport application was received on Dec. 24th and it has been approved!
2. My passport has been shipped and I should have it by the 5th.
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Quote from: Lori Dee on January 02, 2025, 04:13:26 PMI received two text messages today:
1. My passport application was received on Dec. 24th and it has been approved!
2. My passport has been shipped and I should have it by the 5th.
:eusa_clap: :icon_geekdance: :icon_walk: :eusa_dance: :eusa_clap:
Excellent!
Chrissy
Quote from: Lori Dee on January 02, 2025, 04:13:26 PMI received two text messages today:
1. My passport application was received on Dec. 24th and it has been approved!
2. My passport has been shipped and I should have it by the 5th.
:eusa_clap: :icon_geekdance: :icon_walk: :eusa_dance: :eusa_clap:
Awesome!
Now you can escape the "free world" if you need to find some place free!! You can go gold hunting in Australia!!
Quote from: davina61 on January 03, 2025, 03:52:29 AMNow you can escape the "free world" if you need to find some place free!! You can go gold hunting in Australia!!
That is the backup plan. I would love to do some prospecting in Australia! For now, I am just waiting to see how things start to unfold.
While grocery shopping yesterday, I browsed the "discounted" DVD and Blu-Ray movies. I am always looking to add to my collection, especially if I can get two or more movies bundled for the same price ($7.50).
I found one that looks interesting: "The Hatfields and McCoys". It stars Kevin Costner and Bill Paxton, so I got it.
When I opened the package at home, it had two discs. ???
They are labeled Part 1 and Part 2, and Part 3 and Special Features. Three parts? Then I checked the run time. This movie is 249 minutes!
The last time I watched a movie that long was about 20 years ago when I found a DVD set at a garage sale of the 1980 movie "Shogun". That one was 547 minutes and took us a week to watch it. To its credit, the movie never got boring. It kept us engaged the whole time while our backs, legs, and bladders were cramping from sitting too long. If you get a chance, check it out. It is good.
My only hope is that "Hatfields & McCoys" is also good and keeps me engaged. I remember seeing "King Kong" in the theater because it was a new release. At three hours, I was begging for it to be over. It is a good movie, but they really could have trimmed it down a bit. I can't handle three hours of movie theater seats.
At least with this movie, I can watch it from the comfort of my recliner and pause it when I need to stretch to take a potty break. I'll let you know if the movie is any good, but I haven't seen a bad Kevin Costner movie yet.
I like the Road Runner cartoons that you can find online. They are relatively short too.
I wonder if Google is sending a message.
On my computer, I have Microsoft Bing blocked. That seems to have indirectly blocked MSN websites.
I don't miss it, as I have "Google LGBTQ+ news topic search" bookmarked. But today, that topic comes up blank with nothing to show at all, not even old news.
If I do a Google search and enter LGBTQ+ in the search box, the first item listed is the LGBTQ+ Topic. Click on that and it is empty. Nothing to show.
But if, instead of clicking the topic, I allow the search engine to search for the term LGBTQ then it will list all of the LGBTQ news stories.
Has Google decided to drop the LGBTQ+ topic?
Hmmm.
I just searched LGBTQ+ on Yahoo.com search...
https://search.yahoo.com/search?p=LGBTQ%2B+&fr=yfp-t&fr2=p%3Afp%2Cm%3Asb&ei=UTF-8&fp=1
results: 5 pages of relevant hits including News Stories.
Quote from: Northern Star Girl on January 03, 2025, 09:22:23 PMI just searched LGBTQ+ on Yahoo.com search...
https://search.yahoo.com/search?p=LGBTQ%2B+&fr=yfp-t&fr2=p%3Afp%2Cm%3Asb&ei=UTF-8&fp=1
results: 5 pages of relevant hits including News Stories.
I did the same on Yahoo. I just find it curious that suddenly Google's LGBTQ+ topic is empty.
Hi Lori
Quote from: Lori Dee on December 28, 2024, 07:29:07 PMPeople misunderstand the "cost-of-living increase".
My VA disability pay went up $4.38.
My dental insurance premium went up $10.
The real "cost-of-living increase" is -$5.62 because that is how much my cost increased Decreased!.
You are so much richer, is that enough to have a drink?
Hugs
Sarah B
Quote from: Sarah B on January 03, 2025, 09:28:16 PMHi Lori
You are so much richer, is that enough to have a drink?
Hugs
Sarah B
Well, with the $48 increase in my Social Security retirement, I can afford to fill up the gas tank on the Jeep once a month. ;D
Hi Lori
I just did a 'google' search for LGBTQ+ Which gives me some stuff on it and then I click on one of the sub menus one sees below the search box, namely:
Images, News, Videos, Shopping, Maps, Web and More . . .
Click on the 'News' button and presto pages of news items.
I have about 10 plus search engines that I can use, but I do not use MSN or Bing.
I also use a browser called Palemoon (firebox based code) and duckduckgo with ad blockers to cut down on the crap. I do not use the main stream browsers as they tend to use msn or Bing giving you more ads then you can possibly read in a lifetime.
Happy browsing and searching
Hugs
Sarah B
@Lori Dee
@Sarah B Go to Google News.
In the search box, type LGBTQ+.
It will give you a list of possible matches. The first one is LGBTQ+ Topic. Click that.
It is empty.
However, if you just hit enter, it will search and show the various search results that you saw.
The topic bookmark has been working for a year and now suddenly is blank.
(https://i.imgur.com/Hp4uMUN.jpeg)
Maybe it's just a glitch.
Hi Lori
You suggested:
Quote from: Lori Dee on January 03, 2025, 10:42:05 PMGo to Google News.
In the search box, type LGBTQ+.
It will give you a list of possible matches. The first one is LGBTQ+ Topic. Click that.
It is empty.
I did the following using https://news.google.com and in the search bar LGBTQ+
First of the rank was the following news article
"Rep Mark Takano to lead Congress, LGBTQ+ caucus amid transgender rights fight"
Which led to the actual news, there was no blank page.
Things like this happen all the time someone says this, someone else tries it and gets completely different repsonse.
That's just the internet for you. Yeah maybe a glitch.
Have fun with it.
Hugs
Sarah B
@Lori Dee
Quote from: Lori Dee on January 03, 2025, 08:43:33 PMOn my computer, I have Microsoft Bing blocked. That seems to have indirectly blocked MSN websites.
Can I ask why? When I put that term into bing news, it lists literally hundreds of links?
I find Bing to be invasive, obnoxious, and useless. It seems like anything I search for Bing wants me to buy it, even if it doesn't exist.
When I type in LGBTQ in Bing, the top result is Bing Shop - Shop for LGBTQ. ???
It uses a very annoying AI that is far from "intelligent". Google does the same thing. I pine for the old search engines that would give you results for what you searched on and not what it thinks you intended to search for.
Microsoft has Bing built into Windows everywhere (search, news, weather, sports, finance, etc.), and no way to remove it. You can change your default search engine to Google. You can remove Google, Yahoo, DuckDuckGo, and every other search engine in the list, except Bing. You cannot remove it or disable it. So I went into the Hosts file and blocked it so that it had no internet access.
I had done the same with MSN due to all the ads that I couldn't seem to block. I have unblocked MSN now and went back to Ublock Origin adblocker and customized my filters.
Data collection is getting obtrusive.
I dislike it when visiting a Web site, then shortly after receiving online ads for the same item that I browsed or similar items to that I browsed.
I dislike when visiting online with my account that I receive emails about what I viewed, such as "there is still time to make this you own!"
Being on a merchant's app is even worse. They would prefer you to use their apps rather than simply a browser to get to their Web site.
Quote from: Sarah B on January 03, 2025, 11:11:53 PMHi Lori
You suggested:
I did the following using https://news.google.com and in the search bar LGBTQ+
First of the rank was the following news article
"Rep Mark Takano to lead Congress, LGBTQ+ caucus amid transgender rights fight"
Which led to the actual news, there was no blank page.
Things like this happen all the time someone says this, someone else tries it and gets completely different repsonse.
That's just the internet for you. Yeah maybe a glitch.
Have fun with it.
Hugs
Sarah B
@Lori Dee
Yes, that happens if you hit Enter.
I am talking about the "
Topic" that is shown before you hit Enter.
(https://i.imgur.com/vluxYZS.jpeg)
The
LGBTQ+ Topic is empty where it had news stories before.
The other Topic is LGBTQ History Month, which is working as always.
The others in that list are search terms, not topics, so they work as intended.
No AI isn't smart. Thank god. If it were, we'd have Arnie and Linda Hamilton telling us there's no fate but what we make for ourselves. I kind of think that's coming, down the road though. Because literally humans have orgasmed over AI and it's in everything. Until it kills us all. Don't say we weren't warned, lol.
Hi Lori
Quote from: Lori Dee on January 04, 2025, 05:53:38 PMYes, that happens if you hit Enter.
I am talking about the "Topic" that is shown before you hit Enter.
(https://i.imgur.com/vluxYZS.jpeg)
The LGBTQ+ Topic is empty where it had news stories before.
The other Topic is LGBTQ History Month, which is working as always.
The others in that list are search terms, not topics, so they work as intended.
I have tried to replicate what you have shown but to no avail.
There could be many subtle reasons as to why I'm unable to generate a similar screen, browser, search engine, plus many services do come and go and finally the country from where I hail.
I do not like Microsoft and anything that is associated with that company and in addition when I go looking for something I know what I want before I do any search and I do not click on any links unless it is associated with what I'm looking for.
I hate ads and avoid them at all costs with ad bocks in addition I run my operating systems using Linux distribution operating systems, Mainly Fedora.
Happy surfing.
Hugs
Sarah B
I would chalk this empty results output up to curiosity, and then use an alternative search method that yields accurate results. Likely this is just some undetermined glitch.
Did you say you get this after closing the browser's open sites, clearing your browser's cache, and storage areas, closing all instances of the browser, rebooting, and then reattempting the open of this original topic?
Quote from: ChrissyRyan on January 04, 2025, 09:41:47 PMI would chalk this empty results output up to curiosity, and then use an alternative search method that yields accurate results. Likely this is just some undetermined glitch.
Did you say you get this after closing the browser's open sites, clearing your browser's cache, and storage areas, closing all instances of the browser, rebooting, and then reattempting the open of this original topic?
Yes, this has been happening for a couple of days now. I always clear caches when I log out. I don't rely on the browser or Windows saying it will do it, because they don't. I manually clean with Crap Cleaner after every logout.
The issue is not that I can't find anything. I know how to get the search results. I was just wondering why this topic is suddenly empty. Usually, it is populated with the same news stories as if I had searched for them. It was easier to view the topic where all these stories were listed because they included stories about rights, legal issues, culture, international news, etc. It also listed them in two columns instead of one so I could view more stories with less scrolling.
Over my capabilities so I just put up with it, bugger when you look up a recipe or stuff and you get an ad window over what you are trying to read. Also annoying is when you watch something on smart TV and then get bombarded with related stuff on the laptop.
I don't allow my TV to have internet access. I got all the warnings about Apps and features that I won't be able to use. OK, it's a TV. I don't want Apps and features. My computer is connected to it so I can use the internet and stream movies. My Blu-Ray player is connected so I can watch movies. And I have an antenna connected so I can watch local live broadcasts if I need a news update. I rarely use that because they show two minutes of news, then fifteen minutes of commercials, and the weather guy will tell me the weather forecast at least four times in a 30-minute broadcast.
On my computer, I use uBlock Origin adblocker. It is free, works with most browsers, and works the best of all that I have tested. It not only blocks ads and tracker cookies, but also annoyances like social media buttons, and prevents your browser from being redirected to sketchy websites. On the main Google webpage, it typically blocks 15 trackers. On YouTube channels it blocks hundreds. (258 last night watching one channel).
Freeview on my telly so need internet for guide to work as well as the "catch up streams". Laptop is hard wired to the router as have problems with wifi even though its only 8ft away.
Smart TVs are priced low because they are data collection devices when connected to the Internet. Data can be monetized.
Quote from: ChrissyRyan on January 05, 2025, 12:26:21 PMSmart TVs are priced low because they are data collection devices when connected to the Internet. Data can be monetized.
Exactly why I don't allow it to connect to the internet.
Many years ago, manufacturers would give you a code that disabled data collection. A subsequent expose showed that it did nothing and the TV was still sending data to China. I don't think you can even get that code anymore, so I just deny it access. It can collect all it wants, but it won't be sending anything anywhere.
Hi Everyone
My Smart TV cannot send anything! It's switched Off!! (I will set it up soon)
It does not have a camera or microphone, all my computer equipment goes through a DNS (Open DNS) that is not connected with my ISP, and a VPN. So these two alone stop tracking to a certain extent. Other preventative measures are Linux OS, ad blockers where I can and of course being vigilant about what I do.
Also I do not and will not have home smart devices like 'Amazon Echo' and their ilk. In my house.
So my system is reasonably robust against vagaries of the internet.
Happy surfing on the internet everyone and stay safe.
Best Wishes Always
Sarah B
Global Moderator
I never connected my smart TV to the internet, either. Mine has AI in it that does all kinds of weird and wonderful stuff. But I keep her on a short leash. I saw a news story once about LG TVs spying on their owners (that's the brand mine is, lol), so I keep her offline. She's great for everything else though.
This (https://www.lg.com/uk/tvs-soundbars/oled-evo/oled55c46la/) model. She uses the mic in my remote to adjust the sound to the accoustics of my room. It's utter witchcraft. She's smarter than I am, lol. It's a little bit scary.
Camera and microphones are only concerns for laptops (watch the movie "Snowden"). Smart TVs keep track of what programs you watch, what apps you use, etc. It then sends this meta-data for marketing purposes. Sadly, they don't ask your permission, they just do it.
Quote from: Sephirah on January 05, 2025, 02:05:06 PMIt's utter witchcraft. She's smarter than I am, lol. It's a little bit scary.
I just don't like a machine telling me what I want it to do. When I was younger, and it was an option, I would never buy a car with automatic transmission. I will tell the machine what gear I want for my driving preference, not the other way around. ;D
Imagine a device listening to everything you and others say so they can determine if you gave it a command. This could be your telephone.
Quote from: ChrissyRyan on January 05, 2025, 02:38:31 PMImagine a device listening to everything you and others say so they can determine if you gave it a command. This could be your telephone.
All of that information is going somewhere.
In the movie
The Big Short, Ben Rickert says, "The NSA has a $52 billion budget and the ability to monitor tens of millions of calls a second. You think they're not using it?".
Quote from: Lori Dee on January 05, 2025, 02:29:27 PMI just don't like a machine telling me what I want it to do. When I was younger, and it was an option, I would never buy a car with automatic transmission. I will tell the machine what gear I want for my driving preference, not the other way around. ;D
Apparently you're the exception rather than the rule, Lori. From what I understand, like 97% of cars in the US are automatics. Put a clutch pedal in front of your average American and they'll look at you in bewilderment. Which is so different from Europe, lol. Probably why we don't just drive round in circles and call it sport. ;)
Quote from: Sephirah on January 05, 2025, 03:00:36 PMProbably why we don't just drive round in circles and call it sport. ;)
That takes great skill to master.
Not everyone can drive fast and turn left. :laugh:
Oh, and I bought Session 9 last night. I'll be watching it tonight.
Quote from: Lori Dee on January 05, 2025, 03:15:45 PMThat takes great skill to master.
Not everyone can drive fast and turn left. :laugh:
Oh, and I bought Session 9 last night. I'll be watching it tonight.
It gets in your head. I hope you enjoy it, sweetie. <3 I am a massive sucker for abandoned places. All the history wrapped up in them. I find it utterly fascinating. Let me know what you thought, okay? The movie has a lot of interpretations.
And yes, I'm sure it does! I've seen Final Destination 4! ;D
Hi All
I'm a manual driver and I got my manual license in an Automatic and my grandad taught me, one of my fondest memories of being with him.
I still have a manual licence, which allows me to drive an automatic, However, if you just have an automatic licence you cannot drive a manual. I drive a SUV automatic.
Lori you said "Oh, and I bought Session 9 ::) ;D last night. I'll be watching it tonight. What is the season or series called?
Hugs
Sarah B
Quote from: Sarah B on January 05, 2025, 03:53:55 PMHi All
I'm a manual driver and I got my manual license in an Automatic and my grandad taught me, one of my fondest memories of being with him.
I still have a manual licence, which allows me to drive an automatic, However, if you just have an automatic licence you cannot drive a manual. I drive a SUV automatic.
Lori you said "Oh, and I bought Session 9 ::) ;D last night. I'll be watching it tonight. What is the season or series called?
Hugs
Sarah B
It's a single movie. Session 9 (https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0261983/) One of my top 3 favourite movies ever.
Quote from: Sarah B on January 05, 2025, 03:53:55 PMHi All
I'm a manual driver and I got my manual license in an Automatic and my grandad taught me, one of my fondest memories of being with him.
I still have a manual licence, which allows me to drive an automatic, However, if you just have an automatic licence you cannot drive a manual. I drive a SUV automatic.
Lori you said "Oh, and I bought Session 9 ::) ;D last night. I'll be watching it tonight. What is the season or series called?
Hugs
Sarah B
It is the name of a movie that Sephirah recommended.
Quote from: Lori Dee on January 05, 2025, 02:26:53 PMCamera and microphones are only concerns for laptops (watch the movie "Snowden"). Smart TVs keep track of what programs you watch, what apps you use, etc. It then sends this meta-data for marketing purposes. Sadly, they don't ask your permission, they just do it.
I fight it as best I can... it is invasive, intrusive, morally/ethically highly questionable etc etc etc!
I am in my 4th or 5th year of running a de-googled phone running GrapheneOS operating system and running only FOSS (Free Open Source Software) and Linux Mint on my laptops to escape as much of this stuff as I can... These have both been great alternatives that work well for anyone interested in taking back their digital freedom from big tech! 😀👍
Onward!
Ashley 💕
Quote from: Sephirah on January 05, 2025, 03:17:56 PMI am a massive sucker for abandoned places. All the history wrapped up in them. I find it utterly fascinating.
When I lived in Illinois, a friend of ours was big into "ghost hunting". She saw an abandoned asylum in Peoria featured on the TV show, "Ghost Hunters" and wanted to go.
The place was trashed and many places had been boarded up for safety reasons. It was not a mental hospital. Back in those days an asylum was a hospital and this one was for tuberculosis patients. The upper floors had large windows because the belief back then was that tuberculosis patients needed a lot of fresh air to get better.
Overall, I was not impressed. Yes, it was an abandoned building, but I don't find those scary. As a kid, I explored many growing up in the desert.
We decided to walk the cemetery instead. It was much safer than having a building fall in on us. The moonlight lit the cemetery fairly well so we could see the grave markers. There was another smaller cemetery nearby, so we went to check it out. That one got to me. It was the children's cemetery and it was much larger than I expected. A few of the graves had names on the markers, but no dates. The ones that got to me the most were the ones that had no names. The grave was labeled with a number and no other information.
I learned later that there were a couple of organizations that were locating and marking the graves, and another group researching old records to identify the children buried there. Then they would make a new marker with the child's name.
The place had a very heavy sadness that hung in the air there. We returned several times, sometimes during the day. My wife and I would make a day of "visiting the kids". There were so many without names. It would get to us to the point where we were overwhelmed and had to leave. But it was important to us to let them know that someone cared and was thinking about them. I am in tears just remembering this.
Quote from: Lori Dee on January 05, 2025, 04:59:28 PMWhen I lived in Illinois, a friend of ours was big into "ghost hunting". She saw an abandoned asylum in Peoria featured on the TV show, "Ghost Hunters" and wanted to go.
The place was trashed and many places had been boarded up for safety reasons. It was not a mental hospital. Back in those days an asylum was a hospital and this one was for tuberculosis patients. The upper floors had large windows because the belief back then was that tuberculosis patients needed a lot of fresh air to get better.
Overall, I was not impressed. Yes, it was an abandoned building, but I don't find those scary. As a kid, I explored many growing up in the desert.
We decided to walk the cemetery instead. It was much safer than having a building fall in on us. The moonlight lit the cemetery fairly well so we could see the grave markers. There was another smaller cemetery nearby, so we went to check it out. That one got to me. It was the children's cemetery and it was much larger than I expected. A few of the graves had names on the markers, but no dates. The ones that got to me the most were the ones that had no names. The grave was labeled with a number and no other information.
I learned later that there were a couple of organizations that were locating and marking the graves, and another group researching old records to identify the children buried there. Then they would make a new marker with the child's name.
The place had a very heavy sadness that hung in the air there. We returned several times, sometimes during the day. My wife and I would make a day of "visiting the kids". There were so many without names. It would get to us to the point where we were overwhelmed and had to leave. But it was important to us to let them know that someone cared and was thinking about them. I am in tears just remembering this.
This is a thing you have far more in the US than we do. Because your country is so big, you can just leave buildings... whole towns to rot, and no one ever remembers them. Home for youtubers and junkies.
I don't like graveyards. 98% of my family is buried in one. I go to one, on certain occasions, to spend time with my little brother and my mum. On birthdays and christmas, mostly. But I know they're not really there. It's more for me than them. And it's quite morbid.
Quote from: Sephirah on January 05, 2025, 05:06:11 PMThis is a thing you have far more in the US than we do. Because your country is so big, you can just leave buildings... whole towns to rot, and no one ever remembers them. Home for youtubers and junkies.
I prefer abandoned mining towns. Many towns here sprang up when gold was discovered nearby. Then another discovery would be made and the miners would move there and leave the town abandoned. The gold is still there waiting for me to go collect it, which I am happy to do. ;D
The old-time miners were focused on collecting gold nuggets. They were easy to find. They didn't have the technology we have today to collect the fine gold. But compared by weight, fine gold has a higher gold content than most nuggets. So I am happy to collect the small stuff. It all adds up.
Quote from: Lori Dee on January 05, 2025, 05:17:40 PMI prefer abandoned mining towns. Many towns here sprang up when gold was discovered nearby. Then another discovery would be made and the miners would move there and leave the town abandoned. The gold is still there waiting for me to go collect it, which I am happy to do. ;D
The old-time miners were focused on collecting gold nuggets. They were easy to find. They didn't have the technology we have today to collect the fine gold. But compared by weight, fine gold has a higher gold content than most nuggets. So I am happy to collect the small stuff. It all adds up.
I'll be honest, abandoned mining towns fascinate me. It's literally a snapshot of history. I think because you just don't get that in the UK, because space is at a premium. Every time a whole town is just vacated, it's otherworldly. For me it is, anyway. One of the creepiest examples is Centralia. The town they based the Silent Hill movie on. With the giant mine fire underneath it. That's just mega creepy.
Quote from: Sephirah on January 05, 2025, 06:06:14 PMI'll be honest, abandoned mining towns fascinate me. It's literally a snapshot of history. I think because you just don't get that in the UK, because space is at a premium. Every time a whole town is just vacated, it's otherworldly. For me it is, anyway. One of the creepiest examples is Centralia. The town they based the Silent Hill movie on. With the giant mine fire underneath it. That's just mega creepy.
Sephirah!
This is an abandoned mine channel I love on YouTube... He often goes crazy deep into the mines too... it is nice exploring the areas with him...
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=A98bmCIGOEs
I have always been drawn to abandoned places and had the fun of working on an abandoned ghost town Army post for many many years... once home to Lori!!!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jNHYRONZHA0
Here is another channel I love that has way more Silent Hill vibe!!!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pJoOOrd8oG8
Onward!
Ashley
Quote from: tgirlamg on January 05, 2025, 06:37:55 PMI have always been drawn to abandoned places and had the fun of working on an abandoned ghost town Army post for many many years... once home to Lori!!!
Was that Fort Ord?
After I left the service that place became an EPA Superfund Cleanup site due to all the contamination.
Love the videos! Thanks for sharing.
Hugs!
(EDIT: I see it now. LOL)
Quote from: Lori Dee on January 05, 2025, 06:44:07 PMWas that Fort Ord?
After I left the service that place became an EPA Superfund Cleanup site due to all the contamination.
Love the videos! Thanks for sharing.
Hugs!
(EDIT: I see it now. LOL)
Yup! 😀👍 I was one of the ones cleaning it up for almost 18 years!
Quote from: tgirlamg on January 05, 2025, 06:49:19 PMYup! 😀👍 I was one of the ones cleaning it up for almost 18 years!
Well, thank you for your service!
I was assigned there for just over five years, but never actually spent more than a day there every six months. My workplace was further south at Fort Hunter Liggett where we did classified tests on new weapons systems. Since "Temporary Duty" could not exceed six months, we had to return to our unit for one day to restart the cycle for another six months.
Good times. :laugh:
Both massively up my street, Ash. Thank you for sharing! The whole doll thing at the start of the second video was rather Blair Witch, but I think that was just to get people watching. It does get more serious and eerie. The first video is something I find really fascinating. How you just have wasteland history dumps in the middle of nowhere and you have to try and work out what was going on.
Subbed to both channels. Thank you! <3
Cleaning up after Lori... LOL! I am saying nothing!! ;D
Quote from: Lori Dee on January 05, 2025, 06:57:36 PMWell, thank you for your service!
I was assigned there for just over five years, but never actually spent more than a day there every six months. My workplace was further south at Fort Hunter Liggett where we did classified tests on new weapons systems. Since "Temporary Duty" could not exceed six months, we had to return to our unit for one day to restart the cycle for another six months.
Good times. :laugh:
Hey Girl
I worked Hunter-Liggett for about a year too... About 117 degrees every day... From the break of dawn... you couldn't drink enough water of put on enough sunscreen!... we had a little corral full of your M60 tanks at Ord... A thing I will always remember is looking at them under a red sunset with all the surrounding area still smoking from one of the prescribed burns we would do to clear the underbrush to facilitate unexploded ordnance removal
Here is some footage from one of the burns we did..
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u1kpobfCgAk
A 💕😀👍
Quote from: Sephirah on January 05, 2025, 07:03:22 PMBoth massively up my street, Ash. Thank you for sharing! The whole doll thing at the start of the second video was rather Blair Witch, but I think that was just to get people watching. It does get more serious and eerie. The first video is something I find really fascinating. How you just have wasteland history dumps in the middle of nowhere and you have to try and work out what was going on.
Subbed to both channels. Thank you! <3
Cleaning up after Lori... LOL! I am saying nothing!! ;D
Someone has to clean up her...stuff! :D
Quote from: tgirlamg on January 05, 2025, 07:07:14 PMHey Girl
I worked Hunter-Liggett for about a year too... About 117 degrees every day... From the break of dawn... you couldn't drink enough water of put on enough sunscreen!... we had a little corral full of your M60 tanks at Ord... A thing I will always remember is looking at them under a red sunset with all the surrounding area still smoking from one of the prescribed burns we would do to clear the underbrush to facilitate unexploded ordnance removal
Here is some footage from one of the burns we did..
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u1kpobfCgAk
A 💕😀👍
That is awesome!
Those tanks would have come from Hunter Liggett. Ft. Ord was an infantry division, so it had no tanks... which confused me when I first got assigned there. All the tanks were down at Liggett. They were outfitted with lasers and sensors and we played war games, like a tank version of Laser Tag.
Quote from: Lori Dee on January 05, 2025, 07:14:33 PMThat is awesome!
Those tanks would have come from Hunter Liggett. Ft. Ord was an infantry division, so it had no tanks... which confused me when I first got assigned there. All the tanks were down at Liggett. They were outfitted with lasers and sensors and we played war games, like a tank version of Laser Tag.
Yeah I think a few were range targets etc for training but, at the time I was there they were awaiting removal of the radium treated instrument dials since the dust from them if broken was considered a rad hazard... 😬
Quote from: tgirlamg on January 05, 2025, 07:21:26 PMYeah I think a few were range targets etc for training but, at the time I was there they were awaiting removal of the radium treated instrument dials since the dust from them if broken was considered a rad hazard... 😬
If they were used as targets they would be contaminated with depleted uranium from the ammunition shot at them too. Not to mention the ground around them where missed shots landed. Good times. ;D
Tanks are interesting. A mobile ballistic weapon. With good mobile communications. Armored.
I think our tanks are made in Lima, Ohio in a specialized factory.
Old societies had "tanks" many years ago if you consider ballistas and repeating arrow launchers on carts. Later gunpowder made for many military weapons, not limited to tanks. I think the Chinese invented gunpowder, first used for fireworks though.
I wish there were no more wars and incivility. People are likely the most dangerous animal for humans. Unfortunately, there may always be wars and incivility.
I think it was more LAW, 2.36 and 3.5 rockets out there... no DU that I know of was ever used.. they even had old Edsels and Studebakers etc out there as targets... found lotsa interesting stuff down range! 😅
As the tank crew said in the movie "Fury": "Best job I ever had."
Now I feed my addiction by playing
World of Tanks online. I get to play with tanks from all over the world. ;D
About a week or so ago, I had a dream that I found interesting. I had forgotten about it until I read a post by
@Camille58S.
In the dream, I had moved to a very small impoverished town. The place was almost abandoned. There had been a large factory in town that made car parts, but when it shut down most people moved away to find work. The town had a few small shops (barber shop, diner, gas station) and a post office.
I moved there because it offered a place that I could afford, but I had no real income so worked as a day laborer to make ends meet.
We worked in pairs and I don't remember what we actually did. What I remember was that each time I got paid, I used it to pay bills and had very little left over.
I was paired up with a young black man, more like a kid - I think he was about 15 or 16. We had been working together for about a month and he offered to introduce me to some of the people in town. He suggested we eat at the diner, but I couldn't afford it and he assured me that it would be taken care of.
First, we went to see his uncle who owned the barbershop. He was an elderly man with severe arthritis in his hands, but he had three women working the chairs cutting and styling hair for men and women. After some introductions and small talk, the boy handed his uncle an envelope and we left and went to the diner.
At the diner, he introduced me to the man and woman who owned the diner. He handed the woman an envelope then we took a seat and ordered lunch. As we were eating, he told me about what had happened to the town, but he had a plan to revive it.
He made a deal with the barbershop and diner that he would donate a cut of his pay every payday to help them keep their business afloat. He managed to recruit a few other workers to do the same.
The barbershop had been closed for a long time because his uncle's hands would not let him cut hair. My partner started donating cash to help him make ends meet. He then found three women in town who enjoyed cutting and styling hair, so the uncle put them to work. Before long the business was up and running again.
The diner was in a similar situation. The diner was struggling to stay open because there were not enough customers to support it. They laid off staff and considering shutting it down. My partner made the deal that day laborers would give them a cut of each paycheck and the diner would supply their lunches. This worked for a while, and now with more people employed in town at the various businesses, they had enough traffic to hire another cook, and then a waitress.
I was so amazed that this young man had such a keen grasp of the situation and was able to work out solutions that benefitted everyone. The next step in his plan was to re-open the factory. It had been sitting vacant for a number of years and he managed to locate the owners and made another deal. Instead of rent or lease, the owner would be paid in commissions once the factory was up and running. The town would take care of getting it cleaned up and ready at no cost to the owner.
The reason he told me all of this was to get my help. I agreed to participate in giving some of my pay to these businesses that were giving me "free" services. What he wanted help with was to find a company that would agree to use the factory. I had no contacts like that!
Then I remembered that there were a couple of guys who lived near the edge of town that did woodworking and carpentry. We talked to them about converting the factory from producing car parts to making furniture. They not only agreed but they belonged to a Woodworking Club and could get more workers. When I asked them where they get their wood, one of the guys had another relative who owned a sawmill and had contacts with several logging companies.
The entire plan came together and within two years the town was growing.
This young man taught me that it was not about what the town produced that made it valuable. He invested in people. He found people with unused skills and then found them a place to use those skills. The people who could not work supervised and taught new workers who were able to. People who did things as hobbies found a place to earn a living from doing things they enjoyed doing.
Production was merely a side effect.
It is interesting that some people remember their dreams, to varying degrees of detail, and others not so much.
It is interesting that some people dream in color while others dream in black and white.
Of course, one has to remember something about at least one dream to know that for themselves.
Chrissy
Quote from: ChrissyRyan on January 09, 2025, 05:31:48 PMIt is interesting that some people remember their dreams, to varying degrees of detail, and others not so much.
It is interesting that some people dream in color while others dream in black and white.
Of course, one has to remember something about at least one dream to know that for themselves.
Chrissy
I do not always remember my dreams. Usually they are just quick snapshots or very short scenes. When I remember them with clarity, I have found that I am to learn something from them, so I pay attention.
Quote from: Lori Dee on January 09, 2025, 05:41:54 PMI do not always remember my dreams. Usually they are just quick snapshots or very short scenes. When I remember them with clarity, I have found that I am to learn something from them, so I pay attention.
Yes, and consider writing down your thoughts from your dreams as soon as possible after a dream to capture them. There may be some action items for you after such a dream.
My dreams I remember are just weird!!!
Quote from: Lori Dee on January 09, 2025, 04:00:36 PMAbout a week or so ago, I had a dream that I found interesting. I had forgotten about it until I read a post by @Camille58S.
In the dream, I had moved to a very small impoverished town. The place was almost abandoned. There had been a large factory in town that made car parts, but when it shut down most people moved away to find work. The town had a few small shops (barber shop, diner, gas station) and a post office.
I moved there because it offered a place that I could afford, but I had no real income so worked as a day laborer to make ends meet.
We worked in pairs and I don't remember what we actually did. What I remember was that each time I got paid, I used it to pay bills and had very little left over.
I was paired up with a young black man, more like a kid - I think he was about 15 or 16. We had been working together for about a month and he offered to introduce me to some of the people in town. He suggested we eat at the diner, but I couldn't afford it and he assured me that it would be taken care of.
First, we went to see his uncle who owned the barbershop. He was an elderly man with severe arthritis in his hands, but he had three women working the chairs cutting and styling hair for men and women. After some introductions and small talk, the boy handed his uncle an envelope and we left and went to the diner.
At the diner, he introduced me to the man and woman who owned the diner. He handed the woman an envelope then we took a seat and ordered lunch. As we were eating, he told me about what had happened to the town, but he had a plan to revive it.
He made a deal with the barbershop and diner that he would donate a cut of his pay every payday to help them keep their business afloat. He managed to recruit a few other workers to do the same.
The barbershop had been closed for a long time because his uncle's hands would not let him cut hair. My partner started donating cash to help him make ends meet. He then found three women in town who enjoyed cutting and styling hair, so the uncle put them to work. Before long the business was up and running again.
The diner was in a similar situation. The diner was struggling to stay open because there were not enough customers to support it. They laid off staff and considering shutting it down. My partner made the deal that day laborers would give them a cut of each paycheck and the diner would supply their lunches. This worked for a while, and now with more people employed in town at the various businesses, they had enough traffic to hire another cook, and then a waitress.
I was so amazed that this young man had such a keen grasp of the situation and was able to work out solutions that benefitted everyone. The next step in his plan was to re-open the factory. It had been sitting vacant for a number of years and he managed to locate the owners and made another deal. Instead of rent or lease, the owner would be paid in commissions once the factory was up and running. The town would take care of getting it cleaned up and ready at no cost to the owner.
The reason he told me all of this was to get my help. I agreed to participate in giving some of my pay to these businesses that were giving me "free" services. What he wanted help with was to find a company that would agree to use the factory. I had no contacts like that!
Then I remembered that there were a couple of guys who lived near the edge of town that did woodworking and carpentry. We talked to them about converting the factory from producing car parts to making furniture. They not only agreed but they belonged to a Woodworking Club and could get more workers. When I asked them where they get their wood, one of the guys had another relative who owned a sawmill and had contacts with several logging companies.
The entire plan came together and within two years the town was growing.
This young man taught me that it was not about what the town produced that made it valuable. He invested in people. He found people with unused skills and then found them a place to use those skills. The people who could not work supervised and taught new workers who were able to. People who did things as hobbies found a place to earn a living from doing things they enjoyed doing.
Production was merely a side effect.
I'll be honest, my gut instinct suggests your dream was about Susan's. :)
Quote from: Sephirah on January 10, 2025, 03:09:03 PMI'll be honest, my gut instinct suggests your dream was about Susan's. :)
I hadn't thought of that!
The message I got from it was to invest in people and let the rest take care of itself. ;D
Quote from: Lori Dee on January 10, 2025, 03:15:08 PMThe message I got from it was to invest in people and let the rest take care of itself. ;D
I rest my case :)
I only have had one dream I remember from this year was a strange dream where someone rang the doorbell. I found a post it note on the door with a note when I opened the door. I noticed someone walking down the walkway to the driveway and called out but then realized it was me.
Your dream seems long and detailed but it seems like your dream is a king of longing for belonging.
Quote from: NatalieRene on January 10, 2025, 06:51:57 PMYour dream seems long and detailed but it seems like your dream is a king of longing for belonging.
That could be. Normally they are not that long or that detailed. That is why I pay attention when that happens.
Dreams are the subconscious mind's way of taking out the trash. The subconscious notices everything from sights, smells, sounds, feelings (touch), tastes, and emotions. All of that is stored in short-term memory. When we sleep and enter REM sleep, the mind begins sorting stuff to decide what is important and what can be discarded. Like sorting your mail to get rid of the junk.
It does this several times a night. Then it takes everything in the "discard pile" and gets rid of it. All of those things stored in memory take energy to store them. By getting rid of the junk, that energy is recovered. The way it does that is by sort of reversing the flow. It took in all of these images and things, so now it purges them back out in the form of dreams. The important stuff becomes long-term memories.
If you notice, when your sleep is interrupted or you become sleep-deprived, you feel worn out with no energy. This is why. When we experience a trauma, we want to just go to sleep and put it behind us. This is so the mind can get to work processing those memories and recover that energy.
What this means is that dreams are just your mind discarding things you don't need to worry about. Somehow those concepts entered your mind and the mind decided it was unimportant and did not need to be moved to long-term memory.
But I still pay attention to the ones I remember. Sometimes I will have a very strange dream and I have to wonder where the heck that came from.
Quote from: Sephirah on January 10, 2025, 03:09:03 PMI'll be honest, my gut instinct suggests your dream was about Susan's. :)
😊👍 Sephirah for the win!!!💕
Not sure about that, but Ashley, you always make me smile <3
I am a big advocate about dreams being important. The first name I had here was through a dream. I still use it as my email. It's the mind's way of telling us stuff we don't otherwise pay attention to. The subconscious works in imagery, and interpretation. It's not like the monkey brain which has a Haynes Manual for life... or thinks it does.
If a dream is such that it makes a mark on you, then it's something you need to pay attention to.
Quote from: Sephirah on January 11, 2025, 04:51:19 PMNot sure about that, but Ashley, you always make me smile <3
I am a big advocate about dreams being important. The first name I had here was through a dream. I still use it as my email. It's the mind's way of telling us stuff we don't otherwise pay attention to. The subconscious works in imagery, and interpretation. It's not like the monkey brain which has a Haynes Manual for life... or thinks it does.
If a dream is such that it makes a mark on you, then it's something you need to pay attention to.
Sephirah
I think the dream world is as equally valid an experience for our souls as the waking world... The framework is a looser construct but, it makes perfect sense when we are there and like the waking world... it filled with opportunities to learn and grow at some level 💕
"Merrily Merrily Merrily Merrily Life Is But A Dream..." 🌻
A💕
Quote from: tgirlamg on January 11, 2025, 05:18:49 PMSephirah
I think the dream world is as equally valid an experience for our souls as the waking world... The framework is a looser construct but, it makes perfect sense when we are there and like the waking world... it filled with opportunities to learn and grow at some level 💕
"Merrily Merrily Merrily Merrily Life Is But A Dream..." 🌻
A💕
No argument here, honey. Dreams are what you get when the subconscious mind is free to explore. Free of rationalisation
Quote from: Lori Dee on January 10, 2025, 08:54:59 PMThat could be. Normally they are not that long or that detailed. That is why I pay attention when that happens.
Dreams are the subconscious mind's way of taking out the trash. The subconscious notices everything from sights, smells, sounds, feelings (touch), tastes, and emotions. All of that is stored in short-term memory. When we sleep and enter REM sleep, the mind begins sorting stuff to decide what is important and what can be discarded. Like sorting your mail to get rid of the junk.
It does this several times a night. Then it takes everything in the "discard pile" and gets rid of it. All of those things stored in memory take energy to store them. By getting rid of the junk, that energy is recovered. The way it does that is by sort of reversing the flow. It took in all of these images and things, so now it purges them back out in the form of dreams. The important stuff becomes long-term memories.
If you notice, when your sleep is interrupted or you become sleep-deprived, you feel worn out with no energy. This is why. When we experience a trauma, we want to just go to sleep and put it behind us. This is so the mind can get to work processing those memories and recover that energy.
What this means is that dreams are just your mind discarding things you don't need to worry about. Somehow those concepts entered your mind and the mind decided it was unimportant and did not need to be moved to long-term memory.
But I still pay attention to the ones I remember. Sometimes I will have a very strange dream and I have to wonder where the heck that came from.
That's fascinating. I never thought about dreams being a way our mind is sorting through data and optimizing space. It kind of reminds me of what Skippy does in the Expedition Force series when he is working on his matrix.
So dreams are the data being wiped or stored? Because I rarely remember the dreams. I'm assuming that means most of my dreams are discarded.
But could dreams also be a way for the subconscious to communicate with the conscious? Like a problem being worked on and the answer bubbling to the surface?
Quote from: NatalieRene on January 11, 2025, 06:13:43 PMSo dreams are the data being wiped or stored? Because I rarely remember the dreams. I'm assuming that means most of my dreams are discarded.
But could dreams also be a way for the subconscious to communicate with the conscious? Like a problem being worked on and the answer bubbling to the surface?
Dreams are the data being wiped so the energy can be recovered. The subconscious controls all memory, so it sorts out junk and moves the good stuff from short-term to long-term memory. The subconscious never sleeps, but the conscious mind does. That is how hypnosis works. You are not really "asleep" just intently focused so we can bypass the judgment of the conscious mind and make suggestions to the subconscious mind.
The subconscious is in total control of the body. While you sleep, you continue to breathe and your heart continues to beat, wounds continue to heal. That is the subconscious in control. The conscious mind may decide that you want a sandwich, but it does not tell each individual muscle how to work so you can walk to the kitchen. The subconscious knows how to walk from previous memories. It accepts the command and you walk to the kitchen.
The subconscious will try to feed the conscious with an answer to a question. So if you are trying to recall the dream, you might be able to. In school, we were taught that the subconscious is like a three-year-old who wants to help but doesn't always get it right.
Think about a time when you heard a song but could not remember who sang or played it. The conscious mind doesn't know the answer so it kicks the question to the subconscious. The subconscious starts throwing out answers but they are all wrong and the conscious mind rejects them. You give up and think about other things. Then out of the blue, you remember that song. The subconscious continued to work on the problem in the background.
The subconscious always accepts commands from the conscious mind... not just yours, but any conscious mind. Again, that is how hypnosis works. The subconscious accepts the suggestions from the conscious mind of the hypnotist or hypnotherapist when it is in a suggestive state. It is not blind acceptance though. You cannot be made to do anything that you would not normally do.
That's interesting. I don't have many dreams that I remember. So either my sub conscious is keeping everything or my conscious mind with add is simply not paying attention.
I'm going to guess the later because I wouldn't call myself forgetful but if it isn't something that matters to me I know I have a tendency for it to go in one ear and out the other.
I wish my subconscious would just tell me what the lottery numbers are for the next drawing...you are all invited to the party if it does!
Quote from: Emma1017 on January 12, 2025, 08:44:58 AMI wish my subconscious would just tell me what the lottery numbers are for the next drawing...you are all invited to the party if it does!
Good luck Emma no matter what.
Quote from: NatalieRene on January 11, 2025, 11:08:32 PMSo either my sub conscious is keeping everything or my conscious mind with add is simply not paying attention.
We always dream, but do not always remember them.
If the dream was nothing we need to pay attention to maybe it got added to the "discard" pile and processed before we woke up. Studies have shown that people who are sleep deprived for long periods, begin to hallucinate. This is just the subconscious trying to do its job "outside of work hours".
@Lori DeeDear Lori:
I usually and clearly remember my "good" dreams... but unfortunately I wake up and my
dream ends right before the really good part takes place.
Then I go back to sleep trying to pick up where it left off, but to no avail {sad face}
HUGS, DanielleQuote from: Lori Dee on January 12, 2025, 10:11:16 AMWe always dream, but do not always remember them.
If the dream was nothing we need to pay attention to maybe it got added to the "discard" pile and processed before we woke up. Studies have shown that people who are sleep deprived for long periods, begin to hallucinate. This is just the subconscious trying to do its job "outside of work hours".
Speaking of dreams...
Last night, I dreamt that I received my passport in the mail. I actually received it about a week or so ago.
In the dream, I took it out of the envelope and looked at it. The picture was not the one that I had taken at the passport office!
Instead of my face, it was a full-length photo of a young girl about 8 - 9 years old with long dark hair, wearing a skirt and a winter coat. My hair at that age was dark brown and I sensed that it was me in the photo, but it clearly was not a "passport photo".
The purpose of getting a passport was to verify who I am in case the corrected birth certificate gets rejected. I wonder if the dream was allowing me to see my inner self from an outside point of view.
This morning, I received a text message from the Postal Service that my passport card was arriving today.
< cue Twilight Zone theme song >
Quote from: Northern Star Girl on January 12, 2025, 11:50:29 AM@Lori Dee
Dear Lori:
I usually and clearly remember my "good" dreams... but unfortunately I wake up and my
dream ends right before the really good part takes place.
Then I go back to sleep trying to pick up where it left off, but to no avail {sad face}
HUGS, Danielle
I have had this happen a few times.
Quote from: Lori Dee on January 13, 2025, 11:54:21 AMThis morning, I received a text message from the Postal Service that my passport card was arriving today.
Did the dream come true?
Quote from: Lilis on January 13, 2025, 07:50:12 PMDid the dream come true?
I got the passport card today. The photo was the passport photo as it should be. That would have really freaked me out if it was a picture of some kid! ;D
Quote from: Lori Dee on January 13, 2025, 07:57:19 PMThat would have really freaked me out if it was a picture of some kid!
😊😂🤣
Stranger thing have happened!! I take no notice of weird happenings, I do seem to have a 6th sense about stuff or is it Deja vu ??
Quote from: davina61 on January 14, 2025, 04:30:31 AMStranger thing have happened!! I take no notice of weird happenings, I do seem to have a 6th sense about stuff or is it Deja vu ??
If you believe that we live many lifetimes over and over, then the odds are pretty good that these things have happened before. So maybe it isn't clairvoyance as much as Deja vu. Maybe we just remember something from a long time ago.
"Learning is finding out what you already know.
Doing is demonstrating that you know it.
Teaching is reminding others that they know just as well as you.
You are all learners, doers, teachers."― Richard Bach,
Illusions: The Adventures of a Reluctant Messiah
Quote from: Emma1017 on January 12, 2025, 08:44:58 AMI wish my subconscious would just tell me what the lottery numbers are for the next drawing...you are all invited to the party if it does!
If you're somehow clairvoyant and can divine the winning lottery numbers you have to teach me your trick.
I had a dream that I was working in some high trusses. My tape measure was knocked off my tool belt and fell to concrete where it smashed into many pieces. Then trying to get down, I fell and woke up when I hit the concrete. A few years later I was working in trusses and started to have that dejavu feeling. Then my tape measure caught and was knocked from my tool belt. It was like a slow motion movie watching the tape fall, hit the concrete, and disintegrate. I quickly remembered the dream and knew the next thing would be falling to my death. I then cautiously took a different way down hanging on and taking each movement purposefully. I believe that I cheated death that day by paying attention to the dream.
About 2 years later I had another dream where I am dying. The realism was just like the first dream. In the dream I looked at myself in a mirror. I had these dreams before I turned 30. I am now 60 and I realized that the mirror in the dream was gifted to me a few years ago. I look in that mirror and see my face and can tell that I am not old enough to die yet.
I am totally convinced I know how I will die, how old I will be, and what I will look like.
I don't try to analyze. I am a believer in dreams and they feed the dejavu feelings we have.
Leigh
Quote from: MsLeigh on January 14, 2025, 03:58:13 PMI am a believer in dreams and they feed the dejavu feelings we have.
This is so true. The "dream world" is limitless and we spend a large portion of our lives inside it. It would seem the possible situations presented to us could be infinite so we can learn from them.
The mind is not limited by space and time the way that the physical world is. We can move forward or backward in time and travel to distant places in an instant. One of my favorite dreams was when I learned how to levitate. I wasn't very good at it at first, but after many dreams of practicing, I finally mastered it. If I had a nightmare where I was in harm's way, I would levitate up and out of reach.
I was told by a gypsy lady selling pegs (no really) that I would live till I was 86, that was after declining any pegs. I intend to prove her wrong!!!
Quote from: davina61 on January 15, 2025, 02:58:38 AMI was told by a gypsy lady selling pegs (no really) that I would live till I was 86, that was after declining any pegs. I intend to prove her wrong!!!
That's the spirit! Prove them all wrong.
We are getting a short break from the cold. Yesterday, it hit 48F, and today is expected to get up into the 50s. We have sub-zero temps coming our way, so today I will have to brave the wild jungles of Walmart to stock up on supplies.
It's not that I get to, it's that I've got to. I haven't learned how to make toilet paper out of polished rocks yet, so I still need to go shopping. Ugh.
Quote from: Lori Dee on January 16, 2025, 10:27:59 AM...I haven't learned how to make toilet paper out of polished rocks yet, so I still need to go shopping. Ugh.
When COVID hit and toilet paper was scarce... I was in line at 5:30am waiting for Walmart to open, and I started talking to someone else in the queue. We were both there for toilet paper. I mentioned that neither of us would be in line if Sears hadn't gone out of business. Those giant catalogs they used to print were really useful.
Maybe you could try shells, like 'Demolition Man'.
Love always -- Jessica Rose
Did you save the dried corn cobs from summertime corn eating Lori?
Chrissy
Quote from: Jessica_Rose on January 16, 2025, 11:51:15 AMWhen COVID hit and toilet paper was scarce... I was in line at 5:30am waiting for Walmart to open, and I started talking to someone else in the queue. We were both there for toilet paper. I mentioned that neither of us would be in line if Sears hadn't gone out of business. Those giant catalogs they used to print were really useful.
Maybe you could try shells, like 'Demolition Man'.
Love always -- Jessica Rose
We were sold out here for a long time. I ordered a case from Chicago of cheap gas station tp, the stuff made out of tree bark. I was stocked up for $49 plus shipping. :-\
Quote from: ChrissyRyan on January 16, 2025, 12:07:41 PMDid you save the dried corn cobs from summertime corn eating Lori?
Chrissy
OUCH! :laugh:
Stock up on the toilet paper. I try to keep about six to a dozen "double rolls" as spares.
I think you would rather not go out in the much colder weather you said was coming your way. Who would?!
Chrissy
I survived the chaos of that place.
Lots of shoppers doing the usual "storm shopping" to get supplies. So the shelves were empty in many places. Contractors blocked the aisles as they restocked. Then employees are pushing huge carts while they shopped for people who ordered delivery service. What a mess.
I have commented to the General Manager, Assistant Manager, and Front-End Manager that they need to do restocking at night when no customers are trying to shop. The reply is always the same: "No one wants to work."
Well, maybe if you didn't discriminate against certain "classes" of people and paid a decent wage, people would be eager to work there. Nope. It is cheaper to annoy customers who will shop there anyway.
I'm stocked up, so I should be good until the end of the year.
Quote from: Lori Dee on January 16, 2025, 04:51:08 PMI survived the chaos of that place.
Lots of shoppers doing the usual "storm shopping" to get supplies. So the shelves were empty in many places. Contractors blocked the aisles as they restocked. Then employees are pushing huge carts while they shopped for people who ordered delivery service. What a mess.
I have commented to the General Manager, Assistant Manager, and Front-End Manager that they need to do restocking at night when no customers are trying to shop. The reply is always the same: "No one wants to work."
Well, maybe if you didn't discriminate against certain "classes" of people and paid a decent wage, people would be eager to work there. Nope. It is cheaper to annoy customers who will shop there anyway.
I'm stocked up, so I should be good until the end of the year.
Whoa! An entire year's supply! Wow.
Chrissy
Lori,
Just do not get carried away on Halloween and TP residences!
Chrissy
Quote from: ChrissyRyan on January 16, 2025, 04:54:15 PMLori,
Just do not get carried away on Halloween and TP residences!
Chrissy
No way! That stuff is gold! :laugh:
Hi All
Have you heard how people who live in India wipe their bums?
You could use a 'face flannel' that is wet and that will suffice in an emergency or an old trick, use news paper strips.
Even down here in Australia there was a run on toilet paper and the shelves in the major stores, Coles and Woolworths were empty for a long time.
Lucky, I always buy in bulk for items like that.
Happy Wiping!!!
Hugs
Sarah B
Of one of your rolls gets lost, have them all fall in for a roll call.
Toilet paper has as its favorite pastime role play. Maybe roll play in this case, huh?
Toilet paper does not fry well but it can be browned on one side.
That was kinda nasty. ;D :embarrassed:
Leigh
Quote from: MsLeigh on January 16, 2025, 08:45:48 PMToilet paper does not fry well but it can be browned on one side.
That was kinda nasty. ;D :embarrassed:
Leigh
:laugh:
While I may not hesitate to use brown, recycled paper napkins
I would not want to use brown toilet paper.
Although toilet paper made with recycled paper is sold, I do not buy any although it probably is okay to use.
Okay, that enough of the toilet paper jokes, at least from me.
Although I was on a roll. . .
Hi One and All
I think I have a role to ply here somehow.
Hugs
Sarah B
Quote from: Sarah B on January 16, 2025, 09:29:07 PMHi One and All
I think I have a role to ply here somehow.
Hugs
Sarah B
You crack me up.
Here too, the job is not finished until the paperwork is done.
Hi Chrissy
Quote from: ChrissyRyan on January 16, 2025, 09:34:14 PMYou crack me up.
Same here ROFL and coughing and sputtering as well.
Quote from: ChrissyRyan on January 16, 2025, 09:34:14 PMHere too, the job is not finished until the paperwork is done.
Right, because the last thing you want is a mess left behind."
Hugs
Sarah B
@ChrissyRyan
Yes, please do not leave a mess behind Sarah.
You must be flushed with your shopping, okay this is going down the pan now.
Wow, I can't believe I missed so many toilet paper puns. I am still flush from laughing so hard....
During COVID I bought a bidet. It saved toilet paper and was easier than sitting in the sink if the store ran out of paper.
Bidets are good, you should have a safely placed and close by electrical outlet for the bidet.
If you have a flexible metal water inlet tube with standard fittings that would also make installation easier. Save the original toilet seat if you want to take the bidet with you when you leave your apt. or house, as the bidets I have seen come with a new seat. Or be prepared to buy a new seat later after your bidet is removed. Or leave the bidet there I suppose; but, they can get pricey.
Quote from: Emma1017 on January 17, 2025, 02:56:58 PMWow, I can't believe I missed so many toilet paper puns. I am still flush from laughing so hard....
During COVID I bought a bidet. It saved toilet paper and was easier than sitting in the sink if the store ran out of paper.
@Emma1017Holy S***! Sitting in the sink! Oh my!
Quote from: ChrissyRyan on January 17, 2025, 05:19:47 PM@Emma1017
Holy S***! Sitting in the sink! Oh my!
Hopefully not the kitchen sink. :o
Quote from: Lori Dee on January 17, 2025, 05:36:36 PMHopefully not the kitchen sink. :o
And not her computer's heat sink.
What did I just wander in on. LOL. This is why I love your blog, Lori. Every time I come here it's like... a soap opera, lol.
Reading through the posts since my last log in... oh god... no, not like "Log" in...
Damn it, you've got me doing it now. :P In the UK, back during Covid, there was the great toilet paper apocalypse. It was both funny and scary at the same time. And proof that humanity is always only 2 steps away from Andrex.
Quote from: Sephirah on January 17, 2025, 05:44:04 PMWhat did I just wander in on. LOL. This is why I love your blog, Lori. Every time I come here it's like... a soap opera, lol.
Yes indeed. Transitioning can be quite an adventure. From gold panning to TP and hot dogs and washing your butt in the sink. Come on over to Lori's Place, we have it all!
Oh, and BTW I watched Session 9. Oh yeah, that's a good one. You should watch Split. Similar scenario but really creepy. ;D
Quote from: Lori Dee on January 17, 2025, 05:47:29 PMOh, and BTW I watched Session 9. Oh yeah, that's a good one. You should watch Split. Similar scenario but really creepy. ;D
Will check it out, Lori. I am glad you liked it! <3
The electric company tries to tell us that electricity is more energy efficient. The contractors who built my apartment building installed all electric appliances, including heat and air conditioning.
It is currently -8F outside and my furnace has been running all night trying to keep up. The thermostat is set at 77F and it is 70F according to the thermostat, a tabletop thermometer, and my Galileo thermometer near the window. For the past two months, my electric bill has increased by $20 per month and I am not running any rock tumblers.
Not very efficient. Maybe in the southern climates, but not in the northern midwest.
BTW, the electric company's generators are running on natural gas.
Give me a gas furnace any time.
I think today will be a good day for fuzzy socks and flannel PJs all day.
Quote from: Lori Dee on January 19, 2025, 09:42:20 AMThe electric company tries to tell us that electricity is more energy efficient. The contractors who built my apartment building installed all electric appliances, including heat and air conditioning.
It is currently -8F outside and my furnace has been running all night trying to keep up. The thermostat is set at 77F and it is 70F according to the thermostat, a tabletop thermometer, and my Galileo thermometer near the window. For the past two months, my electric bill has increased by $20 per month and I am not running any rock tumblers.
Not very efficient. Maybe in the southern climates, but not in the northern midwest.
BTW, the electric company's generators are running on natural gas.
Give me a gas furnace any time.
I think today will be a good day for fuzzy socks and flannel PJs all day.
Gas heat can feel warm. Electric heat pump output not so much. You may be paying a fair price for your electric though it is more in total than in the warmer months. Heating degree days likely have increased for you.
Natural gas prices tend to increase when the weather causes a greater need for it too.
Some communities seem to use more radiant heat than others, some more geothermal heat than others, and some more natural gas than others.
Quote from: Lori Dee on January 19, 2025, 09:42:20 AM. . .
I think today will be a good day for fuzzy socks and flannel PJs all day.
For sure it is a keep warm day.
Part of the issue here is the geology of the Black Hills. There are places where the bedrock is too shallow to properly bury utilities like gas, water, power lines, etc.
Power, phone, and internet lines can be run above ground. Water and gas need to be buried deep enough to prevent damage. Especially water that must be buried below the frost line to keep it from freezing in winter. So the only utilities coming into this building are electricity, phone/cable/internet, and water/sewer. On the surface, that looks like a good idea. But when the power goes out, everything goes down from heating/cooling to security cameras and outside door access, as well as cooking appliances and the water heater for the whole building (42 apartments).
As a survivalist, I keep a propane stove and heater on hand with several small bottles of propane. So I have heat, can boil water and cook my food. But I can't take care of the 41 other families, some of whom have several children.
PPPP->PPP
(Piss-Poor Prior Planning leads to Pitiful Peak Performance)
Quote from: Lori Dee on January 19, 2025, 12:38:15 PMPart of the issue here is the geology of the Black Hills. There are places where the bedrock is too shallow to properly bury utilities like gas, water, power lines, etc.
Power, phone, and internet lines can be run above ground. Water and gas need to be buried deep enough to prevent damage. Especially water that must be buried below the frost line to keep it from freezing in winter. So the only utilities coming into this building are electricity, phone/cable/internet, and water/sewer. On the surface, that looks like a good idea. But when the power goes out, everything goes down from heating/cooling to security cameras and outside door access, as well as cooking appliances and the water heater for the whole building (42 apartments).
As a survivalist, I keep a propane stove and heater on hand with several small bottles of propane. So I have heat, can boil water and cook my food. But I can't take care of the 41 other families, some of whom have several children.
PPPP->PPP
(Piss-Poor Prior Planning leads to Pitiful Peak Performance)
I have heard of PP but not PPPP or PPP.
I get your point.
Quote from: ChrissyRyan on January 19, 2025, 12:57:00 PMI have heard of PP but not PPPP or PPP.
I get your point.
No starting toilet humor now. . . PP
There are many things that a President does not have the power or authority to do.
For those of us who were not born yet, Hitler took power over Germany by implementing the Emergency Powers Act.
Trump is planning to issue dozens of executive actions — more than 100 just on Day 1, at least in his own telling — within his first week in office ...
Conservative groups have spent the last four years exploring the bounds of executive power and looking for avenues Trump could take on a wide array of policies should he return to the White House. ...
Miller, in the Sunday briefing with GOP lawmakers, confirmed elements of a long-planned sweeping suite of immigration actions, including Trump invoking a national emergency at the border as a way to unlock funding from the Defense Department for the administration's use.
Trump will declare a national emergency related to energy as part of a significant number of actions targeting domestic energy production and the industries ...
Source: https://www.cnn.com/2025/01/19/politics/trump-day-one-executive-actions/index.html
And then there is Trump will sign executive orders rescinding federal government diversity, equity and inclusion policies, Miller told the lawmakers, as well as actions to remove specific gender-related executive orders put in place by Biden.
Source: https://www.cnn.com/2025/01/19/politics/trump-executive-orders-lawmakers-day-1/index.html
I will be paying close attention to TV news coverage tomorrow.
I listened very carefully to speeches and conversations broadcast on TV today. Keep in mind that I believe Trump views himself as a dictator and will behave as such. His flurry of Executive Orders today, signed within hours of his being sworn in as President, ignores current law, Supreme Court decisions, and anything contrary to his agenda.
I listened for clues about what his plans might be. He talked about making every country pay the U.S. for goods and services, instead of the other way around. He sees the U.S. becoming the industrial and financial center of the world. Look at some of the non-government VIPs that attended the inauguration: Zuckerberg, Bezos, Musk, and the heads of Apple and TikTok.
Also of interest (to me) was his comments about Greenland. He wants Greenland and said that Denmark doesn't want it. Maybe he is proposing a deal, or maybe he thinks Denmark would not fight for it if the U.S. just invaded and took it over. He said we need Greenland because of all the Chinese and Russian ships in that area and it is a matter of National Security. Then in the same conversation jokingly said something about making Canada the 51st State.
He is already working to close the southern border by declaring it a National Emergency. He will use that authority for funding to use the U.S. military (including the National Guard) to defend the border.
Look at any map of North America. If Greenland and Canada became U.S. states or territories, The U.S. would control half of the entire Western Hemisphere.
He talked about the Panama Canal and said we gave it to Panama, but it is run by China, so we will take it back. Panama said the canal belongs to them and they will not give it back.
Will Trump plan to invade Panama and take not just the canal but the whole country? The Panama Canal is the only East-West passage between the Pacific and Atlantic Oceans. If we controlled that, we could generate revenue by charging other countries for passage, and even deny them access.
That would also present a firm military foothold should he decide he wants Central America too. By then, the oil in Venezuela might be too tempting to pass up.
It probably won't happen. The United Nations would never allow it. They would scold him with strong words.
Hitler didn't get away with taking over country after country, so Trump won't either. :-\
Did you see Musk's semi Nazi salute?
Quote from: davina61 on January 21, 2025, 03:24:36 AMDid you see Musk's semi Nazi salute?
I do not think that was a Nazi salute. Likely he was just pointing to parts of the crowd.
What was really sad was to see two people at the front elevated tribune stand of the Neuremburg Nazi party rally grounds (Zeppelin Field), where Hitler would address his followers, stand and give the illegal salute, to have their pictures separately taken giving the salute.
That was real.
Quote from: ChrissyRyan on January 21, 2025, 08:20:31 AMI do not think that was a Nazi salute. Likely he was just pointing to parts of the crowd.
I've seen that picture and no, Chrissy. I admire your diplomacy but he couldn't have been doing any more of a Nazi salute if he had a tiny little moustache and had wrote "Mein SpaceX".
How much more proof do you need that... I don't even know. The way Trump talks, acts, tries to bully the world... surrounds himself with sycophants who are terrified of him. It's the 1930s all over again. The only other step you need is for him to sign an executive order outlawing the Democrats from running against him.
I saw him do it at the Inauguration. He did it several times.
I think he realized the cameras saw him do it, so he played it off like he was saying "My heart goes out to you" and he mouthed words to that effect the third time he did it.
Quote from: Lori Dee on January 21, 2025, 04:47:16 PMI saw him do it at the Inauguration. He did it several times.
I think he realized the cameras saw him do it, so he played it off like he was saying "My heart goes out to you" and he mouthed words to that effect the third time he did it.
Agreed. These people have way more money than brain cells.
For context, this is the guy that has been clamouring for our King to call a new election because our current prime minister, for all his faults, thinks Trump is a grade A lunatic.
Shows how much he knows about how our electoral system works.
Stick to making electric cars that only sometimes blow up. Stay out of other stuff. It's not good for you.
I just do not think he did a Nazi salute. Makes no sense. Likely this movement was an excited awkward gesture.
Lots of people raise their arm and point or shake it when they are excited, such as when their team scores a touchdown.
He is smart and a bit odd. I think I will give him a pass on this gesture.
You do not have to!
I hope he or someone comes up with a cancer and dementia cure, and cures for a lot of bad ailments. Maybe artificial intelligence applications, financed by governments and investors, will speed up a cure or a preventive medicine. One can hope.
Hugs,
Chrissy
Lori,
I hope your appointments this morning go well.
Keep warm.
It does not look as if there will be mandated cutbacks for trans related services to veterans unless they are incarcerated. I hope that is the case. I did not read about any such cutbacks, although funding may be cut across the board across federal departments as a budget cost saving measure. It that is the case, there will be some pain across the board to reduce the deficit.
Chrissy
Quote from: ChrissyRyan on January 22, 2025, 06:25:25 AMLori,
I hope your appointments this morning go well.
Keep warm.
It does not look as if there will be mandated cutbacks for trans related services to veterans unless they are incarcerated. I hope that is the case. I did not read about any such cutbacks, although funding may be cut across the board across federal departments as a budget cost saving measure. It that is the case, there will be some pain across the board to reduce the deficit.
Chrissy
Although not specifically mentioned, Executive Orders only apply to federal agencies in the Executive Branch. So that includes the Department of Defense (military) and the Department of Veterans Affairs.
The EO states:
(e) Agencies shall remove all statements, policies, regulations, forms, communications, or other internal and external messages that promote or otherwise inculcate gender ideology, and shall cease issuing such statements, policies, regulations, forms, communications or other messages. Agency forms that require an individual's sex shall list male or female, and shall not request gender identity. Agencies shall take all necessary steps, as permitted by law, to end the Federal funding of gender ideology.
and
(g) Federal funds shall not be used to promote gender ideology. Each agency shall assess grant conditions and grantee preferences and ensure grant funds do not promote gender ideology.
The only question is how quickly the rules and policies will be changed and whether they will be challenged in court. The VA was sued in 2016, and the case was dragged out until 2024. A second suit was filed to force a decision, and the decision was "NO." So, another lawsuit was filed. Nine years and two different Presidents and nothing has happened. I am not hopeful.
Quote from: Lori Dee on January 22, 2025, 06:49:35 AMAlthough not specifically mentioned, Executive Orders only apply to federal agencies in the Executive Branch. So that includes the Department of Defense (military) and the Department of Veterans Affairs.
The EO states:
(e) Agencies shall remove all statements, policies, regulations, forms, communications, or other internal and external messages that promote or otherwise inculcate gender ideology, and shall cease issuing such statements, policies, regulations, forms, communications or other messages. Agency forms that require an individual's sex shall list male or female, and shall not request gender identity. Agencies shall take all necessary steps, as permitted by law, to end the Federal funding of gender ideology.
and
(g) Federal funds shall not be used to promote gender ideology. Each agency shall assess grant conditions and grantee preferences and ensure grant funds do not promote gender ideology.
The only question is how quickly the rules and policies will be changed and whether they will be challenged in court. The VA was sued in 2016, and the case was dragged out until 2024. A second suit was filed to force a decision, and the decision was "NO." So, another lawsuit was filed. Nine years and two different Presidents and nothing has happened. I am not hopeful.
That does not sounds as if medical treatment is specifically prohibited, so that is encouraging.
Quote from: ChrissyRyan on January 22, 2025, 07:14:11 AMThat does not sounds as if medical treatment is specifically prohibited, so that is encouraging.
Actually, it does. The premise is that all humans are male or female and that cannot be changed. No federal funding of "gender ideology" means no gender-affirming healthcare. It is unauthorized because sex cannot be changed per the Order.
I had a good appointment with my VA Psychologist this morning and we discussed these things. She is very sympathetic but has no answers about where this will go.
She told me that due to the EO stating "the White House Gender Policy Council established by Executive Order 14020 is dissolved" there were 6,000 employees who lost their jobs yesterday.
People kept telling me before the election that this stuff can't happen. Then after the election people said Trump won't do these things. Now he has done it and people say, it will get challenged in court. They forget who appointed those judges.
I told my psychologist that either I am delusional, or I am just so amazingly gifted that I am the only one who saw this coming and sees what lies ahead. I don't believe either is true. She assured me that others see what I see. I told her the problem lies in that those who see it are not in a position to do anything about it. < sigh >
Promoting gender ideology I thought was "informing about it or encouraging so that it is accepted and not discriminated against."
So you may continue to get your care! We shall see.
The curves in Lori's avatar, as it is posted today, are desirable.
Sigh.
Quote from: ChrissyRyan on January 25, 2025, 10:15:38 AMThe curves in Lori's avatar, as it is posted today, are desirable.
Sigh.
We can all wish. can't we? :laugh:
Quote from: Lori Dee on January 17, 2025, 05:36:36 PMHopefully not the kitchen sink. :o
Many years ago, I caught my mother using the kitchen sink. I can't remember what her excuse was. The real reason was probably that she just didn't want to struggle up the stairs to the bathroom.
Fortunately, it was just a Number One, as I think Americans call it.
I have curves but they go out and not in!!!!
Quote from: davina61 on January 25, 2025, 02:30:07 PMI have curves but they go out and not in!!!!
The perfect figure... a sphere! :laugh:
Quote from: Lori Dee on January 25, 2025, 10:30:36 AMWe can all wish. can't we? :laugh:
Not gonna lie, I kind of like the tattoo.
I did not pay attention to the tattoo.
Oh yes, there it is.
I have no curves, just totally rectangular...with a belly and no tattoos. Thank God for bulky winter clothes!
Lori,
Have you tried to find "rare earth minerals" as well as gold?
I heard these rare minerals can be worth more than gold.
Maybe they are buried deep underground.
Chrissy
Quote from: ChrissyRyan on January 26, 2025, 11:34:17 AMLori,
Have you tried to find "rare earth minerals" as well as gold?
I heard these rare minerals can be worth more than gold.
Maybe they are buried deep underground.
Chrissy
I don't know if I have the equipment to detect them. They are "rare," so they are usually present in small amounts and possibly undetectable with my metal detector.
There are places in Wyoming where they are mined. I came closest when I found two tiny nuggets of platinum in my sluice box. At first, I thought they were silver. But they were very shiny and brittle, whereas silver is a dull gray and very soft. It took some testing but I finally concluded that they were platiunun.
I went back to that spot many times but never found any more there.
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Lori,
Do you do gold panning, high-banking, and dredging for gold?
Chrissy
Quote from: ChrissyRyan on January 27, 2025, 03:25:49 PMLori,
Do you do gold panning, high-banking, and dredging for gold?
Chrissy
I do gold panning and I use a sluice box mostly. There are regulations that limit the use of high bankers and dredgers. I don't own a dredge (they are expensive!) and both use "motorized equipment". Any use of such equipment is restricted to certain areas and requires permits, and the associated fees. As long as I stick with a pick and shovel, gold pan, and sluice, the Mining Act of 1872 classifies what I do as "recreational", so many regulations do not apply to me. I am not a business, so it is considered a hobby.
The Forest Rangers cannot agree on what constitutes "motorized equipment". Some have told me that the reason for the regulation is to protect the waterways from oil or fuel spillage, and from destroying the land with excavating equipment. That is also my understanding.
However, I was using my Gold Cube as a high banker and a Ranger told me the electric motor (powered by a car battery) made it "motorized" and I could not use it near the river. So I only use it at home now.
The regulations state that I can take "concentrates" home to be processed as long as I return the "tailings" (leftovers) to where I dug them up. So I dig in the creek where you can't really tell that hole was dug (unless you know what to look for) and screen the materials to remove large rocks. These concentrates can then be brought home to process. If there is a loophole, I will find it. ;D
Watching Aussie gold hunters on telly and they do dig up lots of dirt to get to old waterways and quartz rocks with heavy equipment, bull dozing swathes of brush so they can metal detect. Saying that its great when they find a thumb size bit and then there were some fist size chunks!!!!! A lot is fine stuff from dry blower or wet filter and also a heap leach using cyanide in a pond to extract the gold through charcoal filters
Quote from: davina61 on January 28, 2025, 05:22:12 AMWatching Aussie gold hunters on telly and they do dig up lots of dirt to get to old waterways and quartz rocks with heavy equipment, bull dozing swathes of brush so they can metal detect. Saying that its great when they find a thumb size bit and then there were some fist size chunks!!!!! A lot is fine stuff from dry blower or wet filter and also a heap leach using cyanide in a pond to extract the gold through charcoal filters
There seems to be a number of ways to find gold.
Lori,
Did you watch the TV series Gold Rush or Gold Rush Alaska (the same series)?
Apparently it is or has been running for 14 years, I have not watched any of the shows.
Chrissy
Quote from: ChrissyRyan on January 28, 2025, 06:57:42 PMLori,
Did you watch the TV series Gold Rush or Gold Rush Alaska (the same series)?
Apparently it is or has been running for 14 years, I have not watched any of the shows.
Chrissy
I used to watch Gold Rush ages ago when I still watched TV. I got so frustrated watching some of the nonsensical stuff they did "for show".
Then I met Freddie Dodge in Colorado. I was always impressed with his knowledge of gold mining. He was starting a new mining operation there and I interviewed for a job to work with him. The job was much more labor-intensive than I would be able to do, so I withdrew my application. But during the interview we had a chance to talk about the TV show.
The entire program is scripted. All of the annoyances that did not make sense to me were things written into the script to appease the audience. An example is the final weigh-ins at the end of each episode. They would bring out several Mason jars full of "gold" but you could see that most of the jar contents was black sand and not gold. Any real miner knows you must clean out the black sand BEFORE you weigh it. Freddie said that the producers of the show wanted to end the episode with X-number of ounces to show the audience. So they didn't clean it.
He also told me about other shenanigans that went on behind the scenes that he was not happy about, which was one of the reasons he left the show. After that, I stopped watching the program because it isn't reality, it's a TV show with a bunch of actors.
That's why I like Aussie gold hunters and Opel hunters as there is not much obvious made up for TV stuff and the gold is clean for the weigh ins.
I wonder what a test tube sized vial of gold as found in streams would be worth.
I realize there are different sizes of test tubes and there are impurities too.
I wonder what two salt grain size gold specs are worth also. Likely not much but it may be fun to find a couple of them, if a tourist at least, who was gold panning.
Quote from: ChrissyRyan on January 30, 2025, 04:56:30 AMI wonder what a test tube sized vial of gold as found in streams would be worth.
I realize there are different sizes of test tubes and there are impurities too.
I wonder what two salt grain size gold specs are worth also. Likely not much but it may be fun to find a couple of them, if a tourist at least, who was gold panning.
Gold is valued by weight. So a buyer will not pay their best price for gold that is full of black sand. A test tube full of gold could weigh in at over an ounce. Today's gold spot price is $2,784.70 per ounce.
That is for pure gold. Placer gold that I dig out of the ground is considered 80% pure because it will contain varying amounts of other minerals like silver, copper, and platinum. Buyers like pawn shops and jewelers also want to make a profit in the transaction. Here, they pay 80% of the 80% pure price. That gets confusing, but for our math nerds out there:
I sold 10.3 grams of gold (https://goldgallery.lori-dee.com/set/255a1b26-697a-4125-a5a1-dd4e5069e613?pgid=255a1b26-697a-4125-a5a1-dd4e5069e613_565cbe5e-1d77-48e0-8e23-2bd950f16afd) recently at a spot price of $85.68 per gram.
80% of that because it is not pure gold = $68.544 per gram x 10.3 grams = $706.00
But the pawn shop only pays 80% of that (keeping 20% as profit).
So I was paid $564.80 for the gold. Actually he rounded up to $565 so he didn't have give me change.
Two salt-grain pieces of gold would be difficult to weigh. I don't think my scale would register it. Usually, if I have just a small amount, I store it in a vial until there is enough to weigh. I have been lucky that most days when I am out I get about a half a gram or more.
I have pics in my Gold Gallery album. https://goldgallery.lori-dee.com/
Quote from: ChrissyRyan on January 30, 2025, 04:56:30 AMI wonder what a test tube sized vial of gold as found in streams would be worth.
I realize there are different sizes of test tubes and there are impurities too.
I wonder what two salt grain size gold specs are worth also. Likely not much but it may be fun to find a couple of them, if a tourist at least, who was gold panning.
In my lifetime, the price of gold has gone insane. On Britain's TPTV channel, I watched an early sixties documentary about gold in the Look at Life series. The value of a gold sovereign at that time was £3. Yesterday, the 2025 gold sovereign was advertised on TV at £549.
When I was caring for my mother, I learned of another opportunity for gold panners. When I emptied her, ahem, waste, I noticed that grains of a black powdery substance tended to be left behind. I deduced that it was iron from the tablets my mother had to take. When her nurse visited, I asked her whether there was any medicine with gold in it that I could pan for. The nurse grinned and said that patients with arthritis were sometimes given tablets containing gold. If my mother was amused, she didn't show it. Never mind, her bedside manner was no better than mine.
Still, some home carers may have an opportunity to turn their work into an adventure and perhaps get a small profit to boot.
I think that might be a lot of work for a tiny mount of gold, but the possibility is there. I knew a guy from New York who would clean the cracks out of the sidewalk in the Jewelry district. He would find tiny gemstones, even diamonds, and a lot of gold or silver dust. Over time, it all adds up.
For many years, I collected electronic parts from old printers, PCs, hard drives, cell phones, etc. and would strip the gold from them. It is a lot of work, but there is quite a bit there. Not enough to get rich, or even make it worthwhile (so I learned).
Most people don't know that hard drive disks are coated with an extremely thin layer of platinum. I learned about all of this while installing a security system at a local recycling plant. They had two large vats filled with acid that would dissolve the gold from all of these components.
When I came to South Dakota and began studying the mining history of the area, I learned that most abandoned gold mines still contain gold.
During World War II, many gold mines were closed by the government because they needed miners to work on mining metals to support the war effort, like copper and iron. Then many of these young miners were drafted into military service. Some never came home, others were too old or disabled to work in mines.
The price of gold was so low and the cost of mining was too high, so many mines just remained closed. Lately, with the price of gold rising, mining companies are exploring and reopening the old mines. The price of gold is high enough that the efforts can now be profitable.
I am not a hard rock miner, so I stay away from the old mines. They are too dangerous with rotting support beams and many used toxic chemicals like cyanide, mercury, or arsenic. Instead, I study geology maps and look for patterns where the biggest mines were located. That tells me where the gold veins were in the rock. I then move downstream and sample the soils to see if any of the gold has eroded out.
Quote from: Lori Dee on January 30, 2025, 10:40:32 AMI think that might be a lot of work for a tiny mount of gold, but the possibility is there. I knew a guy from New York who would clean the cracks out of the sidewalk in the Jewelry district. He would find tiny gemstones, even diamonds, and a lot of gold or silver dust. Over time, it all adds up.
This reminds me of the movie 'Paint Your Wagon'. A western set in the middle of the 1800's. Two miners who weren't having much luck noted that whenever other miners paid for something with gold dust, a little would fall through the floor boards. They dug tunnels under every store, hotel, and saloon in town so they could 'mine' the gold dust under the buildings.
Love always --Jessica Rose
People didn't trust banks back then either. they would stash gold and coins in the walls, under floors, and behind rocks in the fireplace. I use my metal detector to scan areas of abandoned mining camps for this reason.
Sometimes they would bury their loot in the yard near their cabin. If you stand in the cabin and look out the window, look for a landmark where something might be buried. They did this so they could see if anyone was digging in their yard and the landmark helped them remember where they buried it.
Yes one of the Aussie lot was detecting and dug up an old baccy tin, just rubbish he said but opened it and it was full of gold nuggets!!!
Is silver or copper also found via panning?
Quote from: ChrissyRyan on February 08, 2025, 09:43:08 AMIs silver or copper also found via panning?
Not so much while panning. They are usually recovered by mining. They are not as heavy as gold, so panning or sluicing is not an effective way to get it. But almost all gold recovered via panning or sluicing does contain impurities (20% or more) and very often those are silver and copper.
I have found gold flakes with high amounts. When it is high in silver content, it is more silver-white than yellow. When high in copper content it looks more reddish colored.
Quote from: Lori Dee on February 08, 2025, 10:16:24 AMNot so mu
Not so much while panning. They are usually recovered by mining. They are not as heavy as gold, so panning or sluicing is not an effective way to get it. But almost all gold recovered via panning or sluicing does contain impurities (20% or more) and very often those are silver and copper.
I have found gold flakes with high amounts. When it is high in silver content, it is more silver-white than yellow. When high in copper content it looks more reddish colored.
That is interesting. Thank you.
Chrissy
So... where to catch up?
I have had a severe cough for almost two weeks now. I know that it is not a virus for a couple of reasons: 1) I have not had any contact with anyone since I last saw my doctor, and she isn't sick, and 2) no fever, aches, chills, fatigue, or any other flu-like symptoms.
Yesterday, I had two VA appointments, so I got there an hour early and checked in with the same-day walk-in nurse to get checked out. She confirmed that it was not viral. Rapid City is notorious for poor air quality and was in the "Unhealthy for Sensitive Groups" category when my cough started. I believe the term "Sensitive Group" refers to anyone who breathes for a living. So, Doc gave me an inhaler of Albuterol and a prednisone pack to ward off any chest infection.
Last night was the first night I was able to sleep in my bed instead of the recliner. \0/ Score!
This morning I felt well enough to run to Wally World for coffee, orange juice, milk, and bread. And to see if the pharmacy received my order of twenty-seven 55-gallon drums of cough syrup. ;D
I warm up the Jeep, which is no easy feat since we have been sub-zero for two weeks or so. Low temps at night drop down into Danielle's territory -24F and high temperatures around -5F. The dash light signals low tire pressure. Ugh.
I know the right front tire has a nail in it, but hasn't been leaking. I had been waiting for warmer temps to take the Jeep up to my favorite garage, Bargain Barn Tire Pros. They have done everything on my Jeep, and before that my truck, since 2015. New tires, brakes (complete system cylinders and all), fuel lines, and oil changes. They have had plenty of opportunities to take advantage of me and instead made recommendations that saved me money. So I have sworn my loyalty to them. I intended to get a quote for a set of new tires and replace all four struts while it's up on the rack.
No waiting for warmer weather, so I went there first. They repaired the right front tire, filled the left front which is the low one, and made sure it wasn't leaking. No charge!
So I made my appointment for tomorrow afternoon. I'll drop the Jeep off so they can get started, then my BFF will pick me up and I'll take her to lunch. We will hang out for a bit until the Jeep is ready. She is upset that I will be moving out of state this summer, but she understands why it is necessary. So it will be good to spend some time together.
Okay so as a massively ignorant Brit... Wally World is actually a thing and not just in the National Lampoons movie? I can never be sure with you Yanks because you sometimes get sarcasm and irony, and sometimes don't, lol.
Also, the symbiotic relationship you have with your cars/jeeps/tanks/anything that gets you anywhere without walking... is kind of adorable. ;D
And your weather... I envy that. More than you know. :P
Wally World is our name for Walmart. And yes, it is derived from the movies.
We try to find names that are more honest and descriptive than what the marketing companies came up with. So our local electric company, "Black Hills Energy" is called "Black Hills Flicker & Flash". The internet provider "CenturyLink" is called "17th Century Link", and so on.
On more than one occasion my pickup truck saved my life. I had built a wooden camper on the back, fully insulated, with electric lights and heat, all the comforts of home. I lived in that camper from May to November camped out in the Hills gold prospecting while I waited for my apartment to become available.
That truck was only a two-wheel drive, but she got me into some wild backcountry. But more importantly, got me back out again when I needed to leave. When she finally refused to start for the last time, I got my Jeep. It doesn't have the indoor-living amenities the truck had, but she gets me where I need to be, and home again safely. So of course, I treat her with respect. I take care of her and she takes care of me. ;D
The cold never really bothered me when I was younger. I'm a desert rat so I prefer the heat, but the cold was a welcome vacation of sorts. In the Army, we did extensive cold weather training in some brutal conditions. I even taught my tank crew how to build an igloo, and my gunner and I spent the night in it with a small candle as a heat source. The cold didn't bother me.
Then in 1984, during REFORGER exercises in Germany, I got really cold. The left side of my face froze and when the medics warmed me up, I had tiny blisters like from a bad sunburn. After that, it seemed like I could never get warm enough. I left Germany the following year and requested an assignment in sunny California to thaw out. But even after five years there, I still have lost my tolerance. So now I hibernate in winter.
Colorado is not exactly the tropics, but the weather is milder in the southern part of the state. I just need a break from the sub-zero. Who knows? I might end up retiring to Thailand after all. ;D
Quote from: Lori Dee on February 19, 2025, 04:32:46 PMWally World is our name for Walmart. And yes, it is derived from the movies.
We try to find names that are more honest and descriptive than what the marketing companies came up with. So our local electric company, "Black Hills Energy" is called "Black Hills Flicker & Flash". The internet provider "CenturyLink" is called "17th Century Link", and so on.
On more than one occasion my pickup truck saved my life. I had built a wooden camper on the back, fully insulated, with electric lights and heat, all the comforts of home. I lived in that camper from May to November camped out in the Hills gold prospecting while I waited for my apartment to become available.
That truck was only a two-wheel drive, but she got me into some wild backcountry. But more importantly, got me back out again when I needed to leave. When she finally refused to start for the last time, I got my Jeep. It doesn't have the indoor-living amenities the truck had, but she gets me where I need to be, and home again safely. So of course, I treat her with respect. I take care of her and she takes care of me. ;D
The cold never really bothered me when I was younger. I'm a desert rat so I prefer the heat, but the cold was a welcome vacation of sorts. In the Army, we did extensive cold weather training in some brutal conditions. I even taught my tank crew how to build an igloo, and my gunner and I spent the night in it with a small candle as a heat source. The cold didn't bother me.
Then in 1984, during REFORGER exercises in Germany, I got really cold. The left side of my face froze and when the medics warmed me up, I had tiny blisters like from a bad sunburn. After that, it seemed like I could never get warm enough. I left Germany the following year and requested an assignment in sunny California to thaw out. But even after five years there, I still have lost my tolerance. So now I hibernate in winter.
Colorado is not exactly the tropics, but the weather is milder in the southern part of the state. I just need a break from the sub-zero. Who knows? I might end up retiring to Thailand after all. ;D
Awwww, that kind of sucks, Lori. I guess we all deal with what we can deal with. I did arctic training in the navy and utterly loved it. We got literally shoved into an ice fishing hole and told to swim. I was like "Come on in, the water is lovely!!" while everyone else twitched. I am convinced I am part seal though. Not navy seal, lol. Just that I probably have anti freeze for blood. ;D
Anything below +10C makes me want to stay in the warm! anything over 25C makes me want to stay in the cold! Just give me a nice 20C and I will be happy.
Lori,
Have a very pleasant day!
Chrissy
I love the cold weather! Got close to hyperthermia and frostbite once or twice but I was never bitten by a mosquito in the winter. In the summer, I am like McDonalds to mosquitos. Also, I hate sweating, which I do vigorously during the summer heat.
YAY snow!!!
Quote from: Emma1017 on February 20, 2025, 03:52:48 PMI love the cold weather! Got close to hyperthermia and frostbite once or twice but I was never bitten by a mosquito in the winter. In the summer, I am like McDonalds to mosquitos. Also, I hate sweating, which I do vigorously during the summer heat.
YAY snow!!!
There are pluses and minuses of hot, warm, and cold weather.
Nothing much good to speak of though for a hurricane, twister, hail storm, ice storm, flood, or high winds.
Quote from: Emma1017 on February 20, 2025, 03:52:48 PMI love the cold weather! Got close to hyperthermia and frostbite once or twice but I was never bitten by a mosquito in the winter. In the summer, I am like McDonalds to mosquitos. Also, I hate sweating, which I do vigorously during the summer heat.
YAY snow!!!
I always knew you were a kindred spirit, Emma. <3
Quote from: ChrissyRyan on February 20, 2025, 04:13:03 PMThere are pluses and minuses of hot, warm, and cold weather.
Nothing much good to speak of though for a hurricane, twister, hail storm, ice storm, flood, or high winds.
You say that, Chrissy. But for people who don't have that kind of stuff as "A normal Tuesday"... I would love, love, LOVE to chase a tornado. To see one of the most destructive forces in nature close up. Same with a hurricane to a lesser degree. For folks who don't choose to build their lives in places these things consistently spawn... it's actually enchanting. There's a reason people put so much stuff up on YouTube. ;D
Quote from: Sephirah on February 20, 2025, 04:37:42 PMI always knew you were a kindred spirit, Emma. <3
You say that, Chrissy. But for people who don't have that kind of stuff as "A normal Tuesday"... I would love, love, LOVE to chase a tornado. To see one of the most destructive forces in nature close up. Same with a hurricane to a lesser degree. For folks who don't choose to build their lives in places these things consistently spawn... it's actually enchanting. There's a reason people put so much stuff up on YouTube. ;D
It might not be quite as much fun if the tornado is chasing you through your own home.
Quote from: MaryT on February 20, 2025, 04:49:06 PMIt might not be quite as much fun if the tornado is chasing you through your own home.
No, I absolutely understand that. I would be a huge tourist. To lose everything you spent years accumulating must be utterly devastating. Like folks in wildfires, hurricanes, earthquakes... whatever natural disaster you want to mention. To be utterly powerless and emerge to see everything you worked for... gone. That must be amongst the most heartbreaking things a person can ever go through.
What you have to understand though, Mary, is that I live in Britain. Where the harshest weather we get is either 2 inches of snow which plunges the country into chaos... or a particularly murky fog. With some light rain on the side. We are to weather what McDonalds is to a tasty burger.
Got my Jeep back from the shop. New tires and struts all around. What a difference. I have already noticed these tires do not slip on the snow.
They had a problem with the alignment, so my right front wheel has the camber out of whack. They told me to give it a couple hundred miles to let the struts settle in and bring it back for a free alignment. Sooner if I have any issues.
Best $2,618.83 I have spent all year. ;D
Quote from: Sephirah on February 20, 2025, 04:37:42 PMI always knew you were a kindred spirit, Emma. <3
You say that, Chrissy. But for people who don't have that kind of stuff as "A normal Tuesday"... I would love, love, LOVE to chase a tornado. To see one of the most destructive forces in nature close up. Same with a hurricane to a lesser degree. For folks who don't choose to build their lives in places these things consistently spawn... it's actually enchanting. There's a reason people put so much stuff up on YouTube. ;D
You may wish to watch the movie TWISTER, and the many of the tornado movies and documentaries.
It is quite scary to be in the vicinity of a tornado.
Quote from: MaryT on February 20, 2025, 04:49:06 PMIt might not be quite as much fun if the tornado is chasing you through your own home.
Actually, I've often wondered, since American Disney produced the definitive Three Little Pigs movie, why many Americans still build their houses out of sticks, even in the real huff and puff corridors.
Quote from: MaryT on February 21, 2025, 02:25:00 PMActually, I've often wondered, since American Disney produced the definitive Three Little Pigs movie, why many Americans still build their houses out of sticks, even in the real huff and puff corridors.
I wonder why mobile homes are so popular in 'tornado alley'. Think about it, you're buying a home that was designed to be mobile, and putting it in an area where tornadoes are a yearly occurrence. Most people who live in tornado alley know that mobile homes are like catnip to tornadoes. We often joke about making fake mobile home parks in unpopulated areas to bait tornadoes away from town. It's extremely rare to hear about a tornado that doesn't destroy at least one mobile home.
Now, to make this post relevant... Lori, I hope they are able to correct the camber on your Jeep without too much additional work.
Love always -- Jess
Is Lori's favorite character GOLDilocks?
Chrissy
I lived in "Tornado Alley" for decades.
Homes are built of wood because it is cheaper and faster, so easier to replace. Mobile homes are even more so. The average person buys what they can afford and hopes insurance will make them whole.
I installed security systems for some of the wealthiest people in the upper Midwest. They do not live in homes made of wood. Their homes are made of brick and stone, with lots of trees and walls for windbreaks. Some of the items within their homes are irreplaceable, so much is done to protect those valuables. Even within the fortress of a mansion house, down in the basement and sub-basements, there are safes, vaults, and panic rooms. But these are people who have the means to invest in such things.
Quote from: Jessica_Rose on February 21, 2025, 07:59:01 PMI hope they are able to correct the camber on your Jeep without too much additional work.
They indicated that this was not a big deal. The struts and bushings and hardware are all new, so it could take a hundred miles of driving to wear things down so it all pops into place. Then the alignment should go easy for them. It's no charge to me, so I follow their advice and things will work out. They have never done me wrong, so I trust them.
@ChrissyRyan GoldiLocks. ;D :laugh:
Brick and stone and concrete are fireproof, a plus.
Some woods and fake woods are costly too.
Tile and wood floors would be more costly than typical carpet.
There was a story about a couple who built their home out of concrete and stone and survived the California fires unharmed. Any rebuilding plans should focus on that. I have also wondered why storm shelters were not made mandatory for RV parks. I suspect that politics kills off any attempts at rational construction codes. After the flooding of Hurricane Sandy, houses on the beach near me must be raised to get insurance coverage of any kind. The insurance companies' rates respond better than the government does.
Lori, are you driving a Wrangler? We developed something called a "Death Rattle" on our Jeep that is a known problem and Jeep won't cover it. We had to replace the damper on the steering column ourselves... neither my wife nor I got under the Jeep to do it, as romantic as that could be.
We hired mechanics with strong backs to do it.
Quote from: Emma1017 on February 22, 2025, 07:32:12 AMLori, are you driving a Wrangler? We developed something called a "Death Rattle" on our Jeep that is a known problem and Jeep won't cover it. We had to replace the damper on the steering column ourselves... neither my wife nor I got under the Jeep to do it, as romantic as that could be.
We hired mechanics with strong backs to do it.
I have a 2015 Jeep Patriot. It is not made for off-road use but does great on the highway. The Wranglers are made for off-road use, so I wonder if something vibrated loose. 4WD systems add a lot of extra vibration to the front end, including the steering mechanism.
Did they find the issue and get it fixed?
Quote from: Emma1017 on February 22, 2025, 07:32:12 AMThere was a story about a couple who built their home out of concrete and stone and survived the California fires unharmed. Any rebuilding plans should focus on that. I have also wondered why storm shelters were not made mandatory for RV parks. I suspect that politics kills off any attempts at rational construction codes. After the flooding of Hurricane Sandy, houses on the beach near me must be raised to get insurance coverage of any kind. The insurance companies' rates respond better than the government does.
Lori, are you driving a Wrangler? We developed something called a "Death Rattle" on our Jeep that is a known problem and Jeep won't cover it. We had to replace the damper on the steering column ourselves... neither my wife nor I got under the Jeep to do it, as romantic as that could be.
We hired mechanics with strong backs to do it.
Was this an expensive repair?
Quote from: ChrissyRyan on February 20, 2025, 07:05:05 PMYou may wish to watch the movie TWISTER, and the many of the tornado movies and documentaries.
It is quite scary to be in the vicinity of a tornado.
Twister is actually in my top 3 of favourite movies of all time. I've seen it so much that as a kid I literally wore the VHS cassette out. Wasn't a big fan of the sequel. Didn't really work without Bill Paxton, may he rest in peace.
I eat this stuff up. Any movie based on some kind of natural disaster... call it morbid obsession... it pushes my buttons. Yeah it's actually terrifying. But that's kind of part of the appeal. I think that's why storm... erm... followers (sorry profanity filter) do it... as well as to be able to better alert people to what's going on. I am not an adrenaline junkie, but that... I could make an exception for. I watch all the natural disaster documentaries I can get my hands on, lol. There's probably something really wrong with me. ;D
Hey Lori, my wrangler is a 2019. We take it on the beach but most of the wear and tear is NYC potholes that can eat a car. My local mechanic charged me $145 installed which I thought was fair. Of course, Jeep charged for the part.
Sephirah I agree about Bill Paxton making the movie work. He made Titanic workable. My favorite disaster film is 2012, a little cheesy but it has great scenes like when the plane flies under the subway train.
The other two I love are Armageddon and The Day After Tomorrow.
Lori, I know you have favorites!
Quote from: ChrissyRyan on February 21, 2025, 09:11:49 PMBrick and stone and concrete are fireproof, a plus.
Except, brick buildings come down in earthquakes, that is why since 1933, brick buildings are not, legal in California
Ellen
Quote from: EllenW on February 22, 2025, 04:11:27 PMExcept, brick buildings come down in earthquakes, that is why since 1933, brick buildings are not, legal in California
Ellen
Yes that is true to a very great extent. Brick buildings can possibly be retrofitted and in some cases bricks can be used if strict regulations are followed when using them for new construction. (If you believe what is on the Internet about this.)
They aren't even terribly good in a fire. Ask any Aussie.
Quote from: Emma1017 on February 22, 2025, 03:54:49 PMMy favorite disaster film is 2012, a little cheesy but it has great scenes like when the plane flies under the subway train.
The other two I love are Armageddon and The Day After Tomorrow.
Lori, I know you have favorites!
Those are right up there. ;D
Also
Waterworld, and for something a little different,
Children of Men.
One could use concrete and steel. I wonder what material is used for 3D printed outside walls, and of their fire resistant properties.
Quote from: Sephirah on February 22, 2025, 04:36:42 PMThey aren't even terribly good in a fire. Ask any Aussie.
Quote from: Lori Dee on February 22, 2025, 04:41:51 PMThose are right up there. ;D
Also Waterworld, and for something a little different, Children of Men.
Children of Men is an amazing movie.
I think my respect for you just went up a hundred points, Lori. Because almost no one knows of that movie. I also quite liked Waterworld, although Kevin kind of tried a bit too hard to do the Mad Max on water vibe.
Quote from: Sephirah on February 22, 2025, 05:12:40 PMChildren of Men is an amazing movie.
I think my respect for you just went up a hundred points, Lori. Because almost no one knows of that movie. I also quite liked Waterworld, although Kevin kind of tried a bit too hard to do the Mad Max on water vibe.
That he did. ;D
Then there are "
The Island", the "
Divergent" movies, and "
The Maze Runner" movies. All sort of the same theme but with different takes.
I'm a fan of
"The Hunger Games" too, but I love Jennifer Laurence. One of hers that the critics hated but I love is "
Passengers" where she and Chris Pratt are stranded aboard a colony ship in space.
I have not seen The island. But I have seen at least a couple of the Divergent, and Maze Runner movies. They seem very tailored to... the popcorn swilling kids on this generation. I don't know. They are the Robocop of this generation. And I don't mean that utter garbage robocop remake.
I have seen the hunger games movies. I don't know how I feel. They're okay. The idea is probably something we should be doing in today's world.
I like Jen, too. She is a really good actress.
I would like to see a new Star Trek movie.
Quote from: ChrissyRyan on February 22, 2025, 05:42:57 PMI would like to see a new Star Trek movie.
Me, too! With Chris Pine and Zack Quinto, and Simon Pegg. I know there've been whisperings about it but the third one really didn't do so well because... I mean... you don't have a franchise set in space then set most of it on a planet. That just doesn't work. The show didn't work doing that kind of thing and movies don't work doing it either.
Quote from: Sephirah on February 22, 2025, 05:58:14 PMMe, too! With Chris Pine and Zack Quinto, and Simon Pegg. I know there've been whisperings about it but the third one really didn't do so well because... I mean... you don't have a franchise set in space then set most of it on a planet. That just doesn't work. The show didn't work doing that kind of thing and movies don't work doing it either.
You might enjoy the movie PLEASE STAND BY, if you are a Star Trek fanatic.
Quote from: ChrissyRyan on February 22, 2025, 06:25:37 PMYou might enjoy the movie PLEASE STAND BY, if you are a Star Trek fanatic.
Lol. Chrissy, please get out of my head. It's not a good place for you to be. :P. I have seen that movie. It's awesome.
I am not a fanatic. I don't really care too much about movies one way or the other. Aside from a select few, for very personal reasons.
Quote from: Sephirah on February 22, 2025, 05:40:25 PMI have not seen The island. But I have seen at least a couple of the Divergent, and Maze Runner movies. They seem very tailored to... the popcorn swilling kids on this generation. I don't know. They are the Robocop of this generation. And I don't mean that utter garbage robocop remake.
I have seen the hunger games movies. I don't know how I feel. They're okay. The idea is probably something we should be doing in today's world.
I like Jen, too. She is a really good actress.
The Island is Scarlett Johansen and Ewan McGregor, and other stars. Worth watching at least once.
Quote from: Sephirah on February 22, 2025, 05:58:14 PMMe, too! With Chris Pine and Zack Quinto, and Simon Pegg. I know there've been whisperings about it but the third one really didn't do so well because... I mean... you don't have a franchise set in space then set most of it on a planet. That just doesn't work. The show didn't work doing that kind of thing and movies don't work doing it either.
I agree. Those three did a great job, then throw in Zoe Saldana, Karl Urban, and Rachel Nichols. I thought I was going to be very disappointed since I grew up with Shatner, DeForest Kelley, and Nimoy. But they did a great job.
Quote from: ChrissyRyan on February 22, 2025, 05:42:57 PMI would like to see a new Star Trek movie.
Me too, Chrissy. It is time!
I am a massive Karl Urban fangirl. Seeing him in The Chronicles of Riddick, The Lord of the Rings, and my second favourite TV show ever... "The Boys", the guy has massive range.
Quote from: Sephirah on February 22, 2025, 08:39:28 PMI am a massive Karl Urban fangirl. Seeing him in The Chronicles of Riddick, The Lord of the Rings, and my second favourite TV show ever... "The Boys", the guy has massive range.
And Judge Dredd. ;D
Quote from: Lori Dee on February 22, 2025, 08:31:30 PMI agree. Those three did a great job, then throw in Zoe Saldana, Karl Urban, and Rachel Nichols. I thought I was going to be very disappointed since I grew up with Shatner, DeForest Kelley, and Nimoy. But they did a great job.
So did I lori, but I think the way they did the "Into darkness" movie, and played on the original, was genius. I know a lot of people hated it, because like star wars fans, they hate anything that isn't a carbon copy... but they paid massive respect to Nimoy, in the movies and after his death. It was very classy.
Quote from: Lori Dee on February 22, 2025, 08:44:15 PMAnd Judge Dredd. ;D
Wow, I forgot he was in that, LOL.
Yes that too :D
Quote from: Lori Dee on February 22, 2025, 08:44:15 PMAnd Judge Dredd. ;D
At least Karl Urban didn't show his face much. (Did he ever take off his helmet? I can't remember.) Judge Dredd fans objected to the Sylvester Stallone movie because he usually had his helmet off. In the comic, his full face was never shown, just his grimly determined chin.
I'm a bit of a megalomaniac myself, which is probably one of the reasons President Trump gets on my nerves - there ain't room in the world for the two of us. The idea of judges like Dredd appeal to me: police, prosecutor, judge, jury and sometimes executioner, all rolled into one. There have been such people in history: the original District Commissioners in British colonial Africa, the Veld Kornets of the Boer republics and the original Texas Rangers, for example.
Quote from: MaryT on February 23, 2025, 01:09:42 PMAt least Karl Urban didn't show his face much. (Did he ever take off his helmet? I can't remember.) Judge Dredd fans objected to the Sylvester Stallone movie because he usually had his helmet off. In the comic, his full face was never shown, just his grimly determined chin.
I'm a bit of a megalomaniac myself, which is probably one of the reasons President Trump gets on my nerves - there ain't room in the world for the two of us. The idea of judges like Dredd appeal to me: police, prosecutor, judge, jury and sometimes executioner, all rolled into one. There have been such people in history: the original District Commissioners in British colonial Africa, the Veld Kornets of the Boer republics and the original Texas Rangers, for example.
I can see the appeal of that, but I think there's just too much room for error and you give any one person too much power to decide. You can't do something like that when human emotion is involved because... it's too easy to abuse that power. That's why we need multiple people deciding stuff like this... so any one person can't. Which... I mean... Trump is a prime example of this.
Quote from: Sephirah on February 23, 2025, 03:07:32 PMI can see the appeal of that, but I think there's just too much room for error and you give any one person too much power to decide. You can't do something like that when human emotion is involved because... it's too easy to abuse that power. That's why we need multiple people deciding stuff like this... so any one person can't. Which... I mean... Trump is a prime example of this.
This is why we need an AI-powered Justice Computer to decide the facts without considering any emotional elements. Either the crime was committed, or it was not. Black and White. Guilty or Not Guilty. ;D
Quote from: Lori Dee on February 23, 2025, 05:21:28 PMThis is why we need an AI-powered Justice Computer to decide the facts without considering any emotional elements. Either the crime was committed, or it was not. Black and White. Guilty or Not Guilty. ;D
Well, it depends on who codes the AI... https://www.susans.org/index.php/topic,250273.0.html
Love always -- Jessica Rose
There was a story (Asimov?) about a central computer that got mixed up and someone was executed for Kidnapping Robert Lois Stevenson when he was just overdue on a library book!! Think it was from the late 50s or early 60s.
Karl Urban was great in Red too. Big fan!
Quote from: Lori Dee on February 23, 2025, 05:21:28 PMThis is why we need an AI-powered Justice Computer to decide the facts without considering any emotional elements. Either the crime was committed, or it was not. Black and White. Guilty or Not Guilty. ;D
Quote from: Jessica_Rose on February 23, 2025, 06:25:32 PMWell, it depends on who codes the AI... https://www.susans.org/index.php/topic,250273.0.html
Love always -- Jessica Rose
Jessica's link story is very strong evidence that Lori has a good idea - as long as Mr Musk can't mess around with it.
Quote from: davina61 on February 24, 2025, 03:19:21 AMThere was a story (Asimov?) about a central computer that got mixed up and someone was executed for Kidnapping Robert Lois Stevenson when he was just overdue on a library book!! Think it was from the late 50s or early 60s.
To be fair, real judges have pulled a lot of bloomers too. I have been informed that Britain has quietly dropped, or is going to drop, the practice of deducting bed and board from the compensation of wrongly convicted prisoners. However, they will not compensate prisoners who have had it deducted in the past. There are so many that Britain just can't afford it.
One needs to be careful turning over high impact decisions to computer software and data analysis.
In court if one is directed to answer not with a no or yes response, being cut off to giving details as to the why or circumstances could lead to misleading decisions. Of course, giving details which are untruthful may also lead to misleading decisions.
This discussion could continue at length I suppose. There are many sides and viewpoints for issues.
Chrissy
Lori,
Have a terrific day! I have an appt to get to then to what I hope will be a smooth day of work.
Everyone else, I hope that YOU have a terrific day too!
Hugs,
Chrissy
Quote from: ChrissyRyan on February 24, 2025, 09:13:37 AMOne needs to be careful turning over high impact decisions to computer software and data analysis.
In court if one is directed to answer not with a no or yes response, being cut off to giving details as to the why or circumstances could lead to misleading decisions. Of course, giving details which are untruthful may also lead to misleading decisions.
This discussion could continue at length I suppose. There are many sides and viewpoints for issues.
Chrissy
In my book,
Beyond The Flames, the Justice Computer does not ask any questions. The Prosecutor's Office submits evidence that a crime was committed and that the accused committed the crime. The Defender's Office submits evidence that the defendant did not commit the crime or that no crime was committed.
The computer evaluates the evidence:
1) was a crime committed (Yes/No)?
2) did the Defendant commit that crime (Yes/No)?
Everything else is emotional minutiae that is irrelevant. If you killed someone, it doesn't matter if you meant to, if it was a crime of passion or if it was pre-meditated or not, etc. etc.
Those are lawyer tricks that do not serve justice. Murder is a crime. Period. So the question would be, was it "murder"?
The entire penal system had to be revamped to allow the Justice Computer to operate. Killing someone in self-defense is not a crime, so the Defense could submit evidence of self-defense even though the Defendant did kill someone. Of course, the Prosecutor's Office would submit evidence that it was not self-defense.
The Justice Computer was not invented overnight. It evolved over hundreds of years and operated on a galactic scale.
(I should get back to finishing that book. ;D )
https://www.susans.org/index.php/topic,248674.msg2278324.html#msg2278324
Quote from: Lori Dee on February 24, 2025, 09:56:58 AMEverything else is emotional minutiae that is irrelevant. If you killed someone, it doesn't matter if you meant to, if it was a crime of passion or if it was pre-meditated or not, etc. etc.
I am sorry Lori, but I disagree. There are many times when a person kills someone i.e. a homicide. Which is the illegal taking of a human life is not a murder.
Examples:
When you pull into traffic and cause an accident where a person loses their life. You still killed a person which is not murder.
You built or installed something that breaks and someone dies. You still killed someone due to your negligence, but it would not be murder. Maybe in volunteer manslaughter.
In my opinion, there are too many variables for an AI to decide. It takes human emotion and intuition to decide the difference between murder and manslaughter.
Ellen
That is why I said the penal code had to be rewritten to clarify the definitions of the various crimes. As you pointed out, manslaughter is not murder, but it is still a crime. Negligent homicide is not murder but is still a crime. These are not the emotional things I mean. These are just definitions.
Bringing up someone's past, whether it is a history of violence or coming from an abusive home is not relevant to the basic question, did they commit the crime? Sometimes good people do bad things. The Justice Computer is not concerned with why they did it, only if they did it.
The emotional pleadings come into play during sentencing, not when determining guilt or innocence.
This Justice Computer does have merit, regardless of whether Ronald was guilty. Actual innocence or guilt is not usually what courts are about.
Most people think that the phrase "justice must be seen to be done" means that "justice must be done and it must be seen to be done" but that is not true. It means just what it says on the tin. It must be seen to be done but it does not necessarily have to be done.
For example, in English law, to overturn a court's decision, it is not enough to prove that the court got the facts wrong. The original court is the sole judge of the facts and if they get them wrong, that's just unfortunate. Until fairly recently, it was not even enough to prove that the court drew an illogical conclusion from the facts. Apart from the new argument of illogicality, the only chance an appellant has is for his or her lawyer to convince an appeal court that the correct rules were not followed in the gathering, disclosure or presentation of evidence.
Based mainly on an episode of Perry Mason that I watched, I think that American appellants face a similar problem. Sitting as an appeal court judge, Perry rejected an appeal. He then went on to help to prove the person's innocence, explaining that as an appeal court judge, he had not been interested in the appellant's innocence, only in whether she had had a fair trial, which in US law she had.
Laws and evidence are so complicated that a computer is probably the only way to get a fair decision based even on the facts that are presented. I remember the O J Simpson trial in which the jury was bombarded with a huge amount of damning but, to a layperson, baffling scientific evidence, including but not limited to an expert claim that in a population the size of Los Angeles', only one person was likely to have DNA consistent with what was found on the physical evidence and Simpson's DNA was consistent. The defence had no answer to most of the evidence but found an expert who claimed that about ten people in a population the size of LA's could have consistent DNA. In the end, though, the jury was swayed by the fact that Simpson appeared to have difficulty in putting on the gloves that the murderer was alleged to have worn. The forensics experts must have wept.
Quote from: MaryT on February 24, 2025, 05:13:57 PM...
For example, in English law, to overturn a court's decision, it is not enough to prove that the court got the facts wrong. The original court is the sole judge of the facts and if they get them wrong, that's just unfortunate. Until fairly recently, it was not even enough to prove that the court drew an illogical conclusion from the facts. Apart from the new argument of illogicality, the only chance an appellant has is for his or her lawyer to convince an appeal court that the correct rules were not followed in the gathering, disclosure or presentation of evidence.
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Fresh evidence is also grounds for an appeal, as it was not presented at the original trial.
It is important that we have a justice system and not simply a legal system.
There are some oddball laws, which can be changed with new legislation.
One hopes that ALL laws are fair and just. It is hard to disagree with that statement unless one is not of sound mind or are evil or is possibly a fool.
Chrissy
Quote from: MaryT on February 24, 2025, 05:56:47 PMFresh evidence is also grounds for an appeal, as it was not presented at the original trial.
It is good that DNA evidence can help solve criminal cases, including the old ones.
Answering questions "Yes" or No" is a tactic used to derail truth. There is always more. Current state AI or computers can't go beyond the yes or no. Our jury system is flawed, but it is better than the alternative. No one wins.
Quote from: D'Amalie on February 25, 2025, 02:21:09 PMAnswering questions "Yes" or No" is a tactic used to derail truth. There is always more.
I think just the opposite. "Yes/No" questions strike at the heart of the facts and reveal either a true answer or a false answer.
"Did you leave your home today?" is straightforward.
Why you did or did not is not relevant to the question. It is the "more" that attempts to confuse the facts.
"Yes, I did, but it was an emergency and I had no choice." attempts to mitigate the facts.
The answer is still "Yes, I did." Or "No, I did not." The attempt here is to merely establish the facts. From there, a determination is made whether the facts fit the definition of the crime. Either it does, or it does not.
Just to be clear, I am not endorsing AI to take over our Justice System. I am merely explaining how it works in the story,
Beyond the Flames.
Did you bonk this person on head? Answer yes or no. The person answers yes.
Okay, it is admitted that this guy was bonked on his head.
If no one else asks why you bonked the guy on the head, it may not be revealed that he broke into your house and you were fearful of your life, or that he was beating someone else to rob and you came to give aid.
The difference would be if you would be charged for battery or not charged because of you protecting yourself or by being a Good Samaritan to help the person that was being beaten and robbed.
Yes or No questions by themselves is not always the best way to go.
Chrissy
As I said before, self-defense is not a crime. So if the facts show that it was self-defense, then no crime was committed. By self-defense, I mean defense of self, property, or family. In South Dakota, we call it the Stand Your Ground law.
Quote from: D'Amalie on February 25, 2025, 02:21:09 PMAnswering questions "Yes" or No" is a tactic used to derail truth. There is always more. Current state AI or computers can't go beyond the yes or no. Our jury system is flawed, but it is better than the alternative. No one wins.
In court, demanding "yes or no" answers to complex questions is indeed a tactic to derail the truth. A competent judge will not be satisfied with such answers on their own, which is why witnesses must swear to tell the WHOLE truth. In such circumstances the judge may ask the lawyer to "divide the question" even if the opposing lawyer has not had the sense to object. If the judge allows a "yes or no" question, the opposing lawyer, IF IT HELPS HIS OR HER CLIENT'S CASE, can cross examine the witness and ask for a full explanation. Sometimes, being human, judges and lawyers are forgetful or incompetent and the witness may not get a chance to explain. That is one of the reasons why a computer, with perfect recall, could become a better judge and jury.
I think that you underestimate AI and computers, even with their current abilities. At root level, computers do indeed proceed with binary, i.e. yes or no decisions. However, by asking vast numbers of such questions at enormous speeds, they are already capable of analysis far beyond coping with yes or no questions from humans. Even Google's search engine does better than that. For years, the best chess computers have sometimes been able to beat grandmasters.
Computers are getting better exponentially, even without the quantum technology that Microsoft recently announced. With quantum computing, a single computer will be equivalent to an infinite number of computers working in harmony.
Quote from: MaryT on February 25, 2025, 08:45:35 PMI think that you underestimate AI and computers, even with their current abilities.
This story is set hundreds of years in the future. The Justice Computer system itself evolved over hundreds of years as well. Who knows what AI and computers will be able to do then. I can only go by what Ronald described to me.
Quote from: Lori Dee on February 25, 2025, 08:38:40 PMAs I said before, self-defense is not a crime. So if the facts show that it was self-defense, then no crime was committed. By self-defense, I mean defense of self, property, or family. In South Dakota, we call it the Stand Your Ground law.
We have different definitions in what that means. In the UK, self-defense can be very much a crime. But we don't have the same gun laws you folks do. It's all massively complicated depending where you are in the world. Our cops don't generally carry firearms. For the most part neither do the criminals. But I know of cases where burglars have successfully sued people who stopped them from burgling, through whatever means.
AI would be in a whole mess of trouble trying to work all this stuff out, because we can't even work it out to any sort of universal standard ourselves.
Quote from: Sephirah on February 27, 2025, 06:31:31 PMAI would be in a whole mess of trouble trying to work all this stuff out, because we can't even work it out to any sort of universal standard ourselves.
Maybe that is why it took hundreds of years to implement and then another hundred or so years for the AI to evolve to a point where it became an efficient system. It doesn't mean justice is served. Just that those who were subject to it accepted its authority.
Quote from: Lori Dee on February 27, 2025, 09:56:35 PMMaybe that is why it took hundreds of years to implement and then another hundred or so years for the AI to evolve to a point where it became an efficient system. It doesn't mean justice is served. Just that those who were subject to it accepted its authority.
Maybe. I kind of think that justice, like beauty, is in the eye of the beholder. That's why we have juries, over AI. Efficient doesn't always equal best.
Quote from: Sephirah on February 27, 2025, 10:19:34 PMMaybe. I kind of think that justice, like beauty, is in the eye of the beholder. That's why we have juries, over AI. Efficient doesn't always equal best.
I think that juries might be on the way out. In any case, in England, you can only have a jury trial if the alleged offence is serious enough to be tried in a Crown Court. For some intermediate offences, the defendant can choose to be tried without a jury by a magistrate or with a jury by a judge. If a jury finds the defendant guilty, the sentence may be more severe than a magistrate might have imposed. Even in a Crown Court, a judge can now dispense with a jury if he thinks that they will be nobbled.
Before 1967, a unanimous verdict was required to convict someone in the UK but now it is only asked for. Juries start at 12 in number but may drop to 9 if some are sick, nobbled or have been removed by a judge or on a stretcher. If the trial ends with 11 or 12, only 10 have to agree. If only 9 or 10 have survived, only 9 have to agree.
I would prefer a jury if I thought that my barrister had the skill to make the jury feel rotten about convicting me even if I were guilty and the prosecution weren't expected to wax lyrical about my general wickedness. Oh for the good old days when you only had to nobble one juror.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YUNwgpEDV8A
Thank you for writing your story, it is completely engrossing. It's not often I read something so thoroughly.
When I got to the end of the story I thought to myself "there are so many similarities" quickly followed by "actually, no, completely different". I was going to explain that here, but I think I need to think that through a lot more. And, I won't hijack this wonderful thread with my deliberations. Just thanks again.
That is quite alright. We all have similar emotions that we go through. Our life situations differ, but our experiences are similar. Then, of course, how we navigate those emotions within our life situations is always unique to us. All we can do is share and then see if there is a small grain that we can take away and apply it in our own lives.
I hope you found something helpful.
Lori,
It is nice that you had a fabulous dinner out at a Chinese restaurant!
Wishing you a very nice week ahead.
Chrissy
Thanks, Chrissy. You too.
Tomorrow starts an "adventure". I will be starting a topical chemotherapy treatment. I have received the meds from the VA to treat skin cancers and pre-cancers on my face. Decades of being outdoors have resulted in extensive skin damage due to frostbite and UV radiation. So far, I have had five Mohs surgeries to remove lesions from my face and neck. I have also had one on my forearm and one on my back removed. Seven total. Fortunately, they were all Basal Cell Carcinomas, which do not metastasize like other skin cancers.
I have many Actinic Keratoses (AKs), which are not cancerous but are pre-cancerous. My dermatologist has been treating them with liquid nitrogen, which normally works very well. At my last skin check, she froze one on my arm and one on my shoulder. She said the areas on my face were large enough that she preferred we try something else.
That something is a fluorouracil cream, which destroys pre-cancerous and cancerous skin cells. I have had this done at the dermatology clinic as a part of a "Blue Light Therapy". The cream is spread all over the skin and allowed to soak in. Cancers and pre-cancers rapidly absorb more of the chemicals than normal healthy skin. The blue light then activates the chemicals, which causes the cells to burn up from the inside out. It was 18 minutes of feeling like my face was set on fire. Not even joking. :icon_yikes: Not fun, but it did a good job, and I had clearer skin when it healed.
This treatment is different in that it will not use the blue light to trigger the reaction. This formulation doesn't need it. Instead, it works over time (up to several weeks). By adding a second cream, a vitamin D analog, the cream works much more quickly, so I don't need to use it as long. In this case, I will be applying both creams twice a day for four to five days. Then it will take four to five weeks for the dead skin to slough off, leaving clear new skin behind. In the meantime, my face will be red, itchy, scaly, and awful looking, not to mention uncomfortable. I must avoid sunlight, wear the usual wide-brim hat, and lots of SPF sunscreen, like titanium oxide, if I need to venture out.
So the treatment may be rough this week and for a while afterward, but I am hoping for a much nicer complexion and fewer AKs and cancer growths in the future. I have plenty of aloe vera to get my skin healed fast, so I'm as ready as I'll get.
Fingers crossed.
Lori,
I will keep my fingers crossed for you too. I hope this treatment takes care of this.
Stay strong.
Chrissy
Quote from: Lori Dee on February 25, 2024, 02:35:59 PMno matter how much you overthink it, it all boils down to honesty. When you deceive others, you are also deceiving yourself. Our entire transition is about being true to ourselves about who we are. Be honest with others too. Let them decide if they will accept it or not.
Some will accept it. Some will accept it and be supportive. Some will have nothing to do with you anymore. Do you need that negativity in your life? Probably not. Surround yourself with loving people who accept you for who you are. Everyone else is basing their decisions on appearances, bigotry, and/or misinformation. Help them understand. But allow them the courtesy to decide if they want to be a part of your life. It is YOUR life after all. Live it!
I love this and think this is true for everyone (eliminating the word "transition" except that even non-"trans" people change). Politically, life in the US is hard and we have to make choices about our relationships. Thank you for sharing all this! Do you mind if I share this?
Quote from: UUtransspouse on March 10, 2025, 03:15:38 PMI love this and think this is true for everyone (eliminating the word "transition" except that even non-"trans" people change). Politically, life in the US is hard and we have to make choices about our relationships. Thank you for sharing all this! Do you mind if I share this?
Feel free. It never hurts to share positive thoughts. :)
Quote from: Lori Dee on March 09, 2025, 10:31:53 PMThanks, Chrissy. You too.
Tomorrow starts an "adventure". I will be starting a topical chemotherapy treatment. I have received the meds from the VA to treat skin cancers and pre-cancers on my face. Decades of being outdoors have resulted in extensive skin damage due to frostbite and UV radiation. So far, I have had five Mohs surgeries to remove lesions from my face and neck. I have also had one on my forearm and one on my back removed. Seven total. Fortunately, they were all Basal Cell Carcinomas, which do not metastasize like other skin cancers.
I have many Actinic Keratoses (AKs), which are not cancerous but are pre-cancerous. My dermatologist has been treating them with liquid nitrogen, which normally works very well. At my last skin check, she froze one on my arm and one on my shoulder. She said the areas on my face were large enough that she preferred we try something else.
That something is a fluorouracil cream, which destroys pre-cancerous and cancerous skin cells. I have had this done at the dermatology clinic as a part of a "Blue Light Therapy". The cream is spread all over the skin and allowed to soak in. Cancers and pre-cancers rapidly absorb more of the chemicals than normal healthy skin. The blue light then activates the chemicals, which causes the cells to burn up from the inside out. It was 18 minutes of feeling like my face was set on fire. Not even joking. :icon_yikes: Not fun, but it did a good job, and I had clearer skin when it healed.
This treatment is different in that it will not use the blue light to trigger the reaction. This formulation doesn't need it. Instead, it works over time (up to several weeks). By adding a second cream, a vitamin D analog, the cream works much more quickly, so I don't need to use it as long. In this case, I will be applying both creams twice a day for four to five days. Then it will take four to five weeks for the dead skin to slough off, leaving clear new skin behind. In the meantime, my face will be red, itchy, scaly, and awful looking, not to mention uncomfortable. I must avoid sunlight, wear the usual wide-brim hat, and lots of SPF sunscreen, like titanium oxide, if I need to venture out.
So the treatment may be rough this week and for a while afterward, but I am hoping for a much nicer complexion and fewer AKs and cancer growths in the future. I have plenty of aloe vera to get my skin healed fast, so I'm as ready as I'll get.
Fingers crossed.
I hope it started well today Lori.
Chrissy
Quote from: ChrissyRyan on March 10, 2025, 07:52:29 PMI hope it started well today Lori.
Chrissy
Thanks, Chrissy.
So far, so good. The first treatment was painless. Just minor irritation, so hopefully, this will be a walk in the park.
I missed that post, hope it works. XX
So far, my skin therapy is working out. My reaction to the creams is quite minimal. I do have some redness and the occasional tingle or itch, but it isn't bothersome. I have to keep reminding myself not to scratch or rub the itch.
I received the VA's final decision letter on my claims evaluation, and I am pleased with it. Not that I am pleased with the diagnoses, but that my issues are now recognized (after 35 years) as service-connected and that the compensation is fair.
I had to research their Compensation Table because, Government Math.
My individual ratings are 50% + 40% + 30% + 10%, which equals an overall disability rating of 80%. ???
The theory is that each disability is considered separately. The rating is a determination of how disabling that condition currently is. Since no one can be more than 100% able-bodied, the separate ratings are combined using a formula to determine the overall disability rating.
The logic behind the formula is that (in my case), the 40% rating is not added to the 50% rating because the 40% rating is being applied to a veteran that is already 50% disabled. So, those two numbers are combined in a formula to reach a number, then the next rating is combined with that number, and so on. The final result is then rounded to the nearest 10%.
Now that that is settled, I have one more loose end before I move out of state this summer. I am still waiting for my birth certificate from Pensylvania. The website states that processing time takes 20 weeks (5 months), and I submitted the change application back in January. My concern is that the state may give in to the federal guidelines that would prevent the application from being processed. Birth certificates and other vital statistics (death, marriage, etc.) are handled at the state level, not the federal. So the state may just process the application as usual, or if they buckle under federal guidelines, they could reject the application for gender change.
My bank account shows that they cashed my check, so I am hopeful that all is well and I will receive my birth certificate by the end of May. Hopefully, sooner.
Good luck, Lori. It's just a small piece of paper, but it means so much. Especially now.
Love always -- Jess
Where do you want to move to, Lori?
You should come to England, lol. If only for a vacation. I would treat you to the best fish and chips we have to offer. Followed by a cream tea. Because stereotypes. :P
Quote from: Sephirah on March 13, 2025, 07:02:46 PMWhere do you want to move to, Lori?
You should come to England, lol. If only for a vacation. I would treat you to the best fish and chips we have to offer. Followed by a cream tea. Because stereotypes. :P
I'd love that.
I really would like to visit Lincolnshire where my ancestors are from. My great-great-great grandfather is buried at Louth.
Right now, the plan is to go back to Colorado. Most of my family lives in Northern Colorado, so I am looking at the southern part of the state. (Plus, the weather is better down there.) The plan is to move in July, so I have stuff to get done between now and then. Little things like go and look at homes in the area.
I will be traveling light. A trick I learned from my dad long ago is to sell or donate your furniture instead of moving it. Then, buy new ones when you get to your new place. You save the cost of hauling the heavy/bulky stuff and can get what you need to fit the new home.
That's the plan anyway. We will see how it goes in a few months. ;D
Quote from: Lori Dee on March 13, 2025, 08:43:00 PMI'd love that.
Me, too. Lincolnshire has among the best British sausages. You have to have a traditional bangers & mash (sausage and mashed potato) with good quality Lincolnshire sausages. It's to die for. It also goes some way to explain your somewhat unorthodox common sense, lol. Ask any northerner in the UK and they don't take no crap. :D I should know.
Quote from: Sephirah on March 13, 2025, 09:14:41 PMMe, too. Lincolnshire has among the best British sausages. You have to have a traditional bangers & mash (sausage and mashed potato) with good quality Lincolnshire sausages. It's to die for. It also goes some way to explain your somewhat unorthodox common sense, lol. Ask any northerner in the UK and they don't take no crap. :D I should know.
My surname is a very common Yorkshire name. I was convinced that we were native to that part, specifically West Yorkshire. I was rather confused when I couldn't trace my family tree back any further, then I found a census record that showed his birthplace as Marsh Chapel. He moved to Leeds for work, married and had kids there. Then when work dried up, moved back to Louth. After his death, the widow and kids moved back to Leeds where she was from.
I suspect that somewhere back in the deep, dark past, we were from West Yorkshire, then moved to Lincolnshire for some reason. But the only way to research this further would be to travel to Louth and review the Parish Registers for birth, marriage, and death records. Those could give a clue.
Until then, I am stuck.
Sausage and potatoes sound pretty good right now. ;D
Quote from: Lori Dee on March 13, 2025, 08:43:00 PM]Right now, the plan is to go back to Colorado. Most of my family lives in Northern Colorado, so I am looking at the southern part of the state. (Plus, the weather is better down there.) The plan is to move in July, so I have stuff to get done between now and then. Little things like go and look at homes in the area.
I will be traveling light. A trick I learned from my dad long ago is to sell or donate your furniture instead of moving it. Then, buy new ones when you get to your new place. You save the cost of hauling the heavy/bulky stuff and can get what you need to fit the new home.
That's the plan anyway. We will see how it goes in a few months. ;D
That's where the rocky mountains are? I can see why you would be at home there. The images I quickly googled, it'd a breathtakingly beautiful place. Like most of your country, to be honest.
Hi Everyone Quote from: Sephirah on March 13, 2025, 09:14:41 PMMe, too. Lincolnshire has among the best British sausages. You have to have a traditional bangers & mash (sausage and mashed potato) with good quality Lincolnshire sausages. It's to die for. It also goes some way to explain your somewhat unorthodox common sense, lol. Ask any northerner in the UK and they don't take no crap. :D I should know.
Only if it's smothered with Holbrook's Worcestershire Sauce ;D ::) :D
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Quote from: Lori Dee on March 13, 2025, 09:23:24 PMMy surname is a very common Yorkshire name. I was convinced that we were native to that part, specifically West Yorkshire. I was rather confused when I couldn't trace my family tree back any further, then I found a census record that showed his birthplace as Marsh Chapel. He moved to Leeds for work, married and had kids there. Then when work dried up, moved back to Louth. After his death, the widow and kids moved back to Leeds where she was from.
I suspect that somewhere back in the deep, dark past, we were from West Yorkshire, then moved to Lincolnshire for some reason. But the only way to research this further would be to travel to Louth and review the Parish Registers for birth, marriage, and death records. Those could give a clue.
Until then, I am stuck.
Sausage and potatoes sound pretty good right now. ;D
I am a South Yorkshire lass. But my family mostly hail from Derbyshire, a little bit further south. I have a lot of friends from West Yorkshire, though. Leeds especially. It's kind of the Yorkshire Metropolis. That explains a lot! ;D
That is quite exceedingly cool, Lori. I always knew you were a kindred spirit! <3
Quote from: Sarah B on March 13, 2025, 09:25:04 PMHi Everyone
Only if it's smothered with Holbrook's Worcestershire Sauce ;D ::) :D
Best Wishes Always
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@Sephirah @Lori Dee
No. No no no no NO! Sorry but no. Being from Sheffield... Worcester sauce is heresy. It has to be Henderson's Relish.
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They don't sell it outside of Sheffield, other than on Amazon at like 5x the price. But it makes Worcestershire sauce look utterly amateur. There's some kind of law that says they can't sell it even anywhere else in the UK.
Once you have this, you will never go back. Trust me.
Quote from: Sephirah on March 13, 2025, 09:24:11 PMThat's where the rocky mountains are? I can see why you would be at home there. The images I quickly googled, it'd a breathtakingly beautiful place. Like most of your country, to be honest.
I went to high school there. I fell in love with the Rockies back then. I used to have pictures from hiking trips to some of the highest peaks. When I left Illinois, I wanted to go to Colorado but the cost of living in the northern part of the state is crazy high. Once they legalized marijuana, the prices kept going up. South Dakota had the mountains, and the cost of living was decent. Now that South Dakota has followed suit, the same thing is happening here. Housing prices are through the roof.
The difference is that South Dakota is a dangerous Red state for LGBTQ, and central/southern Colorado is Blue and supportive. The state has a strong Democrat base in and around Denver. The Western Slope of the Rockies and the northern part of the state are the exact opposite. They even have an area nicknamed "Trump Valley" because of all the Trump signs everywhere.
Quote from: Lori Dee on March 13, 2025, 09:32:03 PMI went to high school there. I fell in love with the Rockies back then. I used to have pictures from hiking trips to some of the highest peaks. When I left Illinois, I wanted to go to Colorado but the cost of living in the northern part of the state is crazy high. Once they legalized marijuana, the prices kept going up. South Dakota had the mountains, and the cost of living was decent. Now that South Dakota has followed suit, the same thing is happening here. Housing prices are through the roof.
The difference is that South Dakota is a dangerous Red state for LGBTQ, and central/southern Colorado is Blue and supportive. The state has a strong Democrat base in and around Denver. The Western Slope of the Rockies and the northern part of the state are the exact opposite. They even have an area nicknamed "Trump Valley" because of all the Trump signs everywhere.
I will be honest... as a Brit... how the cost of living anywhere in the US can be high is a bit bewildering. Your houses are as big as some of our villages. The place is just so vast. Most of your country has no one living there. A bit like Australia. As a Brit... that literally breaks my brain, lol.
Quote from: Sephirah on March 13, 2025, 09:41:23 PMI will be honest... as a Brit... how the cost of living anywhere in the US can be high is a bit bewildering. Your houses are as big as some of our villages. The place is just so vast. Most of your country has no one living there. A bit like Australia. As a Brit... that literally breaks my brain, lol.
We aren't as big as Australia, but the places here where no one lives, there is a reason they don't. I grew up not too far from Death Valley. You can buy a chunk of land there cheap. But the weather is brutal, and not many people have the fortitude to endure it. Usually, places like that have no industry or businesses, so there are no jobs and, thus, no customers either.
I went to grade school in Hinkley, California. It was a nice community then. But Erin Brockovich exposed the local power company's pollution of the ground water. People got sick and died, most moved away. The place is a ghost town now. The school is abandoned, most homes were demolished, and they even shut down the Post Office. It's really freaky.
Quote from: Lori Dee on March 13, 2025, 09:53:53 PMWe aren't as big as Australia, but the places here where no one lives, there is a reason they don't. I grew up not too far from Death Valley. You can buy a chunk of land there cheap. But the weather is brutal, and not many people have the fortitude to endure it. Usually, places like that have no industry or businesses, so there are no jobs and, thus, no customers either.
I went to grade school in Hinkley, California. It was a nice community then. But Erin Brockovich exposed the local power company's pollution of the ground water. People got sick and died, most moved away. The place is a ghost town now. The school is abandoned, most homes were demolished, and they even shut down the Post Office. It's really freaky.
I think I read something about that. It is not a whole lot different to the foods you eat over there. They dump carcinogenic dyes in them because it's just cheaper and you have to pay for your own healthcare. You folks are literally the guinea pigs for all the crap that gets invented in the world. If you had socialised healthcare, 99% of these companies wouldn't be able to get away with the stuff they do, because it would just be too big a burden on the government.
Viking blood line then! Proper Worcester sauce from Worcester for me not that I have seen any other.
Quote from: Lori Dee on March 13, 2025, 09:53:53 PMWe aren't as big as Australia, but the places here where no one lives, there is a reason they don't. ....
According to aboutaustralia.com,
"The land area of Australia is 2.989 million square miles compared to the land area of the US at 3.797 million square miles"
so your country is bigger than you think. Last time I checked, the huge state of Wyoming still had less than a million residents.
Americans seem to be appreciating nature now more than the pioneers did. To them, I suppose it was understandable to regard wilderness and its denizens as dangers and obstacles. The British were even more ruthless, wiping out all of the wolves, bears, lynxes, reindeer, beavers and wild boars, although the latter three have been reintroduced to small areas (the boars illegally by animal rights protesters). Even the British ancient forests are nearly all gone, except, ironically, in the steel producing city of Sheffield.
Many Americans still like to hunt, of course and I approve. British activists don't understand that in populated areas, wild animals are replaced by domestic stock if they are not exploited. They produce varied and delicious meat and hides, not just trophies. Only hunter-killers need really large amounts of wilderness to be conserved. Camera hunters find all they need in national parks. A hundred moose hunters need a hundred mooses but a hundred cameramen can all photograph the same moose.
However, I gather that in the USA, wildlife once rare is becaming more common and widespread. In the 1960s, there was no permanent wolf population in the USA but now they are common in a number of northern states. In New Jersey, black bears had been extirpated but now the state has the densest population of bears in the USA. Moose have returned to Massachusetts and Connecticut and beavers are now found in every state except Hawaii. Even mountain lions are turning up in surprising places.
I do understand Sephirah's envy and surprise but I see your point that to earn money, you need customers and therefore people.
Conservationists have indeed been working to restore many endangered species. Many were saved in zoos or wildlife refuges until their numbers increased enough to sustain themselves in the wild. Here in South Dakota and Wyoming, the bison was hunted almost to extinction for its meat, hides, and horns.
What we have learned is that hunting is necessary to cull overpopulated species. Very often, a species will reproduce faster than their food supply, or weather conditions (like drought) can have a huge impact on it. When they are not healthy, disease can spread quickly and wipe out large numbers. So regulated hunting is helpful.
This can also affect domestic livestock. When we lived in the desert, a bobcat (lynx family) killed all of our chickens and ducks. My dad killed the bobcat and found out from the local Sheriff that due to an exceptionally dry season, there wasn't as much vegetation growing. In the desert, that is a problem. This resulted in the local jackrabbit population being smaller, so the bobcats were venturing in closer to ranches in search of food. This became a problem, and the Department of Fish & Game issued a bounty on bobcats.
We then had a wet season, the desert bloomed, as did the jackrabbit population, and the bobcats stayed away from human areas. Once the bobcat population was determined to be within tolerance, the bounty was lifted.
Quote from: MaryT on March 14, 2025, 05:29:48 PMAccording to aboutaustralia.com,
"The land area of Australia is 2.989 million square miles compared to the land area of the US at 3.797 million square miles"
The land area of the UK is 242.5 THOUSAND square kilometers. 94.3 thousand square miles. The size just breaks my brain, lol.
I can kind of understand Oz, though. 90% of the country and wildlife literally is designed to kill anything else that lives there. No wonder most people live around the coastal areas.
Quote from: Sephirah on March 14, 2025, 06:17:26 PMI can kind of understand Oz, though. 90% of the country and wildlife literally is designed to kill anything else that lives there. No wonder most people live around the coastal areas.
There used to be a lot more inland.
But the wildlife got them. ;D
Quote from: Lori Dee on March 14, 2025, 08:31:34 PMThere used to be a lot more inland.
But the wildlife got them. ;D
Throw another unfortunate backpacker on the barbie! ;D
This is going to be a rant, so bear with me. I will be out of town today and I need to post this for posterity and as a warning to others.
Yesterday, the Veterans Administration announced that it is phasing out treatment for gender dysphoria.
https://news.va.gov/press-room/va-to-phase-out-treatment-for-gender-dysphoria/
All of my medical care, except dentistry, is through the VA. It was a VA psychologist who, per DSM 5, diagnosed me with gender dysphoria in 2019. VA physicians, endocrinologists, and gynecologists have been treating me for this condition. These healthcare professionals are members of nationally recognized professional medical associations, such as the American Medical Association and American Psychiatric Association, among others. More than 25 professional medical organizations recognize gender dysphoria and its treatment. Hormone therapy was prescribed following the protocols established by the World Professional Association for Transgender Health and the Clinical Practice Guidelines of the Endocrine Society. This is SCIENCE.
The statement made by the Secretary of Veterans Affairs in the above VA News Release is offensive and discriminatory:
"I mean no disrespect to anyone, but VA should not be focused on helping Veterans attempt to change their sex. The vast majority of Veterans and Americans agree, and that is why this is the right decision," said VA Secretary Doug Collins. "All eligible Veterans – including trans-identified Veterans – will always be welcome at VA and will always receive the benefits and services they've earned under the law. But if Veterans want to attempt to change their sex, they can do so on their own dime."
This is what happens when you have non-medical personnel (a former chaplain) directing a medical healthcare organization. This is what happens when an elected official is allowed to inflict his opinion upon citizens in the form of Executive Orders, and those opinions go unchallenged by non-medical personnel in a form of blind obedience.
I never said I wanted "to attempt to change my sex". I trusted professional medical personnel with their diagnosis and recommended treatment. The results of that treatment have helped me become more healthy, happy, and certain that I was not a victim of malpractice. The decisions made were based on scientific facts, and proven protocols, and administered by licensed medical professionals, not some arbitrary opinion.
I didn't wake up one morning and decide I wanted breasts. I got into therapy to discover why I was having issues. I didn't even want to accept the diagnosis of gender dysphoria at first. But I trusted the VA in its promise to provide the best healthcare.
The news release goes on to state:
VA has not kept consistent and reliable records regarding the total number of Veterans who endured these procedures, the total amount of money spent on them or the total number of employees involved. Veterans Health Administration estimates indicate that less than one tenth of one percent of the 9.1 million Veterans enrolled in VA health care are trans-identified.
This statement is patently false. In 2023, the VA estimated the number of transgender veterans receiving treatment was 134,000 veterans. Treatment is DOCUMENTED in the medical records. Costs have been estimated in the past based on the medications prescribed, which is also DOCUMENTED.
Additionally, VA had been providing letters of support encouraging non-VA providers to perform sex-change surgeries on Veterans. The aforementioned services had been authorized under Veterans Health Administration Directive 1341(4), which has now been rescinded.
Also false. The VA has never "encouraged" any provider "to perform sex-change surgeries on Veterans". VA providers have provided letters of recommendation for gender-affirming surgery when, and only when it was deemed appropriate treatment by these medical professionals.
Any and all savings VA achieves by stopping specific medical treatments for gender dysphoria will be redirected to help severely injured VA beneficiaries — such as paralyzed Veterans and amputees — regain their independence.
This is discrimination by definition. It is taking away a benefit from one class and giving it to another. I fully expect that there will be court challenges filed. I hope there will be a class-action lawsuit that will put these issues to rest. I don't mean an injunction to make it stop. That isn't enough. There needs to be punitive damages so severe that any future attempts like this will be deemed financially untenable.
We will see what happens.
Now, I will be getting away from the computer for the day and taking a mental health vacation. ;D
Lori,
Have a nice day out.
Enjoy the day and try to get rid of frustrations.
Maybe a nice hike will help.
Chrissy
Lori, I am so sorry for the way all those serving and the vets are being treated, especially the transgender!
It is disgusting and a disgrace!
I hope you find a way to deal with and get past this insult.
@MaryT @Sephirah @Lori Dee @Sarah B
FYI: State of Alaska population: 739,000
Alaska has the lowest population density in the United States,
averaging around 1.3 people per square mile.
That is precisely why I like living here.
HUGS, DanielleQuote from: MaryT on March 14, 2025, 05:29:48 PMAccording to aboutaustralia.com,
"The land area of Australia is 2.989 million square miles compared to the land area of the US at 3.797 million square miles"
so your country is bigger than you think. Last time I checked, the huge state of Wyoming still had less than a million residents.
Americans seem to be appreciating nature now more than the pioneers did. To them, I suppose it was understandable to regard wilderness and its denizens as dangers and obstacles. The British were even more ruthless, wiping out all of the wolves, bears, lynxes, reindeer, beavers and wild boars, although the latter three have been reintroduced to small areas (the boars illegally by animal rights protesters). Even the British ancient forests are nearly all gone, except, ironically, in the steel producing city of Sheffield.
Many Americans still like to hunt, of course and I approve. British activists don't understand that in populated areas, wild animals are replaced by domestic stock if they are not exploited. They produce varied and delicious meat and hides, not just trophies. Only hunter-killers need really large amounts of wilderness to be conserved. Camera hunters find all they need in national parks. A hundred moose hunters need a hundred mooses but a hundred cameramen can all photograph the same moose.
However, I gather that in the USA, wildlife once rare is becaming more common and widespread. In the 1960s, there was no permanent wolf population in the USA but now they are common in a number of northern states. In New Jersey, black bears had been extirpated but now the state has the densest population of bears in the USA. Moose have returned to Massachusetts and Connecticut and beavers are now found in every state except Hawaii. Even mountain lions are turning up in surprising places.
I do understand Sephirah's envy and surprise but I see your point that to earn money, you need customers and therefore people.
Lori,
" Any and all savings VA achieves by stopping specific medical treatments for gender dysphoria will be redirected to help severely injured VA beneficiaries — such as paralyzed Veterans and amputees — regain their independence. "
At least the funds will be used to help veterans, some of whom may be transgender.
True it is a reallocation of funds away from transgender services but it is not going to be used for questionable taxpayer financed programs most anyone would wonder why we were involved with overseas or even domestically, as this will still help US veterans.
I can appreciate this strong disappointment though of many vets losing the transgender services.
Hugs,
Chrissy
Quote from: Lori Dee on March 18, 2025, 08:33:48 AMNow, I will be getting away from the computer for the day and taking a mental health vacation. ;D
There's so much going on, and now the VA... I'm sorry for what you're going through. Wishing you a restful and enjoyable day off.
It was good to get away for a day. We had typical weather for this time of year.
According to the calendar, Spring will be here in a few days. It doesn't arrive until a few weeks after Easter in South Dakota.
This was taken at The Lodge in Deadwood. It was pretty, but I am so over it. ;D
(https://i.imgur.com/HIC03rt.jpeg)
Sadly, escapes from reality are only temporary.
Be safe out there.
I'm so in agreement with you, Lori. Spring storms and snow are so last year! <laughter>
We expect spring storms and we need them for snow in the mountains. Climate change has us in an extended drought cycle. If we hope to avoid the calamities of our sister state CA, we need the water. Back in the day, as recently as the 80's, we would get feet upon feet of snow. Frequently up to the ground floor windows here in the valley, up over the roof in the Wasatch, Oquirrh, and the Unita mountains. I just don't care to shovel snow any longer :)
We usually escape to the Oregon coast a few times a year, but this spring we are headed back east to visit a daughter and new grandbaby. I'm SO SO SO looking forward to green foliage, blooming Azaleas, Northern Cardinals, Blue Jays and Mocking Birds! Living in the mountain west can have its perks, but the softer climate of the mid Atlantic and New England...sigh.
One of the contributing factors to moving back to Colorado is the weather. There isn't much difference between here and the northern part of the Front Range (plus that is Trtump country). But southern Colorado is more mild. In fact, Canon City has the most mild climate in the state. It is mostly High Desert, but I grew up near Barstow, so I am at home in the desert.
That, plus the state has anti-discrimination laws that will protect me for a while so that I can financially prepare to leave the country if needed.
I do like southern CO! Didn't know the eastern front and eastward was trumpish. It figures though, just an extension of Kansas. UT is not friendly either, although SLC is more tolerant and that's not saying much. Very Red with the splash of Blue in the city. From Sandy, southward forget about it.
Most of Colorado is Trumpish. I have family in the north. The Western Slope is also Trumpish. Grand Junction even has an area they call "Trump Valley" because of all the Trump signs.
But from Denver south along the I-25 corridor is strong Democrat. Fortunately, that is also where the highest population areas are, so Colorado has been primarily Democrat-run for decades.
The cost of living also gets lower the farther south you go away from Denver toward New Mexico.
My Wife always says her Mom's family ended up in UT from SOCAL because Grandma wanted 4 seasons.
I'm sorry that you and other US transgender veterans are suffering both insult and injury in return for your services to your country.
Ironically, Elon Musk, the brain and money behind the Trump administration, converted to US citizenship in 2002, having previously been a Canadian and before that a South African. I can only speculate about how much he puts American interests above his own.
Musk left South Africa as a draft dodger. I'll take his word that it was because he didn't want to defend apartheid, even though not all draft dodgers are conscientious objectors, especially when the ship that they have been ordered to sail in is sinking and the armed force that they are ordered to join is more likely to kill them than the enemy.
Quote from: Lori Dee on March 19, 2025, 08:24:28 AMThis was taken at The Lodge in Deadwood. It was pretty, but I am so over it.
Great shot! Did you take it with your phone?
Quote from: Lilis on March 19, 2025, 08:34:54 PMGreat shot! Did you take it with your phone?
I did.
We were standing outside the entrance to the restaurant and commenting how pretty it was. Then we looked at each other and both said, "OVER IT!" ;D
Quote from: Lori Dee on March 19, 2025, 09:05:41 PMI did.
We were standing outside the entrance to the restaurant and commenting how pretty it was. Then we looked at each other and both said, "OVER IT!" ;D
It's funny how something can be so beautiful and so easy to get tired of at the same time.
At least you captured the scene before being over it. 😂
Quote from: Lori Dee on March 18, 2025, 08:33:48 AMAny and all savings VA achieves by stopping specific medical treatments for gender dysphoria will be redirected to help severely injured VA beneficiaries — such as paralyzed Veterans and amputees — regain their independence.
I stopped donating to the United Way when I learned that when I specified where I wanted my money to go, it didn't affect United Way's budget. Sure, they gave my donation to the specified agency, but their budget was much larger so they could compensate with the general funds.
The quote above brings that to mind. Sounds good, but probably just placating.
I hope my optimism is contagious. The pendulum is swinging so far so fast, it must swing back to where
QuoteThe vast majority of Veterans and Americans agree
it belongs: essential government services.
@Lori Dee Dear Lori:I am happy that you arrived home safely from your travels...
OH YEAH... Snow and Cold not just in your area but also in the rest of
the USA and Canada.
Where is the SPRING weather?
Today is the FIRST DAY of the SPRING season and the temperature outside
at midnight was minus -5 deg(f) {-21 C} and right now it is minus -2 deg (f)
Up here where I live my spring weather really doesn't start until late MAY
or early JUNE but the days are starting to get much longer and the
nights getting shorter day by day.
Today---> Sunrise: 8:02am
. Sunset: 7:48pm
Stay warm today. HUGS, DanielleQuote from: Lori Dee on March 19, 2025, 08:24:28 AMAccording to the calendar, Spring will be here in a few days. It doesn't arrive until a few weeks after Easter in South Dakota.
This was taken at The Lodge in Deadwood. It was pretty, but I am so over it. ;D
(https://i.imgur.com/HIC03rt.jpeg)
Sadly, escapes from reality are only temporary.
Be safe out there.
Quote from: Northern Star Girl on March 20, 2025, 10:57:17 AMWhere is the SPRING weather?
Today is the FIRST DAY of the SPRING season and the temperature outside
at midnight was minus -5 deg(f) {-21 C} and right now it is minus -2 deg (f)
Today we started off sunny and 20F. Now it's clouding up again.
There have been years when I was able to start mining the creek by mid-March, and others when the creek stayed frozen until early June. This year has been mild overall. Not much snow and only the occasional week-long sub-zero temps.
It will warm up.
Chrissy
About an hour ago, I received a Wildfire Emergency Evacuation alert. Big bold letters said LEAVE NOW. We are under a Wind Advisory today and tomorrow, so something got out of control.
I switched on the local TV news and apparently, the NCAA Tournament is more important. The alert specified homes are being evacuated in the area of Granite Point Court and Metz Road. Google tells me that is not in Rapid City, but up at Keystone, SD.
They have shut down Rockerville Road and set up an emergency shelter at the Keystone Community Center. Presently, the fire is about 10 - 15 acres. But with the high winds and low moisture, it is moving quickly.
I AM IN NO DANGER.
I will be contacting people in that area to see if they need help evacuating their homes. There is rain in the area that may help stall the fire, but the Forest Service does not believe it will help. This is still developing, so I will post an update when I know more.
Be safe, Lori.
The fires in your country are honestly heartbreaking. I gave to the LA fires because damn, the normal people there who lost everything was crushing. I hate that this is a thing. Sarah B will know this also because Oz has big wildfires sometimes. Their trees literally explode like bombs. And the winds which drive these fires is just crazy.
Be safe okay? Get to safety if there's even a doubt.
A singed Lori is better than no Lori at all. <3
I am back home now, safe and sound.
The evacuation orders have been lifted and people are returning to their homes. We have some fantastic firefighters that work quickly to protect people and property.
The fire is still not contained and is estimated at 37 acres. The wind has calmed down but the Wind Advisory now runs through Monday, so our firefighters will be busy.
Here is the local news story:
https://www.kotatv.com/2025/03/22/powerful-fast-moving-wildfire-threatening-homes-east-keystone/
Firefighters are heroes regardless. Putting their lives on the line to keep people safe. They are actual heroes in this world. Selfless and brave. Massive shout out to everyone who makes that their calling in life.
I won't post the video because I know folks here like Emma, it is still very raw... but if you ever get to see the 9/11 video by the French film makers, the Naudet brothers... that shows true heroism. These men and women are a cut above. Whatever chaos is happening in the US right now... you have some of the bravest people on the planet.
I was still recovering from neck surgery when it happened. All I did all day was watch TV and pop Vicodins like I was eating Skittles.
That morning, when CNN started broadcasting coverage of the attack, I grabbed a VHS tape and started recording. I had about eight hours of recorded live broadcasts over several days. About a year later, when all the conspiracy theories started flying all over the internet, I was able to debunk some of them just from my recordings. It was clear that the "theorists" had manipulated the video to suit their story.
I don't have the tape any longer. Many things got lost over the years.
I never really got on board with all the tin foil hattery. You'll get that with everything.
I just know that the hundreds of brave people who streamed into the towers that day were heroes. Doing it because it was their job. Because it was their calling. And you can't ever think anything of those people other than that they were heroes.
The reason I mention this is because I've seen a lot of stuff with the Black Saturday wildfires in Australia... and the volunteer fire service there were just as heroic. Saving moms and kids by huddling down in a lake as fire raged all around... some people are just special. In what they do and what they do for other people. And those kind of people have my undying respect.
I totally agree. And they don't do it for money. They have a real concern for the safety of others. Who else is crazy enough to run INTO a burning building?
We also have the Hotshots. These firefighters drop into remote areas by parachute where there are no roads. Totally isolated and often surrounded by fire. Their skill and training keeps them alive and they fight their way out. That takes a special kind of bravery.
Yeah that's another level. I would need to wear an adult... uhm... diaper?
That's like the Chuck Norris of firefighting, lol. ;D
Quote from: Sephirah on March 22, 2025, 11:37:47 PMThat's like the Chuck Norris of firefighting, lol.
:laugh: ;D :laugh:
Lori, I am so glad that you are OK!!! Watching the speed at which these fires spread is frightening!
Firefighters rush in when every fiber of our bodies is saying to flee. It takes a very special person.
They are all heroes!
South Dakota has joined the other states that promote bigotry by passing three new laws that were signed by the Governor.
Governor Rhoden signed HB1259 which has to do with keeping genders separated in schools while in bathrooms, changing rooms, or sleeping quarters. SD has already banned transgender women from women's sports, thanks to previous Governor Kristi Noem. Rhoden assumed to position of Governor when Noem was appointed to the position of Director of Homeland Security.
What people are missing is that these state legislatures are writing laws "to comply with the President's Executive Orders". No one was elected to a state legislature to serve the federal government. They serve the people that elected them. No one asked them to do this, they just did it.
When a state passes a law based on a lie, it still becomes law. It doesn't matter if the Executive Order is barred or rescinded because it was shown to be a lie. Staes are quick to pass laws "in compliance with federal law" but if federal law changes, the states are slow to repeal the laws they just passed. So, even though a lie in the form of an Executive Order has a shelf-life of four years or less, the state laws will continue their damage long after.
So far, every state in the U.S. has introduced a law that attacks the rights of transgender people. Out of 806 bills, 722 are still active, 41 have passed, and 43 have failed.
You can see what your state is up to at:
https://translegislation.com/
Lori,
Despite all the bad news, try to have a good week Lori.
You are nice and a delight to be here to share with all of us.
Chrissy
Wow. Had a phone conversation with my dad last night. He is a leading member of the "Trump was sent by God" cult.
We were discussing how his Executive Orders and memos to the Veterans Administration have resulted in the VA discontinuing treatment for gender dysphoria. I told him that because I was diagnosed back in 2019 and have been in treatment since then, my treatment will continue. Others are not so lucky.
He said I shouldn't concern myself with things that may or may not affect others. He said I could drive myself crazy trying to worry about every scenario affecting everyone else. I should just focus on the things that directly affect my own health and safety.
My response was, "What about right and wrong?"
He said I am not able to correct every wrong against other people. For my own mental health, I should ignore what is happening to others and just focus on my own health and safety.
The logic makes sense, except if everyone ignores what ELECTED government officials are doing, and allow them to do whatever they want without any accountability, you end up with a dictatorship where everything affects your health and safety.
Rule 1 of the "Trump was sent by God" cult:
Put your head in the sand and never question any actions or statements made by His Holy Orangeness.
These are the people that elected him. This is the world we live in. :icon_no:
May they all live long enough to witness what they have done.
Quote from: Lori Dee on March 24, 2025, 12:17:35 PMHe said I shouldn't concern myself with things that may or may not affect others. He said I could drive myself crazy trying to worry about every scenario affecting everyone else. I should just focus on the things that directly affect my own health and safety.
Lori, this is literally who you are. I mean I have huge respect for your dad because he's your dad, and you're here because of him but... I don't think he fully knows who his daughter is. What she gives of herself precisely to help people with things that affect others outside herself. You probably could, and do drive yourself crazy trying to bear the weight of the world on your shoulders... but that's who you are, and that's what makes you amazing.
I respectfully disagree with your dad, and you shouldn't change a thing about who you are. It makes you precious to the world and so many people in it.
Lori,
I can see his point. I can see your point.
Hmmmm point counterpoint
Quote from: Lori Dee on March 24, 2025, 12:17:35 PMHe said I shouldn't concern myself with things that may or may not affect others. He said I could drive myself crazy trying to worry about every scenario affecting everyone else. I should just focus on the things that directly affect my own health and safety.
My response was, "What about right and wrong?"
He said I am not able to correct every wrong against other people. For my own mental health, I should ignore what is happening to others and just focus on my own health and safety.
When enough people this this way, we all lose. Death by a thousand cuts.
Love always -- Jessica Rose
Quote from: Jessica_Rose on March 26, 2025, 08:19:41 PMWhen enough people this this way, we all lose. Death by a thousand cuts.
Love always -- Jessica Rose
This. So much this. Perfectly stated.
I have an appointment this morning to get the alignment checked on my Jeep. The new struts seem to have settled into place, so the mechanics can tweak the camber and get it set to where it needs to be. This is considered "warranty" work, so there is no charge. It is just finishing up the installation job.
The appointment took a bit longer than I expected. The new struts had settled in but the mechanics couldn't get the camber dialed in exactly. This is not unusual since they installed brand-new parts into structures with almost 100,000 miles on them.
The solution was to replace the camber adjustment bolt with a different one that has "more adjustment points" on it. I gave the go-ahead and $127 later, everything is in perfect order. I even had them do a quick brake inspection while they had it in the shop.
So, it's all good to go.
That is an expensive bolt.
Quote from: ChrissyRyan on March 27, 2025, 05:48:16 PMThat is an expensive bolt.
I haven't looked at the itemized bill yet, but I suspect the breakdown will be similar to:
Camber Adjustment Bolt: $1.00
Labor to replace bolt: $126.00
;D
Quote from: Lori Dee on March 27, 2025, 05:52:05 PMI haven't looked at the itemized bill yet, but I suspect the breakdown will be similar to:
Camber Adjustment Bolt: $1.00
Labor to replace bolt: $126.00
;D
Ugh!
Sounds about right!!!! Bolt will be pricy as its a shaped part not a normal bolt.
The cost, even though painful, is worth it to drive safely. Particularly since you off road Lori!
Quote from: davina61 on March 28, 2025, 06:12:13 AMSounds about right!!!! Bolt will be pricy as its a shaped part not a normal bolt.
I wondered about that. I asked if the problem was that the OEM bolt just didn't have enough threads. That's when he said no, it has more "adjustment points". That made me wonder if it was not a typical bolt, but maybe included a frame or attachment of some kind. That would make it a "part" and not a "fastener".
OE parts can differ from OEM parts.
The same company likely makes both.
OE is original equipment.
OEM is OE manufacturer made parts.
For instance, DENSO parts are made by the same manufacturer as the same OE Toyota part, but may have the Toyota ID number and or logo removed on the OEM part. DENSO may in fact be owned by Toyota!
Both OE and OEM parts differ from the "generic after market parts" which are designed to replace the OE part's functionality but may not meet all the quality and performance specifications as the OE or OEM part.
You have to be careful of pattern parts, I have seen lower wishbones that don't line up and have 1/2 the spot welds of originals.
Thanks, Lori--
Your story made me laugh and brought me to tears. It also gave me a glimpse of myself though, instead of the Army, I joined the Marine Corps. My feminine side was beaten into submission at a young age and rarely dared to reveal herself until about five years ago. They didn't call it GD, they called it compulsive gambling. I have not gambled in almost a year. I stopped shortly after coming out as gender fluid to my friends and family. Thanks, again. Semper fi.
Quote from: Mrs. Oliphant on March 29, 2025, 11:38:59 AMThanks, Lori--
Your story made me laugh and brought me to tears. It also gave me a glimpse of myself though, instead of the Army, I joined the Marine Corps. My feminine side was beaten into submission at a young age and rarely dared to reveal herself until about five years ago. They didn't call it GD, they called it compulsive gambling. I have not gambled in almost a year. I stopped shortly after coming out as gender fluid to my friends and family. Thanks, again. Semper fi.
It always amazes me how small our world is. We all have so many unique experiences within our common stories. I think we all have the same journey, it is just how we handle our specific circumstances to suit our own needs.
Thank you for your service!
You lost me at Jeep, lol. That's not a word UK people know, lol. ;)
My Jeep:
https://imgur.com/hRbUZM8
Quote from: Lori Dee on March 29, 2025, 06:04:18 PMMy Jeep:
https://imgur.com/hRbUZM8
That's a big ol' beast, Lori. Probably extremely practical for hunting the beautiful and precious rocks in the inhospitable parts of the world. The UK doesn't... as a rule... have those kinds of vehicles, though. Mostly because most of the places they're likely to go, the roads aren't wide enough for them.
I'll show you a video and you'll realise why we don't have these kinds of vehicles on the road...
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jlusBCtFsyQ
It isn't as big as it looks.
But I am familiar with the narrow roads in Europe. The ones that got to me in Germany were the narrow cobblestone streets in the cities in the winter. Cobblestones get very slippery when it's icy out.
Here, the Forest Service roads are like the one in the video except they aren't paved. Just dirt, and sometimes rocks.
Fun times. ;D
Quote from: Lori Dee on March 29, 2025, 06:35:15 PMIt isn't as big as it looks.
But I am familiar with the narrow roads in Europe. The ones that got to me in Germany were the narrow cobblestone streets in the cities in the winter. Cobblestones get very slippery when it's icy out.
Here, the Forest Service roads are like the one in the video except they aren't paved. Just dirt, and sometimes rocks.
Fun times. ;D
You're only missing the snorkel on the front, Lori. Like Bill Paxton's truck in "Twister". ;D
Honestly though I love the relationship you folks have with your vehicles over there. They're an extension of yourself. Because your country is so damn big. I've seen reactions from US folks to some of the cities we have here in the UK, and it blows their mind that people actually can, and do, walk from A to B. It's just a matter of scale. A 5 hour drive in the US is like nothing. In the UK it's like one side of the country to the other. You need wheels. It's something kind of both places don't really see how different the mindset is.
I love the white though, Lori. How many times do you have to have that cleaned a month? I would go with dirt beige. Or even black, lol.
The narrow city streets in some European towns can be so quaint. Many have stones in the streets.
Then you see an Amazon delivery truck and the world seems smaller, they seem to be everywhere.
Quote from: ChrissyRyan on March 29, 2025, 07:34:02 PMThe narrow city streets in some European towns can be so quaint. Many have stones in the streets.
Then you see an Amazon delivery truck and the world seems smaller, they seem to be everywhere.
I mean, that's because they were never built for 7 feet wide Chryslers, lol. The streets in a lot of British and EU towns are older than America itself. ;)
Quote from: Sephirah on March 29, 2025, 06:42:05 PMI love the white though, Lori. How many times do you have to have that cleaned a month?
Clean it? LOL
Mother Nature provides plenty of free car washes. It was raining again today and trying to snow. It the summer, when it is dry, the wind blows most of the dust away, so I don't worry about it. It's a Jeep. It's supposed to be dirty. ;D
White is a lot cooler in the summer. I have the back side windows blacked out with insulating panels that I made. That keeps the sun and prying eyes out if I am sleeping in there, or just storing mining gear. From the outside the look like tinted glass. But up close you can't see in them.
The panels are custom fit to each window. They are just a layer of Reflectix sandwiched between two layers of thin foam board. Then the assembly is wrapped in black cloth and hot glued together. It works great.
Quote from: ChrissyRyan on March 29, 2025, 07:34:02 PMThe narrow city streets in some European towns can be so quaint. Many have stones in the streets.
My late father-in-law installed cobblestones in the streets for many years. It really is an art form. The dirt underneath is hard-packed, then each stone is set into place and the cracks are filled with mason's sand. That gives a very durable surface. The sand keeps the proper spacing between stones and locks them into place, but allows water to drain in between the cracks.
A Skoda Yeti in that vid, its almost the Swiss army knife of vehicles if you have the 4x4 version. Rear seats lift out to give a very big load area and it is built rugged. How do I know? well I have one that is the Elegance trim, heated leather seats, 170hp turbo diesel, 6 speed box. I need to get the aircon fixed and parking sensors have packed up and it needs a good wash to remove the green growth from the roof!!
Quote from: Lori Dee on March 29, 2025, 09:23:44 PMClean it? LOL
Mother Nature provides plenty of free car washes. It was raining again today and trying to snow. It the summer, when it is dry, the wind blows most of the dust away, so I don't worry about it. It's a Jeep. It's supposed to be dirty. ;D
White is a lot cooler in the summer. I have the back side windows blacked out with insulating panels that I made. That keeps the sun and prying eyes out if I am sleeping in there, or just storing mining gear. From the outside the look like tinted glass. But up close you can't see in them.
The panels are custom fit to each window. They are just a layer of Reflectix sandwiched between two layers of thin foam board. Then the assembly is wrapped in black cloth and hot glued together. It works great.
Lori,
I was filling up my car at a station yesterday where all the other gas pumps were empty, no cars, it must have been a slow time. So I took some squeegee water and suds and washed all the light lenses or covers. Then I decided to do all the windows. Then I decided to do the hood, top, and trunk lid but I left the suds on the top after rubbing with the squeegee, as I did not want the windows to receive the water from the top.
Crazy but I knew it was going to rain very soon and it did. When I arrived home, the car was clean on the outside and I essentially got a free car wash.
I would not necessary recommend this frugal practice but considering the circumstances were all just right, I went ahead and did it. Who knows when or if I would ever do this again.
If anyone saw me, perhaps they were wondering what that silly woman was doing! But I doubt anyone did, or cared.
Chrissy
ARRRRRGGGGGH! Windows Update:
Downloading 26%
Downloading 68%
Downloading 98%
Downloading 7%
Wait, what?
Downloading 36%
Downloading 68%
Downloading 98%
Downloading 99%
Downloading 100% ...
Five minutes later...
Installing 24%
Installing 36%
Installing 63%
Installing 78%
Installing 96%
Installing 99%
Installing 100% ...
Five minutes later...
Your computer needs to restart to complete the installation.
(Then why did you say Installing 100%?)
Computer restarts...
You're almost there... 36%
You're almost there... 42%
You're almost there... 56%
You're almost there... 78%
You're almost there... 84%
You're almost there... 97%
You're almost there... 98%
You're almost there... 99%
You're almost there... 100%
Five minutes later, I can finally log into my computer.
Now I have five apps that need to be updated.
Twenty minutes later...
You need to restart your computer for the changes to take effect.
Restart the computer. After a looooonnnnnngggg reboot process, I can go back into Windows services and turn off all the crap it turned back on and don't need anymore. Why is Windows Update still running? Stop and Disable. Rinse and repeat for about five other unnecessary services.
Meanwhile, I have spent most of the day just updating my PC.
It's a good thing that computers were designed to save us a lot of time. :icon_no:
Well Lori things could be worse.
It may not have restarted.
Chrissy
Quote from: ChrissyRyan on April 01, 2025, 04:31:19 PMWell Lori things could be worse.
It may not have restarted.
Chrissy
So true. I should be thankful. :)
Lorri,
Perhaps now there is yet another update waiting for you to install, even after completing that installation. It is easy to tell, when clicking the power icon it will give options to update if there is another update available that Windows wants you to install.
All available updates, including the less important updates would be found under settings, Windows Update, check for updates, and you can choose any available ones from the list.
Perhaps you actually had more than one update applied during your prolonged time of frustration waiting for the completion of the install.
Looks like the Windows Blue Screen of Death may be going away.
https://www.pcworld.com/article/2653470/microsoft-kills-iconic-blue-screen-of-death-it-looks-like-this-now.html
Quote from: Lori Dee on April 01, 2025, 04:29:40 PMMeanwhile, I have spent most of the day just updating my PC.
It's a good thing that computers were designed to save us a lot of time. :icon_no:
I just leave 'Get the latest updates as soon as they are available' enabled and set active hours for updates from 3 AM to 5 AM. That way, any interruptions happen while I'm asleep.
Quote from: Lilis on April 01, 2025, 08:05:27 PMI just leave 'Get the latest updates as soon as they are available' enabled and set active hours for updates from 3 AM to 5 AM. That way, any interruptions happen while I'm asleep.
I keep everything related to updates disabled or paused. When I leave them on, for some reason, it thinks it needs to check for updates every couple of hours and my mouse and keyboard freeze up. Then it decides to optimize my drives while I am using them.
I went into Task Scheduler and set everything to do maintenance and updates between midnight and 6 am. Yet, it continues to do things during the day. Some of the tasks, I don't have access to change their time and they are set to repeat every 23 hours or so. That causes it to run one hour early each day, so eventually, it is happening at 3 pm, then 2 pm, etc. It's maddening, so I just disable all of the services it needs to make them run.
Then once a month, The Ultimate Super-Administrator, The Almighty Controller of the Electrical Power (Me) grants permission and turns things back on to let it get the updates, clean and optimize the drives, etc. Then I shut them all off again. ;D
Quote from: Lori Dee on April 01, 2025, 08:45:51 PMThen once a month, The Ultimate Super-Administrator, The Almighty Controller of the Electrical Power (Me) grants permission and turns things back on to let it get the updates, clean and optimize the drives, etc. Then I shut them all off again.
Hahaha, got it! 😂
Well Windows 7 has its merits.
It can take a good 20mins and up to 45mins to load and get my lap top running again but it only down loads if I shut it down first or I click on the down load. Still a PIA when you want to use it quick and it takes a few days before it runs smooth again-----------
It is good to update Windows though for security reasons.
It would be nice if you can save all your preferences and those are always NOT lost or reset with updates. Sometimes Microsoft changes defaults and you have to change it.
I dislike the ads all the popups. Sometimes you just want the desktop without all the bloats.
In that regards, Windows 10 is better than Windows 11.
Plus sometimes they remove software that has been there for years.
I think they want you to store stuff in their cloud because after so much space is used, you have to pay them monthly to store more stuff.
Chrissy
Quote from: Lori Dee on April 01, 2025, 09:09:18 PMI miss DOS 5. ;D
I think in jr. high or high school, some teachers mentioned having insertable disks for updating the computer operating system. It was not always Windows, and not always on DVDs or downloadable. Windows came later but after Apple started using that user interaction style.
Chrissy
There was an "interesting" development. I play video games with mods (modifications). So when Windoze updates, I have to update the game, and then the mods need to be updated.
I got that done and tried to load up a game and it froze with an error message that one of the mods was now broken and I needed to remove it from the game and restart. I went through the error log and found that one of the modders had added a script in their update entitled "aprilfools.py".
It turns out that the script was intended to do some kind of in-game prank (they do every year), but this year the mod broke the game! They quickly fixed the problem and reissued a new download (without the prank) that fixed the game and returned things back to normal.
There is a bar in Brooklyn called The Rage Cage where you can smash old computers in the backyard. Sometimes, that really appeals to me. I have never had any update go smoothly.
Oh, the good old days learning to program Basic on a Radio Shack TRS80 with floppy disks that were what it said on the tin instead of being stiff and square, with the other students all being about seven years younger. And coding COBOL onto forms and getting some poor bugger of an operator to key it in for you. And programming in Fortran and not being allowed to use calls because they slowed the system. And telling the WW2 vet boss that you supposed that when he started, all of the programs were in assembly language and having him reply that when he started assemblers didn't exist.
I wish that I still had my IBM flowchart template. They were to programmers what stethoscopes are to doctors. I think that somebody whipped mine.
I think you forgot to mention punchcards and tabulating machines...
Quote from: Iztaccihuatl on April 02, 2025, 05:08:26 PMI think you forgot to mention punchcards and tabulating machines...
I learned how to use punchcards but I never used them professionally.
Quote from: MaryT on April 02, 2025, 05:11:58 PMI learned how to use punchcards but I never used them professionally.
Same for me. I remember as a kid standing in awe in front of an opened punch card reader and watch as the cards flew through the machine. I was also fascinated by punch card sorting machines. And the panels that looked like phone switchboards where they programmed tabulating machines by plugging in wires.
But I still would be able to program an IBM 370 mainframe in assembly language. I actually still have a couple of assembler source files from old projects at college sitting on my hard drive...
I learned punchcards in high school. Then in college, I took COBOL, FORTRAN, Basic, and Pascal. Studied Systems Analysis & Design, but by that time Windows was a thing and I changed majors from Computer Science to Electronics Technology. Then took a 3-year course in Robotics & Industrial Controls. Got out of the service thinking I was going to work in related fields, but ended up installing security systems. The company I worked for sent me to a number of schools to get certified in computer wiring (CAT 5 & 6, then fiber optic), commercial sound systems (intercoms & telephone, theaters/churches/gymnasiums), fire alarms, and nurse call systems.
But I still remember my old Atari 800 with a whopping 48K of RAM. No hard drive, no modem, and no printer. Eventually, I got a tape drive and a 300-baud modem. :laugh:
Have you seen the movie, "The Imitation Game"? About Alan Turing and his Turing Machines. It's a good one.
Quote from: Lori Dee on April 02, 2025, 05:46:03 PM...
Have you seen the movie, "The Imitation Game"? About Alan Turing and his Turing Machines. It's a good one.
It is a good movie. Some of the story is speculation, of course, e.g. that Britain deliberately allowed some targets to be attacked so that the enemy would not learn that their codes had been cracked or even so that America would be more likely to join the war effort. Even if those things had been done, I doubt that Turing would have been involved in the decision.
From what I have gathered, Bletchley Park rarely knew from the first translation of a code what the enemy target was, as that would be a code word in itself. For example, on learning that a major city was going to be attacked in force, Churchill returned to London, presuming it was the most likely target. It turned out to be Coventry but he is still sometimes accused of deliberately not warning Coventry of the attack.
Britain's usual technique for hiding new discoveries from the enemy was to make up other plausible explanations, e.g. when Britain's night fighters significantly increased their kill rate, it was attributed to eating carrots rather than radar. (I once attended a lecture in which we were told, using Odysseus, as an example, "Never tell the truth if a lie will work just as well." Some people live by that although I don't think that it would work for me. Of course, I could be lying.)
I think that Turing's tragic story has overshadowed the achievements of others at Bletchley Park and other sites. I saw a documentary which highlighted an American at Bletchley Park whose insights were as brilliant and important as Turing's but I sadly cannot remember his name. Then there was Tommy Flowers, the Post Office engineer who used his own money to create the computer that Turing emvisaged. I think that Britain only partially recompensed him after quite a long post-war struggle.
Although the algorithms used in Tommy Flowers' creation were modifiable, they were still hardware based. I gather that the first scientist to publish a paper showing that computer programs operating on data could be input as data themselves was the prolific American mathematician Von Neumann. That is the software model that is still used today.
Quote from: Lori Dee on April 01, 2025, 04:29:40 PMARRRRRGGGGGH! Windows Update:
Downloading 26%
Downloading 68%
Downloading 98%
Downloading 7%
Wait, what?
Downloading 36%
Downloading 68%
Downloading 98%
Downloading 99%
Downloading 100% ...
Five minutes later...
Installing 24%
Installing 36%
Installing 63%
Installing 78%
Installing 96%
Installing 99%
Installing 100% ...
Five minutes later...
Your computer needs to restart to complete the installation.
(Then why did you say Installing 100%?)
Computer restarts...
You're almost there... 36%
You're almost there... 42%
You're almost there... 56%
You're almost there... 78%
You're almost there... 84%
You're almost there... 97%
You're almost there... 98%
You're almost there... 99%
You're almost there... 100%
Five minutes later, I can finally log into my computer.
Now I have five apps that need to be updated.
Twenty minutes later...
You need to restart your computer for the changes to take effect.
Restart the computer. After a looooonnnnnngggg reboot process, I can go back into Windows services and turn off all the crap it turned back on and don't need anymore. Why is Windows Update still running? Stop and Disable. Rinse and repeat for about five other unnecessary services.
Meanwhile, I have spent most of the day just updating my PC.
It's a good thing that computers were designed to save us a lot of time. :icon_no:
I legit despise windows update. I haven't used it on my laptop in almost three years now because I refuse to let microsoft put Co-pilot AI onto my laptop. I just keep pausing it every month. I have very good anti-virus and anti-malware software that don't leave nearly as big a fingerprint. So I'm just like "no thank you. See you in 4 weeks!"
Quote from: Sephirah on April 03, 2025, 05:02:35 PMSo I'm just like "no thank you. See you in 4 weeks!"
Me too. The problem is the Update Orchestrator Service will keep trying to check for updates in the background, while I am using it. So I disable it, and after four or five days, it will turn itself back on. There was a way in Windows 10 to permanently disable it in the Registry. That no longer works in Windows 11.
My pet peeve is a machine telling me what I want it to do. No. I am the owner and Admin and I say what you can do. You work for me. Many times I have been so frustrated, I just pull the power cord and laugh maniacally at the silent hunk of metal and plastic. I WIN!
... until I need to log in for something. Ugh.
Quote from: Lori Dee on April 03, 2025, 05:11:11 PMMe too. The problem is the Update Orchestrator Service will keep trying to check for updates in the background, while I am using it. So I disable it, and after four or five days, it will turn itself back on. There was a way in Windows 10 to permanently disable it in the Registry. That no longer works in Windows 11.
My pet peeve is a machine telling me what I want it to do. No. I am the owner and Admin and I say what you can do. You work for me. Many times I have been so frustrated, I just pull the power cord and laugh maniacally at the silent hunk of metal and plastic. I WIN!
... until I need to log in for something. Ugh.
Yeah my PC is old and on windows 10. Sometimes it's like "no, you have critical updates! It's in red, see? We will make you get these updates because didn't you get the complimentary gimp mask with your device?" So sometimes I can't pause that. I am waiting till the end of life when the updates are like "You're on your own, mate!" I had a windows 7 laptop that ran perfectly well without updates for like 10 years.
If you pause it early enough, like 4-5 days before the time limit, windows 11, at least for me, doesn't wake up. I don't have Skynet on my device... yet. ;D They will keep trying, though. They break more than they fix. They have more ham in their fists than Porky Pig.
Quote from: Sephirah on April 03, 2025, 05:20:31 PMIf you pause it early enough, like 4-5 days before the time limit, windows 11, at least for me, doesn't wake up. I don't have Skynet on my device... yet. ;D They will keep trying, though. They break more than they fix. They have more ham in their fists than Porky Pig.
Mine is a desktop PC, so I never turn it off and do not allow it to sleep or hibernate. It has work to do. Do my things on my time and do your maintenance things on your time. Do all that while I am sleeping. Machines don't need sleep.
What really gets me is their "New Features" that no one asked for. One of the services I had to disable was for using a touch screen or stylus. Hello? This is a desktop, not a tablet. My monitor is a 55" 4K UHD TV, because I'm old and I want my fonts 6" high so I don't need my glasses.
They have the technology to scan your machine and tell you everything about each component from serial number to driver version. But they can't tell the difference between a desktop and a laptop? Why install a bunch of unneeded crap and then turn it all on when it can't do anything? Ugh.
Quote from: Lori Dee on April 03, 2025, 05:31:48 PMMine is a desktop PC, so I never turn it off and do not allow it to sleep or hibernate. It has work to do. Do my things on my time and do your maintenance things on your time. Do all that while I am sleeping. Machines don't need sleep.
What really gets me is their "New Features" that no one asked for. One of the services I had to disable was for using a touch screen or stylus. Hello? This is a desktop, not a tablet. My monitor is a 55" 4K UHD TV, because I'm old and I want my fonts 6" high so I don't need my glasses.
They have the technology to scan your machine and tell you everything about each component from serial number to driver version. But they can't tell the difference between a desktop and a laptop? Why install a bunch of unneeded crap and then turn it all on when it can't do anything? Ugh.
Yeah and when they do this... in a new feature build, it takes half a day to download and when you try to update they tell you "This may take a while". They just throw everything at the wall because it might stick for someone. And spend the next six months having to bugfix it because no one wants half the crap they try to foist on people.
Is that healthy though? Like... never turning it off? You must have some beastly cooling, lol. I left my old laptop on for like 2 years and it died. Like totally died. Had to get a new one. I guess desktops are different. Leaving it permanently on would make me extremely nervous, though.
Quote from: Lori Dee on April 03, 2025, 05:31:48 PMMine is a desktop PC, so I never turn it off and do not allow it to sleep or hibernate. It has work to do. Do my things on my time and do your maintenance things on your time. Do all that while I am sleeping. Machines don't need sleep.
What really gets me is their "New Features" that no one asked for. One of the services I had to disable was for using a touch screen or stylus. Hello? This is a desktop, not a tablet. My monitor is a 55" 4K UHD TV, because I'm old and I want my fonts 6" high so I don't need my glasses.
They have the technology to scan your machine and tell you everything about each component from serial number to driver version. But they can't tell the difference between a desktop and a laptop? Why install a bunch of unneeded crap and then turn it all on when it can't do anything? Ugh.
That is a BIG letter size with those HUGE fonts.
I believe this year Microsoft has its 50th anniversary.
At HQ, its Visitors Center is mildly interesting but with fewer exhibits than it could have had. You probably would like it if you are a long time XBOX fan. On the same floor and next to or close to the Visitors Center is a Microsoft store, a coffee shop, and a library.
Almost all the souvenir and clothing stuff for sale in the store is rather premium priced.
But if you are in the Seattle area and have the time you still may wish to visit the Visitors Center if you have some attachment to Microsoft's history and / or products.
It is free, no appointment is needed to visit now, and parking is free. Visitor information can be found online.
Microsoft has had three CEOs. You likely will not meet any of Microsoft's CEOs there; but, there is a picture on the wall with all three in the same picture.
Microsoft is one of the world's three largest public companies in terms of market capitalization. The other two largest public companies are Apple and NVIDIA.
Is it true that Seattle has as much rain a the UK?
Quote from: Sephirah on April 03, 2025, 05:47:12 PMIs that healthy though? Like... never turning it off? You must have some beastly cooling, lol. I left my old laptop on for like 2 years and it died. Like totally died. Had to get a new one. I guess desktops are different. Leaving it permanently on would make me extremely nervous, though.
It actually uses more power booting up than just sitting idle. The plan is to allow it to do all the updates and maintenance while I'm asleep. Then when I pour my morning cup of coffee, it is ready to go so I can get to work. But, no. That's too much to ask for. ;D
I was just watching the movie "U-571" again. Made me think of some submariner lass I know. :laugh:
Quote from: Lori Dee on April 03, 2025, 08:30:20 PM]I was just watching the movie "U-571" again. Made me think of some submariner lass I know. :laugh:
I love you, Lori. That movie is like... It is not even close to what happened. It is like the movie "Churchill: The Hollywood Years:
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Churchill:_The_Hollywood_Years
You made me feel something I haven't felt in a long time, though. Love you, honey. <3
Quote from: Sephirah on April 03, 2025, 08:43:16 PMThat movie is like... It is not even close to what happened.
Yeah, I get it. It is the Hollyweird version.
What I find interesting about every movie with a submarine, when it gets attacked, pipes start bursting and gushing water. There is always a convenient valve right next to the leak to shut it off. Sometimes it is a wheel that needs to be turned by two people at the same time, or they need a large pipe wrench to turn it.
But then, after they shut off all these valves, it does not affect the ship. It continues to function with all of these valves closed when they were open before. So, why did they need them at all? ???
Quote from: Lori Dee on April 03, 2025, 08:47:46 PMYeah, I get it. It is the Hollyweird version.
What I find interesting about every movie with a submarine, when it gets attacked, pipes start bursting and gushing water. There is always a convenient valve right next to the leak to shut it off. Sometimes it is a wheel that needs to be turned by two people at the same time, or they need a large pipe wrench to turn it.
But then, after they shut off all these valves, it does not affect the ship. It continues to function with all of these valves closed when they were open before. So, why did they need them at all? ???
That's 10,000% hollywood hahaha. I can't speak for American boats, but UK subs don't have pipes running over the top of particularly intense captains. ;D You'd be surprised how utterly difficult that stuff is to fix if ever we got hit by a rogue Skarsgård. ;D
Yesterday, it was sunny and warm. I could hear meadowlarks singing.
I made a trip to the U-haul store and picked up twenty boxes. There are places where you can get free boxes, but I have this thing... I want my stuff in a clean new box. I don't want to accidentally haul any critters to my new home.
Last night it snowed. Springtime in the mountains. We got less than an inch and it is already starting to melt, so it isn't too depressing. ;D
Nothing like a fresh, clean, pristine box.
20 boxes seems like a lot of them!
Quote from: ChrissyRyan on April 04, 2025, 02:59:45 PMNothing like a fresh, clean, pristine box.
20 boxes seems like a lot of them!
I hope that is enough. I have a lot of rocks. ;D
If you're into that kind of stuff, Lori, I have a movie recommendation for you.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eyzxu26-Wqk
Quite an awesome movie. :)
Back to computers for a moment. So, it isn't my spells and incantations that keep the darn thing running? As for movies, I'll add them to my watch list. Personally, I think all rocks deserve a clean box. I greatly enjoyed reading this convoluted thread. It was a much-needed break from worrying about whether I was trans enough.
Quote from: Mrs. Oliphant on April 04, 2025, 04:29:05 PMBack to computers for a moment. So, it isn't my spells and incantations that keep the darn thing running? As for movies, I'll add them to my watch list. Personally, I think all rocks deserve a clean box. I greatly enjoyed reading this convoluted thread. It was a much-needed break from worrying about whether I was trans enough.
That's what Susans does best, hon. Tangents are our speciality. ;D
Also... I can answer that for you simply. There's no such thing as trans "enough". If you are, you are. If you're not, you're not. People will try to set bars they want others to pass, because it makes them feel more secure. But that's all it is. It's insecurity and a need for validation.
Just be you. Don't try to validate or explain it, or seek a level of approval for it. Just live true to yourself. It's so much less stress. Trust me. <3
Quote from: Sephirah on April 04, 2025, 04:37:54 PMTrust me
Sephirah, I could not trust you more than I already do. Knowing that is a source of great comfort and strength. I don't need validation or even an explanation. The truth is quite sufficient. And that you never fail to provide. And you do with a wry smile--which I really like.
Quote from: Sephirah on April 04, 2025, 03:42:01 PMIf you're into that kind of stuff, Lori, I have a movie recommendation for you.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eyzxu26-Wqk
Quite an awesome movie. :)
I'll look for it to add to my collection. ;D
Quote from: Mrs. Oliphant on April 04, 2025, 04:29:05 PMBack to computers for a moment. So, it isn't my spells and incantations that keep the darn thing running? As for movies, I'll add them to my watch list. Personally, I think all rocks deserve a clean box. I greatly enjoyed reading this convoluted thread. It was a much-needed break from worrying about whether I was trans enough.
Those who know me, know that I have been a gold miner for over ten years. So way back in the depths of this thread somewhere are lots of pictures of rocks I have collected while prospecting. You can also click on the globe icon in my profile to go to my personal website. There I have articles I have written on gold prospecting, as well as photos of some of my "hauls".
When I get things more organized, I'll have to take a pic of all the rocks I have on display or in tubs, buckets, and bowls.
I might need more boxes. ;D
Quote from: Mrs. Oliphant on April 04, 2025, 04:45:02 PMSephirah, I could not trust you more than I already do. Knowing that is a source of great comfort and strength. I don't need validation or even an explanation. The truth is quite sufficient. And that you never fail to provide. And you do with a wry smile--which I really like.
I know how it is when you're kind of looking at stuff from a place where you're not sure what to think. I did that for a lot of years. When you look to the world around you to tell you you're doing the right thing because the inner voice is fragile... and more like a whisper than a shout. Especially with stuff like this. It's like trying to learn to walk... you look at people running marathons. And wonder if you're even in that league.
You have it in you to be whoever you want to be. To be who you are. And... the funny thing is, most of that comes from you. Not people around you. In a sea of a thousand voices, the only one you have to listen to is your own.
From what I've read from you, honey, I think you already know this. You are just kind of cautious and methodical in how you look at life. Just a gut feeling. :) But once you get something, you get it hard.
You are beautiful, and I don't think you need me to tell you that. <3
Quote from: Lori Dee on April 04, 2025, 04:53:29 PMThose who know me, know that I have been a gold miner for over ten years. So way back in the depths of this thread somewhere are lots of pictures of rocks I have collected while prospecting. You can also click on the globe icon in my profile to go to my personal website. There I have articles I have written on gold prospecting, as well as photos of some of my "hauls".
When I get things more organized, I'll have to take a pic of all the rocks I have on display or in tubs, buckets, and bowls.
I might need more boxes. ;D
Lori is one of those people who shows the rest of us the sheer magical beauty our planet contains. It's not just gold. It's the seemingly magical universe maps contained in rocks people would otherwise ignore. She has an eye for beauty I have never seen before. And shows it to the world so that we might all get to see just how magical our planet is. :)
Quote from: Lori Dee on April 04, 2025, 03:08:27 PMI hope that is enough. I have a lot of rocks. ;D
That is a lot of rocks.
Quote from: ChrissyRyan on April 04, 2025, 05:15:25 PMThat is a lot of rocks.
I'm thinking I should probably pack clothes first before I worry about rocks. ;D
Quote from: Lori Dee on April 04, 2025, 05:16:17 PMI'm thinking I should probably pack clothes first before I worry about rocks. ;D
Pack some clothes, then some rocks. Then some other stuff.
Then some more clothes. Then some rocks.
And so on.
Quote from: Lori Dee on April 04, 2025, 05:16:17 PMI'm thinking I should probably pack clothes first before I worry about rocks. ;D
I mean.. probably not lol. One of my favourite movies is "Dante's Peak". You are the female Pierce Brosnan. Although to be fair you kind of have way more of a Linda Hamilton vibe going on. <3 But she didn't know squat about rocks, geology and seismology so... kind of torn on that, lol.
Quote from: Sephirah on April 04, 2025, 04:54:45 PMYou are beautiful, and I don't think you need me to tell you that
Maybe not. But hearing it felt really, really good. And you're right; I'm adrift in a sea of voices. That being said or, rather, heard, I am so glad you're among the clarion voices amidst the cacophony. On a lighter side, I'm going shopping online with my daughter tomorrow for a dress to wear in my profile picture. I'm thinking a long, flowing summer dress. What color/pattern would you suggest?
Quote from: Mrs. Oliphant on April 04, 2025, 06:53:57 PMMaybe not. But hearing it felt really, really good. And you're right; I'm adrift in a sea of voices. That being said or, rather, heard, I am so glad you're among the clarion voices amidst the cacophony. On a lighter side, I'm going shopping online with my daughter tomorrow for a dress to wear in my profile picture. I'm thinking a long, flowing summer dress. What color/pattern would you suggest?
Honey, I have no idea about fashion. Like seriously it's like asking a bricklayer about ikebana. Whatever speaks to you. Whatever catches your eye and you're like... I really love that. Get it. Then please let me see what you look like. I have an image in my head but I don't think that will do justice to just how gorgeous you are. <3
Quote from: Lori Dee on April 04, 2025, 04:53:29 PMI might need more boxes. ;D
Lori, we have so much in common. I made a rocker that I took on many wonderful adventures and found a galleon full of gold (well, maybe more like a thimble full but I tend to exaggerate). Those were good days.
And I have seen Dante's Peak! But the Turing movie and Tom Hanks are on my must-see list. Speaking of submarines, Run Silent, Run Deep was a classic. But I look forward to checking out the one whose title I can't remember but will review previous posts and add to my list.
Quote from: Mrs. Oliphant on April 04, 2025, 07:07:29 PMAnd I have seen Dante's Peak! But the Turing movie and Tom Hanks are on my must-see list. Speaking of submarines, Run Silent, Run Deep was a classic. But I look forward to checking out the one whose title I can't remember but will review previous posts and add to my list.
Crimson Tide is one of my favourite submarine movies. Super tense. And yes, the movie about Alan Turing "The Imitation Game" with Benedict Cumberbatch is a very very good movie. Kind of like the movie "Oppenheimer". It's not what you think it's going to be.
Added them to my list. Seriously.
Quote from: Mrs. Oliphant on April 04, 2025, 07:16:36 PMAdded them to my list. Seriously.
What kind of stuff are you into, Mrs. Oliphant? You must have some stuff I can check out. :)
I admit I can't help seeing "Oliphant" And thinking Lord of the Rings. The scene with Frodo and Sam.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JEzuLEjIYSc
I love Gollum (and have been favorably compared to him/her in appearance, though I never could discern gender for the character). And the oliphaunts are so cool (thanks for the clip). My favorite movie is 'The Razor's Edge' (Bill Murray and universally panned but I think Mr. Maugham would have approved). 'West Side Story' is next, if one can get past the racial overtones in 'America.' The most recent movie I've watched that grabbed me was 'The Fallout' (Jenna Ortega, who also carried 'Miller's Girl' but that's probably because she's so cute). Just finished 'Adolescence,' which really isn't a movie but left me devastated. Your turn.
Quote from: Sephirah on April 04, 2025, 07:37:06 PMI admit I can't help seeing "Oliphant" And thinking Lord of the Rings.
Hi Sephirah. Please see the above post. I'm still learning how to do this, and I never said I learn fast.
Quote from: Mrs. Oliphant on April 04, 2025, 08:08:23 PMI love Gollum (and have been favorably compared to him/her in appearance, though I never could discern gender for the character). And the oliphaunts are so cool (thanks for the clip). My favorite movie is 'The Razor's Edge' (Bill Murray and universally panned but I think Mr. Maugham would have approved). 'West Side Story' is next, if one can get past the racial overtones in 'America.' The most recent movie I've watched that grabbed me was 'The Fallout' (Jenna Ortega, who also carried 'Miller's Girl' but that's probably because she's so cute). Just finished 'Adolescence,' which really isn't a movie but left me devastated. Your turn.
I absolutely refuse to equate you in any way to Gollum, honey. Smeagle was a guy. One of two brothers. They were an offshoot of the Hobbits, more like riverfolk. He killed his brother after he found the One Ring at the bottom of a river after falling off a boat he and his brother were on. His brother wanted it for himself so Smeagle killed him. It drove him mad and eventually corrupted him into the creature called Gollum, because of the periodic choking noise he made. Like coughing up a furball. And I am way too big of a nerd about this stuff hahahaha.
I think I would like to watch "The Razor's Edge". I have just skimmed the plot of it and it seems very deep. I don't pay attention to what movies people don't like. These days people don't really like anything. I think if something speaks to you it speaks to you. And this seems like something I would like. Bill Murray can do some serious stuff.
I have heard of West Side Story in name. But never seen it.
I have also heard of Adolescence. Apparently it's a huge hit for Netflix but I haven't seen it. I don't watch much TV for the most part. Actually no that's not true. I don't watch TV in a traditional sense. I have shows I like... and kind of binge watch them.
One of my favourites is the Chernobyl miniseries. I am fascinated with that whole thing.
For movies... Hacksaw Ridge is one of my favourites. Kind of makes me cry. The sheer heroism of people. I am morbidly fascinated with end of the world type movies. "The Day After Tomorrow" and "Greenland" come to mind. Greenland especially. It was very well done.
I am also a bit of a horror fan. Particularly Australian horror movies. The Babadook and Wolf Creek are a couple of my go to movies. I think there's something about the sheer vast isolation of Australia which makes Wolf Creek extremely scary.
Very eclectic, I know. But I will kind of watch anything and enjoy it if it's good hahaha. :)
Hacksaw Ridge makes me cry at the end, every time.
I looked for Greyhound, but Vudu/Fandango doesn't have it yet. So I settled for The Black Sea with Jude Law. It has submarines (civilian) AND gold!
If you want scary (as in mindf**k) watch 1408. John Cusack and Samuel L. Jackson.
Or, along the lines of Babadook-type horror, The Grudge. That movie gave me nightmares. ;D
Quote from: Lori Dee on April 04, 2025, 09:20:04 PMHacksaw Ridge makes me cry at the end, every time.
I looked for Greyhound, but Vudu/Fandango doesn't have it yet. So I settled for The Black Sea with Jude Law. It has submarines (civilian) AND gold!
If you want scary (as in mindf**k) watch 1408. John Cusack and Samuel L. Jackson.
Or, along the lines of Babadook-type horror, The Grudge. That movie gave me nightmares. ;D
I have seen "The Ring" and "The Grudge". But I'll be honest, I think the original Japanese versions of both movies, "Ring" and "Ju-On: The Grudge" are better. The American versions are good, but they're less psychological and inferred. More jump scare loaded for a Hollywood audience. Which is its own thing, but very different. Both will do a good job of messing you up, though, lol.
I have never heard of 1408. Gonna have to look into that. ;D
Quote from: Sephirah on April 04, 2025, 09:03:08 PMI absolutely refuse to equate you in any way to Gollum
I loved 'Hacksaw Ridge.' I loved 'The Hobbit.' But relegated the trilogy to the movies (no offense to J.R.R.). And I can finally assign a gender to my doppelganger. But in the end, I keep tossing tidbits into the ether because I enjoy talking to you (with apologies to Lori for tying up her blog). And, the more I think about it, perhaps Truth is not as important as Connection. Today was tumultuous and euphoric. In no small part because of my daughter's acceptance of who I claimed to be. I lied, sometimes validation matters.
I like romance movies.
Another "foreign" film that was better than the American version was Nosferatu the Vampyre. I saw it in Germany with English subtitles. It stars Klaus Kinski as Dracula.
Dracula Untold is a good origin story of how Vlad the Impaler became Dracula the Vampire.
Quote from: Mrs. Oliphant on April 04, 2025, 09:36:16 PMI loved 'Hacksaw Ridge.' I loved 'The Hobbit.' But relegated the trilogy to the movies (no offense to J.R.R.). And I can finally assign a gender to my doppelganger. But in the end, I keep tossing tidbits into the ether because I enjoy talking to you (with apologies to Lori for tying up her blog). And, the more I think about it, perhaps Truth is not as important as Connection. Today was tumultuous and euphoric. In no small part because of my daughter's acceptance of who I claimed to be. I lied, sometimes validation matters.
I enjoy talking with you, too, honey. And... Susans is kind of known for stuff going way off track so don't even worry about it. <3 Lori will be the first to tell you that streams of consciousness are the best streams to go swimming in. ;)
Yes, sometimes validation does matter. Especially from those closest to us. I am extremely happy for you. And... not who you claim to be, sweetie. It's who you are. When someone else accepts that, that's a big deal. Whoever you are, whatever you think. It matters. Because none of us can go through this stuff alone. And the less we have to, the better off we are.
*giant hugs*
Hijacking Lori's blog for one more second, Mrs. Oliphant I agree with Sephirah, you are among friends, and congratulations on your daughters acceptance. It is amazing how important that is, and it must feel great!
Playing with this film theme, the horror film that always scares me: The Exorcist, submarine movies: Das Boot and Hunt for Red October.
Quote from: Emma1017 on April 05, 2025, 06:52:05 AMHunt for Red October
Sean Connery can do no wrong. He does a great job in every role. League of Extraordinary Gentlemen, and of course, he will always be THE James Bond 007. ;D
Quote from: Emma1017 on April 05, 2025, 06:52:05 AMHijacking Lori's blog for one more second, Mrs. Oliphant I agree with Sephirah, you are among friends, and congratulations on your daughters acceptance. It is amazing how important that is, and it must feel great!
Thanks, Emma--and it really does feel great. Though I was a bit volatile if not downright mercurial for a bit as anyone who perused my posts already knows. Since coming out almost years ago I really didn't realize that I no longer had any friends, until I found a few friends here. Thanks again.
There is so much gold in the earth's core that it could cover the entire planet in more than a foot deep of the stuff.
However, getting it to the surface is another matter. . .
Ya wonder how scientists know this to be a fact.
Quote from: ChrissyRyan on April 05, 2025, 12:19:46 PMThere is so much gold in the earth's core that it could cover the entire planet in more than a foot deep of the stuff.
However, getting it to the surface is another matter. . .
Ya wonder how scientists know this to be a fact.
Geological surveys show where gold is known to be and then they estimate.
According to the United States Geological Survey, "about 244,000 metric tons of gold have been discovered to date ... Most of that gold has come from just three countries: China, Australia, and South Africa. The United States ranked fourth in gold production in 2016. All the gold discovered thus far would fit in a cube that is 28 meters wide on every side."
You could fit 90 of those cubes inside one Olympic-sized swimming pool. That is not a lot of gold for an entire planet. Just think of how much more is still out there!
Good morning, Lori. I've spent the past hour trying to upload a placeholder avatar into my profile pending delivery of the beautiful dress my daughter helped me pick out for a more permanent profile pic. If I send the avatar to you via e-mail, would you be so kind as to upload it to my profile? I'm sorry, but the spells and incantations I use to make my laptop behave are no match for my techno-ignorance. Danielle sent me detailed instructions that I did my best to follow to the letter. Maybe it's her fault? No? I didn't think so, either. Sometimes, there's just no one else to blame no matter how much I wish there was.
@Mrs. Oliphant
Be advised that Lori Dee is not online right now...
.... I can take care of your avatar/profile photo for you ... you can
Email it to me at alaskandanielle@yahoo.com I will take care
of that task ASAP.
All of us will be looking forward to seeing your avatar/profile on your profile...
HUGS, DanielleQuote from: Mrs. Oliphant on April 06, 2025, 10:41:16 AMGood morning, Lori. I've spent the past hour trying to upload a placeholder avatar into my profile pending delivery of the beautiful dress my daughter helped me pick out for a more permanent profile pic. If I send the avatar to you via e-mail, would you be so kind as to upload it to my profile? I'm sorry, but the spells and incantations I use to make my laptop behave are no match for my techno-ignorance. Danielle sent me detailed instructions that I did my best to follow to the letter. Maybe it's her fault? No? I didn't think so, either. Sometimes, there's just no one else to blame no matter how much I wish there was.
@Mrs. Oliphant cc: @Lori Dee
Your Avatar/Profile photo is now on your profile.
HUGS, Danielle [Northern Star Girl]
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The problem was that your submitted photo was way to large:
2.6 MB 3264 x 2448 pixels
I reduced the size to 144 KB 400 x 533 pixels
Photo, avatars, and signature policy
https://www.susans.org/index.php/topic,59974.msg383866.html#msg383866
Excessive image width and height
Pictures should be posted in the smallest width and height possible to clearly convey their purpose.
Quote from: Northern Star Girl on April 06, 2025, 11:37:44 AMthe problem was that your submitted photo was way to large:
2.6 MB 3264 x 2448 pixels
Wow! I never claimed to be a size petite. I am so grateful. Of course, now I'm compelled to ask: how does one go about reducing the number of pixels in an image? Some days, I miss dial telephones and typewriters.
There are utility programs or applications ("apps") that can reduce photo size.
Search for "Image Size" or "Image Resize" when looking for these apps. Some run on iPhones and iPads and others run under Android or Windows.
Some programs inside Windows allowed you to "save as" an existing photograph with a smaller pixel size. This is typically used to make smaller images to click (often called thumbnails) on Web sites, which may open up a bigger version of the same file or jump you to another Web page.
I have not tried this in a while, or in a photoshop and similar programs, so others will need to give you guidance or how to's. There are many YouTube videos you can watch also to explain some options.
There are also online image resizers, Adobe has a free one. You have to upload your photograph though to get a resized one.
Chrissy
I use Paint .net on my desktop. It is free and has almost everything PhotoShop has. I like it better, and the price is right.
Quote from: ChrissyRyan on April 06, 2025, 01:33:38 PMI have not tried this in a while, or in a photoshop and similar programs, so others will need to give you guidance or how to's. There are many YouTube videos you can watch also to explain some options.
Thanks, Chrissy! I'll checkout YouTube and practice a few uploads to Susan's Place. I envy the way you switch avatars in a heartbeat (and they are all so engaging).
I learned something today. I planned to start assembling moving boxes, and then at my leisure, I could start packing stuff that I won't need for a while.
My apartment is a small one-bedroom. Assembling a box means I need to put it somewhere. There is nowhere that won't be in the way! So my focus has shifted to removing clutter, hauling stuff to the trash dumpster, reorganizing, consolidating, and then maybe having room for a box to put this crap in. ;D
Too funny! A quick aside, and please correct/chastise me if I say anything out of line. I don't believe Kat was trolling. I think she honestly believes sex, gender, and genitalia are equivalent terms. Of course, that is the kind of binary, black and white attitude many of us confront on a daily basis (although there is a bit of irony considering the source). Today, I was still dressed in a skirt and blouse when my daughter got home from work. For the first time since the first time I attempted to explain the word 'genderfluid' to her almost two years ago, she didn't flinch. I wish there was a way to invite TanyaG into your discussion with Kat and I apologize for urging a continuation of the topic. I was learning things. But what I learn should never come at the expense of what someone else already knows. Especially someone who has suffered greatly in the pursuit of that knowledge.
Quote from: Lori Dee on April 06, 2025, 04:41:40 PMI learned something today. I planned to start assembling moving boxes, and then at my leisure, I could start packing stuff that I won't need for a while.
My apartment is a small one-bedroom. Assembling a box means I need to put it somewhere. There is nowhere that won't be in the way! So my focus has shifted to removing clutter, hauling stuff to the trash dumpster, reorganizing, consolidating, and then maybe having room for a box to put this crap in. ;D
Assemble the boxes in a kanban manner.
Quote from: ChrissyRyan on April 06, 2025, 08:54:34 PMAssemble the boxes in a kanban manner.
I didn't know what that was, I had to look it up!
That is sort of what I am doing. Moving camping and mining gear so I have room for the box. Fill the box and then I can start stacking them in that space. Etc. etc.
Wowza. What a morning.
I received a notice from my Property Manager that it is time for me to recertify my income to qualify to stay in my "affordable housing" apartment. The VA recently upgraded my disability, so I no longer qualify for discounted rent. If figured if I have to move, I might as well move to a more trans-friendly state, like Colorado.
The Manager said that even though I am moving out, she still needs my income verification for "tax purposes". Plus it will show that the reason I am not staying is because all of my disability pay makes me too filthy rich to stay in "affordable housing".
No problem, since I can go online and download my benefit verification letters from the VA, Social Security, and the NEBF (Electrician's Disability Fund). I logged into the VA, now you need to use a LOGIN.gov or ID.me account. I use ID.me since they have copies of my driver's license, VA photo ID, court orders, etc. I log in and download the VA letter.
Then I go to the Social Security website to login. I get a message that I must use either a LOGIN.gov or an ID.me account. Still no problem. Except now I get the message that they need to verify my identity. No, you don't. You have my records. They want me to upload a copy of my driver's license or photo ID and a selfie. No, not doing that.
I have my old username and password for the SSA website, so I'll use that. Another message that I MUST use LOGIN.gov or ID.me. The same thing happens again "due to changes in the Social Security verification process". Gee, I wonder who decided that was a good idea?
So I told the Manager that SSA won't let me log in to my account, so I can't get a letter from them. She smiled and said, "Oh well. I guess you can't stay in your apartment." OK, fine. I'll move out in July. No problem.
What a fiasco to accomplish nothing. I'll call the SSA office and have them mail me a letter so I have it for my future landlord. If they need it, I'll hold my driver's license next to my phone so they can hear it and verify it's me. ;D
Quote from: Lori Dee on April 07, 2025, 03:44:58 PMI might as well move to a more trans-friendly state, like Colorado.
Try to find something larger than a one-bedroom apartment in Colorful Colorado. I might need a place to crash for a bit if things in Montana get any more interesting.
Quote from: Mrs. Oliphant on April 07, 2025, 05:36:07 PMTry to find something larger than a one-bedroom apartment in Colorful Colorado. I might need a place to crash for a bit if things in Montana get any more interesting.
My plan right now is to rent a two-bedroom house. I have had enough of rude people living on the other side of my walls... ceiling, floor, and hallway.
Quote from: Lori Dee on April 07, 2025, 06:13:57 PMMy plan right now is to rent a two-bedroom house. I have had enough of rude people living on the other side of my walls... ceiling, floor, and hallway.
Dear Lori:
Once you have a home to live in, it would be very difficult to go back to living
in an apartment or even a duplex. As you mentioned renting is what you are looking
for, but work hard and save up your money so that you may be able to purchase a home
in the future...
...the longer you wait, the higher the price.
Wishing you well,
HUGS, Danielle [Northern Star Girl]
Quote from: Northern Star Girl on April 07, 2025, 06:20:36 PMDear Lori:
Once you have a home to live in, it would be very difficult to go back to living
in an apartment or even a duplex. As you mentioned renting is what you are looking
for, but work hard and save up your money so that you may be able to purchase a home
in the future...
...the longer you wait, the higher the price.
Wishing you well,
HUGS, Danielle [Northern Star Girl]
I have considered it. The hard part would be the down payment. I've had no-down loans through the VA and the USDA, but I burnt those bridges due to bankruptcy when I became disabled. I did buy one on a contract for deed. But the owner was a nightmare to deal with, so I refinanced.
I will be keeping my eyes open. If the housing market collapses again, I'll be ready.
Of course, by the time a 30-year mortgage is paid off, I'll be 98 years old. ;D
Quote from: Lori Dee on April 07, 2025, 06:26:50 PMI'll be 98 years old.
And I will be a bit older (I promise to move out before then). Thanks to you and Chrissy for explaining how to reduce the pixels in an image (thus, my new avatar). Hopefully, I've made Danielle's day a wee bit better by taking one more thing off her plate. You amaze me, Lori; I had no idea what to say to Adrian. But you did.
Lori,
I hope you find good housing.
A house would be nice.
:)
Chrissy
Why worry about paying off the mortgage. Just look at it like rent, except you don't have to get permission to paint.
Well conventional loan mortgage rates for 30 year loans have advanced to an average of 7.000% APR.
Quote from: Gina P on April 09, 2025, 11:20:16 AMWhy worry about paying off the mortgage. Just look at it like rent, except you don't have to get permission to paint.
I will still try. I am not worried about it being paid off, but lenders do. They can't discriminate due to age, so they find another way. Trying to come up with 20% down payment, or even 10% down, will be the biggest challenge.
If I find a place I like, I usually tell the realtor that if they can push the financing through then we have a deal. They make a nice commission, so they put in a little more effort to get the sale. Plus they have financing contacts that I don't. So we will see what happens.
Quote from: ChrissyRyan on April 09, 2025, 11:24:59 AMWell conventional loan mortgage rates for 30 year loans have advanced to an average of 7.000% APR.
That puts a 370KUSD property mortgage payment at @2700USD, including tax, escrow, and MI.
Quote from: D'Amalie on April 09, 2025, 11:33:51 AMThat puts a 370KUSD property mortgage payment at @2700USD, including tax, escrow, and MI.
That would be out of my range. But $150k - $200k might be, and there are some available in southern Colorado.
Quote from: Lori Dee on April 07, 2025, 03:44:58 PMI might as well move to a more trans-friendly state, like Colorado.
Hi Lori, yeah tough decision. I am sort of going through some decisions like about deciding on whether to buy ar rent. Like I mentioned, my plan is to relocate to Colorado in the fall or early winter time frame. I do not want to rent as I remember those days from my junior enlisted days. Cramped and apartment manager. I've lived in my home for 37 years now, and don't think I could ever go back to an apartment. Not saying its out of the realm of possibility, but definitely not my choice of residence. I have to see how the market goes here in Virginia and the timing is not just right yet for me and my personal situation. I am waiting to see how things shape out with me and my changes. Having a couple vehicles also makes it hard for an apartment. Keep in touch. Like I said we could be neighbors lil.
I spent this morning at the laundromat. We have community washers and dryers here in the apartment building but they are small, like for a single-family home. The laundromat here is nice, with a welcoming staff that keeps everything clean. I used it when I was homeless camping because you can also rent a shower there.
They have huge washers and dryers which is what I needed to clean quilts and blankets that can now be used as "packing material" to protect glassware and valuables.
But now I am worn out. I hate doing laundry. I love the smell of clean sheets on the bed, but not enough to do laundry every day. ;D
It is nice when everything is sparkling clean.
Chrissy
I kind of love reading about US life. It's so utterly different to the UK. For example, it doesn't compute to US folks that in the UK we have our washing machines and tumble dryers (if you can afford them these days) in the kitchen. Not in like a separate room, or the basement. ;D
Laundromats in the UK are places people try to sell drugs to each other.
What amazed me was when I was living in Germany. No closets!
The way property taxes work is anything that has a door is a room. So no closets. Clothes are put away in wardrobe cabinets, dressers, and armoirs because those are furniture and not taxed.
Quote from: Lori Dee on April 10, 2025, 04:36:30 PMWhat amazed me was when I was living in Germany. No closets!
The way property taxes work is anything that has a door is a room. So no closets. Clothes are put away in wardrobe cabinets, dressers, and armoirs because those are furniture and not taxed.
Y'all would freak out over Pantries, I assume. It boggles my brain. US folks will tax anything.
Quote from: Sephirah on April 10, 2025, 04:57:59 PMY'all would freak out over Pantries, I assume. It boggles my brain. US folks will tax anything.
I had a house with a pantry. Well, it was a broom closet when I moved in. I renovated the entire kitchen down to the wiring and insulation. The broom closet ended up with pull-out shelves for canned goods, and baskets at the bottom for potatoes, onions, and such. The inside of the door was lined with small shelves that became a spice rack. That was a lot of fun to build.
Quote from: Lori Dee on April 10, 2025, 06:01:21 PMI had a house with a pantry. Well, it was a broom closet when I moved in. I renovated the entire kitchen down to the wiring and insulation. The broom closet ended up with pull-out shelves for canned goods, and baskets at the bottom for potatoes, onions, and such. The inside of the door was lined with small shelves that became a spice rack. That was a lot of fun to build.
That's what weirds me out, Lori. The first person I ever had a conversation with was fixated on window taxes. Which were a thing in the UK, around the time your country was born. We got taxed because our houses had too many windows.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Window_tax
Nice to see people haven't changed in a couple hundred years...
Quote from: Sephirah on April 10, 2025, 06:14:50 PMThat's what weirds me out, Lori. The first person I ever had a conversation with was fixated on window taxes. Which were a thing in the UK, around the time your country was born. We got taxed because our houses had too many windows.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Window_tax
Nice to see people haven't changed in a couple hundred years...
Yeah, none of us could understand it either. So we sailed across the ocean and started our own country, without Window Taxes. ;D
Quote from: Lori Dee on April 10, 2025, 06:30:51 PMYeah, none of us could understand it either. So we sailed across the ocean and started our own country, without Window Taxes. ;D
Little did ye know that a couple hundred years down the road you'd be hit with intelligence tax... ;D
Regarding Windows taxes, yes, I agree Windows can be taxing, especially Windows 11.
Chrissy
Quote from: ChrissyRyan on April 09, 2025, 11:24:59 AMWell conventional loan mortgage rates for 30 year loans have advanced to an average of 7.000% APR.
Well the rate has creeped over 7.1%. It has been worse but higher rates will make houses harder to afford for many.
I think I could save enough for a down payment, but honestly, I would rather spend that kind of money on my surgery. Decisions. Decisions. ;D
Quote from: Lori Dee on April 11, 2025, 01:45:08 PMDecisions. Decisions. ;D
I certainly can't give any advice regarding such monumental decisions. But I have no doubt that whatever decision you make will be best for you. As for me, I love gingham curtains, so, the more windows, the better (the smaller the decision, the better I am at making it).
Lori,
Wherever you choose to live, try to get a safe place. I mean safe for everyone, not just "safer for transgender folks." Some housing areas seem to be more prone to crime.
There are some areas where renters do not take very much care of the owner's property. Then again, there are landlords that do not upkeep the property. Try to avoid either type of residential area.
Chrissy
Thanks, Chrissy.
I plan to take a scouting trip to drive the neighborhoods to see which ones I might be interested in and which ones are a definite NO.
Then I will make another trip in June to look at specific houses and maybe make an offer.
Hey Lori, I would like to share some thoughts.
1. Get the surgery done. Healing when you are younger is faster plus you will be "you" faster.
2. Rent before you buy. The old adage was "why pay rent when it can go to your mortgage?" and it
can be wrong for many reasons: Lori you have a lot of life-changing things in motion, in a world
that is also rapidly changing, renting is like change insurance. Let things settle down before
you commit large chunks of capital. Also, be aware that the new home is exposed to capital risk, like
fire, flood, or just a new furnace. Keep liquid and keep flexible through these changes.
3. Video every neighborhood and house visit. The camera will see more than you, and then you can run it
back as much as you need to see all the details, like water stains or infestation. It also tapes what
the salespeople say so you can listen to it later (it may also catch a few lies or major details that
they overlook).
These are just some thoughts that I hope you find useful on your amazing journey!
Thanks, Emma. That's good advice.
I was thinking along similar lines. I have rented houses before and the landlords seem to appreciate someone who can do basic maintenance, like leaky faucets, so they don't have to call a repairman. And I don't mind doing it if it is something within my skill set. After all, it is my home too.
You're the perfect tenant Lori!
I found a new home for my leather (faux) bar stools and a bookcase. It's a few more things I don't need to pack and frees some space. Maybe I need more rocks! ;D
Murphy's Law # 17: "Stuff expands to fill the space available."
I also figured out that if I pack said "stuff" into a black trash bag, there are three large dumpsters where I can "store" it. I think I have become my mom. I have way too many empty containers.
While gold prospecting, I saved my prescription bottles. When I would sample new areas, if I found gold in the sample, I would put it in a bottle, and then label the bottle with the sample number. When I got home, I would take the sample, look it over under the stereoscope, and record what type of gold it was. Over time, this gave me a bigger picture of what gold was where and I would plot that in Google Earth.
The problem, it seems, is I never threw the bottles away as they could be reused. I just threw away 50 or so empty prescription bottles. Hoard much?
At least that emptied out a couple of cabinets. Progress is being made.
Quote from: Lori Dee on April 12, 2025, 02:05:34 PMWhen I got home, I would take the sample, look it over under the stereoscope, and record what type of gold it was. Over time, this gave me a bigger picture of what gold was where and I would plot that in Google Earth.
Ingenious approach, Lori! My father was an obsessed prospector. He plotted the shoreline of Lake Missoula (an ice age lake that flooded the entire northwest when the ice dam broke) and pulled samples from likely looking places along the calculated shoreline. Sometimes, he found gold. As for me, I love to see a flash in the pan but not enough to hoard prescription bottles.
Quote from: Mrs. Oliphant on April 12, 2025, 02:46:48 PMIngenious approach, Lori! My father was an obsessed prospector. He plotted the shoreline of Lake Missoula (an ice age lake that flooded the entire northwest when the ice dam broke) and pulled samples from likely looking places along the calculated shoreline. Sometimes, he found gold. As for me, I love to see a flash in the pan but not enough to hoard prescription bottles.
Starting around 2010, I would spend all winter researching old gold claims, mining and geology maps, and old mining journals. I would plot 100-125 locations on the map throughout the Black Hills. Then when summer came, I would drive to each location and do a test sample. Then on to the next.
As my knowledge of the area grew, I was able to narrow down my search to a smaller area. That left more time for panning and camping versus driving all over. I moved here in 2015 and had narrowed my search to a single creek. Then I did the same thing, walking the shoreline and looking things over. I had the most success at 5 -15' off the shore toward the middle of the creek, so that was the line I followed downstream.
One day, my buddy and I had packed up and we went back to my truck with gear in tow in a metal garden cart. There was an old prospector in the parking lot and we had a chance to talk. He co-owns a 60-acre hard rock claim up near Mystic, SD.
He told me that back in the 50s he was a fur trapper in that area. He knows every inch of that creek very well. In 1972, we had a raging flood that destroyed Rapid City. In 1973, we had a drought. He said the creek water was so low, it was barely a trickle. He saw gold in the cracks in the bedrock but had no tools with him to go after it.
He showed me exactly where it was, but over the years mud and sand have buried it. He said that to his knowledge no one has ever dug in that spot. Because of the way the water flows in that part of the stream, I wasn't able to get to it. The water was too deep. So I sampled upstream to locate the source. I never found the source, but I found plenty of deep pockets to keep me busy each year.
One year, we had another bad drought. The water was low enough that I could dig where he showed me. I dug a hole up to my hips and I still had not hit bedrock. It was deeper than what either of us estimated. Someday maybe I'll hire a team of young studs to go out there and dig up the whole bottom.
Right. Wishful thinking. ;D
Quote from: Lori Dee on April 12, 2025, 03:48:26 PMSomeday maybe I'll hire a team of young studs to go out there and dig up the whole bottom.
I was never stud, but if I was still young, I would love to be part of that adventure. Heck, my father would be somewhere near Mystic right now if he read post and wasn't dead. It's definitely in the blood.
It is definitely a lot of hard work. I still plan to do some prospecting after I move to Colorado. But I seriously doubt I will put as much time and effort into it like I used to. It's not about the pay off, it is the thrill of the hunt!
I know of a few places where people go to pan gold every day. One is in downtown Denver. I used to take my dad there when I would visit. But every time we went, there were a lot of people working the stream. They still find gold there. I just don't like the crowds.
Perfect time to move to the UK... just sayin' <3
Quote from: Sephirah on April 12, 2025, 06:07:58 PMPerfect time to move to the UK..
Great idea, Lor! Perhaps a two-bedroom flat. Depending on your tolerance for snoring.
Quote from: Mrs. Oliphant on April 12, 2025, 06:49:06 PMGreat idea, Lor! Perhaps a two-bedroom flat. Depending on your tolerance for snoring.
When I sleep, a literal earthquake couldn't wake me up, lol. I don't think I have ever heard anyone snore. I'm half convinced its a myth. :P
Quote from: Sephirah on April 12, 2025, 06:55:55 PMI'm half convinced its a myth.
Sorry Sephirah. It's not a myth. Just ask any of my many ex-wives.
Quote from: Mrs. Oliphant on April 12, 2025, 07:04:16 PMSorry Sephirah. It's not a myth. Just ask any of my many ex-wives.
Hah, I'll take your word for it, Annika. When I was a kid, my parents had to take me to a sleep clinic because I would wet the bed. Too much information, I know. But the reason, they said, was because I slept so deeply I was basically dead to the world. To the point that my bladder was like "We warned you, it's not our fault you're comatose!" I've grown out of it now but yeah... you could have a mar di gras in the bedroom and I'd be like "Oh hey, honey, the room seems a bit disorganised this morning." lol.
Quote from: Sephirah on April 12, 2025, 06:55:55 PMWhen I sleep, a literal earthquake couldn't wake me up, lol. I don't think I have ever heard anyone snore. I'm half convinced its a myth. :P
I wish I could sleep like that! I don't sleep well. Lots of issues - physical and mental, so I toss and turn all night. Sometimes, I just give up and go to the living room and play Solitaire on the computer until I can go back to sleep. ;D
Quote from: Lori Dee on April 12, 2025, 08:24:57 PMI wish I could sleep like that! I don't sleep well. Lots of issues - physical and mental, so I toss and turn all night. Sometimes, I just give up and go to the living room and play Solitaire on the computer until I can go back to sleep. ;D
Aww that sucks, Lori. I have also gone 50 hours without sleep before and literally hallucinated. I thought sleep deprivation is something that people just say but no... it's actually a thing. And quite scary.
Can I offer you a suggestion? Take a long hot bath with lavender oil before bed. It will do wonders, girl. Trust me. Also a few drops on your pillow. <3
Quote from: Sephirah on April 12, 2025, 08:33:09 PMAww that sucks, Lori. I have also gone 50 hours without sleep before and literally hallucinated. I thought sleep deprivation is something that people just say but no... it's actually a thing. And quite scary.
Can I offer you a suggestion? Take a long hot bath with lavender oil before bed. It will do wonders, girl. Trust me. Also a few drops on your pillow. <3
It doesn't help. I have tried everything. Part of it is chronic back pain from my spine injuries and part of it is due to PTSD. Which is why I need to get away from apartment living. The people next door have a two-year-old demon child that screams day and night. The parents let it go on for hours. I run my dishwasher, humidifier, and air conditioner, and put on headphones and it still drives me up the wall.
That is why I am looking for a two-bedroom house with a yard in a quiet neighborhood. This building was new and I was the first tenant when it opened a year and a half ago. I thought it would be great. Nope. Never again.
Quote from: Lori Dee on April 12, 2025, 09:03:09 PMThe people next door have a two-year-old demon child that screams day and night. The parents let it go on for hours. I run my dishwasher, humidifier, and air conditioner, and put on headphones and it still drives me up the wall.
Have you considered an exorcist? Does this child have an affinity for giant black dogs?
You can get sleep systems which elevate you while you sleep, Lori. Maybe that would help. If you weren't lying flat? I had that issue when I left the navy. I left due to a back injury and for like 6 months I couldn't sleep because I just couldn't get comfortable.
Quote from: Sephirah on April 12, 2025, 09:05:30 PMMaybe that would help. If you weren't lying flat? I had that issue when I left the navy. I left due to a back injury and for like 6 months I couldn't sleep because I just couldn't get comfortable.
I sleep on my side. I can relax on my back for a while, but sleep on my side so that my neck is supported. My lower back was injured from an assault while in the Army. Now I have fused vertebrae in my neck too. I am always in motion. I can't sit, stand, or lie in any position for more than an hour or two then I have to move and change position. Over the years, I have learned to not wake up fully when turning over. But I sleep light enough that ambient sounds can wake me - which then triggers the PTSD Fight or Flight Reflex.
And Rapid City has trains that go through the city. On Wednesdays, they come about every two hours day and night. Federal law says they must blow their horn at every rail/road crossing. I have laid awake and counted; fifteen times they blow that dang horn. UGH.
And people wonder why I loved living in the forest for months at a time. People are just too noisy.
Quote from: Lori Dee on April 12, 2025, 09:19:33 PMAnd people wonder why I loved living in the forest for months at a time. People are just too noisy.
Girl, I think you might be my spirit animal. <3 I could not agree more.
Maybe you need a tent, not an apartment. But like a good satellite internet service.
I have seriously considered becoming a nomad many times. When I built the camper on my truck, I had that in mind. My inspiration came from a group of nomads that travel full-time, in RVs, tents, cars, and vans. Bob Wells is a legend and his website (https://CheapRVliving.com/) became the "Susan's Place" for nomads. He has many articles on everything from finances to safety to medical care to spirituality. Definitely worth reading.
I considered becoming a nomad as recently as last year. I went shopping for an RV to live in full-time. I couldn't get financing back then. Now, I'm not sure I want to spend that much time driving from campsite to campsite. Been there, done that, got the T-shirt.
Now my focus is on my transition and enjoying my retirement. ;D
Quote from: Lori Dee on April 12, 2025, 09:32:47 PMI have seriously considered becoming a nomad many times. When I built the camper on my truck, I had that in mind. My inspiration came from a group of nomads that travel full-time, in RVs, tents, cars, and vans. Bob Wells is a legend and his website (https://CheapRVliving.com/) became the "Susan's Place" for nomads. He has many articles on everything from finances to safety to medical care to spirituality. Definitely worth reading.
I considered becoming a nomad as recently as last year. I went shopping for an RV to live in full-time. I couldn't get financing back then. Now, I'm not sure I want to spend that much time driving from campsite to campsite. Been there, done that, got the T-shirt.
Now my focus is on my transition and enjoying my retirement. ;D
That's fair, Lori. I think whatever you decide, as long as you're not exposed to screaming offspring, it's a win! <3
Treat yourself to a good massage though, sweetie. It might do you some good. :)
Quote from: Lori Dee on April 12, 2025, 09:03:09 PMThe people next door have a two-year-old demon child that screams day and night. The parents let it go on for hours. I run my dishwasher, humidifier, and air conditioner, and put on headphones and it still drives me up the wall.
ROFL! I've got a ten-year-old demon passed out on my couch, and I'm sneaking around tiptoeing, and typing with one finger on my keyboard just to avoid waking him. ;D
Quote from: Lilis on April 12, 2025, 11:37:49 PMROFL! I've got a ten-year-old demon passed out on my couch, and I'm sneaking around tiptoeing, and typing with one finger on my keyboard just to avoid waking him. ;D
:laugh: I understand that kids are noisy. Two-year-olds especially. But this kid doesn't yell, she screams. Makes the hair on my neck stand up. After an hour or two I am ready to stab someone. ;D
Lori and Sephirah, I can identify with no-sleep nights. I have a condition called "restless leg syndrome". It's genetic in my family. I have played endless games of Bubble Burst on my phone. Sometimes, I put on my ear buds and listen to zen music.
I love the idea of "a long hot bath with lavender oil before bed" but I would need a life preserver to make sure I don't drown.
Quote from: Sephirah on April 12, 2025, 07:11:27 PMI slept so deeply I was basically dead to the world.
You remind me of my mother, Sephirah (and that is a compliment)! Because of her work schedule, she tended to sleep in despite being the mother of seven unruly and inconsiderate children. To the best of my memory, she was never once awakened by the chaos inside our home. My father, on the other hand, could hear a pin drop on the other side of the house. We were much more 'ruly' and considerate when he was working graveyard.
And now for my morning rant...
I woke up this morning to a notice that Windows Update needed to restart my PC. Why? I never gave permission to install any updates! So I checked and it was the April 8th version of the Cumulative Update for Windows 11 24H2. OK, go ahead and restart.
Once it was done, I immediately went in and checked to see what was installed without my permission, turn off stuff that I had previously disabled, and uninstalled crap that I don't use and don't want (like all the Xbox apps).
In this version, we have a new service that was secretly installed and started, called WSAIFabricSvc. What the heck is this? I have too many services running without my consent, so I want to know what this is.
(Google)What is Windows 11 WSAIFabricSvc?
Provides support to communicate with AIFabric in Local service context over COM. This service exists in Windows 11 only.
The first red flag is that it wants to communicate with AIFabric.
The second red flag is that it runs in a Local Service context, which means that even as the Administrator of this computer, I have no control over it. Wrong. Not on my PC.
(Google)What is AIFabric?
Fabric AI, an open-source framework, aims to augment humans using AI by providing a modular system for solving problems with crowdsourced AI prompts, often called "patterns". It's designed to be a user-friendly way to integrate AI into everyday tasks and workflows.
Why is this a problem?
When I was in school, we were taught how to do math. Everything from simple arithmetic to advanced geometry and calculus. When my oldest stepdaughter went to school, instead of teaching her how to do math, they taught her how to use a calculator. When my son went to school, they spent an entire class in the Computer Lab watching an online class teaching History. The teacher just sat at a desk babysitting. Today, we have adults who can't balance a checkbook because they don't write checks. And if they did, they would need a calculator or a computer to do the math.
Back in the early days of computer languages, you learned logic skills and how to format data so that the computer could execute the instructions. You had to declare your variables, assign types, and double-check your For-Next loops to make sure there was an exit.
Then Microsoft came up with Windows to make everything easier. Now complex instructions can be run with the click of a button. Then the first hints of AI showed up. Windows had this annoying PaperClip character that would keep popping up and asking if you needed help.
Then Windows search features were added so that Windows can constantly search your hard drive and index everything on it. People kept turning it off because they knew where their stuff was and all that searching and indexing was slowing down the computer. To counteract this rebellion, Windows added Cortana, the search assistant that is more annoying than the paperclip, but now, you can't turn it off. You can disable notifications, even disable the Windows Search Service, but it continues to run anyway.
The next feature that no one asked for was Copilot. Like Cortana, it is a search feature with an AI interface. It not only searches your hard drive but also "the Cloud" and the internet to find exactly what you need. Again, you cannot uninstall it, but you can disable its notifications. It is still there as an integral part of the computer's operating system.
Now, the next phase: "designed to be a user-friendly way to integrate AI into everyday tasks and workflows." And how does it do this? "by providing a modular system for solving problems with crowdsourced AI prompts, often called 'patterns'." Crowdsourced AI prompts. Where is the data coming from for these "crowdsourced AI prompts"? From all of the computers whose hard drives have been searched and indexed and stored "in the Cloud".
But... but... (something privacy) ... (something security)... they wouldn't do that. I won't let them! My computer is old so they don't have access to my stuff!
AI fabrics can integrate seamlessly with your organization's current systems, allowing teams to implement solutions incrementally without needing to disrupt current operations or rip and replace decades' worth of investments and infrastructure. Instead, it can be a modular bridge connecting past and future technologies.
Yes, I am overreacting. Or am I?
In my thread, "Is Anyone Paying Attention?" I raised the warning about Musk and Trump's interest in AI technologies. That all of the DOGE visits to every federal agency under the guise of rooting out fraud, is actually there to gain access to their database.
https://www.susans.org/index.php/topic,250087.msg2293824.html#msg2293824
The government has already gained access to non-government records from Google, Amazon, Verizon, AT&T, and others. That is not counting the databases collecting information from millions of Smart TVs.
Now imagine they can link all of this information and store it in a single database for AI-powered search engines to access, search, and index. The AI then has access to unlimited numbers of "patterns".
AI fabric is an evolution of the data fabric architectural approach. Data fabrics, which emerged in the past decade or so, combine the best aspects of data warehouses and data lakes. They provide a seamless, unified layer over an organization's data estate that makes data management quicker, easier, and more scalable. ... Basically, you have to get all your data in one place before you can think about implementing AI. Data isn't worth much if it isn't organized.
Source Article on AI Fabric (https://www.fastcompany.com/91284182/ai-fabric-the-future-of-data-and-ai-architecture)
Thank you for coming to my TED Talk. ;D
Well I know why you do not need a housekeeper Lori, it is because you still do Windows.
It seems to have lots of bloatware and it is harder for the average person to shut off.
Then when you do, an update can turn them back on.
I am concerned about the feature that records everything you do, not that I have anything to hide (other than logins, passwords, access codes, and other private information. Gee. That is scary).
Supposedly this is done to help you recover things you did during your Windows session.
Maybe it can catch criminals and I suppose that is good.
Microsoft says you can shut off the feature but would many would know how to?
But I cannot help but think this information can be accessible to others somehow, and that may be dangerous for the user.
Quote from: ChrissyRyan on April 13, 2025, 10:23:59 AMMicrosoft says you can shut off the feature but would many would know how to?
Most people won't bother. And it is a lie.
To prove it, I went into Windows Services and disabled the Windows Search service, set the properties on each of my hard drives to "do not index" and rebooted the PC. When I go into Task Manager, there are not one, or two, but three or more Windows Search services running, and you cannot "end task". They just start back up again.
Part of it is an operating system function. The system needs to know where file X is located to run App Y as commanded by the User. But Windows goes beyond that and indexes things and starts loading what it calls "pre-fetch data". It is trying to anticipate what you will do next and starts loading that data in the background. So when you click that button you won't have to wait the exceptionally long time of 0.78 seconds.
Quote from: Lori Dee on April 13, 2025, 10:36:25 AMMost people won't bother. And it is a lie.
To prove it, I went into Windows Services and disabled the Windows Search service, set the properties on each of my hard drives to "do not index" and rebooted the PC. When I go into Task Manager, there are not one, or two, but three or more Windows Search services running, and you cannot "end task". They just start back up again.
Part of it is an operating system function. The system needs to know where file X is located to run App Y as commanded by the User. But Windows goes beyond that and indexes things and starts loading what it calls "pre-fetch data". It is trying to anticipate what you will do next and starts loading that data in the background. So when you click that button you won't have to wait the exceptionally long time of 0.78 seconds.
It is trying to make the OS provide better service to the user by staging this data.
It has done that for years though, right?
Perhaps a disk does that itself with its buffer area and its own controlling software?
Quote from: ChrissyRyan on April 13, 2025, 10:56:48 AMIt has done that for years though, right?
Perhaps a disk does that itself with its buffer area and its own controlling software?
Yes, it has been going on for decades.
The disk does have software and a file on the hard drive that tells it where everything is located. Files are placed anywhere convenient, but sometimes there isn't enough free space where it wants to put it. So a file might get broken up into pieces (called fragmentation) and the disk index keeps track of where all the pieces are.
But what I am talking about is a function of the Operating System. It tells the disk controller what it needs and the disk provides it. But, to speed things up (because mechanical drives are relatively slow), the OS places copies of what it thinks it needs in memory for quick access. That is taken even further by adding in data from the internet and advertisers to show you "recommended" things that you never asked for. The OS thinks it knows what you might be interested in by previous activity, which means it needs to track your activity.
That is just on the local level within your machine. Now imagine all of that data on a global scale and an AI system that is searching, indexing, storing, and tracking all of it. It is not out of the realm of possibility.
From the movie, "
The Big Short (2015)":
The NSA has a $52-billion budget and the ability to monitor tens of millions of calls a second. You think they're not using it?
Big Brother IS watching us.
I do not see a need for all of this watching except against spies or criminals perhaps.
Plus even then, it must be legal and right to do so.
Quote from: ChrissyRyan on April 13, 2025, 11:21:39 AMI do not see a need for all of this watching except against spies or criminals perhaps.
Plus then, it must be legal to do so.
There are places on this planet where being gay or trans IS criminal.
Coming soon to a U.S. state near you.
Quote from: Lori Dee on April 13, 2025, 11:23:02 AMThere are places on this planet where being gay or trans IS criminal.
Coming soon to a U.S. state near you.
I am talking about real criminals. You know, those who most sensible people think are crooks, thieves, etc., real criminals.
Quote from: ChrissyRyan on April 13, 2025, 12:00:57 PMI am talking about real criminals. You know, those who most sensible people think are crooks, thieves, etc., real criminals.
I know that's what you meant. I was making the point that any system can be abused against a targeted community. We had hundreds of people deported to Venezuela under that guise. Turns out that many of them have no criminal history and were in the U.S. legally.
Another Day in the Life of Lori Dee, the Paranoid Conspiracy Theorist.
In today's mail, I received a letter from the Treasury Department.
Not from the IRS. (Happy Tax Day).
Not from the Passport Office.
Not from the State Department concerning my application for a new birth certificate.
From the Treasury Department.
If any of you have ever received a Treasury check in the mail, you know what it looks like without opening the envelope. This looked like a letter.
< Gasp >
I mustered the courage to open it.
Wrapped inside an invoice was a Treasury check for $51.13. ???
The invoice had no explanation; only an Invoice ID number and a reference number. I didn't recognize either one.
Maybe it is a scam!
The only thing I could think of was that it might be related to my VA prescription co-pays. But I haven't received a bill or statement from the VA in months.
I would rather talk to the VA than the Treasury Dept., so I called our local billing office and asked if they had issued a credit for some reason. It turns out that they had. For $51.13. < whew! >
When the VA upgraded my disability rating, it removed my requirement to pay a co-pay for my medications. Since the effective date of the rating change was back-dated, that also affected my co-pays retroactively. This was a refund for an "overpayment".
As we have seen from this Administration, sometimes the boogeyman isn't real. ;D
Quote from: Lori Dee on April 15, 2025, 02:56:18 PMAs we have seen from this Administration, sometimes the boogeyman isn't real. ;D
Awesome, Lori! The only letter I've ever received from the Treasury Department was a notice they were going to garnish my SS for owed prescription co-pays. So, I paid the VA twice and six months later was issued a refund. Glad it works the other way sometimes.
It is interesting that in Kentucky, their federal tax filing date for 2024 taxes is not until Nov. 03, 2025. They had bad weather damage.
Weather forecast this morning called for a chance of rain/snow mix starting at 4 PM.
Cool. I have plenty of time to run some errands.
I go outside, and it is starting to sleet. I went and filled up the Jeep with gas and ran to the grocery store.
I only picked up a few necessities (that still cost $125 total ??? ) and got home. It is snowing now. If it comes down any harder, we will have a blizzard.
Now I am wondering what is going to happen at 4 PM, that the weather disservice did not also predict?
Quote from: Lori Dee on April 17, 2025, 01:55:16 PMWeather forecast this morning called for a chance of rain/snow mix starting at 4 PM.
Cool. I have plenty of time to run some errands.
I go outside, and it is starting to sleet. I went and filled up the Jeep with gas and ran to the grocery store.
I only picked up a few necessities (that still cost $125 total ??? ) and got home. It is snowing now. If it comes down any harder, we will have a blizzard.
Now I am wondering what is going to happen at 4 PM, that the weather disservice did not also predict?
I must be getting stronger as a typical bags of groceries that cost $60 I can now carry with one hand instead of two.
Been that way for us since 03:00 hours. Still going. Left my Jaguar XJ8 in the garage and pulled out my Tahoe.
Asking my wife if she wants me to come and get her from work, silly me I was worried about the traction conditions. Wife says, don't worry, "Oksana and I get along fine." Oxana is her black Vanden Plas (also Jaguar). I'm ashamed; I chickened out but she pushes through with a rear wheel drive Sport Saloon!
The rest of the story. Oksana came to us with a myriad of troubles. Like the assassin code name "Villanelle", real name "Oxsana" on Killing Eve, she was unpredictable and deadly. I sorted her though over about 6 months and she growls once again. When I drive her, she throws codes. When my wife drives her, no codes. For me? My Tahoe never throughs a fit, no codes, EVER!
I too have gained strength in my senior years! <snicker, giggle>
Quote from: ChrissyRyan on April 17, 2025, 02:00:08 PMI must be getting stronger as a typical bags of groceries that cost $60 I can now carry with one hand instead of two.
I recently put new tires and struts on the Jeep, so I no longer have traction issues. There are places where the streets are sloped so rainwater/snowmelt will flow toward the storm drain. The problem is that it flows across three lanes and turns to ice.
So when I need to go out for supplies and the weather is threatening, I try to get it done before it hits.
Ice? Me no like. :P
Short wheelbase Jeep? Must be a hoot in the snow.
Quote from: Lori Dee on April 17, 2025, 02:30:21 PMI recently put new tires and struts on the Jeep, so I no longer have traction issues. There are places where the streets are sloped so rainwater/snowmelt will flow toward the storm drain. The problem is that it flows across three lanes and turns to ice.
So when I need to go out for supplies and the weather is threatening, I try to get it done before it hits.
That seems wise.
Chrissy
Quote from: D'Amalie on April 17, 2025, 02:34:57 PMShort wheelbase Jeep? Must be a hoot in the snow.
2015 Jeep Patriot Sport. Front-wheel drive (CVS). The problem is that the Sport package is not off-road rated. It is designed for highway use: a 4-cylinder engine, a 15-gallon fuel tank, and not much power going uphill. But on the open road, she will scoot and get 22 MPG. If I could, I would drop a 6-cylinder in her and add a lift kit so she can tackle the forest service roads better. But now that she is paid off, it might be cheaper to just trade her in for a trail-rated Renegade. ;D
Quote from: Lori Dee on April 17, 2025, 02:40:47 PM2015 Jeep Patriot Sport... But now that she is paid off... ;D
Keep it as a back up! You can buy a lot of fuel for the cost of that Renegade, yet it would be so much fun! A trail rated machine may not be so good on the highway. I'm guessing your tradin in value is still pretty good with a 2015 modle year. I take my '98 Chev Tahoe (K5 size 2dr) where the ATVs go, loving every minute of it. It's every bit as capable as my '73 Scout II was back in the day, and still has impeccable road manners. I've not had a car payment in 23 years.
Twenty-two on the highway isn't so bad. My big saloon cars get 26 - 34 mpg on highway, speed dependent. I have trouble keeping my foot out of them out here in the Mountain West where I can cruise the Interstates at 85-90 (mph not kph for my Canadian and Euro friends.)
Quote from: D'Amalie on April 17, 2025, 02:53:38 PMI take my '98 Chev Tahoe (K5 size 2dr) where the ATVs go, loving every minute of it.
Before the Jeep, I had a 1994 Silverado pickup that I built a wooden camper on the back. She was only two-wheel drive, but she could get me where I wanted to go. I did get high-centered a couple of times trying to follow an ATV trail back to a prospecting area. I keep a tow strap and a 4-ton come-along, so I was able to winch myself out.
Eventually, the old girl gave up the ghost, and there was no more life in her, so I traded her in for the Jeep. My only regret is that the Jeep is not trail-rated. Other than that, she does pretty well.
You need a rally car, lol.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wRkaZHCJeAs
Quote from: Lori Dee on April 17, 2025, 03:00:30 PMBefore the Jeep, I had a 1994 Silverado pickup that I built a wooden camper on the back. She was only two-wheel drive
I have 93 Silverado, also 2wd. I bought back in 93. She is still running like she did back in 93. When I move I plan on bringing her with me with my JKR. That ole Chevy is a good truck.
Quote from: Sephirah on April 17, 2025, 03:11:36 PMYou need a rally car, lol.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wRkaZHCJeAs
I watched the rally races in Germany. So much fun. Our Supply Sergeant would buy wrecked Porsches and put their engines in Volkswagons and sell them to rally drivers. He had a nice side business doing that for many years.
Quote from: Lori Dee on April 17, 2025, 04:02:43 PMI watched the rally races in Germany. So much fun. Our Supply Sergeant would buy wrecked Porsches and put their engines in Volkswagons and sell them to rally drivers. He had a nice side business doing that for many years.
My brother bought a second hand Mitsubishi Evo when he got out of the army. Cost him £4000. I remember being there with him when he took it for a test drive. The acceleration was something else. My knuckles were white on the dashboard. Even the owner hunkered down in the back was like "WTF are you doing?" It had a dump valve in the gearbox and made a loud hiss every time he changed gears. We were doing like 70 down country lanes. My little bro was a bit of a maniac. I miss him.
Quote from: Sephirah on April 17, 2025, 04:09:51 PMThe acceleration was something else. My knuckles were white on the dashboard.
My Jeep can do that. But on the forest service roads, they are often single-lane and rocky. If no oncoming traffic, you could still rip out a gearbox going over some of those rocks. Sometimes erosion kicks in and washes the road away from the rocks, making them more exposed. You have to leave the road to get around them.
I'll just drive like a granny and live a little longer. ;D
One of my customers worked out that my drag car pulled 4G as it launched, best one was taking a Vauxhall Caviller SRI for a road test to see if it was okay for my sister to buy. Salesman had to come with me and his knuckles were white from gripping the seat!!
Davina, scaring the salesman on the test drive must have been so much fun!
Lori, you would laugh at all the NYC "cowboys" who have rigged out Jeeps with absolutely no scratches!
Sephirah, I have driven down several of those "cozy" British country lanes, worrying I would meet someone like your brother coming at me from the opposite direction...I always buy the extra insurance when I rent.
Quote from: Emma1017 on April 19, 2025, 08:47:06 AMLori, you would laugh at all the NYC "cowboys" who have rigged out Jeeps with absolutely no scratches!
Tourists! LOL
That reminds me of the "campers" who come here each year.
One of my favorite places here is Sheridan Lake. It is beautiful, and the campground gives a wonderful view and a short walk downhill to the shore. The "campers" take the best camping spots with their RVs, which are bigger than my apartment. They fire up their generators and sit inside watching TV with the air conditioning on. They never go outside to look at the lake, go fishing, or go for a walk. Why?
You could do all of that at home and not take a good campsite away from us locals, or at least someone who will appreciate the proximity to a beautiful lake.
Jeeps without a scratch and trucks without rust or mud, that is heresy. ;D
"The only difference between men and boys is the price of their toys."
I liked nothing better than going to a VW show and camping over, same with drag racing. You cant beat sitting round a fire pit eating barbeque and drinking beer while chatting to like minded folk.
Quote from: davina61 on April 19, 2025, 11:26:20 AMI liked nothing better than going to a VW show and camping over, same with drag racing. You cant beat sitting round a fire pit eating barbeque and drinking beer while chatting to like minded folk.
When I lived in Colorado, I was into van conversions. Some friends and I had a side business doing interior customization for vans and RVs. They held regular van rallies, like car shows, to show off custom work. It was interesting to see what people did and how they did it.
We would spend the weekend there. The after-hours beer, barbecue, and BS sessions were always a lot of fun.
Quote from: Lori Dee on April 19, 2025, 12:05:55 PMWhen I lived in Colorado, I was into van conversions. Some friends and I had a side business doing interior customization for vans and RVs. They held regular van rallies, like car shows, to show off custom work. It was interesting to see what people did and how they did it.
We would spend the weekend there. The after-hours beer, barbecue, and BS sessions were always a lot of fun.
Sounds like fun.
Quote from: Emma1017 on April 19, 2025, 08:47:06 AMSephirah, I have driven down several of those "cozy" British country lanes, worrying I would meet someone like your brother coming at me from the opposite direction...I always buy the extra insurance when I rent.
"Cosy" is a nice way to put it, lol. Where I live is like... it's what you picture when people talk about "Green and pleasant land" A tiny village in the middle of nowhere, with more horses than people. Literally. There are so many riding schools around here, all doing showjumping events on the weekends. Leafy country lanes with very large hedges and blind corners. It's not uncommon to turn a corner and end up behind several horses out for a jaunt with their riders. The roads are barely wide enough for one car going one way, let alone two cars going in opposite directions. How there haven't been more accidents is beyond me, lol.
Quote from: Sephirah on April 19, 2025, 02:09:02 PMHow there haven't been more accidents is beyond me, lol.
The horses will not allow it. ;D
Quote from: Lori Dee on April 19, 2025, 02:11:09 PMThe horses will not allow it. ;D
Horse overlords. Not even kidding. I've seen double decker buses crawling behind horses, because there are rules on what you can do on the roads when there are horses. And they literally don't care. The people on those buses must hate the horse riders with a passion, lol.
Heck there's even a Llama farm down the road from me. It's a weird, weird place.
At Custer State Park, they have a Wildlife Loop Road that is fun to drive. It is slow-going, but nice scenery. There is a particular spot where the wild burros hang out, and children love it. Great for photos.
I was cutting through the park on one of the back roads to get to a prospecting area that I wanted to check, and encountered a traffic jam. A single-lane road with about twenty cars all stopped. Coming at us, the Park Rangers were on horseback, driving a huge herd of bison of a couple hundred head. Bison don't leave "road apples" like horses; they leave "cow pies". What a mess on that road.
Bison also have no fear. They are huge and will fight a mountain lion if provoked. The only warning you get if they are annoyed with you, or if you are between them and their baby, is that they will raise their tail like a flag. If you don't leave immediately, they will charge you. Many people have died at Yellowstone Park trying to pet the "fluffy cows".
Anyway, as this herd was meandering by all the vehicles, one of them decided they didn't like the front of my truck and tried to head-butt it. He was unsuccessful in moving my truck, so he went around me. I blew a raspberry at him as he went by. ;D
I am kind of envious of just how mesmerisingly beautiful a lot of the US is. Annika showed me some pictures and... we don't have anything like that in the UK. It's just so.. majestic.
One day, hopefully, I'll get to go there and see for myself. :)
Quote from: Sephirah on April 19, 2025, 02:43:16 PMI am kind of envious of just how mesmerisingly beautiful a lot of the US is. Annika showed me some pictures and... we don't have anything like that in the UK. It's just so.. majestic.
One day, hopefully, I'll get to go there and see for myself. :)
Have you seen the Roman stone walls in the UK? I am speaking of Hadrian's Wall and the Antonine Wall.
How about Stonehenge?
Quote from: ChrissyRyan on April 19, 2025, 02:51:55 PMHave you seen the Roman stone walls in the UK? I am speaking of Hadrian's Wall and the Antonine Wall.
How about Stonehenge?
Yeah but that's all man-made. It's not the same thing. Maybe I am just... kind of used to the things people overseas find cool about the UK. For me it isn't what people make, it's what nature makes. Give me something created by nature to be utterly breathtaking... and you have my heart. The world itself is more beautiful than the most beautiful things anyone ever created. Just my opinion. :)
Quote from: Sephirah on April 19, 2025, 02:58:24 PMYeah but that's all man-made. It's not the same thing. Maybe I am just... kind of used to the things people overseas find cool about the UK. For me it isn't what people make, it's what nature makes. Give me something created by nature to be utterly breathtaking... and you have my heart. The world itself is more beautiful than the most beautiful things anyone ever created. Just my opinion. :)
Visit Iceland or Alaska or Canada.
Quote from: Sephirah on April 19, 2025, 02:58:24 PMFor me it isn't what people make, it's what nature makes. Give me something created by nature to be utterly breathtaking... and you have my heart. The world itself is more beautiful than the most beautiful things anyone ever created. Just my opinion. :)
As you know, I am exactly the same way. I still marvel at what man can do, but Nature has us beat by a long shot.
"Imagine the universe beautiful and just and perfect.
Then be sure of one thing:
The [Divine] has imagined it quite a bit better than you have."
Richard Bach
Illusions: The Adventures of a Reluctant Messiah (1977)
Quote from: Sephirah on April 19, 2025, 02:58:24 PMYeah but that's all man-made. It's not the same thing. Maybe I am just... kind of used to the things people overseas find cool about the UK. For me it isn't what people make, it's what nature makes. Give me something created by nature to be utterly breathtaking... and you have my heart. The world itself is more beautiful than the most beautiful things anyone ever created. Just my opinion. :)
Or visit the Grand Canyon.
Quote from: ChrissyRyan on April 19, 2025, 03:10:06 PMVisit Iceland or Alaska or Canada.
They are on my bucket list, Chrissy. Sadly it's kind of a deep bucket at this point. But yeah... I would be over the moon to see those places. :)
Quote from: Lori Dee on April 19, 2025, 03:57:14 PMAs you know, I am exactly the same way. I still marvel at what man can do, but Nature has us beat by a long shot.
"Imagine the universe beautiful and just and perfect.
Then be sure of one thing:
The [Divine] has imagined it quite a bit better than you have."
Richard Bach
Illusions: The Adventures of a Reluctant Messiah (1977)
I think that's why I get you, Lori. Some people never lose the wonder of an eight year old.
Quote from: Sephirah on April 19, 2025, 04:26:30 PMI think that's why I get you, Lori. Some people never lose the wonder of an eight year old.
I'll be eight next year! ;D
Hah! ;D You are hands down my favourite rockhound. Seeing what nature can do, with sometimes a bit of help, is just breathtaking. It has people beat. I am not religious. I don't subscribe to intelligent design or anything like that. My favourite TV show is "Lucifer", which shows just how dysfunctional a celestial hierarchy would be. I think that... beauty just happens. Once in a while.
Kind of like you, Lori. Sometimes everything comes together to produce something beyond what you can envisage. And all you can do is be grateful to witness it. :) If Pierce Brosnan had a much smarter, sassier sister in "Dante's Peak" that would be you. ;)
Lori rocks!
Chrissy
Bluebells in flower in the woods on Malvern hills is the most wonderful sight.
Yellowstone National Park would be a nice visit too.
Chrissy
I want to visit MOAB. 😊
Quote from: ChrissyRyan on April 20, 2025, 07:55:57 AMYellowstone National Park would be a nice visit too.
Chrissy
I visited there a couple of years ago. I got to see the Old Faithful geyser and the Painted Pools. So many beautiful colors! It was still brutally cold the first week of May, but I wanted to beat the tourist traffic. I should have waited until it was warmer. ;D
There are still some foolish people who get too close to the wild animals there.
Some get off the paths and walk on or near the high temperature areas. Also unwise.
I am an ocean person. I have lived on the ocean all my life and started scuba diving and surfing when I was young. My mountains are waves and underwater. I have to retire from both, my knees are shot, but I have taken up day hiking and kayaking. I love early mornings in the fog as the sun rises.
Lori, I am jealous of the night sky you must see. Stars are always more impressive than skyscrapers.
Sephirah, I have spent a lot of time excavating and hiking on Hadrian's Wall. The Romans picked a great spot for the Wall, running along the cliffs. That mix of nature and man always inspires me...there's a great pub nearby too.
Chrissy, we have a different group of idiots here in NYC. They try to commune with nature by jumping into a bear cage at the zoo.
You are all right, we are surrounded by beauty. All you have to do is open your eyes and see. Sadly, we have so many blind people who spend so much time taking pictures to look at later rather than seeing where they are now.
I love how we share and inspire here! There is so much world to see and you don't need to be everywhere to appreciate it. Shared experiences among friends are the best postcards.
I am disappointed to see litter.
I saw one guy throw out a pop bottle as he was pulling into a trailer park.
Some people think that the world is a big trash can.
Quote from: ChrissyRyan on April 21, 2025, 07:41:53 PMI am disappointed to see litter.
Pet peeve. Littering. How hard is it to keep the trash in your car until you stop. Bins are everywhere these days.
Extremely disappointed in Cuba a couple of years ago. On approach to Jose Marti Int'l Air Port the piles of litter were astounding outside the city and along the coast in the water. Very sad situation for a country that has some of the best public health/medical schools in Latin America. Not much trach along the main roads and streets in Havana, just outside the 'tourist areas'.
I was intrigued to see the carcasses of Soviet era military equipment abandoned around the Airport. Reminders that I'm a Cold War era Vet.
IT'S A SCAM! :laugh:
I just watched a movie called "McVeigh: Based on Real Events". The story is about a young man and how he built a huge bomb, and what was happening in his life that motivated him to do it. The end of the movie is somewhat anticlimactic because the movie ends with him driving a truck full of explosives, and then cuts to newsreel footage of the OKC bombing aftermath.
After the credits roll by is the standard legal disclaimer:
"THE CHARACTERS AND EVENTS PORTRAYED IN THIS MOTION PICTURE ARE FICTITIOUS. ANY SIMILARITY TO ACTUAL PERSONS, LIVING OR DEAD, OR TO ACTUAL EVENTS IS PURELY COINCIDENTAL... yada yada"
So this is NOT based on real events?
The Timothy McVeigh in the movie was just made up and has absolutely no connection to THE Timothy McVeigh? ???
I got sucked into a story for 90 minutes... for what?
Gotta love Hollyweird productions. :laugh:
Sad real life event this was.
The lawyers wrote the end credits, Lori. That changes all realities!!!😁
Quote from: Lori Dee on April 23, 2025, 07:53:59 PMIT'S A SCAM! :laugh:
I just watched a movie called "McVeigh: Based on Real Events". The story is about a young man and how he built a huge bomb, and what was happening in his life that motivated him to do it. The end of the movie is somewhat anticlimactic because the movie ends with him driving a truck full of explosives, and then cuts to newsreel footage of the OKC bombing aftermath.
After the credits roll by is the standard legal disclaimer:
"THE CHARACTERS AND EVENTS PORTRAYED IN THIS MOTION PICTURE ARE FICTITIOUS. ANY SIMILARITY TO ACTUAL PERSONS, LIVING OR DEAD, OR TO ACTUAL EVENTS IS PURELY COINCIDENTAL... yada yada"
So this is NOT based on real events?
The Timothy McVeigh in the movie was just made up and has absolutely no connection to THE Timothy McVeigh? ???
I got sucked into a story for 90 minutes... for what?
Gotta love Hollyweird productions. :laugh:
That is really, really dumb. Like.. really dumb.
TV movies are kind of disgusting.
Quote from: Sephirah on April 24, 2025, 10:32:07 PMTV movies are kind of disgusting.
I bought this movie. I was thinking it might be informational. Ugh. :laugh:
Quote from: Lori Dee on April 24, 2025, 11:13:59 PMI bought this movie. I was thinking it might be informational. Ugh. :laugh:
If someone is vaguely orange, and has a hairstyle that a hurricane wouldn't shift... run. Run far, run fast. That's my takeaway from TV movies. You can usually find much better stuff on YouTube, lol.
Quote from: Sephirah on April 25, 2025, 06:34:46 AMIf someone is vaguely orange, and has a hairstyle that a hurricane wouldn't shift... run. Run far, run fast. That's my takeaway from TV movies. You can usually find much better stuff on YouTube, lol.
I realize that these movies are just dramatizations for entertainment. I was merely pointing out the hypocrisy.
I have about 700 movies in my collection (DVD, Blu-ray, and digital copies). Sometimes bundles go on sale, so I add them to my collection. I just recently got 25 horror movie classics for $25. Sometimes you get a good one and sometimes... not so much.
I had seen a movie a while ago that told the story of Noah and the Ark, but I couldn't remember who played Noah. It was a good one. Then, a movie called Noah starring Russell Crowe went on sale, so I grabbed it. That wasn't it. This movie had these alien rock-monster looking things attacking Noah's Ark. I was like What the ... ??? I'm okay with the story deviating a little, but at least make it believable. Hollyweird lost me on that one.
YouTube is no innocent by any means. I still have people telling me they know how to unlock a car using a tennis ball, even though those videos were debunked as hoaxes years ago.
Quote from: Lori Dee on April 25, 2025, 09:25:40 AMI still have people telling me they know how to unlock a car using a tennis ball, even though those videos were debunked as hoaxes years ago.
The car I learned to drive in didn't even need a tennis ball :-) You just pressed on the window till the catch unlatched, slid it back and popped the lock. It wasn't just that particular car, either, you could do it with every copy of the model they sold!
And if you had a worn FS code key you could get into and start a lot of 50s/early 60s stuff by doing the jiggle in the lock trick.
Quote from: Lori Dee on April 25, 2025, 09:25:40 AMI realize that these movies are just dramatizations for entertainment. I was merely pointing out the hypocrisy.
I have about 700 movies in my collection (DVD, Blu-ray, and digital copies). Sometimes bundles go on sale, so I add them to my collection. I just recently got 25 horror movie classics for $25. Sometimes you get a good one and sometimes... not so much.
I had seen a movie a while ago that told the story of Noah and the Ark, but I couldn't remember who played Noah. It was a good one. Then, a movie called Noah starring Russell Crowe went on sale, so I grabbed it. That wasn't it. This movie had these alien rock-monster looking things attacking Noah's Ark. I was like What the ... ??? I'm okay with the story deviating a little, but at least make it believable. Hollyweird lost me on that one.
YouTube is no innocent by any means. I still have people telling me they know how to unlock a car using a tennis ball, even though those videos were debunked as hoaxes years ago.
700 movies? That's... wow. I do not have a collection. Just a couple of hard drives hahaha.
Was the Noah movie you saw the one with John Voight? I am not sure it was a movie, though. It was billed as a mini-series even though it was only split into two parts. That's the only other one I know.
https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0168355/
Quote from: davina61 on April 25, 2025, 11:39:15 AMAnd if you had a worn FS code key you could get into and start a lot of 50s/early 60s stuff by doing the jiggle in the lock trick.
Dad once got into a car and drove it nearly to the end of the road before realising it was the same model as his, but the wrong vehicle. I'd noticed and was killing myself on the back seat. But you're right, his key worked in the door and the ignition.
Quote from: Sephirah on April 25, 2025, 12:18:59 PM700 movies? That's... wow. I do not have a collection. Just a couple of hard drives hahaha.
Was the Noah movie you saw the one with John Voight? I am not sure it was a movie, though. It was billed as a mini-series even though it was only split into two parts. That's the only other one I know.
https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0168355/
That doesn't look familiar, unless they made it into a single feature. I don't watch TV, only movies. It may have been Jon Voight but for some reason I was thinking it was Mel Gibson. I remember thinking that it was going to be crap because I couldn't see that actor in that role, but it turned out well.
Now, I'll have to do some digging. ;D
Quote from: TanyaG on April 25, 2025, 01:01:04 PMDad once got into a car and drove it nearly to the end of the road before realising it was the same model as his, but the wrong vehicle. I'd noticed and was killing myself on the back seat. But you're right, his key worked in the door and the ignition.
Just last summer, my neighbor had her Chevy Equinox stolen. She got it back undamaged. The police said the thieves went to a dealership and bought a new key/fob to replace one that was "stolen". They then used that fob to unlock her car, and she had a spare key inside, so they just drove away. I guess any security fob will work on the same make & model.
She had her ignition rekeyed. Then she and I both got "clubs" for the steering wheel. I also have window stickers that I shared with some of the neighbors that say that this vehicle has GPS tracking. Any alarm will notify the Police and the owner, and begin tracking the vehicle location.
The perps were apprehended in a totally unrelated theft (in another part of town). No more vehicles have been stolen since then.
Quote from: Lori Dee on April 25, 2025, 01:04:09 PMNow, I'll have to do some digging. ;D
Please do, you've got me curious, lol. Never knew you were a filmhound, too, Lori. This girl has all the skillz.
I quite like some of Gibson's movies. Not sure how I feel about him as a person, but you shouldn't let an artist influence their art. My favourite movie of his is "Gallipoli". An Australian movie back before he made it in Hollywood. I kind of have a thing for Oz movies. There's something very visceral about them.
Quote from: Lori Dee on April 25, 2025, 01:10:54 PMJust last summer, my neighbor had her Chevy Equinox stolen. She got it back undamaged. The police said the thieves went to a dealership and bought a new key/fob to replace one that was "stolen". They then used that fob to unlock her car, and she had a spare key inside, so they just drove away. I guess any security fob will work on the same make & model.
She had her ignition rekeyed. Then she and I both got "clubs" for the steering wheel. I also have window stickers that I shared with some of the neighbors that say that this vehicle has GPS tracking. Any alarm will notify the Police and the owner, and begin tracking the vehicle location.
The perps were apprehended in a totally unrelated theft (in another part of town). No more vehicles have been stolen since then.
There are some evil people in this world.
It is good to have nice people like you Lori.
Chrissy
Quote from: Sephirah on April 25, 2025, 01:15:57 PMPlease do, you've got me curious, lol. Never knew you were a filmhound, too, Lori. This girl has all the skillz.
It started as a goal to have 365 movies. I usually watch a movie in the evening while eating dinner. So if I have 365, I can watch a different movie each day.
However, I quickly discovered that some movies that I like are not fit for dinnertime (Hacksaw Ridge, and other wartime movies). So my goal got shifted to 700 so I have a bigger selection. Although I have almost 700, I have quite few that are complete garbage. They are so bad, I quit watching after 15 minutes. I wait a few days and try again, then they go into the "NOPE" folder.
Like you, I don't care about the actor's personal life or agendas. I like Morgan Freeman, George Clooney, Johnny Depp, Angelina Jolie, Gina Carano, and others, even though I disagree with their personal opinions. Don't even get me started on Sean Penn. If they do a good job entertaining me, then I tend to forgive their trespasses. I don't want to get to know them IRL, so they exist only on the screen for me.
Quote from: Lori Dee on April 25, 2025, 02:13:16 PMLike you, I don't care about the actor's personal life or agendas. I like Morgan Freeman, George Clooney, Johnny Depp, Angelina Jolie, Gina Carano, and others, even though I disagree with their personal opinions. Don't even get me started on Sean Penn. If they do a good job entertaining me, then I tend to forgive their trespasses. I don't want to get to know them IRL, so they exist only on the screen for me.
This. All you need to care about is if something takes you to another place.
What is your favourite movie, Lori? If that is a question you can even answer.
Quote from: Sephirah on April 25, 2025, 02:54:54 PMWhat is your favourite movie, Lori? If that is a question you can even answer.
The Martian (Matt Damon). I have it in 4K UHD, and the scenery is amazing.
followed by
Fury (Brad Pitt)... because... tanks!
Beyond those, it varies by genre
Quote from: Lori Dee on April 25, 2025, 03:32:01 PMThe Martian (Matt Damon). I have it in 4K UHD, and the scenery is amazing.
The Martian would also be on my list of favorites (I've watched it at least three times). I'm in the middle of a Gallipoli series but will look for Mel Gibson's version.
I have seen "The Martian". It's very good but I think "Fury" is better. I loved that movie. I will say, one of those movies put "Science the s**t out of it!" into common vernacular ;D
Quote from: Sephirah on April 25, 2025, 03:54:31 PMI have seen "The Martian". It's very good but I think "Fury" is better. I loved that movie. I will say, one of those movies put "Science the s**t out of it!" into common vernacular ;D
That was the Martian. LOL
Quote from: Lori Dee on April 25, 2025, 03:56:14 PMThat was the Martian. LOL
Yeah, lol. Mark Wahlberg proved man can live on potatoes ;D
I like Fury because they portrayed how in WW2 a tank, for the crew, was basically their home. And they would die to defend it.
Quote from: Sephirah on April 25, 2025, 04:00:43 PMYeah, lol. Mark Wahlberg proved man can live on potatoes ;D
I like Fury because they portrayed how in WW2 a tank, for the crew, was basically their home. And they would die to defend it.
Matt Damon, not Wahlberg.
That is also what I like about Fury.
Whoever wrote the script had a very good adviser, someone who really knows how a tank crew operates. Yes, there is constant fighting amongst crew members. But like a family, when there is an enemy outside the tank, everyone comes together to work as a team. They don't always agree with the Tank Commander, but they trust their lives with his experience and knowledge of what the tank and its crew are truly capable of.
Quote from: Lori Dee on April 25, 2025, 04:07:43 PMMatt Damon, not Wahlberg.
That is also what I like about Fury.
Whoever wrote the script had a very good adviser, someone who really knows how a tank crew operates. Yes, there is constant fighting amongst crew members. But like a family, when there is an enemy outside the tank, everyone comes together to work as a team. They don't always agree with the Tank Commander, but they trust their lives with his experience and knowledge of what the tank and its crew are truly capable of.
Sorry, I literally always get them confused. Which one did "Shooter"?
That you were a part of the whole land behemoth thing is utterly amazing to me, Lori. Tanks are kind of... you can't help but be impressed.
Quote from: Sephirah on April 25, 2025, 04:16:33 PMSorry, I literally always get them confused. Which one did "Shooter"?
I do too. That was Mark Wahlberg. Both movies had Michael Peña, another one I like. Another good Wahlberg war movie is Lone Survivor. The way they go over the edge of those cliffs makes my _________ pucker. Ouch!
Update: The packing-to-move project is progressing nicely. I now have five boxes packed and ready to go. The problem was that they were right in the way of everything.
This apartment has a "dining room," as it is called on the blueprints. It is a 9' by 10' alcove of sorts directly adjacent to the eat-in kitchen that features an island. None of the residents understands how such a small space could be considered a dining room. No one uses it for that, and we all agree that they should have put doors across it and made it a walk-in closet. That is where I have been storing my camping/mining gear when it is not in my Jeep.
So, I pulled all the gear out, swept and mopped the floor, took down maps and pictures, and patched the nail holes with spackle. Now that the space is clean, I moved the boxes of rocks, DVDs, jewelry supplies & tools, and rock tumbling machines into that space. Now I have room to pack more boxes and a place to store them for a bit.
Five boxes down. Fifteen more to go. ;D
Quote from: Lori Dee on April 25, 2025, 04:29:26 PMI do too. That was Mark Wahlberg. Both movies had Michael Peña, another one I like. Another good Wahlberg war movie is Lone Survivor. The way they go over the edge of those cliffs makes my _________ pucker. Ouch!
I have seen that too, Lori. I think we are into the same stuff.
Have you seen the movie "Warhorse One"? I think you might like it. :)
Sunny and 73 this morning. Thunderstorms en route, so rain with a chance of hail.
This time of year, we get liquid sunshine and rocky rain. ;D
I ran to the store to pick up supplies. Looks like we have begun terrorist tourist season. Officially, it doesn't start until mid-May. Then we get the RVs convoying in to snag up all the campgrounds before Memorial Day. Each year, they arrive earlier. I blame Climate Change.
When I came out to the parking lot, there was a Jeep parked next to me with Wyoming plates and covered in dust. On the back window was a sticker that read:
STOP!
I see a ROCK!
I can relate. :)
It is stories like this that keep me interested in treasure hunting.
Hidden trove of treasure worth over $340,000 found by hikers in Czech Republic
https://www.cbsnews.com/news/treasure-trove-gold-czech-republic-hikers-find-coins-jewelry/
CBS News - Kerry Breen
Updated on: April 30, 2025 / 11:42 AM EDT
Two people hiking in the Czech Republic found a treasure trove worth over $340,000 while walking on the edge of an overgrown forest, according to the museum that took possession of the items.
The Museum of East Bohemia said the hikers found gold coins, jewelry and tobacco bags. The found objects weighed about 15 pounds, the museum said on social media.
The treasure was found in two containers in a man-made stone wall, the museum said. First, the hikers spotted an aluminum jar, which contained 598 gold coins, divided into columns and wrapped in black fabric. Local media reported the treasure was valued at 7.5 million Czech crowns, which is about $341,000.
This is why I own two metal detectors, plus my mining equipment. I love the thrill of the hunt.
Today will be another busy day as I get things ready for my trip. I'll be spending a week in Colorado, so today will be doing laundry, packing suitcases, and clearing mining gear out of my Jeep to make room in the back.
I have been storing some things for my cousin (3 totes and a large jewelry box on legs) for the past eight years or so. Now that she has her own place, she has room, and I don't want to move it anymore. So tomorrow will be spent packing up the Jeep and getting everything loaded and ready. I'll be on the road early Sunday morning, then return sometime Friday or Saturday.
Safe journey!
Stop for the rocks!
Lori,
Have a safe trip.
Enjoy your time.
Chrissy
Quote from: Lori Dee on May 02, 2025, 09:11:57 AMToday will be another busy day as I get things ready for my trip. I'll be spending a week in Colorado, so today will be doing laundry, packing suitcases, and clearing mining gear out of my Jeep to make room in the back.
I have been storing some things for my cousin (3 totes and a large jewelry box on legs) for the past eight years or so. Now that she has her own place, she has room, and I don't want to move it anymore. So tomorrow will be spent packing up the Jeep and getting everything loaded and ready. I'll be on the road early Sunday morning, then return sometime Friday or Saturday.
Lori,have you ever checked out Fort Collins? I have been looking into this place. Seems pretty friendly.
Quote from: Annaliese on May 03, 2025, 02:29:29 PMLori,have you ever checked out Fort Collins? I have been looking into this place. Seems pretty friendly.
I am from that area. I went to high school in Loveland, and my parents have lived there since the 70's. I have lots of kin in Fort Collins (I think they breed like rabbits). It is a college town, so there is the friendly side, but all of Northern Colorado is Trump country. I know this because my relatives are Trump cultists, which is why I live in South Dakota. ;D And why I am looking at the Pueblo area.
The cost of living is high from Fort Collins all the way to Colorado Springs along the I-25 corridor. The further south you go, the cheaper things become. Out on the plains or the west slope of the Rockies, it is cheaper, but then you are back in Trump country. The only thing keeping Colorado Democrat is the high population areas along the I-25 corridor.
I'm not a fan of big cities, but that is where the services are, like shopping, medical, and VA facilities. Small towns don't have as much to offer. So my trip tomorrow is to scout the area and see if I can find a nice compromise.
Quote from: Lori Dee on May 03, 2025, 02:52:03 PMI am from that area. I went to high school in Loveland, and my parents have lived there since the 70's. I have lots of kin in Fort Collins (I think they breed like rabbits). It is a college town, so there is the friendly side, but all of Northern Colorado is Trump country. I know this because my relatives are Trump cultists, which is why I live in South Dakota. ;D And why I am looking at the Pueblo area.
The cost of living is high from Fort Collins all the way to Colorado Springs along the I-25 corridor. The further south you go, the cheaper things become. Out on the plains or the west slope of the Rockies, it is cheaper, but then you are back in Trump country. The only thing keeping Colorado Democrat is the high population areas along the I-25 corridor.
I'm not a fan of big cities, but that is where the services are, like shopping, medical, and VA facilities. Small towns don't have as much to offer. So my trip tomorrow is to scout the area and see if I can find a nice compromise.
Thanks, I didn't know that aspect. I'm glad I mentioned that to you. I definitely will leave that area off my list. I will wait to see how your scouting trip goes before I explore anymore. 😊 Thank you. 🤗
Safe travels, Lori! I hope you find an area you like. Stay safe.
Love always -- Jessica Rose
Thanks, Jess. I'll let you know what I find.
@Lori DeeDear Lori:
Continue to have safe travels.
I hope and trust that you will find exactly what you are looking for at the
price that you can afford.
Keep us updated as you are able.
My best wishes to you.
HUGS, Danielle [Northern Star Girl]
Quote from: Lori Dee on May 02, 2025, 09:11:57 AMToday will be another busy day as I get things ready for my trip. I'll be spending a week in Colorado, so today will be doing laundry, packing suitcases, and clearing mining gear out of my Jeep to make room in the back.
Have a lot of fun, Lori! xx
Consider checking out some of these places Lori:
Grand Junction
And. . .
Note that some may not provide much of what many would call affordable housing!
Some are more remote.
Aspen
Boulder
Breckenridge
Crested Butte
Durango
Estes Park
Frisco
Ouray
Telluride.
Plus Colorado Springs, Denver, Glenwood Springs, Loveland, Silverton, Steamboat Springs, Woodland Park and perhaps Creede, Cripple Creek, Georgetown, Leadville and the Pueblo you plan to check out. You know about Fort Collins.
Good luck.
Maybe you have been to all of them but not necessarily to find rentals or homes to buy.
Lori,
Have you been to LEAD's Broken Boot Gold Mine and the Black Hills Mining Museum?
They sound interesting!
Chrissy
Safe travels, Lori! I hope you find exactly what you're looking for (and perhaps a wee bit of gold along the way).
Lori,
Have you been to Custer or Deadwood, S.D.?
Pictures of the area look interesting.
Chrissy
Quote from: D'Amalie on May 02, 2025, 09:17:53 AMStop for the rocks!
So quiet... Did she find a gem and decide not to come back? ;D
~ Lilis 💗
Quote from: Lilis on May 05, 2025, 08:08:16 PMSo quiet... Did she find a gem and decide not to come back? ;D
~ Lilis 💗
Well I had to visit two cities last week and did not post all that much but she is trying to be with kin and visit a lot of cities so she is likely busy, tired, and how she connects to here may have limitations. She will return.
Plus, she does need not find a gem as Lori is a gem.
Hugs,
Chrissy
Quote from: ChrissyRyan on May 05, 2025, 08:56:17 PMWell I had to visit two cities last week and did not post all that much but she is trying to be with kin and visit a lot of cities so she is likely busy, tired, and how she connects to here may have limitations. She will return.
Cool, it sounds like it's going to be a long trip, wishing her a safe journey.
~ Lilis 💗