My answer is that I can gain female privileges by changing my sex. For example, man will buy a free beer or coffee for me since I am a woman.  What's ur answer?

Quote from: ddone on March 23, 2013, 12:26:18 AM
My answer is that I can gain female privileges by changing my sex. For example, man will buy a free beer or coffee for me since I am a woman.  What's ur answer?

I sure hope you got a better reason than having men buy you stuff. But I feel the reason why I want to be a woman is because that is who I really am.

I would have to say that I am a woman, I just want to fix the body to match.

@ddone,

My immediate thought is precisely what Heather has said.
Heather

QuoteI want to be a woman is because that is who I really am.

In my initial coming out appointment with my GP & my gender Doc, then I immediately gave a brief history of my journey, to get the dialogue going.

Jamie

Just to be myself. As I told my mother:  I understand it will bring plenty of disadvantages in employment and income, as I know the average income and employment rates of women are lower in almost all countries around the world, not to mention trans women. However I still strongly feel that it is just the right way for me. Otherwise I will never feel happy even if I have a great great job as a man.

I'd reply, 'I don't want to be a woman - I am one.'

Quote from: Kelly the Trans-Rebel on March 23, 2013, 12:51:51 AM
I'd reply, 'I don't want to be a woman - I am one.'

I'm going with Rebel on this one 

And I'm even more rebellious, that I don't want men buying me stuff...I got my own money!

Quote from: Heather on March 23, 2013, 12:34:50 AM
I sure hope you got a better reason than having men buy you stuff. But I feel the reason why I want to be a woman is because that is who I really am.

I just wanna be a wimpy chick so that men will take of me. I just do not think I can be a stereotype strong man.

Quote from: ddone on March 23, 2013, 03:07:31 AM
I just wanna be a wimpy chick so that men will take of me. I just do not think I can be a stereotype strong man.

Strong women get further in life.. Just because you can't be a strong man doesn't mean you can't be a strong woman.

I said to my therapist, "Because I feel that I'm a female inside anyways, and I want my brain to match my body!"

I have no idea why I want to be a woman. I know objectively that because I'm transgender, the part of my brain that dictates my gender understands that it doesn't my body or my lifestyle.

But subjectively, it's a desire without source. When I articulate the advantages vs. disadvantages of transitioning, the disadvantages win.

But it's not a logical conclusion. It's a primal drive to match my body with my brain.

You might be sitting there thinking that I'm someone trying to be someone I'm not, and I will agree with you.

But you're looking from the outside and looking at me as a male, and I'm telling you from the inside that I'm a female and I just can't go on any more pretending that I'm a male just because of the way I look. I've done my best over the years but I don't feel it and I just can't handle it any more.

I'm tired of lying to myself and others and hiding my true self for the sake of acceptance. I want to embrace the truth, and start being myself openly even if I'm hated for it.

What an odd question.  Well I suppose I  can see the logic of asking it.  I don't *want to be* I just am.  Perhaps you would like to ask me why I want to be human?

It began with my thinking I was sharing my head with a woman and that I was both. I listened long enough to hear the woman in my head of course, and then it started to dawn on me, the man in my head was the woman too.

I had someone trying to get me to 'heal' and I KNOW they were concerned that I needed for the man to stop hating the woman, and for the woman to stop hating the man and that I needed to heal both of me. But the thing is, the man was never really there, it was just a woman who was confused, and to used to being told the wrong story. The only 'healing' I have done, is for the woman to stop trying to hate this imaginary man she had been pretending was there.

I don't want to 'be a woman' as is being asked in the OPs remark as said by a shrink, I AM a woman, and all I want, is aid in fixing the damage done to me over the years. I want to reverse all the incorrect programming. I want to delete the bugs, and I want the right hardware if possible.

I am not a man is what is important. I want to have people stop treating me like one.

I am thinking the same as kelly and Steph.

As for dealing with discrimination or any other problems, I don't really see how things will be any different. Life's a bitch, which ever way we look at it, but it's a bit harder when you have to lug around something that stinks and makes me feel like crap.

Then I'd smile. 

When I think of it, I think of Ranma (anime) and a show called Kashi Mashi Girl Meets Girl (also an anime).

Ok admit it, if a bucket of water in the face made you fully and biologically the other half, you WOULD abuse the option I would, you would they would we all would.

Why pay for your drink if some horny male will do it for you.

Why have to kneel in front of the boss to get a raise, if you can switch genders and be all manly about demanding you get the spot instead of the other guy.

I watched the second show I mentioned, and I admit, it was a revealing experience looking at the show. Guy dies in accident, and is recreated by the aliens that accidentally killed him, but they screw up and make him female right down to the cellular level by mistake. It is not reversible too. If that happened to me tomorrow, well no, I would not be able to just walk into a female lifestyle just because I am female on the inside.

I have never put breasts into a bra. In the show, it was funny watching a girlfriend of the guy needing to explain how to do it to her.
She had to be taught how to be female.

I walk unlike a female. But I don't know any other way to walk.
I am sure I look male when I am walking, but I look carefully at others walking and it is often hard to see what is different.
And yet, you can tell the girl from the guy if two people are walking in front of you and dressed in a non gender specific outfit.

Just too many little details too hard to really define. But it takes YEARS of conditioning to make little girls into young women.

 My answer would be a relatively simple list of things. I want to be a woman so that I can:

- Express myself freely without people thinking I'm extremely flamboyant/weird/gay.
- Wear the things I'd like to wear, and hopefully, look pretty in them.
- Enjoy being in a romantic/sexual relationship.
- Listen to the sound of my own voice, or look into a mirror, without wanting to cry.
- Hopefully be happy enough to become comfortable with the thought of crawling out of my solitude.

I'm not sure that I am a woman, really. I can't be anyone other than myself, and I can't know how everyone else experiences being male or female, so how I know what the experiences of being male or female are like is entirely subjective. Therefore, I can only say that I'm sure that I am what I believe to be female.

Ultimately, this journey is about following my happiness. Whether I'm right or wrong about truly being female is probably irrelevant, a long as I continue to grow in joy.

I have always been female since the day I was born, despite my anatomical incongruities. Self realization of this fact may have taken longer than I liked though.

There is no solid reason for me to want to be a woman, besides being comfortable in my own skin in accordance to how I identify and to be seen by others the way I want to be seen--as a woman, because I am one.

Here in Australia, that question arises but the focus is really about your own stability in what you are undertaking and is there a need for a support structure. For me this the 2nd time round jumping through hoops for the mental health community. it's a good time to make a check on yourself but not about the primary reason, it's more to do with the daily stuff, taking time to reflect on your immediate environment. it's never about my body modification. Love yourself and that will be seen.