Sexual Orientation/Attraction

Jennygirl · April 29, 2013, 02:44:55 AM

When I started out, I hadn't ever experimented with my sexual orientation at all. Now that I am free to be who I am in every way (in a sense unrestrained), I find myself just attracted to people in general both sexually and romantically. It all happened kind of fast I guess, and I love it.

Now as far as kissing being sexual, I definitely have to say that to me kissing can be VERY sexual. I have always gotten some of the greatest pleasure from a kiss. It just depends on what it means to you and the subconscious intent of the kiss is. To me, when the context is right, a kiss is absolutely sexual. To the max.

Padma · April 29, 2013, 03:49:49 AM

I agree, a kiss can be very sexual - or very sensual - or very affectionate - depending on what's going on in the minds of the kissers. I basically like pretty much everything that goes with a sexual relationship, apart from the sex itself. I'm very lucky to have been meeting a whole lot of other asexual people lately, who can empathise with this - because I don't expect people whose experience is different to be able to empathise in the same way.

Padma · April 29, 2013, 10:06:45 AM

Oh well, fair enough then.

Padma · April 29, 2013, 07:53:15 PM

I really love it that other people enjoy the passion, and the raunch, and all that stuff - and I'm very relieved to admit that I don't. I didn't mean to hijack a thread about sexuality with talk of asexuality, I was just introducing another flavour to the mix, and responding to the "/attraction" part (same thing with the binary/non-binary). Diversity is lush.

Teela Renee · April 29, 2013, 09:53:59 PM

Im attracted to females. but in recent months ive lost more and more intrest in them. I catch my self checking out men more and more often. and having curious thoughts constantly. It totally weirds me out cause im not used to being attracted to men..... I have no idea how to handle this on top of having just gone full time.....

A · April 29, 2013, 11:22:52 PM

Uhm, calling the moment just before sex passion is pretty wide. Passion is just so very wide. Telling someone you love them more than anything with butterflies in your stomach and sparkles in your eyes is very passionate as well. And actually, drawing a masterpiece with a big smile and the head full of inspiration is passion as well. I'd rather call the particular aspect of passion you described "lust". Although it's sort of gloomy.

Padma · April 30, 2013, 08:02:23 AM

I think we'd all be best off if we don't analyse each others' experiences, but just stick with our own (and that goes for me, too). We've all got slightly-to-very different associations with the same words, it's probably a bit of a waste of time challenging each other's uses of terms.

Devlyn · April 30, 2013, 08:12:46 AM

There's always the Private Message option, contrary to popular belief, silly arguments aren't that much fun to watch.

Charley Bea(EmeraldP) · April 30, 2013, 08:25:30 AM

I selected option B. That said I wouldn't actually know if I am attracted to someone just as I wouldn't know if someone is attracted to me. I chose B because I find myself thinking(sometimes) fantasizing only about women and could only see myself dating a woman cisgendered or MTF. No interest in men at all. I suppose that could change though as I may one day if I find myself attracted to someone I would prefer it be on an emotional/mental level doubt it would be sexual(that could happen).

But yes I like other ladies

Shakira · May 01, 2013, 01:09:02 AM

I chose both.There's something really nice about being with a guy,but for me girls are just way better at snuggling and canoodling.

Tristan · May 01, 2013, 01:00:13 PM

I like guys. They can be so much fun and can do some great things in bed too. I can't say that I'm into girls though? Ever since I became post op I have become even more into guys. Totally boy crazy

pebbles · May 03, 2013, 04:11:04 PM

Yikes that poll reminds me of another certain translady I know IRL.

I don't get along with her very well. She's obsessed with categorizing people.

Her: Are you attracted to bearded men Alice?
Me: I'm bisexual... And stubble.
Her: Ooh so your a pogono-andro-gyno-phile
Me: No I'm Bisexual...
Her: I think you will find Panssexual is the correct technical term, you've mentioned how you've been attracted to other transpepole in the past.
Me: *Annoyed* No Gemma I'm Bisexual, Are you Alice-Phobic?
Her: That's not a real word.
Me: You should be...

Anatta · May 04, 2013, 01:05:38 AM

Quote from: pebbles on May 03, 2013, 04:11:04 PM
Yikes that poll reminds me of another certain translady I know IRL.

I don't get along with her very well. She's obsessed with categorizing people.

Kia Ora Pebbles,

You will find this poll 'allows' the participants to 'self' categorise, I've just added possible options for 'self' description ...You will also find many members feel they fit neatly or with a bit of a squeeze into a certain box, whilst others-well.... they tend to select 'other'...

The sexuality of some people is 'fluid' they don't fit any box...So whatever floats their boat...

It's just a poll and I assure you there's no hidden add-gender

and thank you for your participation...

Metta Zenda

Jennygirl · May 06, 2013, 05:36:59 AM

It seems that with every passing week I pay more attention to cute boys. I'm still figuring out how to react to it, though. I've a lot of learning to do.

I dunno if it's because I've been getting a little more attention from them, or if I have actually found them attractive and just buried the idea.. Or if the attraction is based on the attention.. So confusing

Elsa · May 06, 2013, 08:28:18 AM

I guess I would be asexual and Bi-Romantic. That actually took me a while to google and figure out.

I have no attraction to either genders although I am bisexual. If that makes any sense.

Padma · May 06, 2013, 08:58:55 AM

Makes sense to me - sexual attraction is just a subset of attraction, so there are many other ways to be attracted, including romantic and sensual and aesthetic and and and...

Nero · May 06, 2013, 09:39:06 AM

Quote from: Jennygirl on May 06, 2013, 05:36:59 AM

I dunno if it's because I've been getting a little more attention from them, or if I have actually found them attractive and just buried the idea.. Or if the attraction is based on the attention.. So confusing

They say women's sexuality is more reactive, so that would make sense if your attraction is based on attention. After all, usually a woman needs to 'warm up' to the idea. She's usually not just going to jump a guy's bones just because she likes the look of him.

XxHaileyxX · May 06, 2013, 10:02:19 AM

I'm deff straight, have had more guys attempt to get into my panties than I can count, lawlz. And Im post op as well, but am not giving it up that easy!! Havent found a guy thats worth it yet

Seyranna · May 06, 2013, 12:47:53 PM

I'm not there too... I'm androgynophilic but homo-romantic. In other words I'm a lesbian who happens to also like the dick but not the male gender.

brainiac · May 06, 2013, 03:42:49 PM

Quote from: Not-so Fat Admin on May 06, 2013, 09:39:06 AM
They say women's sexuality is more reactive, so that would make sense if your attraction is based on attention. After all, usually a woman needs to 'warm up' to the idea. She's usually not just going to jump a guy's bones just because she likes the look of him.

Hmm, interesting article! I wonder to what extent this is due to testosterone levels. I identify as pansexual or bisexual and I'm attracted to men, women and non-binary people (romantically and sexually). But, if I see someone on the street who I'm attracted to, that doesn't mean that I want to/wish I could have sex with that person/fantasize about that person. I don't. (Just to clarify, I'm FAAB and mostly male-identified, and not on HRT). My partner, cis male, mostly hetero, doesn't seem to get what I mean by this, and that for him there's no difference between attraction and wanting to have sex with someone.

Has anyone on HRT noticed any similar changes before and after starting HRT? I don't think it's likely to be 100% attributable to hormones or anything, but I'd be interested to see.

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Sexual Orientation/Attraction

Who Are You Sexually[Or Romantically] Attracted To ?

Jennygirl

Padma

Padma

Padma

Teela Renee

A

Padma

Devlyn

Charley Bea(EmeraldP)

Shakira

Tristan

pebbles

Anatta

Jennygirl

Elsa

Padma

Nero

XxHaileyxX

Seyranna

brainiac