Through childhood and adolescence I was often referred to as "it" and that hurt!

I have posted this before.

I was walking through a large IKEA store and a couple were walking towards me. She said, loudly, that's a man!!

I stopped them and said . 'I was born with a gender defect that is being corrected; you are fat and ugly, what's your excuse?'

I still feel OK about it

Waiting at a bus stop, minding my own business, a couple of girls about my age walk past. One of them's looking at me, then she starts whispering to the other. I generally get bad vibes whenever I see girls whispering like that, Mean Girls vibes all over the place. Out of nowhere the girl she's whispering to bursts out laughing and literally shouts to her friend "OH MY GOD, IT'S A GIRL HAH YOU'RE SO GROSS. I'M NEVER LETTING YOU LIVE THIS DOWN" Then had the most awkward bus ride with the other people waiting at the stop staring at me the whole ride.

The worst part I had was when I got where I was going (dropping off my groceries for my Nan) and I told her what happened and why I was in a sour mood, the response I got was "Aren't you glad she thought you were a boy at first, that's what you want right"  I won't hold it against her because she's seventy, but it was still the cherry on top of a great day.

I've had dyke shouted at me in the past. But that more just amuses me than anything. Considering both times that happened I was actually identifying as that and it seemed like such a non-insult. It was made even more hilarious because the second time it happened I with my best friend and he shouted back without missing a beat "STRAIGHT"

Cindy if this were FB, I'd have run out of "likes".   I think our sisters have it a lot worse than us guys. Some people are not entirely nice but the worse thing anyone called me was a "dyke".

--Jay

That happened to me a lot when I was a bus driver.
Chav "You're an effing dyke"
Me "You're an effing pedestrian" as I closed the doors and drove off

Quote from: big kim on August 28, 2013, 03:39:46 PM
That happened to me a lot when I was a bus driver.
Chav "You're an effing dyke"
Me "You're an effing pedestrian" as I closed the doors and drove off

From my observations bus drivers deal with a lot of BS, I honestly don't know how they don't end up getting the rap of postal workers.

I use to dread riding the bus when I lived in Calif. There always seemed to be at least one and often a few jerks that would be bothering other folks

What would really grind my gears is that they would often start bothering elderly folks and the mentally challenged who seemed to be regular riders, at least I'd often see the same folks whenever I would ride

Anyway, I was much younger and stronger then so I wouldn't say much but I'd stare the trouble makers down and intimidate the stuff out of them

They wouldn't want to mess with me much back in the day   

On my wedding day my husband and I were on our way to have a nice romantic dinner at a nice restaurant a group of teenage girls read me and they all pointed at me and yelled "That's a man! That's a man! Gross!!! Disgusting!!!" while laughing gleefully while making sure every other person on the street didn't miss out on the freak show act. The dinner was off and I went home and cried the rest of the night.

Whenever I think of this incident I have these flashing images in my head of me murdering them all with my bare hands.

Quote from: MariaMx on September 04, 2013, 08:12:05 AM
On my wedding day my husband and I were on our way to have a nice romantic dinner at a nice restaurant a group of teenage girls read me and they all pointed at me and yelled "That's a man! That's a man! Gross!!! Disgusting!!!" while laughing gleefully while making sure every other person on the street didn't miss out on the freak show act. The dinner was off and I went home and cried the rest of the night.

Whenever I think of this incident I have these flashing images in my head of me murdering them all with my bare hands.

There are always reckless and mindless people at any place.

In my case, I am tired of glares of men, especially aged ones. I feel it very rude. Sometimes I asked why they gaze at me, but it was meaningless. New people stare at me next day at another place. I gave up educating them, and just accept as my daily life.

Barbie~~

At my place of employment a couple of customers began referring to me as man and homey and told me to stay away from them because they weren't "fruits" and they suggested that I would experience physical harm unless I stayed away from them.  Of course I was at work and it was my job to attend to customers.  Some of my coworkers were laughing at me and talking about me.  When I talked to management about the girls telling customers I was really just a man in a dress he took the main offender into his office and then as soon as she was let out she smiled and told me that all he did was tell her to give me a hug which she did as she mocked me.

That's messed up stuff, your direct mgr. sounds like a puppet, is there a higher level of management that you can talk to?

Quote from: Kate G on September 06, 2013, 07:18:50 PM
At my place of employment a couple of customers began referring to me as man and homey and told me to stay away from them because they weren't "fruits" and they suggested that I would experience physical harm unless I stayed away from them.  Of course I was at work and it was my job to attend to customers.  Some of my coworkers were laughing at me and talking about me.  When I talked to management about the girls telling customers I was really just a man in a dress he took the main offender into his office and then as soon as she was let out she smiled and told me that all he did was tell her to give me a hug which she did as she mocked me.

Are you in a Union? See a Union rep ASAP

Quote from: broken. on September 07, 2013, 02:15:57 AM
When I was like 16 and in all kinds of closets, some stoner guys honked at me (walking to the store) and yelled ->-bleeped-<-got from their car as they drove by...

If they had came back, then they would be certainly a kind of ->-bleeped-<- ->-bleeped-<-. Sometimes extreme hate and extreme love are interchangeable.

barbie~~

Quote from: big kim on September 07, 2013, 02:06:26 AM
Are you in a Union? See a Union rep ASAP

Union?  We don't even have jobs in the USA anymore let alone Unions.

The sad thing about getting ridiculed in public is (in my experiences) it's always people in groups. In the past I had my issues but thankfully they've stopped...hope I'm not jinxing myself. These few stick in my mind:

-I used to live in Northern New Jersey in 2000 and 2001. At the time the resources really weren't out there and yes, I was binding with ace bandages (big no no). Well, one night I went out to a pizzeria with my ex in Manhattan. I had a binding injury so just decided to wear a sport's bra figuring people would just read me as a butch lesbian. I could deal with that. Well, in order to get to the restaurant part of the establishment you had to walk through the bar. We ate, everything was fine, and at the end of the meal my ex wanted to go outside to smoke. I stayed inside to pay the bill. As I was walking past the bar to exit a loud guy with two females yelled "HEY!", naturally I turned around and he said "What are you? You look like a dude with tits". At that the crowded bar erupted in laughter. I just dropped my head and left quickly.

-Around 5 or 6 years ago I was at a buffet restaurant with my gf. I kept noticing a table of 20-somethings staring at me. I did my best to ignore them and enjoy my meal. We were close to finishing and my gf went to get her dessert. I rarely eat sweets so I just sat there finishing my tea when two guys and a girl from the other table walked up. The girl asked me, "Are you a boy or a girl?". I did what I've always been naturally good at, I ignored her. She took a step forward at me and said it louder, "I asked you if you're a boy or a girl". I was feeling a bit intimidated at that point because she was getting closer so I slid my hand over to the steak knife on my napkin still refusing to give her the satisfaction of an answer or even acknowledging her existence. I'm assuming one of the guys seen my hand slide to the knife because he came up, grabbed her by the arm, and said "come on...lets go". They left and while I was a little shaken I was proud that I didn't feel the need to satisfy her curiosity.

-The last one that sticks with me is the roughest and happened repeatedly for a few years. The last time was in 2010. I cooked third shift at a 24 hour diner (geez, looks like I need to stay out of eateries, lol) and on Friday/Saturday nights we had a bar rush between 2 and 3 in the morning without fail. There was always a huge group of College age kids that came in and without fail two of the guys would harass me. It started one night because a waitress called out so I had to wait tables. At the time I passed for a really young guy but my voice gave me away. One of the guys stood up, put his arm around me, and asked if I knew what a ->-bleeped-<- was. I just said no and told him to sit down if he wanted to be served. He then lifted his shirt and asked if I wanted to touch him while grabbing my hand to put it on his chest. I said a few choice words and informed him if he didn't stop I would be happy to call the police who could administer a breathalyzer test on him. He said a few words and went to the bathroom. His gf was sitting at the booth and mouthed "I'm sorry" so I told her it wasn't her fault. She still insisted that I take a couple 20 dollar bills she slid to me. She never came back in with him but the guy came back every weekend with one of his friends. They always had something nasty to say and threatened me at one point when I took out the trash. I never retaliated because I thought it would escalate. I would put my head up high and continue doing my job. Little did they know I started carrying a pocket knife on me but I am thankful I never had a reason to use it.

Well, there are the three that stick out in my memory. I have had little random things here and there. Usually it's when I go to the town I grew up in and run into people from High School. To them I'm just "whatever" basically...or I have been known to ask them what they're going to do about it...oh nothing? Then shut it.

Quote from: Shelina on October 01, 2009, 10:21:40 AM
Sisters, today I'm VERY down. I have been heavily insulted in public. I entered a bus with a bunch of macaques sitting completely behind hurling heavy insults to me like 'What's this 'thing' ?. When we all got down at the final bus station, one of the guys spitted making me understand I was a disgusting being (fortunately not on me, I would have kicked with my high heels).

In the past:

1. (Beginning 2009/ Mid 2004) 2 times people tried to snatch my wig off my head in the bus (I almost slammed the boy with my umbrella and for the 1st time I verbally retaliated in public but other time I could not do much, they were very strong men).
2. (2002) In night club people said 'What's this creature?'.
3. The most common I get almost everyday is a derogatory word used for homosexuals equivalent to the english word '->-bleeped-<-got'.
4. At times people can kill even with just a look, their very negative looks annoy me.
5. What infuriated me the most is the ridicule mockery, laughing like hell on your face insignuating you're a buffoon/clown in the society, I wanna slap them in their faces specially when it's girls laughing at me.
6. (2002) I was thrown an emptu bottle of Coke 0.5, fortunately I managed to dodge.

No wonder how many sisters in the past have committed suicde. As I am now 'official' and full-time, I'm having really big problem to confront this harsh and cruel world.

WHAT'S THE BIGGEST INSULT YOU FACED IN PUBLIC AND HOW YOU DEAL WITH THEM? Me, the only thing I can do is ignore them but it really hurts at the utmost degree inside and I really don't know what to do anymore. 

You get used to it hon, I know it hurts, and people can say they're just words, but they don't know until it happens to them. Honestly though, living the life that we live, we gotta learn to have a thick skin and stand up for ourselves. I used to cry everyday because how people looked at me, how they made fun of me,and yeah it hurts, one time it got bad enough that I thought of just offing myself, but it wasn't right for me to think that way. Now I have a boss bitch mentality when I see people look at me, I just give them a look like "problem bitch?", because they like to think they're better than us, but they aren't. Remember, as Jinx Monsoon says "Water off a ducks back".
P.S. It's ok to cry about it if you need to, don't bottle up your feelings, like ever

This weekend!

I took my wife, who is an invalid, in a wheelchair and very disabled, down to the beach front. I had made a flask of tea, I got her comfy and we were having a drink watching people walk past. A lady with a little dog stopped and started to talk and then she said.

"Oh it's so nice to see a daughter looking after her Mum" Well!! I'm her husband!!!

Heeee Heee

My wife did have a laugh about it later, and has criticized her daughter unmercifully since. I did say I still suffer psychological harm for not having short hems on my school uniform.

Oh Well, now back to insults

Cindy

My so called friend who I thought understood me called me a wanna be boy and a gay ass bitch, Bcause I told she's not agood friend, Because she is to self centered

The worst I've gotten so far and its not really that bad was a kid called me a whatever because he didn't have his id on him and I wouldn't sell him cigs. My coworker at the time had a few words with him outside and he later apologized. I've been lucky, I guess. Pretty much everyone treats me with respect regardless of their feelings about the whole trans thing.

The worst that i got was when i was in a park and got attacked. They called me a freak and a child molester. Spitting on me and kicking me.. Was pretty bad, hid in the house for 3 days after that. came to realize that i had to be strong and get back what they took. So out i went and has been pretty good so far. The only other thing anyone has said to me was they refused to call me by Alexis because that wasn't my REAL name... I just brushed them off as ignorant and rude..