I get so nervous when typing out "man" or "mam" to someone because one typo can lead to me being banned.  If I accidently say "mam" when referrfing to a guy....ban.  If I accidently say "man" when I meant "mam"....I get reported for "transphobic and abusive" language and boom....a ban.  The best thing would be to not say man or mam but I feel adding that would make my statement a bit more personal.  If I'm not sure how someone identifies then I use gender neutral terms, with the still-high risk of someone being offended and reporting me.

Quote from: Malachite on September 08, 2013, 10:11:10 PM
I get so nervous when typing out "man" or "mam" to someone because one typo can lead to me being banned.  If I accidently say "mam" when referrfing to a guy....ban.  If I accidently say "man" when I meant "mam"....I get reported for "transphobic and abusive" language and boom....a ban.  The best thing would be to not say man or mam but I feel adding that would make my statement a bit more personal.  If I'm not sure how someone identifies then I use gender neutral terms, with the still-high risk of someone being offended and reporting me.

Yes, sometimes it is hard, but everyone who knows you here knows you'd never misgender someone on purpose. Mistakes happen, we move on. 

Quote from: LearnedHand on September 08, 2013, 09:24:16 PM
Same here. 

I'm learning ASL so I have to watch someone signing and then write down what they are saying.  My brain is about to explode.

And Malachite, I'm sorry you are having that problem. That's why I just use dear, works for everyone.  Sept it makes me sound more female. >>

Quote from: Malachite on September 08, 2013, 10:11:10 PM
I get so nervous when typing out "man" or "mam" to someone because one typo can lead to me being banned.  If I accidently say "mam" when referrfing to a guy....ban.  If I accidently say "man" when I meant "mam"....I get reported for "transphobic and abusive" language and boom....a ban.  The best thing would be to not say man or mam but I feel adding that would make my statement a bit more personal.  If I'm not sure how someone identifies then I use gender neutral terms, with the still-high risk of someone being offended and reporting me.

Lengthen "mam" to "ma'am". That will lessen the chance of an errant key press.

On a side note: Sometimes, Malachite, I just want to hug you. You're sweet without realising it and that makes it all the more endearing.

Quote from: LearnedHand on September 08, 2013, 10:13:39 PM
Yes, sometimes it is hard, but everyone who knows you here knows you'd never misgender someone on purpose. Mistakes happen, we move on. 

That's what I'm hoping for, that people will know that I just did it on accident and I would modify the post immediately if I didn't catch the mistake.

Quote from: Darkie on September 08, 2013, 10:18:16 PM
And Malachite, I'm sorry you are having that problem. That's why I just use dear, works for everyone.  Sept it makes me sound more female. >>

More power to you for using dear.  I'd feel a bit awkward calling everyone that lol.  It reminds me of "be a dear and (insert favor) would you?"

Quote from: Sephirah on September 08, 2013, 10:19:44 PM
Lengthen "mam" to "ma'am". That will lessen the chance of an errant key press.

On a side note: Sometimes, Malachite, I just want to hug you. You're sweet without realising it and that makes it all the more endearing.

Wow I never thought about ma'am.  That makes much more sense.  I got to get used to typing it.

Thank you for your side note, Sephirah.   That made my day more than you realize.  I really needed that.

I've been playing Star Trek online recently. and it's not a mission here or there. it's all day and into the wee hours of the morning. I think I'm pretty depressed, more so than I imagined. Star Trek and model kits used to be my escape from my dysphoria but it could also be the same for my depression too. The other day I was looking at Star Trek model kits online actually and really wanted to build one. It's been 13 years since I built one.

Driving School today....meh, I really need to look over the DVD they gave me if I want to pass the course.

I'm worrying about school, because it's gonna feel like being put on hold after how fast everything's been going... I need to talk about this with the therapist.

Maybe I should just go back to being a guy. Yea, I was suicidal and miserable as hell, but at least I was employed
I hate feeling this way, and I know its just my mind playing B.S. headgames with itself.  But still. it sucks. The worst part is, even if I went back to being a guy, i would still suck at it and everything would be just as crappy as it was before i transitioned. Stupid mind!

Quote from: Keaira Raine on September 09, 2013, 03:20:39 AM
Maybe I should just go back to being a guy. Yea, I was suicidal and miserable as hell, but at least I was employed
I hate feeling this way, and I know its just my mind playing B.S. headgames with itself.  But still. it sucks. The worst part is, even if I went back to being a guy, i would still suck at it and everything would be just as crappy as it was before i transitioned. Stupid mind!

I'd love you so much no matter what ♥

Quote from: caleb. on September 09, 2013, 06:25:51 AM
I'd love you so much no matter what ♥

I'd still love you too. ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ^_^
I cant see me going back to being 'him'. I've spent so much time and energy just getting this far and as Jannie once said, "I'll die before I ever go back to being male."
Still, I hate being unemployed, I hate that I am dependent on medication for my sanity and well being and it irks me that I can't afford an orchi or get SRS so I don't have to take spiro, which is so much more expensive than E.

While channel surfing, I saw that Love Actually was coming on on Sundance, so I'm watching it again. I still think its one of the best romantic comedies I've seen yet. Thing will make you cry a number of times throughout it, both happy and sad.

Quote from: marsh monster on September 09, 2013, 07:11:40 PM
While channel surfing, I saw that Love Actually was coming on on Sundance, so I'm watching it again. I still think its one of the best romantic comedies I've seen yet. Thing will make you cry a number of times throughout it, both happy and sad.

It was a good one, Hugh Grant is great!

I love taking the train, here I am on my way home sitting next to a nice young man getting a physics degree at Harvard.

Quote from: LearnedHand on September 09, 2013, 07:34:39 PM
I love taking the train, here I am on my way home sitting next to a nice young man getting a physics degree at Harvard.

Well, did you chat him up a bit? 

Not yet, I am eavesdropping hes catching up with an old friend. I usually talk with people from the train, I meet afew people who are now valuable Linked-In connections for me.

Quote from: LearnedHand on September 09, 2013, 07:44:02 PM
Not yet, I am eavesdropping hes catching up with an old friend. I usually talk with people from the train, I meet afew people who are now valuable Linked-In connections for me.

Being an outgoing person and open to conversations with new people has always worked for me. Can't beat networking when it comes to jobs and other opportunities either. Being quiet and mousey around others is a bummer and leads to nowhere fast!

Lol, I ended up taking to him and his friend Auntie Shan. She started incorrectly stating things about business deductions, and I set them straight.

Yep, I am the weirdo who gives lessons in tax law on the train.

My sammich from Jimmy Johns is so worth the gluten-intollerant tummy ache I'm gunna have.

I'm thinking how much I missed my delicious smelling/tasting clove cigars. Glad to find them again.