I have been feeling very lonely lately, like i need a hug or something, it's something a PM can't solve.

I have no friends (face to face at least) that can help me as i am not accepted here, even though i am not out yet i still get noticed for my feminity, and being a guy on the outside that is a problem for them.

Does anyone have any ideas how to help me?

Hi Honey,



Your family is here

Love You Little Sister

Cindy

Thank you Cindy, while that does help i still am feeling very lonely, it's been years since i was last hugged in person and now i just want to curl up and give up...

Oh Xhianil Honey hang on.  You are going to get those hugs some day.  In the mean time hug that dog of yours.  Whats the breed? 
School can be a rough place and I wonder if there is any kind of gay-straight alliance or LGBT club you can check out.  School counselor you trust?  The world is full of lonely people and you have a chance to make one happy by smiling and saying hello.

Giving up is OK if it is a temporary deal but odds are you will feel better soon.  Put on some music and dance girl!

Quote from: Tessa James on October 16, 2013, 02:17:34 AM
Oh Xhianil Honey hang on.  You are going to get those hugs some day.  In the mean time hug that dog of yours.  Whats the breed? 
School can be a rough place and I wonder if there is any kind of gay-straight alliance or LGBT club you can check out.  School counselor you trust?  The world is full of lonely people and you have a chance to make one happy by smiling and saying hello.

Giving up is OK if it is a temporary deal but odds are you will feel better soon.  Put on some music and dance girl!

He's a Chihuahua pug mix, I'm hoping he doesn't get put down like my other one did in July...

None, I'm talking to a councilor (anonymously for now) but it seems like she will not be able to help me...

I want to give up till someone notices it for another reason besides to yell at me...

Babe, I'd hug you to tears if I could. You're a lovely person, but are pushed back into your shell by others.
I'd assume you have very little, if any private time where you can just be yourself.
Capitalize on it when you get it.
And then smile and have fun during it. It makes you feel oh so much better

What is your favourite music?

Quote from: Cindy on October 16, 2013, 02:42:10 AM
What is your favourite music?

I listen to Jeff Williams mostly, red like roses part II is on loop sometimes.

Quote from: Willow on October 16, 2013, 02:41:55 AM
Babe, I'd hug you to tears if I could. You're a lovely person, but are pushed back into your shell by others.
I'd assume you have very little, if any private time where you can just be yourself.
Capitalize on it when you get it.
And then smile and have fun during it. It makes you feel oh so much better

I'd rather have time with those who i care for and who care for me, sadly though i haven't meet anyone face to face that care about me or even care not to hurt me...

I don't know Jeff Williams, I'm in Australia!

How about posting a link?

That doesn't mean you can't know of him, i know for a fact that there are people in Australia who know of him.

Wow, all action!!!

Xhianil, hmmm, how do you pronounce your name?

Sorry to hear about your other pup being put down or that you feel yelled at.  Who is the loud mouth?  We lost one of our Aussie Shepards last June and it broke our hearts big time.  So how about joining a dog club, 4 H, or taking a dog agility class?  Even our little town has a cool dog park where a pug club meets and socializes.

I guess you might feel better or meet some new people in a new venue.  A place that is not all about school and the cliques that happen there.

Show my ignorance, is Jeff the anime person?

Big hugs hun. Even though we aren't there in person we still care about you! Always remember that.

*BIG HUG*

I know it's only virtual but being two states away makes it kind of difficult to give you a real hug.

I'm sorry you're feeling so lonely, Xhianil. I know there's only so much that we can for you online but we're here for you. If you're ever feeling lonely or just need to talk, please feel free to send me a PM.

Amy

Quote from: Xhianil on October 16, 2013, 12:20:04 AM
I have no friends (face to face at least) that can help me as i am not accepted here, even though i am not out yet i still get noticed for my feminity, and being a guy on the outside that is a problem for them.

There are people who will accept you for you, even presenting as a guy.

Is there a PFLAG chapter or other LGBT organization near you?

Quote from: Tessa James on October 16, 2013, 03:29:09 AM
Xhianil, hmmm, how do you pronounce your name?

Sorry to hear about your other pup being put down or that you feel yelled at.  Who is the loud mouth?  We lost one of our Aussie Shepards last June and it broke our hearts big time.  So how about joining a dog club, 4 H, or taking a dog agility class?  Even our little town has a cool dog park where a pug club meets and socializes.

I guess you might feel better or meet some new people in a new venue.  A place that is not all about school and the cliques that happen there.

It's not changed yet but it's X-han-il or something like that, it's easier for me to say rather then type.

I still have to live with my mother, shes the one who yells, along with those at school. I might if i have time.

I probably will, once i can get away from here.

Quote from: suzifrommd on October 16, 2013, 10:34:18 AM
There are people who will accept you for you, even presenting as a guy.

Is there a PFLAG chapter or other LGBT organization near you?

I looked already, all i found was old gay bars that are now shut down.

Quote from: Cindy on October 16, 2013, 03:41:52 AM
Show my ignorance, is Jeff the anime person?

He mostly does music for Red VS. Blue and RWBY, though they are soundtrack songs he makes them just as good as regular ones. Also his daughter is the one singing.

Quote from: Amelia Pond on October 16, 2013, 10:10:45 AM
*BIG HUG*

I know it's only virtual but being two states away makes it kind of difficult to give you a real hug.

I'm sorry you're feeling so lonely, Xhianil. I know there's only so much that we can for you online but we're here for you. If you're ever feeling lonely or just need to talk, please feel free to send me a PM.

Amy

Thank you Amelia, it helps a little but just like before its not much.

Hi Xhianil,

Thanks for writing back to let us know more about what's going on with you.

Please stay strong and do your best to tune out the other noise you don't need.

Is there a social media site that might work for local people where you are?

Quote from: Tessa James on October 16, 2013, 03:18:52 PM
Hi Xhianil,

Thanks for writing back to let us know more about what's going on with you.

Please stay strong and do your best to tune out the other noise you don't need.

Is there a social media site that might work for local people where you are?

I'll do my best, but thats hard when the ones yelling have power over you.

Not to my knowledge, I'd rather keep my town secret, that way if someone finds this who lived here they can't know weither or not it was me.

You are a gamer so I know you must have a vivid imagination.  Picture the yelling as geese farts of different colors and let her quack away.  That is easy for me to say and it does sound like you are having a tough go of it.  You do have the resilience of youth and can likely imagine a much brighter future? 

Where would you like to live and work?  What kind of people float your boat?

I appreciate anyones need for privacy and a sense of security.  Play safe