Its icky, messy and just not that enjoyable. What the heck are you people thinking?  Do something constructive with the time, like crosswords or the dishes...



Anyone else feel like I do or am I alone in this?

Am I the only truly reasonable person left?   

Well, I'm a virgin, so I don't know if I'm the most qualified person to talk about it, lol.  I don't know.  It's not the biggest deal to me, but I won't lie and say that it isn't desirable in some form.  I've had a lot of a lot of issues with my sexuality and body over the years, so i have a hard time being open to this stuff.  I'm very much interested in dating and realize that sex is something that comes with it.  That's one of the reasons I'm a little shy about dating because getting nude in front of someone is really complicated for me.  However, I'm also interested in being intimate if I find the right person or feel comfortable with my partner. It's hard for me to explain.  I suppose I've had a really tough time dealing with my attraction to men and feeling that it's something I should repress or be ashamed about.  Even though I'm technically straight, I really sympathize with gay men because I know what they go through and how hard it is to be yourself.  That's why I still find it a little uncomfortable admitting or embracing my sexual desires and overall sexuality.  So, it's not so much that it's not an enjoyable concept for me, but rather that I have many emotional hangups to overcome and years of suppression and guilt to defeat.   

So, it's not a requirement or a necessity to me, but it's desirable to an extent.  Though it's nowhere near as important as romance which is what I really desire nowadays. Then again, maybe things will change once I experience it first hand.  I don't know.

It's companionship I desire and sex is just a part of a relationship

It's fun and I love it.

I'm sorta over it myself I've had many bad relationships so I'm really no longer interested in them, for now its me time.

Emily.T xx

Kissing, cuddling, caressing, canoodling? Yes please! Actual intercourse? meh, not so much... 
But for all those that do enjoy it, more power to you!!!

Sex? Hmmm

Never heard of it.

SEX WITH WHO?

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Am hot vinegar scouring *coffee pot* as we speak (who does THAT?)

Quote from: Ms Grace on January 05, 2014, 02:08:09 PM
Kissing, cuddling, caressing, canoodling? Yes please! Actual intercourse? meh, not so much... 
But for all those that do enjoy it, more power to you!!!

I leaned a new word, canoodle

Quote from: big head horsey-face on January 05, 2014, 12:44:04 PM
Its icky, messy and just not that enjoyable. What the heck are you people thinking?  Do something constructive with the time, like crosswords or the dishes...



Anyone else feel like I do or am I alone in this?

Am I the only truly reasonable person left?   

I think it's a little over-rated. Now that I'm done having kids and work full time to raise and care for them, I don't have much interest in sex.

Sex I've always considered an okay thing, but I just find so many people icky, messy, and not that enjoyable these days. 

Sex, seriously, who really needs it?

Nymphomaniacs.

Myself? I don't care about sex and I never did. I never had sex, never had a girlfriend and I sure as hell would NEVER have a boyfriend.

Yuck.

I havent had sex yet

Id like to though , as a girl...so when my body gets feminine and when I find the right person Id want to try it...
so no sex for me for a couple more years,,,unless of course I ll find someone who doesnt mind me being pre op...

It's coming up to 10 years since I last had sex,don't miss it.I would like to have a partner for the companionship

Quote from: big kim on January 05, 2014, 03:16:36 PM
It's coming up to 10 years since I last had sex,don't miss it.I would like to have a partner for the companionship

Its only been a little over twenty for me. And yes, companionship would be nice, but then chances are, they would want some sort of sex.

This last  summer I had a painful urinary tract infection which one doctor blamed upon my enlarged prostrate and he told me that my prostrate was enlarged because it was not being used to play its part in sex so bacteria was building up because my enlarged prostrate was blocking the urinary tract.  He said that I needed more sex so my prostrate would shrink some and not block my urinary tract.   This was a male doctor whom I told that I could masturbate while I was tucked in.   He shrugged.   All of my sexual activity for the past two years has been masturbation because I and my partner don't want any more children, and I can get my partner pregnant.  I have been personally responsible for biologically bringing 6 children into this world, and she has been responsible for 5.  We share one child.   Masturbation is not really fun for me,  because of the way I feel afterwards.   

So while philosophically I am not against sex,  practically I only need it to deal with the prostrate.  Since I am now having problems with the male organs I have, I don't see how having surgery and having what ever female organs I will get can be too much worse,  unless its poor surgery.   I am severely committed to having my sexual activity within my committed relationship and both of them have been really long term, so causal  sex is not part of my character all morality aside.

So well, when you say who needs sex, it some times has more than one consideration.

well, to confess it's been quite awhile

i think it is kind of weird that so many people are so blase' about sex. I almost want to say your doing it wrong, but if you aren't doing it, well then I just don't know. I will say sex is much better as a woman. But it is still pretty awesome...

<3 Liv

Quote from: Olivia-Anne on January 05, 2014, 05:15:23 PM
i think it is kind of weird that so many people are so blase' about sex. I almost want to say your doing it wrong, but if you aren't doing it, well then I just don't know. I will say sex is much better as a woman. But it is still pretty awesome...

<3 Liv

sex is awesome ,but I think the issue is a lot more complicated. When I was younger I had a lot of sex . As time moved on my gender dysphoria surfaced . Looking back the gender problem crippled me. I'm just speaking for my own situation. For my self I've just had a hard time with relationships. I'm older and I feared AIDS a lot , which was a sledge hammer coming down on my sexuality, Being honest I am a 60's child and we did have a lot of sex. then AIDS came and a lot of people stepped back. I just developed asevere gender problem I had since 4 years old. I 'd love to find a partner , I just haven't had any one for a while . again I'm just speaking for my self I only have respect for the opinion of others.

Today there is nothing like it. Not going to kiss and tell but....... yes,..yes...,yes.........

Horsey,
   All I can say is you're either with the wrong person, you're doing it wrong, or both! I'm with the most considerate, thoughtful man both emotionally and sexually and just holding his hand after 15 months still excites me. When you give yourself totally to the man (or woman) you're in love with, a kiss in itself is amazing, but having him make love to you is, in my opinion, the best feeling there is, period. For me, it's impossible to describe the purity of that intimacy between you and the person you'd do almost anything for, but I hope you find someone like that for you, too. Sex is fun, but making love with someone you're in love with is........wonderful. Hugs, Mira