I suppose the Clintonian parsing of "What is sex?" comes (sorry) into play.

I stopped penis-in-vagina sex in 2011.  It never really appealed that much to me.  It is amazing that I have four children.

That does not mean my wife and I don't have a sex life.  There is all sorts of sexual play that does not need coitus.  Since this is on the open forums, I will leave it at that.

Kama Sutra

Quote from: big head horsey-face on January 05, 2014, 12:44:04 PM
Its icky, messy and just not that enjoyable. What the heck are you people thinking?  Do something constructive with the time, like crosswords or the dishes...



Anyone else feel like I do or am I alone in this?

Am I the only truly reasonable person left?   

Kia Ora big head horsey-face,

Are you British ? 

Metta Zenda

Quote from: Victoria Mitchell on January 05, 2014, 08:36:55 PM
As you like it. If he's/she/they are beautiful to me, think I am, and we'd like to deepen our experience of each other through shared pleasure/lust/desire/orgasm then, personally I'm very happy to take them up on that offer. I even like it when *gasp* my partner wants that kind of thing (and she does... lots). If you think it's repulsive, that's fine and your opinion but please don't slut-shame.

Personally, I find that loyalty, commitment, love, and a desire for a shared future and family make my primary relationship as special as it is. Orgasms and sexual play are just what they are and if anyone wants to judge me for that distinction, I probably don't want to know them. I won't make exception in that regard.

I am monogamous and am dedicated to my one and only and I personally feel that sex simply for the sake of f**King is shallow and frankly repulsive to me, however my thoughts are not to be construed as a personal attack on anyone else's moral codes. I'm sure there is room in this thread for those with other feelings and attitudes without them acting as if they are being judged or are under personal attack.

Quote from: Shantel on January 06, 2014, 10:29:23 AM
I'm sure there is room in this thread for those with other feelings and attitudes without them acting as if they are being judged or are under personal attack.

Your wording was ambiguous in that regard and so I apologize if I reacted a bit strongly. The wording you used sounded fairly judgemental and seemed to color all said acts under that judgement so, I snarked. My bad.

Quote from: Victoria Mitchell on January 06, 2014, 11:25:53 AM
Your wording was ambiguous in that regard and so I apologize if I reacted a bit strongly. The wording you used sounded fairly judgemental and seemed to color all said acts under that judgement so, I snarked. My bad.

It's ok hon! It is always easy to misunderstand the intent of another person's comments as we are unable to hear the tone or tenor of what's being said to say nothing of the fact that we are unable to observe body language which is always valuable in interpreting a person's motives for a particular comment made. Have a great day!

Quote from: big head horsey-face on January 05, 2014, 12:44:04 PM
Its icky, messy and just not that enjoyable. What the heck are you people thinking?  Do something constructive with the time, like crosswords or the dishes...



Anyone else feel like I do or am I alone in this?

Am I the only truly reasonable person left?   

Sex? Oh yes I need it. If my fiancé try's to hold out he knows I will hide his playstation 4. I need that physical connection with him and the time together afterwards. And since I didn't really start having sex till after srs. Mamma had time to make up for

In the broader sense sex is fun if you are comfortable with your body. Not much for this girl lately, celibate in fact but maybe that will change.

I was debating if I wanted to be part of this but here I am LOL. I used to be a huge whore when I was a gay guy. Then I switched and was a huge whore as a trans girl. Then I wanted a relationship had one it ended I fooled around with a few people and then wanted a relationship. its been 4 years since I have had intercourse and for other play maybe 2 years. However all throughout I have done personal pleasure I'm not dead LOL. However while I was on andicure it cut off most of that too. But since getting my orchi my sex drive is back but I still would rather date someone then have a fling or sex friend so I hold out on that. but I still do self pleasure.

I have no desire to have PIV sex until it's my V involved.  I don't want to lose the ability to achieve orgasm, so I make sure to have a few dates with Mr. Hum every week.

I waited 5 and a half years after GRS before having sex.I made up for lost time pretty quick and alternated between men and women.If I've had rice I want noodles next time!

That's how I felt.  I found out about Asexuality many years ago.
No one has ever given me that "special" feeling male or female.  I've always viewed myself as more of a lesbian, but as of recently I kinda think I wouldn't mind having sex with a male.  Of course after I get my bits correct. ;-)

Sex, what is it?

I am 26 and so far I am virgin. I don't miss sex because I never actually wanted or desired it. Whenever I thought about wanting sex I realized that all that I wanted was to hug and cuddle with someone...a few caresses and kisses, but sex? No, thank you.

My significant other and I have been together.. um I think we are going on 9 years now. In that time, we have not had intercourse once. Of course, there are many other things we do together and I always enjoy my time with her. However, since being on an antidepression medicine, my sex drive has completely dried up. I can understand where op is coming from 100%. I'd rather be working on my homework, playing a video game, or cleaning the apartment. This could also have to do with the fact that I don't have much free time, between working full time and school part time 

Also, Victoria, I really respect that you can do that. I tried to experience a poly relationship and truly it was a disaster. I found the emotional distress far too taxing to be worth it! I think all it did was harm all three parties involved! But kudos to you, sister!

Totally on Victoria's side here (and loving the way you write about sex VM... you should do fiction if you don't already!)

PIV turns me off, I just don't think I am wired up for it... but everything else- yes please!

I am hoping hrt doesn't curb my canoodle instincts!

Quote from: Emmaline on January 07, 2014, 07:17:19 AMI am hoping hrt doesn't curb my canoodle instincts!

HRT brings out the inner canoodler in everyone baby!

Quote from: big head horsey-face on January 05, 2014, 12:44:04 PM
Its icky, messy and just not that enjoyable. What the heck are you people thinking?  Do something constructive with the time, like crosswords or the dishes...



Anyone else feel like I do or am I alone in this?

Am I the only truly reasonable person left?   

Nope I feel the same. Pointless. I would rather cuddle. Sex is highly over-rated ++

I feels ya. After transition im planning on no intimate relationships, sexual or otherwise.

This song just about sums it up for me.....


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xat1GVnl8-k&feature=youtube_gdata_player

Quote from: Jill F on January 06, 2014, 08:33:45 PM
I have no desire to have PIV sex until it's my V involved.  I don't want to lose the ability to achieve orgasm, so I make sure to have a few dates with Mr. Hum every week.

I've always figured Ms Hitachi magic and Mr Orange dilator would make an interesting combo.

I'm not with you.
I find it fun, awesome & enjoyable!