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What are you thinking? 7.0

Started by V M, January 16, 2014, 02:44:08 AM

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Lauren5

Quote from: alabamagirl on February 24, 2014, 02:54:49 PMI didn't even know there was a difference between IQ and intelligence. In fact, I was under the impression that the creation of the IQ was to try to measure intelligence, as flawed as such a pursuit is.

Sometimes I consider taking an IQ test, out of curiosity. I took one when I was a child, which I barely remember at this point, and I got some crazy high score on it. But if I take one again, it might just end up telling me that I've turned into a total moron as an adult. I'd rather just keep my delusions of being smart in that case. And in the end, I'm too lazy to bother answering all those questions again anyway.
Perhaps "smartness" may have been a better term than intelligence. Like how savants tend to have sub-80 IQs, yet are extremely knowledgeable about a particular subject. On the other hand, I have a high IQ, yet don't seem to be able to do anything with it, just knowing a random string of facts that when put together have no correlation. The "normal" ("smartness" and IQ correlate) and "savant" (IQ is far lower than "smartness") are always mentioned, but there's never any mention of us who have and IQ far higher than our "smartness"
Quote from: Caysee Danielle on February 24, 2014, 06:50:33 PMI don't like any other model of intelligence as they all make me less intelligent than IQ on its own. :P
I'd agree. Let's look at mine:
Musical-rhythmic: low
Visual-spatial: moderate
Verbal-linguistic: moderate-high
Logical-mathematical: moderate-low
Bodily-kinaesthetic: low
Interpersonal: low
Intrapersonal: moderate-low
Naturalistic: this one is interesting; it has mention of being able to classify natural forms such as animal and plant species, as well as rock and mountain types, and while being unable to do that, I can do so with artificial objects, like knowing the difference between different aircraft type, even down to the engines. So, in terms of actual natural naturalistic intelligence: low. Artificial naturalistic intelligence: moderate-high
Existential: nonexistant
So there, it doesn't really match up with someone with a high IQ, making it very confusing to me why I am so intelligent, but not very smart.
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King Malachite

When I start to tally up my total costs for top surgery and liposucton I realize that I definatelly need to start selling things on Craigslist again.
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MadeleineG

Quote from: Willow on February 24, 2014, 11:47:08 PM
Musical-rhythmic: low
Visual-spatial: moderate
Verbal-linguistic: moderate-high
Logical-mathematical: moderate-low
Bodily-kinaesthetic: low
Interpersonal: low
Intrapersonal: moderate-low
Naturalistic: this one is interesting; it has mention of being able to classify natural forms such as animal and plant species, as well as rock and mountain types, and while being unable to do that, I can do so with artificial objects, like knowing the difference between different aircraft type, even down to the engines. So, in terms of actual natural naturalistic intelligence: low. Artificial naturalistic intelligence: moderate-high
Existential: nonexistant

I actually think that the answer to your question is in your results. The key to improving your practical skills is to develop those areas that are low so that you become more well-rounded. Then, your intelligences can play off one another and you'll be able to plan practical problem solving more thoroughly (and, by extension, effectively).
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Adam (birkin)

I got so scared. I'm at my brother's place alone and some stranger knocked on the door. It's dark. lol. I was laying on the couch and the windows were open so he could see me there and knocked on the window. I answered it and it was fine, just the gas man, said he'd come back in a few months or something. But for a minute I was worried.
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V M

The main things to remember in life are Love, Kindness, Understanding and Respect - Always make forward progress

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Edge

I seem to be more comfortable with showing my personality in public. Unfortunately for me, I am now less cautious than I should be. Fortunately, the freedom I feel makes it worth it. Unfortunately for a couple of the people I hang out with, I am also showing a rougher personality than the one I used to show them. The rougher personality is mine. The one they used to know was my attempting to get people to like me. Fortunately for me, I prefer showing my real personality than a people pleasing mask a million times over. It's just a couple people that have a problem with it though. My male friends seem to be completely fine with it.
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Lauren5

Thinking the secretary from the doctor should have replied. I'll call back again after breakfast. I still have over 3 hours until class, plenty of time to deal with things.
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King Malachite

Thinking if I ever get a high enough paying job and get all of my transition surgeries out of the way, I won't be as much as a cheapskate in general and I will actually spend money on the things I like such as cosplay and video games as long as no catastrophic event happens that will drain my money.
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Adam (birkin)

I was thinking about something my ex reminded me of a few days ago. She had a nightmare where I was still with her, and was cheating on her with an actress. She asked me to choose between her and the actress, and I chose the actress. So I said to her (irl after she told me about this dream) "I don't know where you got stuff like that from...even when we were together you were always convinced I'd pick someone else the moment they came along. When really, I never would have."

And she said "you did. You chose J." (J was an emotional affair I had early into my relationship with my ex - I broke her heart, and rather than discontinue the emotional affair, I continued talking to J and broke my ex's heart over and over again :( ). I said "I know I kept talking to J, but I never actually chose that, if it came down to it, I'd have chosen you." She said "that's not what you told me. You told me once that if you were forced to choose, you'd choose that over me."

My reaction when she told me this was: totally devastated. I don't remember saying that, and I couldn't even fathom myself feeling that way at any point in time. I loved her. When she left me, I was messed up for over a year and a half. Three years later, I am over her, but I still feel terrible over what happened.

So I contemplated on what I was thinking at the time. Why would I say that when it clearly was not true? I couldn't even fathom saying that now...so what changed? Well, upon reflection, I think I know what it was. At the time, I felt I had very little agency. Talking to J was an escape - it was a way to dump all my emotional problems on someone who I wasn't in any way involved with. It gave me a safe amount of distance. If I talked to my ex, it would bring my problems too close to home. With J, I kept my emotions out of my actual life.

Because I wanted my problems to be magically solved rather than facing them. It was a lot easier to talk to someone about gender, abstractly, than to confront the fact that I was trans and actually come out and start the transition process. It was a lot easier to talk to J in an abstract way about abuse, rather than confront the fact that I am a survivor of abuse and, in many ways, was still dealing with dysfunctional and abusive behaviour from others. J couldn't help me solve my problems - I could just get validation that I was an OK person and that it was hard. Whereas with my ex...she was an intimate part of my life and could actually propose solutions, were I willing to take them.

I wish I had known better. I wish I had known that I wasn't paralyzed - that I could, in fact, come out as trans, find the doctors, and pursue hormones and surgeries on my own. That I could, in fact, stand up to my family and not end up homeless. That I could make the abuse stop from others around me, if I were willing to stand my ground and wait for them to realize I wouldn't take garbage. That I could leave a crappy job and find something better. That I could improve the aspects of my relationship that were struggling. Instead I just dove into dysfunction and depression, and lost someone very important to me. We didn't break up over J, ultimately, but it fractured her trust in me, and when I became depressed after my transition was put on hold, it just shattered what was left.

I think I am better now. I tell my girl a lot (everything, lol). I don't lie, I go out of my way to make time for her, and despite the fact that we can't really be official, I am loyal in my heart to her because I know she loves me and I love her too. And if I wait, in time, she may be in a situation to actually be with me. She's worth waiting for. But it's hard to recognize the fact that I have hurt someone in the past. A big theme when I saw a counsellor a couple years back, after the breakup, was self-forgiveness, but I don't really know if I can ever get there. My ex still sometimes feels angry or whatever over the way things went, and she's been so good to me. The fact that we are friends is nothing short of a miracle, and I know that for the sake of remaining my friend, she put herself through a lot more pain and sacrifice than she would have had to if she cut herself out of my life. 
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Shantel

Hindsight is always so painfully clear, followed by guilt feelings, and the "If only's, and would have, could have and should have" thoughts and we give ourselves emotional beatings over it. Fractured trust is difficult and often impossible to mend, I've been there and am on a very short self imposed leash because of it. Hugs Caleb!
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Adam (birkin)

Quote from: Shantel on February 28, 2014, 10:25:40 AM
Hindsight is always so painfully clear, followed by guilt feelings, and the "If only's, and would have, could have and should have" thoughts and we give ourselves emotional beatings over it. Fractured trust is difficult and often impossible to mend, I've been there and am on a very short self imposed leash because of it. Hugs Caleb!

*hugs* Thanks Shantel. :)
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Eris

That I hate bullying and that it has no place on this forum.
I refuse to live in fear! Come hell or high water I will not back down! I will live my life!
But you have no life.
Ha. Even that won't stop me.

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Adam (birkin)

Was out with my grandparents and it makes you pretty acutely aware of your own mortality. My grandma is in good health, even though she's on quite a few pills - like she's still all there and in decent physical shape. My grandpa, on the other hand...he's not in such great shape, partly because of health issues, mostly because of bad lifestyle choices. His pants were falling down in Walmart and we almost had to pull them up for him...and he can't tie his own shoes, can't walk hardly anywhere, it's just really hard to wrap one's head around.
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Shantel

Quote from: birkin on March 01, 2014, 03:49:37 PM
Was out with my grandparents and it makes you pretty acutely aware of your own mortality. My grandma is in good health, even though she's on quite a few pills - like she's still all there and in decent physical shape. My grandpa, on the other hand...he's not in such great shape, partly because of health issues, mostly because of bad lifestyle choices. His pants were falling down in Walmart and we almost had to pull them up for him...and he can't tie his own shoes, can't walk hardly anywhere, it's just really hard to wrap one's head around.

Don't worry hon, from what I hear he would fit right in at Walmart.  :D
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Adam (birkin)

Quote from: Shantel on March 01, 2014, 05:34:21 PM
Don't worry hon, from what I hear he would fit right in at Walmart.  :D

LOL! ;D You know what's up.
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King Malachite

My sister texted the lady that was one of the leaders in the hospital cafeteria to see if perhaps I could get a job there and the lady said she would talk to her supervisor Monday.  We will see what happens.
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Lauren5

Quote from: Malachite on March 01, 2014, 07:50:16 PMMy sister texted the lady that was one of the leaders in the hospital cafeteria to see if perhaps I could get a job there and the lady said she would talk to her supervisor Monday.  We will see what happens.
Slowly but surely, you are getting somewhere :)
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King Malachite

Quote from: Willow on March 01, 2014, 08:10:22 PM
Slowly but surely, you are getting somewhere :)

Thanks. :) I'm trying to.
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