So it's been a little while since I've talked about my MTF dating cis-guys dating life. The last time I did the guy I was seeing (Social Worker Guy) wanted time to think after he found out I'm trans and had trouble getting over it. In the meantime I've been dating and happy to report that while SWG is still keeping me at arm's length, I've kept going out with a few people, one of whom, Massage Therapist Guy, is now someone I've grown increasingly close to.
The initial connection between me and Massage Guy wasn't as strong, but over time, he's proved to be someone really fun to be around and also really amazing. I love how affectionate he is and also the look of happiness in his face when he's with me. And he's super-cute! Also particularly, he's not just a straight guy who has no problems at all about me being trans, but actively advocates for trans issues and wants to live in a world where everyone should be able to express their gender.
One thing I've realized is that I don't give people enough credit for this. I tend to date people and not really account for their trans-friendliness, just because I've been fortunate enough not to have anyone refuse to date me after they've found out about my history. But you know what, there's a difference between someone being okay with me being trans and someone really, truly, fully believing there's nothing wrong with it, and appreciating what I've been through to get to where I am.
My break from Social Worker Guy is ending soon. I strongly suspect he'll break up with me. But even if he doesn't, and even though I still feel like the hypothetical cis version of me would be incredibly happy with him, I'm no longer sure if I want to be with someone who has to "get over" his fears to be with me. Massage Guy likes me for who I am, and sees me as lovable not despite the fact I'm trans, not because he has a fetish for transwomen, but just because I'm me. I haven't been with anyone like that and it's an amazing feeling.
