Anti FHS thread too. I'm keeping my lovely furry face.

Quote from: Vampire Brianna Terryal Onyx on June 24, 2014, 05:15:51 PM
<-----i worked up the courage to post a real picture of myself o: cyclops power xD

Good, it's about time.

hate to steal the tread for a second but through these last 2 months, i feel like i'm still being dishonest. do you guys feel like i havent shared who i am entirely?

Only share as much as you feel comfortable with sharing Brianna. The issue is people being less than honest rather than anyone under sharing.

Quote from: Ms Grace on June 25, 2014, 03:21:53 AM
Only share as much as you feel comfortable with sharing Brianna. The issue is people being less than honest rather than anyone under sharing.

i guess your right. i just feel like i give half truthful answers most of the time. idk, i'm suddenly getting that ping and it has never happened before. i blame you all for turning me into this 

Hon, there is a difference in not telling everything and lying.

Not revealing everything is fine, lying is different.

Quote from: Cindy on June 25, 2014, 03:37:07 AM
Hon, there is a difference in not telling everything and lying.

Not revealing everything is fine, lying is different.

i just dont know which side of the spectrum i fall. i just get the ping i'm cheating myself from the entire truth. ugh! i blame you all doubly for turning me into a walking mess xD

Because this keeps going through my mind on this thread...
I've got to let this out.


Go Freddie! 

And yes, ideally we would love to see as much honesty as we can around here.  There are many souls at the end of their tether when they post here, and piling a lie on top may be then end for some.

i'll try to work on being more truthful. i guess i can give the introduction i should of given in the beginning because its been a very weird trip lol

There was a user not too long ago who claimed she was a trans girl at an all boys school. I don't know if she is still about. I might be wrong but reading her posts was a lot like reading though a fantasy novel a lot of the time. She couldn't just have found a bf who took her to the prom, this boy also happened to drive a lambourgini given to him by his super wealthy father etc etc.

I wanted to believe all this until i came across this thread.

Quote from: jname on June 25, 2014, 06:04:56 AM
There was a user not too long ago who claimed she was a trans girl at an all boys school. I don't know if she is still about. I might be wrong but reading her posts was a lot like reading though a fantasy novel a lot of the time. She couldn't just have found a bf who took her to the prom, this boy also happened to drive a lambourgini given to him by his super wealthy father etc etc.

I wanted to believe all this until i came across this thread.

Wild flower? I do remember her telling a lot of kinda crazy stories but who really knows? Maybe she just has an interesting life you know? It could be kinda hurtful to say her experiences sound like a fantasy. Wild flower has been here on and off for years, so.

I mean ultimately, you just have to choose what to believe online, and give support to people with no expectations of how they are receiving it. But, usually someone who is making things up actually has a real problem on some level that they're trying to deal with in the wrong way. That was my experience. People who pretend always have some serious real problems they are struggling with. I'm not saying it's right for them to lie, but you have to remember that they are truly struggling with something.

This thread makes me want to remove my picture.... again. :-/ Mind you, I am not sure why anyone would want to be me, but still. Its bad enough with one of me wondering around! Hmmm, I think I may just hide myself again. :-/

Never be rough on people who have fantasy threads.

Our lives are tough.

Sometimes dreams are all we have.

Just be kind, and report things to the Mods.

Mods do a lot of talking to hurt people in the background.

There is nothing wrong about being in pain.

Ahh that's what a support site is about.

Quote from: Cindy on June 25, 2014, 06:43:07 AM
Never be rough on people who have fantasy threads.

Our lives are tough.

Sometimes dreams are all we have.

Just be kind, and report things to the Mods.

Mods do a lot of talking to hurt people in the background.

There is nothing wrong about being in pain.

Ahh that's what a support site is about.

That. Unless there is real damage being done live and let live. It is after all -the Internet-. Actually I wish I didn't feel useless when people come with super serious stuff amongst the fluff.

I feel like I missed some context to this thread... but I admit, some of the details of my non-transition life are obscured for the same reason I don't use a photo of myself, namely that I'd be potentially too recognizable IRL. And I'd rather be honest about things like describing my GRS in full detail here, which I do *not* want linked back to my real identity (it'd be too creepy/weird if my coworkers and acquaintances knew every detail about my genitalia!).

I used to think I was too paranoid, until a brand-new coworker actually did put together my past public career with my current incarnation using only Google and extrapolation, and then came and confronted me with a video of my male self. UGH. I mean, I'm not stealth, and it's not that hard to connect that particular set of dots, but I like to be in control of what I tell people and how.

Quote from: sad panda on June 25, 2014, 06:31:44 AM
Wild flower? I do remember her telling a lot of kinda crazy stories but who really knows? Maybe she just has an interesting life you know? It could be kinda hurtful to say her experiences sound like a fantasy. Wild flower has been here on and off for years, so.

I mean ultimately, you just have to choose what to believe online, and give support to people with no expectations of how they are receiving it. But, usually someone who is making things up actually has a real problem on some level that they're trying to deal with in the wrong way. That was my experience. People who pretend always have some serious real problems they are struggling with. I'm not saying it's right for them to lie, but you have to remember that they are truly struggling with something.

No it wasn't her. Either way who cares. I am happy for her and if those experiences were later revealed to be just stories, whilst i would be disappointed, i wouldn't really care.

I'd like to clarify that i'm not trying to pass my avatar picture off as me, he's just my pooch.

I agree 100% with FA that we don't need fakes here, the majority are honestly struggling with our various problems & don't need to be wasting our time on fakes.

I think that if people aren't comfortable with having their photo as an avatar then that's fine, there's no need to pass someone elses photo off as yours as we understand why someone may wish to keep certain things private.

QuoteI'd like to clarify that i'm not trying to pass my avatar picture off as me

Same here. 

It concerns me a bit that so many people here do post pictures of themselves, as avatars or otherwise, given that privacy online is effectively nonexistent. Face recognition technology is about at the point where someone can find an image, do a search for that face, and identify its user; certainly the gummint, Facebook, etc. have the ability to do this.

Quote from: Cindy on June 25, 2014, 06:43:07 AM
Never be rough on people who have fantasy threads.

I leave my fantasy stuff for the fanfics.

Quote from: Tysilio on June 25, 2014, 09:48:01 AM
Same here. 

It concerns me a bit that so many people here do post pictures of themselves, as avatars or otherwise, given that privacy online is effectively nonexistent. Face recognition technology is about at the point where someone can find an image, do a search for that face, and identify its user; certainly the gummint, Facebook, etc. have the ability to do this.

I just assume everyone knows who I am, where I live, and by now I'm sure there are records of the last time I took a dump or drank a beer.  The fact I'm trans is pretty common knowledge and I just assume it's a well known fact now.

When George Clooney essentially shut down my entire neighborhood a couple of years ago because he had Obama over for a dinner party fundraiser, they set up Secret Service checkpoints to get in and out of Fryman Canyon.   When I drove in, the guys with guns stopped me and I already had my ID ready to go.  I didn't even have to show it because they said, "Go ahead, we already know who you are, Mr. XXXXXXX".  The car I was driving wasn't even registered in my name.  Apparently they had a database ready to go with details about thousands of people as well as their pictures. 

Scary much?